Hi everyone, and welcome back to their podcast episode.

My name is Alisha Cogan, the host of the Globe of Secrets podcast Why I help you expand your mind and become more self awares that you can glow up into the best version of yourself.

Hello and happy Sunday.

Okay, firstly, is that a word?

Firstly?

First thing is first, THEO is.

Sitting on me right now.

You can't really see him on YouTube, but he is biting his bone.

So if you hear something that's what that is.

Let's hope he just takes a nap very soon.

And secondly, let's get into the podcast.

So I had a little bit of a revolution that's not the word, a revelation, that's the word.

Probably epiphany, sure, the other day, and I wanted to share with you guys because I feel like some of you guys are probably in this stage of life right now, and that is noticing when you are chasing the next thing and learning to love the season that you are in.

And honestly, I have a pretty good track record of having to learn this lesson because a lot of my life was very much so wanting the next thing and working towards the next thing.

Wanting something bigger than what I have now.

And what made me have this thought.

Once again is recently I feel like I have been wanting to call in certain things again for my future.

I go through phases of that.

Sometimes I'm not wanting anything.

I'm not wanting to like manifest up anything special.

I lived out my dream life for that season of life, so I'm pretty good.

But then, you know, some new things start to be called in, and one of those things is moving from my place.

Now.

This is not something that needs to happen right this second, and or will and who knows, because at the end of the day, I will leave it in God's hands, like I you know, like there's only so much that I can do.

This is what I've definitely learned when it comes to getting the things that I want my life.

I co create, Okay, I take the action.

I try and do the right things, but then it's kind of like left up to you never know.

You just gotta let go.

But in wanting something bigger than I have now, whether it's a new home, a relationship, better health, a new car, more money, success with anything, sometimes what we can do is take the current moment for granted and I was just thinking, and maybe this is because I am stepping into my thirtieth year very soon, and lots of wisdom is coming from this age.

And I feel like, as much as it's hard to indulge and enjoy like every season of your life, because it could be very hard, I do think it's so important that you do that because we don't want to look back at the end of our lives and be like, we just waited for the next moment, the next thing, and we didn't appreciate when we were twenty and you know, we had these types of friends or we were into Like I think about when I was twenty in college and I was this fitness girl who was so dedicated to the gym, and I was going to school, and yes, there was so much trials and tribulations during that time, but damn, what a time to be alive.

It's crazy, actually, because that was the album that was so popular.

I remember driving my maz Dot like five am in the mornings.

It was pitch black, and I would be blasting that album.

What a time to be alive.

I'm my gosh, what a good time.

But sometimes in the moment, we can just wish it was over and honestly, that comes from survival.

It comes from not being comfortable in the place that you're at and you're wanting to feel safe.

You want more money to make you feel safe.

You want a relationship so you're not alone.

You want better health so you're not sick.

You want a bigger home because maybe you've outgrown things or you want like that.

I think that's fine, and I just think it's good to understand that it's typically coming from the survival mode.

And unfortunately, though I have gone through so much of the living and see that it's almost skewed my ability to really hone in on the skill of gratitude and appreciation, whether it's for the things that are around me material or not, or even my body, because I'm very much so like I just need to get the next thing, like just so tunnel vision that sometimes I don't see those things.

And now that I'm getting older, even with this example of wanting a new place and moving in a new area, I'm really able to kind of tap into that wise part of me and be like, ohkay, you know what, Alicia, It's okay that you want something new and bigger, and that's fine, and change will always happen, but one day you will no longer be living your technically single life like I'm in a relationship, but I live by myself, you know, like I'm doing everything on my own.

Like I feel like I'm still kind of like in my singlehood era in the city downtown twenty nine.

Like you know, you lived out some of this in your twenties two, being a YouTuber podcaster living your dream life.

That's gonna change.

And although yes, you're or dream life will probably be better in a lot of ways.

At least that's what I believe.

You know, when I want something new and bigger, it will be bigger and better than what I have now, because I genuinely believe all my dreams can come true if I'm doing that co creation.

But also, the future is not without its imperfections.

Meaning although when I move into the suburbs or a new area, whatever it is, and I'm dreaming up in my head, I'm sure it will be better than what I'm living in now, because maybe I've outgrown where I'm at right now, but doesn't mean that I won't potentially miss the fact that I have so much free time or so much accessibility because I live in the city and everything's walkable, things like that, like, there will definitely be little things that I could and probably will miss, And I just need to remind myself of that because I think that when I remind myself that even the future is not going to be one hundred percent bulletproof perfect, it kind of reminds me to like and be like, you know what, this is okay as well, And I think that's another driver as to why we just ignore our present and we're not grateful and we don't appreciate things, and we just want the bigger, the better, the everything is because this dream that we have in our head is almost a bit delusional.

And I hate to say anything that we dream of is delusional, because it's really not.

But I just mean it in the sense that even your dream life will come with its trials and tribulation, so we don't need to necessarily rush on those things, and we will learn all those lessons when they come.

But that's just something that I've been trying to remind myself of, and I just know the importance of being so as much as we can present in the moment, because there's only going to be like one time in your life that you're going to be twenty one or twenty nine.

I even think about every single day that I was able to wake up and not have to worry about my puppy, and that is no longer a thing.

I have to now.

Always worry about THEO and is he amazing?

And do I love him?

And did he change my life for the better?

Yes, But it's not without the fact that there's gonna be things that I will no longer have.

I think about also when we get older, like we're gonna look back and be like, well, we won't have our twenties anymore, or when we have kids, like I my life will just be forever different.

And I think it's okay.

To miss that old stage of life or that phase where you look back and you're like, what a time to be alive.

But it's from this like appreciation, like wow, you know, like that was me in my twenties and I did the best that I could with what I had, Versus I look back and be like, wow, I just I didn't I didn't live, I wasn't appreciative like I personally just am trying to not live my life like that as much as I can Obviously there's gonna be times where we take things for granted, we do that all the time, but it's just important to try not to.

And this is another thing that I learned, especially during some of my hardest times back in the day when I was like early twenties, how important being grateful for the things that I did have actually helped me get the things that I actually wanted, which was the opposite of everything that I was like learning to be grateful for, because when you're grateful, what you're really doing is you're signaling to your nervous system that you are safe and that you don't actually need to be anywhere than you are right now, and you have a more resilient and positive mindset which will allow you to get up in your life and actually co create with the universe, God, whatever you believe in, and you will find and you will match up, and you will manifest the right people, places in things that will continue to bring abundance and alignment into your life.

And that's exactly how I've created my life.

And for instance, there was so many things that I wanted to change back then that I learned to be grateful for, and then in turn, I ended up actually changing so many of those things so quickly.

Like I was driving a shitty Mazda and it was on a really high interest because I had to get it from this like finance place whatever.

I was just like so much money for it, but that was like the only way I could get a car.

But I was tied up in it and I didn't really like it, like it wasn't the best.

Also, I wanted to get not wanted, but I needed some dental work done, like I needed some of my cavities, but I did not have insurance.

I wanted to change my body even I wanted to change my hair, my hair, my natural hair.

You can't really see it out, but if you're watching on the audio, you'll see how big it is.

It was not like that at all.

It was dead, it was broken, It was brittle.

It was not the way that I really like knew my hair could be.

And in those times, I would write out every single day, I am so grateful that I have my massa that gets me to point A to B and brings me to work so that I can make more money.

I am so happy that I still have a smile, that when I smile, it looks great.

I am so happy that I have my natural hair that will grow and flourish as long as I keep watering it.

And there were so many other things that were really really troubling back in the day that I learned to be very grateful for.

And there was other things.

I lived at one point in what I kind of call like a trap house, Like it was just really like it was not good, lots of addicts.

My mom unfortunately, she was struggling with addictions as well, and we just weren't in a good situation.

And I did my best to like make my room as safe as possible.

I always tried to remind myself that, you know, I'm grateful that I even have this room and I have hot water, and I can.

Still make my meals.

And this is not to just like.

Try and convince ourselves that we're not in an unsafe environment.

I'm not trying to say that at all.

I at the end of the day, like knew I was basically still safe, although it was just so traumatizing and I had to work through a lot of that after I moved out.

But I just, no matter what, did the best that I could, which allowed me to get up listen to podcasts, work on myself, go to the gym, do the best that I could, and eventually I got myself out of it.

And actually the other day I was writing in my journal as I always do in the mornings, and I was basically writing a letter of appreciation to my current home because I started realizing that the thoughts I was having were kind of not appreciative to the current condo that I have, and I was thinking about how this condo has carried me through so many things.

This is the first place on my own that I've lived in for the longest amount of time.

Throughout my entirety of my life, I moved so many places due to financial insecurity and the addictions and everything that my parents went through and my dad passing away and all those things, and then also just normal life going to college, moving this that.

But this was like a real home for me.

And I also did this on my own.

I followed my dreams.

I did all these things, and it also carried me through some heartbreak, It carried me through sickness, it carried me through my first phase, like I said, of become I had a content creator.

I'm moving downtown and living my best life and also carrying me through grief of losing my mom and getting a new dog.

Like this place served me so well and it's still serving me so well.

I was jumping on my rebounder, which is like those mini trampolines.

I like to do that to like get out stuck energy sometimes, like it's just really so nice.

I can like the one that I got from Walmart.

It was literally like forty five bucks Canadian.

It was so good.

And I was just looking around my condo and I was like, this is the perfect place.

I have my bedroom so cozy.

It's taking me a while to get everything settled in this house and order the apartment, and this is kind of like the bare minimum, because you know, I do rent this place, but my room is very cozy.

I have everything that I need.

My living room cozy, got my TV, my couch.

I got a dining table last year that looks beautiful.

My kitchen's great.

I have a second room for my makeup to record for THEO.

I really have everything that I need and I'm very much.

So good.

And I just realize in that moment that for one again, I am one day not going to have this and I know I'm going to look back, whether it's like the tiniest bit or a big bit where it's like wow, like I really did that, I lived that out and whatever, And I just want to be more grateful for that, and I want to know that I've appreciated it.

But also why am I moving.

As if I don't have these amazing things that keep me safe right now?

Because sometimes I feel like that's where our minds can go when we are trying to up level and work towards something we want, a goal, we want to dream, we want to manifest so heavily, it's like we're moving as if we don't have that.

And I just think when it comes to moving in lack or acting as if you're in lack when you're not, or there is still things that can help you stay calm, I think that that gets in the way.

And I also think that you end up creating your aligned life by first being appreciative and taking things slow, because I think that's also good as well.

Like when you are wanting something new, if you're in this forceful scarcity I need it now, stressed energy, you might be putting yourself in places around the wrong people, trying to like call in the wrong thing versus if you just waited a bit, And the way that you can wait is first being like, Okay, how am I safe right now?

How do I appreciate the things that I have right now?

So I would just suggest if you are currently like, just think about the one thing that you've just been so hyper focused on.

You want to be a YouTuber.

That just came in my head because there's a lot of you who messages me like I'm become I want to become a content creator in this da da da da, and y'all be saying that for so long.

Okay, I know, I know, listen, I have a few names in my head right now that I know you guys been saying that because I'd be checking your DM and you'd be sending me dms and you'd be following me for a very long time.

You guys still say that you're starting out with your content creation.

Enough start anyways.

I love you, though, but just seriously, like, let's let's get on it.

But I want to be a content creator.

I want to be a YouTuber.

I want a new part man, I want a new job, I want whatever it is that you want you want, So badly, you want it, want it?

Can you also, at the same time, you don't need to drop the dream.

You need to go and you need to go and live out that dream for sure, Okay, Like go take the actions, go take the steps, don't talk about it anymore.

But on that same note, can you and you can do this as like a journal practice, write a letter of appreciation to the current thing that you're wanting to change, you want to move away from.

And this might be a little hard, and I'm not saying that you need to absolutely love every single second of this phase of your life, but I think it's a good practice and it can really help you during the time.

So if you're wanting a new job and you hate the job that you're at, can you be grateful for one thing about this job?

What is one thing you can find?

And honestly, maybe it's just the fact that, you know what, at least my job pays my bills.

At least I got a job in this economy, okay.

Or if you're sick right now, at least you have some sort of strength to write in your journal today or think about the few future and even have dreams that you can see that you can breathe, that you can get up and walk, that you.

Can eat a meal.

Like there's just so many things I'm telling you from experience, that you can flip if it's a new apartment that you really want to like move out of.

Can you be grateful for the fact that at least you have a.

Bed, you have something over your head, you have access to the internet, you have all these resources anything, even school.

You can find it in anything, Okay, please, I know you can.

And I just think that when we do more of that practice, it will.

Bring you such a long way.

But honestly, outside of where it will bring you, I just think that you're gonna be very grateful for your current self right now when you look back in twenty years and you said, you know what, life was quite messy, but I made the most out of it, and I did the damn thing, and I became appreciative of as much as I possibly could.

And you're just gonna be so proud of yourself.

I feel so proud of my younger version for not only the work you put in so that I can be where I'm at now, but also learning how to be grateful for the things that honestly like, my life is completely different, and sometimes I'd be like not even grateful for that, which is, you know, sometimes we've got to check ourselves and yeah, the reality is is you might really miss the current phase that you are in right now, So do your best to appreciate it.

Do your best to see when you are running away and running and running and running and running and running, you're allowed to run because maybe your circumstance is not the best, but I am sure you can find the best out of it and you can make the most out of it, and you might as well, because if not, you're kind of just putting yourself through that suffering.

Because either way, the time is gonna go by and things are gonna change.

When they change, you're gonna get the dream job when it's the right time.

And sometimes we don't necessarily have a full say in that we can co create, but at the end of the day, our hands are a little bit tied.

If you're single right now and you hate that, understand that this is such a beautiful phase for you to be in right now in your life, even if it doesn't feel the best.

There is beauty in every season, and as much as it can almost be very confusing, even when it comes to grief.

When I was grieving what I was grieving, which was the loss of my mom, like the past eight months essentially I can see now, But I know even in ten years, I'm going to look back and be like, I'm really proud of myself for going through that journey of grief and allowing myself to grieve and learning about it and doing what I needed to do.

And it's just a fundamental part of life.

Sometimes it doesn't mean that it needed to happen or it should have happened, but it just did.

And I did my best to kind of surrender to that instead of wait for it to be over, because one it was gonna be over eventually.

And when I mean over, I still feel that hole in my heart and I always will.

But you know the impact and the trauma of when things really went down.

But since it's happening, I might as well do my best to surrender to it and detach a little bit from the needing things to change and start to have more belief in your future, in the fact that things will change, Believe in the fact that the universe will move mountains for you.

God will move mountains for you, mountains will be moved, and honestly, they are moving right now.

You just don't.

See it, and it's not really your job to figure out when and how, and the messiness sometimes is a part of the process.

But try not to get too caught up in the messiness and just be grateful as.

Much as you can.

Appreciate the things, the small things.

Romanticize your life a little bit more.

For me, I really like to romanticize each sea my life.

Moving into fall time.

It's the weekend right now, world, It's Friday, so I'm going into the weekend.

We're going to do some fall shopping, going to fall markets, you know, taking some break from work, and then getting back into it starting new projects.

I'm going to be very excited for winter, although winter is definitely also going to be a hard time because that's why I lost my mom.

Two things can be very very true.

And I just even summer, like I did the most with my summer as much as I could springtime.

I just try and do my best to romanticize seasons and also allow myself to be human and to enjoy my off days as much as I can, Like, let myself have the off days, not always be in this mindset of needing to change and move and work and make life so difficult.

You have a long life, as much as we all hope, you know, a very long life, and so just relax, you know, like you're gonna get the thing.

And I think in order for you to get the thing, sometimes it requires you to see the lessons, the wisdom, the messaging of your current moment, and if anything, it just allows you to be present and for you to be out of your head and right here, right now, because at the end of the day, this is all we have.

So that's it.

That's all I wanted to say.

I was just witnessing myself thinking about or honestly the lack of thinking about my place and how great it is because I am mustering up some new manifestations, you know, like I'm you know, there's changes that are gonna happen.

But I'm also like I'm very seasoned when it comes to this kind of stuff.

I understand the name of the game.

I've created so much in my life when it comes to anything that I've wanted, so I just know how it goes.

I just got to remind myself, let's detach a little bit.

Let's trust and believe.

Let's do the work, let's co create.

But also let's be grateful.

Let's be appreciative.

There is a lot to be thankful for.

I hope this episode helps and I'll see you in the next one.

Bye.