Pushkin.

In northern California, fires are fairly common.

This psychology PhD student Michelle Hasty Thompson.

And so when I heard that there was a fire, it didn't seem that close, and so was nothing that caused me any concern.

It's like, oh, okay, another fire, whatever, that's what we do here.

But Michelle's calm attitude on that fateful November morning in twenty eighteen wouldn't last.

She was getting her son Rome ready for his usual daycare drop off when she noticed that the sky was a bit darker than usual.

With her husband already at work on the other side of town, Michelle called to compare notes and figure out how concerned they should be.

You know, do I need to evacuate?

Is this serious?

He said, no, I'm on my way to you.

You stay there fires on this side of the town, so you're fine.

But then Michelle got an unexpected notification's daycare was closing for the day because of the fire.

I was like, well, this must be serious that the daycare close, And then I looked outside.

It was about nine am and it was black as midnight.

I mean there was no light in the whole sky and it was eerily quiet.

Home alone with her two dogs and a young toddler.

Michelle began to panic and.

All I could hear was pro paane tanks exploding.

But there was no sirens, there was no evacuation warnings, there was no text coming through, there was no communication as to what was going on.

But my body kind of said you need to go.

She called her husband back and he's like, I'm on my way.

I said, I don't know.

I don't feel safe.

I'm just going to take Rome and the dogs and get out of here.

And so he said, just, you know, grab the contents of the safe and grab some of my paintings because he's an artist.

And that is literally all I grabbed, nothing else, and I got out of there as quickly as possible.

It was very scary.

Michelle corrowed the dogs into the car, buckled in her son, and began driving out of town.

I'm at the bottom of the town and I looked up and it was just straight cars as far as you can see.

My sister in law was only thirty minutes behind me, and she sent me a picture and the fire was on the road.

What I just drove on, traveling that quickly turns out the fire completely trapped everybody in the town, so I was very lucky to get out when I did.

The fire would later become known as the Campfire, the deadliest and most destructive wildfire in California history.

It burned for two weeks straight, destroying nearly all of Michelle's town of Paradise, California.

More than fifty thousand people were displaced, and over eighty people lost their lives.

I got out and I was safe, but my husband and my in laws were all trapped all day.

I had no idea if they were going to make it out.

Luckily, everybody did and we were all safe.

But we did lose everything.

We lost all of our homes.

We were renters, so no insurance because they don't give you insurance and fire towns, and it was a really difficult process to rebuild from that.

How do you cope when you and all your family and friends have lost everything, when the town that you loved and called home is now gone, when you need to start life over and build a totally new community from scratch, would you turn to religion or philosophy.

Well, Michelle turned to an unexpected solution, one that she knew could help her find connection and community during this tough time.

What was Michelle's unexpected coping mechanism.

Well, it was cornhole.

Yes, you heard that right, cornhole.

Beanbag sas beedbag tas Okay, yeah, and so it really is like there's a board with a hole and you're trying to get the bean bag in the hole.

Yep.

Michelle, who goes by the Instagram handle of cornhole Niche, is more than just a fan of cornhole.

The lawn game is also the topic of her psychology PhD dissertation.

In her thesis, Michelle argues that cornhole is a surprisingly powerful way to create connection and community, a benefit she experienced firsthand long before she lost everything in that Paradise fire.

Cornhole was the thing, Like our garage was open, everybody came over, we threw bags.

Cornhole was Michelle and her husband's go to activity for bonding with old friends and connecting with new ones.

It just breaks the eyes, you know, not just sitting staring at each other hoping conversation comes up.

And so it made it easy to kind of invite people, Hey, you want to come over and throw some bags?

And so I've really found it to be that sort of connector in all different aspects of life.

And so with a new home to settle into, a new routine to adjust to, and a new community to get to know, Michelle and her husband knew they could rely on this one familiar tool.

We built new boards and got some bags, and then when we would be out, we would invite people to come play cornhole with us.

And then ultimately we decided to start our own club because there wasn't one in our county.

Turns out, Michelle wasn't the only person in the area who was stoked about cornhole.

Our very first night of our very first cornhole club, where we don't have a big community here that we know, we had sixty people.

We were like, WHOA, that's a lot of people that came and they don't even know who we are.

We built that club up to over one hundred people on a Wednesday night weekly, so it got really big and it created this entire family.

We definitely felt like we had our people very quickly after our very tragic situation where we completely lost everything, and it would be really easy to get stuck in that and isolate yourself and just feel like, why did this happen?

To me and why was my town taken?

And why was my community taken?

And it was easy just to go, Okay, well, this is our new friends, our new family, our new community, and we're thriving.

All thanks to an outdoor game with a goofy name.

But is tossing bean bags really all that different from any other social activity?

Michelle certainly thinks so, and in this final episode of the Happiness Lab season on Creative Ways to Cope, we'll find out why.

If you've ever been to a backyard barbecue or college tailgate, you might already know how cornhole works.

For those of you who haven't, here's a quick rundown.

The game involves a pair of wooden boards, each with a circular hole near the top, and a set of four square bean bags.

Are simple tassa bag toward the board, aim for the hole, and score points if the bag lands on the board, or even better, if it falls through the hole.

The name cornhole comes from what used to fill the bags.

Yes, back in the day, it was dried corn kernels.

I don't know they still sell like that, but they did.

When we first started.

We would lean them outside and the rats would eat them.

And we have to keep replacing them over and were and over.

It was a whole thing.

The origin story of cornhole is still hotly debated.

There are so many stories.

I honestly have no idea which one is true.

One popular theory traces cornhole back to fourteenth century Germany.

Some even suggest the game's roots go all the way back to antiquity, but the version of cornhole we know today seems to have emerged from Cincinnati, Ohio in the mid nineteen hundreds.

You're going to find it in the places that have a lot of land and maybe not a lot of stuff to do.

Michelle's entry into the sport that would later change her life started off unremarkably enough.

Yeah.

I think I started just like everybody else, at someone's backyard, just at a barbecue or a party, and never really thought much of it because I was horrible, So you don't think, oh, I'm gonna like make this my career.

It's just this fun thing that you do, right, And I didn't really get into it until my husband was really into it and I realized if I didn't start playing, I was never gonna see him.

So that's when I actually started competing.

Was to connect with him, and also it was something to do in that sort of elusive five to eight pm right like after work you just mostly would watch TV or something like that, but he would want to go outside and throw bags, and it got us in that, you know, side by side type of configuration to have conversation.

So that was a way that we really connected.

At first, Michelle just played casually, but a few tips from her spouse got her thinking more competitively, and.

I saw an instant change in my results, and I thought, wow, if I can see an improvement that quickly with a little tweak, that means I might actually be able to get good at this.

And it turns out some people are really good at cornhole.

One of the things I did not realize, embarrassingly maybe until I get interested in your work, is that this isn't just like the kind of thing people do in their backyards.

This is actually a professional sport.

You're not alone, and I'm not alone.

Okay, Yeah, I travel all the time, so I always talk to people at the airport and they're like, I'm sorry, what you're going to be on ESPN?

Excuse me.

The game started getting a lot of attention in twenty twenty for a rather obvious reason.

So the boards are going to be twenty seven feet apart, so that's quite a distance of ways.

So this really sets it up to explode during COVID because it's naturally socially distanced.

So it was one of the only sports on TV in twenty twenty for a period of time there, which is how it grew so fast.

It was just the four players out there, and then you have your two broadcasters obviously set aways, and that's the only people in the room.

Really.

The big leagues of beanbags, as it were, are run by the ACL, the American Cornhole League ACL.

Pro players earn sponsorships and compete in tournaments all over the world.

What it elevates to that next level is when you start to see all the craziness these pros can do.

They push, they cut, they roll, they air mail.

For the uninitiated like me, these are all just advanced techniques for getting the bag into the hole.

I mean they block.

And I think what's fun about the game in terms of a spectator is it does have defense.

You can play an entire defensive game.

You can just try to force your opponent to miss, and I think that's a fun way that the game gets really interesting to watch and you get to see all the different strategy.

And Michelle was especially excited to help cornhole players master one particular aspect of strategy, the psychological side of the game.

I did food psychology.

I worked with the mental part of weight and food, so obviously coming from the world of psychology, it didn't take long for me to realize that this was more mental than physical once you get past the initial mechanics.

Similar to golf, right, it's a slow paced game, and as you know, the more time you have to think, the more dangerous the mind can be.

As opposed to a reactionary sport.

Right, you're playing football, basketball time to think.

You completely rely on training.

You don't have a choice.

Well, as much as I tell my cornhole players to rely on their training, their brain can take over and be like, well, I better make this bag.

If I don't make this bag, it's gonna be bad.

I'm gonna lose like all that stuff.

So the mental perspective became really interesting to me, and I basically started just applying the same things I was teaching people with Weight and Food to cornhole.

It's about presence, it's about mindfulness.

It's about breathing, body awareness.

You're thinking, you're limiting beliefs, all of that.

All the things I taught there, I just brought over here.

And so your path to taking part in the sport was not just kind of helping cornhole players play better at using your psychology training.

You also became a cornhole announcer.

Tony steps up to the board.

He looks like he's going to start off with a block.

That's a perfect block right in front of the hole.

It's funny because you know, as a kid, I did musical theater as a seven year old.

I wanted to be a singer that died quickly, but I definitely loved being in front of a microphone.

So it's going to make it harder for Mark to be able to slide his bag in and could kick off right.

Bag kicks off right.

Tony should be able to clean this up, get to I like to perform like that's the theater geek and me still, and so I always saw myself being on a mic or in front of people.

I like to speak things like that.

Never did I think to be a commentator.

But I had started a girl's cornhall podcast and acl heard it and then asked me to come on board because they need a female voice, and that's kind of where it went from there, and the sideline reporting came after that.

Seems like you've become a bit of a big celebrity in a very tiny world.

That's exactly it, in a very small world.

But Michelle got more than small world glory out of her love of the sport.

When we get back from the break, we'll dig into the surprising psychological benefits of cornhole and why what looks like a simple lawn game might be the key to greater presence play and even self compassion.

The Happiness Lab will be right back.

A recent poll from the American Psychological Association found that seventy six percent of US adults are so stressed that it's affecting their health, leading to things like headaches, fatigue, anxiety, depression, and trouble sleeping.

I know that when I hit a point of extreme stress, I just want to shut off my brain, and that's when I tend to reach for mindless scrolling, even though I know that it usually amplifies my stress rather than fixing it.

But researchers have found that there's one powerful way to reduce stress that we often forget about.

That stress remedy is simply having fun.

Professional American Cornhole League announcer Cornhole Niche aka Michelle Thompson is writing her PhD dissertation on the psychological effects of cornhole and fun is something that she thinks about a lot.

So going back to when I was in the wellness community, I would work with mostly middle aged women and they came to me because they were struggling with weight and they try everything and nothing was working.

They were eating healthy, they were moving the weight wooden budget.

And I would work with them and I would immediately notice what was lacking was play, hobbies, social, all of that.

It was like their life was just about maybe their families, their work, and the obsession with their bodies and being thinner and being fit.

It's so easy to get sucked into that external world when you don't have all that passionate stuff happening, the soulful hobbies, if you will.

But I didn't have a solution back then.

I just knew they needed it.

So that's why when I first started cornhole, I was like, this is it.

Instead of focusing on every calorie you burn and everything you eat and what your body looks like.

You're going into a room with people and you're just having fun on a Wednesday night.

Don't put all your energy into obsessing about your body.

Go have some fun.

Put all the energy to trying to throw the bag in the hole, fly out theer.

It makes sense that Michelle made this connection.

Psychologically speaking, the most effective fun activities tend to be ones that are social, a little physical, maybe a tad thrilling.

Our usual mindless scrolling doesn't qualify as fun in any of these senses, And unlike screen time, true fun tends to get us out of our heads.

That low stakes challenge of trying to land a beanbag into a hole can help us snap out of negative self talk.

Michelle seemed so confident that cornhole was the ultimate solution to stress, I had to check it out myself.

My husband Mark and I drove to Burlington, Massachusetts, where the Boston Cornhole group was having their weekly tournament.

All right, look at this, Oh, this is like where it's happening.

There's a bunch of people here.

Yeah.

I don't know about our chances.

Mark and I did end up playing more on that later, but we also had the chance to speak with some of the local competitors, and a lot of them mentioned that stress relief was their main reason for showing up week after week.

Some players even used cornhole to cope with big life changes.

Take one guy, Matt.

He started playing cornhole after joining the military and moving very far away from home, all the way to Kuwait.

So I was deployed overseas with the army and the USL ran cornwall tournaments every Thursday.

It was a great like reliever.

It's honestly probably what I looked forward to every week.

It was very hot, the boards are very sticky.

It was like one hundred thirty degrees, so a little bit different playing back in New England, but but yeah, that's how I got into it.

So the stress relieving fun of the game is one big psychological benefit.

But Michelle argues that cornhole can also make players more present.

You cannot play your best game if you're not present.

Probably my favorite part because I was a yoga teacher for many years now.

Let's not beat around the bush.

There is a component of cornhole that is connected to alcohol.

I know, we can't pretend that's not there.

I know that's not the healthiest component of cornhole.

I heard it's called throwing juice is the stressing aiming juice.

Aiming juice a juice, that's what my co collitator calls it.

So that's there, and I always tell people, Look, the mindless state is going to be when you're consuming alcohol and that's okay, that's what you want to do that night, and you don't care about throwing your best.

You just want to have a few beers and throw bags, and that's the night you want.

You can have that.

But if you want to really compete, you cannot successfully do that if you are not in the flow or the play state, and both of those states require presence.

You have to be in the body.

You have to be aware of when your nervous system changes because it impacts your physiology.

And when you're in a game, an accuracy game, if your physiology changes by a teeny tiny amount, your bag is going to go somewhere else, not center.

You've also talked about how cornhole can be a way to practice being kinder to ourselves.

What do you mean by that?

You know, as humans we're sort of meaning making machines.

So I use cornhole as a way to teach my players not to make so much meaning out of things, because immediately what they do is they, let's say they miss a bag.

Ugh, that means I'm off.

That means I'm horrible at this.

Oh, that means I lost it.

And so I've taught them don't make meaning out of it, because the truth is, even our top pros don't make every bag in the hole every game.

You're not going to make every bag in the hole.

But once you make meaning out of it, well, that means I'm off, and then they can spiral.

So if we can stop making meaning out of everything, we're going to play a lot better.

And guess what, that's pretty helpful for life as well.

I got to see this helpful aspect of cornhole firsthand, because even with the addition of a little aming juice, I was pretty bad at my first cornhole attempt.

I played three rounds of games and hit the board like twice, which was embarrassing enough.

But cornhole tournaments aren't played solo.

When you show up, you get randomly paired with another player, and my unfortunate first partner was George, who happened to be a very very experienced player.

As I continued to with shot after shot, my meaning making mind went into overdrive.

It kept shaming me, saying that George was going to be pissed.

But when I chat with him afterwards, I learned that all that self criticism was completely unfounded.

George, as it turns out, was totally chill about it.

Thanks for you, my partner.

Sure help you to do any comments on my cour just you know, it takes some practice, and you know, like anything else, it's you get to kind of feel like it's going to go in, as opposed to when you get too stressed, and I think it's very psychological.

Psychologists called these kinds of irrational thoughts cognitive distortions, things like jumping to conclusions, catastrophizing, or all or nothing thinking, And when you're thinking distorted thoughts like these, it's very relieving to realize that your brain is lying to you.

Eventually, I switched from George to other partners, and I continued to play like crap, but it quickly became clear that no one seemed to care about my performance as much as my inner critic did, And with that realization I could finally relax and start having some fun.

My husband had a similar takeaway how'd you do.

Well?

I won the game I played against you, But other than that, I've had a great learning experience.

Yeah, oh yeah, good.

And so it's not just making meaning though.

We can also use cornhole to kind of watch how we change over time.

You've talked about how cornhole really is a growth sport and that can help us promote something that we definitely know is good for happiness.

This idea of a growth mindset, like I might not be perfect, but I'm getting better over time.

I have time to improve.

Is this something you've seen in the players that you've worked with.

Yeah, So if you come into the room and you think I'm never going to be good at this, then you're basically going to be set up for failure, right, But then you walk into this room and every single person in the room says, I was there, that's how I threw too.

You're good, You're fine.

Hey, just try kind of doing this with your hand and you see those immediate changes and you realize, oh, my goodness, if I actually put time into this, I might actually get better.

And if I can get better, then I can get to a point where at least I can compete with the people in this room, and I think as humans we love that opportunity for quick growth.

And this idea of competition I think gets to another benefit of cornhole, which is a kind of healthy way to exert our competition muscles a little bit.

Yeah, definitely.

I am someone who dreams big and dreams often.

Maybe other entrepreneurs can relate to this.

I was like, obsessive about competing in my business.

How going to be better?

I can get more clients, I can make more money, like just obsessive about it.

But it can be very toxic and unhealthy for me to have a goal and then obsess about that goal so much that I can't be present.

I can't be with my family, I can't stop thinking about achieving, and that is not a healthy place for my mind, or my body or the people around me.

But cornhole is a spot where you can kind of get that kind of competition in a healthier way.

Yeah.

I think the reason why it works for cornhole is because it's easy to keep it to that space, at least for me.

So if it's a you know, a Wednesday night and I'm playing in a competition, I can channel all that there if I want, And then when I get home, it's over, a.

Healthy form of competition, a form of stress relief through play and fun, an evening activity that gets you outside and keeps you mindful and present.

All of these features of cornhole can offer a meaningful boost to our well being, especially when times are tough.

But there's still one huge benefit of cornhole that we haven't touched on, the one Michelle says matters most.

We'll hear about that benefit, plus a few more takeaways from my own cornhole adventure, when the Happiness Lab returns.

If you're a fan of the Happiness Lab, you've probably already heard that social connection is vital for happiness.

The Harvard Study of Adult Development, a longitudinal study of human health and well being that's been ongoing for eighty six years, has found that strong relationships are the single biggest predictor of long term mental and physical health.

Unfortunately, building those strong relationships in the modern world can feel pretty tough, but not if you show up at a cornhole tournament.

When I visited that Boston cornhole group, I quickly realized just how easy it is to strike up a conversation with a total stranger when you're tossing bags.

Right beside them.

I mean, there's not a lot of spaces right now where I can show up and just meet people, you know, from all of the Massachusetts with all kinds of different backgrounds.

It's almost like networking, but you don't have to put the effort in because you're next to somebody, so you kind of are forced to do it, but not in a bad way, in a good way.

And chatting you just chatted, Yeah, because you're next to each other for ten fifteen minutes at a time.

I have had more interesting conversations with more interesting people at cornhole than I'd had in a while, which made me especially surprised to hear that lots of the folks I spoke with at the event the bottom themselves as introverts.

This is my opponent who demolished me, ruined my score.

On the bottom for something like this.

Yeah, I'm sorry, but even after expressing his reserve, this player stuck around and chatted with me for a while.

There's something about cornhole that makes connecting with total strangers feel easier.

Academic cornhole expert Michelle Thompson has seen this benefit play out across all kinds of players.

Probably my favorite thing about cornhole is the way that it connects people, but I didn't realize how powerful it could be.

And there was a player.

He was a teenager who would come to our club and he was very shy, and he would come with his dad every single week.

And in terms of the average cornhole player, he didn't necessarily fit the mold of what you would expect.

He was a little bit eccentric, and when he started playing, he got fairly good, fairly quickly.

And then he pulled my husband aside and he told him that cornhole saved his life.

And the story that he shared was that he didn't have a lot of friends, and he wasn't super connected to his dad because they didn't have a lot of things in common.

And when they started coming to this club, not only did he connect more with his father, he found this family that completely accepted him exactly as he was.

It didn't matter that he's interested in other things that we're not interested.

It didn't matter that everybody there was probably twice his age.

None of that mattered.

And now it's really fun to watch him because he's older now, so he's taken jobs out of town and he'll come back and play whenever he's in town, and he's just a completely different person.

He's won one hundred percent himself.

It just seems like he's so comfortable in his skin, and that was not the way it was when he first started.

And the seems in part because cornhole is this unique sport when it comes to kind of connecting with other individuals, talk about the ways that cornhole uniquely allows us to connect.

The way that most of these clubs set it up is it's a swap, which means you're randomly paired with four people and you play a game with each person, and so you have four different partners.

That's four different connections that you build and you're working together.

Now you also have your opponent directly next to you that you're probably talking to as well.

And so now you've met eight people, right, your partners and these different opponents.

And then you have a partner going into bracket and that's another person.

Now you're playing multiple games with this person, so you build this relationship, this connection, not to mention all the time in between games that you can connect with these people.

So you have to make friends, even if you're sort of shy and sit in the corner in between games.

You have to play with and against someone every time you walk up to the board, and that, to me is what makes it so special.

Is so much time to connect in an environment.

And so many people have said, you know, I have social anxiety, I am uncomfortable in these environments, and it still works.

With cornhole, They're able to overcome that.

And it seems like being able to overcome that allows for something else to develop that super good for happiness, which is the sense of community.

Talk about the kind of community that gets built, especially when people have cornhole clubs.

The community is like nothing I've ever seen.

Once again, as is someone who geeks out on psychology, this is the stuff that like I can't help, but notice this community comes to get there for everybody.

I mean, we've done cancer fundraisers, like someone who's in chemo, and the people in the room don't even know the person and they're more than willing to contribute to make this person have an easier time and that really tough time in their life.

My brother in law unfortunately passed away a couple of years ago unexpectedly, and the entire cornhole all the clubs in the area came together to raise money for his kids, my nephew, my niece, and my in laws showed up to this tournament and they were blown away at the amount of people that were in the room and how they were all coming together to support them and us.

And I've just never seen anything like it.

We know that doing nice things for other people and having these communities like especially during really tough times, can be so important, but so many of us just kind of lack this community, you know, so if something bad happens, we don't have anyone to support us.

But also means if other people are going through tough times, we don't have as obvious mechanisms to support them either.

It seems like one of the things that Cornhole is doing is it's creating the kind of thing that the political scientist Robert Putnam talked about, is a place right this place that's not home or work, where you can get together and form these relationships that cut across so many different things, but kind of become a really serious community in your life.

Yeah, not just local communities are super important.

There's a lot of research on that, but I have found that it extends so far beyond the local, and I know that I could literally move anywhere in the US, and I would have an instant family everywhere I go, and it makes it so that there's no fear.

It's like we can move anywhere and we would have friends no matter where we go.

This idea of a family, I think gets to another social benefit of cornhole, it seems, which is that, in a funny way, it really promotes belonging.

The slogan of the American Cornhole League is anyone can play, anyone can win.

Like it's just a like super inclusive sport.

Yeah.

That's another thing that's super unique about it is the inclusivity because the rule is just get the bag to the board.

You don't have to be athletic, you don't have to have any experience playing any other I've never played sports ever, so I'm a theater girl, right.

I had no athletic training and was able to pick up this game.

The cool thing is because it is a one pound bag, there's no limitations to who can play.

So we have, for example, under eighteen players competing in the pro field against adults.

I've seen players throw on crutches.

I mean, we have players that have no arms throw at their feet.

Dayton Weber is a quadruple amputee.

He was a pro for many years.

He's that good.

So, I mean, what sport can you think of where a quadruple amputee you would be competing with people with no disabilities at the same level.

Literally anybody can play, So now all of a sudden, you get to compete and there's no limitations or boundaries to that.

It might seem cheesy, but I did get that feeling of inclusivity.

At the Boston Cornhole tournament.

There were people of all ages competing with totally different backgrounds, education levels, political affiliations, but everyone just seemed to get along.

It has a different socioeconomic demographic then maybe some other sports.

Right, A set of boards you can get very inexpensive or you can make them yourself.

And bags are very inexpensive if you don't want to go pro level, if you just want any bags to throw.

And so it's just very easy to get started in it, and it doesn't have the same barriers that I would say like golf does.

Right, several of the players I met in Burlington made the same point.

Maddie g who plays are usually here, what is he like?

Fourteen?

He's better, He's like one of the top players and wait till he grows up and like I don't gain some muscle and strength.

But yeah, all ages can play.

All you need is some grass, but a lot cheaper than a set of golf clubs.

For sure.

Cornhall was starting to sound like the world's most ideal sport, but Michelle is willing to admit they're like everything else.

It has its flaws.

You know, it's not always perfect.

I don't want to make it sound like every person that plays cornhole is the best ever, right.

I work really hard to make sure that our club is inclusive and that we're so warm and welcoming to new players.

And I know that a lot of club directors feel that same way because we want to continue growing.

We're all so nerdy about cornhole that we want the entire world to play it with us, because we're like, you're missing out.

You got to get over here and play with us.

It's too fun for you not to.

We're trying to tell everybody you're screaming from the rooftops, come play cornhole with us.

I promise you're going to fall in love.

What's some advice that people can use to get started?

If this discussion has peaked their interest in sort of being a cornhole beginner.

I hope it has, and if it has, whether you're going for a local tournament or you just want to get equipment, I definitely recommend the acl dot com so you can put in where you live and it'll show you all the different events there.

There's also a forum called Addicted to Cornhole and you can go in there and say I live here, is or any clubs nearby?

You'll get tons of comments.

Is an extremely active community, and obviously you can build your own boards if you want, you know, on a budget, and I've even seen people make their own bags, so you know, whatever you're got to do to get to get started, I'd recommend giving it a go.

And it gets kids off screens, it gets couples playing together, it brings families together.

It's a way to make friends because you could, like I said earlier, you can bring them over to your house.

Let's throw some bags.

It's an easy way to get started.

I hope today's episode inspired you to give this long game a chance.

My husband and I had such a blast at Boston Cornhall that we're planning to go back, and we're hoping to bring some friends.

If you're in the area, you should drop by.

Just promise not to be annoyed if you get stuck with me as a partner.

But if you're still not convinced that an elevated beanbag toss competition is for you, there's still plenty to take away from today's show.

First, having fun is one of the most powerful tools we have for reducing stress and doom scrolling doesn't count.

Get outside with other people and do something that's a little thrilling.

Second, try to recognize when cognitive distortions are holding you back and find ways to counter your inner critic.

My throwing partner George wasn't mad at me for missing, and the people you're convinced are judging you, odds are they're not either.

Third, acknowledge the little wins and celebrate your personal growth, whether that's small improvements with a new hobby or simply making it through an event that triggered your social anxiety.

And finally, find a third place somewhere that's not work and not home, where you can spend time and build community.

It doesn't have to be a cornhole league in Burlington, Massachusetts.

It could be a community theater a yoga studio, or a Dungeons and Dragons group, whatever it is, try to carve out time each week to show up and get to know someone new.

This marks the end of our series on creative coping, and since it's summer and I've got a new game to play, the Happiness Lab will be taking a bit of a break, but not to worry because we'll be back in a few weeks with our next season of The Happiness Lab would be doctor Laurie Santo's