[SPEAKER_00]: Ever been left speechless by the ridiculousness of modern dating, or maybe a more old school?

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, like seriously, what were we thinking with those pick-up lines in the 90s?

[SPEAKER_00]: This is, I'll explain all this later, the podcast, where we dissect the crazy world of relationships from dating app disasters to in-line interventions.

[SPEAKER_00]: We'll cover it all.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now some of our takes might be a little hot, but hey, that's what you get when you press play and tune in.

[SPEAKER_00]: We'll explain the logic behind it all, eventually.

[SPEAKER_00]: Anyway, let's dive in.

[SPEAKER_01]: I know what it is, what it is, and what it is, and what it's always going to be.

[SPEAKER_01]: And I've been feeling like a lot of times we make bad decisions of impulse.

[SPEAKER_01]: We're falling love with the wrong people.

[SPEAKER_01]: We give people chances that we normally wouldn't give chances too but because we got a good heart.

[SPEAKER_01]: The expansion does have a good heart.

[SPEAKER_01]: We normally don't really be indulging and making stupid ass decisions.

[SPEAKER_01]: We don't make the right decisions when we under the influence, and I ain't even talking about just being drunk off lick.

[SPEAKER_01]: I'm talking about being drunk off love.

[SPEAKER_01]: I'm talking about being drunk off lust.

[SPEAKER_01]: Being drunk off just the fact that you're making stupid ass decisions because you always wanna see the good in people.

[SPEAKER_01]: You always wanna feel like this person [SPEAKER_01]: means good by you they got good intentions.

[SPEAKER_01]: Tonight's episode is about that.

[SPEAKER_01]: Not everybody has good intentions, no matter how much you fuck with them.

[SPEAKER_01]: You, you can't always necessarily say I see the good in you because of who you are.

[SPEAKER_01]: Being drunk, being overly intoxicated off someone is addictive dangerous.

[SPEAKER_01]: I've made a lot of decisions when it came today, which is probably the reason why I don't drink.

[SPEAKER_01]: I don't drink.

[SPEAKER_01]: I might take a shot or two with you.

[SPEAKER_01]: I might take a celebratory shot, might owe out a little sum.

[SPEAKER_01]: Some shit like that just just for the moment.

[SPEAKER_01]: But a lot of times we end up in fucked up situations because we love or we feel like we love.

[SPEAKER_01]: All right, I remember one thing I would tell us, it's probably why I don't get drunk now.

[SPEAKER_01]: And I remember feeling that, five in, feeling that it was lit, you know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_01]: Being in my early 20s, it was lit.

[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_01]: I thought I was having a ball, I was feeling it.

[SPEAKER_01]: And so being under the influence will get you in that mind state.

[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, you know, it was this girl.

[SPEAKER_01]: I ain't gonna lie.

[SPEAKER_01]: I normally wouldn't pay attention to this girl.

[SPEAKER_01]: But I had to.

[SPEAKER_01]: That night, I was drunk, I was feeling it.

[SPEAKER_01]: Whatever.

[SPEAKER_01]: So, we ended up going back to her place because we went to her place.

[SPEAKER_01]: When I woke up in the morning, it was all bad.

[SPEAKER_01]: It was all fucked up.

[SPEAKER_01]: And so, I'm sitting here.

[SPEAKER_01]: I'm lost, I ain't really drawing off everything that was going on and I woke up.

[SPEAKER_01]: I saw myself laying next to it, right?

[SPEAKER_01]: So as I'm gathering my thoughts and like what the fuck just happened, right?

[SPEAKER_01]: Shorty.

[SPEAKER_01]: I don't even want to tell this part, but I'm gonna tell it.

[SPEAKER_01]: Shorty ass was out of pocket.

[SPEAKER_01]: And if you from Chicago, you know what we say when somebody out of pocket, right?

[SPEAKER_01]: Shorty ass was out of pocket.

[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, when I say she was out of pocket, it's because I was stuck.

[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_01]: Now, after I woke up and realized that I had went home with this woman, and I was young, don't judge me.

[SPEAKER_01]: I wasn't supposed to beat it, okay?

[SPEAKER_01]: It's a whole time she had a dude and a dude came home early and didn't expect it.

[SPEAKER_01]: Right?

[SPEAKER_01]: I believe at the time we was on like the third floor some shit.

[SPEAKER_01]: So here I am in my drawers still hung over this is the prime reason why I don't drink.

[SPEAKER_01]: Still hung over, fucked up and she got the audacity [SPEAKER_01]: So, tell him my fucking, it's a climb out the fucking window.

[SPEAKER_01]: Now again, I'm young, I'm still in my, gotta be in like my 20's still, cause I had like two kids at this time.

[SPEAKER_01]: I'm drunk, and you are thinking that I am about to jump out the third story window, you're crazy.

[SPEAKER_01]: I sat there, bro, I ain't gonna lie to you, I sat there, I wasn't moving, I was drunk.

[SPEAKER_01]: Seize me sitting now.

[SPEAKER_01]: I'm chilling.

[SPEAKER_01]: I'm drunk, so I'm not really drawing off of what was about to take place next Buddy asked fuck me up He walked my ass and the crazy thing about it is being drunk I didn't even fill it.

[SPEAKER_01]: I had a buzzed mine, so as he was in my ass I'm drunk.

[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not feeling none of this shit.

[SPEAKER_01]: I started laughing because it's like [SPEAKER_01]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_01]: His punches felt like love taps all soft and cutling and friendly and shit, right?

[SPEAKER_01]: So he wasn't my ass and I'm just laughing.

[SPEAKER_01]: He could mad even more, he'd mad.

[SPEAKER_01]: So he wasn't my ass like, he fucking me up.

[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm not even putting up a fight because again, I'm drunk.

[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm laughing at the same time.

[SPEAKER_01]: So he's seated, I'm laughing, he's seated.

[SPEAKER_01]: None of his shit is really affecting me.

[SPEAKER_01]: The man said, oh yeah, I got something for you.

[SPEAKER_01]: Hold on one second.

[SPEAKER_01]: He went to the other side of the room.

[SPEAKER_01]: He came into the closet.

[SPEAKER_01]: He comes out with a pistol.

[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, I sold it up real quick, dude.

[SPEAKER_01]: Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha [SPEAKER_01]: And I ran and the crazy thing about it, I was still in my drawers.

[SPEAKER_01]: I had no shoes on, and they got up burnin' so quick.

[SPEAKER_01]: It was like, yeah, it's time to get the fuck out of it.

[SPEAKER_01]: So I ended up making a decision that day, as I got all these cuts and bruises and shit on me, because once I sobered up, all I felt all in that shit, [SPEAKER_01]: I felt all of it like, whole body was fucked up.

[SPEAKER_01]: It's not in my face with fucked up.

[SPEAKER_01]: I was aching, or I felt all that afterwards.

[SPEAKER_01]: So I made a decision that day that I'm cool if I never have another strong drink like that again ever.

[SPEAKER_01]: And I don't even remember what it was.

[SPEAKER_01]: I know it fucked me up to the point where I ain't feeling none of that shit that was going on.

[SPEAKER_01]: Know your limit.

[SPEAKER_01]: When you're out here drinking and you're getting hot because this is the first part of this, we don't talk about the actual, the actual drinking part of this shit.

[SPEAKER_01]: I, this is it, I'm not really feeling to do all this.

[SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes people overstretched them say I was trying to keep up with the Joneses.

[SPEAKER_01]: Me, I was never the type to, you know, [SPEAKER_01]: make decisions.

[SPEAKER_01]: You know, I was the type to make the decisions getting drunk.

[SPEAKER_01]: I made a lot of fucked up decisions.

[SPEAKER_01]: They're all like, know your limit, man.

[SPEAKER_01]: You are most susceptible to making bad decisions when you don't have control of your own habits.

[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_01]: You gotta understand that certain things don't cross that line.

[SPEAKER_01]: Like I ain't never been that drunk to this day but I told y'all he was livin' my ass and all I could do was laugh.

[SPEAKER_01]: I was laughing about the shit.

[SPEAKER_01]: I think a lot of times people get drunk off of, not just drugs, they get drunk off of, of liquor, they get drunk off of a women lust, love, money, power, you get drunk off of all these things and you forget everything else around you.

[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_01]: I've seen it.

[SPEAKER_01]: You know, I've seen a lot of people make the most rash ass decisions because they fucked up and they don't think twice about [SPEAKER_01]: We turn a blind eye to people who flaws and red flags.

[SPEAKER_01]: We turn a blind eye to that shit because we love them because we care about them.

[SPEAKER_01]: And we forget everything that they put us through and everything that we went through because we love them.

[SPEAKER_01]: That's the face of being drunk and love too.

[SPEAKER_01]: They don't lie.

[SPEAKER_01]: They don't cheat it.

[SPEAKER_01]: They don't violate it too.

[SPEAKER_01]: But because you love them, you turn a blind eye.

[SPEAKER_01]: You overlook that shit.

[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_01]: You add a sight out of my.

[SPEAKER_01]: You push that shit to the back of your brain and hope that, you know, they don't make the same mistakes again.

[SPEAKER_01]: A lot of times people will take things that are not good for them because they don't want to be alone.

[SPEAKER_01]: Because they don't want to lose this person or because they don't want to have to start over or because they don't, they are afraid to leave whatever is in good for them.

[SPEAKER_01]: This is the way to go.

[SPEAKER_01]: This is how we do things.

[SPEAKER_01]: This is how we survive.

[SPEAKER_01]: This is how we, you know, we cope with things.

[SPEAKER_01]: A lot of times people will accept things that they normally don't accept because they are in love and they do believe that people can't change and they do believe that people got good hearts and they do believe that people got good minds and they just don't know what they're doing at that time.

[SPEAKER_01]: I've seen it.

[SPEAKER_01]: I've been that.

[SPEAKER_01]: Not many women.

[SPEAKER_01]: And my life that I probably fucked up and took advantage of because I knew that they loved me or they cared about me.

[SPEAKER_01]: It can be the other way around too.

[SPEAKER_01]: You can use people's feelings towards you against them or to your advantage.

[SPEAKER_01]: I know you love me, I know you care about me, I know you ain't gonna never let me go.

[SPEAKER_01]: So, it doesn't matter how many times I fuck up, it doesn't matter how many times I lie or cheat or, you know, just doing the same thing ridiculous things to you, I know you're gonna stay.

[SPEAKER_01]: And I've had my shit at it, and I'm sure anybody that hears this or sees this has to.

[SPEAKER_01]: I've had my shit at it, I've had my shit, knowing that I'm a good enough person to wear.

[SPEAKER_01]: I can get you to do pretty much forgive everything that I've done or said because I know you love me.

[SPEAKER_01]: And it took me a long time to realize that [SPEAKER_01]: It's not what you're supposed to do when you love somebody or when somebody loves you.

[SPEAKER_01]: Eventually you're gonna run out of chances, you're gonna run that person away.

[SPEAKER_01]: That was a scenario where I was so infactuated with other women, other people, other places, other things that I ended up watching.

[SPEAKER_01]: What I cared about, who I cared about, goes somewhere else.

[SPEAKER_01]: And for the longest time, I put myself in a...

[SPEAKER_01]: in a fucked up state of mind because it was like yo you supposed to be here with me dealing with me even though I'm you know jazzy one said it I know the way that a nigga living was whack but you don't get a nigga back like that and I was in a fucked up state of mind for the longest time because it was like [SPEAKER_01]: You want to say everything, you want to do everything right, you want to love to your foolish, you want to love with everything that you have because that person sees the good in you.

[SPEAKER_01]: You get blind about that love, that that person believes in you and that understands you and treats you well and sometimes you get drunk off of that and you overlook shit.

[SPEAKER_01]: You overlook how many times this person has hurt you.

[SPEAKER_01]: You overlook how many times this person is disrespecting you.

[SPEAKER_01]: You overlook how many times this person has not been there for you.

[SPEAKER_01]: You overlook those things.

[SPEAKER_01]: And then after a while it's like, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, [SPEAKER_01]: And I was loved drunk off a lot of shit that I did.

[SPEAKER_01]: I played myself way too many times thinking, you love me, so no matter what I say I do, you're going to be here.

[SPEAKER_01]: And I played myself quite a few times, and I've listened, I got, I listened.

[SPEAKER_01]: It ain't fun when you watchin'.

[SPEAKER_01]: Somebody that you love and you care about.

[SPEAKER_01]: Stop loving you and go.

[SPEAKER_01]: love someone else.

[SPEAKER_01]: I guess that's the worst feeling in the world, because now, now you're ready to fight everybody moving.

[SPEAKER_01]: Now you're ready to knock out holes, zip codes.

[SPEAKER_01]: Now you're ready, you're ready to pull up, pop out, show out, scunt, you don't care about the consequences, you don't care what happens after worst, that is the sign of being too love drop, because now you ain't thinking straight.

[SPEAKER_01]: You're thinking you out here for the fight for love and you for the risk at all, and then something happens.

[SPEAKER_01]: One bad decision changes everything.

[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_01]: Two seconds of anger can give you a lifetime of pain, or your family, or your kids.

[SPEAKER_01]: You sitting in jail because you crashed out and believed me.

[SPEAKER_01]: I've crashed out quite a few times in my life over situations that I started.

[SPEAKER_01]: So a lot of times we, we are blinded by the fact that just because someone loves us doesn't mean they have to take our shit.

[SPEAKER_01]: Real talk.

[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_01]: I don't judge any crash outs because if you feel like something is worth fighting for then you're going to do it.

[SPEAKER_01]: I've been in situations right now.

[SPEAKER_01]: Crazy thing about it, right?

[SPEAKER_01]: I've been in situations that I probably shouldn't even [SPEAKER_01]: I shouldn't even been in these situations but because I was in love and because I, or in lust, I was in that situation.

[SPEAKER_01]: And it sucked, it did.

[SPEAKER_01]: It sucked because I was fighting over something that I really didn't want.

[SPEAKER_01]: And then I've been situations that I fought for something that didn't want me.

[SPEAKER_01]: So either way it was a loose loose, you know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_01]: So sometimes you got to step back and analyze like, am I really this in love that I would just allow anything?

[SPEAKER_01]: Like, or are you really this in love that you would just allow anything?

[SPEAKER_01]: And I get it, being drunk like actual being drunk can can fuck up your mind.

[SPEAKER_01]: A lot of people get drunk too.

[SPEAKER_01]: ease and cope with shit that they know they can't change in real life, you know what I'm saying?

[SPEAKER_01]: We all go through pains and aches, things and deaths and things like that that we know that we can't necessarily get over, but we try to drink our palms away, we try to fuck our problems away, we try to, you know, buy and spin and push all our problems to the back but at that moment it's like, yeah, this shit is only temporary, these feelings don't come back.

[SPEAKER_01]: we disregard what common sense is really telling us because we want to fit in, you know, because we want to be accepted or because we want to be loved.

[SPEAKER_01]: I was in that state of my mind, man.

[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I let a lot of shit slide with a lot of people that I care about still to this day.

[SPEAKER_01]: I still care about them, but I let a lot of shit slide because I felt like that was the way what to be.

[SPEAKER_01]: I don't intentionally go out and try to hurt people.

[SPEAKER_01]: I think a lot of times I woke up and realized that this person is not for you.

[SPEAKER_01]: And just because we have no conversations where it's like, yeah, this person ain't for you.

[SPEAKER_01]: It doesn't mean, you know, we beef it or it has to end rough.

[SPEAKER_01]: It can end gentle.

[SPEAKER_01]: I've asked some gentle breakups where it's like, yeah, this thing gonna work.

[SPEAKER_01]: I was able to beat that vice of accepting everything that I shouldn't have.

[SPEAKER_01]: And sometimes what you gotta do, you gotta sober yourself up and ain't that much accepted and ain't that much love in the world to watch someone openly disrespect you and say, oh, I love you.

[SPEAKER_01]: And ain't that much respect in the world to watch somebody lie to you and say that I love you to say that I know I cheated on you, but I love you.

[SPEAKER_01]: I know I got this girl pregnant, but I love you.

[SPEAKER_01]: I know this dude got me pregnant, and his baby might not be yours, but I love it.

[SPEAKER_01]: I know we fight all day and all night, but I love you.

[SPEAKER_01]: And ain't enough love in the world to accept bullshit.

[SPEAKER_01]: I don't give a fuck.

[SPEAKER_01]: Everybody makes mistakes.

[SPEAKER_01]: I don't care who you are, you gonna make a mistake, but constantly making the same mistake over is no longer a mistake, it's a choice.

[SPEAKER_01]: You talking to somebody that went through and made a whole lot of mistakes the last five years and made a whole lot of fucked up choices and I can't even say I was drunk and love, I just say I was just drunk and stupidity.

[SPEAKER_01]: Then one day I sober up, one day I figured out.

[SPEAKER_01]: This ain't the way to go.

[SPEAKER_01]: You gotta be better to me.

[SPEAKER_01]: You're raising kids, you're raising, you're growing, you building.

[SPEAKER_01]: You transform it.

[SPEAKER_01]: You could change the world how you see fit.

[SPEAKER_01]: You could build how you see fit.

[SPEAKER_01]: But long lack lost in fake love and the definition of love and all this shit that they are here telling you, don't let that shit blind you.

[SPEAKER_01]: Take the beer goggles off, take the drunk love goggles off, take the cut, water goggles off.

[SPEAKER_01]: So, uh...

No, yeah.

[SPEAKER_01]: To the mother fucker.

[SPEAKER_01]: To the crew.

[SPEAKER_01]: That continues to try to speak ill on big smash.

[SPEAKER_01]: Let me say something to you.

[SPEAKER_01]: You know who you are.

[SPEAKER_01]: I don't buy the nobody.

[SPEAKER_01]: but I ain't never afraid to get my hands dirty.

[SPEAKER_01]: I could play them letting in that games with somebody else.

[SPEAKER_01]: Not the one.

[SPEAKER_01]: On the next episode, I'll explain all this later, listen.

[SPEAKER_01]: We did the resume.

[SPEAKER_01]: We did the application.

[SPEAKER_01]: We did the interview.

[SPEAKER_01]: The next episode, we are going to do the acceptance.

[SPEAKER_01]: Y'all know how we coming, man.

[SPEAKER_01]: I will see y'all next week and to the ones in the back.

[SPEAKER_01]: Find you some business.

[SPEAKER_01]: Boy, I really go down.

[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, October 6th.

[SPEAKER_01]: It's October 12th.

[SPEAKER_01]: We are having to explain Paluzza and [SPEAKER_01]: I'm taking it back to the original roots of Big Smash Live.

[SPEAKER_01]: We live every day.

[SPEAKER_01]: We got surprised guests.

[SPEAKER_01]: We got brand new live episodes of all explaining all this later.

[SPEAKER_01]: And I got a dope ass announcement and what's happening and what's about to take Blake and what's about to go down.

[SPEAKER_01]: So, tap the fucking, man.

[SPEAKER_01]: Y'all already know what this is.

[SPEAKER_01]: I see y'all soon.