To Teas and a Pod with Teddy Mellencamp and camera judge.

Hi, guys, welcome to another episode of Two Teas and Pod.

Tam is not with me today.

So I have a very special guest.

I've got Gertie, who came in from Miami.

Hey girl, Hey, okay, we reunited, honey, reunited.

Before we even get started with the pod, I wanted, I got a very very up to date d m from the cruise line from away.

From the cruising itself.

Are you serious?

No, from a sand like celebrity cruises and everything.

What happened?

Girls, talk to me.

I worked for the cruise line.

This was on a sailing with media and VIPs.

If Julia simply said, hey, this is the person and we need to make room for her, they would have done it.

It didn't have to be that deep.

Are you serious, It's been verified.

It's been verified.

Mike drop, Mike drop.

Wait, Doria says, clip clip, clip clip?

I did.

Can I have that person come to their reunion too?

I know?

Well, so I have to say I was a little bit because of the way that the event was kind of played out.

I was like, I was kind of like, why is she doing it this set at this cancer event.

I didn't understand.

Oh okay, God, so can you explain that a little bit?

And then we're going to.

We're going back to just the event itself and why did it there?

Or yeah, well just explaining it to me because I think a lot of us watching this is a cancer Okay, why is she doing it?

Teddy?

You know I would never ever use cancer as the playing field to do this with these girls.

Number one, based on what they did to me or what happened to me at the wedding chaos.

Do you think that some of these girls would even be at my My My cancer charity event?

Probably not.

This was a magazine cover party hosted by the Nott magazine, and I wish it would assume that that's an edited shot wider so you could see the heavily branded the not magazine them Teddy.

When I tell you you look on the floor though not the napkins then not.

They wanted to make sure they thought.

They were Heather, Yes, honeywing it.

It was everywhere.

When you look at the screen, it's so zoomed into the pink, pink, pink, And it was very interesting, is what I'm saying.

Secondly, it was me giving a speech because the magazine issue was speaking about celebrating the pursuit of life, of happiness and the whole thing.

So my speech reflected my own testimony, which we'll have to see word in it.

Cancer cancer, cancer cancer.

That's part one.

Part two is that I had two of thirty people there, thirty of my closest friends.

There was no patrons donating to attend the event, strangers out there.

No thirty of my rather dies live in Miami, two of them.

So all the guests were yours, like true guests.

It wasn't like it wasn't like the cancer evant.

We saw each other at No.

I was kidding and I'm like, what if I would never ever?

And that's the spin, And this is how dangerous it could be when it's like, oh, she did it at the cancer event.

Very dangerous girls are doing that.

Of course they are, and I will see them at the reunion because that is disgusting and that is my name on the line.

So we're gonna have to discuss that.

Nevertheless, remember they can't read, okay, so you know, we got to work on that.

Secondly, out of the thirty guests, two of my really good friends were our survivors too too, and of course they're gonna come to the event.

One of them has a charity called Survive Her.

Okay, at the event, I'm part of a group called Support your Girlfriends, where we actually support your girlfriends, and we had money.

We have ten thousand dollars.

And then the head of the organization, she goes, let's do a presentation of the check to survive her.

So no one survivor paid.

This was not an organization for survivor.

Survivor is one person that came to the event, and she's my friend.

We said, let's do a check presentation for survivor and that was it.

The way that it looked was here's a charity.

Oh yeah, oh look at you cancer survivors.

It was unbelievable.

And last and last and not least, Martina was not even invited to my party.

You see me invite the girls at the LGBTQ event, which she was missing too.

Write she was not there.

I don't know why, but she was not there at that supporting.

I had the caution, so she was not there supporting the cause.

And she inserted herself to say, well, thank god, I wasn't there, because you know, how could she do that to the survivors who me and my two friends out of the thirty people girl.

By so the spin is real.

And at the reunion, let's gonna say one thing, how could she do that to all the mothers?

Oh?

Right?

Well they I mean, like, I go, how could any like?

And that's why I wanted to give you the like, that's what I wanted to talk to you about it, because yeah, people make mistakes or people because the way they made it look on the boat when you were talking about it was you were like, no, I stand by exactly what I did, but I didn't give this back information.

Yes, So then I was like, well, I'm still annoyed at Gertie.

And and by the way, even in the context of what it was, yes, because my testimony was really heart wrenching and it was really sweet, and I would and my event, I'm a party planner.

For me, there's always a party and then there's always an after party.

So my event had a program and then after the program there's the dancing part.

So I did what I did right before, introducing the band for the dancing part.

So the first part part of my event was already whole, and.

My business part was yes, and I.

Didn't even plan to do it Whenever that time, when I went back and finished the programming and Russell was leaving, and he's telling me what she was saying, still playing victim, still bringing it up.

When I told her, bitch, this is between you and me and you my party.

And she even said this is between she wanted that testing.

But she's talking to my husband, bringing down the mood of my party, bringing the.

Topic he carrying sneakers, dirty one.

I'm sorry.

I just when i'm nice until i'm not teddy, And I'm telling you my kindness in this group has been taken for weakness, clearly me getting on this day.

Can we read this?

Can we read this?

A little bit about this cruise?

Okay, okay, you be you and I'll be Julia.

Okay, we're doing role player.

Okay, okay, who's first?

Me?

Hi, baby, You're good.

They don't have me at the dinner reservation where they swung me out, So I'm trying to figure things out.

Not sure why they said because this is her not after a lot of minutes.

Not sure why they separated us since I came only for you anyway, I'll figure it out.

Oh, just getting back to my room.

It's Blank's party and I had no control over the list.

I guess changes were made when Blank canceled.

I'm sorry.

Are you all taken care of question mark?

Blank is Martina and this is Sendy's party, all right?

To be honest, I'm a little taken aback that I was moved to the site for this exclusive.

If I'm supposed to come in as your replacement, as Martinez replacement, I should have been extended the invitation as a courtesy, especially when I'm leaving my kids and husband at home as your guest.

I'm sure you had no control over it, and I'm also sure that Blank, Alexis Blino's publicist wanted to make this experience exclusive just for you since I'm not his client.

But nevertheless, this is a little rude considering I was just trying to be supportive as a friend to you.

I was not even on the reservation for the restaurant that you guys put me at.

They're squeezing me in and I'll be okay, but know that I will never let anyone do that to my friends who show.

Up for me.

Okay, so I would now hearing this her, let's do her response first.

Her response is, I don't coordinate dinner reservations.

All I'm thinking about this weekend is Blank's condition condition.

I thought you wanted to be here and would have enjoyed being here.

Otherwise I would have never suggested you join me and leave your kids with Russell.

I'm sorry you're upset.

This is a work weekend and it wasn't done on purpose or to offend your clarification.

The letter that all of us on the cast received because of you know, if half of us when half of us didn't the work translation content for cruising paper barter, it's a bartered not not paid anything in exchange.

You don't want amazing two bedroom suite, You go coasting and then just post content.

Girl.

So now we're turning.

It in and now content would have been better if you were in it.

I love you, know what I'm saying.

Maybe that's why, Maybe that's why I wasn't invite That was that, Maybe that was.

That's why she didn't want to take the attention.

Maybe that's why I was invited to the cruise for the content part and then the VIP part.

No gurdy, no access.

I mean, I think that you're proving that Julia wanted you there, but she wanted you to beg to be there.

Well, no, she wanted me as a seat filler.

So it's kind of like, oh, you're fun here, let's do the spot thing.

But then now I need to go to VIP but I'll see you later at the bar.

Okay, So I have a so why we're on her, we may as well just keep on her.

Okay.

Do you think that Julia is trying to ic you out or some of the women are trying to ic you out?

Or do you think she's just obsessed with being with the cool The cool girl are cool.

Girls and they're gonna be cool Girlsdriana is a freaking riot.

Oh my god, she was a one.

I think it's multifaceted, and I think we'll get to the bottom of that at the reunion.

But I think Julia gets fixated on new, shiny objects, and I think that it's a repeat offense that she keeps doing, you know, like she's friends with you and then she finds something else and then she goes there.

This is a nine time engage woman.

So that's gonna tell you a lot about the pattern.

Yeah, I mean that makes sense.

Yeah, but I think do you think that Julia's relationship with Adriana is now flawed forever?

I mean, it doesn't nonexistent right now, and so you'll have to keep watching to see how it becomes this extinct.

Talking about this season, what is your opinion on Stephanie.

Oh my god, I love Stephanie.

Stephanie came hard, strong, to the point no bullshit.

Now initially you're kind of like taking it back because it's about some money, harsh around the edges, right, You're kind of like, wait, whoa come down Burke, you know what you know?

And I, by the way, didn't even meet her till a little bit later on.

I think I can't remember.

So she's coming in.

And she sees my party and she sees what is happening, and these girls are like cancer survivor charity party, fundraiser, and she's kind of like, oh my god, this is horrible.

And that's how I meet Stephanie with their spin on bus.

So then of course she meets me and she's like, Okay, this is not what they said.

You were like, okay the spin and then uh, there's things that happen when we go to Sevilla in Spain where she starts to see some people for not what they pretend to be before what they really are.

And trust me, it gets quite spicy in Spain.

Yeah.

Well, I'm excited for that.

What are your thoughts on when you're when you guys were all on the yacht and you were separated.

I don't want I personally don't like that.

I liked it actually, to be honest, because I gotta break.

I gotta break.

It's a lot, it's a lot of personalities, you know.

So, yeah, that's true.

And I was and I was out of town.

I was going to speak engagement on for the Lynn Sage Foundation in on Chicago.

So that's the cancer, you know.

Yeah, So I came back.

I was like walking in, honey, anybody gonna phase me?

And what you got?

Who's got a question?

How badly do you want doctor nicullback?

I what was good for her?

And I'm not too sure.

I'm not too sure if that's her coming back.

So you know her saying TBD, it's like she's got conditions, is what I'll say.

Yeah, she played it.

I liked your scene because you could tell you were real girlfriends catching up and like sometimes it's a little bit like, oh, you know, you're gonna gossip all over the place.

And then you called Stephanie and I thought they both handled it well, of.

Course, but why not.

See if you're a woman that's not that's not insecure, that has your crap together, and that really is supporting other women, why not you dated the same man twenty years apart?

Why not you have so much in common?

And I was like, you know what, you need to meet Stephanie and that's how I roll.

And they did it well and it made me like them both.

The only thing I'm not loving about Stephanie is the money stuff.

It's too much.

It's a tense it's intense, and actually, when you see one of the upcoming episodes in Sevilla, you'll see like how amazingly extreme, Like if you can get it, if you have it like that, then.

That's good for you.

There's a big surprise for her and it's and it's like, what, it's Unbelievable's unbelievable.

And how long have those two been together?

Her was sup for a long time, I believe a long time, over maybe ten years.

I think because we were trying to figure out because we just saw the house on the recent episodes and they said they needed to wait until the divorce was final on the blah blah blah.

There's been all these rumblings and so I'm really trying to dissect it because you know, I have so much time on my hands.

We do.

We all do at some point in time the day.

Oh my gosh, in regards to you and Julia's tension, do you think that there's room for resolution?

Oh?

Good times are coming because you know.

Something, so we're gonna see cease.

Yeah, something happens next episode that shifts my thinking.

And if you see me walking into every single group event, I always walk in with a smile.

When Julia walks into, for example, my event, it's like Debbie down or like I'm here to ruin the event and I'm gonna talk to your husband and tell him.

Were still are trying to figure it out, Like it's like, what are you doing?

So you see the opposite vibes.

I'm on a high vibration and I don't know what vibration she's on.

Nobody knows what level she's on.

But the fact is is that I try and put my best foot forward, and finally it gets to a.

Point where we're like, okay, we're neutral and let's see what you know.

She she's yeah, yeah, I mean look at those ravies.

You know.

It's it's hard to watch these scenes back.

It's to watch this this this show back because you know, I think we were good for a while and then something happens and then it's like, okay, this is again, we're going backwards, you know.

So the reunion is going to be on and popping because did you see last night whatever that was?

Did you see that last night?

Watch what happens?

I heard?

I did.

I wanted to talk to you about.

The well, I still I'm flabbergasted at how she's apologizing only for the water throwing assault and not the lies.

That's what's blowing my mind.

And so that tells me that this person has not learned a single thing, is not really apologetic, and it's because of the backlash that she's doing this about the water splashing in my face that she threw only.

And you can't see water splashing.

Water splashing is like if you're on a boat and all of a sudden, water splashes.

Yes, Isaac Mizrahi, if you're listening, I am di disgusted, disgusted, unacceptable, and this is not for entertainment.

Okay, I was degraded on national television, humiliated and how dare you?

And she sat there and just.

Grinned, because if I was really sorry, I was gonna say, you know what, I'm so sorry.

This is not right.

I've really mean I'm sorry, and I don't need you to hype me up on this disgusting.

There was absolutely no reason it needed to get to that point.

And if she did do it, and it was a reflex, like she's trying to claim, why not say I'm really sorry?

Is a third physical offender?

Okay, let's go back to Bahamas.

She tried to pour an entire eyes bucket on Marisol and we helped make that not happen.

And there's another situation that was not aired, Okay, that was actually interesting as well.

So we will discuss this at the reunion because the sweet voice is gonna only take you so far, and when you have repeat offenses, we're going to have to talk about it.

Yeah, I think you know.

When she was on Watch It Happen's Life, she says it hasn't been it.

I don't want to hear it.

I don't want to hear I don't want to hear any of that.

I don't want to hear it.

Well, it's pretty much it's you know, you don't have to hear it.

Everybody heard it.

But I feel like it's her way of just once again trying like, I don't think that apology was for you.

It wasn't.

I think it was for the people.

Nasty, absolutely, of course.

Yeah.

Has she reached out or anything, of course not, of course not.

No.

The last thing that I've heard her say is Gertie used to stay as far away as possible.

That was the last thing I've heard, and then this apology months later, So please spare me.

And do you think the girls are a little too hard on Adriana or do you think that she brings it all on herself.

With Adriana?

I mean this tick for tat with them, and they have a long history, so you know, I mean, and you see that they're like playing, but then they're they're smiling, and then they're hugging.

So it's a lot of back history.

That's why we hardly get involved and would let them play.

Would you've been upset about the Sagginese comment?

No, I mean I kind of would have laughed at it.

I have, but you know, you do, I do.

That's why that's why I have my jeans.

Yeah.

But you know who they don't keep accountable, you know, is Julia for example?

What what what should have happened after that number one?

She should have been escorted outside the wedding.

No, she stayed.

She got consoled by Larsa, and she stayed there and cut the cake.

Like nothing happened, like nothing.

And I you know, do you know what it took for me to stay there?

I said to myself, No, I worked.

How did you do that?

You know, I don't know how I did it.

I just said to myself, I'm gonna stay there to see what they do after I leave, so I can witness what they do.

And when I saw that, it was kind of like, okay, oh you gotta don't worry, just stop stopping, okay, cutting the cake.

I saw her give flowers to Marisol, Marisol hugging her, laughing, turned around and cut the cake.

So this is why this is really not just for play and for entertainment.

This is really interesting and it's on my back.

This was at my expense.

It was done to me, and I think as viewers, it's hard for us, Like, while we're watching it, we're looking at it as two separate instances when it's all the same thing wrapped into one, and no, wonder you're so hurt.

Not only did she not fight for Like, if I invited a friend somewhere with me, it doesn't matter if it's a paid post or what it is, I'd be like, hey, no, this is who I came.

With as a replacement to your wife, and that you got me on the cruise because of your wife, that you're getting gleamed for to get on the cruise to leave your wife.

But then you say you're thinking about your wife well on the cruise for content, And then you say I'm thirsty and I'm the opportunities and I'm psycho scary.

Everything that she said to me, I'm looking at her and I'm like, you really need a mirror because the lies are so extreme, and it is about it's not even about the cruise, Teddy, It's about.

The the from the lack of respect in your friendship.

No, the cruise was used as a tool to paint me as something that she wanted them to see me out.

She wanted you to be high maintenance, over the top.

It's too much.

I couldn't deal.

But this is the person you chose to invite, so then take care of her.

Why did she call it Riana her best friend?

Yeah, that's what I don't understand.

I even asked her.

You'll see what she responded.

I'll talk to you about the reunion.

Why didn't you call it Guiana?

First?

If I'm not your friend and you don't know me like that, and all of a sudden, I'm a piece of shit.

But knowing like that.

And also if for some reason, somebody on that cruise line, which we already confirmed it isn't the case, but.

Need I need that tea?

Yeah, I'll give that to you.

But if somebody on that cruise line said, you know, we don't want Gerty there she wasn't, then that's for Julia should at least have the balls to come to you and say, hey, I'm sorry, I tried.

They're telling me no, So where do you want to go now?

Yes?

And at the end of the day, like, let's go together at.

The end of the day.

And again, let me remind everybody the cruise happened in twenty twenty three.

Yeah, okay, And at the end of the day, Julia decided to bring it up now because Julia has such, I guess an ego that she didn't like the way I had something to say about it.

She didn't want to be called out, and so it was kind of like, how dare you talk to me now?

Is you were my cruise?

You were in my bed, that's the spin on that.

And I'm like, wait, you literally called me.

Russell's mom was like, is Martinez we thought we thought the way that she sounded on the phone that it was back.

That's how bad he was.

Why would I get back on the cruise.

I'm like, oh, she'll be fine.

She didn't even want to tell me why.

She said, please, I'll tell you on the cruise.

I can't talk now.

I'm getting she didn't want you to talk her out of going.

She was inappropriate.

She didn't want she didn't want me to say no.

She wanted to sound like there was something to hear that was so here that to get me to get on the cruise.

It's a manipulation.

And so I leave my house, I get on this cruise.

I'm there for you.

And then I'm like, shu, sure you know if there we get a reservation for you, we'll be We'll see you at the Martin barlater, okay, see yeah.

And then I'm like alone, no reservation, I'm by myself.

Jen Fester was on the ship.

Eventually she comes to me later on, but she has her own thing.

She wasn't supposed to be babysitting me.

I'm here alone for you, and you can't pull a chair, and I'm like, what can I sit on the chair that was meant for Martina?

It didn't make sense to my friend.

Felt I just and she would have.

Never done it.

She would have never done it to Larsa.

She would have never done it to Alexia.

Those are facts she would have never Alexi would have parasceled her ass out of that.

For them to not have even said, Julia, they didn't want to hear the story.

They didn't want to hear the story.

So that's the thing.

I never heard the story.

I didn't feel like I got the full story, so I wasn't able to take it in and really understand.

But now that I hear that, if I think, if me and Taram are going to do something and I was with you, and I asked her to go with me.

I would never in one million years, ditcher.

Who raised you?

If you do that?

Like who raised you?

Yeah?

And if it was, If it was I get paid this extra amount to attend this portion of the event, I would have said to her, do you want to go?

It's really a paid thing for me, like you don't have to.

Well, the itinerary that they sent to me, because I'm very organized, you know, have a powerty planner.

Before I packed, I said, well, send me the itinerary so I can see what to pack.

And that VIP dinner was not on my itinerary, but it sure wasn't hers.

So you understand there's lots of details that you're not going to be able to walk back.

Honey, Okay, did she ask anyone else before you?

Do you think I asked?

I asked her to ask somebody else, Adriana.

I said, why don't you ask Adriana?

I asked her.

Yes, there's lots of layers to this, and I don't I don't want to even get into the semantics of it, because at this point it's about the theme of the fact that it's shitty behavior, you.

Know, but fans overall are unhappy with the way you've been treated this season.

I didn't even ask Teddy when I tell you, you know what, I just finished recovery.

I have two surgeries, you know, construct reconstructing surgeries.

I was coming into this season like, oh, I'm getting my groove and we're gonna have so much fun.

I don't have to worry about this sea thing anymore.

I'm doing my thing.

I walk into this mess the biggest disappointment.

I was like, I cannot believe I'm in this mess.

I'm getting water thrown in my face, and I'm thinking I'm gonna have my girls backing me up, and like just being like Gertie, we got you, where do you want to go and celebrate you?

And I got the complete opposite for no reason.

So I'm like, wow, like this this was really hurtful.

Do you think it's because they were all being selfish or do you think that it was intentional to hurt you.

I think it's a little bit of everything.

I think it's a little bit of everything.

And I'm sorry that I got attention last year for you know, having cancer.

It's not always the best attention, Like it's really hard, So how how are you feeling?

Like watching you and watching your story has given me a lot of like even when you were talking about physically feeling different, I was like, oh my gosh, I don't feel alone anymore, because I was wondering, like it sounds so silly, but I was like, oh, I can't get botox, and well because I well no, because I still haven't.

Oh so they were like, you got to wait a little bit.

Oh and because it can, like I guess, get into your system a lot more like botox, Fieller and all that kind of stuff.

But I remember a moment of being like feeling so like insecure, like well, I can see my eyebrows lifting, I can see this, And so when you were talking about that, I really felt it.

It's just a lot, and I, like, Russell can only take so much and I feel like I only have like a couple of people that can really go deep into those layers in and I don't want to the people with this crap.

So you're on a show to share your life, and you have other people who are on this show to share their lives.

You think you can intermingle all those things, and I do talk with someone and when I realized that they're not even listening to the basics of like how's how's it going?

And I start talking and then I get interrupted, Like it's just you'll see what got me to the point of like I'm like, I'm just gonna do it right now, Like I was just over I was up to here.

I'm like, they don't listen, they don't want to listen, they don't care.

Just all the feelings of like feeling so like low and I'm like, I'm like, they don't care about me, so so if the system is rigged, blowing blow this spot.

That was That was why I was like, I'm doing it now.

When they go low, you go high.

Well sometimes when they.

Go lower, you go lower.

Yeah.

I'm the one who literally is go Bama, Yeah, Hi, go hi Laura.

Time this time, I'm not going to the pizza hill.

Shit.

Oh you're not my best moment, but you know what it happens.

Yeah, how are you?

How are you overall feeling?

Like just remind just some of our listeners what kind of treatments you ended up having to go through and how long you've.

Been so there is a thing called cancer brain because I looked at the confessional that I did and I said, I have five chemo surgery, five chemo treatment.

I only have four.

And I'm like, what did I say?

Five?

Four chemo brain?

I have it too, but I don't have chemo, so maybe it's yeah, it's a cancer a little Did you have a little shakes?

Did you have a little I had a little bit of everything.

We shake, drop and roll.

Okay, it was a little bit of everything.

But what was the question?

Yeah, I came.

So I had four chemo treatments, twenty radiations.

Now now it's.

Actually up to nine surgeries because I had to do, you know, the whole thing.

So yeah, I and then I take a nastrosol, which is I'm an estrogen receptor, and so I'm taking that from five to ten years, depending on how my body does.

I have hot flashes because it's severe hot flashes the pill I take.

Plus I had to get medical, you know, hysterectomy pulled, so hysterectomy and so those two are screwing up my body and my body is still trying to figure out what happened because I'm not supposed to be in menopause right now, So I take.

A pill to try to counter that.

So I'm like Cinderella, I have seven hours to be okay in the streets.

Yeah, we girl.

Sometimes I cut that pill in half, which I know, doctor, don't don't kill me.

I do cut it didn't happen.

I'm supposed to.

I know, we're going to take this on half because we have a brunch, and we're gonna take it on half because we have a dinner.

So yeah, you just kind of as a.

New medications alone.

Yeah, even like everything that I take is a non narcotic, but I swear they make me feel a certain way.

Yeah, And I don't know that.

Yeah, they don't make me feel a certain way.

Well, and that's result does because it flushes me.

So I do get like the jitters a little bit more because of it.

So I don't know.

And I was already hyper.

So now I'm on ten all the time.

I feel like, you know, but there's nothing I can do about it.

When am I supposed to do?

Yeah, And so you're feeling good, but you're feeling a little hyper.

But are you How often do you have to go in to get rechecked.

Every six months?

Every six months.

I just booked my next mamogram.

Yeah, so every six months I get checked.

What tip would you tell another woman right now who's concerned that something might be going on with them?

Oh, you see something, say something?

Absolutely no reason.

What's the reason to wait?

Because you're losing a day in your life.

You should be gaining one by by getting checked, to be proactive, preactive, you know.

So I think that people should definitely, uh, you know, get a move on it if you haven't gotten checked, because you're scared.

Just it's better to find out now than you're finding out on stage four.

You don't want that heat, Okay, you don't want.

You don't want it.

And because it's different, I have different we have different cancer.

She doesn't have cancer.

Oh god.

But the fact that what age should people be going and getting their MAMMOGRAMD.

I tricked the system, I think.

So I was getting a boot job.

I was getting a boot job after my son, Liam, second son, and then they found a lot of calcification and density, and then the doctors are well before I do the boop job, I need to make sure you're not you don't have anything in you.

So I was like thirty a Liam at thirty thirty.

What is your thirty five?

Yeah, yeah, Liam a thirty five.

So I had my my thing like around thirty seven, I think.

So I had my mamogram before forty, right, and then I had to keep going because of the fact that I was already in the system.

So every year I started going.

So try to pretend you're going to get a boob job and then.

Hopefully and then they'll give it to you a little early.

Never know if you got a lot of density in your breast.

So I got them earlier, so thank god.

Yeah, my gosh, is there any other little tidbits you want to share with us or open up to that you think our listeners would get in.

From listen when here's the thing about it, Like, you know, I wanted my main goal being an advocate for cancer in general, but also to break the stigma of people hiding or not wanting to talk about the sea word, the cancer word.

We need to start normalizing it because one in eight women is going to have cancer, breast cancer, and one in three any type of other cancer.

So someone you know you will be affected in some way, shape or form.

And if we learn anything about last season, okay, you want to be at least empathetic to someone who says they have cancer.

You should know the.

Basic commendments, you know, you know, keep it calm, keep it to yourself, you know, be a little bit more open minded.

Don't be so you know, like try to pretend you're not a doctor because you're not.

Don't question, don't question if the person has it or not, and make it a gossip thing.

There's a lot of things that we can do.

So you don't have you don't have a book.

Right, hold on what congratulations?

So the book I wrote actually, you know, two years, which is recently.

I wrote it after having cancer because I wanted to wait to see how I felt about everything.

And then I had a layer ish of trauma in the past, including the cancer, which was traumatic.

So my book is from trauma to trophies and the unforeseen events that redefined me.

Oh, I need to read.

This is not a cancer book, but the cancer is in there on how it changed me from the gurdy before to Gurdy two point zero.

And so now I'm like, this is for pre order, for pre order, it's for pre order, and it's.

Going to be out by November and hopefully by Bravo, Khan, Can I please have one?

Soon?

I will hook you up with a freaking copy, because I.

Think there are so many things that people don't know and don't understand, and especially even about the way to talk to people when they have Like I always tell all of my friends.

I don't know if maybe this is just me, but I'm like, please stop asking me questions.

You know, I went to the room.

Guess what I asked her.

I said, how is she feeling?

Does she want to talk about anything around the S word?

Yes?

No, okay, And I'm like, Hi, Teddy, how you doing?

Girl?

You open up the conversation.

Yeah, no, I don't mind.

I don't mind that.

But you know when somebody will text you and they'll be like, hey, babe, miss you, how are you feeling?

What's going on?

What is all day?

You just got out of the doctor's office.

Who I'm like, I can barely see, thank you too.

My eyesight too, I can barely see.

Man.

I'm going to need the audio book when I'm doing the audio book as well.

And this book is the beginning of the chapter of me talking to people about the different facets and the next book I'm going to write is about the care vivers.

So Russell's going to get in on that.

Now, what your man is doing, how is he feeling, what is he taking care of?

How is he affected by it?

That is like that blind spot that we feel like it's all about us to wut.

Your sex life going now is much better.

I'm taking a pill, Honey, I took a pill.

I'll tell you about that later.

Need to hear that just in case.

Yes, but like you.

Know, he's dry down there, Okay, I guess, but like Russell with my eyes, I'm all like excited, right, so I'm wet up here and then I'm like dright out there.

So I'm like, hey, you're focus, get it together, clarify.

Yes, I'm ready.

So yeah, there's a lot of things that it's like, you know, happening.

And doctor Jackie from Married to Medicine.

Oh, you know, I'm gonna tease exclusive she makes a cameo.

Oh she does miss a cameo.

I got to call my backup, honey.

I'm like listen, yeah, so you're gonna see a little bit of her.

And she's a two time cancer survivor and so she has a whole sex tools and all that stuff that she sent my way, so you know.

She could tell her to send it my way.

Yeah, you know what, Good for you and your boyfriend's.

I know he's an ex borfriend, but good for you and your future boyfriend or whoever, honey, girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever you want to do.

You have one wife, and who are we to judge people and what they be doing?

Who?

I'm sorry, did you watch the show Dying for Sex?

No?

What is that?

Oh?

My gosh, it's about Michelle Williams and she has Michelle Williams is in it and she had cancer okay, and it's terminal.

Yeah, and it's like all the things she does in her last day, like and just watching that made and granted this is far from where I am, but I think we have to get to a place where we're talking about it.

Break the stigma.

Let's break the stigma.

It's like the way nobody used to talk about ever having a miscarriage, and now we can say it.

And there's eight other.

Abortions, like, you know, there's so many past.

Yeah, we've gotta be starting a podcast, me and Teddie introducing you to you know what.

We we have a come trauma and trophy.

I love it.

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