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According to Courtney Smith, fear can send us “below the line” in relationships. When you act from fear, you end up scrambling for security, control, and safety–often at the expense of wholeness. In this conversation, Dr. Diana Hill and Courtney Smith, author of Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness, explore ways to shift into more authentic relating. They explore how to stay grounded while connecting, how to notice when we are caught in a story, and how to become growth-oriented co-creators. Along the way, Diana and Courtney demo some of these skills in their relationship, in real time. This is a fun one, especially if you are craving deeper relationships–ones that meet you at the soul level.
In This Episode, We Explore:- How to know yourself and another with one-eye-in and one-eye-out
- Growth mindset in relationships
- Shift moves to approach life from a place of safety
- How to claim what you want, out loud
- What’s really behind envy and what to do about it
- False Refuges finding true security
- The Power of Soul Friendships
Suggested Next Episode:
Episode 114: How To Build Secure Relationships In An Insecure World With Dr. Ann Kelley
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