What if the biggest thing holding you back isn't your past...

It's the story your past taught you to believe?

In this episode of Tammy's Takes, trauma-informed coach Tammy Vincent explores one of the most powerful concepts from her recent conversation with therapist Aaron Gilbert: your default story.

Many adult children of dysfunctional families unknowingly carry childhood beliefs into adulthood—beliefs like I'm not enough, I have to earn love, I can't trust anyone, or I'm responsible for everyone else's happiness. These stories often shape our relationships, confidence, and emotional well-being without us even realizing it.

Tammy introduces her simple STORY Method, a practical five-step framework designed to help you identify the beliefs you've been living by, challenge old survival patterns, and begin creating a new story rooted in truth instead of trauma.

In this episode you'll discover:

• What a "default story" really is

• Why childhood experiences become lifelong beliefs

• How survival mode creates unhealthy thought patterns

• Tammy's five-step STORY Method for challenging limiting beliefs

• Why curiosity is more powerful than self-criticism

• How to begin replacing survival stories with self-trust

• The small daily choices that create lasting emotional healing

If you've ever felt stuck in the same relationship patterns, battled a harsh inner critic, or wondered why you keep repeating behaviors you logically know aren't serving you, this episode offers hope—and practical steps you can begin using today.

Healing isn't about erasing your past.

It's about refusing to let your past write the rest of your story.

🎧 Inspired By

This episode was inspired by Tammy's conversation with licensed therapist Aaron Gilbert, where they explored childhood trauma, healing, self-acceptance, and the concept of our "default story."

Be sure to listen to the full interview for an even deeper discussion on healing from dysfunctional family dynamics.

❤️ READY TO REWRITE YOUR STORY?

If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to stop living by beliefs that were formed in survival mode, I'd love to help.

As a trauma-informed coach, I help adult children of dysfunctional families rebuild self-trust, regulate their nervous system, and create lasting emotional healing.

🎁 Schedule your Complimentary Clarity & Calm Call

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Together we'll explore your unique story and create practical next steps toward the life you truly want.