Papa Team six.

Welcome to another episode for the dads.

This is episode five.

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Maybe you're listening to me.

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The comments have been amazing.

They've been been awesome, dude.

I was the community is growing.

I was overwhelmed.

I'll say this later, but I was overwhelmed by all the comments and people that reached out with my DMS.

I was overwhelmed.

It was crazy.

You want to read a few.

Yeah, I would love to first of all, shout.

Out to people jumping comments.

They got to know that we're there, that we're showing up, that we're showing up.

One hundred percent.

And to your point, shout out to the eight point five k sickos that typed in at for the Dad spot.

I like to think they all typed in at for the Dad spot, all typed it in and they're absolute sig gos.

They're Papa Team six.

I'll start out with Hunter Palell, he said Sherman, the best gift you can give your wife is being the dad she always wanted.

My wife grew up with absent dad as well, and she has told me watching me be a dad and her knowing our daughter will grow up with the dad has healed so many wins for her.

Being vulnerable in the comments is sick.

Shout out Hunter pal for them, you.

Shout out Hunter.

I'm reading this one from Blake Blake Lee four six four fellas, and this is a little this this could be a little bit of a dad hack because I didn't even I didn't even think about this one, Fellas.

Here's a major w from the first member of Papa Team six, Chad GPT has walked me through the absolute war one of sleep training with my two and a half year old slept nine hours straight by herself last night for the first time in two years.

Oh four nights ago.

I was asking myself, am I built for this?

Am I built for the a gap?

Am I truly a member of PT six?

And this morning I woke up and realized I might just be Himmothy huge dad w for this dad of two.

Shout out the boy Blake.

That was Blake that said that, Yeah, Blake, Dude, shout out Blake.

Blake Lee, Blake Lee four six four from PT six in two years, Dude, I'm sitting there two nights and I'm thinking, oh, man too, like, I don't know how much longer I can do it?

Two years, two years, dude, sleep sleep training is hard, man, Like I have you know, knock on wood.

I was lucky with the first two route took a little bit longer than Scottie.

And again, shout out that twelve hours and twelve weeks book.

But it's a it's a war one.

It's a war one.

It's a process.

Yeah, it's a process.

It's a than that Papa Seal can only take on and to that point, Mike Cody eight one A two.

He kept it short and sweet.

He said, Papa Team six with the flex and don't forget trash today.

Remember what got us here, Trash Day got us here.

But also shout out Papa Team six.

I took a photo today.

Today is actually my trash today.

We record on Monday.

I took a photo.

I forgot to tweet it.

That's the first thing.

You gotta stay on it.

I got it.

Papa Seals now, Papa Team six, we gotta get out there.

That's the way we engage and build the community.

Because people probably wondering, like I did, see people wanting the fatherhood.

I think I saw a lot more for Papa Team six, a lot of tea.

At first, I was more of a fatherhood guy, but then I got to thinking, I'm like, Papa Team six is just more fun because you know me, I'm a little sick o.

I like to I like to rally the army up every now and thedays.

I like to just you know, I never know what the how to refer to it as just say like hey, you know.

For example, when I went to war with Expedia, a couple of years ago, it was getting the army, taking our nation into war and be ready to not come back.

There's a part there's a fantasy I have where you just rally Papa Team six, whether it's in the comments, you have fun on social media, you know, I have those little fantasies, but also like playing into it.

It's like, you know you Let's say, for example, you post a photo of your kid, it's like, welcome to the fatherhood.

Welcome to Papa Team six.

Yes, you see the fatherhood.

I feel like that feels way more universal and generic.

Even though I think it's sick, I think it's cool, and I do think we should get those upside down fatherhood hats made.

Yeah, but it seems like something that's normal.

Right.

If you see like welcome to Papa Team six, Like anybody that's outside of the audience that for whatever reason might be on the page yes for the dead spot and they see welcome to Papa Team six, it kind of makes you pause for a second.

Probably why does everybody saying Papa Team six.

It's kind of funny, kind of like an inside joke, kind of like an inside community thing, and only Papa seals understand.

You know, you know who the real real sickos are in Papa Team six.

Are those guys that we've been doing PT six on Twitter.

I've seen you do it.

I've done it myself.

I've seen a couple others.

People on my wife's Instagram post posting a picture of scarlet and people in the comments welcome to PT six.

Sure, I'm like, that's just sick of We need in a good way.

We need a mobilized Papa Team six, not not for the wars that probably will be had at some points in time with the TikTok bombs of the world who might come across clips of ours and you know it's found.

To happen at some point it will happen, but it will happen.

Even for recruiting purposes.

Yes, you just see somebody you tag in somebody else's video.

We need to get this guy on Papa Team six.

This is Papa Team six.

Potential shout out chef too.

He had an incredible idea for some merch of just some dads coming through, like clearing a room and you have one with the spatul that you got one with tongs and he's like on a grill, another one coming in.

Maybe he's got the burp cloth and he's got the bottle, but they like look military.

They look like night vision goggles.

Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that would be electric.

Maybe a dad was strapped with a carrier with the baby on the chest, double strapped.

He's got one on the back back.

It'd be so with the backpack on and then out of the side sleeve you just see the top half of a bottle.

Yeah.

Yeah.

The above the detail the bomb diffuser would be just a guy with the baby Breza and he's computing on the baby Breza.

Be so good.

BETWTV dot com.

That's where you get our merchandise.

And I do I love the detail that our merchandise has.

Like there's one oh man, I was I was posting about it yesterday, but I was kind of going through all the detail of the wolf working out in the weight room, like blood sweating beers like on his shirt like for the dads or something, and like you know, something down off to the side.

But there's a lot of like cool detail that I feel like we get to have fun with now that we get to make our own merch.

A hundred and just to tease the merchant general.

We got a shipment of the Bust and Summer beat the Heat merch in uh last week, I believe.

And just seeing some of that, yeah, and I can't I'll just tease it.

It's insane.

Which product are you talking about?

Because it's Wednesday, like we have new merchants just dropped yesterday.

Okay, well so we do.

We do have the Hawaiian match Hawaiian matching set fire, which is fire, and I don't like, I really don't want to tread in water that I'm not supposed to do on teasing this merch Do I have permission to go into detail.

Yes, there's some polos coming in that are on Are we talking good material polos that some golf dads can wear?

Yeah, and one that is there's some girl dad homages with one of the polos that I'm telling you, I cannot wait to be on the golf course.

I'm not.

This is not a pitch for the merch I want to be on the golf course in this one polo immediately, So keep your eyes out for that.

It's so sick, so sick.

Get his juice.

Get the boys rocked up.

The Boys rocked up on a Wednesday mornings, out there just getting the trash can bens out to the curve, just getting rocked up.

Listening to that little teaser.

There's so many w's with the l's, dude, there's so many many.

So many w's, buddy, there are so many l's in Paragra.

And again, if you're new to this show, we run over a lot of different things.

We talk about our dad losses, you know.

We talk about what we crack a cold one too?

Ye?

What are the odds yup survival kit?

What to put in the survival kits?

Some dad hacks, ye, Some lessons that we're learning along the way in fatherhood to be a papa Seal quote.

We go through voicemails, call in six on one, the dad's people call in.

We've had a lot of call in.

Chef, Chef jack in the back, he uh, he has about what four lined up for us today?

Four good ones?

Yeah, four good ones.

Even a mom called in.

Even a mom called in.

She knows what we're talking about.

And Chef got a shout out on the voicemail and just a little cheet code for anybody that's on their voicemail to be put on the show.

You shout out chef at the top.

There's a good chance he's probably gonna listen to the rest of it.

It is true.

Just a little dad hack, just a little datassage him a little bit yo hey, and shout out chef, Yeah, che Jack.

I know you're listening to this right now, breaking down this voicemail.

Let me put a heater on you real quick.

Oh yeah, let me put a question up for the boys real quick.

Yeah, and it'll probably get you.

You fast tracked to the.

Flaffron will fast track you.

He pulled one of them up, and the shout out to chef was strong, and I started hitting chef.

When I was listening to it, I was like that God knows what he's doing.

Oh yeah, oh yeah, six on one of the dads, you call in.

That's our hot line.

We go through, we go through calls, and at the very end of the episode we roll credits.

And the credits that we roll are moments of parenthood or fatherhood that you have with your little one.

Maybe it's a gender reveal.

Maybe you're doing like uh, you're acting and you're playing dress up with your daughter or your son.

Maybe you're in the backyard running around and playing.

Maybe you're having a nice dinner moment, whatever it is.

We like to roll some feet good moments.

At the end of the episode in our credits, just embrace, just to embrace the fatherhood that goes on out there.

Embrace the fatherhood.

Another quick shout out.

We'll have a plug at the end of episodes.

Uh, you know, moving forward for future episodes.

But for the time being, the National Parent Helpline.

We shout him out last week.

We'll shout them out again really quick.

That's one eight five y five four to two seven two seven, three six.

That's the National Parent Helpline open twenty four hours they you sorry, go ahead.

I was gonna say the National Parent Hotline.

That's where you go for real.

That's where you go for real help.

Guys, if you're calling in and you got some actual issue stuff that you need to get off your chest, you need some help at home, you will be matched with a masters in counseling that's there to help you.

Twenty four to seven.

So shout out National Parent.

Yes, because we don't have a master's degree.

No, this is not an expert this is not an expert podcast.

Which, by the way, three MPT six.

Got a master's degree.

You need PT six, which is fun.

You know a lot like you.

We just we talked through this stuff, all things fatherhood.

But again we are not experts on the show.

And to go off that I did have a bone to pick with Chef Jack, oh no, because I said it last week.

I think I gave you a title or caption for the episode.

And I go on and I see Will Compton gives parenting advice for your first child, And for whatever reason, I get triggered by giving parenting advice being on like YouTube and coming across like this is this is where you go for advice.

I don't mind that people enjoy and consume it and use use tips, use stuff that we talk about and help like help relate it to their situation, and it might turn out to be advice for them.

But it's more of like the positioning of Will gives parenting advice because I hate feeling like I'm like, you know, talking to a group saying this is what you should do, this is what you shouldn't do.

More is just like our own life experience.

But that's a tip you can write down for yourself, Chef Jack, Because I know you probably got it from somewhere else and they probably signed off on it, and he won't say who.

It is, and can I put chef Jacks?

But I'll come and hide on a phone call and say I don't give a shit if the SEO and this wording is better for the YouTube algorithm.

I personally don't like projecting that I'm the expert and I'm the one giving advice.

And two, I've been in that seat with busting with the boys, and to put you on game, Chef Jack, the best move you could ever do is as soon as they sign off on a title, copy paste it, text it to this guy solo and say, hey, team likes this, and this guy will rip it in five seconds ago fuck that, go with this.

And then all you have to do is hit those people back and say, Will's going with this?

You're good?

You're good.

Oh yeah, that's good advice.

That's advice I learned.

I have a master and keeping Will Compton happy with his podcast.

So as long as you if I will, you're good, I.

Just pop on and I just it's the first five words.

Will Compton gives parenting advice, and I'll I was wanting to break the screen.

I didn't do it because I'm I didn't want to hit up Chef Jack.

We just started our Fourth of July break.

I don't want bad vibes going on.

It was a wonderful fourth of July eight New intern, New intern.

I know, I know, I'm not trying to come up hot, you know what I mean.

But some of my favorite texts are those six am texts that you, uh, well, I'll wake up to there.

It's a beautiful book that you put together.

And I truly I giggle a little bit.

I am a little scared because I'm like, I want to make Will happy, but I do giggle a little bit imagining you in your garage weight room, typing out that message.

In the middle of a set, stealing on it for a couple of sets, just sitting there.

All right, I got three minutes rest on this one.

I'm gonna fire this one on.

What the fuck?

I'll type in like half of it and then go hit us and come back and be like all right here here.

No, No, I can't say that because I told him.

I told him not to do that.

I know, against myself.

Did I'm not saying this.

I could have sore.

I said this been there, been there.

Yeah, it's a learn.

It's a learn, dude.

It's an intern loss.

It's an intern loss.

We might learn after a minute.

It's something you crack.

A cold one too, is an intern Watch them just killed this next chef just sitting back there not.

Yep, that the goat?

The goat.

Should we dive in?

Yes, I'm I'm in to dive in.

We had, I mean all an incredible weekend all around.

We went back home from Missouri for the fourth of July.

Some good parenting stories from that that will dive into.

But you're a dad, bro, it's crazy.

You know, your a couple of colaps, just a couple of laps.

It's only three of us here.

And I apologize if you heard that thunder it is raining outside.

It is storming outside.

That was a man upstairs clapping saying, Yo, what hired up for you?

Maybe you're a new dad.

You're officially a Papa seal, no more soon to be dad.

You are now in it?

Yes, in it in a way to where we got to keep this show under an hour.

Dude.

We gotta keep it tight, and we gotta keep it tight because I got to get back to my girls, she'll probably see this when it comes out on Wednesday of your.

First pediatrician appointment.

First pediatrician appointment.

Honey, I will be there.

I know that we're watching this in the future.

I will be there.

I love you.

And I just checked my phone.

I don't know if that was on camera.

I'm checking the phone and see if you text me.

Got to keep it under an hour, got to keep it under to keep it because I want to be a good popa team six member.

Uh do you want me to run through it?

Just like really quick?

Dad?

Lost?

No, No, like run through the day.

Oh yeah, of course I can just run.

Yes, you're fine, man, huge shout out to everybody that reached out.

That will be my What are the odds this week?

But going into the day was incredible.

Jill's a nurse.

She is always prepared for the worst because she knows what the worst can be.

And we know that every single birthing experience is different, every delivery experience is different.

We've got to hear about Will's forty eight hour scenario for labor with Sweet Charles in and at four centimeters and that.

Texted me he said, we're at four cinemets right, now.

I truly I texted Will because we get Yeah, let's skip to that.

I'll skip to that point.

We we fall asleep.

We both fell asleep the very first night.

So we get in there.

I was blessed with a recliner chair, you son.

Of a bit.

I know you had a recliner.

I didn't even want to say it.

Are you even a Papa Seal?

Not if you didn't sleep on the couch.

I if you have your master's in Papa Team six, I am quite literally freshman year of my undergrad in Papa Team six.

We need to make something where you can put like the little patches.

Oh yeah, and so pap you almost know like, oh he experienced the couch.

Your vibes our general.

That's what I'm saying.

Yeah, you ain't gonna get that patch.

No, I'm a private.

I'm a I'm a buck private in Papa Team six, and I'm sending.

My skip the line.

You get a recliner.

Hey, let me let me say it's good for you.

I am happy for you that I am a little envious.

Yeah, you know a lot of dads out there right now pounding on their steering wheel.

Oh yeah, you didn't have to sleep on a couch.

I sent it to the boys in the I have a college group chat.

Shout out Mike Evans.

They'll know what that means.

But I sent that picture of the recliner.

I'm sure some of those dads in there.

Fuck.

It's almost like that's how you earn your stripes.

Oh yeah, now that was the delivery room.

I will say post delivery room.

No recliner.

Couch was terrible.

But how long were you in this post delivery room?

Oh?

A full day into the night, and then another full day to about uh seven pm.

So you slept on the couch.

Slept on the couch?

Are you lying to me?

Not lying to you?

Are you lying to me?

I'm not lying to you.

I can call Jill if I need you slept on the couch.

She might tell you that I slept too much on the couch.

Okay, she might tell you I slept too much on the couch.

But anytime we FaceTime, you look vibrant.

That's what I'm saying.

That's what I'm saying.

We had So what did somebody?

They said, somebody on here?

Yeah, Sean was like twelve hours.

Is in saying you talking about how you slept twelve hours last week.

My nine month old boy's teething right now, and we woke up six times last night.

It's all part of it.

Hope everything goes well.

Shirt Hey.

Let you know, Sean, it sounds like everything went very well for our boy, for our boys, shirm doing great.

You mentioned you got a Manny petty while you were in there.

I did.

We had, Hey, we have the Roku stick, huge, dad hack.

We brought the Roku stick in there so we are extreame smart.

It was incredible.

We got Tommy Boy rolling on the TV Jill and never seen Tommy Boy.

Shout out Tommy Boy.

Nice.

But Jill's overall note was I want you to have fun and keep the mood light going into labor.

That is my only assignment to you, Sherman is I want to keep it light.

And I don't know if people that follow me on Twitter Instagram saw that college football hype video style I put it to scrilla.

Oh buddy, it was awesome.

I loved watching it, made that hype video.

I didn't show it to her right before delivery, as I'm sure people that we're reading it and this fucking my question I have is Uh, was she the one filming you?

She wanted to Yeah, she wanted to film me.

Okay, so that shot.

When you when you're sitting there in your headphones and going on im like laughing to myself, thinking are they hit the hostle right now?

And Jilli Bean you mind you might just hit a little record for me As I just kind of sit with my headphones on.

There's four people in the waiting room watching it go down too, and they're probably looking at us like these fucking idiots they.

Probay just a quick time out.

Are your people hearing this?

I would assume they hear the rain, but not to the degree that would be like it's loud right now?

It is right now?

It is, But even with the AC that was like running in the back.

Oh, it just got even louder.

I know, I know.

We might want to wait for it to die down just a little bit, or we can press on take five.

We can take five, but we gotta keep it under an hour.

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All Right, we're back.

Sorry for the quick interruption.

It was as a dad would say, it was raining cats and dogs outside, it's raining cats and dogs, and say, you see, I got some I got some rain on me right now.

But we had to adapt.

We had to improvise.

We had to overcome as is parenting.

Yes, welcome to for the dad's new studio.

Yeah, yeah, we had to.

We had to just get on the bus because it helps with the sound.

Is the rain was getting so loud.

I don't know if you guys were hearing it in your audio, but it gets so loud.

At Term's voice gets a little bit more faint.

So we had to make a pivot.

We had to make a call because we got to keep this under ant.

We gotta keep it on.

I got to keep it under an hour.

I told Jill two thirty.

It's one forty three.

Yeah, we'll keep it.

We'll keep it under an hour, and you know it.

I don't want to talk hypotheticals, talk hypothetical Uddie.

I love you.

I'm gonna make it to that.

But if you're home at two thirty seven.

That's fine.

It's a dad loss, dad loss.

Good for the show, great for the show.

But we had to make a change.

So we're we're in a different studio right now.

We're on the bus with the boys studio.

I appreciate you doing am make sure you subscribe, but sometimes you gotta you gotta adapt on the the environment, the elements to you.

Yeah, we got some elements.

Sometimes you're gonna want to be at a pool thinking you're gonna be at the pool for about four hours, and it's gonna cut short and go to two because someone's losing their mind.

I'm talking to you, Rue, but uh, carry on with carry on with your story.

I kind of forgot where we were, but I did have a what are the odds?

Oh you, I had what are the odds?

I like that what are the odds?

Shout out the shout out the partner fan duel in the background.

But I had a what are the odds.

What are the odds that Jill stayed at fort Is that Mitch, it's Matt.

Yeah, we're recording.

Hey, shout out, Matt entered Matt.

What are the odds that Jill sat at four centimeters over under an hour?

What are the odds that you had an incredibly smooth delivery, one that a lot of parents would be.

Jel one that people legitimately would get angry about, like when I facetimed you yesterday and you were checking in on the FAM and yeah, how to go blah blah blah, Like a part of me, it hurt a part of me to tell you how our experience went, because it was so good.

It was just what everybody wants.

Which is what everybody if you have.

An experience like I'm thinking like mine, like who knows how it's gonna go in there?

Then you're out great.

Everything was if anything, As a dad, I don't want to tell Charle how smooth it went, yeah, because she's gonna be off, just kidding, she's gonna no, no, no, But truly, I mean for some of these moms and stuff, like they get there too late, they don't get there epidural what everybody.

Everybody hopes for the delivery you're about to tell us about.

Of course, and Jill, I mean, it absolutely kills it.

My one of my favorite moments I'll never forget is we uh both fall sleep, Jill though it's like sleeping in our intervals or like an hour thirty interval, but because nurse is coming in and checking her because they gave her the induction in the mouth and I forget the name of that pill.

But that's not the potosin.

That's not the it's the one before potosinin, pre potosin pill.

So they give her pre potosent pill.

It did it didn't really do anything.

So during the middle of the night while I'm snooze on recliner being dead of the year, they.

Sweet know I just edited up this video.

You did a great job in the past.

I would just literally what I did.

You go over there, I'm in the recliner doing this.

I'm going like this here in the bed, I'm holding her hand like truly was so comfy, dude, It's kind of insane how well it is.

Yes, this is me and a recliner with Jill.

Brought these like silk pillows and I have a Barefoot Dreams blanket.

Like I'll tell you what you hat.

Like your survival kid was ready to.

Go because of jillybe I mean, Jill was so freaking dial dude.

And when we have more time, I want to do a full survival kit breakdown to everybody, because it looked like we're going on a two week vacation with those bags that we were bringing in worth we used every single thing we brought, and I swear to god we did because the luggage, it may look like that was all closed.

It was really like a ton of gear burp cloths, diapers.

Uh was it called a premie diaper?

Because uh Scarlet was tiny five five pounds seven ounces when she came out five pounds seven ounces, She's smaller than a baby doll.

And so we're having to use the premi uh dipe's and all this stuff.

But we'll we'll do that another time, and like that could even be a great like if Jill wanted to do a call in or something.

We need to have the wives, Yeah it's gonna happen.

Yeah, Jill's survival kit was not so dude, and so like we really were set up for the absolute worst.

That thank god never happened.

And so my favorite moment was waking up at like six am, and it was truly like the scene and Saving Private Ryan where he loses his hearing on the beach and that guy's and says, what do we do now?

Sir.

Jill's like over me.

Netflix says are you still watching blah blah blah like on the screen, and she's like, honey, I'm contracting, yeah, yeah, yeah, and I get out of the recliner.

She's doing the So what unbeknownst to me in the middle of the night, that thing that they put in her mouth.

They then did it in the downstairs later that night to see how that would go.

Well, she went from two.

She showed up two centimeters dilated and for the dad's at home, that's just the cervix, which is kind of the gate that the baby has to go through to enter into the opening where the baby's gonna come out.

So she shows up at a two.

That little thing that they inserted got her to a four.

Nurse comes in checks her, she's at four centimeters.

In my head, I go, oh bub because we have a family friend that said at four centimeters as well.

For a long time.

Not as long as Charro, but a long time.

So I hear four centimeters, I think of you, and I think of our family friend.

I text you and I say we're at four centimeters.

And in my head it's like, we're at four centimeters.

We're at four centimeters.

I'm just like, oh no, that likes.

Old trigger number.

Oh please, please please.

So then they hit her with the potosin.

We go about three or four hours.

All of a sudden, Jill is like, I really feel pressure, like Sherman, I feel pressure and it feels like I need to poop.

And they say that if you feel like you need to poop, you're gonna have your baby.

And so she tells nurse it's only been three hours since the potosin.

So nurse is kind of like, we'll get the midwives in here in a little bit, Well them check you.

And then she kind of stopped and she looked at Jill and she was like, how much pressure?

And Jill was like a lot of pressure.

Well, she gets her flashlight out, goes underneath the hood, goes, we'll get the midwives.

Midwives come in, they go fully dilated.

She went from four to ten in three hours.

Oh, my four to ten centimeters in three hours.

The white walkers were at the wall, at the.

Wall, and this walker on the wall was having to get in the one.

In that moment, it was like everything stops.

And thankfully Jill had kind of like trained me and put me through the ringer to know what to expect.

So why you have your coffee?

No, didn't have coffee the entire time I was there.

But the one thing that I forgot to say, dude, is Jill was like, I want to feel some of the contractions before I get the epidural.

But Sherman, it's your job make sure that I get on that epidural.

I don't want to miss it.

Blah blah blah.

When she was sitting at four and like contracting really hard, like before they came in to say she was at ten, She's like, I don't know, sh I gelln the epidural.

Sh I'm like in my head like Rocky too or Rocky four, throwing the damn towel, Like I'm sitting there going take the epidural right now?

Why are we waiting?

She's like, I want to finish my yogurt because I can't eat after I have epidura.

I got the yogurt.

I'm force feeding your yogurt.

I'm like, finish this freaking yogurt.

Because you like girl, you gotta get the epidural.

We get the epidural.

They come in, She's at a ten.

We gotta start pushing.

Right before we're about to push, they're like, hey, we don't have an o R room open for Jill in case things go south, so we have to suspend pushing as long as we can Jill until an our room, an operating room opens up in case things go south.

In the meantime, would you want anesthesiologists to come in and give you another hit because it seems like you have a lot of discomfort.

Jill was like, yes, that was the biggest blessing in disguise.

They came in, dude and mainlined some stuff into Jill, and Jill gives me that look.

After fifteen minutes of getting mainlined with whatever they put in that cocktail, she's like, I'm ready to push.

I feel good, like I'm ready to go.

And they came in.

They tell her, Hey, you're gonna do three pushes per round.

It looks like this dad, you're gonna hold feet the other nurse is gonna hold the other foot.

You're holding feet, so you're south of the wall.

I was a watcher on the wall I had.

I was able to see south of the wall where the white Walkers were coming, and I was or sorry, north of the wall where the white Walkers are coming and south of the wall.

So I was able to see both concentrating on Jill but also like interested in seeing what's going on down there, because midwife was like, Dad, if you want to look, baby's head is literally right there.

That was before we even started pushing.

It's because little Scarlet is so small, dude.

She just positioned well.

Positioned well, she knew her role.

She was like, I'm ready, We're doing this right now.

I do.

I've never been more proud of Jill.

Jill was such a gangster dude, like such a stud.

During the pushing, she did four rounds of three pushes, and each time, like on the third push, I'd be like, there's not a shot in hell, She's gonna give it what she did the first two, the third one would always be the strongest.

Scarlet would move the most.

On the third one.

You would hear the midwives go good, there it is there, it is And I'm sitting there and I'm like, Jill's a beast, dude.

She just covered in sweat and each time just taking the biggest breast and just bearing down.

I was like, God, I'm so proud of her, Like she's freaking killing it.

And then on the fourth round of pushes, Scarlet came out.

On the third round, Midwife looks at her right before we start the fourth pushes and looks at Jill and goes, hey, it's a really cool moment for moms that i can get her out very easily.

I'm not worried.

I'm gonna get her to her torso and you can reach down and physically pull her up if you want to do that.

Are you interested in that?

Jill?

And Jill was like, yeah, I want to do that.

She was like, okay, when I tell you you reach it out, you'll grab her and you just bring her to your chest.

And on that third push they got Scarlet out to her torso.

She was holding her umbilical cord like Batman doing his you know, little gun, and she comes out like this, and Jill just reached down there and grabs Scarlet and brought her to her chest.

It was unreal, dude, that is incredible.

I'm looking at my wife like, who are you?

Like, that's so sick.

Isn't it wild seeing your wife go through that.

Yes, And I told her like beforehand, I don't know because I don't know childbirth, but I'm like, if there's anybody that can do it, it's you.

Like, she's such a pusher, she's such a grinder, Like, yeah, she just has that mentality, but she also has a lot of fearfulness and anxiety.

Yeah, and beforehand, I was like, if anybody's got it, it's you.

You're going to destroy this.

And then to see her go out on the field and perform like you think she's going to make a coach proud, Make a coach proud, dude, and then that moment was scarlet.

Man.

I can send you some picture, chef, if you want to put on the episode.

Dude, I'm water works obviously.

Y'all saw me last week.

Dude.

It was amazing.

It was amazing.

That's incredible, bro.

And yeah, and I hope that on like everybody that has a delivery coming up, expecting fathers and stuff.

You wish that on everybody.

But we were blessed enough to have that and it was awesome.

Any any lapses on your part, any any dad losses?

I did.

I actually have a dad loss, but it's a it's a motherfucked this week?

Do you have a dad loss?

I do have a dad loss.

Do you want to go first?

I can do my mother from.

Yeah, so my dad loss this week is going to go to a dad loss that I took losing I lost control of myself, losing control of Rue.

Oh no.

Yeah.

So we got back from our fourth of July, from our fourth of July weekend.

We got back on Saturday, and we went to the pool on Sunday, and we were expecting to be we got there early, so that way we had a good, good little spot, good little setup, and we're gonna enjoy a little pool day and we're hoping to be there probably around four hours.

And it got cut short two two and a half hours because Rue ended up losing her mind throwing a tantrum and it was one of those ones where she was throwing a tantrum and it was like all right.

We told like, I told her, I'm like, hey, if you don't stop doing this, I'm gonna have to take you somewhere else.

We're gonna have to leave the pool and walk somewhere until you can calm down.

Because she wanted it.

She was very particular.

It's like you have a three year old and their brains, they're just their vocabulary is growing.

They're they're understanding a lot more, but they're also limited in how they can like verbally communicate.

So they're just dealing with big emotions on how to communicate perfectly.

Because she's very particular.

Yeah, and we were like playing this game in the pool where you know, she had this crab and she wanted to either drop the crab down underwater and go down and get it by herself, but she couldn't do it by herself.

So I'm like, do you want that to help?

You know?

I can do it by myself.

And I'm like, okay, do by myself.

No, No, I can't.

I can't.

And so you're just caught in this argument of like what do you want?

Yeah, like notebook, what do you want?

Real?

Yeah, what do you want?

Rue?

Like you have to you're telling me you don't want help, But I'm like, okay, you go ahead and do it.

I can't.

I can't do it by myself.

Okay, well then you need me.

What do you need me to do?

And we're kind of caughting this back and forth, so I pigure out, my we're gonna have to get out of the pool, go and remove it from the situation, remove it from the environment.

She's having a tantrum.

You can't communicate well when they're having a tantrum, so you're just trying to You're just trying to like be their form so that way they can calm down.

You're getting there to the sideline, You're you're showing their tape.

Yeah, and these tantrums, Bro, I'm talking fucking insane.

It's like I have to.

I hate to be like the dead law you'll see one day.

But it's like, Bro, they're like shaking their they're stiffening their bodies up, like you try to try to pick them up.

And I'm trying to like hug her and trying to force hug her and let her know to come down, and she's just like full stiff, like streaming.

Yeah, She's like I want mama, I want mama.

And I'm like, I'll take you to mama if you can just calm down just a little bit, go over to Mama, because you know they're they're out, We're like we're in public, so you feel like you're getting the looks.

You feel like you're getting all these things.

Yeah, I'm probably my own head about it a little bit.

I'll take you back over to Mama when you can calm down.

And she's fucking screaming, like, Mama, see Mama, see Mama like this that the other room.

You have to calm down, like she wants to see.

You're gonna work yourself up.

You're gonna it's it's gonna hurt.

You're trying to like say all these things to her, try to get her to calm down.

And I'm standing there and she's just like sitting down in the corner and she continues to scream, and I just fucking I lost it.

I lost it.

There's like like a demonic part of my soul started to fill up.

I was getting so angry inside, and I was trying to stay calm.

I was trying to stay collected.

I saw that NCA Impact player at Nebraska.

Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, And I was like me, wasn't they just see my face?

They probably know what I'm talking about too, And I just reached down there.

It's like it's like I'm sitting there, I'm thinking about all the times my dad would just spank me, and I'm thinking I'm not gonna spank her, and I just I just grab her.

I'm like, crow, hey, I'm gonna, I'm gonna we're gonna go to Mama.

We are gonna go to mom right now.

And she's like looking away.

I'm like look at me, and she's like looking away, and I grab her by the face and look over.

I'm like, look at me.

Take you to mom.

But you better stop right now because this is bullshit.

And she's you know, she's I have her face grab looking at me, and she's trying to like calm down because she's like hyperventilation.

Yeah.

Yeah, so she's not really making noise anymore.

She's just kind of like breathing, and I like take her.

She's got her goggles on, her little rainbow goggles, and I like rip her rainbow goggles off, and you like you just like grab them and pick them up and you're like whipping them around on your body.

You're like, I'm gonna take you to mom, but you are going to calm down as I walk over here.

You're not hurting her, but you're also showing her, Hey, dad has got some strength.

Yeah you want to play with Yeah.

Yeah.

It got to a point that where like, all right, we're stop this whole.

I'm gonna be calm and we're gonna play.

I'm gonna be nice and be this parent that you're just gonna stay poised and you're gonna just sit there with them and be there with them.

No, that that turned off.

My heart turned black.

That's I so far, this kind of sounds like a win.

I know the part where you feel like it's a dad loss is you feel better about it when you're driving homework.

I'm like thinking about it all day because I got down there, I got on her level and I grabbed her face and I like, I like put it over the mind.

I'm like, look at me, you were going to stop this ship right now.

It picked her up, like you know, like grabbed her goggles, ripped it off her head, and I'm like marching over over to my wife and I can just hear her hyperventilation, her like little breast.

And that's what makes me feel bad is I'm like, I'm sure I shocked her in the moment, which it's like she needed that.

In my hi brain, I'm like, hey, she did, That's what the moment calls for.

That's what you had to do.

I had to stop the bleeding.

I walk over there and I just like kind of toss her kind of like toss her down on the chair.

Here's your daughter.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, she wants you, she wants you.

I can't do this right now.

I like go and take a walk.

And we have to leave because she like she works herself back up again, and we're just like hey, oh really, We're like, hey, we're leaving.

We're not doing this.

We're not doing She's got to know that she cannot act this way, she cannot behave this way.

We are leaving.

Yeah, And so we end up going home and everything else.

And I was so upset.

We were both Charles and I both we were both upset.

We both did a little bit of yelling you're just disappointing.

Y'all, or her at her, like we're.

Getting in and she still like worked up.

Charles snaps at her.

So Charles on your side in this moment, yeah, because she's she's well, oh yeah, but of how you hand Oh yeah, yeah.

She didn't like, she didn't mind it.

She didn't mind high.

I know.

We talked later and we were kind of like laughing about it, and I was like, Okay, I gotta tell you, like I went down, I got on her level and I grabbed her by the face and like jerked it over to mine.

Oh yeah, And it's like you wanna I wanted to.

I wanted to tattoo or ask.

Bro oh yeah, And I dude, I've I think you did a great job in that moment of expressing.

It's like those tiktoks of like the parents that tried to exhibit that, Like, I know you're feeling bad right now, but how can I help you in this situation as you're having a tantrum.

Yeah I can't do that.

Yeah, No, you're right called for it.

Yeah, it called for it.

It's just like it's like you're thinking about it the rest of the day because when I'm reacting, I'm not doing it is like predetermined this is the right move to do.

I'm like, I'm like losing my I'm like losing all my emotion to where I'm like physically like grabbing her and jerking around and turning her face, ripping her goggles off, and I'm like thinking on, I'm just like thinking back to mind.

I'm like, man, I lost full composure because I was fucking pissed off.

I know that's gonna happen.

But that's like my dad, because it's funny because you're little your little boy, your little girl, whatever it is.

They're like the only being in the world where you can be so fucking mad.

I'm talking so fucking mad to where you stay mad at him like I wasn't cool with Rue for a good couple hours, yeah, or a good hour to where it's like, hey, no, if you want to apologize to us, you're not gonna do it sitting on the couch over there and just say I'm sorry, I'm sorry for acting that way.

No, you're gonna walk over to me and you're gonna look at me.

You told her that, Yeah, yeah, yeah, you're gonna say sorry to me, and you're also gonna walk over and you're gonna look at your mom and you're gonna say sorry to mom.

And how you're gonna give us both of She did good, she did it, and it's like it's and then later on I had to get a sweat in charl and knew I kind of needed a moment.

She's like, Hey, I'm gonna go take a ridge at the grocery store.

Yeah, you do whatever you gotta do.

So I kind of had an hour to like decompress and everything else.

And what I was gonna say is, like this little human they're the only one.

They're the only beings in the world that you can be so fucking mad at.

But the minute she gets home and I'm upstairs and I hear from downstairs like that that were are you dad?

Dad?

Dad?

Dad?

Look come come yuke at this, come yuke at this, And you like have a smile on your face because you're like excited to see them again, and you're just like, well, their brains just move on because they're dealing with so you know, they're dealing with all their big emotions, and I'm kind of you know, you're kind of you kind of go from all the way at one hundred to where it's just completely gone when they come home and like, dad, that come yuke, come yuk, that the were are you?

You're sweetheart?

It's good to see you.

Don't stand a chance.

A good way, yeah, a good way.

I chalked it up as his dad lost.

Now talking through and talking to you, now, you've made me feel better about what my decisions and actions were good.

But I just felt like it got to that moment to where all this this what do you need from me bullshit was out the fucking door.

Yeah, hard had to turn black.

Papacile had to go in full effect in the trenches.

One hundred percent, dude.

And like for my dad, I feel like I had a very healthy dose of discipline with my brother.

And I have a older brother of a four year shout out to Jordan, very healthy discipline.

It was never too much or anything like that healthy relationship with dad growing up.

But all Mom had to say sometimes was you wait till your dad gets home from work.

Yeah, and bro, that's.

All I had.

That was that was my kind of I mean, he would dan my ass.

Bro.

Oh yeah, he got to the point where that's all she had to do.

I'm up in my room bawling, and then I hear the garage door open.

I'm cooked.

Yeah, what the hell was I think?

And so like I think, not that you like showed force, but like you you showed her that.

Hey, if you get to a level like dad as it might be your favorite person, but he is not cool with that kind of behavior.

Yeah.

I strongly believe it's like, uh, yeah, they have to they have to understand there's gonna be consequences.

Yeah.

I think everybody agrees with that.

And she never got We're not gonna sit here at the pool.

We're not gonna stay until this is all kumbay and then you're gonna go back in the pool.

We're gonna have fun.

Because then, to me, in my brain, I'm thinking we're just enabling a hundred behavior was until you got what you wanted?

Yeah, because once you started to working back in Like Charna, we were both wanting a pool day, Like I'm wanting to sit out there and catch some rays.

I'm honestly pissed that we're having to leave, but I'm like, we have to leave because she has to know that this ship is not all right.

Yeah, because Scotty was being great and again, the vibes were good, and man, we wanted a good pool day.

That's the dad loss in it all.

Yeah, it's just like the dad loss.

Losing out on a good pool day.

Yeah, that's the dad loss.

That's the dad loss.

That's the dad loss.

You need a good pool day.

Yeah, and I love that, Like she didn't get what she wanted in the moment, Slash didn't get the residuals of that moment because she's getting to the age where she realizes Mama's and Dada has wanted to be at the pool too.

And I'm guessing family friends were there, right, was this?

No, it was just us.

This was back in the Nashville and sorry went on Sunday morning.

Okay, cool, but I mean still a fun time.

She knows mama's and dad does want to have a fun time at the pool too.

No talking this out.

You're right, You're right.

The loss was not having a full pool day for the fans.

Okay, good?

Was the parents not having a pool day?

Good?

Because you're right, Yeah, as you were going through that, guys, like I was waiting for like the spanking or whatever.

And when it never like you feel.

It's more like you know you you beat yourself up when you fucking like I like lost myself, you know what I mean?

Yes, even though it's like talking through it, like hey, that's what the moment I need it or that's how I'm just fighting my head.

Yeah, could be right, could be wrong.

Whatever.

It's like, I'm thinking back, like I lost full composure of myself because I got so fucking.

And I know, I know that I'm speaking way out of turn.

We just said I'm a buck private for Papa Team six.

But I know for a fact that Papa Team six doesn't sitting that helicopter with a little airhorn calling down going hey you better stop that, don't do that.

That helicopter's laying ropes are coming down.

We're we're descending, and we're getting in the ship.

We're getting in the firefight.

If you're Papa Team six.

Yeah, this is a moment where you want to do it.

I want to do waterboard.

That's okay, that's okay.

Hey you might think thinking about it.

What was we gotta keep this?

Yeah, okay, my motherfucked is actually really quick this week, which which will help left Scarlet this morning unattended for five seconds on the change on the changing table and what you have to do?

What was the was I was changing her and uh I didn't have the right diapers.

We have the newborn diapers, and like we talked about earlier, Scarlet is quite literally the size of a peanut.

So we're having to use premium diapers right now, or else you're having to use the actual newborn diapers and you're rolling those suckers over like three times.

Yeah, just to get it to where like it's fitting on her.

So I go, oh, the premis are on the kitchen counter, and her nursery is right there.

I mean I could get there in uh eight steps, Max, So I'm like, oh, go grab it, just not even thinking like she's on the changing table.

It's the you know, shaped like U shaped.

It would take a lot for her to roll off.

In my dad brain, I'm like, hey, she's a good Yeah, I got I gotta get to work.

I gotta get your change.

And so I left the room and Jill goes, what do you need?

I go, I need the premium.

And then she sees that I have no baby in hand.

She goes where is she?

And I go, she's She's on the changing table, full sprint, full sprint, and like we have hardwood floors.

I mean it sounded like, uh the Mama bear was charging and she held back on me.

I thank her for holding back on me.

I did when Cheff.

Tell me you didn't say, sweetheart, they can't roll it.

Oh no, oh, you gotta ip it up.

I knew I fucked up real quick, because.

That's a pure That's just a motherfucked moment with the wife, wouldn't It's like, you know, you went and you grab the debt, you grab the Premi diapers.

Yeah, they're really not going to go anywhere.

It's a few seconds, but we're not gonna say that.

But effect, if you're listening right now, Jilly Bean, you do not here a say no, baby's not going nowhere in five seconds.

No.

And also, if Jill and Charlo had their own podcast, that's like Jill's dad loss.

Essentially, it's like, what the fuck was Sherman thinking?

Like why did you think that was okay?

Which I understand that now.

I understand that now.

And Chef heard me on a phone call with Jill before we started recording.

You heard a lot of yes ma'ams in that phone conversation.

I'm sure a lot of yes ma'ams.

Yeah, you gotta be dials right now.

I'm a little bit I'm not in the doghouse, but let's just keep this thing under it.

Now.

These are moments you're just gonna have to take in and accept and absorb.

Yeah, whether right, wrong, indifferent.

Oh yeah, did not fight her, honey.

I am so sorry, honey, I really am so sorry.

What I also didn't know?

This is kind of a dad loss too.

I do have a dad loss.

I have been waking up at the feeding time.

So I had a two thirty feeding time, a five thirty feeding time last night.

Yeah, I woke up at the feeding times unbeknownst to Jill.

So I really wasn't feeding her until like three, three thirty six, six thirties.

You gotta get the ball, you gotta get it ready.

Yes, and get her change and stuff like piss her off before you feed her.

So then she's like awake and you know, ready to feed.

And so Jill realized that this morning because I had a seven o'clock feeding time and she walks in there and it's you know, like seven forty five eight, and she's like, are you just out feeding her?

I was like, yeah, like so proud, so proud, so proud in that moment, Yes, honey, I'm feeding her.

And she Honnie, she's taking it down.

She already got one ounce down, She's only got another ounce to go, and she I could tell, and just so much rage in her mind.

She did a great job of just in that moment, stopping and communicating.

You need to be waking up at least forty five minutes before though, what are you five?

Oh yeah, thirty to forty five minutes before the feeding time because she needs to be changed and in mouth by feeding time, because, like y'all know, it takes me a while to get out of bed.

So forty five minutes she's gone loses, she's going off Sherman's hime.

Yeah, she was like, that bottle needs to be in mouth at feeding time.

This is where you harness for the dads out there listening, you harness these motherfucked moments.

Yeah, and these are nice little conversations in chemistry builders with your little one.

Yeah, hey, Mama didn't like that I left you for five seconds.

We're gonna keep the secret between us that you're gonna be okay.

I know you know that, I know I know that you're not rolling.

Yeah, she's doing a great job.

She just went through a lot.

There's a lot going on that she can't control.

We're just gonna keep this between us.

I knew you were good.

You knew I was good.

You knew I was gonna be back quick and five ten seconds.

Hey, those those twenty different babies that came into her hospital when she was a nurse.

Yeah, bad skull fractures because this exact thing happened.

I know you're not gonna be I know you're not gonna get a skull frac Come on.

And she just tell me that calmly, yeah, very sweetly, honey.

I have seen over ten cases of this myself.

You cannot do that, Okay, Yes, ma'am, I'm so sorry.

I didn't handle it great.

Yeah, you handled it great.

And what stunked you?

It?

Can't it?

Can?

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Jill has got me fully dialed on uh feeding, Like, I feel good, dude, And I know it's a day to day thing.

People are probably listening.

They're going Sherman thinks he's got it all figured out, but like, I gotta find the wins where I can find him.

And I was so freaking nervous and scared about dipey changes feeding and stuff, and Jill has me like a well oiled machine.

I'm just going off her playbook.

Yeah, and I.

Love the old The feeding techniques are named after football terminology.

You have football through points of contact, you have sideline.

Yeah, I'm like I can roll with this.

Yeah.

I was like, I'm gonna go with football.

I'll do football.

And they're like, all you gotta do is piss her off, change her her her tires, her diapers, get her pissed, turn all the lights on, wake their ass up, take the onesie off, let them sit there a little bit on the change of tail, let them get cold.

Yeah, they start doing the.

Yeah, they're trying to spas.

And then as soon as I see that mouth got I get her in football and bottle in mouth, dude, and she's got a really good suck.

Even the nurses were like, weird terminology.

But the nurses are.

Like, yo, you gotta you gotta you gott an eater.

I got an eater, Dude.

She is a peanut.

But boy, she likes foodies.

That's good.

It's good.

Like you're saying, it'll change, and you gotta find the wins where you can find them.

But it's better to be absolutely dialed every step of the way.

So that way when you get a little off track, or something happens, or something changes, or she starts to get a little pissed off, or adversity's gonna strike.

Yeah, yeah, you're gonna be so dialed in on step one that hey, you'll be ready to learn step two.

Yes, you'll be ready to roll with the punches.

We'll be ready to roll with the punches.

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Yeah, my krak of coal, one's gonna go to speaking of cracking a cold one and drinking a lot of bud Lights and some neutrals.

The Fourth of July party.

I think there is a moment where we're all sitting around and I made the comment like this, Uh, the party now looks a lot different than it did a few years ago, because a few years ago, it's like you're not married.

Maybe somebody has a young kid or like a newborn or something, but other that, some of the friends that we have, it's like their kids are like in high school and we're all these not married men, still boys, like introducing our wives or girlfriends or whatever it is.

And now years later we're sitting there and I'm looking around and you got one of the boys that were in high school, he's graduated high school.

I got two kids of my own.

My best friend Nick and Chuck, they got two kids of their own.

Like we have all these little kids.

We have all these babies.

Adam Fodle Shout out the boy Adam, who is our you know, host at the Saint Louis Cardinals.

Oh yeah, he's up.

He's he's with the Cardinals.

But he's got four kids in his like eight or nine year old McKinley.

She's helping out.

You got people like Scotty's sleeping on Caitlin, my brother's girlfriend.

It's more of like this tribal mentality.

We're having this party, and I'm sitting around looking at and mentioning the Kenny and to everybody, like how different this party looks now that we all have families and we all have kids.

Because there's a water slide up now, Like the annual cornhole party still happen at Kenny's house.

Shout out the boy Kenny Farcas.

But we go to his spot.

He's got a spot, dude, Yeah, he's got a great sup.

He's got a garage.

Or you can have the cornhole tournament out there in the gravel.

We got the backyards up to where there's tents because we've learned how hot it gets every year.

You need more tents.

There's ten yeah, tailgate tents.

There's big fans because you know there's gonna be kiddos and little children because you're wanting, you know, the parents to stick around as long as we can until it's bedtime.

And uh, it's just one of those moments to where you just crack a cold one to the moment because you're looking around and you see all your friends to where there's new families, there's of ours that has their kids and they're graduating.

There later in high school, you got some kids that are helping out with the other kids.

Everybody's kind of letting and helping hand knowing that everybody's got kids now and you're kind of just sitting there with your boys that you grew up with that you're having all these whether it's barbecues or whatever, to celebrate us graduating high school, us going off to college, us graduating college, and now we're at the point to where we're all sitting there with our families.

And even though it only happens once a year, it's like you're cherishing those moments because you don't know how many times you get to see all your friends and all your close ones, like in the same spot with each other, with the kiddos around the same age, and they're making friends and you hope it continues to be something where we get with each other more than just once a year.

Yeah, so you just know, like, hey, we're going back to Missouri or we're gonna have them forour the July party, and she knows she's gonna go back and see Hudson, Grady, Chip, all of them do to you.

I think this will make that even better for you.

Not to make about myself, but I grew up with a very similar situation.

Shout out Possum Kingdom Lake for all the eight one seven ers and two one fours in the DFW area.

We'd go to the same lake house.

I would see my two favorite or like same favorite friends, Natalie and Emily.

We'd stay at their lake house.

And Dude, I'm telling you, Fourth of July is my favorite holiday because of that.

But I mean we did it for like almost ten years straight, and so Rue, yeah, Ru and Scotty are going to appreciate that.

Like a tradition to just look forward to even Yes, do you get the ones a year to get around?

Yes to everybody that's.

Gonna be in a ton to them when they get older.

Yeah, But Craig of cole one to those moments yeah, Cole, one of those moments, man, because we're all we're all grown, we're all in the parenthood, we're all on Papa Team six together we are.

Do you mind not to put Jill on the spot, but do you mind if I call her and see if I can't get ten x ten extra minute?

Go ahead?

Oka ahead, okay, Papa Team.

This is an example when you are up against the clock and we've all been there, We've all been there with our boys, and you know the time is gonna get probably get pushed a little bit, and you're trying to do some damage control.

So postpartum mother, few days postpartum.

Sureman is making the call right now.

He's dropping in with some night vision.

Hey hey, honey, how did the chairs go?

Oh?

I don't know I have come yet.

Oh okay, So I'm calling on the podcast because I'm looking at the clock right now.

It's two twenty.

You got it.

I just I just wanted to confirm what time did you want me hume by two thirty?

Is there any way that that could be closer to two forty five two fifty if we're almost done?

Yes, I let's do five.

It's to forty five okay, Yes, we're just gonna I I.

Just want to have extra time because it's raining and it's our first appointment, so I just.

Don't really know where to go, and we're gonna have to sign paper.

So absolutely right, she's right, She's right, Absolute Max.

Two forty five.

I love you, Thank you.

Will wants to say hi really quick.

You're a saint, Jilly Bean, You're a saint.

You are a saint, and we love you so much and we are so happy you're doing well.

Thank you guy.

You will so whatever.

You need to.

Oh, Jillie, you are the best.

Thank you, sweetheart.

We love you.

You are my priority and I love you so much and I cannot wait to see you.

Okay, all right, two forty five, Love you.

Papa Seal.

Mission accomplished, Mission accomplished.

Oh all right, we gotta lock in.

We gotta gotta lock in, gotta lock in.

Survival kit, survival kit, My survival Kit edition will be go to music in a long car ride, so prefaces.

We drove back to Missouri on Thursday morning.

On Wednesday, our ac upstairs went out.

Both kiddles were getting over sicknesses.

Good you gotta be dialed in.

Good were we were in the trenches.

I had to get an HVAC guy over.

Shout out the boy, Robbie.

They fixed the problem we needed, like some compressor or some new part that broke or whatever it was.

But the upstairs was sitting in ninety degrees and it was blowing out hot air.

Bro.

Thankfully, the first floor was good.

So the kids are napping on the first floor.

But all to say, like your kind of backs up against the wall.

We're about to travel again.

Long car ride to Missouri about a five hour drive.

Recently we went to Florida and that's like an eight hour eight nine hour drive.

Yeah, both both of them they're in back.

Was absolute hell.

And all I'm thinking of, hell, hell, bro.

And so you're going into this five hour car ride and you're just hoping for the best.

Yeah, I shit you not.

It was one of those situations to where I would conservatively, conservatively say at least three and a half hours of that five hour drive.

One of them were screaming.

One of them was screaming.

Oh, it was mostly Scotty, and it was bumming me out because she's our little seven month going on eight months old.

Yeah, she's the best, dude.

And it's like she's starting to get a little more wiggly, she's starting to not want to be confined to the car seat.

And she was just blaring bro and Charles's back there.

God bless her.

She's showing a rocker and singing to her and do all the things because you're not wanting to take him out of the car seat, like that's a bad thing.

Yeah.

Yeah, And she's like shaking a couple of hard extra times and I'm up there.

She's like, Scotty, come on, come on, like I'm right here.

I'm right here because she's a big mama's girl right now.

Yeah.

And I'm singing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, just on repeat up while I'm driving, and I'm doing the trying to create white noise.

We're playing white noise.

We probably get them both down for an hour, but it was it was hell man, because it gets so loud.

Rue is doing a great job trying to be patient.

She starts off really rocky.

We're like, dude, we can't do this.

Yes, it's a long drive.

She's like, I don't want long drives.

Why is this so hard?

And she heard phrases right now is why is this so hard and I can't do it.

And it's like you're sitting there like it's only as hard as you make it.

Rue, you start to get worked up and you're trying to like talk them down, Like, dude, we're locked in the car.

You think, Dad, I wants to be locked in the car.

You think I want to drive five hours locked in four doors with you guys screaming.

No, Dada doesn't want that.

But is Dada crying?

Is that isn't?

How hard is this?

No?

You got to.

Embrace the hard room.

You have to embrace the suck.

We're in the.

Sock let your heart turned black?

Yeah?

What can we what can we look at out the window?

Can we start trying to guess letters?

What's on this side, what's on that?

What's on that side?

You want us to do a song?

I can't do it.

I can't with this kid.

I can't with this kid right now.

She ends up getting calm, and then Scottie is pissed about being in.

The car seat and you can't.

Then it gets the word.

Ru's like you're yelling hurts my ears, It hurts me.

I'm like, Rue, sweetheart, that's not helping her.

She's a baby.

She doesn't know you did this when you were little.

Mama and Dadda had to sit through.

You gotta just no, I get your calmer down, and no, stop it hurts my ears.

Well if you're yelling, it's gonna hurt her ears too.

It's hurting my ears.

You're just going back.

God help help God, help us all dude.

And finally, oh my god, the white noise helped and knock them both out for an hour because we're telling her, sweetheart, just fall asleep.

You said you're tired, Like, just just close your eyes.

Ye can't.

Why is this so hard?

Dude?

Stop with that ship man.

But she ends up falling asleep.

We get up.

They're both out for an hour, but the last probably forty five minutes home, Scotty's upset, but rue.

This is where the Survival Kid go to music in a lone car ride.

She ends up talking like I want the word song, I want like the faun.

It was the phonic song, the phonic song by Gracie's Corner.

Ooh, and she just like goes to the alphabet at at a dance for Apple at Apple.

I don't know it's this phonic song that we just played on repeat because you get to where you might have a rollodex of songs, but the only way we want to listen to one song over and over and over.

And it was phonic song by Gracie's Corner, nice little catchy, kind of hip hopish song to where you can kind of dance a little bit where doesn't want you to sing the words help dad, that you don't have to say the words I got you sweetheart.

It's just catchy.

I want to sing it.

No, I don't want you to sing it because she's trying to memorize the song.

I've been oh, hey, shout out that video that you sent me of her memorizing the book.

That was crazy bro about that.

So grou can memorize her books.

And kids have a very good memory when they're around that age, and it's weird like situations that they can recall, whether it's a year ago or an old memory, whatever it is, and you're kind of just surprised by them being able to remember that.

Remember that she does better with names, like remembering people's names better than I do.

Yeah, And she can memorize these books, dude, And some times, you know, it's like go dog, go old hat, new hat, you know, smaller books like that.

But bro, she has this book Ziggy and the Three Pigs.

You know, the three tailor three pigs with the big bad Wolf.

Well in this in this day and age, and there's now a fourth pig.

His name is Ziggy, who doesn't live in a house at all.

He lives under the stars, and he wants to go swimming.

And he goes by his three little Fred, Ned and Ted, who have the house made of straw sticks and bricks.

Yeahs them, you want to go for a swim today?

Haven't you heard?

The big Bad Wolf is coming to town.

I would be sheltering up if I were you.

Ziggy.

No, I don't want to stay.

I don't want to go inside.

I think I'm gonna go enjoy the water suit yourself.

Buddy, big bead Wolf comes and blows every house away, even the brick brick even the brick house because old Ned, Ted or Fred whoever, whoever lives in the brick house.

He's got a new grate that sits on top of the fireplace.

So hey, big bad Wolf, don't even think about coming down the fireplace because I fix that too, And I'm gonna uffing on PuF and I'm gonna puff and I'm gonna huf.

I'm gonna blow your house down.

House made of bricks.

They're all gone.

All the pigs are squealing.

Where do we go?

They run to the ocean where Ziggy was having a swim that day he was building sane castles.

Now he built a little raft out on the water.

Ziggy, hey, just swim out to the shore.

Uh, let me do the talking.

If he blew down our houses, what do you think he's gonna do to you' he us for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

He's gonna have you for a midnight snack.

Just swim out here and let me do the talking.

Big bed wolf comes out.

He's out of breath.

If you don't come off that raft, I'm gonna uffing pluff, I'm gonna huff and puff and blow you to pieces and do it.

Ziggy starts talking shit to the big bed wolf.

Hey, last night checked, I heard you.

You don't have a strong enough breath to blow out a birthday candle gets the wolf all worked up, and right when the wolf's just about to blow that raft to smithereens, Ziggy lifts the sail, the wolf blows him out to sea.

They have a pool day and they're happy that Ziggy went swimming that day.

But this book has I'm talking like eight to ten line, multiple lines, multiple lines, and Rue knows the entire book word for word.

You need to send that video to Chef and let it play out like for listeners of like viewers.

We'll play it right now to.

The Veggy stop down Ned's house.

Ned was printed grey on this.

To me, what's stop for the Reggy?

Jesseo after by wolf protective?

They will no one comes down tell me to me, you know, but display is guarantee.

Woof.

I imagine in there and.

Dangle that video when I send it to you.

Absolutely unreal because as I'm watching it, I'm like, Yo, wait is she reading?

I was like, how is she reading?

At that?

Eight?

Wait?

How old do you learn to read?

Ballad?

I can't read.

They don't know how to.

Read, because I remember you being like, she can't select music on Spotify, she doesn't know how to read, Chef, Well, you just watched it going word for word.

I'm going down the line with her, and it's word for word, dude.

She's got a nogging.

And she'll read the page and like look up when she turns and looks up at me with his biggest smile, and it just it just lights up the room.

I'm like, oh, rude, that is awesome.

That is so proud of you.

That's uh.

That takes a lot of focus and effor and hard work.

And you're trying to like, you know, encourage them, and yeah, you pat them on the back for like the attributes and characteristics that go into it other than be like, you're so smart.

But it is, uh, it's fascinating seeing these little kids and what they're what their memories are like.

Bro, it's crazy, dude.

It's hard being biased, not thinking, you know, it's this kid gonna be his kid's gonna be something special, way better than her.

Old man, I'm having that issue with I talked to you this morning about Scarlett.

I think she potentially could be the cutest baby of all time.

Potentially potentially because my baby is also the cutest baby of all And see that the problem viewers right now their baby, I'm saying, so you say that, I'll I'm thinking, Okay, let's have a little cute off.

That's the question I've been asking Jill is I go, honey, I think she's so cute, but is she really that cute?

Dude?

It's the is she really that cute feeling in the world.

Man, You're just so enthralled and so in love huh with your child.

Man, it is the best feeling.

And I was telling you this morning that you are because you were talking about how it's just the best it's the greatest thing in the world and the best thing is and parents know this too, like you are in the best days, and the best days just get better.

Like I felt like every month was my favorite month, and they just keep getting better.

Now I will say I'm at a point to where three is the hardest age that I've dealt with, to where it's my favorite because I love being in these moments and I love that we only have so many years.

But also three is a motherfucker right now.

At the Compton household, yeah, because Rue she is independent, wants to do everything on her own.

But they are like, bro, it gets better every month.

And when people are like, oh, wait till they get six months or wait till they get eight months, Like I'm sure I'm gonna make those comments to you.

Wait till they get twelve months or sixteen months, not the good ones.

But it's like it's gonna get even better, and you're just gonna be thinking, Yo, scarlet it two months.

Rips, like why weren't they saying two months is the best month?

Like it just it weirdly gets fucking better.

Dude, It's awesome.

I'm so fired up for you.

She rips right now, She rips right now.

I'm like you, you sleep like crazy, You're awesome at sleeping.

You eat like crazy, You're awesome.

It look out small you are, yeah, like, oh my gosh.

Okay, So we.

Do survival Kit.

We gotta keep it under an ounce.

Service Survival Kate.

I might skip survival Kit because we have an eight minute skip it.

Skip it.

Go to skip it, skip it.

D act.

Pulling the burp cloth, all right, you put you put your baby right here.

If you're burping over the shoulder, yeah, one thing you can't do is baby's face into your shoulder because then, yeah, they can't breathe.

Yes, How did how do I address my baby?

Said, I'm scared I'm gonna break her neck blah blah, burp cloth baby, then grab burp cloth, pull.

Out more moves their head.

Good, dad hack, and that that comes to me a jill.

But such a good on your dad hack, such a good well.

I've been doing it.

I've been doing it, and it, dude, you feel like a pro.

You put her on there and then you pull that out and that head turns and then you just.

And you hear that.

Oh when they get the burn, dude, it's a celebration because sometimes it's a battle getting that burp out and you're just like, sweetheart, just burp it's gonna make you feel better.

Yeah.

And as soon as she burns, back down to football and then wait wait wait.

Boom.

Yeah, just easy, easy, she got from somewhere, dad hack.

Unpack the suitcase when you get home.

Yeah, unpacked the suitcase when you get home.

Time and time again.

I'll listen, I've been I've been two and oh with the last two times.

But every times when I get home, you just want to kick their feet up.

We're finally home.

This is nice.

Like you want to kick your feet up on the couch.

You want to maybe enjoy a snack.

Don't do that, fellas, Yeah, don't do that.

Just unpack the suitcase with your wife, because your wife's not gonna stop.

They're gonna be going around.

Let's unpack, sweet art, Why don't we just I gotta get the I gotta get suitcase pack.

It's got a suitcase unpacked.

I gotta unload.

I gott unload the food and snacks we got back into the pantry.

I gotta unpack my stuff.

I don't like having I don't like when it just sits on the floor and you probably touch it.

You're probably fighting that car that car ride shit, No, everybody.

I will sneak in a little too.

I'll sneak in it too.

Sweet.

I'm gonna go to the bathroom real quick, and then I'll be ready to go.

But just unpack the suitcase.

If nothing else, unpack the kid's suitcase and the stuff that goes back under the pantry and the refrigerator.

So that way mom knows, hey, you're dialed in just the way she is.

Yes, teamwork makes the dream work.

Because I'm still the cat that doesn't unpack my suitcase.

When I get home, I'll leave mine sitting there at the edge of the bed or down by the side of the floor, because you never know what I might dig back into to pull out.

I never really unpack the suitcase when I get back home.

I was about to say, I'm terrible at that and will sit in there until my next trip, And I'm like, all right, and then I'll unpack the suitcase and then repack it for my next trip.

Pappa Team six six.

However, Dad hacked unpacked the suitcase.

When you get home, just put the head down, put the helmet on, dude, strap up, get the night vision goggles on, and get ready to work for everybody else.

Do all the work with everybody else, with with your wife.

Take the kids suitcase to a room, unpack it.

Sometimes you look in the suitcase, pake, I don't know where this shit goes.

Wife will know where it goes, but at least place it out so she knows.

Oh you're dialed in.

Yeah, you can leave your suitcase for the dad.

You can leave your suitcase pack just to be clear, but unpacked the other suitcases.

Good call.

Unpack the other suitcases, good call.

Call call ins.

We have four of them and let's get to them, and we have five minutes.

First call in, Dude, do I have this?

Do you have scrambling?

Oh?

No, you know I have it right here.

You're having to play first one.

A lot of anonymous this week.

The only one that wasn't anonymous is a mom, Oh, let's go first first mom calling gotta keep it under an hour, let's go, let's go.

Boys.

We're in a situation soon to be father, a long time soon to be.

My wife's in the first trimester and she's feeling like absolute duchie.

So I hope to be a first time dad.

But I'm also a first year head coach at the age of twenty five.

So I'm just driving back from the school at eleven thirty pm camp tomorrow morning.

I pull into the driveway, literally sitting in the driveway right now being the hero in all rounds, you know, husband, coach, teacher, hopefully father, no God willing, and I'm sitting in my driveway, just got a bad bunch of crap downe prepared for tomorrow.

Knowing that I told my wife if I do the dishes today, because she loves the clean kitchen and she hasn't been doing much since her heart and I just know I'm about to go to battle with these dishes at eleven thirty pm right now, And so I texted my assistant coach told him be ready for violence in the morning, and to be honest, I don't know if that can wait till then.

I just yeah, anyways, appreciate you boys, keep up the podcast.

Love you buddy.

That that calling right there is I've always loved the idea of coaching.

I love I love it.

I would love to do You'd be phenomenal.

And the only thing that telled me back is just like the time you have to pour because he's hopefully right knock on wood, soon to be dad, Hopefully all goes well, all goes smooth.

But you're also like the dad of like an entire football team.

You're also the guy that's operating the coaching staff.

You have to get stuff ready or late nights, it's early mornings, everything in between.

You also want to be a family guy at home, all all of that stuff.

I could not I can only imagine the stress that man feels sitting sitting in the driveway eleven thirty and I thinking I gotta go Oklahoma, drill and meet these dishes in the A gap.

But he's gonna do it.

He's a future dad.

He sounds like he's gotta dialed in.

Yeah, twenty five year old head coach.

Hats off to you, bro.

That is that is awesome.

Shout out you for listening to the pod.

Can't wait to open, can't wait to welcome you with open arms and the Papa Top Papa Team six.

I hope the dishes went well because you are right, bro.

The ladies they want to clean kitchen.

They don't like clutter in the house.

We have to declutter.

We have to think about this ship because it's hard for us to think about this ship because I don't always remember to get all the boxes.

I've talked about the box issue before.

Then they just start putting stuff away that you're like, I didn't even know we were were taking time right now to put stuff away.

But just you gotta be on your shit.

He's somebody that's gonna be away from the house a lot.

But you gotta be dialed in.

You gotta be dialed in.

You gotta go full.

What is it this circle around bull in the ring?

You gotta be ready for shots at every angle, yep.

And you gotta know you were walking into a bull of the ring situation when you get home.

Because I know he cares about his career.

He wouldn't if he didn't care about his career.

Wouldn't be a head coach at twenty five years old.

Yes, you have to be fucking dialed.

You gotta want violence and expect violence.

Yes, I'm quite literally facing the exact same situation as far as I have two minutes.

Yeah, let's go next to say undern hour.

Got say under an hour?

Next caller, please go fast because we gotta say under an hour.

This is our first mom call.

In Okay, Betsy.

They don't know how to read.

It's like music on Spotify's chef going going word for word the line with her and it's.

Due.

She's got it.

The page and like look up when she turns mile and they just they just got all rude.

That is awesome.

That'sh That takes a lot work.

And you're trying to like, you know, and I'm on the back for like the attribute other than being like, you're so shit.

It is eights little kids and what they're what.

They're crazy, dude, This.

Kid gonna be something special.

Way better that issue with I talked to Scarlett.

I think Betsy let's Minneapolis, Minnesota and shout out her husband Tyler, a member of Semen Team six.

Hey, right, yeah, right now, he's on Semen or Seed Team six.

Yeah, he's on that squad right now.

Betsy is wanting to show him a positive test result, acting asking for advice on how she should show him.

Ye who knows if he watches the podcast.

But maybe that's the spoiler alert right there.

Hopefully not, because what I personally would think would be sick.

We get her, chef Jack, this is on you.

Get her merch asap, get her merch a sap.

Hey, I got you something.

I know you're hopefully Thougher's a listener Busting with the Boys.

Yeah, I know you're a fan of Busting with the Boys, So I went ahead and got you some merch.

He'llens it up and it's some for the dad's gear.

For the dad's gear.

So with a positive pregnancy test and Betsy's sweetheart, I would love for you to film it.

Oh please film it please?

And I hope this isn't I hope we're not ruining the surprise right now?

Should we film a video and send it to Betsy of us saying dial it in?

We could because the moment to the other and this is also on that.

First mom call in future mom, I hope everything goes completely smooth.

Betsy, thank you so much for calling in the for the dads.

Fires me up.

That we had our first art, that we had our first female call in.

I love it.

That's what we should do, though, Chef, we got it.

We gotta we gotta dial that in.

We gotta get an address, a SAP and we gotta tell.

We gotta tell the We gotta tell Garret, we gotta tell the team.

We gotta overnight this ship because I think that would be a great gift.

Gotta keep it under an hour it can you play one more?

I literally, I literally have to go.

You have to go play okay, so really quick.

Since technology, the two that you need to play is this one and this one after you played this one?

Double click?

Which one work?

Get out of here?

I love everyone, everyone, Hey, call in your dad lesson.

You said you had one videoed in and we can put it at the end.

That's smart.

That's smart, a video of my dad lesson everyone.

I love you too, bro.

Good luck out there.

Let me know how it goes.

Tell Joe, we love her, we love Joe, we love we love.

I love that song.

Bitch, dude, I'll start this over I'll start.

That comes to be a jill.

Well, dude, you feel like put her on there and then you pull that and then you just and you hear that.

Sweetart, just burp.

It's gonna make you as soon as she burps.

And then wait, wait boom, Dad hacked.

And you get home.

Yeah, and you get home time and time.

And I've been two and oh with the last three times.

When I get home, you just want to get finally home.

This is nice.

Your feet up on the couch.

Ack, don't do that, fellas, just unpacked.

Wife's not gonna stop.

Sweet, Why don't we just suitcase and it's unload.

I gotta look into the pantry I got on paping.

I don't like when it just sits on that ship.

You're probably ship everybody.

I'll sneak in it, too sweet, ready to go, but just unpacked the back the kids suit pantry and the refrigerators.

Hey, you're duck.

Teamwork makes the drill.

The cat that doesn't unpack, I'll leave mine sitting there at the edge of door because you never know what I'm I just want to get back home.

No, I don't.

I'm terrible at that extrip and I'm like all right, and then I'll like it for my next trip.

A team said.

What was his name?

That was an anonymous, anonymous caller.

Anonymous caller.

That is a great dad hack and a fat w for the scoreboard, because you're not only gonna walk back in your house with a game base on, you're gonna walk back in the house a hero because you went and got the correct milk.

Now the dad hack in that moment, because he said something here that all dads and POPA Team six need to understand.

When those moments arise, you're the first to raise your hand and say I'll go get this because it is.

It buys you a little break.

It buys you a little break getting out of the house.

Listen maybe what you want to listen to.

It gives you some alone time, nice little freedom time.

Because you're ultimately doing what needs to be done.

You just want to be the first in line to say, Hey, I will go pick up the milk.

Hey, I will go get this grocery.

Oh, we don't have frozen French fries for dinner.

What kind of side do we want for dinner.

I'll run down to Trader Joe's right now and go get that and you get in the car and you enjoy, you enjoy that little freedom that you have for a fleeting moment because you're gonna have a smile on your face.

Maybe crack a window.

But that is a dad hack.

That is a dad w right there, and that needs to be in everybody.

Every dad's playbook is if something's not right at the house, and you can go get it, go go now, Go get it now, because you're gonna get yourself a little window of a bit of a break.

You're gonna get yourself a little bit of a break.

We don't need any moms to see this clip.

We don't need any moms to hear this episode in that part, because moms they might throw it back on us now now that they know this, now that they know that that's in the little playbook, moms might they might be first in line doing something something like that.

Then you're stuck at home with the kiddos.

Yes, CVS is just a mile away, and you're gone for an hour or what was going on.

I'll take sometimes, I will take my time.

You kind of sit in, catch up on a couple things, you know, work related, of course, of course, but then you pull in, you sit in the driveway.

I love that he's backing, and you know he's just sitting in the dry way buying a few extra minuts before he walks back into the war one.

However, you got the milk in hand.

You're a superhero.

But appreciate that call anonymous caller.

We can get to Oh yeah, I have to do the final caller.

Yeah, just click shure and tell you where to click.

Fireworks a non yep, knowing knowing.

I told my wife I do the dishes today because she loves the cleanician and she hasn't been doing.

Yeah, yeah, Papa Seal, and I just know I'm about to go to battle with these dishes that right now.

And so I texted my assistant coach, told to be ready for violence in the morning.

Then I just yeah, anyways, appreciate you boys, past love.

Yeah, buddy, I've always I love.

I love like hopefully get choke hopefully.

But you're also like Papacio, thank you for calling in.

And I agree with them here, And that's like a turning of the tide, Like you know, are we becoming Karen's by feeling like fireworks shouldn't be just I mean two or three in the morning you're if you're past midnight and you're hearing fireworks go off, I think you have you have the right to step outside and go full dad mode on some kids.

I think you have full on right to say, hey, fellas, pipe down a little bit.

Trust me, I was in your shoes.

I love blowing up slugs and blowing up fireworks late into the night hours.

I'm not a cop.

I'm not gonna call the cops, but I need you to tone them down because I got an eighteen month old upstairs and these loud noises.

I have to check on her every time because it scares me that she's gonna get woken up.

And if she gets woken up, you can bet your candy asses then I'll be out here and the cops will be called.

So you may straightened your shit up, young man.

Look at me when I'm talking to you.

Yeah, you cut the shit out.

I don't want to come back out of here again, because I swear to God, I will rain hell if my eighteen month old gets woken up by your little by your little fucking fireworks.

Because I'm with you, I'm with them.

I was that little degenerate kid that wanted to stay up as long as possible.

My parents would always make me come inside.

But if I did have the flexibility to be out as late as I possibly could shooting off fireworks, I would do that because you don't know any better, You don't know how to think of everybody else, and that there's families going on.

But he when the fireworks were going off at like ten pm and Scotty's sleeping, thank god she didn't wake up.

But every time a pop goes off, I'm like checking down on her to see if this year she's gonna get woken up, because I'm thinking, God, we gotta have some time limit.

And then I'm like, oh, well, you're getting a little too old.

You're getting a little too that's kind of some boomerism coming out of you right now.

So I feel his pain.

That's how I would probably handle it is.

If it's going on past midnight, I think you have you gotta go.

You gotta go, uh, you gotta go pop a seal, you gotta go outside.

You gotta set the expectation.

You gotta let them know.

Hey, I'm on your side.

I was where you were at.

But if you keep this ship up, I don't want to call it.

I want you guys to have a great time.

But if you keep this ship up and my daughter or my son wakes up, bet your sweet little ass, I will be right back out here and the sirens will be going because I will call in the entire army on you guys for interrupting my daughter or my son's sleep.

You have a dog, too, right, Waffle.

Waffle's terrified of fireworks.

She goes and she goes in like nestles in a corner.

Some people probably have dogs.

At Bark, I was with some dogs get all worked up during the fireworks.

Freaked out from the fireworks, and it was the same thing they were going off to, like the neighbors.

I was up with my girlfriend and her family's house and they have four dogs and they were not it wasn't good and the fireworks going to about midnight and it was right next to him.

Yeah.

Yeah, you're not opened up to all of this.

I feel like until you kind of become a parent, or you're you're an adult with real responsibilities where maybe you have to be up the next day and some of this stuff's going off and you're thinking, you know, the loud music, but when you're a kid, You're not man.

What do they gotta be such a party pooper?

Like why does he why do they have to be like that?

Like we're just having fun out here.

Yeah, I don't know about you, but like, even at twenty three, there's a few things where I remember as a kid, I'll be like my old man would get pissed off about stuff and I'm like, dude, what you know, you need to relax.

And even at twenty three, I'll sit there and I'll be like, that motherfucker's driving too fast down through our neighborhood.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, And I'm like, holy.

Shit, I'm turning into my dad and that's terrifying.

But like you'll it'll be more and more, especially once you once you get the family going.

Yeah, now you'll be a lot more cautious, driving faster down certain roads, driving down roads, just driving in general, because you just never know, Like you have your little one, they're like exploring, they don't know you're trying to teach them, but shit can happen like that.

Dude.

Appreciate the call in though.

Appreciate the calling, and we will get into our last, our last segment, which is a quote a lesson or something that has marinated with us that we would like to share, or maybe something that we're trying to learn ourselves to become just better fathers in general.

And I came across something on I came across something on Instagram that I will just that, I will just share let's see here children.

I do have a collection where it just says children, so that way I can throw in the stuff that I see.

I'm like, oh, I like that.

I want to come back to it.

But I was thinking too, because a lot of times, as parents, you want to be able to provide your kids with like great experiences or trips or take them somewhere because you think it's going to be an awesome memory.

A lot of times it is because you're just there and you're just present.

But I know there are a lot of people that can afford every trip in the world, and they probably question themselves on if they are being the parent that they that they should be, that they want to be, that they arder their kid because their friends might be doing something cool and they might not get they might not get my wife's calling me, hang on what Ell was going off of?

I kind of lost my train.

Of thought talking about you have a kid staying on your phone.

Yeah, yeah, I was.

I was scrolling through Instagram and I saw this, And I know me as a kid growing up, I didn't always get to go on cool trips that I thought, you know, my friends were going on and everything else.

So for those parents out there, there something I saw on Instagram that I thought would be fun to read.

Shout out at Modern Parents' Guide, good follow on Instagram.

You don't need a five thousand dollars Disney trip to build a happy childhood.

You need a garden hose, a popsicle, and a parent who's present.

And here's the science behind why the backyard is enough.

By each five, your child's brain is ninety percent developed.

It's not shaped where you go, but by how safe and how connected they feel.

The brain doesn't store luxury, emotion and repetition.

The moments that happen again and again become the wiring beneath everything.

Backyard play offers the perfect recipe for healthy brain development.

It offers predictable rhythm, emotional coregulation, and sensory rich learning.

When your child feels safe in your presence, their nervous system calms and the brain opens up to learn, explore, and grow.

This happens best in everyday spaces, so sprinklers, mud puddles, bare feet in the grass.

These aren't just fun.

They build the sensory maps that wire attention, movement, and emotional control.

A one dollar popsicle lights up more lights up, more joy than a one thousand dollars theme park if it comes with the tunement.

Your face is what makes the memory magical.

Children don't.

Children don't need constant stimulation, They need responsive presence.

The brain develops best when life slows down enough to feel, and research shows its repetition with emotional safety that wires long term let regulation.

That means the same swing, the same snack, the same smile.

You're not depriving your child when you stay home more.

You're giving them space to rest, to attach, and to trust.

The most resilient adults often had childhoods filled with routine attonement and calm nervous systems, not expensive plans.

One day, they won't say my childhood was magical because of where we went.

They'll say it was magical because of how I felt at home.

You already have what they need.

Your eyes, your voice, your presence and yes, your backyard.

Save this for the days you wonder if it's enough, because it is.

The little things don't just matter, they build the brain.

Shout out at Modern Parents' Guide for more insights on raising emotionally secure kids.

So a little, you know, a little shout out to a profile that I follow, and I saw that too, and I just think it'd be cool for I thought it'd be good for just parents to hear, because at times you battle with I want to take them here, or this would be really cool for And sometimes it might not fit the schedule, it might not fit the budget, it might not fits it might not fit the madness that goes on in all of our lives.

But all those like reminders on the small things are the best things.

Those daily traditions, are weekly traditions or monthly traditions, just your presence alone, it build It builds who they are.

So that was that was the lesson that I wanted to share, something that kind of resonated with me.

It's true, I mean you remember, I mean as a kid growing up, like hanging out with being with my dad and brother is what I always remember a lot, playing sports in the backyard or whether it's going riding my bike around or walking to the neighborhood pool.

You know, I was fortunate we got to go on trips and stuff because my dad traveled so much, like for work, that we were able to He got points and stuff.

And they always try to expose me and my brother.

But like the stuff that I always remember is like that time you spend and like you know, sometimes you make fun.

You make fun with yeah, what you have.

And I was still I think I was like the last probably generation or age where we didn't grow up with screens.

So I grew up.

I rode my I got on my bike, and you went over to you know, my buddy Warners, the neighbors, the Edwards, and we would go play football in the backyard, to go build a fort.

And it wasn't until like maybe like seventh grade now, probably fifth grade, when like the iPod and iPhones started coming around, but that was still like that's how we grew up.

We went outside and you know, spent a lot of time doing that.

So and just making the most of what you have.

Yeah, you don't need a lot to have fun.

That's kind of the best part.

And I hope that's you know it better.

Like I guess kids nowadays with like screens and stuff like you put that in front of someone, like I worry about like that kills creativity and like kills like imagination and stuff like.

Yeah, the screen stuff is such like a unique topic because it's like you just battle, like I feel like we do a pretty good job.

And it's almost like, you know, when we got done with that car ride to Missouri, it's like charl ends up making the comment to me, like once we get to the airbnb that we were in, it's like we kind of do it to ourselves because we don't like put You could easily just throw a screen in front of them and just keep them occupied, but you think about the long term of you know, in those situations giving them a screen, then they're dependent.

They start to get dependent on the screen.

Then anytime they act up or misbehave or you're having those moments where you just you'd rather just put a screen in front of them than leave the pool, and then it's like that's how they start to coregulate or that's how they start to regulate their emotions by being like, oh, I need a screen, And then you chalk it up as like that'll keep their attention on this and not present in the moment, or you're battling through boring moments, moments of tantrums, all the things that, like it's hard for the parent in the moment, but the longevity of it or the long term from it is like, you know, you get to where I was reading something to where it's like, if you're putting screens in front of them and I'll have this drop it up for the episode next week.

But if you put screens in front of them now and you're doing it to kind of ease the short term pain, then they get dependent on those screens.

And then when they get to school and they realize there are no screens there, the work that they can do that might not be on a screen, or maybe it is on a screen, but their attention is so locked in on focusing on a screen that they don't have the attention to stay locked in, you know, in a classroom or when they're in group settings to where you know, all the ADHD and stuff kind of starts to spike up or come about or come to the surface a lot more these days, I feel like, and then you know you're starting to medicate your kids all because it's like in the building block developmental brain stages of just fighting, like putting a screen in front of them just because it'll take their attention away from the current moment to put them on a screen, and that'll just you know, it'll be this bad ripple effect that happens like when they do get in school or when they're becoming adults, because they just don't have they don't have that brain development that they should have had when they were little.

And it's kind of like, I don't know about when you were growing up, but like I know, my parents were very adamantly no TV in my room, like I know some parents had grown up.

I had friends who had they had a TV, and whether it was TV time or something, my parents are like, no TV because we know you and your brother, you guys will turn it on it you'll stay at you'll act a sleep and then get up in like midnight and watch like a movie or something.

Yeah.

But that's how we were.

That's yeah, that's how we were.

Mom, they were adamant.

So I grew up and staid, which I actually like at the time you're sitting there, maybe when you when you're grown up and you're kind of pissed off, like Billy gets a TV.

Yeah, you know, and you're I have to.

But then looking back at it, I'm like, oh, man, Like I'm kind of glad because I learned instead of it in that I read like that was a normal thing, Like I read all the time to go to sleep, and it's something that even as I'm getting older, I'm like, I I find myself on TikTok and stuff, and I'm like, that will.

Keep you up.

Like I've learned that I scrolling the doom scrolling man, and I I have to put my I put my phone away, Like for anyone that has issues with that.

What I've started doing is that no TikTok, no Instagram reels three hours before bed, like I said, a hard note, and that's like I've started sleeping so much better.

Yeah, It's like I feel you on that where it's like you get worried about.

You're right though, Like if I even think about mine, like we I had a TV.

We had a TV in our room and I'll watch TV.

I'd fall asleep to the TV.

We've like even though we didn't have screens, like you know, once computers were a thing and you could play backyard baseball or SIMS or roller coaster Tycoon.

We'd be fighting over to have like computer time.

And I just feel like with that, I was in the generation of high school where the iPhone came out to where there was MySpace and Facebook just started.

But thinking of myself now, like there'll be a lot of times like I can just admit that the phone will consume me at times, or where my attention is like fleeting.

We don't have a TV in our room now, like Charles a big believer not having a TV in the room and everything else.

But Cody was was somebody who had like the like ADHD And if I think about my brain on how my attention works at times, I feel like I can think back to those things and be like, yeah, I was like a menace with whether playing video games or watching TV, playing video games late at night, wanting to stay up later, sneaking.

It, trying to play video games late.

Oh yeah, and you know you get reprimanded from it and get disciplined sometimes on weekends not not enough or not like we probably should have.

But if you're just thinking about the screens and everything else, like toe and I are big on just I guess just eating and leaning into the fray and just it's like making it hard on ourselves.

I guess, to protect what we feel like screens would do if we're putting in front of our kids all the time.

Because real get pissed off.

When she ran out of TV coupons last week.

You know, we do that coupon system and she used up her last thirty minute coupon tour.

It was like, the next day, you don't have anymore.

Like, I know you want to watch TV.

Trust me, I would love for you to watch TV, so I could just take a break.

But your thirty minutes, your coupons ran out.

You're just gonna have to know next week.

Hey, you're gonna have to spread them out a little bit better.

Just deal with it.

I, by the way, recommended that to a couple of us all this weekend.

They have a little three year old boy shout out Townsend and the dad logan great guy who looked at me and he's like, I don't know, dude, he's a fucking demon.

Dude, I'm telling you, because like she'll get pissed like that, I kind of watch more.

Yes, sweetheart, you have like fifteen more minutes.

Yes, you can watch more, like she's always checking, like am I able to watch more?

Yeah, you have like fifteen more minutes.

But when it's done, it's done.

You have to turn it off.

Yeah, and uh, sometimes it's a battle just because like you're giving them a little bit of screen time.

And again, the screens are just like gravitating.

They love to be on those fucking things.

And so charl and I we fight our asses off not to not to like go to you know, she doesn't know what an iPad is, but like give her an iPad or give her a screen when we're in the car traveling.

Do you think it's inevitable that sooner or later?

Yeah, of course it is, yeah, growing up, but.

Like you're gonna just hold out as long as possible.

You know, I'm not sure until we get there.

Like again, like my only experience right now is I have an eight month old and a three year old, Like I don't have, you know, an eight year old, a nine year old, a ten year old, somebody who's going to school, and they might have, you know, screens, and I'm sure that they'll, you know, with the AI movement, just technology in general, they're gonna they're gonna have to like understand that world.

But I don't know.

We talk about it, like we don't want them to have social media even through high school.

Don't want them to have social media.

Just the stuff I'm reading in the Strong Father's Strong Daughter stuff, the data it's just scary to think about.

I'll start, I'll continue to put like a frameworker something to go by later, like as she gets older.

But I know, like right now we want to do whatever we cannot to not to have them like depending on screens or definitely not social media or having their own phone.

That those are like what the conversations we're having now as she's a three year old.

So I don't know how it'll develop or adapt in the future, but I know it's like, you know, it's one of those things we want to be very want to be very cautious.

Yeah, I think that's all good.

I think you guys have a good mindset of it as someone who's not a parent, but I can that's kind of stuff that I even I'm like, ah, man, like a lot of that stuff is scary.

Social media is a big one, dude.

Depression is getting more real at the young age starts to base.

Your life off of like that social presence, and it's like it's just so dangerous, and I'm like, and that was I mean you said high school is when MySpace came out.

When I was in like middle school, Snapchat became big, then Instagram and those were ones that and then like just naturally, I think my age is like some of the first that really like you grew up and you started I think I had an Instagram account when I was like in middle school.

But it's like, yeah, you start to like, you know, look around.

You do a lot of looking.

Yeah, you do a lot of comparing.

Comparisons, and it's just.

People can think it's it's it's it's weird, or like disagree with it.

But I think even us as adults, like even we struggle with it.

Yeah, you get called comparing looking at everybody's highlight reels.

You want to, you know, post all the best things on your social media if if you're not somebody who posts a lot, like I'm sure you sit there and you scroll.

Like even we struggle with it as adults, and it's like, you know, these these kids that just don't even have a fully developed brain, or they don't understand how the world works, and they're getting how the world works from social media and everything that's not even real consume their brain.

Yeah, I think it's like a slippery slope.

So we've started having those conversations, but I'm sure we'll continue to formulate whatever it is.

And you both just approach you with teamwork man arm in arm staying strong, and we sure we sure we don't want to let her watch them blowy right now?

Be sure we don't want to letter watch something just to the need to play it down right now.

It needs parent Team six.

Yeah, along with POPA Team six.

Yeah, Parent Team six.

You guys are both in it.

Yeah yeah.

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Take out the trash, Love you boys.

I shot this horizontally.

I hope it works, Chef, thank you for patching us into the episode.

Will Here's my lesson of the week.

A lesson of the week is to have a mentor that is in far further along in fatherhood than you are.

Will is that for me.

And I told him this morning that he was going to be a lesson of the week.

And I don't think Will and I ever really planned, or you know, I never really asked Will to be a mentor to me.

It just kind of naturally happened through conversations that we had with each other about family planning and his kids and his marriage with Charro and my marriage with Jill, and those conversations just kind of flowed very naturally and easily.

But it has been a relationship in my life that I have learned so much from.

And not that your mentor can't be like a father in law or your own dad, because obviously they they're further along and father than you.

But somebody that's a third party, somebody that's like outside of your family, maybe outside the traditions of your family, that has their own thing going on with their kids, and just being able to see another perspective here, another way of doing things.

Seeing Will even.

Interacting with his kids, and seeing Charro interacting with their kids, it's cool.

And so I've just learned a ton from Will over these past couple months and having these conversations with him that it really has brought not only the confidence to start a family, which we've already.

Touched on in the podcast, but it's probably a lot of confie.

It's in just being a dad.

Just in these first I'm like, what day four of being a dad?

So I hope that that message finds anybody well that is planning to start a family or has just started a family, or maybe you got kids in high school, kids in college.

I think that that can apply to anyone and everyone.

So just finding a mentor finding a friend or accountabcountabil a buddy that is further along in the fatherhood process.

And maybe for those PT six Sikahs out there, finding somebody that is just.

Becoming a dad.

Being that mentor to somebody, I know it meant a lot to me, will kind of coming alongside and teaching me and show me the ropes on a lot of different stuff.

And having convos with me.

So any PT six Sikos out there that want to recruit their friends into the fatherhood or just be a mentor a guide to them, maybe actively seek out some of those young gun future dads.

That was my last thing of the week.

I hope you all enjoyed the rest of the podcast.

I know Will probably killed it, and again, Chef, thank you for.

Patching this into the episode.

I hope everybody has a good week.

I hope we come it under it now, piece of luck.

See you guys,