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Jessica is on the phone today for a first date follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Chase.

So we're gonna call him in a little while and see if you'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date.

But first, Jessica, how long has it been since you heard from Chase?

Hey?

So, yeah, it's been about a week since I texted him.

He responded the first time, but since his first response, I haven't heard anything back.

Okay, how did you guys meet?

And then what was that date like?

So?

We actually met at a club, and honestly, it was like more of a rave than a club, and I don't even go out that much, so I was just like letting loose after a long week, and I was dancing next to him and we're both just having a good time, not really talking, and then I bumped right into him, but he caught me before I fell very romantic.

I looked up at him and I smiled, and I was just like immediately smitten.

He was so gorgeous.

So we danced for a little bit, and then I asked if he wants to if he wanted to go to the bar for a drink, And I know it sounds like a wrong com but it actually literally did happen that way.

And then we just went to the bar and sat there getting to know each other.

Well, we tried to because it was extremely loud in the club, so I think he was there, like with his friend celebrating something, but I couldn't really tell what he was saying half the time.

And also we were both pretty drunk, and there were some extra party favors that we had as well, so we were definitely feeling a little handsy, okay, And he didn't live that far from the club, so he asked if I wanted to go to his place for a little quiet time, that's what he called it, and I agreed, and so we both just walked a couple of blocks to his place.

We sobered up a bit.

We were still feeling kind of brisky, so we kind of like briskly walked to his place, and once we got there, I definitely made the first move and he was okay with that, so you know, clothes were flying off.

Wow, that doesn't sound like quiet time to me compared to a rave.

I can't say everything that happened that night because this is the morning show.

But afterwards we laid in bed and in like a backwards date kind of way, we actually got to know each other a.

Lot better after all that.

Like, so the next morning, you guys talked and really got to know each other.

Yeah, we just kind of spent the whole night talking and we mostly talked about our shared music tape because we were both hard ravers in our younger days.

We didn't really talk about work or relationships or anything boring.

We just wanted to have fun with the night.

And we laid there until the early hours of the morning, and then I had to get up early the next day and I just went home, playing the whole night in my head over and over again.

And I texted him the next day and he told me he texted me back, and he said he'd talked.

To me tomorrow.

But that was over a week ago.

And I texted a couple more times.

I tried calling, but it went straight to voicemail.

What do you think could happened?

Honestly, I feel like maybe I was just too enthusiastic and I came on too strong, and I kind of and I just sort of like hooked up with him without really knowing him at all.

And so I think maybe I feel guilty about the order of our gate.

And I think maybe he just thought of it as like a one night stand.

And I don't blame him if he thinks that, but I just feel like it would stuck to lose this opportunity.

Yeah, if you're calling him, then he would be like, well, maybe it's not a one nice and then.

And then like also a one night stand, you sit there and talk the next day, because usually it's like thank you, nice to meet you.

Yeah, yeah, that's true too.

Does he have a girlfriend?

That's the thing that always makes me nervous is when I got here after you have a great connection, and usually when they ghost's because they're hiding from somebody else.

Oh god.

I mean we didn't talk about past relationships or anything like that, but I didn't even consider that.

Did you notice any pictures on his wall, or like any anything around the house that looked like a girlfriend was there.

Did he have throw pillows?

It was a bit of a blur.

It was a bit of a blur.

Okay, all right, well, yeah, we'll see if we can figure it out for you.

We're about to call him and see if we can figure out why he's a ghostinger.

But first, Jessica, why don't you refresh everybody's memory about your.

Date with Chase.

Yeah.

So I bumped into Chase at the club.

We had a very immediate romantic connection.

We hung out at the bar for a little bit before going back to his place.

We were both pretty drunk, and then I stayed over.

We did sing, and then we spent the early hours of the morning talking and then we had a great connection.

I left, I texted him, and I haven't heard back from him in a week.

Okay, Well we're gonna call him right now and see if he'll tell us and then maybe get you another date.

Are you ready?

I'm ready?

Okay, here we go.

Hello, I may I speak to Chase?

Please?

Yeah?

This is Chase Chase.

How are you man?

My name is Jewble, and this is a radio show called the Jewbil Show.

Hi Chase, I'm Nina.

Also on the Jubil Show.

Hi, I am Victoria.

How are you good?

Have you heard of the show before?

In passing, I was out once since someone was talking about you guys a show.

I had never listened to it, but I've heard of he does?

Okay, sweet?

Well, we do a segment on the show, so it's called the first Date follow up.

What that is is if you go out on a date with somebody and then you end up ghosting them, that person can email us to get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them?

Okay, all right, And we got.

An email about you from somebody named Jessica.

Wow, Okay, yeah, I know her.

Okay, And Jessica told us a little bit about your date and said that you haven't gotten back to her and she's curious if she did something wrong or why you're a ghosting her.

This is funny.

I'm actually I'm flattered by this entire thing.

To be honest with you, I didn't think she would go to do this on the radio, but you know, here we are.

So I didn't call her.

Back because it just seemed like, you know, she just seemed too much of a party girl for me.

I'm someone who doesn't really go out much, and when we had met, that was really the first time I've gone out and did anything in about a month or so.

And look, Jessica is great, She's gorgeous.

It definitely felt like I was in some sort of romantic comedy situation like a movie.

She bummed into me and and like, oh, look who it is type thing, and it's like like like a Matthew McConaughey movie or something.

She fell and picked her up and then then the music stopped, and.

Yeah, she fell into my arms and she was falling and I grabbed her arm and was able to kind of catch her from hitting the floor.

But you know, her defense, she was.

Drunk, I think is to say she was trashed.

Was was pretty fair, but she seemed like it was an everyday situation as.

Far as that.

And I'm not judging her at all.

You know, we've all kind of been to these situations at clubs, and I get it.

But I'm usually not that fun.

I think I came off of like a super fun guy and I'm pretty boring and low key.

We did go back to my place.

I was kind of barely hanging on there.

We had a few drinks.

Obviously, She, on the other hand, incredible energy, Like wow, she was really hanging out of my arm.

It's kind of being all over.

Me, which I kind of liked.

Obviously, we kind of, you know, did some things.

I didn't text her back, sang it.

You know, I feel bad, you know now that I'm saying it out loud to be honce with him.

So you're quite literally ignoring the signs from the universe to talk to Jessica.

Who foun your lap?

Yeah, is what it sounds like to me, because you feel like you can't you can't keep up with her.

She's got incredible energy.

I'm and I'm sort of an introvert, and I was having a few drinks that night, so you know, I was very eased and just kind of feeling myself a little bit.

I'm not that guy.

Kelly and I don't go out.

Much, and the drinks are flowing, and then she kind of comes into the world and we just had a good night that night.

So that's all you know about her, right, Yeah.

I did pretty much.

We didn't get too deep in the conversation.

In your head, you just picture someone who's just like bouncing around and always on the go and has to be out places and doesn't ever want to be home.

Like, what do you?

I don't know why you think that wouldn't work.

I just think that she's.

Someone who kind of bounces around, goes out a lot parties, probably has a high end, you know, probably.

Goes out four front times a week, probably drinks a lot.

It's totally cool, and I understand I probably goes to a ton of concerts and raised and whatever.

I'm just not that guy.

Okay, all right, you're making assumptions back.

You might as well ask her yourself.

Good point, Chase, you can ask her yourself, because she's actually on the phone and he's been listening this whole time and wants to.

Talk to you.

Hi, would dude, you are not going to believe this.

I am literally a librarian.

What what I I never go out.

I never go out at all.

No, no, I I look, I understand, just there is no way you're a librarian.

I don't think that'll don't even exist anymore.

I appreciate what you're doing, of course, but oh my god, it's just I'm super low key.

So it's it's it's just.

No I do.

You don't have to lie about it.

What we still exist.

I'm literally a librarian.

I'm not kidding.

Come out so you actually, I'm just genuinely curious.

You actually work at a library, and.

A library that's what it is.

Yes, I went to school for this.

I am not making this up.

We never met a librarian before.

You guys didn't hang out a library.

Well, I mean yeah, when you're in the library, but like in that in like outside of their natural habitat.

Okay, that's cool, Jessica.

Yeah, thanks, yes, I guess.

Because usually librarians are boring and introverted to So what are you doing?

How did we meet at a club?

Like, how did that even happen?

Well, I honestly never go out at all, but my friends kind of like coaxed me into it that night, and so I just decided to say I just happened.

To be out that night.

That's like not even my lifestyle either.

Oh that's why when we first talked to you, Jessica, you said that you used to go to stuff like that all the time.

Oh, okay, that makes it in high school.

So the universe quite literally had you fall into his arms.

I feel like you can't let you guys walk away from this.

Yeah, I was just really into him, and I feel like we're both just letting go.

We both hopp into be here, be.

There that night.

Honestly, I feel like I'm on jess I'm so sorry, I really I apologize.

I feel like an idiot literally judging a book by its cover here and that sounds so stupid.

Wow, I totally was jumping the gun and had no idea, and I'm obviously frankly, I'm a jealous of how much energy you have, you know, that night and the next morning, and seemingly the tolerance of a twenty year old so never in a million years with I think you're a librarians.

To be truthful, Chase, would you like to go out on another date with Jessica?

We'll pay for it?

Hell yeah, yeah, I definitely.

I definitely need to make it up to her.

For sure, Jess, I feel like an idiot and to take you out on actual Loki night, I'm done, Like I'm down.

I think I'd be great

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