Let's call this episode fat old bitch.

Okay, yeah, oh absolutely we should because we give each other a hard time all the time because we know that we're kidding.

Like Jenny will say something like, yeah, I know what you'd like to do, Dave, what suck that dick?

And I'm like, and she said that several times.

Well I say it in a funnier way than that.

I'm just say suck that dick.

I said, sucking dick.

Well, see it's funny because it's so inappropriate, but we know that we're we do it to make each other laugh.

And so Jenny was walking out the studio a minute ago, and I said, uh, don't go far, you big fat, you fat old bitch, because we get to do the Minnesota Goodbye yea.

And Jenny's like, you know, mocks contempt and she's like, oo what, I can't believe you called me a fat old bitch.

Hey you So that is I hope that you have that relationship with your coworkers, probably not your boss.

I would never go up to Rich and call him hey, you fat old bitch.

Oh maybe you should try.

I'm not going to do it, no, but if I saw, like, you know, fall in er Colt.

I don't know cult that well.

Honestly, I know he would laugh if I called him a fat old bitch.

Yeah.

Vont called me a couple of months ago, and it was very funny, you Pillsbury dough boy bitch, ye, And I think that's funny.

It's because you were like purposely sticking out your stomach like the dough boy, and so he was.

Then he threw that out there.

It was one of the funniest things he's ever said.

It was funny, it was indeed.

So I hope you have that relationship with your people at work.

So let's move on to the Minnesota goodbye.

Okay.

So the first email is talking about the thank you, you know, and I don't want to drive this into the ground, so we'll cover it briefly.

I have sent my grandkid's money.

They don't say thank you, so I've sent less instead of one hundred dollars.

I sent my grandson for his birthday the other day, I sent him fifty dollars instead of one hundred.

Guess who sent me a thank you text?

Last night?

Oh?

He did.

It was it was a daylight but he did send me a little chatty, little thank you text.

He's a very friendly kid.

Yeah, he's got a big personality for being thirteen fourteen years old.

But I'd been annoyed because I don't get thank yous for it.

So Brooke says, Dave, you need to say something about this situation.

To Beth, she is responsible for teaching gratitude and thankfulness as the parent is in my as the parent in my opinion, is she ever thankful?

Is the husband like that too?

Saying that's just how he is?

Is the reason why kids in the younger generation takes so much for granted.

Why wouldn't she teach them to call or text or whatever to say thank you to their grandparents of all people.

I think there are many things wrong about this and the way these kids will go about their life in the future.

Stop stop sending them shit and then see if they care.

Maybe they won't, but it'll teach them to not just assume that they're entitled to money or gifts on their birthdays or holidays without saying thank you.

I'm beyond baffled and pissed off.

Do better, Beth, is my conclusion.

Happy fucking Friday, says Brook.

Maybe we should change the name to Happy fucking Friday.

That's fine.

So I don't want to keep going back to that, but I think a lot of people can relate.

And I'm never going to say anything to Beth, but I might say something to him.

Well.

I wondered if she heard that you were upset somehow, because that's why her kid texted.

You, And that's possible.

Yeah, I mean it's very possible.

Beth used to live here.

It's possible that she.

But Beth would have texted me and said, hey, Dad, it really upset me that you're talking about this on the Minnesota Goodbye so anyway, but I was happy to get a thank you, So maybe I'll reach out to him and say, hey, you know what it means a lot when you say thank you.

So when somebody and you know, i'm his grandpa.

Grand I'm his grandpa, so I can teach him lessons too.

Write Yeah, you're allowed.

H Okay, there's another one and I want to be respectful.

That Jillian wrote in while read it quickly.

Few thoughts on you, Dave, sending gifts and not receiving to thank you for your grandkids.

Beth's reason is BS if I were you, I wouldn't send gifts anymore.

It's best job to raise your kids to be considerate, respectful to others, not saying thank you as a sign of disrespect.

In my opinion, if she questions why you didn't send a gift for Christmas, I'd tell her those gifts are not appreciated.

So I put up that boundary.

Gifts are not an expectation, and it's my choice if I want to send people gifts or not.

Good luck, Dave.

It's an internal battle being a parent and a grandparent, but sometimes you got to say fuck it and do what you want from Jillian.

Okay, let's see if the next one is about something different, and here we go, Hello morning show crew.

That's us.

I'm not sure if anybody suggested this yet, but maybe your family, Dave didn't want you to tag along.

Oh, this was the other day on her anniversary.

Tuesday was our twenty fifth anniversary and I was driving home not you know, no plans for the day.

Susan Texas says they're going to Mall of America with Carson.

They're going to meet Allison and her littlest girl down there, and they spent like three or four hours at the mall and probably had a great time.

And I picture him walking around with cotton candy and a shopping bag, laughing and saying, aren't you glad Dad's not here?

Oh, let's get ice cream?

She says.

Maybe they didn't want you to tag along because they were buying your birthday gifts.

M doubtful.

If Carson's not going to be in town that day, Susan may have wanted to do it while he was here.

Just a thought, not a member of the dart Lick Society.

But I'm not dead yet, so fingers cross, Okay, and that is that one.

Let me see.

I hate the part of the show.

Honestly.

I hate the part where I.

Go, well, let's see, hey, Jenny, you want to hear what I did last night?

Yeah?

What did you do?

So?

I matched with this new guy on Hinge.

I want to hear about this too.

Okay, great.

So I matched with this other guy on Hinge and I had to put on my Sherlock Holmes hat because on his profile all it says is professor at university.

And I was like, oh, I got to find out what university.

Yeah, so I scrolled through all his pictures and want a picture he has like a zip up kind of hoodie thing on that looks like it has a low go on the center.

So I zoomed in that picture, found the.

Logo for the university, looked up their staff so I could find out his last name, so I could find out his Facebook.

So wow, what inspiration from War of the Roses.

That sounds.

I love that.

It's just easy.

And then, like I've said before, like I'll do it, and then once I find them, it's like I wake up from a trance where I'm like, oh God, I just did all of this work.

Trying to find out information about you.

Do you feel better about finding out the information?

Yeah?

Okay, I just mostly I feel like, look at me.

I did it.

I found out information about him, and I found like his podcast and his academic papers that he's written.

And blah blah blah.

What does he teach?

He's he's like, what like a seminary professor.

So it like he's a man of God.

Then is a man?

He's a godly man.

What religion?

It's got to be the right religion.

It says Christian.

Okay, all right, well is that the right religion?

I guess it depends on your viewpoint.

I think that's a I think that's a good solid religion.

I don't know a solid one.

I don't know what any of the words mean that uh he teaches, but it's all like seminary theology, semiotic blah blah blah blah.

Psalms.

Did he mention salms?

Yeah, Psalms, Moses, Jesus, Jesus.

It sounds like a red flag.

Is he going to be able to road house?

Yeah?

I don't know if.

But he also can't ask me a question about anything on my profile as of right now.

So that's fun.

Wait, what do you mean as in like, so I've asked him a handful of questions and he has asked me questions back about the things that I have asked him, Like he'll say, so, he's.

Not like seeking interest in what might know your personality?

Maybe go on my profile and look at what I'm like.

Maybe stalk me like I was stalking you.

I think that's great.

You would like a professor and you go to a Christian church, so you would probably you know.

I mean, if you date somebody like you date a nice Jewish boy, that's great, but you don't know anything about You don't know about Rashishana or yam.

Kapoor was kapur.

Yesterday was the holiest day I believe in the Jewish faith yam Kapoor.

And I had a Jewish friend and I said, do you say happy yan Kapoor?

And she was like, no, it's really not a you would say happy rash as Shana or maybe I could have that wrong.

If you're Jewish, let me is like the one that you have to like fast for and like say.

The holiest day.

Yeah.

Yeah, anyway, that's what's happening in my life.

Anyway, did you find any more emails?

I did?

Yeah.

Thanks, though, that's really interesting.

I'm really glad you brought it up.

It's probably more interesting than what the what we've what the emails are, but let's see what we've got.

Hello friends, Hope you're having a great start to the week.

She wrote this earlier, This weather is giving me life.

Listening to the Morning Show after my morning walk and realizing that the Dave Ryan Show has been a part of my life for so long it truly is as staple in my life at this point.

Growing up, we had a radio attached to the bottom of our cupboard that my mom would have on before I even woke up for school.

So every weekday, that's how I started my morning and it's followed me into adulthood.

We had the same radio, and I now do the same with my kid.

My son actually asked questions about you guys, like all the time, is that Jenny talking?

For example?

I think it's so cute and a wholesome thing for me knowing it brought me joy growing up, and I'm gonna get teary eyed.

Yeah, wow, because I get it because I used to listen to the radio growing up too, and it did.

Then.

I think that's why I love it and maybe why I'm good at it is because I realized the joy that radio can I'm gonna get misty.

The joy that radio can bring you is kind of hard to describe.

It's like there's a companion that's in your city that's probably a lives a life that's something like yours.

You know, you're in here every day, that's there every day.

Ye see.

And I loved radio growing up too, but for different reasons.

Because I like to win shit.

So my sister and I were always doing the countdowns where you had to call the DJ and be like number five was this, and then I want a CD And so we would literally like weekly go pick up cd is from the radios.

Won.

I love that.

I remember winning a couple of records and some hockey tickets off the radio when I was a kid and go into the radio station and walking into Z ninety three to pick up my Rod Stewart album.

Yeah, and there's the receptionist and you could kind of see down the hallway a little bit to where the studios must be.

And I was like, whoa, that's so cool.

I won a There was a race.

It was Saint Patrick's Day and if you called in with a funny limerick, you would be entered in a contest where you won tickets to a concert in Denver.

Yeah.

So I still remember my limerick.

Do you want to hear it?

Yes?

I do.

So it was a Saint Patrick's Day limerick and it was the radio station was Z ninety three.

You want to hear my limerick?

Here we go.

There once was a radio station twas one of the best in the nation.

Friends called it the Z at f M nine ninety three and to listen was a rock and sensation.

Wow.

And I still remember it.

I mean I was sixteen or fifteen when, and I don't know why I remember it.

I did not win the trip, and I was kind of like glad that I didn't win the trip because I knew I wouldn't be able to go.

Yeah.

Yeah, it was like, you know, I was a kid.

Right, You entered for the fun of entering.

But radio was such a magical thing, and I'm glad that it still is for this family.

She continues to say, you guys are part of that home feeling like the smell of cookies baking on Christmas.

Forever grateful for my favorite morning crew Samantha made my day.

Thank you so much.

Let's check for another one here.

This is from Lauren.

I have not pre read it.

You ready for a non pre read.

I'm ready looking for advice on friendship falling out.

This past year, I noticed in my closest friend from high school in college I'm now in my mid thirties, really are not that great of friends to me.

I pride myself on being a good friend.

Checking in Get Together's attentive listening.

I'm trying to come to with recognizing those people may not be meant to be in my life long term.

When I thought they would always would always be.

Now having kids, I'm recognizing they don't check in on me.

They don't ask about my kids or how I'm doing.

And even my neighbors who I just met in the past few years are more caring and intentive than my friend and my best friends have been.

Rationally, I think why put energy into people who don't do the same for me at this age.

Sometimes I'm okay with it, and sometimes I'm really sad.

I know all of you gone through losing close friends, so I'm looking for some words of advice or just some solidarity.

Ha.

Thanks.

Jenny will start with you.

What are your thoughts on this?

You're about the same age as her.

Yeah, I mean I've definitely gotten rid of toxic friends because they were toxic, not because they weren't necessarily reaching out to me.

But I feel like I just like know which friends are how they are.

For instance, love her to death, but Tina is not a like I'm going to reach out to you kind of person or I'm going to make a plan with you.

I'm the one who reaches out to her, and if I need someone to talk to, I will reach out to her and she'll be there.

For me within a second.

But she's not like the check in kind of friend, okay, And I'm okay with that because she's still a really really great friend to me when I need her and stuff.

So I just feel like, if your friends are not there for you through hard times, then yes, that definitely sucks.

But I also am the type of person that, like, I don't answer texts for a long time.

So I feel like I'm guilty of being not a great friend all the time always, but I shall keep my friendships well.

The whole thing about like not answering text and everything.

Vont actually posted about this on his Instagram last night, like just on his stories or something, where he said like, oh, I used to get mad all the time when people wouldn't text me back because what do you mean, Like I don't matter to you?

Things like that, and then he's like, but I realize they all have their own lives and it takes me a while to respond to people too, and wow, my eyes are open now.

And so I feel like similarly to Jenny, where I mean, sometimes I have to remind myself like, oh, yeah, you're friends with Kyle.

You should reach out to Kyle because you haven't heard from him in the world.

Yeah, and I'm like, oh, crap, I have to talk to Kyle or whoever.

Because I've never like dumped a friend.

I've like slowly like goten not taken them out of my life, but like made them less of a priority, uh, for different reasons or whatever.

But I've never like broken up with somebody, So I don't have advice there.

I think also you saying your neighbors are there for you more.

Proximity is a huge part of life and one of my great college friends, she lives thirty minutes south in the suburbs.

Love her to death.

If I were to call her tonight and be like, I need to come hang out, we would hang out.

But have I seen her in recent months?

No, because we just like don't live close to each other anyway.

Yeah, I have a really good friend Debbie.

I married her and her husband Joe, and she's one of my best friends.

Were the same age.

We have a lot of the same kind of principles and beliefs, and you know, we shared the same twisted sense of humor.

And she's very good about checking in.

She'll send me a Marco polo if you know what that is about once a week or so, and Marco Polo was kind of a one way conversation, but you can respond back.

But I will say that as you go through life, people will drop off and it just kind of happens.

And it's like, I am not the best at stage, and I'm going to tell you one more thing.

Can I We've probably talked about this before.

You start to get around my age, and people, not all of them.

They get weird, they change, they get cranky, or they just say and do odd things.

And I think it's just like your brain chemistry, your life experience changes.

And people would probably say the same about me, but I know several people might.

Like my best friend from middle school on up, Mike.

I was in his wedding, he was in my wedding.

We were each other's best man.

I love him.

He's great, but he's so cranky.

Everything is like ah, these people by baby bye.

And he's been kicked off of Facebook multiple times.

Really, he got kicked out of his daughter's volleyball game because he was yelling at the reps and they banned him from his daughter's volleyball game.

It's like, Mike, calm down.

He's like ye know, Well they were pissing me off, and you're.

Not fun anymore, Mike.

And so he loves me.

And when I'm with him, I can tell he loves me and I love him.

Yeah, but it's just people.

I'm gonna warn you you're nowhere near my age.

But when you get around that age, you're gonna notice people start to fucking get a little.

Not everybody, but i'd say one third of people get me please still.

Get like partially weird, at least, like parts of them will be weird.

That's Ronda.

Is Ronda weird?

She's not weird.

I would say, she's just like she's always been in my brain.

But she gets to the point now, which she probably has only done within the last five years, where if she's done, she'll just like shut down and be quiet.

I feel like I saw that happen to her.

At the face she was like definitely done, Like when we had our long broadcast on that Saturday.

Yeah, she just sits quietly.

And then I'm like, you're a really great company right now, and it's only happening, yeat within the last five years, because usually we have a great time.

And then at certain point she just decides she's done, and then she stops talking like Ronda.

Come on, that's funny because Alison is half of Ronda's age, my daughter, and she does the same thing.

She's very chatty and happy and smiling until like somebody throws a switch and she's done this, and then she's like, okay, well time to go.

All right, well, okay, have a good night, girls, shoes on, let's go, and we're like, okay, all right, and she's not mad, she's just done.

You reminded me as I found this last night and I was going to use it for a Minnesota or a motivational Monday, but I'm gonna go ahead and read it now because it's I really like it.

Nobody really talks about how your personality changes as you get older.

You stop caring about impressing people.

You just want peace, You want rap balance, and to stay far away from anything or anyone that drains your energy.

I think that's true.

I still, I mean, you guys give me energy, and I mean that, I mean sincerely.

I love hanging out with you guys.

And again, I'm gonna get choked up.

God, I must be on my period.

You are.

What no, you're not.

I keep going so but I love you guys.

You do give me energy.

But I think Susan is at the point in her life where she doesn't want to be bothered.

She wants to sit.

And we differ on that a little bit because I do like to go out, and you know, i'd love I was reading a story about Don Shelby, who used to be the big news anchor over at Channel four, and I guess they did an article in the Star Tribute about Don Shelby's slowing down a little bit.

He's seventy eight years old, but they talked about how he used to go camping in the wintertime and the Boundary waters and he climbed Mount Kilimanjaro.

And I'm making some of this stuff up now, but he was a very big adventurer and I love that.

I would love to do that stuff.

But Susan is a sit by the pool, play on her phone kind of a person.

So does anybody want to go climb mounta Killom?

And Gerald, Yeah, I told you I want to.

Jenny and I would have been good friends back in the day.

We would never date because gross, but but if we were, if we were the same age, Jenny and I would be off on adventures.

We would be booking a trip to Everest right now.

Yeah, we'd be.

We'd be carrying our stuff on a yak up to base.

Camp, and I would wave at you from the bottom and say bye, Hal Fine.

You would barely be sipping her nice warm coffee.

Yeah, I can't breathe.

One Anita writes in, and she is writing this time, not ranting.

So let's see what one on Juanita has to say.

I went and visited friends this weekend.

They got