Meeting created at: 27th Oct, 2025 - 1:46 PM1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:11,120 Nicole Laino: Welcome to Unshakable with Human Design, the show dedicated to helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to flow without sacrificing results. 2 00:00:11,760 --> 00:00:17,440 Nicole Laino: Come here to become an unshakable human and build an unshakable business according to your human design. 3 00:00:17,680 --> 00:00:19,280 Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino. 4 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:26,800 Nicole Laino: Hello, and welcome to Unshakable with Human Design, everyone. 5 00:00:27,430 --> 00:00:30,670 Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and it's you and me today. 6 00:00:30,670 --> 00:00:33,190 Nicole Laino: And today is going to be kind of a personal episode. 7 00:00:33,910 --> 00:00:44,710 Nicole Laino: So over the last few months, I've had kind of some things going on and some changes that have been coming to light, and I have gotten thrown off my game. 8 00:00:45,030 --> 00:00:52,230 Nicole Laino: Doesn't happen to me often, but with my gate of confusion leading my design, I get confused. 9 00:00:52,550 --> 00:00:53,030 Nicole Laino: Sometimes. 10 00:00:53,030 --> 00:00:53,430 Nicole Laino: I do. 11 00:00:53,880 --> 00:01:04,200 Nicole Laino: I'm really good at managing that confusion, but it doesn't mean that I don't have periods where even I get pulled off track. 12 00:01:04,599 --> 00:01:08,040 Nicole Laino: But in this episode, what I wanted to do was I wanted to share it with you. 13 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:20,520 Nicole Laino: Kind of the little story that I have and how human design brought me back to what is the most important for me to focus on in my business. 14 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:27,800 Nicole Laino: Because what I say this all the time, I say, you know, it isn't about finding the way. 15 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:29,880 Nicole Laino: It's about finding your way. 16 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:35,200 Nicole Laino: That is a core tenant in my world, and that is what I built my whole business around. 17 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:37,960 Nicole Laino: It's the reason why I don't just teach business. 18 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:48,040 Nicole Laino: I probably could make more money and have different types of success if I did just focus on business or put business first. 19 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:57,920 Nicole Laino: But the thing that matters the most to me is the fact that what I see for myself and for other people is when we play somebody else's game, we lose. 20 00:01:58,560 --> 00:02:00,720 Nicole Laino: It's not about finding the way. 21 00:02:01,200 --> 00:02:07,840 Nicole Laino: I chased the way for a long time, and when I found my way, everything changed in my business. 22 00:02:08,240 --> 00:02:23,740 Nicole Laino: Suddenly I was, like, literally adding 50% to doubling my revenue because I didn't get distracted, because I didn't get pulled off my course, because I didn't listen to people telling me it had to be this way or it had to be that way. 23 00:02:24,140 --> 00:02:28,540 Nicole Laino: I didn't let too many voices in because mine was the strongest. 24 00:02:29,340 --> 00:02:31,660 Nicole Laino: And it changed my entire world. 25 00:02:31,740 --> 00:02:32,940 Nicole Laino: It changed everything. 26 00:02:33,980 --> 00:02:39,820 Nicole Laino: And if I'm being perfectly honest, I have lost a little bit of that. 27 00:02:39,820 --> 00:02:40,180 Nicole Laino: I. 28 00:02:40,180 --> 00:02:42,460 Nicole Laino: Not permanently, but I took a little. 29 00:02:42,460 --> 00:02:52,540 Nicole Laino: I'm talking about maybe two or three months of me sort of stepping out of that power a little bit for myself and finding my way back. 30 00:02:52,540 --> 00:03:12,920 Nicole Laino: And that's What I wanted to share with you today, I wanted to talk to you a little bit about my process, a little bit about what I've seen, what I see with other people as we've been working with people in different capacities and inside business by design, of course, I'm always working with entrepreneurs and this is honestly your ability as an entrepreneur to lead yourself. 31 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:29,480 Nicole Laino: Every time you give your power away to something or someone, you diminish yourself energetically, you show up differently and then you'll find that your path doesn't move in a straight line from where you are to where you want to go. 32 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:32,040 Nicole Laino: It's all over the place. 33 00:03:32,930 --> 00:03:40,050 Nicole Laino: Even if you have a coach having a and I have coaches, I still work with people, I still get advice. 34 00:03:40,770 --> 00:04:02,890 Nicole Laino: But to be in my power when I am interacting with them and to be in a place where I'm not showing up weekly or in lack asking for advice, I'm getting their opinion and I'm passing it through my authority before I move on anything, I'm passing it through my authority and feeling does that feel right for me or does that sound like something that worked for them? 35 00:04:03,290 --> 00:04:09,530 Nicole Laino: That maybe I can take the spirit of it, but I'm not looking to do it exactly like them because that's not my way. 36 00:04:10,010 --> 00:04:10,410 Nicole Laino: Right. 37 00:04:10,890 --> 00:04:12,250 Nicole Laino: So that's the difference. 38 00:04:12,890 --> 00:04:23,130 Nicole Laino: And if you're interested incorporating human design into your business, I do have to say that we are running for the last time in 2025 and I don't know, it may not come back in 2026. 39 00:04:23,130 --> 00:04:34,260 Nicole Laino: We're still kind of sifting through that and seeing what 2026 looks like for us, but we're running the Authority accelerator masterclass, my five day free masterclass. 40 00:04:34,740 --> 00:04:38,820 Nicole Laino: On November 10th we start and registration is now open. 41 00:04:38,820 --> 00:04:41,380 Nicole Laino: It is free and it is amazing. 42 00:04:41,460 --> 00:04:46,420 Nicole Laino: We get the most incredible feedback from everybody who attends this masterclass. 43 00:04:46,660 --> 00:05:09,210 Nicole Laino: And this is my way of showing you all the pieces of what it takes to build a business according to your human design, where you're playing by your game and you're understanding what that is and you're building your business around your gifts and your magic and your magnetism and then putting strategies in place to make that work for you, where you're making sales every day. 44 00:05:09,370 --> 00:05:13,650 Nicole Laino: So we take you through the entire thing, the energetic part and the strategic part. 45 00:05:13,650 --> 00:05:17,490 Nicole Laino: If you want to join us, all you have to do is DM me the word masterclass on Instagram. 46 00:05:17,490 --> 00:05:23,250 Nicole Laino: I'm icoleno official or go to nicolelaino.commasterclass and you can register right there. 47 00:05:23,250 --> 00:05:25,490 Nicole Laino: On the website, and we've got it all linked up in the show notes for you. 48 00:05:25,490 --> 00:05:27,110 Nicole Laino: So you're taking care of. 49 00:05:27,110 --> 00:05:28,310 Nicole Laino: Okay, I hope to see you there. 50 00:05:28,630 --> 00:05:30,070 Nicole Laino: All right, so let's talk about this. 51 00:05:30,710 --> 00:05:32,870 Nicole Laino: So I'll tell you a little bit about this story. 52 00:05:33,030 --> 00:05:41,270 Nicole Laino: So I have big goals, and I had a plan, and I was enacting that plan, and it was working, and it's all working really well. 53 00:05:41,270 --> 00:05:42,230 Nicole Laino: I want to say this. 54 00:05:42,629 --> 00:05:46,070 Nicole Laino: We are having the best year I've ever had in this business. 55 00:05:46,950 --> 00:05:52,310 Nicole Laino: We have added another hundred thousand dollars in revenue from last year. 56 00:05:53,060 --> 00:05:55,220 Nicole Laino: We have increased profit. 57 00:05:55,220 --> 00:05:56,900 Nicole Laino: Like, it's a really great year. 58 00:05:56,980 --> 00:05:58,340 Nicole Laino: This is not me complaining. 59 00:05:58,740 --> 00:06:03,620 Nicole Laino: But even when you have great results, sometimes we're not looking at them. 60 00:06:03,620 --> 00:06:07,540 Nicole Laino: Sometimes conditioning takes over, and you hear what other people are doing. 61 00:06:07,940 --> 00:06:12,020 Nicole Laino: And I was in this growth space in my head. 62 00:06:12,500 --> 00:06:15,260 Nicole Laino: So I'm listening to all these people, and I'm like, oh, that's what they're doing. 63 00:06:15,260 --> 00:06:16,700 Nicole Laino: Okay, cool, I'm gonna do that too. 64 00:06:16,700 --> 00:06:19,620 Nicole Laino: And I started to let other people's opinions in. 65 00:06:20,390 --> 00:06:24,630 Nicole Laino: Not in a way that was me being the authority first. 66 00:06:25,430 --> 00:06:29,190 Nicole Laino: And I didn't feel like I was horribly misaligned. 67 00:06:29,350 --> 00:06:30,870 Nicole Laino: But they're looking back on it. 68 00:06:30,870 --> 00:06:32,550 Nicole Laino: I'm like, no, you didn't want to do that, Nicole. 69 00:06:32,550 --> 00:06:36,230 Nicole Laino: And you did it because you felt like it would get you what you wanted. 70 00:06:36,550 --> 00:06:41,750 Nicole Laino: My ego took over, and some of my small t trauma took over, too. 71 00:06:42,150 --> 00:06:43,750 Nicole Laino: I wanted people to like me. 72 00:06:44,150 --> 00:06:45,670 Nicole Laino: I wanted to be accepted. 73 00:06:46,330 --> 00:06:54,250 Nicole Laino: Some of those little wounds that I have healed on a bigger level, they're not festering anymore, but they still carry a little bit of a charge. 74 00:06:54,890 --> 00:07:09,770 Nicole Laino: And we don't know that sometimes until we are quote, unquote triggered, until we are put in a situation where we're forced to face it, and we notice that, oh, I am still influenced by this shadowy part of me. 75 00:07:10,170 --> 00:07:13,830 Nicole Laino: I am still wanting to fix it. 76 00:07:13,830 --> 00:07:22,870 Nicole Laino: I am still going into an unhelpful strategy, which is putting me into my conditioning and into my not self, where I'm not making decisions from my most powerful place. 77 00:07:22,950 --> 00:07:26,470 Nicole Laino: I'm not showing up as the most powerful magnetic version of myself. 78 00:07:27,030 --> 00:07:28,550 Nicole Laino: And this is where we get turned around. 79 00:07:28,949 --> 00:07:31,430 Nicole Laino: Okay, well, I'm not getting these results that I wanted. 80 00:07:31,430 --> 00:07:33,750 Nicole Laino: Things aren't working the way that I thought they would. 81 00:07:34,390 --> 00:07:36,790 Nicole Laino: So we think we need another strategy to solve it. 82 00:07:37,510 --> 00:07:41,670 Nicole Laino: So I fell into this pattern a little bit where I started. 83 00:07:41,830 --> 00:07:43,590 Nicole Laino: And like I said, things were going well. 84 00:07:44,150 --> 00:07:45,630 Nicole Laino: This is what conditioning does. 85 00:07:45,630 --> 00:07:50,390 Nicole Laino: This was not about me looking at the data and being like, nothing's working. 86 00:07:51,110 --> 00:07:52,710 Nicole Laino: No, our revenue was there. 87 00:07:52,710 --> 00:07:53,910 Nicole Laino: Everything was going well. 88 00:07:54,150 --> 00:08:01,830 Nicole Laino: I'm not going to say that every single thing that we did went gangbusters, but there were a couple of things that, you know, didn't perform as well. 89 00:08:01,830 --> 00:08:03,430 Nicole Laino: And I was like, oh, I could fix that. 90 00:08:03,670 --> 00:08:07,220 Nicole Laino: And I started to like shift into this massive action mode and. 91 00:08:07,290 --> 00:08:10,570 Nicole Laino: And I started to look outside rather than inside for my answers. 92 00:08:11,050 --> 00:08:22,010 Nicole Laino: And what that did in a short period of time of me being in my conditioning was I started to look at the outside world and I started to grab at things that I thought would fix it. 93 00:08:22,170 --> 00:08:25,490 Nicole Laino: And let me know if you've ever felt that way, okay? 94 00:08:25,490 --> 00:08:27,610 Nicole Laino: I don't know what to do and I don't know how I'm gonna do it. 95 00:08:27,690 --> 00:08:28,850 Nicole Laino: And that's what happened. 96 00:08:28,850 --> 00:08:31,050 Nicole Laino: Like, I'm like, oh, I wanna have this massive growth. 97 00:08:31,850 --> 00:08:35,779 Nicole Laino: And I started to do more stuff to try to get there. 98 00:08:36,019 --> 00:08:39,859 Nicole Laino: I started to look outside and be like, someone else must have the answer. 99 00:08:40,419 --> 00:08:46,979 Nicole Laino: And the truth was it was I was looking out in lack rather than looking at everything that I did have. 100 00:08:47,299 --> 00:08:48,579 Nicole Laino: I was like, I want more. 101 00:08:48,899 --> 00:08:53,299 Nicole Laino: I wasn't coming from a place of I have so much and how can we make this better? 102 00:08:53,299 --> 00:08:56,499 Nicole Laino: I wasn't in a good place with my decision making. 103 00:08:57,139 --> 00:08:58,899 Nicole Laino: I wasn't fully grounded. 104 00:08:59,379 --> 00:09:05,910 Nicole Laino: Now my version of this still looks pretty darn productive and I didn't go off the rails too badly. 105 00:09:05,910 --> 00:09:07,630 Nicole Laino: It's not like I ruined everything. 106 00:09:08,190 --> 00:09:11,790 Nicole Laino: But I sit here today and I'm like, oh, I got thrown off my game here. 107 00:09:11,790 --> 00:09:14,750 Nicole Laino: I wasn't making decisions from my most powerful self. 108 00:09:14,830 --> 00:09:17,230 Nicole Laino: I wasn't making decisions from my highest self. 109 00:09:17,230 --> 00:09:18,230 Nicole Laino: Some of them I did. 110 00:09:18,230 --> 00:09:23,630 Nicole Laino: But there were a couple that I look at and what we end up doing, they caused more confusion. 111 00:09:24,190 --> 00:09:42,970 Nicole Laino: Some of the strategies I was employing that other people were doing that other people were telling me some very well meaning friends, some people in my sphere, you know, sometimes we mastermind with people and we respect people and they say, oh, this is your problem, this is what isn't working for you. 112 00:09:43,530 --> 00:09:44,490 Nicole Laino: You should do this. 113 00:09:44,810 --> 00:09:46,410 Nicole Laino: I did this and it worked for me. 114 00:09:46,730 --> 00:09:49,450 Nicole Laino: And I was like, okay, yeah, sure, I could do that. 115 00:09:49,850 --> 00:09:55,610 Nicole Laino: And even thinking back to it, I can feel the energetic misalignment that was there. 116 00:09:56,620 --> 00:10:04,100 Nicole Laino: So one of the things that I was doing was I started to, I went into the, you know, how do I make these connections with people? 117 00:10:04,100 --> 00:10:16,620 Nicole Laino: And I got really into these like belly to belly personal connections that I had to make with people, fully knowing that as a five line, that's not how it Works for me. 118 00:10:16,940 --> 00:10:19,020 Nicole Laino: That's not where my greatest influence is. 119 00:10:19,340 --> 00:10:21,100 Nicole Laino: That's not what my business is built on. 120 00:10:21,590 --> 00:10:22,470 Nicole Laino: I'm a 5:1. 121 00:10:22,710 --> 00:10:23,990 Nicole Laino: The 5:1 rules. 122 00:10:24,310 --> 00:10:29,150 Nicole Laino: And I think part of me felt lonely and felt like, does it have to be like that? 123 00:10:29,150 --> 00:10:31,510 Nicole Laino: Does it have to be so lonely? 124 00:10:31,510 --> 00:10:33,190 Nicole Laino: Does it have to not involve people? 125 00:10:33,670 --> 00:10:36,230 Nicole Laino: And I think that this is the problem with looking at extremes. 126 00:10:36,790 --> 00:10:41,150 Nicole Laino: So as a 5:1, I don't need to best friends with everybody. 127 00:10:41,150 --> 00:10:57,320 Nicole Laino: And in fact, when I am more mysterious and a little bit further away and I have some more wide net sort of content, it does better than being super close and needing to be close to people. 128 00:10:57,960 --> 00:11:01,720 Nicole Laino: That's not where my influence is greatest and that's not where my impact is. 129 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:19,190 Nicole Laino: My impact is in one lining through something, becoming an expert, putting my work out there, having this amazing work product and then putting it out to the world through a larger platform and letting it do its thing. 130 00:11:19,510 --> 00:11:25,510 Nicole Laino: If I look back, all of the evidence in my business says that is the way and it doesn't mean that I don't get to have friends. 131 00:11:26,070 --> 00:11:29,590 Nicole Laino: And I think that was where some of the this is what conditioning does. 132 00:11:29,830 --> 00:11:32,470 Nicole Laino: The hurt part of me was just like, why can't we have friends? 133 00:11:33,030 --> 00:11:34,230 Nicole Laino: Nicole, you can have friends. 134 00:11:34,630 --> 00:11:35,910 Nicole Laino: It's just not going to be. 135 00:11:36,550 --> 00:11:38,870 Nicole Laino: The friends that you make are not going to be your clients. 136 00:11:39,350 --> 00:11:50,570 Nicole Laino: So if your goal is to build this business and you have these greater goals in mind, my strategy is going to look different than those other friends where all of their business comes from. 137 00:11:50,570 --> 00:12:00,050 Nicole Laino: Them flying to events and getting to know people and being best friends and them all collaborating and doing stuff together, that's what works for them. 138 00:12:00,610 --> 00:12:02,770 Nicole Laino: And I get to have those relationships. 139 00:12:03,250 --> 00:12:06,930 Nicole Laino: That's just not going to be the thing that grows my business. 140 00:12:07,170 --> 00:12:09,650 Nicole Laino: So it shouldn't be my highest priority. 141 00:12:10,340 --> 00:12:12,820 Nicole Laino: It can be a priority for me personally. 142 00:12:13,060 --> 00:12:17,700 Nicole Laino: But business wise, if I'm in business growth mode, I know better than that. 143 00:12:17,940 --> 00:12:19,540 Nicole Laino: And I wasn't listening to that. 144 00:12:19,860 --> 00:12:21,500 Nicole Laino: And what that caused was. 145 00:12:21,500 --> 00:12:27,700 Nicole Laino: And maybe you've experienced this too, where you go against your design and you end up being in more confusion. 146 00:12:28,180 --> 00:12:32,340 Nicole Laino: You end up wasting time, you end up wasting other resources. 147 00:12:32,980 --> 00:12:35,220 Nicole Laino: You've diluted yourself now. 148 00:12:35,220 --> 00:12:48,490 Nicole Laino: You've taken your attention away from what would actually move the needle for you and you've actually created less consistency and stability in your business because you got thrown off your game. 149 00:12:49,370 --> 00:12:55,530 Nicole Laino: Now I'm grateful though that with human design I know how to bring myself back. 150 00:12:55,610 --> 00:13:03,770 Nicole Laino: First of all, I could look back and I could say I see where I got thrown off my game, then I could look forward and say, well, I know exactly what I need to do. 151 00:13:04,460 --> 00:13:05,420 Nicole Laino: Because here's the other thing. 152 00:13:05,420 --> 00:13:19,340 Nicole Laino: When you're in growth mode in your business, and this is why it isn't just human design that I teach in the Authority Accelerator masterclass, it is not going to be just a masterclass of me telling you what gates mean, what your gates mean and what all of this stuff means. 153 00:13:19,420 --> 00:13:28,860 Nicole Laino: You are the center of your business as an entrepreneur so you should be the first thing on your list that you are learning, that you are studying, that you are mastering. 154 00:13:29,750 --> 00:13:31,030 Nicole Laino: But strategy is important. 155 00:13:31,190 --> 00:13:35,910 Nicole Laino: You do need to understand how to employ strategy in your business or everything will always be hard. 156 00:13:36,470 --> 00:13:42,630 Nicole Laino: You'll have a lot of tactics, but you won't have anything that's making them all work and you'll end up creating more work for yourself. 157 00:13:43,110 --> 00:13:45,350 Nicole Laino: But when you are in growth mode. 158 00:13:46,150 --> 00:13:50,950 Nicole Laino: So for me, I'm looking to grow my business significantly every year. 159 00:13:51,430 --> 00:13:54,550 Nicole Laino: We have a goal for next year to nearly double the business. 160 00:13:55,370 --> 00:13:55,970 Nicole Laino: That's a lot. 161 00:13:55,970 --> 00:13:57,370 Nicole Laino: And I got a little bit caught up. 162 00:13:57,370 --> 00:13:58,570 Nicole Laino: That was a big goal. 163 00:13:58,970 --> 00:14:00,730 Nicole Laino: It started to feel like a lot. 164 00:14:01,050 --> 00:14:08,570 Nicole Laino: And I started to fall into the this is where strategic alone thinking can really screw with you. 165 00:14:08,810 --> 00:14:13,370 Nicole Laino: I started to get into I've got to do more, I have to do more. 166 00:14:13,770 --> 00:14:25,670 Nicole Laino: And the truth is that if you are really a growth minded individual and if you read any book or talk to anyone who's made millions of dollars, they will tell you it's actually about doing less but better. 167 00:14:26,310 --> 00:14:27,950 Nicole Laino: And that is what I stand for. 168 00:14:27,950 --> 00:14:30,470 Nicole Laino: That's what got me to this point that I'm at. 169 00:14:30,790 --> 00:14:36,190 Nicole Laino: We do over $300,000 a year in this business now, which that's what we're going to do this year. 170 00:14:36,190 --> 00:14:37,750 Nicole Laino: I'm very proud of that. 171 00:14:37,910 --> 00:14:39,830 Nicole Laino: And we did that through doing less but better. 172 00:14:40,070 --> 00:14:41,590 Nicole Laino: And I fell off of that. 173 00:14:41,910 --> 00:14:43,830 Nicole Laino: I did not do less but better. 174 00:14:44,390 --> 00:14:47,430 Nicole Laino: I instead was looking at it and saying how do I do more? 175 00:14:47,590 --> 00:14:49,430 Nicole Laino: And I did more and I did more. 176 00:14:49,430 --> 00:14:58,160 Nicole Laino: And all that's doing is diluting my attention, my power and it's keeping me from the things that will actually 10x my growth. 177 00:14:58,720 --> 00:15:03,280 Nicole Laino: I went into a linear growth mode by only looking at strategy. 178 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:20,400 Nicole Laino: When we talk about energy, yes, we are talking about, you know, there's manifestation and energetic alignment and magnetism and all of this, but it's also the ability to be so centered and grounded that you make a decision that is correct for you. 179 00:15:20,960 --> 00:15:32,320 Nicole Laino: Correct thinking, correct moves that Feel truly right for you and that will offer you the growth that you're looking for without having to work more. 180 00:15:33,040 --> 00:15:36,720 Nicole Laino: All of my non sacrals, this is even more important for you. 181 00:15:36,720 --> 00:15:38,080 Nicole Laino: I have the energy to burn. 182 00:15:38,560 --> 00:15:40,400 Nicole Laino: I'm just pissed off that I burned it. 183 00:15:40,720 --> 00:15:45,120 Nicole Laino: And I will say this like it was my strategy and authority that brought me back. 184 00:15:45,890 --> 00:15:49,130 Nicole Laino: I was frustrated and I'm a manifesting generator. 185 00:15:49,130 --> 00:15:51,010 Nicole Laino: So I got frustrated and pissed. 186 00:15:51,410 --> 00:15:54,410 Nicole Laino: I was so angry and salty with people. 187 00:15:54,410 --> 00:15:58,370 Nicole Laino: I'm just so pissed off and not in a good place. 188 00:15:58,850 --> 00:16:04,930 Nicole Laino: And the reason is that I. I knew I was doing something that I did not like, I resented it. 189 00:16:05,170 --> 00:16:09,570 Nicole Laino: And if I start to resent my business, that is not how I'm meant to operate. 190 00:16:10,050 --> 00:16:11,210 Nicole Laino: I should have joy. 191 00:16:11,210 --> 00:16:17,420 Nicole Laino: I should feel creatively inspired, I should feel moved to my work. 192 00:16:17,500 --> 00:16:19,580 Nicole Laino: And I do most of the time. 193 00:16:19,820 --> 00:16:24,700 Nicole Laino: But I had this little period where I really got turned around. 194 00:16:25,340 --> 00:16:28,060 Nicole Laino: But I'm so grateful I have human design because it brought me back. 195 00:16:28,780 --> 00:16:30,620 Nicole Laino: It brought me back to what is true. 196 00:16:31,100 --> 00:16:32,700 Nicole Laino: It brought me back to show me. 197 00:16:32,860 --> 00:16:35,340 Nicole Laino: Oh, wait, almost immediately. 198 00:16:35,340 --> 00:16:36,620 Nicole Laino: So I'll tell you what I did. 199 00:16:36,940 --> 00:16:39,970 Nicole Laino: So I noticed this and I was like, I need to. 200 00:16:39,970 --> 00:16:42,530 Nicole Laino: So I journaled and I'm like, let me get all of my feelings out. 201 00:16:42,530 --> 00:16:43,890 Nicole Laino: Let me get all of my thoughts out. 202 00:16:43,890 --> 00:16:51,210 Nicole Laino: Let me really work through this problem because it's all swimming in my head and I have an open head center and open ajna. 203 00:16:51,690 --> 00:16:53,690 Nicole Laino: My head can get really busy. 204 00:16:53,690 --> 00:16:59,930 Nicole Laino: And what it will do is it will turn on something to a crazy degree and it will drive me crazy. 205 00:17:00,170 --> 00:17:03,330 Nicole Laino: Head center, mental pressure, open head center. 206 00:17:03,330 --> 00:17:05,450 Nicole Laino: I don't know how to deal with mental pressure. 207 00:17:05,450 --> 00:17:05,660 Nicole Laino: So. 208 00:17:05,810 --> 00:17:13,089 Nicole Laino: So it just keeps building and it's so uncomfortable that it starts to really, like, get into my body. 209 00:17:13,569 --> 00:17:18,010 Nicole Laino: I also have an open root center, which is more pressure, quote, unquote. 210 00:17:18,010 --> 00:17:21,650 Nicole Laino: I don't know how to deal naturally with pressure. 211 00:17:21,890 --> 00:17:25,410 Nicole Laino: Adrenalized pressure, the pressure to perform, the pressure to evolve. 212 00:17:25,810 --> 00:17:26,530 Nicole Laino: So that's that. 213 00:17:26,530 --> 00:17:27,730 Nicole Laino: Like, we've gotta go. 214 00:17:27,730 --> 00:17:28,650 Nicole Laino: When am I gonna do it? 215 00:17:28,650 --> 00:17:29,490 Nicole Laino: How am I gonna do it? 216 00:17:29,490 --> 00:17:34,920 Nicole Laino: That fear crept into me and I started to not make the greatest decisions. 217 00:17:35,480 --> 00:17:37,000 Nicole Laino: So I noticed this. 218 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:43,880 Nicole Laino: I was able to notice how frustrated I was, notice how angry I was, and say, wait, this is not how I operate. 219 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:45,360 Nicole Laino: Let me take a look at this. 220 00:17:45,360 --> 00:17:55,680 Nicole Laino: So I wrote everything down and I journaled and I was like, let me get all of this out to know what is up in my head, because that will just keep spinning around up there. 221 00:17:55,680 --> 00:17:57,520 Nicole Laino: It's not gonna come out I'm not going to. 222 00:17:57,520 --> 00:17:58,480 Nicole Laino: It just drives you crazy. 223 00:17:58,480 --> 00:18:05,900 Nicole Laino: Basically, if you have an open head center and an open AJ and you should be writing your thoughts down because they will drive you insane if you don't get them out. 224 00:18:05,900 --> 00:18:08,540 Nicole Laino: You also won't know what's up there because we don't know. 225 00:18:08,620 --> 00:18:10,340 Nicole Laino: We don't know until we see it on the page. 226 00:18:10,340 --> 00:18:11,900 Nicole Laino: We don't know until we say it. 227 00:18:12,140 --> 00:18:14,060 Nicole Laino: For some of us, I have a motor to the throat. 228 00:18:14,060 --> 00:18:15,220 Nicole Laino: I say things. 229 00:18:15,220 --> 00:18:17,100 Nicole Laino: I get a lot of clarity by talking. 230 00:18:17,500 --> 00:18:24,460 Nicole Laino: But when it's just me and I'm sitting there, it's very helpful for me to see the thoughts on a piece of paper. 231 00:18:24,940 --> 00:18:27,180 Nicole Laino: So I wrote, let me journal through this. 232 00:18:27,180 --> 00:18:28,780 Nicole Laino: Let me work my way through this. 233 00:18:29,530 --> 00:18:34,010 Nicole Laino: And then I started to notice what was emotionally there and what the feelings were. 234 00:18:34,250 --> 00:18:36,330 Nicole Laino: So I did breath work and I did some tapping. 235 00:18:36,330 --> 00:18:38,970 Nicole Laino: I started to tap immediately my eft. 236 00:18:39,290 --> 00:18:44,330 Nicole Laino: So I'm starting to work through my feelings because the feelings will actually keep me in the loop. 237 00:18:44,330 --> 00:18:45,770 Nicole Laino: They will keep me in that. 238 00:18:46,170 --> 00:18:48,690 Nicole Laino: Trying to fix the feeling by taking action. 239 00:18:48,690 --> 00:18:53,450 Nicole Laino: A lot of times, or we shut down and we can't move and we're, like, paralyzed by it. 240 00:18:53,690 --> 00:18:56,250 Nicole Laino: We don't want that because all of its resistance. 241 00:18:56,710 --> 00:19:02,150 Nicole Laino: We're either dealing with resistance by reactivity or we're dealing with resistance because we are shutting down. 242 00:19:02,310 --> 00:19:04,790 Nicole Laino: This is what I teach my clients in business by design. 243 00:19:04,870 --> 00:19:06,150 Nicole Laino: This is why they move. 244 00:19:06,150 --> 00:19:17,030 Nicole Laino: This is why they change and transform over the course of the year with me, because I'm teaching them how to get them out of these resistance ruts so they do take action. 245 00:19:17,110 --> 00:19:18,790 Nicole Laino: So they're taking correct action. 246 00:19:19,350 --> 00:19:21,910 Nicole Laino: This is why they end up doing so much more. 247 00:19:22,670 --> 00:19:26,430 Nicole Laino: And by so much more, I mean being actually productive versus just busy. 248 00:19:26,830 --> 00:19:28,350 Nicole Laino: And we're working through things. 249 00:19:28,350 --> 00:19:32,030 Nicole Laino: So work becomes easier, life becomes easier. 250 00:19:32,590 --> 00:19:45,070 Nicole Laino: This is how you can start to make choices from a grounded place, because you aren't full of all of these feelings that are making you so uncomfortable that you feel like you have to react and do something with them. 251 00:19:45,550 --> 00:19:46,750 Nicole Laino: You're the instrument. 252 00:19:47,070 --> 00:19:48,150 Nicole Laino: You're an entrepreneur. 253 00:19:48,150 --> 00:19:52,340 Nicole Laino: And if you're a personal brand, especially, you are the instrument. 254 00:19:52,820 --> 00:19:54,420 Nicole Laino: You have to tune the instrument. 255 00:19:54,660 --> 00:20:02,180 Nicole Laino: If my instrument, like, what I noticed by writing that stuff down was I had emotions and I had things that were in there that were not helpful. 256 00:20:02,260 --> 00:20:04,500 Nicole Laino: My instrument was tuned badly. 257 00:20:04,820 --> 00:20:12,740 Nicole Laino: I could play the right notes, but the song is not going to sound right no matter what I do until I tune that instrument again. 258 00:20:13,300 --> 00:20:14,900 Nicole Laino: So I tuned my instrument. 259 00:20:14,980 --> 00:20:16,190 Nicole Laino: I tapped and. 260 00:20:16,260 --> 00:20:17,940 Nicole Laino: And I tapped out A lot of stuff. 261 00:20:18,580 --> 00:20:23,700 Nicole Laino: P S. These are things that I have worked through over and over again. 262 00:20:24,100 --> 00:20:25,620 Nicole Laino: New level, new devil. 263 00:20:26,260 --> 00:20:29,140 Nicole Laino: Same shadow, different relationship to it. 264 00:20:29,220 --> 00:20:33,140 Nicole Laino: I could tap through it because I have been through this and I have excavated it. 265 00:20:33,300 --> 00:20:35,940 Nicole Laino: I can get through that shadow very quickly. 266 00:20:35,940 --> 00:20:41,140 Nicole Laino: I can get through it in 20 minutes and actually have a breakthrough. 267 00:20:41,620 --> 00:20:43,940 Nicole Laino: That's the benefit of actually doing this work. 268 00:20:44,480 --> 00:20:47,680 Nicole Laino: So I go through the whole thing and I tap, and then I did a breathwork. 269 00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:52,400 Nicole Laino: Now the breathwork is just working the rest of it out of my body. 270 00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:59,360 Nicole Laino: And in that breath work, I start to get insights and I start to get clarity on what's actually here. 271 00:20:59,999 --> 00:21:04,720 Nicole Laino: And the things that started to come up for me were just like, this is how you move, Nicole. 272 00:21:05,120 --> 00:21:05,720 Nicole Laino: Nicole. 273 00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:07,200 Nicole Laino: This is your way, and you know it. 274 00:21:07,600 --> 00:21:09,200 Nicole Laino: You know what you have to do. 275 00:21:09,770 --> 00:21:11,370 Nicole Laino: You have to clear space for it. 276 00:21:11,690 --> 00:21:14,330 Nicole Laino: Because right now it might feel like that's a step back. 277 00:21:14,330 --> 00:21:20,890 Nicole Laino: Like, how do I create space to do this thing that I need to do while still keeping everything in this business going? 278 00:21:21,210 --> 00:21:25,610 Nicole Laino: When I am the person who does it made me say, like, I think I need to find some help. 279 00:21:26,250 --> 00:21:29,930 Nicole Laino: I probably need to add to my team if I want to grow to this level. 280 00:21:30,410 --> 00:21:34,490 Nicole Laino: I am having growing pains, and I'm not handling them correctly. 281 00:21:34,810 --> 00:21:37,850 Nicole Laino: I added more to my plate when I needed to clear my plate. 282 00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:39,680 Nicole Laino: All started to become clear. 283 00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:47,000 Nicole Laino: Exactly what I needed to do and how I needed to restructure things brought me right back to my track. 284 00:21:47,560 --> 00:21:54,520 Nicole Laino: I recalibrated in, like, a day after realizing this, so I was able to catch it. 285 00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:57,280 Nicole Laino: And I'm not going to say that there weren't consequences. 286 00:21:57,280 --> 00:22:00,400 Nicole Laino: There were things that I did, you know, I invested in things. 287 00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:03,560 Nicole Laino: I lost some time, and that stuff is valuable. 288 00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:11,400 Nicole Laino: But I'm able to sit here and course correct very quickly without these tools. 289 00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:14,000 Nicole Laino: I watch entrepreneurs spin for years. 290 00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:21,440 Nicole Laino: People stay stuck and tell me, like, they've got the same goals on their board for years on end. 291 00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:29,240 Nicole Laino: If you have a goal up there and you haven't attacked it and it's been up there for more than six months, you've got to look at that. 292 00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:30,620 Nicole Laino: You either don't want it or. 293 00:22:30,770 --> 00:22:34,370 Nicole Laino: Or you are standing in the way and you need to figure out how to move it. 294 00:22:34,610 --> 00:22:39,170 Nicole Laino: You have to figure out what's inside of you that's keeping you from taking action. 295 00:22:39,970 --> 00:22:46,010 Nicole Laino: That's what I do, and that's what we're going to go over in the Authority Accelerator masterclass. 296 00:22:46,010 --> 00:22:51,370 Nicole Laino: I'm taking you through this whole process of understanding yourself. 297 00:22:51,370 --> 00:22:56,450 Nicole Laino: I Look at human design as the most powerful, a way of mastering yourself. 298 00:22:57,230 --> 00:23:21,990 Nicole Laino: Not through vague high level tools which and exercises which could be super cool and helpful, but actually through the lens of being able to truly understand yourself, to understand why something didn't work for you and it worked for somebody else, why that advice is not the right advice for you and to save you from going down the path, or like me going too far down the path. 299 00:23:21,990 --> 00:23:23,630 Nicole Laino: I caught myself very quickly. 300 00:23:24,390 --> 00:23:26,390 Nicole Laino: Nothing suffered in my business. 301 00:23:26,790 --> 00:23:29,990 Nicole Laino: I just know that I don't do that anymore, really. 302 00:23:29,990 --> 00:23:35,830 Nicole Laino: It's very rare for me to end up anywhere down a path where I'm like, I don't know how I got here. 303 00:23:36,230 --> 00:23:37,430 Nicole Laino: It was a moment. 304 00:23:37,830 --> 00:23:43,590 Nicole Laino: But I also look at it with gratitude because I'm like, I see this so much more clearly now. 305 00:23:44,150 --> 00:23:46,030 Nicole Laino: I know exactly what I have to do. 306 00:23:46,030 --> 00:23:53,350 Nicole Laino: I'm so much more grounded in the way forward because I know that I would probably be still confused otherwise. 307 00:23:53,670 --> 00:23:55,110 Nicole Laino: If I didn't have this tool. 308 00:23:55,110 --> 00:23:58,150 Nicole Laino: What I would be doing is I would be still taking action in that place. 309 00:23:58,390 --> 00:23:59,990 Nicole Laino: I wouldn't feel good about it. 310 00:24:00,070 --> 00:24:03,670 Nicole Laino: It would start to affect my results and what I'm able to produce. 311 00:24:03,910 --> 00:24:06,629 Nicole Laino: And I would look for more strategies to try to fix those. 312 00:24:06,870 --> 00:24:24,270 Nicole Laino: And then I would be adding hours to my week, pulling me further away from what's important, and I would lose myself in this whole thing and my results would go down and instead I'm able to see the path, recognize that I'm not on it. 313 00:24:24,510 --> 00:24:25,790 Nicole Laino: We all make a wrong turn. 314 00:24:25,870 --> 00:24:28,270 Nicole Laino: Sometimes we make a wrong turn. 315 00:24:28,430 --> 00:24:34,030 Nicole Laino: Do you notice when you are miles and miles away from where you were going? 316 00:24:34,030 --> 00:24:38,350 Nicole Laino: Or do you notice like, as soon as you make it off the exit, you go, that wasn't my exit. 317 00:24:38,590 --> 00:24:42,750 Nicole Laino: And you're able to get right back on the highway, turn around and maybe you just lost a few minutes. 318 00:24:43,230 --> 00:24:44,590 Nicole Laino: That's the benefit of this. 319 00:24:45,620 --> 00:25:08,500 Nicole Laino: So please, if you are interested in this, if you are an entrepreneur looking to grow a business where you are magnetic in the way that is meant for you, that you show up as your most powerful self, you make choices that are in alignment with who you are, not with who I am, not with who your last coach was, but who you are. 320 00:25:09,060 --> 00:25:12,180 Nicole Laino: So you are showing up bigger and bigger in your way. 321 00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:16,000 Nicole Laino: I highly encourage you to come to the Authority Accelerator Masterclass. 322 00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:17,920 Nicole Laino: It's free, it's awesome. 323 00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:19,200 Nicole Laino: You will love it, I promise. 324 00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:22,880 Nicole Laino: All you have to do to register is go over to Instagram, find me. 325 00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:24,360 Nicole Laino: I'm icolenofficial. 326 00:25:24,360 --> 00:25:25,120 Nicole Laino: Send me a dm. 327 00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:28,880 Nicole Laino: Just type in the word masterclass and we will register you right there in the DMs. 328 00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:31,960 Nicole Laino: If you prefer to just go to the website, you can do that too. 329 00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:37,040 Nicole Laino: Go to nicolelaino.commasterclass and we have it linked up in the show notes as well. 330 00:25:37,120 --> 00:25:39,760 Nicole Laino: And you can register right there on our website. 331 00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:40,720 Nicole Laino: We've got you covered. 332 00:25:41,290 --> 00:25:43,130 Nicole Laino: All right, I'm going to leave this one here. 333 00:25:43,130 --> 00:25:44,890 Nicole Laino: I hope to see you in the masterclass. 334 00:25:44,970 --> 00:25:48,530 Nicole Laino: Thank you so much for making it all the way to the end of this episode with me. 335 00:25:48,530 --> 00:25:49,530 Nicole Laino: I appreciate you. 336 00:25:49,530 --> 00:25:54,490 Nicole Laino: And remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must first become an unshakable human. 337 00:25:54,890 --> 00:25:58,090 Nicole Laino: So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design. 338 00:25:58,170 --> 00:25:59,290 Nicole Laino: We'll see you next time. 339 00:25:59,850 --> 00:26:06,090 Nicole Laino: If you love this episode and you're a fan of the show, please show us the love on itunes, Spotify, or wherever you're listening to the show and leave us a review. 340 00:26:06,420 --> 00:26:13,660 Nicole Laino: And if you'd like to connect with other entrepreneurs on their human design journey, join our free Facebook community, Human Design for entrepreneurs. 341 00:26:13,660 --> 00:26:18,020 Nicole Laino: Go to NicoleLano Me PodcastLinks to join the group. 342 00:26:18,180 --> 00:26:22,500 Nicole Laino: Book a human design reading with me or access our free human design resources. 343 00:26:22,580 --> 00:26:23,540 Nicole Laino: We'll see you there.