Hey listener.

In this episode, we'll be mentioning themes like physical and sexual abuse, but we'll also be talking about probably the most kick ass female journalists you've ever heard of, And in the spirit of the show, there's also going to be some inevitable bad language.

Oh well, I was having dinner with some of my oldest friends the other night, the kind of old friends who you don't ask about work because we're not entirely sure what the other one does.

But at some point in the evening, after saying I was still jet lagged from one of my recent reporting trips to New York, one of them actually asked what I was doing there, and so I told them I was interviewing some convicted murderers, and for safety reasons, I was assigned a chaperone.

My friend, who is a therapist, audibly sighed the last time I think she sighed at me like that.

I just described the moment I was on an industrialist state at night, the sound of gravel being poured into a pit behind me, while a prolific gangster threatened to kill me and my family, Or actually, was it the time that an interviewee insisted I fired their ak forty seven at a gun range, or when someone suddenly changed root and drove me without warning out into the Alaskan abyss where there's no electricity or plumbing.

I forget.

She sighs at me a lot, and so does my mum, and occasionally so do I, because in all of those moments, I've been truly fucking terrified, and yet I keep on doing it, chasing my story like some crazed dog following a rabbit into a burrow and getting stuck.

The scary thing is, I think I actually even like that feeling, knowing I'm on that knive sedge of things going really horribly wrong.

This is the point where my therapist friend would sit me as a journalist.

I thought I'd seen some shit, but then I heard about someone who blows all of that out of the water.

Nellie Bly, the original female investigative reporter.

The more I read about her, the more I realized I'm part of a long lineage of stubborn women obsessed with chasing their story no matter what, and dan all started with Nellie.

In this episode, we're going back to the eighteen hundreds on the trail of Nellie's dazzling and groundbreaking career.

I want to find out how Nelly, as a woman in the notoriously unemancipated nineteenth century, did something so brave so you could argue stupid that she changed journalism forever.

You see, really, Nellie Bly was pretty punk.

For her first ever story, Nellie literally risked her life by going undercover in an insane asylum.

She was drugged, half starved, manipulated by doctors as the screams of other patients echoed around the corridors.

Nellie didn't know if she would ever get out.

I'm Anna Sinfield and from the teams at Novel and iHeart Podcasts, this is the Girlfriend's Spotlight, where we tell stories of women women today.

Nellie goes undercover.

As soon as I heard about her, I knew Nellie Bly would be the perfect guest for the Girlfriends.

But unfortunately, not even extreme levels of girl power could keep someone alive for one hundred and fifty years.

So instead I turned to Kim Todd.

Kim is a researcher and author who wrote the definitive book about Nellie and the revolution that she started.

So, Kim, I'm fascinated to learn or there is about Nellie.

She sounds so cool.

She was like the first original female investigative journalist, wasn't she?

Yeah, she really was.

So what do we need to know about Nellie?

What's her story?

Who is she so?

Nellie Bly was born in the mid nineteenth century and grew up in small town western Pennsylvania.

Her father died when she was pretty young, and her stepfather was really horrible and very abusive.

So she grew up in this household where she was, you know, watching him choke.

Her mother call her mother like whore, call her mother bitch.

So the idea of marriage wasn't particularly attractive to her, and also the idea that she was going to need to pay her own way and find a job and support herself and not have to depend on a man was really instilled in her.

From very young.

Nellie was determined to lead an independent life.

That meant she needed to find a career for herself, and one of the most common routes available to women at the time in the late eighteen hundreds was teaching.

She tried to get her teaching certificate, but she ran out of money before she could even finish the training.

When Nellie surveyed what other options were available, to her as a young woman, tumbleweeds rolled past her, and then a newspaper.

She was reading the local newspaper, the Pittsburgh Dispatch, and there was a debate at the time about you know, where do women belong.

They be at home taking care of kids, you know, making it a little paradise on earth, or should they be out in the world.

And she wrote in to the Pittsburgh Dispatch and said, you know, we need better jobs for women.

And she signed this letter Lonely orphan Girl.

And there was something about the letter that really intrigued the editor of the Pittsburgh Dispatch, and he put a notice in the paper and said, you know, lonely orphan girl, come by the office and you know, we might have something for you.

And her first article is called the Girl Puzzle, and it's elaborating on the case that she made in her letter, where she says, you know, we really need better jobs for women.

Not all women marry, they're still going to need money.

So she says, you know, well, why can't we let girls do better things?

But we'll get them a better start in the world.

And then this is one of my favorite quotes from this very early piece of her when she's still figuring out how to write.

Instead of gathering up the real smart young men, gather up the real smart girls, pull them out of the mire, and give them a shove up the ladder of life.

I love that one.

That's so good.

And so she has to do that for herself though she's given herself this shove, and then she goes to work as a reporter for the Pittsbury Dispatch for the next couple of years.

It wasn't totally unusual for a woman to be a journalist when Nellie was starting out, but the opportunities for female journalists kind of mirrored what was available to women in the general society, you know, like they weren't expected to worry their pretty little heads about complicated manly stuff like politics or societal injustice.

She kind of gets shunted into the writing that most women who worked for newspapers did at the time, the society writing, the fashion rating, and she wasn't really interested in that.

After a while, Nellie got frustrated with the work she was allowed to do at the Pittsburgh Dispatch.

She set her sights on much bigger goals.

She's very ambitious and has like a great sense of what she might do in the world.

So after two years she goes to New York and she anticipates fame and fortune and tells her friends of the Pittsburgh Dispatch to watch for her as she, you know, mix a splash in the big city, which she completely does not.

She spends months there like trying even to get in the door at various editors.

There's lots of people who want to work as reporters and not manlyon people want to hire women.

But finally she talks her way into the office of the editor of the New York World, which is the biggest, splashiest paper at the time.

The New York World.

This was the big leagues at the time.

When Nelly stomped her way into the editor's office, the paper was owned by Joseph Pulitzer, yes, the one the prize is named after.

The New York World circulation was nearly one million copies a day.

Standing in front of the editor was the biggest opportunity Nelly would probably have in her entire career.

She was determined to land a job and to prove to those hacks in Pittsburgh what she was really worth.

She tells the editor, I will literally do anything to write for the.

World, And he says, well, do you think that you can get yourself committed to the Insanees Island for women on Blackwell's Island, which is this notoriously bad insane asylum, which there's just been rumors of mistreatment there for years and years.

And she answers, I don't know what I can do until I try, And the editor says, well, you can try, but if you can do it, it's more than anyone would believe.

Just a few weeks later, Nennie Bly's first ever arcle for the New York World is published, its splashed all over the front pages, being flogged by newsboys across the city.

The headline reads inside the Madhouse.

In the first paragraph, she rapes, could I pass a week in the Insane ward at Blackwell's Island?

I said I could, and I would and I did.

Okay, must blow up.

Next we find out how Nelly smuggles herself into the asylum and tries not to get stuck there forever.

Got you, I got you, got you, I've got you.

Okay, So how on earth does Nellie manage to get inside this notorious insane asylum, the women's lunatic asylum.

So she books herself into this boarding house for women and starts to act very odd.

She keeps asking for her trunks, and she doesn't know where her trunks are and is very concerned about them, and she doesn't go to sleep at night like she is acting very what we described today as paranoid and afraid.

And she says that people are looking at her very oddly, and eventually the other women in the boarding house just start to get very disturbed by her behaviors.

And that's at the point where the matron calls the police and has her taken away.

Wow, that is such a courageous and scarian, maybe slightly stupid thing to do.

I mean, how old was she.

At this point, So she was in her early twenties.

Okay, oh, that's amazing.

And was this sort of big stunt, you know, going and getting yourself committed to an insane asylum.

Was that something that was going on generally in journalism at the time, perhaps obviously by male reporters, or was this a whole new genre.

I mean, people did do undercover work at the time, but the particular way that Nellie Blye did it was really not something that had ever been.

Done before, and I guess, like I know, she was asked to do it by her editor, but did she also have a personal reason for wanting to cover this story.

I think that she really wanted to do meaningful work, which is what she had been arguing for from the beginning.

So I do think that she saw a great value in helping out these women and reforming the system, and that was something that would be important to her throughout her life.

So can you tell us a little bit about her story with this insane asylum?

Like how did it go?

What did she uncover?

So when she gets committed to the asylum, she gets put on a boat across the East River, and on the boat she meets another woman consigned to the asylum, Tillie Mayard, And this is sort of a clue as to what she would find in the asylum when she gets there, because Mayard seemed actually sane.

She just seemed very sick, and she thought that she was being sent to a place that would help her get better, and she was really devastated when she found out that she was on her way to the asylum.

Bli describes being driven in what was some sort of ambulance from the place where the boat docked to the asylum.

And then they go up this rather grand entrance to this white building called the Octagon, which is where the asylum was.

And when they arrive, BLI, here's Mayard please eating her case.

You know, she's mayored as saying, you know, test me for insanity.

I'm not insane, but she's ignored.

Then they're checked in and they're processed and given these freezing cold baths and had their usual clothes taken away from them and transformed into patients at the asylum.

And so what sort of things did Nellie Bly witness inside the asylum?

BLI sees women getting slapped, They're being fed rancid food, They're being bathed and freezing water and not given warm enough blankets and night clothes.

And like Mayard, like most of the women that I talked to, did not seem to be mentally ill.

They seemed to be sick, or they were poor and didn't have relatives to take care of them, or they had committed adultery and their husbands wanted to get rid of them, or they didn't speak English.

Yeah, I mean, it's so depressing isn't it that this is how they were using mental illness at the time as a sort of handy tool to just remove and imprison women who didn't fit into the mold of society.

What does Nellie say about what sounds like very common abuse of the patients by the staff.

She makes it clear that many of them, the nurses in particular, enjoyed tormenting the patients.

You know, they were people without any rek warse or without any friends who they had power over.

Yeah.

I mean, it's a perfect place for abuse to manifest, isn't it.

Yeah.

The idea is that no one's watching, right, and then all of a sudden, there's someone watching.

In the article, Nellie quoted one of the women, Missus Cottera, describing how she'd been beaten because she'd been crying.

The nurses beat me with a broom handle and jumped on me injuring me internally so that I shall never get over it.

Then they tied my hands and feet, and, throwing a sheet over my head, twisted it tightly around my throat so I could not scream, and thus put me in a bathtub filled with cold water.

They held me under until I gave up.

Every hope and became senseless.

Nellie writes that missus Cotter then showed her and I quote the dent in the back of her head and the bare spots where the hair had been taken out by the handful.

But it seemed that the treatment Nellie was uncovering wasn't even the worst of it.

You see, Nellie was placed with the general population, but she soon learned that there were other wings too.

The most severely mentally ill patients were kept in separate areas called the Lodge and the Retreat.

And Blia said that she didn't even attempt to get herself committed there because she thought it would be too dangerous.

But she talks about hearing the sounds from the patients there and how much distress it seems like they were in.

All of these women were locked away on Blackwell Island without any real recourse, just out of reach of their old lives, which used to unfold on the other side of the East River.

From the island, you can look over and see New York City.

You can see Manhattan.

You can see the lights of people who are still embraced by society playing out, but feel so isolated and feel so shonned to be put on this island.

Nellie, who remember was in her twenties and who had never done anything like this before, had to stay focused on the task at hand.

One of her big struggles was how to report this story while she was there being treated as a patient, and she smuggled in a pencil and a notebook so she can take notes and do her work, and they are confiscated when she gets into the asylum and she asks about it.

It had been her purse and she's told you can't have it, so shut up.

And when she asked about it again, the doctor tells her that she hadn't brought a pencil and that she should stop hallucinating.

At all times.

Nellie was dancing the line of losing herself, losing her sanity to the darkest recesses of the asylum.

She was very much at risk.

She was at risk of being drugged, she was at risk of staying there.

She was at risk of sexual assault, which isn't something that she plays up but kind of hints around a little bit in the storytelling, and was certainly something that happened to women who had been discarded by mainstream society.

And there's this one instance where they give her a drug and she knows that gieeds to keep her wits about her while she's there, and so as soon as the nurses are gone, she throws it up.

Throughout her time in the asylum, Nellie remains close to Tillie Mayard, the woman she mess on the boat.

At the very start.

One of the saddest things in her expose, she just talks about how Mayard really declines rapidly under the strain of the cold and terrible food.

One day, they're sitting together on a bench and Mayard just collapses into a fit, and when the superintendent comes in, Bli describes later he caught her roughly between the eyebrowser thereabouts and pinched her until her face was crimson, and Blithe said that when Mayer came to she was never really the same after that.

And for the women who were committed to the asylum, what was their fate?

Would a lot of them just kind of languish there for years on end or were they actually being treated to be released?

I think that they just languished there for years on end.

Very notably, Blind describes the asylum as a human rat trap and wrote that it's easy to get in, but once there, it's impossible to get out.

By now Nellie had spent ten days in the human rat trap, it was time to attempt that impossible feat her escape.

How did Nellie actually manage to get herself out of the asylum?

So Nellie spent ten there, and then the world's lawyer came and said that he was a relative and that he would take care of her and got her released.

It turns out that actually, if one of the most powerful media entities in New York, or you know, a long lost uncle came to your rescue, it wasn't actually so difficult to leave the Women's Lunatic Asylum, which just sort of underlines the level of abandonment most of the women on the inside were facing.

Once out, Nellie got to writing.

He worked incredibly quickly, because it was just a few weeks later that she publishes the first of two very long pieces in the World detailing her experience at this I l.

Am coming up.

How Nellie's article shook the city of New York and made Nellie into a superstar.

And what happens to Nellie and hier Oscical once it gets out?

Does it have a big impact.

It has a huge impact.

It's this explosive story, and it's not just the story of what happened in the asylum.

It's also the story of this young woman being able to sneak her way into the asylum.

And she tells it very vividly.

She tells it through this engaging, funny, descriptive narrator herself, the character of Nellie Bye, and she just makes people really feel like they're there.

Here's Nellie's fantastic description of having dinner at the asylum.

We were marched into a long, narrow dining room, where a rush was made for the table.

The table reached length of the room and was uncovered and uninviting.

Placed close together.

All along the table were large dressing bowls filled with a pinkish looking stuff, which the patients called tea.

By each bowl was laid a piece of bread, cut thick and unbuttered.

A small saucer containing five prunes accompanied the bread.

One fat woman made a rush and jerking up several sources from those around her, emptied their contents into her own saucer.

Then, while holding to her own bowl, she lifted up another and drained its contents.

At one gulp.

This she did to a second bowl in a shorter time than it takes to tell it.

The article didn't just make for breathless reading.

The outrage it caused among the people of New York led to a grand jury being called probing the conditions of the asylum and debating solutions.

When testifying in front of the jury, Nellie said this great line about what she hoped her work could do for the women inside.

If I could not bring them that boon of all boons, liberty, I hoped at least to influence others to make life more bearable for them.

And she visits the facility with people from the grand jury and it's determined that the asylums should get an extra fifty thousand dollars to care for patients, and the grand jury also recommends the hiring of more female doctors to eliminate that possibility of abuse.

That's amazing that after her first article like this, Nelly managed to create so much real impact, And what kind of impact did it have in terms of her being like a female reporter.

The secondary impact was that Bly's work was so popular that editors all over the country thought, I would like to hire somebody to do this kind of work and run these kind of articles, and it was a genre that became known as girls stunt reporting, and lots of women all over the country who liked BLYI were looking for meaningful work that I would like to be one of these kind of reporters, and launched this entire decade of female investigtive journalism.

I can totally imagine if I was around back then, if I read this article, that would have been me done.

I would have been writing into newspapers and saying, can I please be a girl stunt reporter?

That sounds great.

No editors describe being besieged by women showing up at their offices.

The revolution started.

I guess that means that also Nellie's career must have taken off at that point, oh hugely.

It's very interesting to watch.

Originally her articles are signed on the bottom, but soon she is in the headline like she is the news.

It's Nellie Bly investigates orphanages or Nellie Bly goes around the world.

Tell me about that, because that sounds like the best job ever.

And there's the budgets just aren't there anymore?

They definitely are, And so she's been working at the world for a number of years at this point, and she's wondering what her next big thing is going to be, and she decided that she's going to try to beat the fictional record established by Jules vern in his novel Around the World in eighty Days.

So she's like, I bet I can go around the world faster than eighty days, and the publisher supports her, and it is this huge sensation.

It's this huge stunt, like it really made her even more famous than she had already been.

There's massive coverage of every stop and huge illustrations, and she makes around the world in seventy two days and triumphantly lands in New Jersey, and it's very much taken as a triumph of the new American girl.

You know what can't an American girl do.

It's really showing this kind of new woman which we're going to enter the new century with.

Yeah, like an influencer from the nineteenth century.

Yeah, I mean, I think that it was similar to the way that we look at history or great feats of women today, Like it's just the fact of her having done it was very inspirational to a lot of people and really definitively answered The question which she wanted to answer for the Pittsburgh Dispatch was like, where do women belong?

Her answer was like, not even in the house, not even in the workplace.

They belong all around the world.

How did she feel about the fame and recognition that she got.

I mean, I think that she always wanted to be a successful journalist, so I think that she was very happy to have her name out there, be desired be able to command large amounts of money.

At the same time, she kept her personal life pretty private.

She had this persona of now Allie Bly, who is very light hearted and free spirited and brave and funny, but we don't always know what was going on behind the scenes and what was going on in her heart.

Nellie Bly was literally a persona.

It was a pseudonym, you know, like catwoman Madonna, that kind of thing.

The reporter's real name was actually Elizabeth Cochrane, and Elizabeth, unlike Nellie Well, she largely kept herself to herself.

I mean that the gossip munker in me is curious.

Do we know kind of what her love life was like, what her family set up was As she had this career take off.

So she cared for her mother.

Throughout her life, she had a number of love affairs which didn't work out as she was working through her reporting career.

Eventually she married a very wealthy man and they had a reasonably successful relationship, it seems like, until he died and she took over his business and was windoled and the business went bankrupt.

Oh no, And then she went back to reporting.

She had editor friends who were like, you know, Nellie, by your forte is really reporting, and you should come back and do it.

And she did, and she reported pretty much after her death, you know, through World War One.

It was really her strength, and she was really exceptional at it.

Nellie was a reporter at heart, and so were those hundreds of women who besieged editors offices inspired by her.

There was nell Nelson, who worked for the Chicago Times and went undercover as a worker at female factories in Chicago, exposing physical and sexual abuse and child labor.

There was Caroline Lockhart, who worked at the Boston Post, who went undercover as a drug addict in a women's rehab center to expose the conditions for the women on the inside.

But she also did these weird and cool tabloidy stunts like going inside a lion's cage for an article or diving to the bottom of Boston Harbor in a diving suit.

I never get those gigs.

There was also the story that fascinated me most about a Chicago Times reporter whose identity had never been revealed.

I would love you to tell me the story of this anonymous girl reporter who investigated the abortion story.

So the story of the girl reporter is that one November day in Chicago, a young woman went around and she visited doctor after doctor, and she pretended to be pregnant, and she requested an abortion and recorded their response.

The procedure was illegal, and she was investigating how many physicians and midwives were willing to break the law.

By the end of her investigation, she had visited more than two hundred doctors.

And in December of that year, she published her reporting about the availability of abortion in the city, and the paper scolded the doctors, and the woman who just went by the name Girl Reporter said that she was against abortion and hoped that the doctors would you be shamed?

And what impact did her apposting have?

Then?

The effect of the reporting was that it was clear that anyone who wanted an abortion in Chicago could get one.

It was available, you know, to anyone for a wide variety of prices.

The Girl Reporter documented the addresses, the kinds of operations that were available, which medicines you could take, and at what dosage.

Wow.

So it ends up being a kind of bible for how to get an abortion, basically.

It really was.

And I don't know what her actual purpose was again, you know, she said that she was against it and that the paper was doing it to highlight these abuses, but she provided more information about abortion than one of the available in any other highly public space like the pages of the Chicago Time.

Yeah.

I mean, I desperately hope because it's just such a cool thing to do that she wrote that line in to get it past her editors.

But actually she was doing this really amazing act, you know, and getting all this information out there.

Whatever Anonymous Girl reporters true motives were, I think her story shows just what a radical new era American journalism was in and the huge impact of this kind of daring, female led reporting.

There wasn't only women's issues specifically, that this generation of women journalists were now creating space.

For Another woman who was doing very innovative investigtive journalism at the time, but not in a girls stunt reporter mode, was this reporter named Ada B.

Wells who wrote about lynching in a really unflinching way.

And a lot of the names these women use were fake, weren't they They were pseudonyms, and like to be fair, they're all way cooler than my real name.

So I'm starting to consider that.

But why were they working under these pseudonyms.

It's a complicated question.

I think a lot of women did it because it wasn't quite respectable, you know, reporting itself, putting yourself out into the public sphere was on the edge of respectability.

But also as time went on, the role became somewhat of an expectation.

So if women showed up into newspaper office and wanted to do a different kind of newspaper work and the editor was like, what you really need to do is get yourself arrested and talk about what's going on in the jail, that wouldn't have been so attractive to women who wanted to cover the presidential race or something like that.

So I do think that this opportunity became a bit of an imprisoning expectation.

Yeah.

Well, even the title girl stunt reporters, it feels it's, you know, it's a little cheat.

Oh, it definitely is.

Like girls stunt reporters is definitely a slur often used by male reporters at the time who were jealous of their high paychecks and high profiles.

But it's also to me a useful term to describe exactly what was going on during this ten year period because they didn't hide that they were female.

So I think there's nothing valuable about the term, even though I recognize, yes, female investigtive reporters suuch much better.

Yeah, I think I'd go for that, So I'll start report.

I'm leaning I'm leaning in and generally, what was the playing field like in terms of rights for women in the late eighteen hundreds in America?

What did Nelly have available to her as well as the other women that she was writing about.

One of the things that's always so astonishing to me about these women doing this work at this time is that they couldn't vote, and they would not be able to vote for decades and decades.

Some of them interviewed the president, but we're not able to vote for the president, so many fewer rights than you'd imagine given the quite prominent position some of them occupied.

Yeah, and often reporting on very political things.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So one of the things that's kind of at the heart of the Girlfriends is this idea that it's women looking out for each other.

We celebrate female friendship and how powerful that can be actually as a force of change, not just as a force of connection.

How did Nellie's work help give a voice to women's issues.

How did she go about doing that?

Well, it was really one of the ways that she is most revolutionary because only a woman can go undercover in women's faces.

So when all of a sudden you had demand for this kind of reporting, you were able to see what's going on inside women's facts.

You were able to see what's going on inside jails where women are imprisoned.

You were able to see, you know, how women were treated in public hospitals.

And that was a perspective that only these female Investigator rewarders could provide.

And so all of a sudden you had very different kinds of stories on the front pages.

Before coverage of women was really like you were murdered or you were wearing the spring's best new hat.

But now all these women dominated spaces were really taking up cultural space.

What I love about Nellie's story is that it's kind of twofold.

Undoubtedly Nellie made a genuine difference for other women in America.

But what actually inspires me, I guess selfishly as a fellow journalist, at the opportunities that she afforded herself through her sheher will to live an independent life.

She created an entirely new genre of journalists.

Not only that, but she lived well and on her own terms.

That's so cool.

I mean, what more could somebody want?

She was celebrated for her courage and her contemporary writing, not her spring hat, in a world where spring hats were a really big deal.

So I guess my main takeaway from all of this is that I should keep doing what I'm doing.

I just hope that people will see past my seasonal Hat collection two as fabulous as it is.

Thank you so much to Kim Todd for taking us through Nellie's epic story.

Kim's book is called Sensational, The Hidden History of America's Girls Stunt Reporters.

You should read it.

There's so much fascinating stuff about Nellie and the other women doing journalism at the time that we just couldn't fit into this episode.

Next time on the Girlfriend's Spotlight, June rocks America.

We're starting a band.

I might as well have said we're going to walk on the moon.

We just got better and better, and they were gobsmack and they would rush up after the sent and say, not bad for chicks.

Hey, you've reached the girlfriend's hotline.

You can leave your mini story after the tone, right, catchu lator bye.

A time that my girlfriend's really really had my back was when I got savagely broken up with in a pub of all places, and I was so distraught I could not stop crying.

I thought I was going to be sick from crying.

The only thing I could think to was call my best friend, who lives an hour away.

I called her, I told her what happened.

She said, give me an hour and meet me at your house.

And by the time I got home to my house, she had assembled not only her, but three of my other best friends and my sister were waiting there for me to give me the softest landing possible and catch me.

And it makes me emotional even to think about it.

Because it was exactly what I needed.

She just did it without asking, and I felt so supported and held by my friends.

And that's just the kind of situation that you would not be able to survive without your girlfriends.

So it made me appreciate my girls even more.

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Max O'Brien and Craig Strachan are executive producers.

Production management from Joe Savage, Sari Houston, and Charlotte Wolfe.

Sound design, mixing and scoring by Nicholas Alexander and Daniel Kempson.

Music supervision by Jakotivich, Nicholas Alexander and Dana Sinfield.

Original music composed by Louisa Gerstein and Jemma Freeman.

The series artwork was designed by Christina Limpool.

Willard Foxton is creative director of Development and Special Thanks to Katrina Norville, Carrie Lieberman and will Pearson at iHeart podcasts, as well as Carl Frankel and the whole team at w m E