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Questions you're ready for you Number one says Hey Granger, I saw on one of your reels on Facebook or Maverick does five pushups for saying yeah instead of yes, sir.

I'm wondering why you do this.

I don't know if you're still reading emails on the podcast, but if you are, I would really appreciate it if you explain this one to me.

Thank you for your time.

Well, just so happens, Granger does answer emails, not on the regular podcast, but now here on Friday.

They're not aware of Friday.

They are now they're going to learn today.

That's right.

Yeah, Actually I actually liked this question.

So the yes sir thing came from my dad, and you know that was I don't know, a generation where it was important.

His brother was a marine.

My dad was a little too young to be in Vietnam, but he was in the Core at Texas A and M I don't know Dad was, so was my brother Parker in the core.

It's instilled.

I mean, as a freshman, you you use sir, sandwiches.

Sir sandwiches.

Yeah, okay, call it.

So it's like sir, and then you answer and then you okay, got it.

So it starts sir.

It has to start an end with sir, Sir sandwiches.

Yeah.

So so I don't know exactly if that's where it all came from, but I think And then there were there were several dads in my friend group growing up in Dallas, especially through football, because in football we called our coaches sir also, and it was just uh instilled early that we need to speak to the elders with sir.

Not the elders of the church, but the elder people with sir or maam or ma'am.

And and so I started doing that with my kids.

It's it was such a habit with me that I still say it to people, you know, sometimes even people that are younger than me.

I'll just say it.

If I go to Canada, sometimes they are they're offended by it, are they?

Oh yeah, Canada or people up north even in the US will be like, please don't that is offensive to me.

I didn't think Canadians ever got offended.

Maybe offensive it is too too strong a word.

So I started to start doing with my kids and and I I will make them do push ups or London burpies if they mess up.

And that seems to be the thing, like Maverick will say it all that he's really good at saying yes sir now or yes ma'am now.

And I posted that on Facebook.

There were actually a lot of people that really hated that too.

Oh did they you get some There.

Were people that were like, I understand the respect thing, but when a little boy's out with his daddy walking in the woods, playing on a swinging gate, can't he let his guard down for a minute and not say yes sir?

Why does it have to be so structured just in a nice little country walk with his daddy, you know?

So I get that sentiment.

I understand that, but she doesn't understand the dynamic of our house because Maverick doesn't feel like that's an oppressive thing.

It doesn't feel like he's being forced to be rigid.

It's instead it's just communicating a level of respect that is that he must earn my respect, and that comes through the way we speak and the way we the way we talk to each other.

And we live in a world now that is just so casual with our speech.

We've completely lost all formality like he in other language, like in the Spanish language, you'll there's there's built in formality, sure, and and in our English language there's not really And so we've gotten so casual.

Yeah yeah, no, sure, yeah, no, nah you go.

Have you gotten BRO from your kids yet?

Bro?

Oh yeah.

I did get BRO from Lincoln the other day and he owed me twenty push ups immediately.

Bro.

So it's not a matter of me needing it from them.

I don't need it.

This is similar to similar to the Lord.

If you think about God, God doesn't need glory, right, He is glory, He is glory.

He doesn't need any more of it.

Yeah, but he as we glorify him and he gets the glory from us.

We are blessed in that.

So that's one way to say it.

And so my kids, when I invite them into this level of respect with me, I'm loving them because I also know I told Lincoln this.

I said, you don't know this, but by you developing a habit of respect, of looking in the eye of shaking hands, yes, sir, no, sir, speaking clearly, you're setting yourself up for deep, respected relationships with coaches, teachers, and future bosses at a level you can't possibly begin.

You can't understand this right now, but it would be unloving if I didn't tell you I could set you up to be respected among among people.

I could set you up right now.

Now go back to the little walk, the casual walk in the woods, now which one is loving me to just let Maverick be have slaying and casual language with his dad, or to make it we're even in the most intimate moments, he still remembers respect and what will be lasting for him, and so is it?

Would it be loving for me to just let it slide, or to say I love you so much that even in the quiet moments, let's remain faithful.

That's so good.

That's so good, and it makes that it brings that intimate relationship that he has with you to reflect it in the other relationships that he has outside people he's just met, and he calls them yes, sir.

Yes, And ultimately all of it pointing to our relationship with the Lord for sure, that if we could be faithful in the small things, then then we could be trusted with the bigger things.

That's great I hope that I answered your question.

There number two, here we've got Hey Granger.

My name is Andrew.

I'm a college student.

I'm a big fan of the podcast and really appreciate the way that you give advice from a Christian perspective.

I was recently broken up with by my girlfriend of almost two years.

She says she needed time to figure out what she wants in life.

Part of me understands that, but it still hurts.

I feel like two years should be enough to know if I'm the guy that she wants to be with.

She said she's not sure if this is temporary or iful, if we'll ever get back together, And honestly, I was caught off guard.

Now deep down I thought she might be the one.

What advice would you give someone in my position?

Should I hold onto the hope that she'll come back?

And what about all the little things Snapchat sharing locations, pictures of us and so on.

Thanks for everything that you do, Andrew.

We're going like old school on some of the ostry.

This feels like grad Smith podcast one on one right here, twenty nineteen.

There you go, she gone yep, and you should let her stay that way, Let her stay that way, delete the pictures of her, stop sharing your location.

Oh that should have been the first thing we did.

It should have been the first.

Oh you gone okay on a second?

Yeah, not only should you unfollow her on Snapchat, but then you should delete Snapchat because you don't need Snapchat.

That's what we're going to meet.

The next one's gonna be on Snapchat.

Let me let me have a little charity for you, Andrew.

I understand, brother, I know we've all been there at some level.

You got broken up with by a girl, you had been dating her for two years.

You feel like two years should be enough time to know who she wants to be with, and you're feeling it's correct.

Yea, it should have been long enough.

It should have been long enough.

It is long enough.

She didn't love you, she didn't want you.

Six months, six months, it's kind of like, yes, this is going somewhere right.

So here's the here's the key.

She said she's not sure if this is temporar or if we'll ever get back together.

And I was caught off guard by that.

Well, she's just saying it to be because she's letting you down softly, trying to be nice, and there might be sure a shred of truth to maybe we'll get back together again.

But the reality is she doesn't want you.

She's probably found somebody new, or she's bored with you.

But those are all the things that she's not going to tell you because it sounds too harsh.

But it's okay just to realize time to block her, time to delete the numbers so that you could start to heal, and enough time goes by with you out of contact with her and you will heal.

Yep, I agree with that.

Hope that helps.

Andrew here Gil, that's our right emails for today.

Those are good emails.

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