Plus: how to build a village, why your attachment style isn't your destiny, and a two-step method for asking for help that actually works.

Nedra Glover Tawwab is a licensed therapist and the author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, an instant New York Times best-seller translated into over 35 languages worldwide. In addition, she has authored seven other books, including Drama Free and, most recently, The Balancing Act. A sought-after relationship expert, she has practiced relationship therapy for almost 20 years.

In this episode we talk about:

• The difference between healthy dependency and full-blown enmeshment
• Why your attachment style is useful information, not a life sentence
• Wise compassion versus what Buddhists call "idiot compassion" 
• Why you can't force someone else to change, but your own change might be contagious
• The "silent agreements" we make in relationships without ever saying them out loud — and how they quietly build resentment
• Why over-considering everyone else's needs backfires, and how to actually advocate for your own
• How to stop dragging old relationship trauma into brand-new relationships
• What to actually do if you feel lonely, or like you don't have enough friends

Related Episodes:

• How to Handle Family Drama | Nedra Glover Tawwab
• That Rut You're In – This One Word Could Pull You Out | Nedra Tawwab

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