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Jesse James Why decided to go to rehab?

I think like things like life and I think there was certain stuff that like, you know, I'd got myself in similar situations for years, not with adultery, but just with getting myself in trouble and drinking.

And like, you know, I think drinking for so many years was a giant Band-Aid for, for stuff in my life.

And then once I, once I quit drinking, I filled it up with just like overworking myself and working myself till I was delirious and like, you know, and I think I've since working so much, you know, I felt a lot of resentment towards other people and it just like it was just a bad situation, you know, and they're like wasn't the best dad, you know, I, I just might just couldn't make it work, you know, and I think stress and everything else, like actually Dan talked me into it, you know, said, man, maybe you should go get some help.

Did he?

Yeah, you know, and it and you know.

Oh, you, I don't need no help, you know.

But then when you're all by yourself in my shop and there's a million paparazzi and I can't go anywhere and everybody hates me and I don't have any friends, and you start feeling like the weight of the world, you know, wasn't a nervous breakdown or anything.

It was like that.

It was just like, man, you know, how is this happening?

Why, you know, And it's if it was something that I didn't 'cause myself, then I think it would be easier to digest, you know, why why me, you know, like, but it wasn't why me?

It was like, hey, me, me, you know, I did it.

You know, I created this tornado, a bull for myself.

So like, how do I fix this?

How do I be, you know, and like just got in my car and drove there 4:00 in the morning, told Carla, hey, you got to watch the kids and split.

Didn't tell anybody I was going, didn't do anything.

And I went and like, let me tell you, man, it's the best gift you could ever give to yourself.

If you've suffered any kind of like abuse as a kid or drug abuse or anything like that, to go give yourself the I didn't even know what was wrong.

I sat there the first couple days, like look at all these stupid, you know, depression and like I, I'm not, I'm not like that, you know, I'm, I'm fine, you know, but you know, but I'm the guy that like just ruined my marriage because I banged some stripper.

So, you know, it ruined my life.

So there's got to be some kind of flaw in my personality that made me like think that was OK, you know?

So, so I went and it it's the best ever.

How did it make you feel the first time you opened up in a group setting?

Oh, it, it was good, you know, that it was a, it was kind of it all of a sudden, once you put no one ever, they don't go in there.

All this is, oh, look at your, this is what's wrong with you.

This is what you did.

They don't do that, you know, they like make you have to realize it for yourself, you know, and for 3/4 of the process, you're still like kind of man, what, what, why did I do that?

Why did I do that?

And all of a sudden, man, it just clicks like, oh, this is what happens, you know, and it's, it's you know, and like the kind of upbringing and the kind of stuff that I was around is like basically the same stuff that like, you know, you know, career felons and, and people on death row and stuff have, you know, they go through the same kind of like abuse and trauma and stuff like that.

That's what you create out of those kids, you know, and like, for me to like kind of pull through it and like, you know, see it for what it really is.

And like, I owed it to my kids.

That's I, you know, I did it for myself first and foremost.

But you know what, I owed it to my kids to like be 100% the best dad I could be, you know, and like do the put in the hard work, you know, three therapy sessions a day, sometimes 4, you know, to like, you know, you can't, you can't pull the weed out unless you get the root.

You know, you got to go in there and like figure out what the problem is and what what you need to do and rectify and then basically and leave it all there.

Describe the role-playing exercise you participated in.

That was 1 that sucked 'cause I like I had a a girl you like each member in the group, like becomes a member of your family or particular instance in your life.

And like a girl was me and like she was me at 7 years old when my dad broke my arm.

And so like, you know, like to stand back and see her act me out, Man, it was powerful.

It like really got me because I think you're, you know, you just when some stuff like that happens to kids, you either like turn to like milk toast or you get tough.

And I got tough.

You know, I was a tough mean kid.

Like no one, you know, I didn't fear anything and I could fight my way out of anything.

And if I didn't have something, I stole it.

So like that, that's how it was.

And I think that stuff, all that tough guy stuff was a big masquerade for like, there's this kid that's like scared of his dad's going to beat out of him, you know?

And like, you don't really realizing it later and doing something about it, you know, that's what I did.

How much different is life today than it was then?

Well, I still have the same welder and it still works exactly the same.

So not much different in that respect.

I, I think I'm a better person.

I think I've embraced my craftsmanship in my life more and like, you know, five years after the fact, you know, it's like AI think I, I could have went one way or the other and I think I've made the right decision.

I mean, stepping out here and seeing where I work every day, it's like, why did you move from California?

It's like, duh, look how awesome it is here.

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