[SPEAKER_03]: Welcome back to, too long, did read it.

[SPEAKER_03]: Everyone's favorite uncovering of the mysteries, the secrets that goings on.

[SPEAKER_03]: The things you would not even possibly believe until you had 30 minutes to sit down and process it.

[SPEAKER_03]: I've read it.

[SPEAKER_03]: Just 30 minutes?

[SPEAKER_03]: 30 to 40.

[UNKNOWN]: Okay.

[SPEAKER_00]: Hey there, you have 30 to 40 minutes to process this.

[SPEAKER_00]: Go.

[SPEAKER_03]: Good luck.

[SPEAKER_03]: Good luck.

[SPEAKER_03]: How quickly do you think you could adjust to a totally new reality?

[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, it happens every 30 minutes, truly.

[SPEAKER_00]: I think we are dealing with that.

[SPEAKER_03]: It's so true.

[SPEAKER_00]: So now, I guess not well, I guess bad.

[SPEAKER_02]: Kind of just pushing it over there, like I'm aware, but I push it.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm reading this book right now called The Anomaly and it's to mark the anomaly, but it's basically the premise is that like a flight landed from Paris to JFK in March and then like people went about their lives and then in June a duplicate of the exact same plane landed with the same people and the exact same people and they think it's March okay but they're existing [SPEAKER_03]: So it asks these questions of like, you know, what does that mean?

[SPEAKER_00]: Like, who's the real one?

[SPEAKER_03]: Well, are they both real?

[SPEAKER_03]: Like the leading hypothesis of like all the scientists is that it proves that we're living inside a simulation.

[SPEAKER_03]: And so like the anger people feel around the simulation.

[SPEAKER_03]: Not even a glitch, because if it was a glitch, they would take the plane away.

[SPEAKER_03]: It seems almost like they think it's like an intentional wrench thrown in by who's ever running the simulation to see how people respond to this.

[SPEAKER_02]: So people that are like with their significant others are we seeing like different characters with like they're a slice of their life to like if you're on the lane with your husband you're like a couple that's like two different [SPEAKER_02]: No, I mean, your spouse was at home, let's say they were in New York, and then you come home, but two different versions of you were at home.

[SPEAKER_02]: Right.

[SPEAKER_02]: So like, who's the one, like, are you cheating on your spouse?

[SPEAKER_02]: And like, same.

[SPEAKER_03]: And, like, how do you, like, [SPEAKER_03]: financially, provide for yourself when you re into the world, because you've had one job, you have one retirement account, like all these things.

[SPEAKER_03]: It's still at the point of the book where like the government is kind of keeping people in a hangar, so they're not like fully reintroduced a society yet, but like, yeah, all these questions.

[SPEAKER_03]: And then there's, and then there's like some people who have like split up since I was just about to ask that.

[SPEAKER_02]: Somebody has somebody died.

[SPEAKER_03]: Some people have died, someone had a baby, so she was pregnant on the first, you know, she, like, the baby now exists, it's like, uh, it's still pregnant, so there'll be a double baby.

[SPEAKER_03]: Right.

[SPEAKER_00]: I would think it was like a parallel universe like they flew through the multiverse.

[SPEAKER_03]: That's why it's weird to me that everyone seems to be on like this simulation, like hypothesis where to me it reads much more multi-dimensional, which is also like way more like less alarming, because you could get back to your other place.

[SPEAKER_03]: And that like is real, right, because the relation is that you're not real, you're just a program.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, well, I already do think that, but that doesn't unsettle you.

[SPEAKER_00]: uh...

it definitely does i'm i'm worried that like it's like the matrix you know when you get out of it suddenly you have to rethink everything and you're like oh my god like is any of it real what is it matter to do any of it like it's really freaky i'm sort of on the side of like defined real like if you believe it's real and you feel like you experience pain and love and sensation and like how is that any different than like actually experiencing it [SPEAKER_00]: Well, would you, you would take the blue pill.

[SPEAKER_00]: You're not going.

[SPEAKER_00]: You're not going to the matrix.

[SPEAKER_00]: You're going to stay.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: Because you're like, you don't want to be like jolted out of this world.

[SPEAKER_03]: I need to connect.

[SPEAKER_03]: Lop, I could just continue my life.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you don't need to be pulled out into like a cold mechanical world with like your head shaved.

[SPEAKER_00]: I guess I'm headed there.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you really are.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'll take the, well, now it's all convoluted.

[SPEAKER_00]: They really said, we're going to take this film made by two trans women and misunderstand it entirely.

[SPEAKER_03]: That's so unlike them to do that.

[SPEAKER_00]: I know.

[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, so let's dive into our first subreddit, which is relationship advice because sometimes you just want an oldy buddy, goody.

[SPEAKER_00]: Sure.

[SPEAKER_03]: And I honestly, I'm burning out of finding weird subreddits.

[SPEAKER_03]: I've just been sort of returning to the most popular what's.

[SPEAKER_00]: Let's go, let's do relationship advice because I love the juice.

[SPEAKER_03]: OP writes, we listen and we don't judge Trent prompted my 24 female husband, 38 male, yikes.

[SPEAKER_00]: What's your hell is this?

[SPEAKER_03]: Terrible, a cruel two year long prank.

[SPEAKER_03]: How can I learn to start trusting him again?

[SPEAKER_00]: Never fucking do these trends, never.

[SPEAKER_03]: My instinct is like, you should have learned how to trust him again, because he's on trust or thing.

[SPEAKER_00]: Sure, of course.

[SPEAKER_03]: Okay.

[SPEAKER_03]: My husband saw TikTok videos this week about couples saying, we listen and we don't judge.

[SPEAKER_03]: Then revealing something bad or funny they do behind their partners back.

[SPEAKER_03]: He pressured me to participate because he said he had something very funny to admit, and I had to go first to justify his.

[SPEAKER_03]: When it was his turn, he told me he removed a question mark, things from my computer to make it very slow and almost unusable.

[SPEAKER_03]: Two years ago, in 2022, my computer suddenly started running like garbage, and I could never figure out what was wrong.

[SPEAKER_03]: I primarily used it for school and playing online games with my siblings because I don't live close to them anymore.

[SPEAKER_03]: Now I can hardly browse the internet, let alone play games on it.

[SPEAKER_03]: I couldn't afford a new computer because only I am working right now.

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh my god.

[SPEAKER_03]: He told me it would take him only a minute or two to fix whatever it is he did, but he just [SPEAKER_03]: When I asked him why he would do that, he said it's because I should spend all my time with him, and he didn't like that I would play games a few times a week.

[SPEAKER_03]: My feelings are very hurt right now, and I'm have a hard time believing anything he says.

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh my God, this gets even worse.

[SPEAKER_03]: How can I get my mind off this and stop distressing him?

[SPEAKER_03]: We have been married for six years.

[SPEAKER_02]: Wait, how old is she?

[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, keep going.

[SPEAKER_02]: She's 24.

[SPEAKER_03]: They got married when she was a T that he was 28.

[SPEAKER_03]: No.

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh no, no, not even 28.

[SPEAKER_03]: When he was 32.

[SPEAKER_03]: 22.

[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_01]: Gross.

[SPEAKER_03]: And I'm so stressed about what other things you might have done to manipulate me, how do people generally get over patrols of trust like this?

[SPEAKER_00]: Leah's a question.

[SPEAKER_00]: Here's a question.

[SPEAKER_00]: Do you think that this is AI-generated?

[SPEAKER_00]: And it's almost just like, let's write the worst thing possible and see if we can get.

[SPEAKER_00]: Because this is like age gap, manipulation, TikTok, long, you know what I mean?

[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I think this is, [SPEAKER_02]: It could be, but watching that trend on TikTok, there's a lot of just shitty people out.

[SPEAKER_02]: Dark.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yes, there were terrible things that were revealed.

[SPEAKER_02]: What else did you hear?

[SPEAKER_02]: Somebody talked about, is hooking up with somebody during their bachelor party.

[SPEAKER_02]: Someone said, and I think it might have been one of their friends too.

[SPEAKER_02]: Someone talked about, well, there was just bad stuff.

[SPEAKER_02]: Someone talked about how they had replaced the birth control, their partner's birth control, so they could get pregnant.

[SPEAKER_03]: And then you're seeing their real-life reaction in the moment to learning these horrific things.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, don't use TikTok for this.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my gosh.

[SPEAKER_00]: I can't believe we have to say it, but don't use TikTok for this.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now here's my question.

[SPEAKER_00]: How do you relationship coach, Allison Raskin?

[SPEAKER_00]: How do you feel about prank?

[SPEAKER_00]: But how do you feel about like not this, but like pranks in a relationship?

[SPEAKER_00]: I remember watching all of these like couples prank each other videos.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, I should would simply never trust this person.

[SPEAKER_03]: It depends if you like pranks, right?

[SPEAKER_03]: So like some people love to prank each other and it like goes both ways or like it's enjoyable to them and some people hate it.

[SPEAKER_03]: So if your partner hates it, you can't keep doing it.

[SPEAKER_03]: So if John were here, my, we listen, but we don't judge moment.

[SPEAKER_03]: I've already confessed this to him, is that sometimes my OCD will convince me that even though I've just washed my hands, my hands aren't clean enough for my hand towel, so I'll use his hand towel.

[SPEAKER_00]: Well, when I come over, you make me use his hooks.

[SPEAKER_00]: Ew, what do you mean?

[SPEAKER_00]: I thought when I come over and I put my backpack down, it has to be where John puts his stuff.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, but that's not the bathroom.

[SPEAKER_00]: No, but I'm saying you make me dirty up John's area.

[SPEAKER_03]: No, I wipe down everything after you.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, but the thing is it's like you know that's not a concern to him, right?

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, yeah, well, I confessed it.

[SPEAKER_03]: And then he, he didn't, he didn't get like mad.

[SPEAKER_03]: He was like, I think made fun of me.

[SPEAKER_03]: But yeah, because he doesn't actually care about [SPEAKER_03]: It's gonna be fair.

[SPEAKER_03]: I've washed my hands.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I just want to say you know that for it.

[SPEAKER_02]: I understand You don't have to convince me [SPEAKER_02]: Sometimes I'll do things to where it bothers me, but I know it doesn't bother the other person.

[SPEAKER_02]: So like, I'm fine.

[SPEAKER_02]: They'll be fine.

[SPEAKER_02]: Right.

[SPEAKER_02]: So it doesn't, it equals out.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, like if I make up a guest bed for somebody, I won't use like the strictest protocols that I use for my sheets, because I'll be like this person wouldn't care.

[SPEAKER_03]: Mm-hmm.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yep.

[SPEAKER_03]: Does that make me the devil?

[SPEAKER_03]: No.

[SPEAKER_02]: Because I think that's what anybody else would be doing.

[SPEAKER_02]: Right.

[SPEAKER_02]: Right.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: cozy, but I, you know, I'm not using, oh, it's that bad.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not using like my best stuff for a guest.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm not talking about stuff.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm talking about the way which I touch it.

[SPEAKER_00]: And if I let it touch my body.

[SPEAKER_00]: Well, I think it didn't Jesus say you got a treat of guests as if he was lives in your home or something.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm supposed to like a Bible thing, you know, treat a guest.

[SPEAKER_00]: Love that they brush that guy's feet.

[SPEAKER_00]: Well, he was always washing feet.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you're saying this is if we are, it's like common leaks.

[SPEAKER_03]: We should be listening to Jesus.

[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, no, no, it's the story of Sodom and Gamora, where the only lot in his family, uh, treated the foreigners as guests and had them stay in their house.

[SPEAKER_00]: And that's why they were two different stories, two different stories, two different stories.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.

[SPEAKER_00]: Then the wife, she turned around.

[SPEAKER_00]: She's salt now.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, that was a sad story.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's always the woman getting punished.

[SPEAKER_00]: Old Testament, a new testament.

[SPEAKER_00]: I mixed them up.

[SPEAKER_00]: Always the woman getting punished.

[SPEAKER_00]: Never a man turning to salt.

[SPEAKER_03]: No, I think the men have been punished in the Torah and the Bible as well.

[UNKNOWN]: Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, so should we do another relationship advice one that that is also rage bait and do sing yeah.

[SPEAKER_03]: My 25 female, ex boyfriend 27 male, let me for my best friend 25 female and now they want me to be part of their wedding party.

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, I'm not like we're in that wedding to the ground any advice.

[SPEAKER_03]: Three years ago, Josh, my boyfriend of about one and a half years.

[SPEAKER_00]: Of course it's a Josh.

[SPEAKER_03]: a broke up with me because he had feelings for Anna, my best friend.

[SPEAKER_03]: We hung out a lot and they said they eventually developed feelings for one another.

[SPEAKER_03]: They admitted that Josh had been cheating on me.

[SPEAKER_03]: They made a fool of me.

[SPEAKER_03]: They made me think that everything was okay when it really was not.

[SPEAKER_03]: If they had did it at the time, I would have tried to be understanding and tried to support them, but they chose to lie.

[SPEAKER_00]: girl know, you would have not, you can't, I mean, maybe you would have, but you shouldn't.

[SPEAKER_03]: Here, I want to propose something.

[SPEAKER_03]: If you're dating someone that you feel like mid about, right?

[SPEAKER_03]: Like you like them, but it's not, you know, you're not going to like marry them.

[SPEAKER_03]: And then they come to you and say that they fall in love with your best friend.

[SPEAKER_03]: What would you do?

[SPEAKER_00]: Sounds like a rom-com.

[SPEAKER_00]: I guess you would just be like, yeah, go for whatever.

[SPEAKER_02]: What the hell are, how's my friend feeling about it?

[SPEAKER_02]: Are they into them, too?

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, but they would never going to act on it because, you know, at a respect for the friendship.

[SPEAKER_00]: I will allow it if they get married.

[SPEAKER_00]: They have to promise me they're going to get married.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that feels right.

[SPEAKER_00]: Right.

[SPEAKER_03]: But obviously that's not what happened here and they lied and cheated.

[SPEAKER_03]: So I cut them both off.

[SPEAKER_03]: I focused on school and found a job with a good income.

[SPEAKER_03]: Josh and Anna tried to reach out to me at first, telling me they still wanted to be friends, but I blocked them.

[SPEAKER_03]: Now I'm living in the town next to our hometown.

[SPEAKER_03]: I got a wonderful job opportunity, so I moved, but I liked that I was still close enough to visit my parents and other relatives.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm out of my thinking I heard about their wedding from a common friend.

[SPEAKER_03]: It didn't really bother me anymore, so I just went on with my life.

[SPEAKER_03]: A week ago, I received a message from Anna telling me that she and Josh were getting married and they would like me to be a part of the wedding party.

[SPEAKER_03]: I replied, congratulations, no thank you.

[SPEAKER_00]: Literally like this girl pathologically cannot be disliked by anyone.

[SPEAKER_03]: Like right, that's what I think it is.

[SPEAKER_03]: I think it's that O-Peash is part of the wedding that it's like, yeah, it's absolved and it's saying to everybody like, look, we didn't do anything wrong, everyone's cool with this.

[SPEAKER_03]: I had no feelings for Josh anymore, and I'm even seeing someone else, but I don't want to celebrate the wedding of two people who betrayed me.

[SPEAKER_03]: They were insistent.

[SPEAKER_03]: Josh also messaged me via a different number.

[SPEAKER_03]: Some of my friends also tried to convince me to come to the wedding.

[SPEAKER_03]: I firmly said no.

[SPEAKER_03]: Even my mom called asking if I was going, and when I said no, she sounded disappointed, but she didn't push it.

[SPEAKER_03]: Is she going?

[SPEAKER_03]: No.

[SPEAKER_03]: This is all just quite weird to me.

[SPEAKER_03]: Why would you want your ex girlfriend slash ex best friend the girl you cheated on to be part of your wedding party?

[SPEAKER_03]: The day before yesterday Anna's parents called me.

[SPEAKER_03]: Telling me they missed me and really hoped I could go to the wedding.

[SPEAKER_03]: I firmly said that I would not be going.

[SPEAKER_03]: Her mother berated me, saying that I should let [SPEAKER_03]: I asked her if I cheated with Anna's boyfriend and then invited her to the wedding, which she convinced Anna to go, right.

[SPEAKER_03]: She had no answer to this and I hung up.

[SPEAKER_03]: This is getting quite out of hand because I'm receiving more than 20 to 30 calls and texted a day from their friends and family about this wedding.

[SPEAKER_00]: Are they planning to murder you there?

[SPEAKER_00]: Is this like a ready or not thing where they need someone there to sacrifice?

[SPEAKER_03]: It's so confusing.

[SPEAKER_03]: Any advice on how to handle this?

[SPEAKER_03]: Also, any insights, why they want me to go to their wedding?

[SPEAKER_03]: I don't think it's normal that they're very insistent.

[SPEAKER_00]: They're going to kill you.

[SPEAKER_02]: They're just imagining you get there.

[SPEAKER_02]: And then during the reception, they like somebody stands up and we want to make a toast.

[SPEAKER_02]: Thank you so much for bringing us together.

[SPEAKER_02]: Like, make the toast to you.

[SPEAKER_02]: Right.

[SPEAKER_02]: Like, why are they so insistent on this?

[SPEAKER_03]: Someone wrote, I suspect Anna doesn't have a lot of female friends.

[SPEAKER_03]: No one trusts her around their boyfriends.

[SPEAKER_03]: No one wants to be her pride's main.

[SPEAKER_03]: It's so like maybe like, yeah, maybe they just haven't even what else to ask.

[SPEAKER_02]: Then they need to hire some people then.

[SPEAKER_02]: Don't get the wedding party.

[SPEAKER_03]: Someone said they want you at the wedding to rewrite history.

[SPEAKER_03]: They started their relationship in the worst possible way, and probably think that if you're at the wedding, it legitimizes their start.

[SPEAKER_03]: They couldn't possibly have betrayed you if you were at their wedding.

[SPEAKER_03]: That's, that's the core of it to me, but what I can't understand is why other people give a shit Why are they being so insistent like why are the friends and family being so insistent?

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: Because if Anna is a childhood friend, then their moms are probably in the same social circle, and Anna's mom is probably talking a lot about the wedding, and it would be nicer for everyone, everyone except OP.

[SPEAKER_00]: If OP could just pretend that everything is great, and Anna is still her bestie, just like there had never been a betrayal for the sake of her mom and their friends.

[SPEAKER_02]: Hmm.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's wild.

[SPEAKER_00]: So the mom might be going then.

[SPEAKER_03]: As well, there was an edit that said that the mom's not going.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, someone was like, you should just go full romcom and like get there with like an escort and then get super drunk and then fall in love with the escort or something.

[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?

[SPEAKER_00]: Like true romcom style.

[SPEAKER_03]: But I'm very proud of OP for just like being like absolutely fucking that.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, all these people are weird.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, very weird.

[SPEAKER_00]: What the fuck is wrong with you people in the States?

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm from Poland, and maybe this is a cultural thing, but I've never heard anyone do Neither have we This is a cultural thing.

[SPEAKER_02]: This is these people.

[SPEAKER_02]: That's so funny.

[SPEAKER_00]: I want to do what do you ask me?

[SPEAKER_00]: This is just about this community that I found.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's small, but it's called Our Good vibes, and it's just people writing like either really good or like mundane good vibes.

[SPEAKER_00]: So it was like good karma came back to me.

[SPEAKER_00]: Last week I was at Food Lion, and the woman in front of me was taking forever to pay.

[SPEAKER_00]: So long that another cashier came over and called me over to another register.

[SPEAKER_00]: I was paying, I overheard the woman in her cashier talking.

[SPEAKER_00]: It was pretty clear she couldn't pay for her groceries.

[SPEAKER_00]: She was trying several cards and none were working.

[SPEAKER_00]: Seeing that her total was only $12.

[SPEAKER_00]: I decided to be nice and pay for her groceries.

[SPEAKER_00]: She was so thankful and appreciative.

[SPEAKER_00]: Fast forward today, I'm back at the same food line buying ingredients for dinner.

[SPEAKER_00]: The cashier asks if I have a rewards card.

[SPEAKER_00]: And when I say no, the man behind me offers to let me use his without hesitation.

[SPEAKER_00]: It saved me six dollars small amount of cash, but it's always nice to spread kindness and positivity who knows it might even be spread back to you And then the whole subreddit is just people talking about like really like nice things like here's a picture of my like milk shake that I had today here's you know like Here's some sweet journal prompts here's like [SPEAKER_00]: something that happened like I just celebrated my friend's birthday and it was so fun they food was absolutely delicious like all of this just really simple nice stuff that's cute.

[SPEAKER_00]: I saw one where it was like a video of a guy and he's like running to the beach and his he doesn't have his sandals he forgot them on the beach and he's running so quickly like his feet are burning him and another guy comes over and just gives him his sandals and says like yeah [SPEAKER_00]: See, I one time I was at the grocery store and I realized that I had forgotten my wallet and I had all these groceries and so I just left them and I said, I'm gonna come back with my wallet and which I really did not have my wallet.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I came back like 30 minutes later with my wallet and the cashier was like the lady bought it for you.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, what?

[SPEAKER_00]: And she was like, yeah, the woman behind you just paid for it.

[SPEAKER_00]: Wow.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, and then she doesn't even get any credit because you didn't even get to say thank you I didn't even see her.

[SPEAKER_03]: I really appreciate that, but also I would be like, but what if this person doesn't come back Then I just bought these groceries that are gonna just sit here.

[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I was kind of doing a whole thing Maybe she just trusted it like I was like, oh my god, this is so embarrassing I'm so sorry like I'm in it, you know, I maybe I seemed so genuinely fragile.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, she believed it [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, yeah, I don't know.

[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, it wasn't that much stuff.

[SPEAKER_00]: And also like, not to be like, oh, maybe she felt I deserved it.

[SPEAKER_00]: But it was largely vegetables.

[SPEAKER_00]: Wasn't like it was a box of sour patch kids.

[SPEAKER_00]: You don't know what I mean?

[SPEAKER_00]: Not to judge.

[SPEAKER_03]: I wish I had a box of sour patch kids.

[SPEAKER_00]: I know me too.

[SPEAKER_03]: Ugh, so good.

[SPEAKER_03]: We'll head back into the subreddit dating, but this is sort of thematically tied to paying for things, okay?

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, okay.

[SPEAKER_03]: So I really, I think I should get some applause for this transition.

[SPEAKER_00]: Sure, sure.

[SPEAKER_03]: OP writes, she paid $480 in our second date, a lot of people talk about splitting bills on dates.

[SPEAKER_03]: Personally, I'm the kind of guy who likes to invite and pay.

[SPEAKER_03]: Not just on dates, but even when I'm out with friends.

[SPEAKER_03]: So I took this incredibly beautiful girl to a mid-range restaurant for a date.

[SPEAKER_00]: A chillies?

[SPEAKER_03]: I don't know.

[SPEAKER_03]: Would we call a chillies mid-range?

[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know, it depends on where you're from.

[SPEAKER_02]: I think so because like I think it's like fast food and then like as a casual They cook it.

[SPEAKER_02]: No, no, no, I'm saying like fast food would be like one tier and then like the next range I feel like it's like a chillies [SPEAKER_03]: That feels fair.

[SPEAKER_03]: Like if I feel like you probably can't get much at chilies for like less than like $18.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_03]: But the entrées aren't in like the 30s.

[SPEAKER_00]: Right.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's not a mistake.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, the steak.

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, yeah.

[SPEAKER_02]: seafood too.

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh.

[SPEAKER_03]: All right.

[SPEAKER_03]: So anyway, the bill came to 120 and she offered to split it, but I refused and paid.

[SPEAKER_03]: A few days later, she asked if we could go to a fancier place.

[SPEAKER_03]: I assumed we'd just have a glass of wine and leave, but to my surprise, she ordered $150 bottle of wine.

[SPEAKER_03]: I thought, okay, it's just that.

[SPEAKER_03]: And then she went ahead and ordered stakes for both of us at a bunch of appetizers.

[SPEAKER_03]: I started feeling like I was being tangated advantage of and thought to myself, this is in cool.

[SPEAKER_03]: I didn't say anything and actually like everything was fine, but inside I knew I didn't want to date her again.

[SPEAKER_03]: Then the bill came into my shock.

[SPEAKER_03]: She had called the restaurant beforehand and put her card down.

[SPEAKER_03]: All I saw was the receipt.

[SPEAKER_03]: She paid for everything.

[SPEAKER_03]: Honestly, this was the most surprising thing that has ever happened to me with a girl.

[SPEAKER_03]: If you think splitting bills is empowering, this is the next level, ladies give it a try.

[SPEAKER_00]: Wait, why wouldn't she just tell him?

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not sure.

[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, come out to a nice dinner, it's on me.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, because then you know what you're doing when you do this is that you're causing them distress during the meal.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, like I love I love when someone reveals the end that they are going to pay for me, but to know the whole time, that's even better.

[SPEAKER_02]: I've literally watched something this week talking about how it was a power move to call the restaurant and put your cart down first before you get there.

[SPEAKER_02]: And I wonder if they have the same.

[SPEAKER_02]: thought process with that because it was like a pick-up line type thing.

[SPEAKER_02]: I can't remember what it was.

[SPEAKER_02]: I can't remember if that was a good one like you put the put your cart down first or you call a head and put your cart down.

[SPEAKER_00]: I used to do it where I would get to the restaurant and I would excuse myself to the restroom and then I would hand them my card and be like, just charge this.

[SPEAKER_03]: And why would you do that?

[SPEAKER_00]: It was a birthday and I thought the person was going to fight me and also just like as a flex.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that's what it is like so you're not fighting on the bill and it's a flex.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: My mom and my grandma used to fight her with a bill so much when I was a kid they would constantly like they would be like shoving cash at each other.

[SPEAKER_00]: being like, no, no, no, no.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I remember as a kid, I would take it and I'd be like, okay, so like a lot of times, yeah, I have a lot of memories of them, like pushing money at each other and then arguing about who's gonna pay and then me just gathering the money.

[SPEAKER_00]: And being like, thanks so much.

[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, they didn't let me keep it, but I would be like, it's on me.

[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, let's get a little silly.

[SPEAKER_00]: It seems like we're going into relationships stuff, but this one's a little bit silly.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's from a subreddit called Our Oops, which I really liked finding.

[SPEAKER_03]: Okay.

[SPEAKER_03]: How do they describe the subreddit?

[SPEAKER_00]: Share your oops moments here.

[SPEAKER_00]: Not a big description, but there is 32,000 weekly visitors.

[SPEAKER_00]: Wow.

[SPEAKER_00]: People make a lot of mistakes.

[SPEAKER_00]: texted my friend Happy Anniversary yesterday and then the sort of hand over the face emoji.

[SPEAKER_00]: Happy Anniversary!

[SPEAKER_00]: Thanks, LOL.

[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't even realize it.

[SPEAKER_00]: We are with Blank.

[SPEAKER_00]: Blank's birthday was yesterday.

[SPEAKER_00]: Ha-ha.

[SPEAKER_00]: How fun.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: I remembered a little while ago while fixing their garbage disposal ha-ha.

[SPEAKER_00]: Grand babies are more exciting.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yep, plus our one-year anniversary of divorce is on the [SPEAKER_00]: I guess I hadn't talked to this person in a while and said, happy in a verse three.

[SPEAKER_00]: And then she said, oh, we've been divorced for a year.

[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, no.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, no.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm so guilty of being like, oh, where's blah, blah, blah?

[SPEAKER_00]: And they broke up.

[SPEAKER_03]: So that's something I wonder about though, right?

[SPEAKER_03]: Like, what's the appropriate thing to do?

[SPEAKER_03]: Because it's kind of like rude to assume people have broken up.

[SPEAKER_02]: Mm-hmm.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_02]: I think this is what you do.

[SPEAKER_03]: a happy anniversary text is like a pretty intimate thing to send like I don't think like people really like wish me a happy anniversary unless I've like posted about it on social media so to be close enough to send a happy anniversary text but then not know they were divorced that that's wild.

[SPEAKER_00]: It seems like she's saying that they are close but she and she remembered the date but she forgot that they had gotten divorced because it wasn't contentious.

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh she knew [SPEAKER_00]: At some point she had known and she forgot oh, that's really bad.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, really bad Really bad [SPEAKER_02]: Yes, yeah, that's what the OP said.

[SPEAKER_02]: Well, I meant happy anniversary.

[SPEAKER_02]: I've forgotten about the divorce and then also it's worse.

[SPEAKER_02]: She's my best friend locally.

[SPEAKER_02]: She loves me even with my memory issues, but yes, pretty bad hints mocking myself by posting.

[SPEAKER_02]: So they have memory problems.

[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.

[SPEAKER_00]: Wow.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my god.

[SPEAKER_00]: You guys are going to have to cut me off from doing that shit.

[SPEAKER_00]: But I have probably just yeah, I've always I [SPEAKER_00]: I've gotten over my need to just like double down on it.

[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, like, yeah, I know I knew that.

[SPEAKER_00]: Because I'm just half to be like, I'm sorry.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm dumb.

[SPEAKER_00]: Mm-hmm.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm my apologies.

[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like, yeah, what is, because if you suspect people have split, but you don't know.

[SPEAKER_00]: To don't say anything.

[SPEAKER_00]: I guess, I also am trying, I told Alice in this that I'm trying not to, if I see a couple and one of them by themselves, I'm trying not to be like, [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, we're so-and-so, because it's like, I don't care where they are.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm talking to you.

[SPEAKER_00]: But it's also nice to check in on somebody.

[SPEAKER_00]: If I want to check in on John, I'll text John.

[SPEAKER_00]: That's true, but you know what you where he is.

[SPEAKER_03]: So what I've noticed I'm not good at is a lot of times I'll see, I'll like be with a friend and then we're saying goodbye and then they'll say, say hi to John for me or like send love to John for me and I never do that for my friends, because I honestly think it's just, you know, just something nice to say.

[SPEAKER_02]: I don't expect them.

[SPEAKER_02]: I don't expect a person to actually tell them.

[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, but like no, but like I don't ever think to say about their partner.

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, like I never I never start off with being like and tell so it's so I say hi Like I only ever do that in reaction to them having done it.

[SPEAKER_02]: I just think it's something nice to say I don't think it's expected.

[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, socially [SPEAKER_00]: And if they are friends with the person or if they haven't seen, I think I would do it.

[SPEAKER_00]: I would relay the information if it was someone they hadn't seen in a while.

[SPEAKER_00]: So I'd be like, oh, you know who I just saw so and so.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, they sent their love.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_02]: But Allison saying like, in response to that person, Allison isn't over the person to say, I never think, I never think to do that.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: And are you relying to John?

[SPEAKER_00]: No, almost never.

[SPEAKER_02]: I just think it's a placentry.

[SPEAKER_03]: No, I think John knows he's like, oh, I think he, he, he's, he's too popular at grad school.

[SPEAKER_03]: Wow, everyone, everyone like wants to talk to John at grad school.

[SPEAKER_00]: I love that he's like the homecoming King of Dread of grad school.

[SPEAKER_01]: Right.

[SPEAKER_00]: That makes sense.

[SPEAKER_00]: He's, I feel like, isn't he, he's the type of guy that strangers come up to, right?

[SPEAKER_02]: Or like when y'all went out to eat [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, like people like people find it very easy to talk to John and then I think something that fun that people do what you say when he went to the I think it was a sport athletic store in the [SPEAKER_03]: It was like so it was like so appalling and John just like trying to play it off like it was like a weird interaction We believe you were harassed.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yes, it's like not okay So like how you do it Maddie's like pretty good woke up horny like out of the game Get true.

[SPEAKER_03]: We're fine interaction with the stranger Yeah, I feel like everyone gets along with John and then I feel like for me people like tell me stuff [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, like you got one of those faces or like it's probably just because like I like share a lot online.

[SPEAKER_03]: So then like I'll like run it to somebody and they'll just like tell me a thing.

[SPEAKER_03]: Which I find I really I really I really love and and feel honored that like I feel like a safe place to tell it, but it is like funny.

[SPEAKER_02]: People love chatting me up on the plane like oh really if I'm sitting next to somebody on the plane They think we are best friends Wow, but like and it doesn't matter what their age is like my most delightful This is man that was like in his 70s and he was just so nice and at the end like when we're getting off the plane He was like I don't want to be weird, but I would like to continue like a friendship And he like had a wife and every like showing me pictures of her and stuff and it was just nice [SPEAKER_02]: But it was just like a delightful conversation, but people love talking to me on playing.

[SPEAKER_03]: Hi, I see.

[SPEAKER_03]: I feel like everything was wonderful about that until he wanted your phone number.

[SPEAKER_02]: It truly wasn't anything weird.

[SPEAKER_02]: It really was it.

[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't get a weird vibe.

[SPEAKER_02]: And he didn't want my phone number.

[SPEAKER_02]: He was giving me his number.

[SPEAKER_02]: And he still got anything like if you don't feel comfortable, don't do it.

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, yeah, yeah.

[SPEAKER_03]: Lovely.

[SPEAKER_03]: Who's turn is it for Reddit or not?

[SPEAKER_03]: The game show where we try to stump Reddit with something that's never been talked about before.

[SPEAKER_03]: And we almost always lose.

[SPEAKER_03]: You?

[SPEAKER_03]: Me?

[SPEAKER_03]: Mm-hmm.

[SPEAKER_03]: The first thing that gave to my mind was spaghetti dog.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, it's a dog made on baby.

[SPEAKER_03]: A dog made a spaghetti.

[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, I thought you made a hot dog.

[SPEAKER_02]: And I was like, that does exist.

[SPEAKER_02]: I love a spaghetti dog.

[SPEAKER_03]: What's this?

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, that's a hot dog with spaghetti on it.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, my God.

[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, it's brilliant.

[SPEAKER_00]: So they take the hard pasta and they jam it through the hot dog.

[SPEAKER_00]: And then they cook it and then the pasta soft.

[SPEAKER_00]: And so it's wrapped in the spaghetti.

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, wow.

[SPEAKER_03]: I had no idea about this.

[SPEAKER_03]: I meant a spaghetti made into the shape of a dog.

[SPEAKER_00]: Um spaghetti and hot dogs spaghetti and hot dogs, oh I gave my dog some spaghetti dog eating spaghetti.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it's pretty good Help my dog ate four cans of spaghetti.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, is it bad for them to eat spaghetti?

[SPEAKER_03]: I feel like eating four cans of anything is probably not right.

[SPEAKER_00]: Sure.

[SPEAKER_03]: Plus spaghetti as I feel like you got a lot to made a lot of acid [SPEAKER_00]: mm-hmm.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I guess that's bad for them.

[SPEAKER_02]: There's a, I can't believe the new Pasta's shape prediction already came true.

[SPEAKER_02]: Introducing Portotienely a Dots and Shapes Pasta made with Mill Valley Pasta company.

[SPEAKER_03]: Mm-hmm.

[SPEAKER_03]: I don't think that counts for what I'm talking about, but I am very intrigued to do want to check this out.

[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, what about our mildly interesting spilled spaghetti sauce above my garbage drawer looks like a dog, and it's spaghetti sauce, though, it looks like a dog.

[SPEAKER_02]: I think the fact that those spaghetti dogs exist, it's throwing off everything.

[SPEAKER_00]: Uh-huh.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you really did it.

[SPEAKER_00]: Uh-huh.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, someone, it's not a spaghetti dog in the same sense.

[SPEAKER_00]: They put spaghettios on a hot dog, so it's just like liquidy.

[SPEAKER_00]: Why?

[SPEAKER_00]: I think spaghetti is a very good dog name.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's a little long.

[SPEAKER_00]: You call him, getty gets.

[SPEAKER_00]: Means is a short name for my dog, but I call him Dodo anyway.

[SPEAKER_03]: You have a two syllables as the sweet spot.

[SPEAKER_03]: All right.

[SPEAKER_03]: Three, it's a little tough.

[SPEAKER_03]: I do know someone that has two dogs that are named Spaghetti and Meatballs.

[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, that's cute.

[SPEAKER_00]: Um, yeah, I don't see any for you.

[SPEAKER_03]: Wow, what do I win?

[SPEAKER_00]: spaghetti.

[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, I do love spaghetti.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know what?

[SPEAKER_03]: I really like as long fusilli, which is something I was only introduced to through John.

[SPEAKER_03]: Of course, but John.

[SPEAKER_03]: I had no idea about this.

[SPEAKER_03]: Have you ever had long fusilli?

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm looking now at what it is because I don't know.

[SPEAKER_00]: Let me see.

[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I have, but I have long fusilli.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh yes, I've had it in a restaurant before.

[SPEAKER_03]: It's really good, right?

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's like the right consistency of medicine.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: My work.

[SPEAKER_00]: I never knew about this.

[SPEAKER_00]: Good to know, good to know.

[SPEAKER_00]: Huge.

[SPEAKER_03]: Well, obviously this whole episode was worth it, just for that.

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