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Jordan is on the phone today for our first date follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Drew.

So in a few minutes we'll call him and see if you'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her a second date.

But first, Jordan, how long has it been since you heard from Drew.

It's been about two weeks now, Okay?

How many times have you tried to hit him up in that time?

Just twice, once like really soon after our date and then once again, I want to say, like three days.

Ago, okay, and nothing.

He just left you on red Yeah, just nothing.

Okay, we let's talk about the date.

Let's go back and try to figure it out.

I know, I'm sorry, this is the worst.

So thank you for doing this.

So we met on Pinge right and he messaged me first, which is already a win in my book.

And he saw my photos in Thailand and said something about white lotus, which, full disclosure, I did not know what that was, but I was just playing along and we're making plans to get drinks, and he suggested the sports bar because there was a vibe there, which honestly wasn't my favorite, but I went with it because he's really cute and you know, fun, and so yeah, we were just we had a great talk and he's really ambitious.

He told me about how he wants to launch his own streetwear brand, and he had a couple of friends yet and then someone sent shots over, which honestly I don't I don't usually do shops, but like, again, he was really cute.

I'm having back.

Got really quick.

He introduced you to some of his friends.

Yeah, I guess this is a bar that they kind of frequent, so a couple of them just happened.

I thought that was you know, like it's not like he was like, oh, my friends, we have to go, you know, he introduced so that was nice, okay, and then after a while they were like, okay, we're gonna go do our thing over the bar and just left us on our own.

Okay.

Good.

I was like, these friends do crash the party trying to get you guys wasted, and then sit back and watch what happened.

That's actually kind of funny.

Yeah, No, they were like apropos.

They were good Okay, good, Okay, are they the ones that sent you the shots?

So yeah, I think ultimately that's what we figured out.

But I wasn't really paying attention.

I was just like I was just having fun and like I said, like I don't really do shots, so I was just like, Okay, I'm gonna get this over with.

Okay, thanks so much about it.

Were you feeling it?

Yeah?

Yeah, I mean I felt safe enough to like not overly question where the shots were coming from.

I guess now that I'm thinking about it, I probably should have.

But it's okay.

It was.

It was just a lot of fun, all right.

Well, how did the date end with him?

I think it was okay, like, okay, it got a little weird, so like he's laughing, having fun, We're all cool, and then like out of nowhere, he had to leave and he made up some excuse he paid the tab and then he did.

And at one point shortly before that, he and his friends were at the bar and they kept looking back at me, which it made me feel like self conscious, But you know, I was like, what is there something on me?

So I went to the bathroom and the only thing I can think is, like my shirt was a little to be through, but I thought that that was, you know, hot, It made me feel good and not a reason to be like grossed out by me or anything.

Yeah, his friends were pointing at you or looking over at you and talking.

What was the excuse that.

He gave you?

Just that he had to.

I think he said something about like having to get up early the next day and do something for building his business, which is okay, great, like, yeah, he's I know that he's ambitious.

I know, you know, he gave me a lot of details about his plan.

But it was just the way that it happened, like it was so.

Stunny, abruptly weird.

It seems like something they said might be the reason that he left exactly.

And I don't know what it was, and I just like, I would really like to know what happened.

Okay, Well we'll try to figure it out for you.

We'll play a song come back, and then call him and see if he'll tell us why is ghosting you and.

Maybe get you a second date okay if you so want.

Okay, we'll get your first day follow up next right in the middle of today is the first date follow up.

And if you're just joining us.

Jordan is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Drew.

So we're about to call him and see if he'll tell us why is ghostinger and get her a second date if she still wants one.

But before we do that, Jordan, breakdown your date for us again real quick, one time.

Yeah.

So we met on Hinge and we ended up going to the sports bar and a couple of his friends were there, and so I got to meet them, and then we were having a great time, and then all of a sudden, he decided like he needed to leave very quickly, and he made up this excuse and I haven't heard from him since, and I'd like to know what happened.

Okay, weird.

Well are you ready for us to give you a call?

Yes?

All right, here we go.

Hello, Hi, man, I speak to Drew please.

This is him.

Who's this Drew?

How are you?

This is a radio show.

It's called the Jubile Show.

Hi Drew.

I'm Nina.

Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Jubele.

How are you.

I'm good.

I'm familiar with you guys.

Want just to see how you're doing, just checking in, you know, we know you listen when you said to you too, and you don't know.

It checking in on all the fans.

Know Drew were calling you because this is the first date follow up.

You know, if you go on a date with someone and then you end up ghosting them, they can email.

Us to call you and find out why.

So we got an email about.

You and Jordan.

Isn't it is?

I don't even have to think about that.

She told us about your date, and she's really confused.

Says that you, uh, you guys were hanging out at the bar.

Your friends ended up being there too, and at one point you went over to your friends and then it looked like they were pointing towards her.

And then after that you said you had to get up for work or something and bounced.

Mm hmm.

Well okay, so first off, thrilled to be talking to you guys, been listening for a while.

But with Jordan, she was nice, fun even, but I ghosted her because I cannot be out here dating someone who just confidently uses words absolutely and completely wrong.

What do you mean like I tried to let it go, I really did, but she kept using like juxtaposition as if it meant like compromise, you like wine, I like sports bars, but I think we can find a juxtaposition, you.

Know, Oh okay.

I mean if it's.

One word, sure I get it, like you know, it's like a little quirky cube moment and then you can correct it.

But it kept happening over and over again with different words, and then uh, like my friends ended up being at the bar and she was like talking, They're joking about something, and she just wanted this is such an ambiguous situation and it wasn't.

It was like super clear.

I think she meant to say like ridiculous or wild, but she was like so sure, She's like this is so ambiguous.

Okay.

She seemed well spoken when we talked to her, like it didn't seem like that was going on when we talked to her.

I don't know, I don't know.

That wasn't my experience, you know, like like I thought she was nice, she was even fun.

But I'm big on words, man, like you got no basic English language, you know.

All right, thank you for telling us, Drew, And also if you listened to the show, yeah you know what happens.

Now, Hi Joe, and Hi Wow, I'm so sorry that I didn't live up to your English speaking expectations.

You knew what I meant though, right, Like that's all that matters.

Communication is about intent, right, like reading people.

Totally uh for the most part, but like just basic first grade understanding of the language is important, like words mean things, Jordan.

When the worst part is like my friends caught it too.

A one of them even repeated it back to you, like yeah, you're all super ambiguous, and they're all laughing, and you.

Just nodded like they weren't roasting you.

I was like, you got to have a little bit of like self awareness about this roasting me.

I wow, okay, I don't even know what to say to that, Like, I'm pretty sure I have better than a first grade understanding of the English language.

Well, you did say you don't drink shots a lot, so maybe that just kind of threw off your basic understanding of certain words, you know.

I don't know, maybe because you do sound well spoken now, thank.

You, And I'd like to think that I am, at least most of the time.

I don't know what you expected as me, but your friends were all of a sudden there, and I guess I was trying to impressed and just be you know, conversational with everybody, and you know, I was drunk.

And like.

Amused.

I don't know, like you're you're acting like I did something wrong to you.

You were what.

You got that one right?

You were amused?

What is amused?

Me?

Confused?

I don't know.

I'm amused right now.

See I know how to use words totally.

I mean, we're all a little amused right now.

You know.

I'm like, I was just saying, look, you didn't do anything to me.

You were nice, you were fun.

It's just not for me, like words mean things.

And I can't for me, I can't be explaining basic vocabulary every time we hang out.

You know, I'm sure we can find some sort of like explanation juxtaposition about this.

Jordan's you're doing it again?

Things you just need it.

That's not what that word means, like a compromise.

Yeah, go on, It's just that's what that is.

What that means.

It's that's what juxtaphoes means.

No, that's not what it means.

Jordan's good.

No, when two people disagree they come to a juxtaposition, that that is what that means.

Oh my goodness, do you guys see what I'm talking about it's like and you're just getting a little sneak peak.

We were out there for like two hours.

I think she's right.

I think she's right.

I wish you guys could come to a juxtaposition.

I mean, I.

Understand, don't encourage her.

This can be said.

She needs to know.

Would you like to go on another date with Jordan?

We'll pay for it and you guys can see if you can juxtapose in person.

Damn, No, words mean things, man, I can't.

I can't be doing a Yeah.

I also don't want another date because you clearly don't know words like you think you do.

What Why don't you go look up juxtapose juxtaposition in a dictionary and you can figure it out from there, Girl, I speak four languages.

Is just crazy.

I hate this so much.

Right now, you will first date, follow up,