[SPEAKER_00]: Ever been left speechless by the ridiculousness of modern dating, or maybe a more old school?

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, like seriously, what were we thinking with those pick-up lines in the 90s?

[SPEAKER_00]: This is I'll explain all this later, the podcast, where we dissect the crazy world of relationships from dating app disasters to in-line interventions.

[SPEAKER_00]: We'll cover it all.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now some of our takes might be a little hot, but hey, that's what you get when you press play and tune in, we'll explain the logic behind it all.

[SPEAKER_00]: Eventually, anyway, let's dive in.

[SPEAKER_03]: Listen y'all already know what it is.

[SPEAKER_03]: I felt like jumping on night cuz you know every so often I'll do one of these when I have some really good people on you First of all ladies first listen No, if y'all know no you got to come live goddamn it If y'all know [SPEAKER_03]: If y'all know big smash, y'all know that I am the king of collabs.

[SPEAKER_03]: I did a lot of collabs with this young lady right here, one of my favorite people.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know, podcasts extraordinary, missed time to build and what up, it's been a while, it's been a while.

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[SPEAKER_01]: And what's other thing?

[SPEAKER_01]: Amazon, Pandora, Spotify, everywhere.

[SPEAKER_03]: In other words, what she really trying to say is she a big deal.

[SPEAKER_03]: And then y'all know, I don't go too far, you know, we had my brother on here, early at this season.

[SPEAKER_03]: He called a lot of flat, good comment he made, I don't know, don't say night listen this is a continuation of a series that I've been doing, we did the resume, we did the application and now we're doing the interview, all right, now what am I talking about exactly, we're talking about [SPEAKER_03]: We're talking about how you're in for love, that's the name of the series.

[SPEAKER_03]: I, the interview, now the interview is like the first day.

[SPEAKER_03]: You don't got past, uh, how you getting into the big shit.

[SPEAKER_03]: So miss Ty.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yes.

[SPEAKER_03]: If someone is approaching you, right?

[SPEAKER_03]: What are you looking for?

[SPEAKER_03]: when they're sitting across from you.

[SPEAKER_03]: Y'all have been on the phone, y'all haven't talked, y'all haven't had, you know, the vibe, the conversation.

[SPEAKER_03]: Now the child will face the face, first day.

[SPEAKER_03]: First of all, do you have a successful, first day interview story or no?

[SPEAKER_03]: What's the successful first day to you?

[SPEAKER_01]: When we were in my success, I mean, all my first days of success.

[SPEAKER_01]: Like, I mean, when you meet like a, I don't have a bed.

[SPEAKER_01]: I've never had a bed first, D.

So it's, it's that what you tell me.

[SPEAKER_03]: So all your first dates, all your dates went fine.

[SPEAKER_03]: They were good enough plus second day.

[SPEAKER_03]: Kendrick, what up?

[SPEAKER_03]: Are we good enough for a second day?

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_03]: Interesting.

[SPEAKER_03]: Roll.

[SPEAKER_03]: Talk to me, first day, what is the first day like for you, man?

[SPEAKER_03]: I'd noticed for me to be some wild shit.

[SPEAKER_03]: You believe in first day to you believing, before you got married.

[SPEAKER_03]: What was the first day's like for you?

[SPEAKER_04]: I could take this, it's been a while, but for many, all right, so first of, punctuality was everything for me.

[SPEAKER_04]: That was a big deal for me, so if I'm scooping you, [SPEAKER_04]: You say, come by at 7.30, right?

[SPEAKER_04]: Don't want me, I'm gonna get dead a little early.

[SPEAKER_04]: But at 7.30, I'm expecting, we out.

[SPEAKER_04]: I don't want to hear, I'm still getting dressed, I'm still feeding the kids, I don't want to hear none of that type of shit.

[SPEAKER_04]: That shit matters, it's time it's money.

[SPEAKER_04]: I feel like if you're doing this on the first day, you show me who you was from the rip.

[SPEAKER_04]: which I know a lot of dudes don't think about that type of shit because they just think about getting some damage.

[SPEAKER_04]: But I think about that.

[SPEAKER_04]: So that, if you say, I mean you have to restaurant, or bolinize it, wherever we go, you show up late.

[SPEAKER_04]: I'm thinking about that shit.

[SPEAKER_04]: What's just me?

[SPEAKER_04]: That could fuck the whole data for me.

[SPEAKER_03]: Okay.

[SPEAKER_03]: I so, you can have a good resume.

[SPEAKER_03]: You can have a good application.

[SPEAKER_03]: But now it's time to put all that to the test.

[SPEAKER_03]: So, if you tell me that you're funny, tell me a joke.

[SPEAKER_03]: I wanna see first hand, you know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_03]: If you tell me, you gotta experience with this, this and this, I'm going to pull that car.

[SPEAKER_03]: My thing is always been like you said, being on time is everything.

[SPEAKER_03]: But I'm gonna tell you what I pay attention to.

[SPEAKER_03]: I pay attention how, how you talk to people, how you talk to the waiter.

[SPEAKER_03]: I pay attention how you talk to me.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_03]: I pay attention to those things because, again, first impressions, I everything.

[SPEAKER_03]: You don't get a second chance to make a first impression.

[SPEAKER_03]: So, coming to the door on time is key, depending on where we at, where we going, dressing well is key.

[SPEAKER_03]: How you carry yourself is key, too.

[SPEAKER_03]: Because a lot of times, we call that code switching.

[SPEAKER_03]: When you can be professional, all you can be fun.

[SPEAKER_03]: It's a difference.

[SPEAKER_03]: First day, I believe, and I ain't going to hold you.

[SPEAKER_03]: If I like you enough, [SPEAKER_03]: We gonna have a good all-time on make sure of that.

[SPEAKER_03]: This is where you get to show me that.

[SPEAKER_03]: You did all that talking about who you are, what's your bout, how you move.

[SPEAKER_03]: Great, now I wanna see this in action.

[SPEAKER_03]: I wanna see how this plays out, you know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_03]: Don't come in, you know, your body language is everything.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know, I am a real big person on body language, you know?

[SPEAKER_03]: Are you interested in this date?

[SPEAKER_03]: Are you sitting here?

[SPEAKER_03]: Are you sitting here with your arms folded and, you know, slouching and paying attention to your phone?

[SPEAKER_03]: Listen, I'm big on that too.

[SPEAKER_03]: Stay to fuck off your phone, right off.

[SPEAKER_03]: All right, because, [SPEAKER_03]: I've been in situations where the phone got more attention than that person, and I learned a long time ago when you show up, you're showing up because you have interest in this person.

[SPEAKER_03]: You're trying to know this person, so all the distractions should be off.

[SPEAKER_03]: Now, Mr.

Ty, I want to ask you, what is some like key things again that you're looking for?

[SPEAKER_03]: wait whoever you date.

[SPEAKER_03]: What comes off and says, hey, we talking.

[SPEAKER_03]: But now I actually want to be around you.

[SPEAKER_03]: I actually want to see what you're about.

[SPEAKER_03]: What makes I treat this like a job.

[SPEAKER_03]: So applications matter.

[SPEAKER_03]: So what pulls, [SPEAKER_03]: them out crowd and feel like yeah, I want to take you out.

[SPEAKER_03]: I want to be around you.

[SPEAKER_03]: Let's do something less.

[SPEAKER_03]: What type of things are you looking for that gets you per se, that gets them the interview.

[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I guess with the conversation that we have in, right?

[SPEAKER_01]: So it's like, do we share the same interest?

[SPEAKER_01]: Are you interested?

[SPEAKER_01]: Because, you know, some people can be boring, right?

[SPEAKER_01]: So, like, when are we talking?

[SPEAKER_01]: Because, you know, sometimes you think that we can have, like, you have to be in front of somebody to feel chemistry.

[SPEAKER_01]: But sometimes, you can feel that over the phone sometimes, you know?

[SPEAKER_01]: So if we have that, you know, because like, you know, sometimes when I'm talking to people, not necessarily like date and while, but just in general, like, you could talk to someone, and you feel like, like, man, I feel like I know this person, all my life.

[SPEAKER_01]: Because you have that kind of, you know, energy, or chemistry with that person.

[SPEAKER_01]: So I think this one, the main thing.

[SPEAKER_01]: And if they're on the same page, just me.

[SPEAKER_01]: Like, so I always ask them, like, you know, what are you looking for, right?

[SPEAKER_01]: So like, be honest, if you look good for a friend with benefits, okay, next.

[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, so, you know, the honesty about exactly what they want to know about that kind of stuff.

[SPEAKER_03]: Now, hello, hello.

[SPEAKER_03]: Now, if he being honest, and he telling you, yeah, that's what he's looking for.

[SPEAKER_03]: You're going to next him?

[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, because that's how I was looking for it.

[SPEAKER_04]: Great to be just told you why he was that honest.

[SPEAKER_01]: Well, now you be honest, you know, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no [SPEAKER_03]: who actually decent, but actually decent person.

[SPEAKER_03]: You ain't never had that experience.

[SPEAKER_03]: You guys don't what he's talking about.

[SPEAKER_03]: Like, it came off like, okay, for example.

[SPEAKER_03]: The dude, y'all, you see a jolly guy none in common, but after sitting there and talking to this person, your mentality never changed like, you know what I thought this was going to be the last time I saw you, but, [SPEAKER_01]: something that clicked that well for me I would say I'm I'm different okay I'm an energy girl okay did you know I'm a whole witch so if I if I peek something into you then that's not you know you wanted a one strike act they're not getting a follow-up interview [SPEAKER_01]: When they can't get a follow any of you, if we're not vibing, we're not going to be, you know what I mean?

[SPEAKER_01]: Hey brother.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm saying no, if, bro, you'll get what I'm saying, if you came in and you just knew that you, this shit wasn't going no further than what it was, but something clicked.

[SPEAKER_03]: They said something or they, they manners or, you know, they asked the right questions, they treated this like because when you're on the first day, you're supposed to ask questions too.

[SPEAKER_03]: You're supposed to.

[SPEAKER_01]: You're supposed to.

[SPEAKER_01]: On the first day, I was like, you know how guys we, you know, girls, they just be talking.

[SPEAKER_01]: I'm just opposite.

[SPEAKER_01]: I like the man who brought talk.

[SPEAKER_01]: I want to hear about you.

[SPEAKER_01]: I ask him questions.

[SPEAKER_01]: So I get him to talk because I need to, I need to fill you up.

[SPEAKER_03]: Listen, stop asking on base gas questions.

[SPEAKER_01]: Oh no, I don't have any questions.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'll be fine.

[SPEAKER_03]: You got to expand more than what's your favorite color.

[SPEAKER_03]: No, no, nothing.

[SPEAKER_03]: You got to expand past that life.

[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, I can tell you what holds in dream, babe.

[UNKNOWN]: OK.

[SPEAKER_01]: I want more than what it is.

[SPEAKER_01]: I forget to think about it.

[SPEAKER_04]: What are you doing?

[SPEAKER_04]: What are you just saying?

[SPEAKER_01]: I am.

[UNKNOWN]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_01]: But I mean, I don't wanna know what your favorite dish you know, that ain't good.

[SPEAKER_03]: You have to sell yourself.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_03]: Like, you have to sell yourself.

[SPEAKER_03]: I don't been on first dates where they were amazing.

[SPEAKER_03]: And then it was like, you gave me the best you had on this first one.

[SPEAKER_03]: We talked about everything under the sun.

[SPEAKER_03]: What we doing on this next one?

[SPEAKER_03]: I expect patients a little different because...

Are we?

[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_01]: It depends.

[SPEAKER_01]: It depends.

[SPEAKER_01]: Like, I think it depends though.

[SPEAKER_01]: Like, like, say, like, you get somebody's number.

[SPEAKER_01]: And then you, uh, you talk to them on the phone for like weeks at a time before you go on the first day.

[SPEAKER_04]: It's not enough.

[SPEAKER_01]: No, I'm just saying, like, because some people do that.

[SPEAKER_01]: Like, like, I know, like, one of my, um...

[SPEAKER_03]: Definitely not an option.

[SPEAKER_01]: From our friends, right?

[SPEAKER_01]: Like, so she got the guy's number where he got her number.

[SPEAKER_01]: And so they would just text back a little bit for like a week or two before they actually went or out on the birthday.

[SPEAKER_01]: So, so are you saying, like, as soon as you get the number, you would like, okay, let's go out tomorrow.

[SPEAKER_01]: Is that what she's talking about?

[SPEAKER_04]: I'm an energy person as well, and I can't really put an energy on the phone.

[SPEAKER_04]: I didn't mind talking for a day or two, but if we said a day, once we reached seven, eight, nine days and we ain't leaking, we ain't talking about Lincoln.

[SPEAKER_04]: I'm kind of turned off.

[SPEAKER_01]: What are you talking about, Lincoln?

[SPEAKER_01]: I'm just saying, because you know, you get that work.

[SPEAKER_01]: You know, you know, so you don't communicate in the first, the in between time, you know, you actually going out of the day.

[SPEAKER_04]: Not really.

[SPEAKER_04]: I feel like a conversation or two, let you know if you want to actually link up with this version.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_04]: Really want to see what it's about, y'all going to link up.

[SPEAKER_04]: And I ain't talking about just linking the smash and I'm like that.

[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_04]: I'm going to be in each other's company.

[SPEAKER_04]: It's going to kind of fill each other's vibe.

[SPEAKER_01]: So I question it.

[SPEAKER_01]: I got a question.

[SPEAKER_01]: So if I say what the day is what Friday?

[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.

[SPEAKER_01]: You saying?

[SPEAKER_01]: Red, I want to take you out and I'll say, well, I have this in the Lord.

[SPEAKER_01]: We can just link up on Tuesday.

[SPEAKER_01]: We need to tell me, between now and Tuesday, you not calm the same thing for me.

[SPEAKER_04]: I want to talk to you, maybe.

[SPEAKER_01]: But that's going to talk about you still communicating, you still communicating with me.

[SPEAKER_01]: Two weeks, that's the long-ass sounded.

[SPEAKER_04]: I was just uniting the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of the end of [SPEAKER_01]: Well, so when you meet that person, when you actually talk to that person, when you first meet that person, if you haven't felt out the energy before you'd ask for it for you.

[SPEAKER_04]: So, everybody, you could be anybody over the phone.

[SPEAKER_01]: No, no, no, no, no, no.

[SPEAKER_01]: When you met them.

[SPEAKER_04]: Yes, I'm familiar with you right here.

[SPEAKER_01]: Did you hear?

[SPEAKER_04]: Did you hear?

[SPEAKER_04]: I have this incredible superpower that I kept people to talk without even asking the talk.

[SPEAKER_04]: So, if you can't talk, if your energy is off, [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, we just go and I ain't going to say nothing, we just go on keep going, normal business and once we can party and I'm not allowed to say you'll never hear from me again.

[SPEAKER_03]: Let's get into here, y'all know.

[SPEAKER_04]: when you talk, the way you act, your mannerisms.

[SPEAKER_04]: You know what I mean?

[SPEAKER_04]: Can you crack a joke?

[SPEAKER_04]: Are you willing to crack a joke?

[SPEAKER_04]: I'm guaranteed to talk shit.

[SPEAKER_04]: You already know that.

[SPEAKER_04]: That's just me.

[SPEAKER_04]: That's what I do.

[SPEAKER_04]: So I'm gonna talk shit to you.

[SPEAKER_04]: I'm because I'm gonna see how far I can go.

[SPEAKER_04]: You know what I mean?

[SPEAKER_04]: Well, they won't.

[SPEAKER_04]: I'm gonna test the support.

[SPEAKER_01]: In fact, when for me energy is, you know, my spirit activate the demons and keep so they tend to flee, they all stay around long anyway.

[SPEAKER_03]: You can explain that.

[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, we on all the explain all is led.

[SPEAKER_03]: You got to explain that.

[SPEAKER_03]: You said you bring the demons out of people.

[SPEAKER_03]: The red flags, is that what we've heard that to?

[SPEAKER_01]: No, they just get uncomfortable.

[SPEAKER_03]: Why?

[SPEAKER_03]: What the hell do you do?

[SPEAKER_01]: Because they energy's wasn't there.

[SPEAKER_01]: any energy vampires, but this is they they can't they can't be around them because I'll aggravate them.

[SPEAKER_03]: But you don't want to do that.

[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, yeah, dude, because I don't you you don't wonder of the wrong person attached to you do you?

[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, but I don't think it's that they can't be around you because you suck.

[SPEAKER_01]: No, no, no, seriously.

[SPEAKER_01]: Think people.

[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, so so yeah, [SPEAKER_03]: because that's what the first half is.

[SPEAKER_03]: You're sending your representative.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know, so how long before you say I, I don't no longer want the representative.

[SPEAKER_03]: I want you to be you.

[SPEAKER_03]: Are you coming through the door with that energy like, I want you to be you from the door.

[SPEAKER_03]: Don't send me who you think I want you to be.

[SPEAKER_03]: Are you coming in?

[SPEAKER_04]: I was here.

[SPEAKER_04]: I was taking the representative off within 2030.

[SPEAKER_04]: I thought you were acting with the demons and you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can [SPEAKER_01]: That's a red, red, red, red, red.

[SPEAKER_04]: If you want to first date and all you talk about is your kids, that's who you will.

[SPEAKER_01]: I think the only time I'm like, I'm dressed in like, when they ask, you know, how many kids you have, you know, the age and all that kind of stuff.

[SPEAKER_01]: That's just what they sit there.

[SPEAKER_01]: I want a long, dire travel about, like your kids.

[SPEAKER_01]: So keep my baby disappear, do it.

[SPEAKER_01]: And you actually write, you know, you can see that they're life is surrounded by the kids.

[SPEAKER_01]: Their life is concerned about the kids.

[SPEAKER_01]: So I get that.

[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, I had Uncle Dolom, I don't hear a couple of weeks back.

[SPEAKER_03]: And he said one of the first things that he's asking is how many kids that a person has because he needs to know if that's a match too because if you've had a certain amount of kids.

[SPEAKER_03]: People are quick to turn that away because when you deal with that woman or that man, you are dealing with them kids, you're going to deal with them kids of adventure.

[SPEAKER_01]: It's all your question.

[SPEAKER_01]: It's a little question.

[SPEAKER_04]: What I want to say is that if you told me anything more than one, it was a wrap.

[SPEAKER_01]: I agree.

[SPEAKER_03]: I wasn't bringing up, I'm not a smash, I'm not bringing it on a whole basketball Yeah, it's me, I'm a whole basketball team, baby I'm really hungry, listen, I'm bringing the kids to the end of you out of what y'all's up Now we all fit to eat [SPEAKER_03]: The key is, I'm my wingman, so we all hear God dammit.

[SPEAKER_03]: If you spend too much time talking about show X, blaming them, you know, just just blaming them.

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, it didn't work out because they did this and they did that listen.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm gonna tell you right now, you got, you got about 15 minutes.

[SPEAKER_03]: You got about 15 minutes to talk about why your past and work, because I'm going to act.

[SPEAKER_01]: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, [SPEAKER_01]: They love saying that.

[SPEAKER_01]: It was the first thing.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, oh, oh, that's a big word.

[SPEAKER_03]: They, they, they, they love that word.

[SPEAKER_01]: You don't tell me.

[SPEAKER_01]: Try to control me.

[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, that guy's right.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm big on, okay, why didn't your past work?

[SPEAKER_03]: I want to know why you single.

[SPEAKER_03]: I want to know.

[SPEAKER_03]: Now, if you're willing to tell me exactly what your part was, I'm listening.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_03]: But, [SPEAKER_03]: If you get to Holland now, show X this and your X that then I'm going to X, okay, what happened with the X before then?

[SPEAKER_01]: Right.

[SPEAKER_03]: What are you doing?

[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, at this point, we've asked about two X's and you have basically said, your perfect, you don't make mistakes, you did nothing wrong.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, I don't know.

[SPEAKER_03]: Why you'd a problem?

[SPEAKER_03]: Oh yeah, listen, I don't mind somebody coming off and saying that.

[SPEAKER_03]: Listen, I don't do this, do that, but I do this and I do that.

[SPEAKER_03]: Not perfect, I make mistakes, I'm looking for change, I'm looking for someone to bring that out of me.

[SPEAKER_03]: You hit all the time.

[SPEAKER_03]: You hit all the time.

[SPEAKER_03]: People will tell you, yeah, I fucked up some people with.

[SPEAKER_03]: But now, again, through the door, be honest.

[SPEAKER_03]: I like honesty.

[SPEAKER_03]: All right.

[SPEAKER_03]: Tell me why we're here.

[SPEAKER_03]: Tell me why we're doing this.

[SPEAKER_03]: What is your real goal, him?

[SPEAKER_03]: Don't tell me I'm looking for a relationship and you look for help.

[SPEAKER_03]: I've seen me.

[SPEAKER_03]: I've seen where people will send their representative.

[SPEAKER_03]: If I'm looking for love and none, none, none, none.

[SPEAKER_03]: And then tomorrow they ask me 350 dollars for they phone me.

[SPEAKER_03]: I've seen you and then that is work that that was another turn of me if you instantly looking for loves I wasn't instantly like if you instantly knowing I get it the purpose of dating is to find the person that you want but not through the door not [SPEAKER_03]: you moving in, you already getting the keys to the crib.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'll let others shit, not off the bed.

[SPEAKER_03]: We ain't doing it.

[SPEAKER_03]: And I think sometimes, they listen, the hookup culture has really shifted dating in 2025.

[SPEAKER_03]: All right, because really nobody's really, I don't say nobody, but there are a lot of people out here who are not interested in going through the phases of dating, [SPEAKER_03]: Lookin' up has become so easy.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_03]: It has become so easy.

[SPEAKER_03]: Like a lot of people I skip in levels.

[SPEAKER_03]: They're skipping it, which is why I started doing this series because the interview you I suppose to show out, you made it all the way here.

[SPEAKER_03]: You made it to this point.

[SPEAKER_03]: So your response to show out.

[SPEAKER_03]: You're supposed to have a ball.

[SPEAKER_03]: You're supposed to go crazy.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_03]: The interview, both parties should be asking questions.

[SPEAKER_03]: All right, it's not a one-sided thing.

[SPEAKER_03]: It's not about I'm just gonna hear you.

[SPEAKER_03]: Now I want you to hear me too.

[SPEAKER_03]: Let's talk about, let's figure it out because I want it to work because nobody wants to waste a time, they money, they conversation.

[SPEAKER_03]: None of that.

[SPEAKER_03]: Just have to do it over again with the next person.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm cool on that.

[SPEAKER_03]: I want to get it right this first time.

[SPEAKER_03]: So if I get it right this first time then I got to worry about it again.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_03]: Like I don't want to keep having to go after people, go after people, go after people, go after people and keep spending money, spending money on dates and getting a renewal person.

[SPEAKER_03]: Nobody has time for that.

[SPEAKER_03]: So [SPEAKER_03]: The purpose of a first date is to figure out if y'all are going to be a match for a second and a third and a fourth and so on.

[SPEAKER_03]: All right, so you have to be honest with yourself, you know, it's the reason why we're here.

[SPEAKER_03]: So roll, let me ask you.

[SPEAKER_03]: Advice for anyone out here, man, that has made it past, you know, they've applied themselves with a resume.

[SPEAKER_03]: Application was dope.

[SPEAKER_03]: The interview process.

[SPEAKER_04]: what tips would you give somebody on a first day on or not even a first day just actually vitally being around somebody what advice would you give believe who they are stop thinking that this ain't the real person they'll change they're gonna be different believe that shit if they again if they show up late day one [SPEAKER_04]: how they live.

[SPEAKER_04]: I didn't think I'm going to be late for anything and they don't care about nobody else's time but theirs.

[SPEAKER_04]: So I don't think that don't think that come 3-6-7 months from now.

[SPEAKER_04]: They're going to give a fuck about your time because they showed you from beginning.

[SPEAKER_04]: It's all about them.

[SPEAKER_03]: I agree.

[SPEAKER_03]: Show me who you are through the dough and I'm going to believe you.

[SPEAKER_03]: I don't believe that somebody starts off shitty and then they change because they fall in for a person.

[SPEAKER_03]: I don't believe it.

[SPEAKER_03]: I believe, if you want this job, if you want this situation, this scenario, if you want to get to know me, put your best foot forward because I'm gonna put my best foot forward, 110% of the time, especially if I'm filling you.

[SPEAKER_03]: If I'm not filling you, I'm gonna tell you that.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm not gonna lead you on and coast you afterwards and nobody wants to be ghosting.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm gonna tell you.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm gonna let you know, yeah, this ain't gonna work.

[SPEAKER_03]: But you're a good person.

[SPEAKER_03]: You're going, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

[SPEAKER_03]: He doesn't say you will find your person.

[SPEAKER_03]: It's not me baby.

[SPEAKER_03]: Listen, I don't have a problem giving you a pet talk.

[SPEAKER_04]: Like, I ain't got that energy.

[SPEAKER_04]: You should get yourself a pet talk when you woke up this morning.

[SPEAKER_04]: Fuck, I gotta do it for you.

[SPEAKER_03]: Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha [SPEAKER_03]: You're a wonderful person.

[SPEAKER_03]: You're a person.

[SPEAKER_03]: You're a person.

[SPEAKER_03]: And as you did not get it, you're a person.

[SPEAKER_03]: You're light, you're light is something amazing.

[SPEAKER_03]: You're going to find that person.

[SPEAKER_03]: It's not me.

[SPEAKER_04]: But you're gonna find that person, you don't think it's not.

[SPEAKER_04]: First of all, when you say in that time shit, that's not a he goes broken.

[SPEAKER_04]: It's not.

[SPEAKER_04]: You're talking about, fuck, you're gonna be I just not with me.

[SPEAKER_04]: That's worse than actually ghosting that motherfucker.

[SPEAKER_03]: How?

[SPEAKER_03]: Come on, guys.

[SPEAKER_03]: Have you done an interview for a job?

[SPEAKER_03]: And that'll be like, we'll call you.

[SPEAKER_03]: And they don't have no plan to call you.

[SPEAKER_04]: Oh, see, that's the thing, man.

[SPEAKER_04]: I'm real listening.

[SPEAKER_04]: So when they say, we'll call you.

[SPEAKER_04]: And I'm like, listen, do I got two days to wait or three?

[SPEAKER_04]: Well, let you know hard cool.

[SPEAKER_04]: I ain't get it.

[SPEAKER_04]: Thank you appreciate the interview like I'm waiting by to sit here Wait around While we saw they might call me now now we not doing that [SPEAKER_03]: I mean, but if you really won't that job, you're going to apply yourself.

[SPEAKER_03]: You won't call every day.

[SPEAKER_04]: Interviews, I don't care what kind of interview it is, right?

[SPEAKER_04]: Interviews are for personality.

[SPEAKER_04]: No interview has ever been done based off your actual qualifications.

[SPEAKER_04]: You interview based off, do this person fit for me.

[SPEAKER_04]: Do this person fit for this job.

[SPEAKER_04]: It's the same exact thing.

[SPEAKER_04]: Because in the interview, they ain't saying yo, if you're a painter, go paint that world.

[SPEAKER_04]: No, they talking to you about who you are, how you are, what you've done, all that type of shit.

[SPEAKER_04]: It's the same thing with a relationship.

[SPEAKER_03]: They want to hire you, you want to kill your resume, best of all.

[SPEAKER_04]: They're not hiring you off your resume, because it could be 19 resumes that look prior to yours, but she was able to show enough personality that they hired you.

[SPEAKER_03]: They never met you though.

[SPEAKER_04]: interview because of your resume.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yes, it's 20 a.o.

[SPEAKER_03]: that got fire resumes.

[SPEAKER_04]: but only one of y'all won't get a job.

[SPEAKER_04]: Whoever stands out the best, not with the resident, whoever stands out the best with the personality.

[SPEAKER_04]: That's who ended up getting hired.

[SPEAKER_04]: So if you can't do that on a fucking first date, show your actual personality, then you shouldn't be fucking date.

[SPEAKER_04]: You need to be home watching TV by your mother fucker self.

[SPEAKER_03]: Well, I think you do have to separate yourself.

[SPEAKER_03]: You do have to stand out.

[SPEAKER_03]: You do have to, you know.

[SPEAKER_03]: Uh, but it's time before you step back, I asked, I said, what advice would you give to someone that's out here on, you know, a first interview.

[SPEAKER_03]: What advice would it stack in?

[SPEAKER_01]: Be yourself.

[SPEAKER_01]: Be yourself, because, you know, [SPEAKER_01]: You can't, if you go as a Camille, you know, with which I call it a representative, you're not going to get that facade up, but it's so long, right?

[SPEAKER_01]: So then you, you kind of like deceiving the person, because that's not the real you.

[SPEAKER_01]: So just be yourself.

[SPEAKER_04]: I'm like, you're here, but I don't know how to be there, so that's the problem.

[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that's the problem, you know.

[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that's true, and that's probably why they say they don't have it.

[SPEAKER_03]: Mm-hmm.

[SPEAKER_03]: I think honestly, you got to come in with your best for a forward.

[SPEAKER_03]: Only nothing on the table.

[SPEAKER_03]: Treat this like you're never going to get a second date.

[SPEAKER_03]: You're never going to, you know.

[SPEAKER_03]: Come in with your best for for your best effort.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_03]: All right.

[SPEAKER_03]: And again, if it doesn't work out, let them down easy.

[SPEAKER_03]: Let them down, East.

[SPEAKER_04]: First of all, we know you fucking frog about saying that shit.

[SPEAKER_04]: Oh my god.

[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, you try and get clicks and like shit and like like what's going on?

[SPEAKER_03]: No, I'm serious though, I'm serious.

[SPEAKER_03]: What does that mean, Smith?

[SPEAKER_03]: I've been in situations bro where someone was very, very harsh with me and I ain't like it.

[SPEAKER_03]: So why would I want to put that on somebody else?

[SPEAKER_04]: Fuck God.

[SPEAKER_03]: You're gonna let somebody down.

[SPEAKER_03]: You don't have to be like, [SPEAKER_03]: Motherfucker, don't call me normal, I ain't never talking to you again, blah, blah, blah, blah, you don't have to be like that, it's some people either.

[SPEAKER_04]: I know why I don't mind being on shows that you spend, so I like your brilliance, you know what I mean?

[SPEAKER_04]: But tonight you ain't there, you've been real fraudulent right now, so.

[SPEAKER_04]: Oh, you know damn well, you ain't throwing that shit, son.

[SPEAKER_04]: At, no, okay, no, yeah, well, yeah, it's not gonna be like, you're a great person, you're a great person, you're a great person, you're a great person, you're a great person, you're a great person, you're a great person, you're a great person, you're a great person, you're a great person, you're a great person, you're a great person, you're a great person, you're a great person, you're a great person, you [SPEAKER_03]: I was like me.

[SPEAKER_03]: Fuck no.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm not even giving you a conversation at the end of this, like, I'm gonna pay the bill and I'm gonna go ahead on about my business.

[SPEAKER_03]: No need more refined to me.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm gonna give you a why.

[SPEAKER_03]: Asked to why this isn't gonna work.

[SPEAKER_03]: See some people, you have a been in the situation and you wanna know why it didn't work out.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm gonna give you that.

[SPEAKER_03]: I want to give you a reason asked to why.

[SPEAKER_03]: So you're not sitting at home wondering.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I mean?

[SPEAKER_03]: No, Ojo, that's a secret.

[SPEAKER_04]: Basically, I'm gonna say, you have a thing, maybe yes, you're energy that's making her energy not be good.

[SPEAKER_03]: That's right, too, because I've seen that very good point.

[SPEAKER_03]: Very good point.

[SPEAKER_04]: Put yourself in her shoes, right?

[SPEAKER_04]: I, you're, you're, you're, you're making me not be one point.

[SPEAKER_04]: The way you think I should.

[SPEAKER_04]: Now, you got a nerve to try to give me a fuck of pet talk.

[SPEAKER_04]: Then let me down, ease.

[SPEAKER_03]: So, I've had situations where [SPEAKER_03]: The person didn't come off the way that they came off over the phone, and when I got that I was disappointed, and you could tell, I like I said, if body language was early, body language can throw the whole data, you can throw the whole energy off, you know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_03]: And my mind is, we're here.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm already here, we already had to tell you, the food's already been ordered, I just will make the best.

[SPEAKER_03]: But the old shift in energy can actually cause that other person's shift in energy.

[SPEAKER_03]: We can't get in the ball balls, but it's like, we're not really here.

[SPEAKER_03]: This is the end, like, we're not really fucking with it.

[SPEAKER_03]: So like Raul said, your energy can shift can make both parties unease their first day closure.

[SPEAKER_03]: I think sometimes you do though.

[SPEAKER_03]: If you spit a lot of time over the phone, you spend a lot of time talking again to know each other over the phone.

[SPEAKER_03]: Then you have that first date, and then it does it work.

[SPEAKER_03]: I would give you that least to do respect of telling you why.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_03]: Because you have people out here who actually fall in love or fall for a person over the phone.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_03]: And then y'all get around each other and it's nothing like that.

[SPEAKER_03]: We see it all the time on catfish.

[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_03]: You get around people who've never seen them a day in your life.

[SPEAKER_03]: But the fillings in the conversation in the vibe and shit like that will who you in, you know?

[SPEAKER_03]: So I think I don't necessarily think it's closure, but I think it is enough for having to respect for the situation like I listen in any work.

[SPEAKER_03]: I do, listen, I'm a change man.

[SPEAKER_03]: Look what the sweat is getting.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, I do plan to check you right now, sir.

[SPEAKER_03]: I look, man.

[SPEAKER_03]: I know y'all both busy people.

[SPEAKER_03]: Let everybody know what y'all got going on.

[SPEAKER_03]: Had he read in the building?

[SPEAKER_03]: What's what you got going on, man?

[SPEAKER_03]: What they can find you at was happening?

[SPEAKER_01]: Um, you can find me in all of social media platforms.

[SPEAKER_01]: We're in the sick vibes.

[SPEAKER_01]: I see here on YouTube, I spend most of my money in the crack in it, on YouTube, what do I have for them?

[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, we're both more comfortable.

[SPEAKER_01]: The, I've been both business.

[SPEAKER_01]: I got to, I got to make some of the votes.

[SPEAKER_04]: The worst hit to say is grease.

[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, no, no, no, no, no, I got three exits.

[SPEAKER_01]: I have a new one in the accent, bought some of the accent and a gulla ki-ti accent.

[SPEAKER_01]: Give me the next.

[SPEAKER_01]: Then you'll hear the ki-ti.

[SPEAKER_01]: Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha [SPEAKER_01]: and I found out some information about it while she was really upset.

[SPEAKER_01]: It's a big one on point and to then right now, people are like calling the pastor out of whatever or so.

[SPEAKER_01]: I might talk about that briefly, but you know, Wednesdays, I have blueprint to the man's thoughts.

[SPEAKER_01]: Every Wednesday at 8 p.m.

[SPEAKER_01]: We spend 7 p.m.

[SPEAKER_01]: central.

[SPEAKER_01]: Every Wednesday, I close a panel of men.

[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.

[SPEAKER_01]: And I asked them questions that the ladies wants to know and I picked their brains and traumatized them, triggered them.

[SPEAKER_01]: Yep.

[SPEAKER_01]: So yeah, that's all I got for one.

[SPEAKER_03]: Thanks a lot.

[SPEAKER_03]: She being real modest real quick.

[SPEAKER_03]: Let me know if any subscribers you got over here on YouTube, man.

[SPEAKER_01]: Uh, 3,000 and 60.

[SPEAKER_01]: Nice.

[SPEAKER_03]: Thanks.

[SPEAKER_03]: My boy.

[SPEAKER_03]: Well, we got going on with the Enlightened Idiots, man.

[SPEAKER_03]: What's happening?

[SPEAKER_04]: All right, man.

[SPEAKER_04]: She boy, Rose says, posted an Enlightened Idiot podcast.

[SPEAKER_04]: We love every Saturday night, 10 p.m.

[SPEAKER_04]: Easton, only on YouTube.

[SPEAKER_04]: This week, so then we try to figure out who raised you.

[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, we're having a nice interview.

[SPEAKER_01]: Talk us a scratch game channel.

[SPEAKER_04]: But from the dumb shit people do to the dumb shit people say to the weird dating shit that goes on, we try.

[SPEAKER_04]: They got a little fuck raised y'all to go to the class.

[SPEAKER_01]: It's a different world out to you.

[SPEAKER_04]: Big fat.

[SPEAKER_01]: Mm-hmm.

[SPEAKER_03]: How can you really say it?

[SPEAKER_03]: Mm-hmm.

[SPEAKER_03]: Hey, listen.

[SPEAKER_03]: I just want you all to know it was not my intention to go live, but Ms.

[SPEAKER_03]: Ty wanted to go live.

[SPEAKER_03]: Excuse me?

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_01]: And I don't even want more than this to be in the cab.

[SPEAKER_03]: So, all the other, let's go to the ball and explain all this later.

[SPEAKER_03]: We're going to talk about being a drunken love.

[SPEAKER_01]: Drunken love?

[SPEAKER_01]: Drunken love?

[SPEAKER_03]: Drunken love.

[SPEAKER_01]: Mm-hmm.

[SPEAKER_01]: Like delusional in love.

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, so I got about five more episodes left this season before I take a hiatus and got to take kids and family stuff so we finish off strong I am going to start going back live and give my lives back pop and so this was the first one in a long time that I wanted to go live so listen brand the [SPEAKER_03]: I mean, I missed ties on YouTube every Wednesday.

[SPEAKER_03]: I just started popping back out on people's shows and missed ties was the first one that I jumped back out and popped out on.

[SPEAKER_04]: So I was watching last week, right?

[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, she over there, you know.

[SPEAKER_03]: And she has consistently did the YouTube shit.

[SPEAKER_03]: And now you've jumped completely into the YouTube shit.

[SPEAKER_03]: So I might have to make that jump too, man.

[SPEAKER_03]: I love YouTube.

[SPEAKER_03]: You can find me on TikTok, man.

[SPEAKER_03]: I got a new TikTok show coming out.

[SPEAKER_03]: It's called Explained Yourself I'm gonna turn my little series into a TikTok show and be on a lookout for that.

[SPEAKER_03]: Listen [SPEAKER_03]: I appreciate everybody for stopping by the night.

[SPEAKER_03]: I appreciate you all, man.

[SPEAKER_03]: I'm sick of sales, so I'm gonna get done.

[SPEAKER_01]: I do not know the sales, man.

[SPEAKER_01]: I do not know the sales, man.

[SPEAKER_03]: I call both of y'all up, so I'm like, nah, I can't waste y'all time.

[SPEAKER_03]: Then they won't do more.

[SPEAKER_04]: I was about to stay in my league because you know what?

[SPEAKER_04]: My schedule will be ridiculous.

[SPEAKER_04]: So I actually said it's not tonight.

[SPEAKER_01]: It's great.

[SPEAKER_01]: I forgot, because then I had to, I was on another panel this morning.

[SPEAKER_03]: I can't tell but you're a good people man, I appreciate y'all for poppin' Y'all know y'all always welcome over here, man I y'all, I'm out [SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for listening to I'll explain all this later.

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