Episode Transcript
Look man, oh, I see you my own look over there is that culture.
Yes, lost, cult ding lost.
Here's the thing that happened.
Speaker 2Happened.
We're keeping it.
Speaker 1Lost.
Speaker 3I think the reason why I did that is because the thing that you don't know is that last cat like has been happening.
Speaker 1It's been happening.
Speaker 2That beautiful.
Speaker 1What a great spin.
Speaker 2Thank you.
Speaker 3I'm getting good the spin the more I'm in the buz.
No, I literally hit the ground.
Speaker 1Yes, there's something about our guests that idiot Devey.
Yes, gay man in his thirties.
Speaker 2Oh baby, let me tell you something.
Speaker 3The way I was up at seven, I actually woke up and like kind of shot you will up at seven?
Two?
Speaker 1Has your dreat lag by the way, I think, I'm okay, you need not sponsored time shifter, you need time shift.
That as my dreat light app Okay, you know what I did.
Speaker 2Do NQO.
Speaker 3And that actually show it was a roll of the dice.
But I mean I slept for at least a hard six and a half.
Great, but that doesn't even compare to what happened to our guests.
Speaker 1Right.
Speaker 3Oh, I think she said three hours, fifteen minutes, twenty minutes, three and a half hours because the world premiere of Megan two point ero was.
Speaker 1The world premiere of Megan two point oh was last night.
I was privileged enough to watch it from the comfort of my own home.
Oh my god, with Sudie Green.
Oh you did, and we were both like, this is it's art, this is fucking artful.
There's a moment.
There's so many things that I want to spoil that I can't, but there's just a moment.
I'll say, there is a moment that pays tribute to an important musical artist and it's and it's sublime.
You're gonna have to tell me after.
I'll tell you after.
No, I actually can't tell you because all of you.
Speaker 2So it is a call to action, everyone listening me to.
Speaker 3The theater, Now to the theater, now our guests to me.
Speaker 1Do you think people are gonna go?
I was like, girl, of course they're gonna go.
Here's the thing.
Speaker 3If I went to a horror movie in the theater, which I did for the first one formative memory, then you know people are going like if me, Matt Rogers went to a horror film, went to a horror film, and I'm working myself up from this one.
And this is the thing about our guests.
Bona fide scream quick I said it deserved Oscar nomination for get Out.
I said that movie like obviously works for many reasons, but one of the key components is the fact that our guest's performance is so good, perfect casting, perfect, perfect like and just like the niche that we found here.
Speaker 2And obviously we haven't even said the word Marnie yet.
Speaker 3This the best character one in television history, one of the great.
You could never have sung stronger like that.
You could never have left the checkpoints go by like that, like Marnie.
Speaker 2You could never have.
Speaker 1Had a panic and Central Park episode.
You were too self conscious to ever be Marnie.
You know you know what line where you kind of like ping ping pings in my head?
What I'm Megitai.
Speaker 2Gita, everyone please, I'm laughing so hard my c section.
Speaker 1Please don't don't.
Speaker 2A good way.
It's old.
Now.
Speaker 3This is the thing, like immediate warm vibes towards you, and that makes me so I.
Speaker 2Literally feel like I've known you for years.
I've also been listening for years.
You are my culture.
You are it's surreal to be here.
I almost forgot that I was going to participate because I'm just watching what I watch all the time.
How do you feel about that?
Okay, I'm it's obviously an honor, and it's also yeah, because I'm like, well, the whole bit is that I'm not cool, and so it's like a very it's a real bull's eye of a an Angie k as a recipient is like an honor beyond belief, as a real Housewives of Salt Lake City, like fanatic.
I just can't these guys know.
I already told them I met Meredith last night, you guys, and you had the same reaction as bone Yang at the Fire Island.
I had to stop talking to her because I was like, I can't.
My system isn't ready for it.
No one prepared me.
No one was like, just so you know, you may also have to have a reserve amount of energy to interact with Meredith Marks at this and.
Speaker 3No one can prepare you for meeting Meredith Marks.
It's actually really culture number three.
No one can prepare you for meeting Meredith Mars.
It's just gonna happen one day.
Speaker 2True, even if I had had all the time in the world, right.
Speaker 1No, this is the thing about the Alison Williams.
Speaker 2Cool Girl Award.
Speaker 3It's about it's about iconography, it's about being a symbol.
Speaker 2And can I tell you it's That's what I think it means.
Speaker 3And that's why Angie k won it is because she, I think, came into came into the lexicon as one thing and then superseded that.
And I feel like when we met you as Marnie, like we all kind of like had a reaction, right because Marnie.
Speaker 2The reaction that was, don't be a Marnie.
In your old apartment, I had.
Speaker 1Sign bonyang had a sign that said, don't be a Marnie.
My roommate Mike Spence wrote it was really his yea, yes, But you want to know why I remembered it because I always forgot.
I always forgot not to be a Marnie.
Speaker 2But we can't avoid it sometimes.
Speaker 1Do you feel this way though I'm sure you feel this way, like I'm sure you feel this way, is there is something about Marnie that is like all all of us have this urgency, this like danger around not being Marnie because we all are.
Speaker 2That is the thing.
I made these mugs for the last season of the show as gifts, and I made one for each character and like it was I'm a Jessa It's fabulous, and I'm a show It's OMG.
And the one for Marnie was I'm a Marnie it's a bummer.
Yeah, and everyone who got them, I gave them to the people who felt like Marnie's and they were like, yeah, thank you.
I mean yeah, So that was the vibe.
I think it was too close.
Gen Z is like she's self self care, she's got boundaries.
They have like new vocabulary for this, and Millennial we were just like we can't.
It's too close, like looking into the sun.
I can't look at this person right now.
You want to know what it's too much.
Speaker 3Another thing was like I think it took me about a season and a half to realize that Marnie was Like I think I was like, because like you get you join the show and it's like there's Hannah being Hannah and she's like a mess and she's the protagonist and you start the show like with a job with a boyfriend, and then things crumble away.
Yes, so it took me a second, as did everyone else, to realize like, oh, Marnie is the mess character, and I had already lashed onto her a different way, so we were like, it's sort of a Carrie Bradshaws thing of.
Speaker 1Like, don't do that, We're not that.
Speaker 2What do you mean?
What are you doing that?
You have clean lines, you know how to do your hair.
Speaker 3And then all of a sudden she sang, she's singing stronger, and it's like at someone else's office party.
But I couldn't laugh at it the time because it was too close.
Now, every single Marny line is a laugh line.
Speaker 2That makes me so happy.
It's honestly, like, what a pleasure.
It was so fun to do the first time around, And now I get to talk about it as if I'm like actively promoting it, as if it's airing currently.
It's so fun.
Speaker 1What do you make of this?
Like real resurgence of girls?
Speaker 2It's the best.
I think it's a little bit of what I was describing to you, like there's enough distance.
First of all, our version of New York City is like all we were worried about was like rent roommate's boyfriends.
There wasn't like existential I mean, there were people having existential fears, and that was one of the criticisms of the show, and we did not display that experience of living in New York City at the time.
Lena wrote what she knew, which was like those that level of problem there is now we live in such a hell that there is such an aspirational quality to being like the biggest thing I'm worried about is Rent and boyfriend exactly, And am I into art history and Ann Taylor Loft and like all of those questions and not like can I stay in this country?
Right?
You know those kinds of questions or like do people recognize that I'm a human?
Right?
Speaker 1But you know that's the world, which is what we love about exactly exactly.
Speaker 2But I really do think it feels now in a way that it felt so real and like grungy that people found it hard to watch.
I think it now feels like almost aspirationally, like low stake human level conflict.
Speaker 3Yeah.
I remember at the time feeling like, wow, the show really sees the reality, And now I'm like, WHOA, the show really saw the reality of like having that sort of like I guess like Obama core Obama era aspiration, like thinking.
Speaker 2You are one thing but so being another.
Speaker 3You cannot see yourself, because that's really what the four of them were.
They were just examples of not being able to see yourself in that environment and us being like, I guess fresh NYU grads like living in those areas exactly just the and I don't mean sweaty as in like I mean literally sweaty vibes of the show.
Speaker 2Not knowing how to take care of your like body or anything like not knowing to drink water, and just like because a new person, Yes, yeah, I feel like it was.
It was so fun to make, and it was really intense obviously for a lot of reasons.
It was a loud show.
Like every episode that aired, this is I'm gonna spoil one of my I don't think so, honey, one of us.
Here's one of the seventh is the lack of monoculture.
I miss it.
But here's one of the things that was hard about it to ruin it and to discount my own I don't think so, honey, is that it was if you were part of the thing that the whole media sphere was focused on.
And that doesn't make for a monoculture, but it felt like it for sure.
Of course, is a really intense experience you have, like every journalist at Jezebel and Goker, like every Monday morning writing an article about the episode that you had, and it was more fun and cool to be mean about it, so that a Monday was like a very intense day of the week when Girls was airing for all of us.
Speaker 1Not a similar experience, only in the sense that dunking on a show that you're on is like immediately after it airs, is part of the SNL experience.
It's just more fun to be like mean and rude.
Speaker 2Yes, where the good old days and somehow like the good old days are always not currently happening and it's a perfect show and you're so fucking good on it.
Speaker 1But oh, oh my god, stops that.
Wait, we're you talking about you talking about me?
Speaker 2Yeah?
Speaker 1No, no, no, I wasn't even registering that.
But I it's just this thing where it's like everyone thinks of the highlight reel.
Everyone's thinking of the old HBO days of your yeah, like compilations or whatever, you know, like the way that we were consuming things was more monocultural, and now it's like whatever, I'm not saying anything new, but I mean, you must feel nice to have the Patina on girls be like, wow, what a gorgeous sculptural thing.
Speaker 2Yes, And also it's the it's already like there, it is there, and it can't we can't do anything to it anymore.
And so it's like for all its flaws and everything that makes it iconic, like it is just what it is.
And the fact that people like my cousin who's exactly ten years younger than me, it hit her at twenty three.
She finally I was like, fine, you can watch it, okay, and I'll be able to make eye contact with you.
And she was like, this show is everything to me.
And I was like, that's fascinating.
We have so little in common in terms of like what that what your twenty three looks like physically and superficially with Marnie's, but the themes are the same of like who am I?
What do I want?
All of those like kind of existentially things, and I just I don't know how I was able to write it while she was living it, which is yeah, that's what I crazy.
Didn't need perspective distance right just like in it but still be reading glasses, Like was able to write this thing rather than you know, like would you guys improvising we did, like because Judd Apatowz we had, we did use that sometimes, especially in ensemble scenes.
We would use improv to like loosen up the scene.
Maybe we'd get there and we'd read through it once verbatim, like sitting down, and then we'd get up and people would just throw stuff in.
And then we were constantly getting pitched all during the shoot, so people they're at the punchline, you would just rotate through proper nouns or whatever, and so that was really fun and also my as we already just got just improv a little bit my only skill.
So I was like, this is thrilling.
The only literal training I have is improv comedy.
And it comes up in my first job, Like what could be dreamier than that?
Speaker 3Was?
I am never coming back to Bushwick in the script, great question, I think.
So I'm literally looking at you and I remembering like so many like when he slapped you in that in the cra Accident, which was another again like a number of iconic episodes, he.
Speaker 2Slaps you, you walk away.
I am never coming back to Bushwick.
Like if that was the problem, I want to look.
I have all the drafts of the scripts in my inbox somewhere.
I need to look and see if it was in there.
Speaker 3Yeah.
Speaker 1My my query is Beach House episode season four show.
Sure mean drunk, Marty.
Speaker 2It's crazy, I think I think that feels in for us.
Yes, we do it.
Speaker 1We're just crazy the way you the way Martie, Michaels alls and Williams says it.
Speaker 2I mean yes.
Speaker 3Also, like that's that's not a Bob episode obviously because it's the everyone, but like, but that show accepted the bottle episode, and you can't talk about bottle episodes on television in general without talking about the panic in Central Park, which was such not only yea, honestly.
Speaker 2Thank you so much.
I saw you speak about this the other day.
Speaker 3It is so much more impactful later when you watch it having had that person where you're walking along the street and you see them and your heart falls through the floor.
I've had this experience, and I watched the episode again.
Speaker 2It had me on.
Speaker 3My back, like it was like, do you just talk about that episode, like specifically, like what it felt to get it?
Speaker 2Did you know what was coming?
Lena had mentioned it, but sometimes in the process of writing a season of a show, like the plans changed.
I was a soul cycle.
Marnie was a soul cycle instructor for a season and that ended up getting cut out of the show.
Listen, she I trained, I like went to like double glasses, it cycles, soul cycle.
Yeah, I can't remember why.
It was the season that Chris Abbott left, and so we were scrambling to come up with what Marty's storyline was because he left like really really like really close to starting to shoot I don't love you and I never loved you.
Well, listen, the thing that is so what I was just going to say about that episode is that I was happy I hadn't seen Chris really since he left the show.
So there was a kind of meta element to shooting panic Steffra Park because we didn't have I didn't like reach out to him to be like what happened because we were all like scrambling and then going into production, so there just wasn't a closure conversation.
He hadn't like bought pizza ingredients, but it was still like very abrupt, and so when we were back together making this episode together, there was just this energy of like what happened and also like I felt we all felt like kind of like he left, like we felt rejected.
I mean, wasn't that serious and heavy, but it was very easy to be like to have that energy in there, even though that wasn't something I had experienced yet, other than like on a college campus, where course you're going to run into your exes, you're expecting it.
But on like the street corner with his like new friends and new accent, like and new facial hair and knew, just new energy and smell and everything like that was something that was aided hugely by the fact that we hadn't seen him.
I mean, we'd all been in touch with him in some superficial way, but we hadn't physically had him in our presence in the girls like world since the end of season two.
Speaker 3I guess, Wow, so then you guys do this episode together.
Speaker 2Yeah, Well what I was saying is that, like, so the plans changed for seasons sometimes.
Yeah, So I didn't try.
I tried not to get too excited about the idea of but when Lena mentioned that I was such a fan of One Man's Trash and like all of our hand like the North Work episode as well, like, I just was the idea of doing a bottle episode was so exciting, but I was like, don't get too excited.
Things happen, stories, you know whatever.
And then it got there and she sent it to me and I was like, this is extraordinary.
And Richard was directing, and I love Richard and I was so excited to do it, and it felt like we made a short film in New York and over the course of like a seven day shoot I think I think seven days of shooting a New.
Speaker 1York but a thousand percent it's a short film.
It's just it's completely artful and whatever.
It's God, I love that episode, so I think my favorite, my favorite.
Speaker 3It's amazing as like its own piece and also as an installment.
It's so important, I mean, and every character kind of had that, obviously Shanna and Japan Jessa with that that gorgeous episode with her father, like you know what I mean like that, and also the episode with Matthew Reese.
Speaker 2Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3No, that's probably the Sasor I've seen the most because it's just this like gorgeous little play and they're so brilliant together.
Speaker 2And I will say I miss Lena on screen.
I miss Lena on screen so much like my favorite performance of hers for the entire show is in the diner with Adam.
Oh God, it like makes me want to cry thinking about that.
Seems the two of them when they're making plans and they both know it's not going to happen.
She is so so good.
Speaker 3Also, and also when she said and I think it was the end of the first season, or when she goes she goes to Adam and she goes, you are very charming and I can't be around you anymore.
I think, yeah, and she knocks on the door and then he ends up pulling her in and she's like, God, you can't be doing this, Like this is not what I want.
Speaker 2I need to end this.
But that push pull, that like pure attraction to this, like guy weird, I have to like casting is was one of the superpowers on that show.
Baby, So I mean, I mean, who improvised a line your dad is gay?
Which became that was the became that was like a huge story line.
The whole show is an improvised line.
All adventurous women do.
That has to be top five episode name.
You're encyclopedic knowledge of the names of these episodes.
So this is our favorite show.
Speaker 3Like this is our favorite show, so probably the most on this podcast of any other television.
Speaker 2Series is I mean, listen, I love listening to you or show, and it gives me I get nervous every time.
But you do bring it up a lot, and I'm such an it is because you probably have that experience too, you guys.
Both people mentioned less college people mentioned like all of the stuff you guys do.
It's a difference when people mention it when you're alone in your house, like folding laundry, and you're like, I've been invoked.
Do I pause?
Speaker 3It become a reference, which is odd.
When you become like something that someone can point to and it feels like something.
Speaker 2Well, that's when you've made it.
I mean, it has to be close to the top of the rules of culture.
Speaker 1I would say, oh, sure, that's when you've made it.
Speaker 2What rule of culture?
What number is that?
Also, I don't get we don't get to you just picking all it feels like one.
It feels like one because.
Speaker 1It's number one.
Speaker 2When you become a reference, that's when you know you made it.
It's true.
Thank you.
Speaker 3Also, can we say, in terms of casting Rita Wilson as your I love her so much.
Speaker 2I'm about to see her in like two days.
I'm really crazy about her.
Yes, and the fact that she's in Lena's show with Andrew and so excited and Meg, who I'm obsessed with.
She's basically playing well, I don't know, I haven't seen the show, but based on the trailer, this is like sort of Lena's arc into London because she just like made an exodus.
She was like I needed stopping ground.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, yeah, I just really want to see it.
Speaker 3Not that, and that has to be another thing is it's like you set a certain bar for something you do, and like that's another thing with you.
Speaker 2It's like there's the follow up.
So you have Girls, you have Marnie.
It has this cultural.
Speaker 3Impact and then you're a part of not one but two like other like big culture moments like get Out, Like I would imagine you get to be like a little choosy after Girls, But like what was do you?
Speaker 1Did you feel that way?
Right?
Speaker 3So?
Speaker 2What I It was a combination of things I was getting sent essentially Marnie in different situations like scripts, and they just weren't as good as Girls.
I was like, all respect to the things you guys, are that people were writing and sending like I am doing the best, Like Lena is so talented, these writers are so good, Like I'm kind of so spoiled about this type of character in this situation, and then the other things that I was like going for.
We're two different and people couldn't picture me in those roles because we were so aligned with our characters.
So then I was like, they were like, do you want to play Peter Pan on live television?
Like why, yes, I do.
As a matter of fact, do I want to fly towards Christopher walk into the sword?
Yes, I do absolutely for three hours on live television.
Uh huh, wow, I do.
So I did that.
And then just because I grew up loving Peter Pan, I was like, this will be such a fun, insane challenge and it was like one of the most gratifying experiences in my life.
And that's full earnest.
You have to you can on cringe Mountain.
You can't wink at your Peter Pan.
You're committing to being like a kind of genderless but boy pixie haired like flying magic person, and you're like, yeah, I can't like be ironic about this, Like I am full commitment and that in and of itself was like its own kind of lesson that kind of prepared me for the genre stuff that was to come, because you have to fully just commit to it and forget what genre you're in.
Yeah, but so after Peter Pan, I kind of helped dislodge the Marny thing, but it was still very, very sticky.
Meanwhile, Jordan Peele had been watching Girls saw me do Peter Pan, was like, she'll do anything.
Speaker 1Yeah, I'm into it.
Speaker 2Reached out and was like, you have this vibe.
People just trust you.
You have this brown hair and these blue eyes, and people just believe that you're who you are, and they will take fifteen seconds with you on screen and just go with you for the whole movie.
Speaker 1Yeah, when you say baby to be fine, they trust you.
Speaker 2I need you.
And I was like, this is exactly we are.
We have exactly aligned interests in the situation.
And I read the script and I remember calling my publicist at the time and being like, this is an Oscar movie and she's like this poor girl is so spoiled from Girls.
She thinks everything she does is going to be an Awards contender.
And I was like, no, seriously, it is and she was like, it's a race, It's a race horror movie.
Like, come on, first time director, four point five million dollar budget, Like you're very spoiled, but we'll see, we'll see how it goes.
And she was very supportive obviously, but you know, trying to prepare me for like actual movie because it was my first movie.
And so then we go and make the movie.
We I worked heavily with Jordan to like make Rose as evil as we possibly could, including coming up with the idea of like kind of splitting her in half and having her playing a character for most of the movie.
Yeah, and it did this incredible thing, which is that it used the stickiness of Marnie that I was having so much trouble, like shaking against the audience.
It was like, Okay, if you're gonna think of me in this way anyway, then I'm going to use that to like propel the story of this movie and help the twist of it.
And then from that moment, the moment people saw me on screen, they didn't trust me anymore.
Right, they were immediately like, I don't know where I don't feel comfortable like looking at your face anymore.
I feel uncertain about if I can trust you, like the association switched, and then I got to play with that invoking that in people.
And so since then, pushing me into the thriller and the kind of hypheny genres has been like the greatest gift because I've just been able to like let go of so many things and also just play with expectations and yeah, all of it.
Speaker 1But your willingness to like subvert those expectations into like for loops, looking at the keys like you know, like it's that's that is to bring it back.
That's Alison Williams school girl ward.
Speaker 2You know what I mean that I'm starting to get it well by the end of the episode, maybe fully understands the category.
I've heard you talk about it every time.
I just am still like pie together.
Speaker 1Times we talked about it, how has it been, like I feel like it's only it's only ever like this activating thing where we're like, oh my god, yes there's there.
There literally is no one cooler I'm looking for you.
Speaker 2I really can't accept that.
Honestly, It's like I can't accept the I can't accept it.
Well, you don't have to accept it.
Speaker 1Every talk show appearance, every I've seen it's it's it's crazy, it's crazy.
With the words of Marnie Michaels, it's just like there is this is this is what Jordan's talking about.
It's like something about this girl.
You see her, you trust her, she takes you with her, and that is kind of like the comfort.
It's like anytime you've like answered these like weird, thorny questions about being on girls, about all these other things, it's like, I'm like, oh, this girl knows, like this girl gets something not a lot of actors would sort of lament like the thing that they've been like sort of pigeonholed into immediately after this role that they're so associated and aligned with, to then be like I'm going to fuck with this to my advantage and let jettison me into something different.
Speaker 2Well, it was so it was such a happy coincidence because it just so happened that I was looking for something exactly like that and Jordan needed It was like we just needed each other.
And I was also like, yeah it was, and I just felt like I want I also don't want I want to make her so evilly that I don't want there to be any people still did this by the way, but I didn't want there to be any excuse for her, because I know people love to excuse the behavior.
Speaker 3And there's that moment where where it's like he's deciding whether or not he's going to kill her or not, and you as the audience, are like, should.
Speaker 2He kill her or not?
And you in that moment are making a real case switching back into the other mode.
I mean, it's a great I watched it, so I went to a screening of it in Sun Valley, and all love to Sun Valley.
It's gorgeous, But that audience was very different from the other ones I'd watched, and the reactions in the audience to that sequence in the finale were very different than the ones in every other theater where it was.
Let's just say it was a teaching moment, like people were like learning some stuff about their kneejerk reaction to the like blue and white red flashing lights and a black man over a white woman on the ground and all those things.
But yeah, that movie was Like the other thing that movie taught me was that it's possible to I mean, I knew this already from like Rosemary's Baby, but I'm a whimp I can't see horror movies at all.
I never ever imagined the scenario.
I have to watch horror movies on planes, ambient activity, full light, like not really volume.
And honestly, the more of them I make, it's kind of exposure therapy because I'm learning about cameras and sound cues.
I'm starting to avoid the jump scares because I just know what they're doing.
It'll help, I promise, because appeals back.
It's just helpful.
It makes you like more literate in the whatever.
So I never expected this, and I knew it was possible, but merging a serious theme that would typically be dealt with in like a Capital D drama, but putting it into like a horror thriller comedy packaging, I was like, this is a drug professionally, this is a drug like experience, because I am so enjoying the experience of talking about race like on panels and stuff with the get Out like crew and cast real Shita, and then also like sitting through a screening where I could sit outside the theater and based on the laughs, I would know where we were in the movie and it was like such an awesome combination, and like Megan was able to replicate that experience because it took ai and kids and put it in this weird packaging, and I was like, this is the same thing.
It's this conversation my friends are having like quietly and worried and privately about their own parenting, like like I'm worried about my kid technology and stuff and just like made it bigger than life and like put it in camp and fun and then after the fun has worn off, people are like, but really, like, what are we?
What arege?
Speaker 3I was like again, like I was like brushing back up on exactly what it was about, and I was like, wow, this is very prescient.
It's about the this you know, and and how we just allow our children to be taken care of by technology sometimes, Like now when I see a kid on a plane with a tablet, I'm just like, that kid has autonomy in the way that not for nothing, But we did when the internet was starting, way back when.
And how many did we put ourselves in?
Speaker 2Yes, I okay, so many things.
One I did not mean to segue us into Megan prematurely was like they think.
I was like, we got to get on topic, but I don't.
Speaker 3I was like SVPs to the compliment right now, our SVPs it is yes, thank you for you, thank you.
Speaker 2Okay, well r gs to my compliment and my fandom.
Speaker 1You have to but we are CPS.
Speaker 2He's struggling with actually, okay, great, I love that, thank you.
Speaker 1I'll get there.
Speaker 2I'll get there well by the end.
I need an r SVP.
I need to know.
I need a head count.
I need to know how many people are eating duck.
But yes, aol.
I the other day I flew home from London alone with our son and I planes are like iPad time.
It is when you get to the point where your kid has an attention span that is long enough for a flight, and then I iPad You're like, great, I'm going to ruin you temporarily.
I recover three and a half, like we can, we can repair this, but like I am going to like temporarily like damage what we have put so much, like so much work into and still it's like top of his lungs, Mama p And I'm like I'm coming and I'm like I am a stewardess for him, and it's like a whole thing anyway, but it's it is.
I will do that and then at home It is terrifying to watch three and a half year olds interact with AI things because it's immediate.
It's like, it's like this, they have this intrinsic understanding and facility with using these things.
It's really crazy.
Like watching him ask chatchy bt a question with a little voice undulating thing is like it's like watching Violin or Katie in the first movie.
It's like watching her interact with Megan.
So I'm I'm constantly doing that.
And then I'm like, he named our robot vacuum.
I'm like, we gotta just we have to just think about this and really like be cautious because it's they're powerful.
These tools are super powerful and they get more powerful every day.
Every time I see my Chatty PTE memory updated, I'm like, what did you learn about me?
Speaker 1I don't know, so we don't.
Speaker 2I guess we don't.
Really, I don't react with any of it.
Okay, no, no, it's not it's not it's nouche.
I would say.
It's like it's I I feel like very grateful for the ways Chatty helps me, but I'm very aware of what I put into it, and every couple of months I ask what it thinks it knows about me, just to see where I am.
Gentlemen, it's so boring in a word beige.
Literally, the word beige is in the description of me that it has.
And here's why it only sees what I'm worried about it and I don't know.
It's not like I'm like, hey, chatty pit, let me tell you, like everything I know about Mary Shelley's Frankenstein because I've read it academic.
Yes, here's my transcript, which I've never seen.
Here's like I'm never saying here's something I'm confident about as a mom, or like here's something I feel sure about.
Here's a It's more like I don't know what carpet pad to put under like a sisle, Like what wits do I need?
And like what material?
And how do I not like rot the floor under it?
And it's like, already too much.
I apologize the other day for seeing something I knew I'd asked twice.
I was like, I knowe, I've already asked you this, But what's the ideal humidity level for a toddler room?
And they're like, it's fine, life's busy, Like here's what it's forty to fifty percent, just so you know, wow, oh my, here's the news you can use.
I know it's lower than I would have thought.
I would have been like eighties like tropical.
But anyway, so I it's already weird and it's so funny that they are.
It's just they're very bored, like the TLDR.
I also asked them to come up with an image that felt like it described my life.
And it was like a farm with my husband was included and Arlow and our dog beautiful, and we were we live in the middle of nowhere with like a farmhouse, which isn't accurate, but I love that that's what it thinks of.
Speaker 1Well, it's okay, Well it's going to be for now like it's always going to be derivative.
And so it's saying in a word beige is also it's like ironically a basic thing to say to someone.
Speaker 2Yes, also, it wasn't being ironic, it just is if it wasn't making fun of me a word comma, No, that was my gloss on the summer.
I thought that you said, oh my god, you thought I don't like I got to read from chatty beat.
I thought, in a word bage, Well, because literally like no, you can't, like you can't.
This is a relations dum.
Speaker 3Like hello, but no, because honestly, I've heard of it being like a little you can.
Speaker 2Ask it to.
We have a very professional boundaries relationship because of the movies I make.
I'm like, yeah, I'm going to always be cordial with you, say thank you please, you know, like we keep a boundary about that.
I do.
They don't.
I don't think it has figured out what I do for a living.
Wow wow, you know like I've tried to keep that kind of distance, but I asked every couple of months to be like what And the reason it brought up beage is because I was looking for I was like, can you direct me towards an outdoor patio umbrella that's beige?
And it was like, you seem interested in the color bage.
I was like, God, damn it, I'm even boring my chatchba.
It's going to be like a line of funny that you don't think.
I know you're in as your cue.
You're actually adorable.
We know exactly who I wanted to be, like, yeah, I know Meghan.
Is that going to buy me cool points with you?
Like I know her intimately.
But I don't know how you would feel about her.
Yeah, I think I thought about it.
They feel satane.
Speaker 1I think they would only they I think she would only be kind of flattered and amused by.
I think Megan is the best pr thing that a I could have.
Speaker 2Just so funny because she's like a.
Yeah, she was the first well in.
Speaker 1The first second movie we heard about the well.
I couldn't believe you heard us.
You heard us like find out in real time with the plot.
Speaker 2It was my favorite thing.
I got sent that like a hundred times.
Your dramatic reading of the song, which is of Amelia talking about like the spell of everything.
I was like obsessed with it.
Yes, it made me so happy than you, like, this is worth making a sequel just to hear you.
Guys.
Speaker 3By the way, it's actually four quadrant it is said, yes, and I'm also like saying, there's.
Speaker 2Know what your four quadrants?
There's a well, I feel like they're not everyone.
Speaker 3It's it's it's sports, Dad that watch get that's watched Get Out.
Speaker 2Yes, it's sports.
Speaker 3It's like mom who watched Fellow Travelers and was like, my sports.
Speaker 1Sports is gay And I'm looking at my husband a little bit.
It's three watching girls.
Speaker 2Yes, and it's of.
Speaker 3Course gay son, gay son, I don't recognize straight son.
Speaker 2You don't know you.
They know you too, they think you're hot.
But I would be so excited.
That would be so exciting to be like a hot mom to anyone.
Speaker 1Are I don't know your gorgeous specimen?
Speaker 2That's so nice.
I think I'm just an adult now.
This is okay, this was my biggest I don't think so, honey.
I will spoil it ahead of time because it's get so many.
There's this brings us down to five people being younger than us.
Oh yeah, I know.
Speaker 1Well stop.
Speaker 3Last night I did a show with two people and they were it's a twinking red head.
They're an online sensation and he was talking about having hooked up with someone like older, and she asked how old and he just goes like this, thirty plus.
Speaker 2And I don't.
And here's the thing, I don't.
He did not mean anything.
It was just being literal, like thirty plus.
I can't even old.
I we are wonder kids.
We need to be kids.
Speaker 1We need to be kids.
Can I say something?
Yeah, we might have our first mayor who's younger than us.
Speaker 2That's crazy.
People younger than us is crazy.
This is what I'm saying.
It has to stop.
I made Harlowe is jenn Alfa is fine, Like it's the gen .
Like the fact that they're like professional adults now and they're younger than me, that's really fucking to me.
I went back to give a talk at Yale or like a like a college or whatever.
Yeah, whatever, I kept saying.
We I was at this point, like thirty two, I think, and I kept being like, you know, for us, like we're we go out in the world and they're looking at me and they're like, lady, you are a full thirty plus you are ten years older than the oldest child, the oldest fuck it just closed your college.
And I started eating itself, like you are falling, you're old, And I was like, we're not in us anymore.
No, we're not at person who came to the college who's like krusty and back to talk to you about the world in an out of touchway.
And this is mortifying even.
Speaker 3Like horrible, referring to herself as twenty five and a half.
At one point, I was just that sounds right, No, one hundred percent.
She definitely said I'm twenty five and a half.
Speaker 2Et cetera.
I was like, wow, like this show was a long time ago.
I know, I'm thirty seven.
It was a long time time ago.
I can't anyway.
It's just like it's a lot that there's you know, people younger, and also it's like it had like it.
Speaker 3This is the weird thing about like when when sudden suddenly like you become like I guess older is you don't know when it happens.
They kind of just let you know after the fact, like oh, yeah, we look at we look at you as a little bit older now.
And I was like, but I was just I was just one of the young people.
Speaker 2Yes, exactly.
I was just considered like, uh, precocious, right, the word precocious was just used to describe me.
And now I'm just meeting the standard.
Yeah, like is this going to just keep sliding and stay out of reach for me?
Like I like wonderkin.
I was never referred to as a wonder kN that was always aspirational.
Lena was though, And I don't know when they stopped, but that must have been like low key devastats of course, I just go to being like a vunda adult.
Speaker 1I guess I don't know an adult, but is this is this the universal experience for us, like for the universe or that's three people in this.
Speaker 2Room for the camera.
Sorry, yeah, sorry to see you.
We see you.
Speaker 1But uh, when people still when you tell someone your age, yeah, and then they go oh baby, and then one day it just stops right.
Speaker 2Yes, it was such a like to interact with older people when you were young, and that like the reveal of your age when you're like, how much I've done.
Speaker 3A couple of years ago when I was thirty three, I'm thirty five now.
I said to someone I was thirty three, and their response was, that's okay.
Speaker 2Where were you were you getting on driver's okay.
Speaker 3I was just I was like, well, thank you for the permission to I guess keep existing.
Speaker 2I was like, that's devastating.
Speaker 1Second you get older, you know you were you were you were submitting you were trying to run for president.
Speaker 2And they were like, yeah, that's okay, very fine, fine, yeah you get there.
Speaker 1Wow, you can't even run for president yet.
Speaker 2But in a matter of.
Speaker 1Months, well, I mean period not born in this country.
Speaker 2Oh my god, about that, America.
Speaker 1I'm not missing.
Speaker 2Here is the problem?
Are you sure you're not missing out?
It seems like a great job.
Speaker 1Yeah.
By the end of this.
Speaker 2Episode, compliment for you my fandom.
Speaker 3So like what what and what I was saying earlier was like and I wanted to bring up the fellow travelers of it all too, because I would imagine that that's.
Speaker 2Like I saw Johnny yesterday because noting Jurassic it's like a little okay, well, we're trying to get him in this room.
Speaker 1Johnny guy.
Speaker 2I don't know.
Like the experience of being on set with those four gentlemen for me and gentlemen was like one of the most like aesthetically overwhelming experiences Jelanny and Noah and Johnny j Well, I was.
Speaker 3So happy that he got that, like that platform, because Johnny has been like someone that's been like an angel and like he's so tight.
Speaker 2But also just the singing like casually from all four of them, just like on the way to set, it was an overwhelming I was literally like, I'm in heaven.
Speaker 1Yeah, that must have been something.
Speaker 2Visually, like everyone on the crew was like, this is an overwhelming please.
Speaker 1To so visually aesthetically sonically.
Speaker 2The performances yeah, there's I only got to do a couple of scenes of this, Johnny, but it was so fun.
It was so incredible.
That whole project was like just beyond dreaming.
That was another thing where I read the pilot and I was like, yeah, this isn't I'll do anything it takes to Oh.
Speaker 3That was It was really just like it was.
It's obviously very overwhelming.
Yes, and I just imagine that type.
Speaker 2Of stuff like that normal heart Like did you know about the lavender scare?
To interrupt you while you're asking, did you know?
I think that not?
Well, obviously here's the thing.
Speaker 3In a perfect world, they would have taught us about that in school, but they did not know we red scare.
Speaker 2We learned about AIDS.
Speaker 3But I don't really learned about AIDS.
You want to know how I learned really about AIDS.
Like there was we had to do a project when I was I think in like six or seventh grade where we all had to pick a disease in science class and like do a report on diase and I picked AIDS and my teacher just looks.
Speaker 2At me and she goes, Okay, I'm gonna speak to your parents.
Speaker 3And so my parents had to sit me down, and they were like, so before you start doing this, we want you to know about AIDS.
And I realized, like, had I not stumbled into that and like been put in a position where like I had to like be told what AIDS was, it wasn't gonna come up.
And I certainly wasn't gonna find out like in school about how it affected my community, how it decimated culturally, that a lot of the fabric of like New York like and a world that entire generation, how like you know what that loss really was and how thrown under the bus we were by people that were supposed to protect us and.
Speaker 2All of that.
Speaker 3Like I still don't think, And I think that's why I have such an anxious reaction to it, because it comes as such a.
Speaker 2Shock even now.
Speaker 3Yeah, And that's why it's important that art is made about it, like really honest, visceral art is made about it like that with people on that level, on your level doing it, because we don't know totally.
Speaker 1My god, I mean, if you had not stumbled on that for that project, you would have, like me, and I'm not even saying this is like a punchline.
It's like you would have learned about it through like rentally.
Speaker 2Yes, that's how I think.
I was just thinking that that was probably the first time I heard about it, yep.
And I mean honestly, like better than the jokes that came after that and sex out about like you're gonna get aids and the very like offhanded way that must have sounded horrifying to older people who had lived through it.
Can you imagine hearing our generation use it so flippantly one of those people when I was like closeted, very you knew about it.
You were one of the few people.
Speaker 3I remember, like I, I'm from Long Island, like we're again like graduating high school in two thousand and eight, and Long Island like a vibe.
So then I go to NYU and it's like all this different kinds of culture.
And I remember the first week of school we were going to go see Rent and my friend of mine had made a joke in like a group chat, like because I had I had a seat in the last ro and they made a joke like, oh, that seat is going to have the most AIDS on it, and I really makes sense, and I repeated the joke because I was eighteen and stupid like whatever, and a girl on my floor turns to me and goes, that's really fucked up and that's not how you get that, et cetera.
Speaker 1And I was just like, that girl was Elizabeth Olsen, that girl.
Speaker 2Was Elizabeth Hanks.
Sorry, but like that's what I mean.
It's just yes, that's what happens, even to someone like me.
You need that girl when you're not exposed.
Speaker 3Yes, and like that's why it's really important.
And you asked like did you know about the lavender scare?
Speaker 2No, no, no one talked about it.
I felt like I learned a lot of stuff that a lot of other schools didn't teach in my school, and it was not something that I learned about.
That's this scapegoating that the government did.
Like that the combination of like the commune is scared with homophobia, just like throwing that in to be like we can use this as like compromide and just like get people.
Just devastating.
I mean, I felt so embarrassed and devastated.
And also it is just uh like all parts of the world where it's the numbers are like surging and stuff.
It's I do a lot of work with red and the thing that's so maddening is that it's completely possible to live like a totally healthy In case someone out there doesn't know, it's completely possible to live like a totally healthy, normal life of course A yeah.
And you can also like in a world of prep like we're we're living in a new age and it's literally just information.
And that is so maddening because it's like that is something that we can do, and there's just we can't.
I don't know, we can't reach everybody.
And also if no one's talking about it, and a whole generation of like of gay men, we're.
Speaker 1Just just gone gone.
Speaker 3Yeah, And you know, I think like that's really what's tough is what kind of world could we be living had all those people been able to create not for nothing, but also be part of audiences.
Speaker 2Like it's so holistic, the loss.
Speaker 3And I also think it contributes to a lot of well I certainly know it contributes to a lot of internalized homophobia in the surviving generation.
A lot of survivors guilt and from straight people, a lot of homophobia because they're just like I can't actually engage in what I lost.
A lot of people that did know people then became like more homophobic after a genuine fear of Yeah, for sure, I say not that your mom is i'mophobic, no, but I feel like she.
Speaker 1Definitely experienced like so many friends in New York, and well she was.
Speaker 2She was like a martender in the eighties in New York.
Speaker 1So it's just like, of course, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2We haven't gone there.
Speaker 3But I remember when I first came out to my parents, Like my dad took a second with it, and then we went on a walk and one of the first questions he asked me was I just want to make sure are you careful?
And I was just like, you know, I had to explain to him.
I was like, I understand deeply why you asked that question.
Speaker 2Yeah, you don't need to worry.
Speaker 3About me in that regard, of course, I understand why you do.
But I mean with your parents as well, I'm sure that was a huge element of the fear.
Like it is it is, and that's what it is, like homophobia, Like you can talk about the hatred involved, but it's.
Speaker 2Also fear, yeah, and the lack of knowledge that was why.
Like when there's a scene in Fellow Travelers when Lucy goes to visit Johnny's character in the hospital.
I was Lucy, sorry, yeah, weird, and she's confused about like does she need to wear gloves?
And like, I really liked that moment in the show, not because I agreed with it, but because I felt like that was a very common and it still is weirdly, like not understanding the transmission and how how to interact with people, Like it's still a common knee jerk reaction people have.
And I almost feel like the fact that if you put an example again, like kind of my favorite thing to do, if you put an example of someone doing it wrong on screen and it's the people who are watching it can be on the inside of getting it right and can become part of being that girl in the hallway and you're in NYU being like no, like you can't catch it that way.
Don't be an idiot, right, you know, and don't say that joke.
Speaker 3Yes, exactly, that's because that's.
Speaker 2Exactly it's bad information in a joke, and that's that's way worse.
It's going to travel farther anyway.
Speaker 1That's interesting, Like the example of someone doing it wrong is is sort of edifying its own.
Speaker 2Yeah, because you're putting the audience in the knowledge seat where they're like, I'm in on how to do this right now because I've I have been put in the position of like judging the person I'm watching doing it wrong, and so now I'm in the position to know what's right and to judge this person for doing it.
Speaker 1Wrongtally, Yeah, shame works when it's like, uh, being portrayed on someone who's like not real in a way, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, Literally, it's shame is so powerful.
It is like one of the things that it's one of the words that comes up and my stage of life the most with my friends.
It's kind of why I joined the podcasting community.
There weren't enough, so I contribute enough.
It's with my friends of like thirty plus n one's a therapist, one's a teacher, and we've really made it because we feel when we look at social media that's targeted at us, not all of it, but a lot of it.
The biggest thing that comes up is shame.
We're not doing it right.
We're not making our kids lunches perfectly enough, We're not being like respectful enough parents, Like we're not doing all of these things correctly.
I'm not merging my identity seamlessly enough.
I'm not being good enough partner and professional and mom and all these things.
And also my hormones are being crazy, my memory doesn't work the way it used to, like what is going on?
And just by venting to each other, the shame is gone instantly, And so we literally talk so much about how powerful shame can be in both directions, Like shaming people into like, you know, understanding how like HIV and AIDS is transmitted is like the best possible use of like shame in a positive direction, but extinguishing it from like judging yourself for not doing a good enough job at being alive when like just keeping it all going and running is an achievement in and of itself is sort of like our mo o.
It's the word that I end up going through the most at the stage of life, which is yeah, because it's it only exists.
It's like a fungus, like it can only grow when there's no light, no air circulating, like you gotta like in a group chat, you're like, it lasts for two seconds, as long as it takes for your friends to type of response is how long the shame lasts, yes.
Speaker 3Get it out, and also that like there can be people to catch you when you fall in and to be able to like exter, I always felt growing up, I have to be the only person feeling this thing, like really so many times, like and like I have to be broken because of not just like the typical things you might be thinking of, like I'm gay, I feel this way about it, et cetera.
Everything, and then I think like, like us become such close friends in our community, et cetera, Like you just start talking and then you realize, like we're all so much more alike, but you wouldn't know external Also.
Speaker 2That one like brave, vulnerable person that's willing to be like is this a thing something?
Yes?
And it's less.
It's less the scene of mean girls where they're all like comparing things they hate about themselves.
That's like the early that's like a high school version, like I have bad breath in the morn and they're all like, ew, I'm obsessed with that scene.
It's that in high school, and then when you become an adult, it's like do you remember things for longer than two minutes?
And everyone's like, no, I don't estrogen is like on a vacation, you're like, okay, better, I was going to get an evaluation.
But now that I know that we're all going through that, it feels so much better.
That is like it's everything.
And so we were like, if not everyone has access to this like group of friends who have literally known each other since single digits, Like we're we're going to offer ourselves as that group of friends.
Speaker 3It's going to be such a success.
It's going to be such a success.
Do you want to know why?
Because that's if we've learned anything, it's that that's what people want.
Speaker 2They want to be part of the conversation.
I feel like I've lived through so many chapters of your lives with you.
This is what's really weird.
I think it's mutually.
I think that's what feels mutual is that I really feel like I've gone through like all your moves and all your big like career moments and relationships and all of these things like with you.
But I haven't, but I have.
Speaker 1But you know, I mean I.
Speaker 2Was with you.
He brought me with you.
Speaker 1I mean I think, like we know.
Speaker 3I used to say, like, oh I wish I had kept a diary and then I was like, you have right, but even that as a judgment on yourself, it was a way for me to be like, you didn't do a good enough job of like keeping your reading too.
Speaker 2Many comedy autobiographies.
It drives me.
I'm like, I have to stop reading autobiographies.
And people in our field just listen.
They are encyclopedic.
How how are they doing this?
How do you remember?
Do you remember this?
And I'm like, I'm just not going to I'm going to keep every plane ticket because I don't know why.
I just do keep everything, every piece.
We talked about both not a closet.
You what you just achieved in your closet is like I need mostly come over.
You guys will get nothing out of my closet.
Me maybe like a pair of like airplane pajamas that I have a duplicate of.
That's your best chance.
But I am I am like I keep everything and not a diary.
But I'm constantly like, how am I going to write?
If I'm going to have write a not a bag of how am I going to do it?
I haven't kept a day to day diary on everything that's going on in my life.
Speaker 1You have call sheets from all your days of shooting.
Speaker 2Almost all of them so important day.
Speaker 1That's actually huge because I had to recently like look up like who's that person on that day on this Satura and call sheets.
Speaker 2Yeah, call sheets are incredible.
I did just I got my first PGA mark on the Megan point, which I'm very proud of.
And I went back, you have to write a whole thing, and I was like, oh my god, an essay in my adult life.
I can't wait.
So I got to write an essay like say why, like what your contribution to the movie was, And I like went back into like a forensic examination of my involvement in the Megan people, and I was like, this is not healthy.
We were doing oms at like two am from a bathtub in France, like with a with a deep fake company in the US that we were like maybe going to hire that we didn't end up hiring for some of the like the the amount of digging I was able to do because I keep everything was actually genuinely helpful.
Speaker 1That's and that's that's going into the memoir, into the autobiography.
Speaker 2I guess it will and we'll use this as a primary source as well.
Speaker 1This is part of the bibliography.
Primary stort.
Speaker 2Wait, we have to ask you the question.
Speaker 1We haven't we.
Speaker 2Haven't even gotten this.
I have to, Okay, but before.
Speaker 1We too, I just want to say, Johnny Bailey, it is a thing where like you walk in two set ups to hear him and ari Janna Grande sing like cardboard Box by flow on the way to like shoot like dancing through life film, like what's cardboard box by flow Box.
I was like, this is heaven to me and I wish.
Speaker 2I could take It's so powerful.
Speaker 1So to know that he does this on multiple products is very, very very heartening to me.
Speaker 2Well, yeah, I mean you have if you're Johnny Billy, you wake up in the morning, You're like, I have a burden to share as much of this throughout the course of the day as I can.
I'm perfect everything, and I just have to, like, I have to like share it so that when I go to bed him lighter totally, you know, and I wake up and I'm heavy with my perfection.
I have to just keep distributing it.
I'm imagining that's what it feels like.
Speaker 1Absolutely.
Speaker 2I can next sum hehearschal they're doing press together.
Speaker 1I'm like this is, I know, And then they're with Scarlet two and it's kind of.
Speaker 2Like you never looked better.
Speaker 1And I've kissed Scarlet Johansson too.
Yeah, and no one's tweeting about that.
It's okay.
There's nothing that drives me.
Speaker 3Crazier than watching him make out with movie stars on that like Sydney Sweeting and is colleg Johnson and the Bowen straight sketches.
I scream, I run like it's Megan two point ow.
Speaker 2I literally I leave the room.
I have a reaction when I went to it is the reaction?
Is it discomfort?
I'm just like, because he used to use my friend, I'm proud.
No, I hate.
Speaker 3It because back in the day, like you and Sudie wouldkiss on the mouth to a little bit and it.
Speaker 2Drove because you were like, this is a scam.
Speaker 1I was standing doing that.
Speaker 3My mom says to me one time, she goes, I didn't know Bowen and Sudie were dating, and I go, they're not.
Speaker 2I was just like, they are not, They're not.
Speaker 1You're passing too much.
Speaker 2I know you're doing a great job.
I just tell you.
Speaker 3Today was the culture that made you say cultures for you?
Because we have to talk about it, okay, where people were like, there's a heart.
Speaker 2Out of ten twenty.
Speaker 1I don't think it's going to make that.
No, we are we have to we have.
Speaker 2To come right here a high culture things.
Okay.
I had to write them down because again see previous comment about not really having a working memory.
Okay, Mary Poppins and Sound of Music, it's really Julie Andrews is like, was why I knew acting was a job because she did both of those roles within two years.
It's crazy.
And how old was she?
She was like twenty nine.
Speaker 1Fuck sickening, we realize that perfect and.
Speaker 2Cultivating, unbelievable.
I met her and was Meredith Mark's level of incapable of being Did we say that on the mic?
I don't know.
Marath Marks is there?
You were like Chloe with Chloe, I was like, I was Julie Andrews's level of incapable of handling it.
Julian Andrews I met at a PBS event like ten years ago, which is perfect.
I was like, we're supporting the arts and public television and you're here, and I just was like, I don't matter.
I had this urge to be like I you're why I do what I do.
But then I was like, she doesn't know what to do.
She also doesn't know if it's good.
So I'm going after him, being like she for all she knows, I'm like a terrible non like just bad actress, and I'm like, you are the reason.
But I was like, I need to tell you this, and I don't expect anything from you because you don't know me from anyone, but I just you've inspired me, like to an amount that I can't possibly express.
So she's like that was she was my culture for a really long time, alongside Joan Rivers on Sesame Street, Oh.
Speaker 1Right street.
Speaker 2She did she did a Hello Dolly sketch but with the s was the letter of the day, and I think I'm getting this right.
I yes, And it was like I fact check this or not, I mean whatever in the podcast, but it is some combination of Joan Rivers and Sesame Street and Sally to the tune of Pillow Dolly.
I think this is all right formative.
I was like, she's sexy, she's funny, she's like so sharp.
I'm so relieved that I don't have to be judged by her like on a day to day but I also miss her.
I know, like I wonder what.
I don't know.
I don't know how I would feel.
Yeah, I don't know how it would all go down.
We've done a lot of growing as a culture that I think she was maybe committed to me.
Speaker 1All I know is she definitely was a Trump one fan.
Speaker 2Apparent.
That's right, Okay, moving on from Joan, I'm making a hard ninety degree term Star Wars.
Let's go very important.
Harrison Ford is my first love.
And I don't say that lightly.
Christopher Falmer was close, but he's still like a dad.
I still like most.
Yeah, he was like Stern and like, you.
Speaker 1Know, activating difference.
Speaker 2Harrison Ford activated other synapts.
I fell in love with him in a way that I was like, this is a Channimal, I can do this third grade.
They be really Star Wars in theaters and I was like, this man is the most beautiful man I've ever seen.
He really is an overwhelming movie.
Speaker 3Like we were just in Disneyland in Paris and there's like there's like an Indiana Jones section and I was looking at him and I was thinking, like I wasn't ready like when I was a kid to like confront this because you know how you have those formative memories of like seeing like someone and you're like, uh, like he is like a manly type of sexuality.
Speaker 2Over the yea, yeah, so powerful.
He's a carpenter.
He was like, I'm here because I'm like I didn't have a table to build.
Wow, Like I don't have to be doing movies, Like I've got a huge horizontal scarmagint.
I don't care, you just kill it And I don't.
Speaker 1Care truly, like unbothered these babbits writing about meeting him before acting.
It's like, oh, that guy is just just just world endingly.
Speaker 2Beautiful and I just couldn't handle it.
And so I felt very activated by Han Solo as a character.
And I feel like it I kind of absorbed Han solo energy more than Princess Leah, which separated me from my peers.
I feel like I wanted to be a kind of misanthropic alpha man and it has kind of like the Lydia Tar and Me, which by the way, this is sort of an homage.
I feels like she would my little like, you know, as the queen, like the queen of the podcast Lydia Tar, the Queen of the shems large personally.
She's in Megan's four top four letter box.
Speaker 1Which I saw, Oh get out in it, she goes like the girl who plays you know which, She's fine whatever.
Speaker 2Perfect, I'm just she owns me.
So yeah, Star Wars felt like I was like, this is culture.
This is important.
I need to have like an encyclopedic knowledge of this movie.
And then immediately when they started making more than the first three, I was like, I'm out, I can't keep with this.
But the first three are like that.
Speaker 3Was the first three are just like, I'll that Really that's a culture that made me cy culture for me.
Speaker 2Yeah, because it also was my introduction in nerd culture.
And it was kind of simultaneous with a Nintendo sixty four, so I was like, is this my identity?
Like am I?
But it was so user friendly And then when everyone like went gamer, I was like, I guess I'm not like I bid you.
I had I had to know.
Speaker 1You guys are packed, but you guys are diverging on the same path.
I went another way.
Y'all went yeah, because when I.
Speaker 2Could hold this is accessible like the n sixty four controller with the three prongs and you can hold both like I knew how to hold that, I don't know how to hold this one.
Speaker 1There's tube, there's two.
Now there's two prongs out.
Speaker 2About the re release from this podcast.
Speaker 3You guys, yes, like break news in video games and I'll break news in theme parks.
So, by the way, this new permitting anyway universe.
Speaker 2This is our biggest divergence as people.
Speaker 1I can't do it, you can't do it, overwhelming?
Speaker 2What about the family terrified?
Terrified rides rides, theme parks people, I just just.
Speaker 1Your what about your son?
Speaker 2I will do it for I'll do anything for him.
I mean, I let someone cut me open to bring him to the world my sea section twice in this it happened.
It fucking sucked, but the best thing the.
Speaker 1World the world.
Speaker 2But anyway, I will do it.
I'll do it for him.
But I will.
It's not like I'm going to be like excited and taking him.
Speaker 1I'll be like, yeah, you're going to be You're going to be the one kicking and screaming.
Speaker 2Probably rumpy and hot, like in a stroller, like.
Speaker 1Go in February.
I'm of course thinking you'll go to Orlando.
Speaker 2You'll go to orlandos this sentence.
No one's ever said to me in my life.
Speaker 1Honestly, how she how's she to be able to say that about yourself?
Speaker 3That?
Speaker 2No one would say that.
All they ever told me is you're in Orlando most of the But it's also part of the same thing where people would never be like, have you gone to Coachella?
No one has ever been like, are you a burner?
They're like, you need a bathroom that has a sanitizing twilve, like a moist toilet.
Toilet, why can't say that word I'm too tired that's ready to wipe your seat down?
Like you can't.
You need money to be part of something.
You can't be in a barter economy like they're just like, you don't belong in these So it's the same part as like you don't belong at you don't.
I will go like Meghan is there.
I will support my girl like i'll support my actual son, like anytime, I'll support you.
If you're like I need you to be there, I will go there for you.
Do they do a Megan haunted house?
They did?
She was part of she own house.
Wyes, she's part of it.
They dance, Oh, they needed they needed got her own house.
Speaker 1Okay, I tell you there are sanitizing toalletts or you know what.
Speaker 2We're going back to the first.
They're absolutely not a Brenning Man.
Speaker 3There's no one experience you'd enjoy there at Burning Man in Orlando?
Speaker 2Why am I so stuck on Burning Man?
I'm like, do I want?
Okay?
Speaker 3Is it a thing where it's like, do you judge yourself for not being like a burner type you?
Speaker 2I wanted to project I know we have this vie.
I wanted to project an energy of like I might, but I in the last couple of years, I'm like, I'm never I wouldn't like it.
Why do I want to pretend to be someone who would enjoy it?
Speaker 1Totally?
Speaker 2Okay?
My last culture, I feel like I can't.
I don't know if you guys have talked about this.
It's so specific.
I'm looking at you because it feels more likely.
Let's go the Rapunzel episode of Storytime Theater with Shelley Duval who needed radishes.
No, okay, I don't know this with pregnancy cravings.
Speaker 1I'm a Shelley Duval girl.
Speaker 2But theater sorry, Fairy sal Thea said storyte it is huge it was.
I think it's what allows me to make Megan movies.
Honestly, explain.
It is camp.
Yes, it's high camp, but not educational.
It's not Cestmey Street gamp.
You call Semey Street camp.
I don't know.
It's not that it is.
Speaker 1I think it is.
Speaker 2It's like Shelley Duvall, full full expression, Shelley Duvall, full eye aperture, like.
Speaker 1A full eye aperture, full like giant wigs cliff while the wind.
Speaker 2Blows, big sets, big set, And you.
Speaker 3Mean like it's how you know, to eliminate the checkpoints to like get in there with Megan a scene like.
Speaker 2Tear up in a scene with her, like play the stakes.
Yes, don't wink at the camera, don't be don't be cool girl.
Now you can be.
You can be in on it in prep, like for all the script drafts, in post, for all the editing everything.
When I am there, and even like in video village before I step into set, like in that mode when I walk into those scenes with Megan and she's telling me some ship and I'm emotional.
You just have to.
That's that's why I'm actually feel that, Yes, of course you must.
You must otherwise it's not fun for anyone.
What we are all committed to the bit deeply, deeply, deeply.
Speaker 1Is Jenna on reading the lines?
Speaker 2No, sadly, she does it in a in a booth.
Speaker 3All good, no problem, no problem, Jenna, You're not disappointing me.
Speaker 2You're okay, that's okay, that's okay, We're fine.
I'm okay.
Are you okay?
Yeah, I'm okay that Jenna is not there?
Are you guys okay?
I just recently amazing.
He's amazing.
I saw I saw last night.
It was so fun.
I love her.
Speaker 1Who else showed up to the Megan to We all did.
Speaker 2And we are so close as a cast.
Yes, Aristotle, b j A.
Amy, who is the physical who was great on your show.
Amy's the physical performer of Megan was there looking.
They are growing up so fast.
I'm so old.
But Violet and Amy, Violet plays Katie and she was there, Tim Sharp and Avana Sokna, who you know because you've seen place.
Amelia was there and everyone, I mean it was just and John Van Epps who plays Test, I mean it was and Meredith, who is there without being in the movie.
She's in the movie, just in the way she influences me as a human being.
Anyway, that was my culture, that was my last culture.
Speaker 1So what's the through line?
Mary poppin Sound of Music.
John Rivers on Testame, Straight Star Wars and Rapunzel talk about the specific Rapunzel Radishes episode.
Speaker 2I think it's it was sticky because I'd never seen anyone want radishes and consume them in the way that she does.
So she's having like pregnancy cravings and needs them transported to her.
And the part of it that sense memory ish is watching someone like eat radishes and the delta between my level of enjoyment when I eventually got my hands on a radish and what the look on Shelley Duvall's face like radicalized Radishali radialized to me and I was like, I just really, I like, I don't know, it just crystallized this thing of like this isn't objectively, this shouldn't be eaten this way, and she's not, it's not real all, but she made it feel real because yes, exactly, because she was committed to the bit exactly.
And I was like, that is cool to your guys's point, I was like, this is she's being cool and I'm like really enjoying.
I'm in it and outside of it at the same time.
It is one of my first experiences that I.
Speaker 1Think fabulous constellation of answers.
Thank you for that.
Speaker 2Thank you for giving me.
Speaker 1To think about culture.
Okay, we gotta get you out think, honey, We gotta do think so honey.
Speaker 3So this is the sixty second segment that uh did you wait?
Speaker 1What did you just show me on your phone?
Are they texting you?
Speaker 3Oh?
Speaker 2Yeah, well good, we got it.
We got okay, good, we have to do what we have to do.
Speaker 3We gotta do ok So, this is the sixty second segment we have on this podcast each and every week we rent against something in culture.
Speaker 2I do have something that felt apropos.
Okay, here we go.
Speaker 1This is that Rogers.
I don't think so money as time starts now.
Speaker 3I don't think so honey, use of the term millennial as a slur nowadays.
Speaker 2You know what, gen Z, I have news for you.
Speaker 3You're getting older every single second, and I have to tell you something.
When you get to the point where you're our age, you're gonna look back.
You look stupid.
Like the way that you guys dress.
You look so stupid.
I understand that.
Speaker 2We looked stupid.
Speaker 3We did like the you know, the Rise, the v next, like I wore American Peril, Like it was like I worked there and I probably tried, you know what I mean, But like I can own my cringe, and I hope you get there because you look so stupid.
Also, you're all queer cool at least we fuck.
You're not even fucking.
You're not even using it.
You're not even using it.
You guys don't vote.
We vote.
Speaker 2Here's the thing, Like we're out here trying really hard.
Speaker 3And I get that it's cringe, but use of the term cringe and millennial as a slur, it's like so boring.
And I'll tell you what's worse than cringe being boring.
I don't think so, honey.
You said millennial as a slur.
Please like us one minute.
Speaker 1That's beautiful, artful.
I tried, and that was very millennial of about to bring this out.
Speaker 2No, it did, it was it was.
Speaker 1It was like it was a mixture.
Speaker 3So it was like last night, like me being like, oh thirty plus thing that definitely shook me.
Speaker 2And again they meant nothing by it.
Speaker 3But also Marnie Michaels as Millennial Icon and Girls as Millennial Landmark Show.
And I think that's part of the reason why I'm so like in I think it's why it's hitting again is because people now have aged into like a not a self consciousness, but a self awareness where we can all really laugh and we're all laughing at ourselves.
So gen Z being like the millennial pause like and getting us self conscious.
It's like, no, no, no, we don't need that.
We are self aware.
We're millennials.
Speaker 1Yeah.
The amount of times I've seen I don't know it's because my phone knows that we're talking to you, but it's like that we were about to talk to you, but all the past week it was just like, let's make fun of the girl put stub out there.
It's like that's been resurfacing in such a huge way because of this thing where we're all like, okay, I think we're the hell, Like, let's just move on.
Speaker 3And another thing is like on TikTok, it's like ough the millennial pause, Like we did a tech took the other day.
Speaker 2I cut the millennial pause.
Speaker 1Like it's like it's like a video where it's like, hey, guys, you know, it's like, yeah.
Speaker 2Because our phones have too many photos on them and they're just like slow, and we assume that it takes the second to start.
Speaker 1It's that you hit It's that a millennial person will hit record and then it takes them a second to realize that that.
Speaker 3It's filming, and so now I go and the always but the thing is that is so stupid as a thing to pick on.
And then I can't help but feel that in years time it's gonna be dumber that people were like, oh, the millennial pause, then the millennial pause being a thing like I think you guys in the grander scheme here are being uncool.
I think it's less cool to call out the millennial pause then like to have it sure, all right, this is bowing yangs.
I don't think so honey.
As time starts now, I don't think so honey.
Speaker 1Idioms, I'm just saying, in every language it is linguistic gatekeeping.
It's unless you're a native speaker, you will spend the rest of your life trying to learn a French idiom and a Mandarin idiom.
I don't know, like, I don't know these things, even though I supposedly like spoke the languages at one point.
English idioms.
Let's just go through a couple of them, raining cats and dogs.
What the fuck what are you talking about?
Just say it's raining very hard, it's it's coming down out there.
Speaker 2Well that actually that isn't.
Speaker 1Quite back off that one.
Figurative language.
I'm just gonna say, figurative language beautiful has a place in in in our in our culture.
Idioms are the thing where it's like it's poetry trying to disguise itself as like colloquial ship, and it's like, no, no, no, no, no, no, let's just I'm I'm being a literalist for the rest of my life.
I cannot speak in these metaphorical figurative things idioms.
I don't think so, honey.
Speaker 2And that's one.
Speaker 1See this, I feel like one of the great ap comp like I wanted to.
Speaker 2Talk to you about French, well, sidebar about it.
Your French is great.
I can hear it, Yes, in a casual where anyway we'll talk about it often.
Okay, okay, but yes, you are absolutely right.
And the videos I love the most of other cultures are the ones where they say their idioms out loud in English.
So we can hear what they sound like.
And they're like, we know this is crazy and you'll never learn how to say this, but we say this to each other.
All right, this is Alison Williams.
I don't think so much.
Time starts now, Okay, Slant's got to go.
I'm sorry.
I can't anymore.
I can't tell you to leave slanter out.
Is there slaughter in this or we calling it coriander?
I just can't and this is it.
It has to go.
I'm done.
I'm sorry.
Loud places why I can't be in allowed place.
No, I can't be in a low place.
It can't be in a lowed restaurant.
I have an app to test decibels.
I know the decerl level of New York City restaurants.
I will not go if it is too loud.
What's the point close talking because of loud places?
Speaker 3Do?
Speaker 2I don't want to smell your breath.
I don't want to feel it on my body.
I don't want to get order on my face.
Get back.
I do not talk to me too close.
People who like fish and eggs and eat them in the world with the rest of us, stop keep your disgusting foodcink like cilantro to yourself.
I don't want to be in the same room as an egg based product or a fish product.
Keep it somewhere else with these seconds lack of monocoachure we already talked about.
The last one is I actually do need sleep, but I identify as someone who doesn't, and I hate it.
I loved that.
I was a four hours a night person in high school, in college.
I miss her terribly.
She is gone, I need eight I need to accept this and I don't want to, so I don't think so honey, needing sleep.
And that's one minute, and she used to be mine.
That song we go.
Speaker 1Off for another hour.
We need to hear you saying this at some point in the future because she has to go.
Megan two point outs in theaters June twenty seventh, go see it.
It's so fucking good.
The moment is I can't spoil.
I wanted to say it slip the singer, but yeah, it is.
It'll be such a delightful surprise to.
Speaker 2You, expose the theater, exposed to say so.
Speaker 1Much for you are here, Thank you so much.
Speaker 2I love you both.
I feel confident dropping that heart l thank you for the hours and our days cumulatively months of entertainment.
Thank you for like just everything.
Thank you for recognizing me as cool, low key before I did, and you are yes, and we appreciate it.
And I r s CPS as well.
That was like sort of a coup of a defined gravity.
Bye.
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