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Oh my good, she's gonna start the fucking episode as soon as I start eating.

Oh my god.

So hey, y'all, he's a girl.

Josh, what I be doing.

I'll be fixing mask tailor get on my nerd and telling the man you want to be like, they're.

Gonna ain't hear you.

They're gonna ain't hearing you out.

Are you ready?

I know I did say I was runny, but I told all right, y'all will understand I'd be eating.

I've been eating since season one on here hold on, I had to drink some juice, all right now, jumping right in.

I thought we was gonna get to the story last week, but uh, me and Taylor just be rambling, going off on a fucking tangent y'all.

So we're gonna pick up from last week where we were because it was two stories I wanted to read.

Two wives.

We're both coming to me about their marriages and them not being happy, having some issues.

So we're going to continue.

This was the second story from last week.

Jess, my husband and my mother are bumping heads, mad heavy.

Oh yeah, she's from New York because we all lived together.

Girl, mad heavy is crazy.

I would never get My friend was like she's the Caroline.

She goes, why is everything so mad?

Like right, like you mad dumb?

Like you mad heavy?

What why don't you just say you're heavy as shit like or you oh it's really heavy or it's giving heavy or something.

Bitch, Why I'm mad?

What somebody like you mad?

Cute?

Bitch?

I'm not mad cute, like I'm just cute, Like I'm not mad and cute.

It was like, yo, you mad happy right now?

That sounds so fucking dumb, like I was mad sad about that, Like I'm mad disappointing in you like you, I'm mad proud, like you make me like mad proud, Like what the.

Fuck or what did somebody just be like you?

I'm mad mad, I'm like, all right, New York, sit the fuck down ship.

They get on my nerves with the fucking slang.

Honey.

I love New York, I love I love the Lord New York.

Dead as yeah, now dead ass is like all right, because like we used to say dead ass series in Baltimore, dead serious or dead ass alright cool, So that's just like taking.

Off hella hell hella.

Yeah, like yo, I'm hella, man, Like Hella.

Sounds better than mad because like I don't know you what I'm hello, Like I'm hello, like it was hello bitches in a party, instead of saying it was mad bitches in the party, Like damn, they was all mad.

Like that's what it sounds like.

Everybody had like no, like that love means.

What hella is a lot of hellas fire.

Hella is like hell of a lot, no, hell of a lot.

Okay, man, It's like you're not even from New York.

Why are you trying to defend.

You know what?

Because when I used to go to school in Virginia, I used to say all that said, all of it though, hell mad?

So you wanted to before everywhere I didn't meet it was surrounded by he was a clown.

I started saying.

I was saying Hella a lot though, because my friends she was lived in Maryland, so I was around her a lot.

But then I moved here and there.

Sorry Drake like whoever he hang around girl when he be with them Caribbeans and be like yeah, mine boyah mine, that's Jamaica crazy.

Is you're talking from a bunch of African talking about yeah mine stupid girl.

All right, oh my god.

We started reading the story ship mad Heavy.

All right, that's how we got today.

All right, here we go, Jazz.

My husband and my mother are bumping heads mad Heavy.

Oh because we all live together.

What can I do?

He wants my mom gone, but she helps us with the four kids we have.

Damn because we both work full time jobs.

I actually have three jobs.

Oh my god.

She might be a jamikan shut.

And they mainly argue about my daughter because my husband is pretty negligent.

I'll admit I'm both scared and nervous to confront her because my husband is unhappy Jess.

But she's still my mother.

I want to respect her.

But at the same time, there has to be boundaries.

Boundaries drawn or drown Boundaries drawn?

Is crazy?

Is that like a New York thing?

Be boundaries?

I'll just say in place, because drawing.

You can't draw your boundaries.

Let me say you can.

You can like going a piece of paper with a pencil.

That's not how she's saying it, though.

Okay, all right, boundaries have to be drawn.

So girl, this New York, she got to meet friends with this morning shit.

All right, So the mother lives with them, right obviously, because she said the husband wants her to go.

So that's their house obviously, all right, and her husband and her mom, but bumps head, it's her mom.

They they they bump heads, mad heavy, y'all.

So and they all live together.

But they got four kids, so obviously the mom is a nanny.

Hm.

She takes care of the children.

She said that her most of the arguments are about she's the husband being negligent with the daughter.

I don't want to she's saying, right, slick shit.

I guess the mother if she's scared.

Listen, I'm just reading the context.

If she's scared to confront her mother.

Obviously her mother is about that life.

Her mother ain't the one to be playing with.

Is it making her and her husband get an argument.

No, she just said, like he wants her gone.

It's going to eventually come to that because he wants her to put our mother out.

But that's how mother, who's also the nanny.

But it's still a thing of you have to respect your husband because that's their house.

They're still not meaning.

The bulls because what how does your how does her mom be talking to like how the argument is getting too the argument because the husband is not gonna gent with the daughter, probably steps in.

The mother probably steps in and tries to teach him how to parent, like, tries to tell him how to parent forcefully, you know, because she may feel like I know this better than you, I've been doing this better than you, y'all need my help.

She probably want some cocky shit like y'all need my help.

Yeah, especially if our daughter is scared to talk to her or just nervous, you know.

Well, she said scared.

She says, she's both scared and nervous to confront her.

She said, but jes my husband is unhappy.

So yeah, he's eventually going to start taking that out on her.

Well, I'm not gonna say that it's gonna drive a wedgend between them.

He's probably gonna come to her sooner than later and say, listen, it's me or your mom.

I can't do this shit.

Yeah.

We got four kids, and if she got three jobs and he got four times, one of them had to stop working and fucking be at home.

That the only reason why she's living with them though, too.

Then I probably so, probably so that is probably the only reason why they got four fucking children and four fucking jobs between them both.

That's a lot.

Them babies, Them babies are grandma's babies.

Yeah, pretty much, four jobs between them two.

I see why the fucking neglige and he fucking tied, right, God damn, Hold up, Hold up, I know this ship getting good.

But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial.

If you love me, you'll listen.

What do you think.

I feel like she needs?

That's a lot, I said, because that's a lot, y'all.

But she needs.

Was she so scared of though, of like how it's gonna letter.

Yeah, she probably scared of what her mom is gonna say, or she probably honestly, she's probably scared that her mom is going to be like, I'm leaving them, you know what I mean?

And they really need her.

So she's like stuck between a rock and a hard place because she doesn't want her husband unhappy.

But yeah, family counseling, that's what it is, because I'm not I'm not gonna hold you.

I'm not about that.

If that were me, I'm not about to have my husband unhappy in his own home because he keeps butting heads with my mom.

First of all, I don't want none of my parents living with me.

I'm sorry.

And my mother in law she lives with us, Yeah she does, but we have enough space where it's like and then see my mother in law.

I'm I'm totally blessed.

My mother in law.

Don't give me no fucking problem.

She ain't no ranchit fucking ghetto ass or she don't be she Chris is not a mama's boy like he you know what I'm saying, And he loves his mother.

There's nothing wrong with being a mama's boy, but when you let that spill over into your relationship, that's when it becomes done.

When you jump you know what I'm saying.

Yeah, she's not.

No, and his mother is very encouraging, empowering, Like she's very encouraging, like and empowering to me where she and she even tells something like no, your wife comes first, Like it's not nothing's ever happened where she had to tell him, like to put me before her.

But that's what she always preached.

That's just what she lives by.

Anyway, she was a married woman, you know, three times.

But let's neither hear there.

That's how the Mexicans get that girl shit with one husband, don't do the second or.

Third one well, but.

She always preaches that ship to him, like listen, no, she preaches them that his wife comes first.

It's God your wife, then your children, and then your parents, then your you know, siblings, then your your your other family, but it's your it's God, your immediate family, and then the extension of the families.

You know what I mean.

I wonder they never got I wonder if they got along excuse me before.

She moved into though.

But to complete that thought, what I was saying about my whole death or real quick, what I was saying about my parents, I would never want them to move in me.

Well, I can live with my dad, but my mom is very spoiled.

I can't live with me and my mom the same person.

Because my my grandma she's.

Living with my parents now, but only because she has the more stable house.

My grandma she can't walk.

Okay, yeah, so that's different.

Yeah, yeah, that's different.

That's like I'm taking care of I have to take care of my mother.

You feel me, so like, that's that's different.

When it comes to if you up and you you mobile and you walking around.

You're getting smart and shit, and I know you take care of our four kids, but like you, come on, you gotta let him be a man.

You gotta let him be a dad.

You can, you can be the guardian and you can raise the kids as you see fit.

If you don't have no problem with it, fine, but you have to.

Yeah, they just have to be.

There has to be boundary set in that household family counseling.

If if she can't choose, because I know that's.

Got to be hard.

You want to choose, you gotta choose.

She doesn't want to have to choose between her husband and her mom.

Yeah, yeah, because you automatically supposed to choose your husband.

I mean, what do you feel about that?

You was really ask me something.

I wonder.

I wonder how if they got along before she moved in.

Mmmm, well, this is just like now more so overbearing.

It could be stressio, it could be stressed on all fucking because now I'm thinking about it, right, that's four kids that mother got to take care of.

There's four fucking grandkids.

I don't know what ages, I don't know how old they are, how young they are whatever, but that's four children.

I'm still not justifying the disrespect or you know, the butting heads of you know whatever, that the mom is giving off.

I'm not justifying justifying that part of it.

But I'm just saying more than likely she's older.

She's an older woman.

Yeah, yes, and she got four kids.

She probably cooked, she probably cleans.

If the parents got four jobs between them, they don't really have time to do shit else.

So the mother is probably cooking and cleaning.

And again, and I'm assuming because she didn't give me a lot of meat.

She gave me enough, but she didn't give me a lot of meat on the bone.

I'm assuming that, you know what I mean.

Everybody's frustrated, all right.

So that's the mom's frustration, all right.

The wife's frustration is no, let's go on it, okay, So the nannies first, the grandmother frustration all right, the four kids, okay, cooking, cleaning.

On top of that, she's on her she's an older age.

You know, she's set in her ways.

You know what I'm saying.

It's a lot.

I don't know how old or younger the kids are, like I just said, but maybe they are young.

Let's just assume they're young.

That's the that's a lot to keep up with four fucking children, all right, cool?

Then you got the dad.

He's exhausted.

They work, he works a full time job.

He comes home to four kids and a irritated mother in law for having four children, having his children all day.

He don't want to.

Feel that he's probably working, and he don't feel like coming home to her probably nagging yet.

And I got to come home to you.

You're not even my wife nagging.

You my wife mother, who take care of my kids nonetheless, but you still fucking nagging me.

And then not to mention the wife the stress of her three fucking jobs, and then dealing with having to play referee.

Between her mom and her fucking husband.

Still having to be present for her daughters, I mean for our children.

I don't know if their daughters or sons or whatever, but you know, having to be there, be present and just kind of beat a referee.

And then Shaney really got it all together because she hasn't even sat down and had a conversation with her mother yet because she's scared and nervous, but she don't want her husband upset with her, and that's surely gonna drive a wedge between them.

Yeah, it is because you're like, yo, why can't talk to you?

Yeah, like put it in her place.

If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back.

And the first thing that he probably would say, which is evident or his mom would be there, is I would never let my mother do that ship, you know what I'm saying.

And so, and that's gonna, that's gonna, that's gonna conjure up some guilt in her and it's just it's just not good.

So either family counseling or mom gotta go.

I've gotta go.

And I wonder if they're paying her, because because we paid my mother in law for Marlee's one Marlee is one fucking baby and she's a lot.

And she also takes care of my son too, you know what I mean.

So that's you know, she definitely helps take care of him because Ash is homeschool now, so she does a lot.

She cooks, she claims.

Now, we all have roles.

Like it ain't like I come home and just climbing the fucking bed, and like Chris, it ain't like Chris come home climbing the fucking bed.

Like no, we we all three of us cook clean.

Nobody has that will, you know.

But that's that's that's only two kids, and it's still a lot for me, Chris and my mother in law.

That's four children there for them.

So what if she's not getting paid?

I know she probably like, well what if she met that she's not getting paid and it's four jobs between them and she ain't getting no fucking money.

Yeah, Cause I'm just wondering.

Why if she's scared, she probably scared her mom's gonna say certain things or like like bring up certain things like well, well you guys haven't been doing this and thing.

Yeah, she's probably not a what do you call.

It a good mother?

No, she don't like arguments.

Whether she's not of.

Conversation yeah, yeah, the daughter is probably not confrontational.

Yeah, so that that's my advice.

Well what is my What the fuck is the advice?

I ain't never giving up family counselor or or.

Whatever circumstanstem Maybe I mean they're got jobs up.

Yeah, I couldn't say.

It Probably is easy for her to come to the house instead of dropping the kids off.

That is definitely easy.

Probably easy, or.

You know, try to the forgerbt y'all, mate, get a daycare or you know what.

They beefing so much.

They probably also beefing so fucking much because they're in the house with each other a lot more than the fucking mom because the mom had I mean, you know, the wife.

The wife has three fucking jobs, so when the fuck is she ever home?

So she really can't beat a referee.

That's probably why when she by the time she do get home, ship's already in disarray and they already been arguing all day and shit.

Yeah, and the mom is like, yo, you're negligent, like you or your.

Daughter like you, you know, need to watch her or whatever.

You know.

She didn't really expound on just how negligent he is or what she meant by that.

But or maybe the.

Or maybe the grandma is seeing stuff with the daughter and that she thinks that he needs to just talk to.

Her more or something like that.

Could be is a teenager and she just feels like she needs maybe something like that.

Maybe, but the bumpt the bump heads mad heavy.

That's very dramatic, So that means like it's some other shit like this nigga must be negligent, negligent yeah, like I don't feel like she's older, though I know you were saying like, well, what if she's older, like and she's no, I feel like the mom the grandmother, like a grandmother would really trip a grandmother in her right mind.

If the kids are younger and you're negligent with like.

A baby or like a yeah, like an infant or a toddler or you know, like somebody still young elementary, it's gonna sound fucked up.

Then don't say it.

What is it because you get a past, you're pregnant.

They exactly, it has to pregnancy.

They had all these jobs when they had time to fuck they why have all them?

I just feel like, wait a minute.

I'm just saying and this is coming from a pregnant woman over here talking about well, first of all, they married Taylor, so so what you all right?

So what you're saying, like why they have all the fucking kids?

If but they have the right No, no, no, no no, that was the story.

But I'm just saying, like they got four kids and four jobs in between the boat.

Why she got three, he got four.

That's a lot.

It's do what y'all want to do?

Like I know, the since mistakes happened whatever, and you mean, like, but I'm just saying, after this one that I'm about to have, I'm going to be and I've been more careful of everything.

Like I'm just saying, I'm it's the obstacles that I'm gonna have.

I'm a face though, like I'm not about to just.

Keep popping kids out like one after another.

Yeah boom if I look around after the.

First one and and everything and going, I wanted to go, you know what I got you?

You know, I feel you.

And then my thing is like I understand the four kids, but why the fuck do you have three jobs?

So she has to keep up?

Like she clearly.

Wondering though, like what's the what's the space two of like four kids.

And your mom's living there?

Is it?

Or y'all have a big enough house and that's why y'all gotta be Because I understand four kids definitely is weighing on the pocket for sure, but that's a job for each kid.

That the four kids ain't the only thing that they fucking slaving for.

Yeah, like that can't be it, Yeah what I'm saying, So maybe they do have they're just trying and keep up with their household too.

Then I know some of the listeners are probably like, well, why he don't have the three jobs?

I don't.

I don't think anybody should have fucking three jobs.

I mean in America, Like, come on, Like, I wonder what the jobs are that you get to do, Like what.

Do you get to do outside of work?

If you have three fucking jobs and you work in it's only twenty four hours in a day.

Kind But I wonder what job she has because technically, I mean, you're in a lot of things too, though lose your job.

Yeah, so I.

Know, m that it depends on what the which is only on weekends and then I do this Monday through Friday.

Yes, that's two jobs, and then I have other.

Oh yeah, yeah job unless she has all three nine ninety fives or whatever, like that's a lot.

But I'm saying she's like in this the work that we're in because I have multiple jobs too.

Yeah, yeah, I guess, but each in each and every one of them.

You're not like going to clock in and sit down and have to put in the hours nine to five, Like what if it's three nine to fives that she's saying she got Yeah, not runs her own business.

Because if she runs her own business, she can probably work from home.

Yeah, more than likely.

You know, when you do have a business, you can work from home.

Since the pandemic, that's been like the option of a lot of entrepreneurs.

So I don't know, but child, just get back to us, like.

Counsel, Yeah, family, talk to your mom, tell her your feelings towards it.

And because I feel like.

She all I'm getting is that she doesn't she's like that her mom and her husband are fighting.

Yeah, but but.

And then she also agreed with her mom too.

Though she agrees.

She said, like, and he is helg he is negligent.

So you also need to talk to your husband.

I think all three of them should have a fucking meeting.

I don't see.

That's how shit get misinterpreted, misconstrue Like if she sat down and have a conversation with my mother and then go sit down and have a conversation with her husband, what are the mom and the husband going to talk about?

Like, oh, well she told me, Oh, you ain't say that, well you talk to me.

No, no, no, it can't be that because then all the caddiness and shiit gonna come out and it's like nah, and it's like she's gonna play both sides.

You can't go to the mom and.

That like you all of what she doing and you can't kick it to your husband like he ain't doing nothing wrong.

Like it has to be an open conversation for transparency, honesty laid out there.

Listen.

Some of the best results come from the most uncomfortable conversations.

Look at what happened to pay a breakfast club period, you know what I'm saying, and all that, All that started from a fucking live right, Well, it started from motherfuckers keeping sh it front me or not doing a fucking job the way it's supposed to.

Be fucking done.

But right I went live and boom, and then it came to work the next day.

Who the fuck did I think I was?

But I had all dancy to coming like can you excuse me?

Bitch said you ain't like me?

And then now look a big fucking happy faith.

We're the best class that we've ever been class.

It's just like that, We've come to the end of yet another carefully reckless episode with your girl.

Just hilarious.

What I was doing.

I'll be fixing mess, say bye to Taylor y'all and say let's say see y'all.

Next week, See y'all next week.

All right, y'all.

Peace Can't Believe.

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