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Encore: The King of Tears
Episode Transcript
Pushkin.
I started listening to country music when I was about twelve or thirteen.
This was rural Ontario in the nineteen seventies.
Everyone else my age was listening to The Eagles or Fleetwood Mac or some properly Canadian rock band like Rush.
But for some inexplicable reason, I, a British Jamaican kid marooned in the Canadian heartland, found solace in the music coming out of Nashville.
Lots of Johnny cash Lorette, Lynn, Willie Nelson, Waylon Jennings.
I can still sing almost all of Good Hearted Woman from memory, and of course George Jones.
I still remember the first time I heard the grand tour step right up, come on in, if you'd like to take the Grand Tour of a lonely house that once was home, sweet home, and then the amazing lines, I have nothing here to sell you, just some things that I will tell you, some things I know will chill you to the bone.
To my Maudlin thirteen year old heart, the line some things I know will chill you to the bone was so fantastic, so over the top, so bonkers, and just thinking about that lonely house that was once home, sweet home brought tears to my eyes.
Pop music, particularly the pop music of that era, just couldn't compete with that.
I carried George Jones in my heart for a very long time until the point that I decided it was time to revisit the question what exactly is country music doing when it makes you cry?
In Nashville, Tennessee, there is a songwriter named Bobby Braddock.
He's in his seventies, maybe five foot seven, bald head, scruffy beard, wiry, like if you messed with them in a bar, you'd probably lose.
The most striking thing about him is his eyes, which are the palest and most intense shade of blue.
He wears sunglasses a lot, and it's almost as if he needs to protect the world from that look there.
I met him on a music row in Nashville.
We had lunch, and then we sat in one of the writer's rooms in the Sony building, piano in the corner, couches to one side, and he talked about his education in the music business.
Speaker 2I think I always had the reputation as being kind of a quirky writer, maybe a little left field.
Speaker 1The turning point in Braddock's career was a song you've probably heard of.
It was performed by Tammy Wynette back when she was the reigning Queen of country music nineteen sixty eight, about a mom who had to spell out the word dvo rcee so her kids wouldn't know their parents were splitting up.
Speaker 3So dw r C.
Speaker 2Yeah wrote this, did it?
Demo on it and no tikers, nobody did it, nobody would recorded.
Speaker 1D iv o r C was a song with a gimmick.
Braddick did a lot of gimmicky songs back then.
No one wanted this one.
So Braddick went to a friend and longtime collaborator, Curly Putman, So.
Speaker 2I said, well, why is nobody recording?
He said, I think around the important part of your song said, sad song, and your melodies on that part is too happy.
What I was doing was, oh, I wish that could stop this lifty s a little bit like a like a soap commercial.
I said, well, what would you do?
And he gave a guitar and he had this really mournful singing style.
Tammy Whenette was a big fan of Curly singing, she left her singing because he had I mean, he just he singing was just so sad.
It gives it a guitar and.
Speaker 4Said, oh, wish that we could start this, So I said, just get your guitar, let's put it on.
Speaker 5Take what.
Speaker 1D I V O r C went to number one.
It was Bobby Braddock's first great exercise in how to make people cry, and from then on things just got sadder.
My name is Malcolm Gladwell.
You're listening to Revisionist History, my podcast about things overlooked and misunderstood.
This episode is about something that has never made sense to me.
Maybe it's because I'm a Canadian, or maybe Americans puzzle about this too.
I'm talking about the bright line that divides American society, not the color line or the ideological line.
I'm talking about the sad song line.
I don't know why people don't talk about this more because it's weird.
For the sake of argument, let's use the rock magazine Rolling Stone's list of the best songs of all time, the top fifty.
These are the critics choices.
Hotel California by The Eagles comes in at forty nine, which, as far as I can tell, is a song about drugs.
Tooty Fruity by Little Richard at forty three.
Tutty Fruity, which I remind you has is its signature lyric tooty fruity, oh ruddy touty fruity, Oh rudy tooty fruity, Oh rudy tooty fruity, oh rudy Wop Bop alo bop a loop bam boom.
There's Dancing in the Street at forty light, My Fire Be My Baby, Nirvana's smells like teen Spirit, Derek and the Dominoes Leila.
There are songs about wanting to have sex, songs about having sex, songs about getting high, presumably after having sex.
Number one song on the list like a Rolling Stone by Bob Dylan.
Ah, You've gone to the finest schools, all right, miss Lonely, but you know you only used to get juiced in it.
Nobody's ever taught you how to live out on the street, and now you're gonna have to get used to it.
I think that's a song about someone who dropped out of Harvard.
The number one rock song of all time is about dropping out of Harvard.
In all of those fifty songs, nobody dies after a long illness, No marriage disintegrates nobody's killed on a battlefield.
No mother grieves for a son.
The closest that any song in Rolling Stone's list comes to being truly sad is Smokey Robinson's Tracks of My Tears, which is first of all, number fifty, so they put the sad song at the bottom of the list.
And secondly, it's about a guy at a party in their moments of greatest travail.
The protagonists of rock and roll's sad songs still get to go to parties.
Now.
Just turn on a country music station, especially a traditional country music station, and listen.
It's like a different universe.
Marriage is going to hell, people staring into their shot glass in a honky tonk, people dying young.
If you ever heard John Prine's Unweed Fathers, it's a devastating bit of songwriting about a teenage mom fleeing town.
He sings it with his wife Rachel.
Speaker 6Almost so Verio man smoking man Bell, Now come in, Lolla bad.
Speaker 7Your daddy meant to hurt you, ever, it's just don live.
Speaker 8That you got his.
Speaker 1Those last two lines.
Your daddy never meant to hurt you ever.
He just don't live here.
But you've got his eyes that's brutal, black subad dream.
Speaker 2All on.
Speaker 1We fove One half of the country, the rock music part, wants their music to be hymns to extra version.
The other half wants to talk about real life dramas and have a good cry.
I don't get it.
By the way, you know who wrote that unwed father's song with John Prime, Bobby Braddock?
Or maybe you've heard this another classic recorded by Tammy Whynatt Golden.
Speaker 8Good, Long Time.
Speaker 6Arcas Loud the bung.
Speaker 1Bus Golden Ring.
It follows a couple from first love to the breakup of their marriage by tracing the journey of their wedding ring from chop to pawnshop.
It's a weeper.
Who wrote it, Bobby Braddock, and today, forty years after he wrote it, Braddock is still mad about a one word change made by the song's producer of Billy Cheryl, because that made his song one crucial degree less sad.
Speaker 2But we had He says, you won't admit it, but I know you're running around and Billy changed it too.
He says, you won't admit it, but I know you're leaving town.
That's not as that's not as powerful as you're running around.
Speaker 9He says, you won't admit it, but I know you leave in town.
Speaker 10She says one, thanks for circ I don't love you anymore.
It throws down the ring as she walks out the door.
Speaker 2I think country music is supposed to be about real life, you know, and I try to reflect that about all right.
Speaker 1Gold which brings us to maybe the greatest country song of all time, certainly the saddest country song of all time, the song that made me get on a plane and go to Nashville.
It was recorded by the great George Jones, one of the half dozen or so most iconic figures in the history of country music.
You just heard him singing in Golden Ring.
Jones was famously the husband of Tammy Wynett for a time, a hard living, dissolute megastar.
Once, in the midst of an epic bender, jones family took his keys away, so he got on his riding mower and drove eight miles to the liquor store to get some whiskey.
This was a man who could pour his fractured heart into his music like no one else.
A half dozen times in his career, Jones found a song truly worthy of his talents, but it never got better than he stopped loving her.
Today, I still remember when I first heard that song, and from the day I started thinking about this episode, I haven't been able to get it out of my head.
Speaker 10He said, I'll love you till I die.
She told him you forgetting time.
As the years went slowly by, She's still prayed up all his his wine.
Speaker 11He kept her pictures on his wall.
Speaker 1Do I need to tell you who wrote that song?
Bobby Braddock?
Bobby Braddock is the king of tears.
Speaker 7But he still loved through it all, hoping she'd come back again.
Speaker 1Oh man.
One of the things that got me interested in sad songs was a story my sister in law, Bev, told me.
She and my brother live in the same area.
I grew up in Waterloo County in southern Ontario, and a while ago she went to a performance by a local chamber choir thirty singers.
They sang a cantata called Annalise by the British composer James Whitbourne, a choral composition which puts the words of an Frank's diary to music.
I know this seems like a little bit of a digression from country music, but it's a really useful case study in understanding why some songs make us cry.
The performance Bev told me about was on a Sunday afternoon, a free performance of the Public Library, which is a very utilitarian, very nineteen sixties building on Queen Street in downtown Kitchener.
I've been there many times, waldewell carpet, that old books library smell, which I have to admit, I love.
Speaker 12How many people are there.
Speaker 3It's in their main reading room, moved around all the tables and one hundred, one hundred and twentieth full, pretty much standing room only.
Speaker 13Why as they're singing, I think, why is that also not singing?
And then I look over and I think somebody else as Aprian, I'm not singing.
That's odd because everybody else in their parts is singing.
And I realized they were crying and they couldn't sing.
Speaker 1Bev says she cried pretty much through the entire performance.
She was looking straight ahead because she didn't want people to see she was crying, but it didn't matter because everyone was crying.
When the performance was over, Bev approached the stage to talk to the soloist, the woman singing Anne Frank's words.
Speaker 3I just went up to her afterwards and congratulated her on the beauty of the piece then and her singing, And I said, and how did you to sing without crying?
And she said, well, I couldn't look at Mark the conductor because he was wiping tears from his eyes, and I had my back to the choir, so that was good.
And I didn't look at anybody in the audience because they were crying.
So I just looked up in the middle distance and I sang, it was a good thing.
I hadn't memorized.
Speaker 1I was at home in Canada when Bev told me that story, so I called up Mark the conductor, and the soloist, whose name is Natasha.
They're actually husband and wife.
They only live a few minutes away from my brother.
So they came over.
Mark sat at the piano in the living room and Natasha stood behind him, and they performed one of the pieces from Annalyst that they did that day in the library.
Speaker 14This is the last movement.
It's called Anne's Meditation.
I see the world, I see the world being slowly turned turn into a wilderness.
Speaker 1Now I realized this is a crazy question, because we're hearing a piece based on the Diary of Anne Frank, which is one of the most heartbreaking stories from one of the most horrific moments in recent history.
But why was everyone crying that day at the Kitchener Library.
The obvious reason is that the music is beautiful, so is Natasha's singing.
The performance is also authentic.
There's nothing contrived about it.
It wasn't at Carnegie Hall.
People weren't wearing suits and evening gowns.
They were at the Kitchener Library.
And whose family's getting books and kids running around and everyone's on stacking chairs with the tables pushed off to the side.
But here's the most important thing annelis is specific.
It's a cantata about the actual experiences of a real person.
In her own words, Bev says that when she cried, she started thinking about her own family, Mennonites, who escaped terrible persecution in Russia.
Natasha says that as she sang about twelve year old and Frank, she was thinking about her own daughter, who was ten and who was sitting right next to Bev in the audience.
Beauty and authenticity can create a mood.
They set the stage.
But I think the thing that pushes us over the top into tears is details.
We cry when melancholy collides with specificity, and specificity is not something every genre does well.
Wild Horses by the Rolling Stones, written by Keith Richards and Mick Jagger.
It's a song about a conversation a man is having with a silent, suffering loved one.
The story goes that Mick Jagger dreamt up the verses while sitting at the bedside of his then girlfriend Mary and Faithful, as she recovered from an overdose.
Oh love you suffer.
Speaker 12Bell.
Speaker 1I watched you suffer a dull, aching pain.
Now you've decided to show me the same.
No sweeping exit or off stage lines could make me feel bitter or treat you unkind.
Wild Horses couldn't drag me away.
Wild Wild Horses couldn't drag me away.
Wild Horses was recorded first by the legendary Graham Parsons.
Not long afterwards, Parsons died of an overdose, and his friend in protege, the country music singer Emmy Lou Harris, made a song in his memory.
She wrote it with Bill Danoff.
It's called from Boulder to Birmingham.
Speaker 8I don't want a hee, so.
Speaker 1I got on the ep plane just to flow.
Speaker 8Damn nolder me, but all that you can show me, he's a pre masco.
Speaker 6I don't want to hear said story.
Speaker 1Someone who has suffered a terrible loss has gotten on a plane and she's so numbed by grief that she can no longer see those around her.
Speaker 4Blessed time a fool like this.
Speaker 6I was in the wilderness and again those on.
Speaker 1The from Boulder to Birmingham and wildhorses are both beautiful melancholy.
They're about the same thing, the ties the living and the healthy have to those in pain.
But which is the sadder song?
I don't think there's any question.
Wild horses is generic.
Listen to how it starts.
Childhood.
Living is easy to do the things you wanted.
I bought them for you.
Graceless lady.
You know who I am.
You know I can't let you slide through my hands.
What's going on?
Any idea?
What is Mickey hammering on about?
Now?
Compare that to the specificity of looking down from the airplane and seeing nothing but prairie.
Then standing on a mountain and watching a canyon burn.
Speaker 8Was our rackassle.
Speaker 7In the bosom of a.
Speaker 6I would hold.
Speaker 5Race away from bald.
Speaker 14About at sea.
Speaker 7I could see.
Speaker 1First she references the great black spiritual rock my soul in the bosom of Abraham.
The bosom of Abraham is where the righteous dead go while awaiting judgment.
Then she sings, and I would also walk all the way from Boulder to Birmingham.
Now she's locating her grief.
I would make a pilgrimage from progressive hippie liberal.
Remember this is nineteen seventy three, dope smoking Colorado back to the repressive heart of the old South, just to see your face.
Two completely different specific images, each with its own set of emotional triggers, and she's piled one on top of another.
Mark Vornan, the music director of the choir in My hometown, says that there's a part in Analyse that does the same thing Anne is.
Speaker 5They're in hiding already, and she starts singing, and the composer has set these words in kind of a style of an American sousa march, and so she's talking about being in the bathtub and being scrubbed in the bathtub, and it's a Susa.
We scrub, scrubs, scrub ourselves in La Tinta right, very happy and optimistic music.
Speaker 1And Frank in the bathtub to the tune of a Sousa march with the horrors of the Holocaust outside her door.
Three absolutely concrete images in merciless combination.
Speaker 5It just floored me every time I heard it because it was so close to our own daughter, you know, to think that she would have to create this kind of fiction in order to just get through the day.
Speaker 1That's how you get tears.
You make the story so real and the details so sharp, and you add in so many emotional triggers that the listener cannot escape.
But it's a risky thing to do, right If you aren't a talented composer, and you don't do a sensitive rendition of those lyrics, they could fall flat, could seem forced, even offensive.
Far easier just to fall back on the blend cliche that wild horses couldn't drag you away.
Country music makes people cry because it's not afraid to be specific.
Speaker 11You know, she came to see him one last time, and we all wondered if she would, and it kept brought in through.
Speaker 10My mind.
Speaker 11This time.
Speaker 1Bobby Braddock was born in Auburndale, Florida, a little town between Tampa and Orlando.
His father grew Citrus.
They were Church of Christ, just about the most fundamentalist of fundamentalist Christians.
Braddock moved to Nashville in nineteen sixty four, just after getting married, to seek his fortune in the music business.
He wrote his memoirs a few years ago.
It's called A Life on Nashville's Music Row.
I read it before I went to see him, and the best way to describe the book is that it's exhausting.
I don't mean that in a bad way because I couldn't put it down.
But so much happens.
Speaker 12You've lived this incredibly tumultuous, emotionally tumultuous lit Yeah, And in the book it sounds like the first precipitating event is the death of your son.
Speaker 1Braddock was touring with the country music legend Mardy Robbins at the time.
He and his wife, Sue had a baby.
The child was just a few months old when he died.
Speaker 2Whenever I was in town, not on the road with Marty Robbins, every single day we'd buy fresh flowers, go put it on.
It's gray.
We were just pathetic.
Speaker 1He and Sue fight.
She cheats on him.
He cheats on her, they break up, they get back together, they have a daughter, they divorce.
His ex wife mysteriously vanishes.
He drinks a lot, gets into fights, owes enormous sums to the irs, has a major bout with depression, smokes a lot of pot, lurches from one volcanic event to the next, and through it all, Braddock writes songs, hundreds of them.
Speaker 12You were kind of tolerance for emotional volatility seems extraordinary.
Speaker 6I guess.
Speaker 2Tolerance is probably a pretty good word for it.
Speaker 1Braddock walks over to the keyboard on the other side of the room.
He begins to talk about an old girlfriend named Angela, who committed suicide by driving her car into the river.
Speaker 2When Angela died, her mother took her baby to raise it.
And she sent me a picture with a little girl, Angela's child when she was about four or five years old, look just like her mom.
Picture her standing out in the yard.
And boy did a number on me, despite all the dishters.
Speaker 1He wrote a song about that in twenty minutes.
He played it for me.
Then he played his favorite bit of a sad Randy Newman song.
He played me a heartbreaking song he wrote once after getting up in the middle of the night and passing his lover in the hallway, and as he played one weeper after another, I realized that the thing I'd said about Braddock's tolerance for emotional volatility tolerance was the wrong word.
That was just me projecting my uptight Canadian self on to Braddock.
But Braddock is from the musical side of the United States, where emotion is not something to be endured, it's something to be embraced.
At one point, when cell phones were still analog, you could buy a scanner and listen in to other people's conversations, and that's what Braddock does.
He can't help himself.
A woman complains to her husband for an hour about his lack of affection from the parking out at the grocery store.
Then ask him what he wants, and he says, maybe Apple Newton's.
And then this is my favorite part I'm quoting now from Braddock's memoir.
The conversation that truly touched me was between a man perhaps forty and his mother, maybe late sixties, in which the sun opened up about sexual problems he was having with his wife.
And I envied the sprinkling of profanities and the mother's invitation to come over to the house, son, and let's open a bottle of whiskey and talk about it.
Wishing I had that kind of easy and open communication with my mom.
Then learning that the guy's mother was terminally ill with cancer.
If you're keeping track, that's marital difficulty, sex, profanity, whisky mom, and terminal cancer in one conversation, and it truly touched him.
Do you know what Braddot's favorite song is?
Vince Gills Go Rest High on that Mountain, which Gil wrote in memory both of his brother who died young of a heart attack and fellow country star Keith Whitley, who drank himself to death.
Speaker 9Oh on, and son, you.
Speaker 2Corner is dn go dude, Oh my god.
When Vince Gill and Ricky Skaggs and Painty Lovelace are singing harmony on that thing, I go nuts.
It still tears me up, knowing that it's about death, and Vince wrote it about Keith Whitley and then about his own brother, and just the emotion that sending that song.
It's just it's just powerful.
Speaker 8Day you lift us.
Speaker 1Gathered round.
Speaker 8You agreed to.
Speaker 10Shock good seeing.
Speaker 1It's heartbreaking.
Listening to that song makes me wonder if some portion of what we call ideological division in America actually isn't ideological at all.
How big are the political differences between red and blue states anyway, in the grand scheme of things, not that big.
Maybe what we're seeing instead is a difference of emotional opinion.
Because if your principal form of cultural expression has drinking, sex, suicide, heart attacks, mom and terminal cancer all on the table for public discussion, then the other half of the country is going to seem really chilly and uncaring.
And if you're from the rock and roll half clinging semi ironically to two Dy Fruity O Rudy, when you listen to a song written about a guy's brother who died young of a heart attack and another guy who drank himself to death, you're going to think, who are these people?
Here's another way to think about the sad song line.
Let me read you the list of the birthplaces of the performers of the top twenty country songs of all time Again.
I'm going to use the Rolling Stone magazine list.
Ready, Arkansas, Virginia, Alabama, Texas, Mississippi, Mississippi Georgia, California, Central Valley, by the way, not Los Angeles, Tennessee, Texas, Virginia, Texas, Kentucky, Alabama, Tennessee, Arkansas, Texas, Texas, Kentucky, Texas.
I could do the top fifty, or the top one hundred, or the top two hundred, and you get the same pattern.
Basically, you cannot be a successful country singer or songwriter if you're not from the South.
It's impossible.
There's one exception, which is the great songwriter Harlan Howard, who was born in Detroit, but almost immediately thereafter his family moves to a farm in rural Kentucky.
It's like the five to second roll when you drop a piece of food on the floor.
If it's not on the ground long enough, it doesn't count.
As far as I can tell, there are no Jews on the country list, almost no Catholics, only two black people.
It's white Southern Protestants all the way down.
Now compare that to the rock and roll list.
You've got Jews from Minnesota, black people from Detroit, Catholics from New Jersey, middle class British art school dropouts, Canadians, Jamaicans.
Rock and roll is the Rainbow Coalition that diversity is a good thing.
It's why there's so much innovation in rock and roll, but you pay a price for that.
There was a very clever bit of research published recently by Colin Morrison the magazine The Pudding.
He analyzed fifteen thousand popular songs using an algorithm that can presses digital files.
So if you take out the repetitive bits in a song, how much of it is left.
Morris's big finding is that rock and roll as a genre is really, really repetitive.
Britney Spears, Lady Gaga, the Beatles, If you take out the duplicative parts, their music shrinks by sixty percent.
That's what happens when everyone is from somewhere different.
Nobody speaks the same language, so you have to use cliche, the same phrases over and over again, because if you go deeper or try to get more specific, you start to lose people.
Country music, on the other hand, is not nearly as repetitive.
When Morris ran the lyrics of popular country singers through his algorithm, they only shrank by about forty percent, a third less than the rock and rollers.
Nor is hip hop repetitive, which makes sense.
The birthplaces of everyone on Rolling Stones list of greatest rap songs reads like an urban version of the country list.
Queen's South Central lal A Brooklyn, Long Island, South Central Long Beach, Houston means the Bronx Englewood, New Jersey.
The Bronx.
Hip Hop and country are both tightly knit musical communities.
And when you're speaking to people who understand your world and your culture and your language, you can tell much more complicated stories.
You can use much more precise imagery.
You can lay yourself bare because you're among your own.
In the book, it sounds like your relationship with Sparky was the one that seemed the most creatively fruitful.
It was it was Sparky was a beautiful blonde from northern Alabama, the great love of Bobby Braddock's life.
Speaker 9Why was that?
Speaker 2I think because my favorite her are so strong.
I mean, is it's sort of a visceral thing.
Speaker 1I think That's why I found Bobby Braddock's book so exhaust It's because everything is felt, everything is a mountain peak and Sparky, Sparky was everest high altitude infatuation.
Speaker 2That's the sort of thing that made people go absolutely crazy.
You know, and that was the case with her.
You know, that's what gets the animal instinct of people maybe who haven't evolved as much as they should, and cause them to go out and get a gun, blow somebody's brains out over some gun not being a can't stand the thought or someone you know, having sex with a person that he loves.
Speaker 1Braddick and Sparky were on and off lovers for years.
It was intense, painful, euphoric.
When it ended, Braddick was in pieces.
Speaker 8He kept her picture on the wall wind half crazy now in.
Speaker 1The that's Braddick in the original demo he made of he stopped loving her today.
Speaker 8He still loved her through it all, hoping she'd come back.
Speaker 2I'm not sure where it came from.
It may have come from Sparky, you know, honestly not know it would be interesting.
Speaker 12How could it not?
Speaker 2Yeah, well, if I think it probably, I think it probably did.
But I just I can't see it.
I can't see that for certainty to.
Speaker 8Marvell carry him.
Speaker 1I felt like Bradick shrink at that moment, listening to his tangled dreams and then wanting to shake him at the end of the session.
It's Sparky Sparky.
Speaker 8They found some letters by He's a being.
Speaker 1I mean, you wrote a song in the middle of the great defining love affair of your life, the relationship ends, and you write write a song about the heartbreak of that a man carries to his grave.
I mean, could could it be more clear?
Speaker 8I went to see him one last time.
Speaker 1Bobby Braddick wrote he stopped loving her today with his friend Curly.
In nineteen seventy seven, they took it to the singer George Jones.
Jones was then at his lowest ebb a wreck, strung out on cocaine and whiskey.
He just checked out of a psychiatric hospital.
The great love of his life, Tammy Wynette, had embodied her hit song div O RCEE and left him.
Jones had just nearly shot and killed one of his best friends.
The heartbroken Bobby Braddock has written a song about a man who cannot stop loving a woman, and it's sung by the heartbroken George Jones.
Who cannot stop loving a woman, Get him some.
Speaker 8Letters byes Babe.
Speaker 3D.
Speaker 10In nineteen sixty two.
Speaker 8He had underlined and m.
Speaker 1Underlined in red every single I love you, every single I love you.
Speaker 10I went to see him just today.
Oh but I didn't see no tears, all dressed up to go away.
First time I've seen him smiling.
Speaker 2You.
Speaker 1Why did he finally turn his back on his great love?
Why is this the first time he smiled in years?
Because he's dead.
Only death could end his love.
Speaker 7It blazed red upon his dog.
Speaker 8And sing, They'll carry.
Speaker 3You.
Speaker 8Stopped loving hard today.
Speaker 1It's totally over the top, Madelin sentimental Kitchie, call it whatever you want, just don't fight it.
One thing that Bobby Braddock told me in passing that I think about a lot is that he thought of the character in his song as a bad role model.
The man was obsessed.
He couldn't let go.
But that's the point, right, That's why we cry, because the song manages to find beauty and even a little bit of grandeur in someone's frailty.
Speaker 10I'm sol carried.
Speaker 8He stopped loving hard today.
Speaker 1Wild horses, please.
Speaker 9Good morning, ladies and gentlemen, and welcome to the Grand Ole Opry House to the celebration of life of George Glenn Jones.
One of the most important people ever of all time and of any time in the history of country music.
Speaker 1George Jones died in twenty thirteen.
Everyone who was anyone in country music came to his memorial service.
You should watch it if you get the chance.
It's on YouTube, all two hours and forty one minutes of it, because it's everything I've been talking about.
Vince Gill stands up with Patty Lovelace and sings, go rest high in that Mountain and breaks down halfway through.
Travis Tritt remembers a conversation he once had with Chris Christofferson about how they expected George Jones to have died years before.
Speaker 15And I looked at Chris and I made the comment, you know, with all the years of hard living that George had, who would have ever thought that he would outlive Tammy.
And Chris looked at me and said, had it not been for Nancy, he would not have.
Speaker 1Nancy Jones, George Jones's fourth and final wife, the real love of his life, his soulmate and companion.
Travis Tritt holds out his hand towards Nancy, who's sitting right in the front row.
Speaker 15George said it many times.
She's my angel, and she saved my life, and so we owe you a debt of gratitude.
Speaker 5For that.
Speaker 1Comes the crowning moment of the day, the final performance.
Alan Jackson strides out onto the stage a big rangy guy craggy features cowboy boots, jeans, long coat, white statson.
He looks squarely at Nancy Jones and without introduction, launches into he stopped loving her today.
Speaker 7He shout, all love you till I die.
She told em you are yet time as he years when clool.
Speaker 1And you realize as he sings that Braddock's song has gotten even more specific.
It's no longer about a long ago love affair.
It's about right now.
This is the day George Jones stopped loving Nancy Jones.
Alan Jackson takes off his hat and play says it over his heart.
Speaker 7He stopped loving her.
Speaker 12Today.
Speaker 1And if you aren't crying, I can't help you.
Speaker 9I love you, George.
All of the three grades of our time, ladies and gentlemen at all time.
That's Alan Jackson, Thank you so much.
Speaker 1Revision's History is produced by Emil LaBelle and Jacob Smith, with Camille Baptista, Stephanie Daniel, and Ciomara Martinez White.
Our editor is Julia Barton.
Lawn Williams is our engineer.
Original music by Luis Sciarra.
Special thanks to Andy Bauers and Jacob Weisberger Panicle.
I'm Malcolm gadwe