Episode Transcript
Welcome back.
Speaker 2It's me Danielle Fischel, TV director, podcaster, mother of two, and colloquially known as Tapega from the nineties family sitcom Boy Meets World, but to almost seven million viewers and counting every week.
I am a competitor on season thirty four of Dancing with the Stars, paired with my professional pal Pasha Pashkov, And in addition to my transformation from no prior dance experience to ballroom vet, I have been recording this year podcast, keeping tabs on every single moment along the way, hoping that the details of my journey might make your Dancing with the Stars fandom even more enjoyable.
Plus, I have been joined by pro's former contestant and my beloved competition in hopes that these interviews could double as insider information to push me over the proverbial hump and into the winner's circle, holding the mirror ball trophy well above my head in the name of every listener.
And today I am joined by a man who was there when it all started, a national champion gold medalist who joined the show in season one and went on to compete with a total of eleven partners, including Kelly Osborne in season nine, where they made it to the finals and placed third.
He's been seen in the ballroom this season, taking in the festivities, and I, for one felt just a little more nervous knowing he was in attendance.
And with the twentieth birthday of the show just around the corner, it would be impossible to imagine its early days without my guest.
And now I'm honored to say it.
It's Danielle with Louis van Amstell.
Speaker 3Hi, Danielle, Hi, how are you there?
You are?
Yes?
Speaker 1How are you.
Speaker 3Nice to meet you?
I didn't meet you.
I saw Pasha, yes, and two weeks ago.
Speaker 1Yeah, so I know I saw that you were there.
Speaker 2But after the fact, I think we may have passed each other very quickly in the breezeway when I was either on my way to warm up or getting one of those many last minute hair and makeup touch ups.
Speaker 3You get yes, and I know how important that is.
So I do this and I do not.
Yeah, I don't want to disturb anyone, whether it's my partner on the show.
It's that that me time, you know, when you have to get ready and get into game game mode, game.
Speaker 2Base exactly game face mode, and there's not much time and it all depends on where you fall in the show and how you know.
Speaker 1Are you last, are you first?
Speaker 2Are you right in the middle.
It's it's a it's a lot.
And I wanted to talk with you because you bring such a unique POV considering you were there from season one.
When do you remember getting the pitch for Dancing with the Stars and did it sound in saying to you what was your first thought when you heard about it.
Speaker 3It's interesting you asked me this question because even though it's twenty years ago, it feels like yesterday and I remember every single detail.
So Dance with the Stars is based on Strictly Come Dancing, which is Dance with the Stars version in England, and when they successfully brought it back on TV, I guess the producers asked the British professionals, who do you know in the United States.
Well, I'm from Amsterdam, I'm from Holland my partner was British Julie Fryer.
So we were actually on the original Come Dancing when it was counties against each other and then England against Europe.
So we danced on the original version before it quit in the late nineties anyway.
So then one of the producers called me while I was teaching in New York City and if I was interested in being part of the show that ABC was willing to test out of a show about bareroom dancing.
They weren't sure, and I didn't think twice.
Growing up in theater, I was already retired from competing, and I just had done my Broadway show in two thousand and two at City Center.
So when they said do you want to be part of it?
Yes, I want to, I didn't have to think twice.
No, Wow, I did not question it.
I did.
I also thought it was the golden opportunity for ballroom dancing UH to be put in the limelight, and that it was interesting because then of course they asked me who do you know.
Well, I was coaching Alec Mazo and edits Lavinska at the time, so of course I asked them.
And then after they hired Alec Mazo, a Ukrainian edit, tes Lawns Cut Polish, myself Dutch, Sharlot to Jurgensen Danish, and then John Roberts American.
So then they called me back, Joe Sunkert, do you we won an all American, I get it immigrants.
So I was teaching at the famous Center Stage in orem Utah where all the Utah dances are from.
Yeah, and he was asking me.
I picked up the phone while I was teaching, and Ashley del Grosso, who was the final lady joining season one, she was in the other room.
So I said, Joe, hold on.
So I walked to the room.
I said, here, pick up the phone and make sure you say yes wow.
And so that's how that happened.
Yeah, just put my phone in Ashley's hands and she talked to Joe and she did audition and she made it on the show.
Speaker 2So you're basically responsible for the entire pro cast of season one.
Speaker 3Well, I wouldn't say the entire cast.
It was more you know John Roberts, who I did work with as a coach.
He was approached, I guess through another producer and Charlotte Jurgenson, who I competed with in Europe at World Championships.
So it was fun for all of us to be in a different medium because competition scene or theater is still different than live TV.
But we loved it.
Yeah, and then I got Julian Hoff and Derek Houff on the show and a few more.
But for me, you know, I'm the old one of the bunch.
I coached most of them that are now on.
So for me, it's about getting the best dancers that are appropriate for the show.
So if you look at Jenna Johnson, you look at Lindsay, Arnold, Winsey, Whitney Carson, these are all cross Ray dancers Ezra cross Train Brandon and I know them since they were That makes me really old them all since they were eight, nine and ten years old because I was teaching them at center Stage.
It's just wonderful to see they never decided to go into the ballroom Ballroom World Championships, but instead they have an amazing career on TV.
Speaker 1So yeah, I ain't mad about it exactly.
Speaker 2I mean, it's really smart and it was forward thinking of you as someone who had competed in Blackpool, had three Latin Dance Champion gold medals and a US National Championship with a partner that you knew I sure have.
Well, you knew they that it was a chance to celebrate ballroom dancing instead of having fear that it was going to be something that made a mockery of it.
Is that how they presented it to you or did you just know that this was going to be a shining opportunity for ballroom dance?
Speaker 3In my heart, I knew that this was going to be a success because of having done a Broadway show of my own in two thousand and two when we had no TV, no ballroom dancing in the limelight, and I knew because of the enthusiasm from that audience that the public will like this.
And so many people, not just in the eighteen thirty eight, eighteen to thirty nine, but also the older generation.
How many of them did ballroom dancing when they grew up, the katillion, all that, and that's what Danced with the Stars represents twenty years in.
It still represents that romance, the sassiness, and you know a little bit more nodding.
Speaker 1You know, a little bit of drama, a little.
Speaker 3Bit of everything.
Yes, yeah, so I think it's I never questioned it.
And also when they asked me do you know more dancers?
I was right away thinking these have to be the right dancers, not the best dancers.
Now, now having said that, when you take a Valsh Mukofsky, who I coached as well, he could have easily been world champion.
He was world champion in junior.
He could have taken every single title titled.
Derek Huff could be world champion.
He was youth champion.
I was actually there when he became world champion in youth.
These dancers are not only the right dancers for the show, they're also the best dancers.
I mean, they're so well trained, and I'm proud to say that I was part of that before Dance with the Stars as their coach.
Speaker 1Yes.
Speaker 2Do you remember a specific moment, maybe it was even during season one where you felt like, whoa, this is working.
It's all it's gonna go.
This show is going to be a massive success, the show itself.
Speaker 3Yes, I was so happy to hear that.
Everyone was so nervous that first one.
Danielle, you guys are nervous coming down those stairs.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 3But season one, week one, everyone ABC, the show run at Conrad Green, Dina.
Everyone was so nervous because this is the first time.
And then we had thirteen point five million viewers and they couldn't be happier.
And that was the summer show.
So I knew then it's a hit.
However, I've never won this show, but I think I deserve a trophy because stress the ctter and I were the first ever eliminated couple in season one.
Don't you think that deserves something?
Speaker 2You know what I do?
I think what's the opposite of a mirror ball?
Speaker 3The well turn it outside of second?
It's yeah.
I learned a lot that first season.
Oh my gosh.
I learned a lot because I came in and not to brag or anything, but just to give you and your viewers perspective.
I came in from coaching, coaching people like Jenna Johnson, Welshikovsky, Max Murkowsky, and then I went in with that coaching attitude in dense with the stars, Oh my gosh, I looked like and I mean, I'm not going to say the capital A because we strect yes.
And then on top I had long hair in a ponytail, I have these cheek pumps.
It looks oh my gosh, I look so dang arrogant.
And then in the package, yeah, I'm a three time world champion, and oh my gosh.
It was a very humbling experience, and season two was amazing because of the learning lessons from season one.
Speaker 2I see, do you was that attitude that you had in season one?
Was that something that is that what you were like as a coach generally or was it something put on for the TV show?
Speaker 3Well that's that's a two first.
So the first portion is that for me, if you tell me you want to be a champion, national or world champion, then I'm going to treat you as such, not in being nasty, but okay, here are the goals, and I'm going to hold you accountable.
But that's with the stars.
I mean you, guys, I mean I respect you so much.
You put yourself out there.
You're a working actress, you can control your work, and here you are putting yourself on the chopping block potentially, and so I respect every and all celebrity for doing that.
But for me as a coach, I realized, wait a minute, Wait a minute, wait a minute, this is not your bread and butter, and this is your hobby.
Now in a way, it is your bread and butter because you put yourself out there as a celebrity.
And but I was never I don't think I'm arrogant.
It's just I hold you accountable.
But then the way the questions are asked, you know, when you have your Thursday interviews.
You have to be mindful on how you say it because everything can and will be used against you.
And that's not on the producers.
That's on us to be mindful on you know, what you say in terms of in terms of the bad Boys status.
I think they tried, and then you know, Max came on board in season three, and I guess he took the role.
But I don't want to play a role.
I've always said I'm a chameleon as a coach, as a teacher, as a dancer, Expect the unexpected.
I've said it in so many interviews because I, for example, if you and I were parted, I don't know you, so maybe I have one approach.
Well, then that approach doesn't work, Okay, a different approach.
Maybe you're a visual learner, audio learner.
Maybe you're just slow in picking up, so the first three days take it a easier and then when I see you pick it up, boom.
Then we're going to spend the hours on really diving deep.
And others say, let me give me, give me everything on that first day and then slow down towards the end of the week.
So they tried, and I think that's part of the reason I'm being really for that off not being in all seasons, because that was never my choice, not to be real, I just don't like being put in a box.
I don't like labels.
So I also don't want to be called the gay dancer or the I am me.
There's so many more sides to me, and so yeah, I you expect the unexpected.
That's really my coaching philosophy because I don't know who I am partnered with totally.
Speaker 1It's funny.
Speaker 2We interviewed Max as well, and Max said something similar about coming onto the show, and he said, you know, when I joined the show, I was told your goal was to get this celebrity to be a trained dancer, and he said, and so I came in very much with like, if you want to be a star dancer, you're going to have to do all of these things.
And he said, and then of course, over time you realize, like these celebrities, it's impossible for them to become in ten weeks eleven weeks.
You can't possibly learn all the things you need to learn.
And he said, you know, so I realized that maybe my approach wasn't working and that that really wasn't the hook of the show.
So it's interesting to hear you say something similar that, Like, you know, they told me I was taking a celebrity and wanted to make them a national champion.
Speaker 1Well, of course I have to hold you accountable to that.
Speaker 3Yeah, And of course, again it depends on the celebrity.
I can give you two examples.
In season nine, I had Kelly Osborne.
Yeah, no dance experience.
There was a lot of baggage, emotional baggage that we had to go through.
So that was one step at a time, very slow going, and she made the final.
So it doesn't mean you can't make the final when you're a non dancer, but you have to approach it differently from a dancer.
And when we lose our patients, you can hold all the pros accountable because that's on us because a good coach never loses their cool.
You can be frustrated, but you cannot lose your patients.
It's not well, you're not getting it.
You're not getting it.
Well, that means us as pros, we have to dig deeper, change our strategy until you get that hook where your celebrity really feels oh, I'm growing.
And then in the All Star season I had Sabrina Brian, I had that season the best dancer of the season, but hip hop trained cheerleading, everything is slice and dice, bam boom, and I love Sabrina, so it was my goal in that one.
I put on my coach's head and I said, and this was also discussed with Sabrina, look, you are the best dancers that can backfire.
It did in season six with marks Week six, three tenths voted off, and she was willing to go do the work, but I made her go for that lowering and the heat leads and the posture up and the chest up and you know all about it now.
Speaker 1I do.
Speaker 2I do, And I never expected to love it nearly as much as I do.
I just it's shocking to me.
Well, thank you, I do.
I just love it so much.
And you, as a quok well hearing what you have to say about what it means to be a good coach.
All I can picture in my head is my dear Pasha, who is every single day consistent.
There's never a day where I have to wonder what kind of a mood he's going to be in, or adjust what how I'm feeling or doing based on something that's going on with him.
He is a total professional.
He is always committed, he's always prepared, he's always ready to work.
He doesn't He gives me space to have my feelings about something, but he's never He's very quick to just sit there and let me have the experience and then go, Okay, it's time to get back on now.
He's the most patient human being.
I mean, maybe I've ever met in my entire life.
I can't imagine having been partnered with anybody else.
So I really feel like I lucked out the season.
Speaker 3You Hit the Jackpot.
Now, as I mentioned earlier, I know every single pro dancer on the show, probably eighty percent.
I was the coach growing up, so I have to preface that I like most and love a few.
I mean, like there's no tomorrow.
I never actually worked with Pasha or Danielle, but I've seen him grow up.
And they are not just Pasha but also Danielle, the most grounded couple.
And they've been on the show now for many seasons and it hasn't changed them as humans.
But also where You hit the Jackpot, Pasha is had to always get it from hard work, and Danielle that is such a natural gifted, naturally gifted beast, I mean, and everyone can see it.
And he just worked, worked, worked, And also they did ten dance, so they're especially Pasha.
He's equal in the standard ballroom dances as he's in the Latin dances.
And on top, he taught a lot of proem which is an amateur dancing with the pro such as Pasha, they compete.
He has a lot of teaching experience too, So you hit the jackpot on the kindness as a human, but also has a lot of different ways on how he can approach that.
He is successful with you and I just for me, kindness is number one.
If you're a kind human being and you are grounded, then you have my respect.
And if you are on top a great dancer and teacher, then you've made it.
And these two are wonderful.
Speaker 1People couldn't agree with you more.
I know.
Speaker 2Oh, you have been watching this season both on TV and you've been in the ballroom, and there has been a lot of talked about that this season is a stacked cast.
It's become a large part of the discourse on surrounding the show.
Considering you were there for its genesis, what are your thoughts on the conceit of dancing with the stars and celebrities who have prior dance experience.
Speaker 3Well, especially in the early years, I was really frustrated when half the cast had dance experience and we are the ones, as the pros, that have the non dancers.
But then I grew to like it more because for me, if you have a non dancer, that means that celebrity represents the majority of the viewers watching.
Yeah, and they live vicariously through that celebrity.
And that's why people like a Kelly Osborn, Bobby Bones and directed this season, they make it far because they just move slightly.
But also we had conversations.
I've had conversations with Dina Katz, executive director and casting director, like, hey, why can we not do a season with all non dancers?
Well, what would the show look like visually?
And there you got me as a producer myself, I had to yeah, thank you for explaining.
And it wasn't really like why are you doing this to me?
No, it was more sincerely wanting to know why why did they do that?
And I get it.
And also again Andy Rictor, and there were quite a few dancers, if not every single one that have gone home already are better dances than Andy, And somehow the people at home keep voting him, and even the judges give him low scores.
So it's not that the judges are helping him either.
It's really it's really the people at home they're voting.
And then there's the other question that comes from here, Well, we shouldn't have the people at home voting because look, otherwise, hey and you would have been mong gone home.
Yeah, but then we wouldn't have a show on TV.
Yeah, it's all about ratings and voting, and you just you are in the season that really has come back so strong, over fifty five million votes, yeah, number one showing it on TV.
I mean, so I hope that the viewers understand that it's hard to just have non dancers celebrities or do a season with all dancing celebrities.
Would it be fun if Jennifer Gray would come back, Nicole Scherzinger, Bindy Irwin, maybe get Paul Abdul.
Wouldn't that be a fun season?
But they won't do it.
I don't think they will do it.
But anyway, there's a fantastic season, and it's the diversity that makes it special.
Speaker 2Right, That's exactly what it is, the dichotomy of watching Andy Richter versus watching Whitney Levitt and being impressed with both, you know, for different reasons.
Like with it's nice in one night to be able to run the full gamut and just to vote on what it is that makes you happy.
I thought it was really smart when Andy said that a producer told him that they ask you to vote for your favorite dance, not the best dance.
And so you know, that is the joy of America.
Having a vote is who do you want to see more from?
It doesn't have to be the best, It just means who do you want to see again?
And that's where they have a lot of power.
Speaker 3Two things on that one I really want to share so on so you think you can dance?
Season one one Fox, that was to find the best dancer, and that was the MC was constantly the best dancer.
They changed it in season two, We're looking for your faith a dancer, same thing because they realized, oh, the judges choose one to be the best, but then the audience chooses another because it's their favorite and not the best dancer.
And it's and also, to quote a famous hockey coach, and he said, I am not looking for the best players.
I'm looking for the right players.
And to me, that is kind of similar.
We're not looking for the best dancer to win the show.
We're looking for the favorite, and hopefully the best dancer is also the favorite.
Speaker 1You know, wow, yep, but well you know there.
Speaker 3It is.
Speaker 2As looking back on your time on the show, if you had to select one of your famous partners to say this is the one you'd make a highlight reel of, regardless of where you placed, who would you say is your highlight reel partner?
Speaker 3Easy?
Kelly Osborne season nine really underdog.
She was the sea best kit.
She was the one that I think, just on paper, she was going to be the first one going home.
Yeah, and what I find and I'm not I always get emotional when I talk about Kelly because it was even though it was two thousand and nine, that journey has not only affected her or maybe changed her life, it has changed mind.
I started building my confidence.
I know I'm a good teacher.
I know I'm a good coach.
I mean, heck, I coached many of the ones on the show.
But it's it's that's the world I'm in this is TV to affect and help someone in front of millions and then for her to really listen to what you have to say.
And we also had arguments.
There were I mean, she danced in a broken toe, her dog died during the show, and I mean there were so many things that we had to deal with.
And then to be in the final because of the audience, not because of the judges.
The judges score were always kind of lower and lower, and to see her blossom and even now looking at her, even after the show, there were ups and downs with her, even in the press you could read it.
But in the long run, it's how she dealt with it and how she's dealing with it.
And now she's engaged, she has a baby of her own which is growing up.
I mean quickly that that will be probably the most trends formative partnership I think has ever been on the show.
And I am proud to have been her partner.
And that almost didn't happen because I believe, and if you have Mark after me, I think originally Kelly was partnered with Mark ballas with Mikey, and I believe not that she said, look, I'm engaged to another guy.
She's not engaged with the same guy.
Now, yeah, she wants someone gay, she wants safety, that there would be no kind of well, I don't know.
I think maybe if you're married and you're doing the show, would you maybe you know, feel the same way that you kind of want to either be safe or be with another married pro that's on the show.
You know it's but anyway, so it almost didn't happen, and it did happen, and yeah, that was the most memorable I believe.
Speaker 1For me, I love that.
Speaker 2I love that even just to see you get emotional talking about it, because I I feel as though the show has been completely transformative for me as well, and so has Pasha and Daniella in my life.
So i'm i'm it's it's always nice when I see that those feelings are very real and you're still close and it's not just something that's only going to last for the you know, eleven weeks the show goes on, that it really does actually change your life in the way it feel like it feels as of right now like it has.
Speaker 1So thank you for sharing that.
Speaker 3It's it's it's wonderful And for the viewers, how many of you as celebrities say this has changed my life, and then a lot of people probably roll their eyes.
Yeah, of course you're saying that.
No, it's true.
It has also changed our lives as prod answers, the opportunities we've gotten.
And besides maybe two celebrities of my eleven I am still in contact with and I'm still friends with, It's not a lot because I don't live in La, so it's it's a little different.
But when I'm in La for still, op Pressley and I will always dinner.
Lisa and I Rena we talked back and forth and or we like each other's posts, and also you might become friends with other pro dancers that are not for sure or other celebrities on our side.
It's it's really wonderful what this show has done, had what it can mean to people watching.
Speaker 1I love it.
Speaker 2You had a lot of close calls, although you've never won a Mirror Ball like my partner Pasha.
Speaker 1Lisa.
Speaker 2Renna came in third, Monique Coleman and fourth, Nissi Nash in fifth.
Speaker 1Was there anyone in.
Speaker 2Particular that you were partnered with other than Kelly who, of course you made it to the final with But was there another partner that you thought I can I'm gonna win with this one.
Speaker 3All Star season, Yeah, Sam Bryan.
I also wanted for her to break the week six Furst elimination from season.
I think it was with Mark, and then ironically we got eliminated week six.
Speaker 1I know.
Speaker 3And this is a message especially for your fans and whoever's favorite is still in vote, vote vote, because in week five we had three tents with our Cinderella Disney Night walls.
Then week six we had three tents with our rumba and we had I believe three tents with our group dance.
So we went out on with sixty out of sixty.
And people think you're safe when you get tens, you're safe.
You are not safe.
You're not safe.
And I hate to say that because I really I mean Andy, it just looks such like such a nice guy.
But say you get high scores and people think, oh, you you're safe because you get these high scores.
No, because a person like Andy gets so many votes that even a lower scores can mean you're going home.
So make sure you vote, ladies and gentlemen, vote, vote, vote.
Speaker 2I know that is I interviewed Sabrina at the very start of this podcast, and I asked her that question.
I was just straight up, I said, do you think the reason you went home is because people saw those high scores and just assumed that you were safe.
Because it's it's really the only explanation is that people go, oh, I don't need to worry about her, but these other people with lower scores, I need to boost them up and then low and behold you don't get any votes.
Speaker 3No, no, it's it's true.
It's really people need to vote, and I think the message is clear and people are voting.
I mean, fifty five million votes, it's.
Speaker 1A lot of votes.
Speaker 2Yes, looking back on all your seasons, do you have any idea thoughts on specific strategy to win, whether it's how you arrange when you do which dance or song choices.
What are some of the strategies to winning as you see it now?
Speaker 3All of the above I was missed a strategy.
And also when you have a non dancing celebrity, you have to be very strategic in every decision but one.
And this is where being a veteran in this business helps.
For example, music, so many younger pros and maybe now they've learned a lesson, they would find music maybe a week two weeks before the show, and then if the song that they really want is already chosen, but someone else, I'm sorry, so and so already chosen.
So I would have one hundred and fifty songs on a list divided by dances discussed with my celebrity first day.
Now what they're doing is you are now getting a package to fill out.
So now the show doesn't But in the early years it was on us, and so I would make sure that yeah, no, already already asked for it.
Oh, already asked for it.
Oh.
And of course then when I'm eliminated, they would have a lot of songs for others to use, but I didn't at first it would frustrate me.
But at least with the strategy of music, we mostly had the songs we wanted because I put in the effort.
So that's that's one thing.
And when it comes to the dances in close hold, like quick step in tango, the rules are being bent very much by the younger pros, and the judges don't always call it out, which to mean they need to be how the accountable.
You're allowed ten seconds in open hold in the beginning and at the end with tangoing quick steps.
So I want these dances out of the way as early as possible.
Get it out of the way.
So later in the season, you want to the dances where you can lift.
You want to have the dances that are more exuberant, like the or the give the higher energy or the heartfelt dances.
But also depends on who.
How is my celebrity perceived.
If she is perceived as more hardcore, then I need to work on the softer side.
So I want to have those dances later in the season.
So I was glad with Kelly.
I kept Rumba for as late as possible and then really show the heartfelt side, the heart strings, play on the heart strings.
So I mean, I could.
There are so many more strategies, but the dances get us boring dances that you have to stay close holds out of the way.
Speaker 1Really smart, really super smart?
Speaker 3Well you know, I think.
Speaker 2So are you looking forward to the twentieth anniversary show?
Speaker 1Will you be in the audience again?
Speaker 3Oh?
I will be in the audience.
I cannot wait.
It's you know, I've done eleventh season out of thirty four and I think of one of the pros that have come back over time and coming back again.
I did three years ago I was back on the show, So I've kind of been part of every single change or with a new or a different showrunner, or they went into a different direction and then it came back.
So I've been part of that show with the whole rollercoaster of all thirty four seasons, and it's so wonderful to see after twenty years, thirty four seasons, the show is back number one, the most votes ever and so Danielle, I thank you and your fellow celebrities for bringing it back to where it is right now, because it's ultimately the celebrities that are on the show that are bringing back the viewers time and time again.
So thank you.
It's it's exciting because you've made it so far.
You have nothing to lose, so you can take the nerves and give up, or you take the nurse the nerves and switch on, use the adrenaline and say, people at home watch this, and it's you have nothing to lose every time you make it past week five.
In my opinion, as a person that does not have a lot of dance experience, but a lot of acting experience.
You've done your job, you're going for honors.
Now you're going through cumblaude.
So whatever they throw at you, enjoy it and see it as they come on.
Bring it on, bring it on.
Speaker 1I really love that advice.
Speaker 2I have been I'm just going to full transparency.
I've really been struggling this week.
We had our we have our team down.
I'm a team captain and the team dance is amazing.
I picked, if I have to, if I do say so myself, I picked an all star team and it didn't come randomly.
I had a full strategy going into it, and my strategy paid off and I was thrilled with my choices.
But my choices were such that I am by far the weakest at least female link on the team, which is never fun to feel like, Okay, everybody's picking this up so fast, and I really need this to slow down.
Speaker 3Yeah, you've got to let it go because you're You're not the weakest link.
You are the person that came in with the least amount of dance experience, so the pressure is on them, not you.
Okay, everyone knows you have grown from week one to now leaps and bounds.
You have the likability factor and you have no problem with the character of the dance.
Focus regardless of who is in your team.
What can you control.
The only thing you can control is your movements, the involvement in the movement, listening to the music and do your part.
That's what you can control.
You can control Oh, how the judges look at you, or what the comments they're making.
Oh, oh gosh, you it's we can go psycho when you listen to everything and everyone reads social media, or even the looks of the other dances in your team, horse caps on.
Focus on you and Pasha and your work.
That's all you can do.
Speaker 1Thank you.
Speaker 2I would like to ask you have you have you seen all of my dances?
And if so, even if you haven't, what if you could give me one piece of advice moving forward?
What would you say to me and how I can improve and how I can do better next week and for as long as I'm able to remain on the show.
Speaker 3So I have seen them all, okay, And I was wondering if you were going to ask me this question, And like I said, I kind of already fed into it a little bit earlier.
You have the likability factor.
You could clearly tell you an actress, so you can like a chameleon, you step into these different dances.
If I, like I said, you're you've come so far already.
It's like an onion that you peel off every single week and you show a little bit more of yourself.
I would say, rip off all the layers that are left.
It's like when you have your hair ted Lewis, take off your throw that lose and right.
It's the emotional self, your personal emotional self.
I feel hell is held back.
Yeah, because you're a kind person.
You're a person and we haven't met, but it resonates.
You can tell through the screen you're a kind person the relationship you have with with Pasha.
But I would say, f kind, go for it.
And if you question if you could make the final or not, or you could win the show, everyone that's still in can win.
So you focus on the work.
You focus on what dance do you have this week?
Person, temporary contemporary, take off all these layers and go raw, raw, raw, don't go in well maybe people won't like this or oh well maybe this might screw up.
Or that lift that's coming, Oh my gosh, that lift, yeah, commit, commit, commit to the work, okay, and if there's any doubts, talk about it with Pasha.
Whatever doubt there is, talk, But for me, you you've earned the spot and you can.
You deserve to be in that finalist as much as every other one, because you came with much less dance experience maybe.
Speaker 1Zero, yeah zero, I think I danced at my wedding last.
Speaker 3There you go, so remind yourself of that.
You have to tell yourself too, look at what I've done in eight weeks time.
Speaker 1Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 3Well, the others have had dance training four years and you can tell, you can tell, and and you know.
Therefore, take out all the stops and commit, commit, commit.
Speaker 2I appreciate your advice more than you know.
It's been.
It's been my work for this week.
It's been exactly what Pasha has been saying to me too.
So the fact that I have two of you who I consider to be absolute legends and the world does as well, I know that you are right, and so I will be thinking of you today in my rehearsal.
I'm going to try and peel back all those layers of the onion and be my emotional raw self.
I do have a perfect song for it, a perfect story we're telling through it, So this is the week to do it.
If I'm ever going to do it, this is.
Speaker 3The week may ask what is the song in the story?
Speaker 2We are doing dream On by Aerosmith because it's Rock and Roll Hall of Fame Week and dream On is one of my all time favorite songs.
It's also one of Pasha's all time favorite songs.
And the story that I'm talking about, which is ultimately why I think this week has been difficult for me, is we are telling the story about how difficult it can be to be a woman in society, where we are somehow always too much and also never enough, no matter what choice you may, whether it's working outside the home or working inside the home, if you choose to work outside, you're selfish and your children need you and where's their mother?
And if you work inside the home, then you are boring and you don't have interests.
And if you get botox and fillers, then you're not aging gracefully.
And if you age gracefully, then you look old and ugly.
And if you are too thin, you're told to eat a burger, and if you gain weight, you're told to get off the couch, and there's just really it feels like there's no winning.
And having been in the public eye and on TV since I was ten years old, I have been, you know, under a microscope, and my choices have been scrutinized, and I've made terrible mistakes, and you know, there's a lot, there's a lot there.
And the story is kind of about how you can quiet the outside noise and dream your own dreams and live life to the fullest, use that negativity maybe to rise above, because you never know when you're going to dance your last dance or have your last day.
Speaker 1And so that's the story.
Speaker 2And it has been a difficult week for me because I have been really resistant to the dance I've been and have been blaming it on things like I'm not good at it, or I don't like this move, or like I've just been really resistant.
And then it hit me yesterday after having a really bad rehearsal, and of course it's no fault of Pasha's.
Speaker 1Pasha is the same he is every day.
I was just in a really down.
Speaker 2Place and it just hit me last night that like, I'm resistant to it because it's it's triggering so many things in me.
It's triggering a lot of negative self talk, it's triggering disordered eating.
It's like triggering all of these things that are so personal, and instead of me leaning into it and embracing that in the dance, it's making me not want to do it.
So it's been a rough week, but I think like the fact that I realized it made me wake up today and think one so happy to be talking to you and for you to have given me the advice you gave, because it really lands and resonates.
And also just you know, it's very clear that this is striking an emotional chord for me and there's a reason for that, and this dance is actually special and means something.
Speaker 3So thank you for sharing, Danielle, And this is a beautiful, heartfelt moment for you and just having this conversation.
This is why I loved or loved doing Dancing with the Stars.
This is where friendships are born in these moments.
And you have been on TV since the age of ten.
You have kids, right, so your mom, your a wife who can say in there whatever age you are, yeah, have your success and so let these triggers be the reasons why you are peel that onion and in a metaphorical way, on Monday, jump off that cliff, Yeah, and fly sore, live it take And when I said take the health, throw it now, when you said.
Speaker 1You have that song, yeah exactly.
Speaker 3There are moments where you just I mean dream on dream and you have dreamed, but you also have made a reality.
So it's kind of nostalgic that all these triggers from the past.
Yeah, Tuesday is going to be your your biggest therapy session exactly.
Speaker 1That is what it's like.
Speaker 3You for you, and the world happens to have a seat, yeah, to watch you experience that.
And this is to me why Dance It with the Stars is still on the air after twenty years because of your frankness, uronness of just sharing this for I don't know how many people click in, but it's millions.
Yeah, and you have no problem showing you the raw, Danielle.
So on Tuesday, you know what to do.
Speaker 2Yes, thank you, thank you, I am This conversation has meant so much to me and you are just a true legend, and I thank you so much for spending your time.
I can't wait to see you next week.
And I'm gonna I'm gonna take your advice on Tuesday, and I will truly, I'll be thinking of you on Tuesday when when it goes the way I hope it goes, I will have in the back of my mind, thank you, Louis.
Speaker 3And you have each other, you have Pasha, but ultimately trust you.
Yeah, and you You're gonna do fantastic raw.
The raw Danielle is coming out on Tuesday.
Thank you for having me.
I really enjoy doing this and you've done amazing this season.
And I can wait to watch Tuesday night.
Speaker 2Yes, and we have to make a point to actually meet next week.
Speaker 1I need to.
Speaker 3I will not.
Speaker 2I will not rest until I have been able to give you a hug.
Speaker 3I promise I will come find you.
Okay, Thanks, Thank you, Danielle, and then joy rehearsal later.
Speaker 1Thank you.
I will Bye.
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