1 0:00:00 --> 0:00:08.800000 Building on the last episode's foundation of being honest with yourself, there are a ton 2 0:00:08.800000 --> 0:00:17.560000 of times when no amount of radical honesty is going to be sufficient to help you get around 3 0:00:17.560000 --> 0:00:23.280000 the edges of the sort of demon you're facing. 4 0:00:23.280000 --> 0:00:29.960000 I say no amount of honesty because you can't even see the blind spot. 5 0:00:29.960000 --> 0:00:32.800000 These are developmental blind spots that you have. 6 0:00:32.800000 --> 0:00:33.800000 We all have them. 7 0:00:33.800000 --> 0:00:41.560000 There's no one is immune from the blind spots that come from growing in the way that people 8 0:00:41.560000 --> 0:00:42.560000 grow. 9 0:00:42.560000 --> 0:00:50.400000 So as you go through the process of exploring your blind spots, you're going to find that 10 0:00:50.400000 --> 0:00:53.640000 everything seems okay. 11 0:00:53.640000 --> 0:00:57.200000 But you keep doing these weird things, whatever they might be. 12 0:00:57.200000 --> 0:01:02.640000 So I'll give you a discrete example from my life. 13 0:01:02.640000 --> 0:01:10 Every time I am standing in front of the computer trying to do some work, there is a chance 14 0:01:10 --> 0:01:16.920000 and it's increasingly high that as I sit and plan on working, that I need to get up 15 0:01:16.920000 --> 0:01:18.120000 and do something. 16 0:01:18.120000 --> 0:01:20.040000 I need to go get my coffee is empty. 17 0:01:20.040000 --> 0:01:21.040000 I need to go get a coffee. 18 0:01:21.040000 --> 0:01:22.800000 All right, I need to go check and see. 19 0:01:22.800000 --> 0:01:24.200000 I thought I heard a noise outside. 20 0:01:24.200000 --> 0:01:25.200000 All right. 21 0:01:25.200000 --> 0:01:32.960000 The more often I do these kind of get up and checking on things is an indicator for me 22 0:01:32.960000 --> 0:01:36.120000 now that I'm being honest with myself and I'm beginning to understand what that looks 23 0:01:36.120000 --> 0:01:42 like that I am either confused about the work I'm doing. 24 0:01:42 --> 0:01:44.080000 I'm avoiding the work I'm doing. 25 0:01:44.080000 --> 0:01:45.840000 The work I'm doing doesn't make sense to me. 26 0:01:45.840000 --> 0:01:51.280000 I feel like I'm discovering it all from, you know, rediscovering a new continent kind 27 0:01:51.280000 --> 0:01:56.760000 of thing or I'm overwhelmed by the volume. 28 0:01:56.760000 --> 0:02:05.440000 And any of those four sort of bits of awareness didn't come organically right away because 29 0:02:05.440000 --> 0:02:13.760000 I'm not aware enough of the things that I do on a regular basis. 30 0:02:13.760000 --> 0:02:19.160000 But I did notice, you know, I just got up for like the tenth time in an hour to go get 31 0:02:19.160000 --> 0:02:24.800000 coffee or go use the bathroom or go check on that noise outside. 32 0:02:24.800000 --> 0:02:32.320000 Maybe something's happening there that is a behavior that I'm undertaking to avoid 33 0:02:32.320000 --> 0:02:35.480000 what I was supposed to be doing. 34 0:02:35.480000 --> 0:02:42.400000 This is how you start to peel up the edges of your blind spots. 35 0:02:42.400000 --> 0:02:48.760000 Now I deal with the sense of ambiguity or potential in aggregate adequacy or the exploration 36 0:02:48.760000 --> 0:02:55.440000 of new concepts and ideas seems to be getting up and avoiding stuff by going pretty much anywhere 37 0:02:55.440000 --> 0:02:58.360000 else but where I'm supposed to be to get the work done. 38 0:02:58.360000 --> 0:03:03.880000 And so this behavior set of mine might be similar to a behavior set of yours, it might 39 0:03:03.880000 --> 0:03:04.880000 not. 40 0:03:04.880000 --> 0:03:10.240000 You might find the way you avoid or the way you distract or the way you get away from 41 0:03:10.320000 --> 0:03:15.520000 your discomforts, whatever they might be, are completely different. 42 0:03:15.520000 --> 0:03:20.040000 You might become productively unproductive as I call it. 43 0:03:20.040000 --> 0:03:23.600000 It's where you're doing things that feel productive but they're not the thing you're 44 0:03:23.600000 --> 0:03:24.960000 supposed to be doing. 45 0:03:24.960000 --> 0:03:32.440000 So you might become an exercise person who's just perpetually exercising as a way to avoid 46 0:03:32.440000 --> 0:03:34.960000 doing the thing you're supposed to do. 47 0:03:34.960000 --> 0:03:37.120000 But he's going to fault you for exercising. 48 0:03:37.120000 --> 0:03:42.320000 When you're doing it at the expense of all of the things you should be doing, it's no 49 0:03:42.320000 --> 0:03:47.280000 longer productive, it's counterproductive and that goes back to the last episode about 50 0:03:47.280000 --> 0:03:49.040000 being honest with yourself. 51 0:03:49.040000 --> 0:03:54.440000 So as you are trying to figure this stuff out, as you're working on sort of peeling up 52 0:03:54.440000 --> 0:03:58.880000 the layers of your own behavior and what the origin story is for those things and how 53 0:03:58.880000 --> 0:04:02.240000 you're going to adapt and what are you going to do to fix it. 54 0:04:02.240000 --> 0:04:08.640000 Looking for those behavioral red flags, those little symptoms of something that you are avoiding 55 0:04:08.640000 --> 0:04:11.080000 or you can't see. 56 0:04:11.080000 --> 0:04:16.880000 This is, again, part of that discovery process that we all have it, it's all going to be 57 0:04:16.880000 --> 0:04:19.560000 different and no one else can do it but you. 58 0:04:19.560000 --> 0:04:23.680000 So keep an eye out for repeated behaviors. 59 0:04:23.680000 --> 0:04:27.720000 Keep an eye out for avoidant behaviors. 60 0:04:27.720000 --> 0:04:32.200000 Keep looking and you'll find that coupled with a strong sense of honesty and a good 61 0:04:33.200000 --> 0:04:38.440000 you know, strong sense of courage, you should be able to start working out some of these 62 0:04:38.440000 --> 0:04:43.040000 invisible demons that have been haunting you for God knows how long. 63 0:04:43.040000 --> 0:04:45.320000 In my case, almost 50 years. 64 0:04:45.320000 --> 0:04:50.080000 So good luck and if you have trouble, be sure to find us. 65 0:04:50.080000 --> 0:04:54.480000 We're going to be out, you know, folks from Emasons Worker out there, out in the 66 0:04:54.480000 --> 0:04:59.840000 Masonic communities, they're large and we're building an online one for folks just like 67 0:04:59.920000 --> 0:05:02.720000 us who are all trying to get better. 68 0:05:02.720000 --> 0:05:03.200000 Talk soon.