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So today have a special guest, Lorena.

No, I said it wrong.

Goodnight.

I've been said for like the last ten minutes.

I've been trying to roll my R the way I'm supposed to say it.

Lorena.

You know Lorena Gomez right in?

Your middle name is Alexandre Alexandra.

Yeah, yeah, nice thing.

That's such a pretty name.

Thank you.

How it flows?

You have siblings?

I have a brother.

We're from Puerto Rico and you moved to Florida.

How long have you lived in La I know you live Orange County Ish right, Yeah.

It's going to be seventeen years.

Oh wow, yeah, I don't feel Puerto Rican anymore?

So long do you go back and visit?

Yes?

I go very often.

I just bought my grandparents' house in Puerto Rico.

They passed away two years ago and I was able to do that.

It was a mission I followed through and now we own our house in Puerto Rico.

Congratulations.

So you guys want to move back maybe.

Or not yet.

Everything it's up in the air, especially since I have a baby.

How old your daughter now?

Too?

Okay?

Okay, so she's like baby ish, but like can walk and.

Stuff, can't walk, can't terrorize?

Yeah?

Yeah nice?

And I know you're a comedian too.

How long have you been doing that?

I started two weeks before I found out I was pregnant.

Oh so a little bit later then.

Yeah.

I was like, I didn't know I was pregnant.

And I started taking classes, and while going to a class and I was trying to like riff new content, I try to make a joke about me being pregnant and not wanting to be pregnant, and I started crying, and like everyone was like, is this a joke?

This is not funny.

I'm like, I'm pregnant.

I don't know what to do.

But you didn't know yet.

I knew it.

I found out like right before or a day before, and I'm like, I'm gonna quit comedy.

I don't know what to do.

Like I didn't expect that I was gonna get pregnant.

Well, why did you want to quit?

You can't do it pregnant.

It's just like the stigma in Hollywood, Like I'm not Ali Wong.

I could be like, oh yeah, like I could have three pregnancies and be on stage and rage.

I mean, I literally did not know what I was doing, and obviously, like your body is changing, you're going through like all these hormones and past depression that you like go through too, and you're very vulnerable, like and being on stage and having a belly on stage.

Yeah that and like people are just waiting for you guys to mess up, you know what I mean.

Like I really love comedy shows, but I do stuff.

There's times where I'm like I could feel the tension, like it sometimes it's just not a good crowd where people just don't find anything funny, Like it doesn't matter if the joke's truly funny or not, you know what I mean.

Like there's sometimes where people are just so cold and I can't imagine like being pregnant too, Like that's just yeah, it's emotional.

Just in general.

It was pretty wild, but I excited to keep going.

I'm like, you know what, like this is a test and I really wanted to do comedy and I wasn't gonna give up.

Like I'm very resilient and like no obstacle will comment look in front of me like that would prevent me to Like I don't know if by yourself.

You're a go getter that's what it is.

I try to be, but I I mess up so many times, hit my head on the ground so many times, it's almost funny.

So that's why I do comedy.

Yeah, yes, And how is it like being a mom?

Just in general?

You said your daughter's too and you said that you didn't want to be pregnant, or you did, or you were like you just couldn't decide, like now that she's here, you know.

It's crazy because I've always been like, you know, like free spirited, and you know, culturally like my background, my grandparents race me like Latina culture.

It's like you go to school, you get married, you have kids, like you become this like housewife.

And I was like completely the opposite.

Yeah, So I was like trying to like abide with this role as it was implanted in my brain.

And I did wanted to get married, but I didn't really care, you know.

And then I get married.

I go to my honeymoon and Indonesian Bali and I'm nice, bro, I don't want to have a baby.

I can live here.

I make friends in like every resort.

I was already learning Baliinese like winging it.

And I come back and it was like a week before the pandemic or we like traveled through China or a wet market.

It was called Shaman or something like that, and the pandemic happened.

So when that happened, I was like I told my husband babies, m I don't know, yeah, And he's like, you know, I married you because you said you want to have kids, and I'm like.

Oh damn, and I'm like fuck and at this point, and you guys are just like you're a couple of weeks into the marriage.

Right, yeah, And the pandemic happened, and I was drinking to bottles of wine trying to do and you got.

Pregnant and.

The things like started opening up.

And my husband, he has twins in his family.

And I go back to Puerto Rico and we have like this obg went from the family.

Like i'mlike here, like doctors they really care about like medicating you and the other money they're Puerto Rico actually care about you, and like you can see a doctor until the doctor dies.

And I was like, hey, Doug, what sexual position do I have to do?

So I have twins?

And he's like, well, Lorena, in theory, I liked your enthusiasm.

Yeah, but it doesn't work like that.

Yeah, Like having twins is not that glamorous.

And it's like, you know, at your age you want to have like you know, kids young some women like go on bed rest.

Yeah it's difficult.

Or it could be triplets.

What if you like you just you know, they kick it up a notch and then all of a sudden, it's three.

I choose already a lot.

I would need a straight yeah kid, yeah something.

So he told me like that was gonna take me a while to get pregnant because I was in breath control for so long.

Swear to god, the first month I got off birth control.

Yeah, I swear.

They lie about that, like they're always like, oh, no, you won't get pregnant for a while whatever, and then you just like I always hear that.

Yeah, I think it helps you get pregnant.

It's the birth control as soon as you get off because it's so regulated that and then yeah, you're just ready to go.

That egg is just ready to drop.

But that's exactly what happened.

Oh my god.

So you know, I love that you're from Puerto Rico because we get to talk about the difference between like is your husband.

Puerto Rican from Florida?

Oh Florida?

Yeah, okay, oh why boy?

Not from here?

Because guys here are so well, they're weird.

I was just gonna ask you, is there like a huge difference between dating, you know, just culture wise, or there a difference between like Puerto Rican men.

Yeah.

I like back when I was in Puerto Rico, like if I like the guy and like the costume, would be like you will flirt, throw like kins and then like pray to God that he noticed you, and then he'll do like make the first move.

Whereas like here, I was surfing a lot when I first moved out here, and I would see all this hot men and they would just look at you and like smile, and I'm like what the f like.

Like do you like me?

Like do you like me?

Exactly?

And I was like so like flabbergasted.

I don't even know that word makes sense in English.

Yes, English second language.

But I was talking to like one of my roommates and she's like, Lorena, like, culturally, men here, you approach them.

I know.

It's so it's so annoying.

But the problem is with that is that if I have to approach a man, I already feel like I'm in my in my dominant position and like my masculine position, and that it will never work.

So I feel like that's why marriages last longer in other countries.

But yes, that's how it is.

You have to go up to them.

It's you have to buy them a drink.

You have to like you have to like take them out to like three dates before you.

It's like, you know, the rules are reversed.

It's like you got to take the guy out to get some some sex for them at least three times.

They act all like no, like me for me?

How do you like, do you actually get turned on by that?

I would not to the moment I start talking to them like, I'm like, oh you pussy, Like you're a pussy, but yeah, tell me how you would hit on them.

I used to send you like shots to guys like if I liked them, I saw that they were like noticing me whether I was at a restaurant or like a bar.

I'd send a drink over like seriously, and then they come over, hey, you know you send me like That's what guys used to do to me, And you have to And this is like older meant to not older, but like you know, somewhat older than me.

I have to do that for them.

Or they come over and like they are so like forceful, Like this happens all the time where I'm like chill out.

Like I was actually at Wally's.

Do you know that restaurant sounds familiar?

And my friend's stuff who's over there?

She was there, and we're all sitting there and this guy comes over and he says, hey, my friend wants to show you a magic show.

When he he comes back, come over to him and ask him to see the magic show.

And I said no, Like I'm with my friends and like we could barely ever like get everybody out at once, so like I'm gonna stay here, like I'm not gonna go over to your table.

We're eating.

Then the friend comes over back again, or he's like waving me over.

He's like the guy in the hat, and I'm just ignore him, like what I'm not going to run over to the table and be like, hey, so your friend told me you want to show Like that's so embarrassing for me.

I'm not gonna do that.

And so then the friend comes back over.

He said, you really embarrassed my friend.

He was like, you really embarrassed him.

Can you go to EPLP and meet us there?

I said, tell your friend to come over here and speak to me.

If he wants to take me out, tell him to come over.

Then a third person and another girl come over and was like, Hey, you really embarrassed him.

He really wants you to meet him a EPLP.

And I'm like, bro, come over if you want to speak to me, come over.

You sent four people.

Now, how old was this person?

I don't know.

I never went over.

They were like and the situation got so hostile because they kept begging me to go over to this guy, and I was like, just tell your friend to come over to me.

I'm not gonna go over there.

I'm not.

I have too much pride and I'm alreaty crazy dominant.

Like I'm alreaty crazy dominant.

If you can't come over to me and just be like, hey, what's your number without feeling embarrassed, it's not gonna work.

We're not gonna get past like one sentence, Like seriously, it's.

Crazy because like this isn't the first time that I heard like you know a Cali girl or like culturally, yeah, they entertain that and oh no, no, no, well, I mean after the first person will come to me, yeah, I'll be like, bro, give me out of here, Like yeah, but.

Then like four people like I know, so ridiculous, but that's just how the guys are.

Like they'll send their friend over and be like, hey, do you want to go speak to my friend.

I'm like, no, I want your friend to come over.

I want your friend to come over here.

That's insane, it's so gross.

Oh yeah, Like I tried dating out here and it was just like I got my heart broken and I just started playing the game.

It's crazy.

It is.

It's like it's not worth it.

Just be single.

Well, you're married, you're good.

You're married, and you have your baby.

Don't change the subject.

Does answers.

What the fuck is this piece of shit?

We have hot topics and I really because you have your baby, and I like this one because I don't know many people.

Well, maybe you want to talk about it, but it's about postpartum depression affects everyone in the family, and it says In a new study conducted at the University Wisconsin Madison, professor Tovah Walsh discover that both parents of a new baby struggle with the transition to parenthood.

When in seven women are affected by postpartum, as it turns out, one in ten and feel baby blues.

Also, some men are experiencing a postpartum depression, like it could show by being avoidant, isolating themselves, spending less time with their family, using numbing mechanisms to cope.

This can include drinking or throwing themselves into a lot of work cobbies.

Yeah, so I thought this was interesting that they talked about the husbands or the fathers being affected by postpartum.

I didn't realize that men can also feel like depressed because I know that that has a lot to do with the fluctuation and the hormones that caused the postpartum right, if I'm not wrong, I mean, like, how do you feel about that?

Do you feel like they men do get depressed or like?

So, but by definition based on my understanding, because I had perinatal depression, so yeah, I didn't know that until like I went through so peri natal the depression is while you're pregnant, before giving birth, you get depressed.

Yeah, because of the hormones.

I got hormones denial, like I honestly like I was just in like another planet.

Comedy really helped me in writing.

And then postpartum was worse because I had lost, you know, to my grandparents.

Yeah, maybe just depression in general though all of it so like I was almost like hospitalized because I couldn't like function, but I was like I.

Kept going and going and going.

Yeah, but by.

Definition, postpart and depression is like when a woman.

I mean it's controversial obviously, like, but based on my subjective understanding of what it is, you're grieving your whole self, You're losing hormones and like just understanding that your life will never be again.

All the changes that the woman's body go through is insane.

Like it took me two years to actually feel back to myself.

But back to myself is not true because it's a new self.

It's a new self exactly.

So like when I first started talking about like postpartum depression, I was at this like birthday and one mom approached me and she's like, my husband has postpartum depression.

And obviously, like if you hear in on the streets or whatever, like men are gonna be like what It's like, I'm macho man get depressed, and like he started talking to me and he's like the way he was experiencing it sounded again not to like minimalize like what it was like going through, but it was just like a confusion and like I guess, like when you're in sync with your your partner or whatever, you go through like that highs and lows of like what pregnancy is.

Thankfully my my husband did not go through that.

But science it's completely different, Like, yeah, hasn't been talked much about like what men go through.

But at this point in time, you know, you haven't heard anything, Like getting help in California for postpartum depression for women is nearly impossible.

Yeah, like is there a medication that helps it?

They just subscribe like regular antidepressants, or do they regulate the hormones or do they do it all or they there's nothing even they just say watch it see because postpartum depression is actually dangerous.

There's there's sadly, there's women that have actually killed their children because they haven't been able to manage it, or it's been ignored, like people can lose their marriages due to it, and or you just can't even be a mother yeah, and do you.

Nail that's I went through everything.

It's a thing con like I'm not my baby is not everything, even though she drives me insane because she's me, but she looks like my husband, which is insane.

It was just a real like something in my body, like a shadow in my body.

I was scared all the time, Like I will look at her and I'll be like, oh my god, like what if if I grab a pillow?

And I know it might be triggering to people, but like these are I read so much about it, like if I suffocate my baby or like part of my comedy thing is like making fun of like what I went through, and like sometimes I would fantasize about walking into the four or five, like I just want to party.

So sorry and looking for help, like I like one of my good friends in comedy she like she's really good friends with a comedian and she found really good help in Malibu and like and it's not even like focused on postpartum depression, but the care there for depression is so good.

Yeah, so there's really not help like for I'm so sorry.

I'm gonna have to like you know, when this comes out, I'm gonna have to do some research, honestly and see if there's even some things that we can put at the bottom for, like, you know, mothers that are struggling like a one eight hundred or something.

Because yeah, I have a family member that she never recovered from postpartum depression.

She lost her child.

He's in you know, the foster system.

She went on drugs, and I was like her, I remember when she had them.

I'm like, her depression is so bad.

She like she actually tried to run in front of a car at one point, and we're like, we thought it was every mental illness, you know, and I'm looking back, I'm like, that was postpartum depression that nobody wants to like they'll just say like, okay, then now your schizophrenic.

It jumps, you know.

It's never like let's medicate this person.

And and I'm really happy that you're you're better now, I really am.

It's like it took so long.

Yeah, I mean I tried like medication, accupuncture, I mean everything, because I was very committed to like be better, be better.

I'm not saying like other women are not.

Yeah, but it's so strong, so so strong that I never thought I was gonna get out of it, like I literally they didn't think I was gonna make it another day.

Yeah.

And you know what doctors need to do too.

I think it's like they want to explain everything to you while you're pregnant, but what they don't want to explain is postpart of depression.

I think that they need to like like hammer that I did people too, so they can like almost like be like, oh wait, that's what I have, because I think that it's hard for people to figure that part out.

You know, my brain doesn't jump like when I'm depressed, like oh I'm actually depressed.

I just think I'm being weird yep.

You know, like literally I'm like, oh my god, I'm just being so weird.

I can't control myself.

But it's never like oh wait, I'm depressed right now or whatever, and.

The weirdness I can totally relate.

I'm like, oh, what is wrong with me?

And it's like, oh, it's like a normal thing that humans face.

And here, like doctors, they just give you a pamphlet.

Yeah no, they're like, Okay, this is postpart on depression.

This is postpartum blues.

Because there's blues and the depression if there's a difference.

Sometimes the blues I'm guessing is just like you're just a little sad.

It's like I think it's like a ten days post like yeah, like post like giving birth to your baby.

But then once it gets over two weeks, then it's like considered depression.

But again, everything's just like it's no black and white when it comes to mental health, like you still can figure out like when doctors medicate you, like they don't know exactly like one neural transmitter, like.

Which one works?

Yeah, because there's no study, like no one can like really go into your brain and be like, oh, this person is like in this and that it's very like subjective to whoever is caring.

For you, I know, and like yeah, then they'll be like try this medication, try this one, try this one, and then now you're really crazy with the brain patterns because you've tried three different medications.

Like and also like do you go to a psychologist when you have postpartum or do you go to your your ob and ask them about like what to do you know, because it has to do with that.

I feel like there needs to be a postpartum doctor specifically, Like literally I think there needs to be someone that's like specializes just in most part of.

I literally search for so much help, Like I swear I if I could have gotten the Pope's number.

I would help me.

What it's crazy about?

When you get out of the obg y N, do you have like the six month or the six week visit and like that one is like the green.

Light I can have sex again.

Yeah.

I didn't even wait either, Like do people do that like.

This, like you think like two weeks is long enough or it just depends on the person.

Obviously I probably had like a vibrater that oh you're not even allowed to masturbate.

Oh yeah yeah.

But like luckily, my my rupture was like very I was very lucky in terms of like given birth and everything, but what came after I'd rather have my my vagina and my buck become one.

I'm not sorry, please, I know, I'm like, I don't want to do it.

Cut that out, please, sorry, Well that's not you.

You don't have it's not a psy outomy is where they ye think.

Yeah, so basically I didn't make it for six weeks jumping into it, and then what they do is they give you a pamphlet of like ten questions like from one to ten, I agree or strongly disagree, like have you thought of like killing yourself?

And then like I mean, it's a questioner.

I'm like giving you the gist of like ten.

Or well, first off, who's gonna markt ten?

That's truly feeling that way.

Nobody's gonna you know what I mean, like you that's not a good I don't think just handing anyway.

Sorry, go on, Oh.

No, no, you're right, you're right, Like that's not a true gauge of like mental health assessments, especially when you have a kid.

If you put like I am thinking about doing this or that, or like I'm super depressed, I can't live another day.

They're gonna take your kid away.

That's true.

Yeah, they're gonna take your kid away.

So it's like you have to kind of lie because.

I didn't even think about that.

And I have a commun friend that I would like tell them, and she was she will be like, hey, Lorena, like be very careful with that because they do, like the system just takes care of or will get take them away.

They will.

Yeah, So I had to like really navigate that carefully.

But Luckily I have, like I found, I went to group therapy.

I went to mom groups in Orange County, which were completely unrelatable because obvious reasons.

But I honestly did it all and I do want to help other women that are going through that you should.

I don't know if there's like charities, I don't know, you know, I'm a I like this site called better Help.

It's almost like, you know, a zoctoc is kind of like anyways, it's just for therapists and like even I think just like cheaming up with them and like because so people can get therapists and talk about it and it's like one hundred and fifty for people like for one session that's very cheap, you know, and like just little things like that because or just making reels.

I don't know, I like, you know, and just really yeah, obviously I don't have a kid, so but like if I were to have POSTPARTU oppression, I feel like that's where I would go.

Unfortunately, is like online trying to figure out like what I can do and like stuff like that could really be and it could be healing for you too.

Totally, yeah, I've heard of Better Help.

What scaries me too.

Is that being online and like talking about subjects like this, it's a very dark place.

Yeah, and a lot oftentimes, you know, a lot of people have really like ill intentions and like they would try to like attack your point of view on certain things based on like your skill set or like yeah, of course your education.

And it's just very crazy like navigate the media and trying to like figure out how to like portray a message that comes out to be positive very objectively, I know, with minimal opportunities for trolls to like come in because at the end.

Of its possible, Yeah, that doesn't exist.

It doesn't exist.

You could say something that's so nice and there's nothing that anyone could twist and they will absolutely find a way or they'll just comment on the way you look and then and then you know, be like destroy you in that way if they can't figure out what to pick through on what you said.

That doesn't help depression.

You know.

Actually, now that I'm thinking about what I just recommended you, no no, no, no, I mean you shouldn't do that based on your like skill.

Set and like what you know, like obviously like you gave really good advice and have you dealt with a lot of hate from like people online.

Ya, how do you navigate that?

It's been ten years of it, so I feel like and I was like severely bullied in high school, like they would try to beat me up every day, likes very very violent and very like just horrible.

And I'm used to that since fifteen, So if anything, I use it as fuel now.

Like I had this magazine that told me that I was supposed to shit the cover of it, and they're just like, you know, so rude.

The pr person was just going in, you're disgusting your blah blah blah, and I actually sat there and I was like, I'm gonna cry, Like I've never had someone speak to me like this, And I was like, I'm gonna use it as fuel because guess what, I bet you one day I can absolutely get on the cover of that and I won't even say the name, but I bet you I will be able to just because you pissed me off enough.

So I do use it as feel I don't.

Yeah, it doesn't affect me.

That's good.

It really doesn't.

But before it used to, like people would comment like I could have like one stretch mark like on my hip writs, normal people would be like I see a stretch mark or I'm like eighteen.

You know, it really did.

There was times where I felt very sad.

Didn't grow all about here.

No, I grew up in Ohio.

Oh yeah, yoah.

And now that's like a slang for gen Z.

So Ohio.

Everybody hates Ohio.

No something gross huh Ohio, like.

Like it's it's lame and it's insane, like they associate whatever gen Z is going to ruin our lives.

Yeah, I don't know what generation I am.

Am.

I I think I might be a gen Z.

Am I a gen Z.

I'm ninety six.

You're millennial for a couple of then yous a millennial?

Then okay, good, I want to be a millennial, right, that's better whatever you.

Want to be okay.

No, I mean and obviously like your success like goes beyond like any Ohio term.

But it's funny what we were talking about the Ohio.

Term and getting bullied in Ohio, Like I I don't know if I want to raise my child in California.

I could not even know.

No, imagine, I think you should homeschool.

I think I was thinking, oh my god, thank you thank you.

And there's so many different homeschool little groups and I'm learning more and more about it just through people like you and like saying it like where they can socialize.

It's almost like borderline going to school but small groups and stuff like that.

But I cannot imagine how mean kids are today.

I can't imagine it, and they were pretty mean.

If they have resources for homeschool or no, people, please let me know.

I will because seriously, I hopeful talking about it.

And when do they have to go to school?

Like is it like you have a couple of years obviously, so I like.

I have friends that you know, a year and a half two years are already like in school and see them with universe.

That's for me is like truing and like the stories that I hear and like I want to make sure, like if it comes down to her being in school in the system one, it's gonna be private schooling.

Not to sound like no pretentious, it just has.

To be like that homeschool.

And I tell people and like they're looking they're looking at me like oh yeah great, And I'm like I am, who I am gonna be pretty school homeschool And I want to make sure that she talks, because there's so many like Sakos out there, and I've heard stories and it's just like, I don't know.

Being a parent is the craziest thing.

Like you give birth to your biggest weakness in your life and it's beautiful.

I don't want to do it.

Everybody that I have.

The more days that pass and the order I get, I'm just like.

Don't feel pressure by like the system or like whatever.

I mean, I feel the opposite.

Yeah, like I don't want to do it at all.

Good for you, Like not a lot of people know what they want and what they want to accomplish.

I think I'm good.

I froze my eggs.

I talk a lot about it.

I froze my eggs.

So so I feel like I happened two.

I'm forty five, amazing.

I feel like that's so, you have an egg supply, you're you have a successful podcast.

Life is good.

Yeah, it's good.

All right.

So we have some fan questions.

I twenty male, recently got into a fight with my girlfriend when I said that Sabrina Carpenter was my Hollywood wife as a joke.

She does the same thing with a bunch of hot guys and movies and TVs.

I never thought anything of it when she says it, it's just a joke and not that deep.

Now that I've made this joke, she's accused me of actually loving her that I'm probably cheating on her.

It feels like a crazy double standard.

I'm pissed about it.

What should I do?

Do you think it's a double standard?

What do you think you should do?

I really do think it's a double standard.

But I guess like there's like a like a ridden rule.

You know, guys are not supposed to say that.

Any anything about women whatsoever, never ever.

You are a version like that's like it should be never ever.

But I do think it's a double standard.

Oh, that really is.

I feel like oftentimes, like when people get so mad about certain things like that they're projecting, Yeah, so what is that person doing that is so jealous?

Maybe she's dming the hot guys that.

She likes and yeah, not adding fuel to the fire.

It's like when you're like very secure in your relationship, like, yeah, you have like insecurities often, but it sounds that like they're young.

And they have to like twenty eight mail.

They're not that young.

I'm mean, twenty maile in California might as well be eighteen.

Yeah, yeah, you're right, You're right.

Okay, So the next question is I went on a trip to Vegas with my husband only to find him missing at two am, with our bank account draamed.

My husband and I took a last minute vacation to Vegas to see a show I've been dying to see.

Right after the show, I got super tired, so I want to to the room, and he said he was gonna go gamble for a bit and then come up.

Hours passed, he never came up to the room.

Around two am, I tried to find him, but his location was off.

He wasn't picking up his phone.

Shortly after, I saw that there was a three thousand dollars charge to our shared bank account to the strip club in our hotel.

About an hour later, he stumbles into the in our room, piss drunk and says it's not a big deal and nothing sexual happened.

I don't believe him, and I'm furious.

We've been married for five years and I'm wondering if I should stay or leave him.

Help.

First off, I thought they were which is no better.

I thought he was gonna drain the bank account just from doing slots or something.

But this strip club twist is crazy because he could drain the bank account at a strip club wherever they live.

They don't got to go to Vegas for that.

The first thing I would ask is like, give me like the receipt.

With well, what if she do, it's already out of the bank account.

Yeah, return, like call the and say this was a fraud.

Oh no, just like being like give me an atomize.

Oh yeah, I'm kidding like that.

It's impossible, but yeah, it's completely sketchy.

I would suggest therapy.

Mature answer.

Yeah, simply because like when you go to Vegas after five years married, like you go to Vegas as a couple, like you should be able to like have fun together and like have a healthy balance of.

Like shows gambles.

Yeah, maybe they go to the strip club together whatever.

And yeah, him turning the location off, that shows malicious intent.

So that gave it away.

I think that he was seeing an escort.

That's why the location was off.

Is that he found an escort actually at the strip club, and that's really what the charge is and that's why his location's off.

I mean maybe because he didn't want to admit that he was at the strip club all night, but he was gonna have to because of the charge.

I think he did like a good stripper home.

Yeah, it's like super sketchy, three thousand dollars in Vegas before.

That, should she stay married?

I would get an SDD test before making that this issue.

Wow that yeah, yeah, just jumped there.

It was therapy and now it's an STD.

Yes.

At the end of the day, Like when someone acts like that, it comes from a place of like disrespect.

Yeah, if like your partners stop respecting you, Like, how are you going to take care of yourself?

Right?

I hate to say it, but I'd get a divorce over that.

And it's not because you went to the strip club.

It's because of the lack of like responsibility and the money.

She said, drain bank account.

So it sounds like that's all they had in their bank account.

Like that lack of like you said, respect and like just boundaries and control.

I don't want to stay married to someone like that, you know.

And I take money very seriously in a relationship, Like I feel like it shouldn't be something to just like let's just this one person spends it this other person work, you know what I mean, Like I don't like any of that.

I'd get divorced.

I get divorced.

I really would, I agree, I mean I would definitely go there.

Yeah, yeah, I am like, because he's going to.

Do it again, Like it's he's going to do it again one percent, especially when if he's drunk, like he can't control himself by himself.

It's not like he was there with his friends.

They went as a couple.

That's so weird.

It's so weird.

All right, guys, So thank you so much.

Lorena, Lorena, Lorena.

Right or no what you learn?

Yeah, thank you coming today.

You're amazing, And thank you so much for talking about the postpartum depression.

That's something that I haven't had on this podcast.

And there's a lot of women and moms and stuff on it, and I think they need to hear about It's okay if you are depressed like that, and I'm going to really try to find some stuff to you know.

Help them, help them, please do Yeah, especially if you have like the following and the Yeah.

I will absolutely anything like that.

I really, I'll definitely.

Thank you Elsa so they can find me at my IG and TikTok is at Lorena from Puerto Rico.

I have a show on Tuesday.

It's called d Cups.

I'm trying to like work the the final details, but I'll send that over is in West Halliday.

That's oh, I was gonna say, that's in person, right, yeah.

Person, But yeah, like I post all my shows and like upcoming shows on my IG or in my IG whatever and on.

But yeah, we'd love to keep talking to you.

Yeah, absolutely absolutely.

I'll let you know anytime I'm in your area and then let me know whenever you're here.

I guess you'll be in West Hollywood soon, but yeah, let's definitely stay in touch.

Amazing, Yeah, thank you, thank you.

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