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This is feeling things with Amy and Kat.

Happy Tuesday.

Welcome to feeling things.

I'm Amy and I'm Kat.

And before we get to our feeling of the day, I thought you'd be excited to know that I have a question that doesn't come up.

Okay, I am excited because.

I give you a feeling of excitement.

Yes, which I need that because my feeling is not a pause.

Well, it's not excitement today, so thank you.

All right?

Do you wash your hands before you unload the dishwasher?

No?

Right?

I know pressing question, isn't it because it really makes you think because I'm not delivered about I don't.

I never think like I'm about to unload the dishwasher I need to wash my hands.

I might think before I eat, before I you know, do something medical like I'm gonna wash my hands, but never to unload the dishwasher.

Do I purposefully wash my hands?

And this is a question that I saw online, Okay, and apparently there's people that do that, And if you think about it, it makes sense because you're unloading clean things from the dishwasher and then you're doing it with your dirty hands.

Well I'm dirty.

Well, so I guess i'm dirty too.

You're dirty.

I thought maybe you just maybe saw me doing that and we're trying to call me out.

You don't do this either, no, And fun fact, I've never seen you unload the dishwasher like like I know that.

I was just at your house the other day, but you were definitely wasn't.

No, Okay, I thought maybe I was.

That's never crossed my mind.

But as you said that, I'm like, well, I don't wash my hands before I fold my clean clothes.

But it's different because like, okay, you're touching a shirt with dirty hands, versus you're touching a plate and silverware and things that like a cup, you put your mouth on the cup, like you're just transferring germs directly to things that you might be anyway, do with that what you will, Maybe now you'll start washing your hands and maybe you won't.

It doesn't really matter.

I've clearly been living my entire life without doing it.

But just think there's a corner of the world where before they unload the dishwasher they wash their hands every single time.

When What is so interesting I guess about that question is that that's never crossed my mind, but it makes so much sense.

Yeah, it's a question that has never come up.

Never come up.

Okay, same, cool.

Well, now that actually leads me to my feeling of the day, which is disturbed because it's kind of disturbing that I never thought about that, and I've just been like getting my grimy hands all over my clean stuff.

Okay, I would like to know if you knew this was a thing.

So for my birthday, we had a game night and my friend brought this Family Feud game which is so fun, so fun, highly recommend it.

So then before we're going to bed, I was like, Patrick, let's watch Family Food, Like, let's watch a couple episodes of Family Food, and he watched like the old one.

I think that maybe original host.

Do you have any idea where this is?

That was before Steve Harvey.

Before, before Steve Harvey, before before before.

Because before before Oh, y'all went way back.

This is from like the sixties.

Okay, so did you ever watch Game Show Network that had all the old shows?

Which fun fact?

Did you know that I was on Family Feud with Steve Harvey.

Stop because we looked up how to get on the show.

Okay, you're on it.

Yeah, I went on with Bobby.

We played Andy Roddick's family.

Well, Brooklyn Decker and Andy Roddick are married, and I think Brooke brought her family, so it was like Andy broke her mom, dad, and maybe her brother.

And then it was Lunchbox Bobby, Me, Laura, Elena and John Party.

Wait.

Could we look that episode up and watch it?

Probably, I'm sure you could.

Case Occasionally it'll re air, like I guess on Gaming Networks or something, and I'll get an email like, oh my gosh, I'll get a DM on Instagram like I just saw you on Family Feud.

Wait, I'm going to do that.

Maybe tonight.

I'm gonna look up the episode and just like play it and see if Patrick's like, what the heck?

Okay, yeah, I think I know her.

It would be so fun to go on that show.

Oh.

I got into a little tiffy tiff with Steve because I felt like my buzzer went off when I was still thinking, like, I don't feel like I had fair warning.

I'm not saying I didn't, but I didn't either understand exactly and it's all sort of.

Blur, Wait, your buzzer went off when you're still thinking, like, I hit the buzzer yourself.

No, I think Bruke did.

I don't even remember, but I think she did.

She guess something that it was going to be my turn, and I didn't know when the countdown had started and I had an answer, but then it never came out of my mouth, and he was like, okay, next, and I was like, wait what and then I I gave it, like I had to go back to stand in long behind the podium thing the bar thing, and I sort of like hugged him, and I think I threatened him, like you're gonna make this right, Steve, because I don't remember, I was in like gay mode sort of as a blurb.

But I'll be able to see that on the episode.

You won't hear what I said, even though there are mics there.

But I confessed to my team when I got back what I had done, and I was like, I think I just threatened Steve Harvey.

Yeah, did you win?

Oh wait, don't tell me, don't tell me.

Oh you didn't tell me.

No, yeah, that part of the game.

Okay, yeah, okay, so the original family feud, so Steve Harvey.

Then it was the guy from Home Improvement that was on the other side of the fence.

Not the guy, not the other side of the fence guy, but the it doesn't matter.

Yeah, this is a long time ago, in the sixties.

I'm watching this show and to my surprise, every time the host goes to a female he kisses them on the mouth.

No he doesn't, Yes, he does.

Why it is personally I find it disturbing, Like, look up a clip of it.

He goes to every episode because we watched multiple And then I said to Patrick, I said, I can't watch this host anymore to ruin in the whole game, You're in the whole show for me.

So we had to the next host.

I forgot who was great Richard Okay.

Richard Dawson kiss her the host of Oh wow, he sure does, he sure does.

So that's like his thing, Like you knew going on there if you were a female contestant, you were gonna have to kiss him.

You just knew.

I'm not saying it's right or wrong, but you would have to know.

Well, okay, I don't know, because what if you were just your friend was like, hey, let's just go do your brother's like, let's just go do this, and you don't know that much about the show because TV was different and there's no internet, So like, did everybody know?

Okay, see, I know that Steve Harvey hugs his contestant because I hugged him and threatened him.

But there was no.

It's even not a kiss on the cheek.

It's now I'm looking at it.

He's kissing.

But some of these women, they like did not mind.

Yeah, well I like they're like he.

Well maybe okay, but maybe they are uncomfortable, and so like, I feel like women do that a lot.

They like act true like they like something when really they're uncomfortable because they don't want to make a scene.

And Patrick was saying like, maybe it wasn't that big of a deal and maybe they like didn't mind, same thing.

But I was like, but the point is, this is a long time ago, so times have changed.

He is in a position of power.

He's the host of this show.

You're not gonna on the show be like, oh I don't want it right?

Right or right?

And you're a contestant.

You're trying, yeah, catch you off guard.

But even if even if nobody thought it was weird, that's weird that nobody was like, you can't just like kiss everybody.

Well, obviously, I think eventually something evolved or they probably would have kept that tradition going host to host.

Right ew No, I I hope that's not ever.

I don't think that was a family feud tradition.

I think it was this man, Oh, Steve gets you on the list.

This is very bizarre, Like why have I never It's okay, watch an episode and you will be Are you watching videos of it?

Well, right now I'm just doing images because oh I don't want the sound to play, but.

Go watch a clip of it.

I had to turn it off disturbing.

Hence my feeling of the day.

Yeah, disturbed.

So then now we're Last night we watched Steve Harvey and was much better of you would experience.

Yeah, he's great at that, like you watch someone work the room, like we got to see it behind the scenes and he's working the crowd.

He's great with the contestants, even when he's not on air being filmed like he is.

He is a good host.

I have no idea about him as a person that he was legit like, he was good like.

I was like, oh wow, he was born for this kind of thing.

Oh my gosh, Okay, I have to read this.

Okay, Shannon just found us this information.

The family feud Kiss stopped primarily due to changing social norms okay, health concerns like herpies, oh God, and a desire for less politically incorrect television, though host Richard Dawson initially tried to keep it going by polling viewers, who overwhelmingly voted for him to continue.

It was a charming way for him to calm the nerves of content.

This is gross.

So he only kissed the women though, to be clear, like he did the only women.

What about the nervous men?

What did they do?

What do you do to calm them?

I don't want to know, but probably nothing because he wanted to kiss women.

But I'm just saying, if it's truly to calm your contestants.

Second, this also is like they would be there, It would be like my husband.

I'm here with my husband, he's on my team, and then you would just kiss me in front on the lips in front of my husband, and he's like, oh, I'm just calming your wife's nerves.

Don't worry about it.

Yeah.

Modern audiences and networks deemed it inappropriate, leading current hosts like Steve Harvey to refuse to do it, citing respect for their wife and boundaries.

Respect for women of all kind from all places.

Yeah, your disturbance is valid.

Thank you.

I stand for you with valid disturbance because I don't know that I can stand by you with another thing that you're disturbed by.

Now this is a completely different category.

But since we're we should pull our audience okay, and'd be like, are Cat's feelings valid about this?

Which I guess, well, yeah, I was gonna correct my stress because we are mental health minded and all feelings are welcome.

I shall know that I could give it my stamp of approval because I didn't know you felt so passionately about Christmas decor and it being a certain vibe which I am not going to put some of this stuff in my yard that you're talking about.

But I also don't mind it.

Some stuff I would put in my yard.

But like if Santa's really pooping in the chimney, like you say, that's not really going to be in my yard.

But I'm not going to be mad if one of my neighbors has it.

But like, my boyfriend has this massive blow up Santa, Like Kat, I'm telling you, it is the biggest thing I've ever seen.

It's huge, like huge, you could see it from space.

It's big.

It shows up on the Google Maps.

Yes, it's like, well there's this else.

So it's pretty awesome, and I don't hate them for it, Like I think it's kind of fun.

You would approve of this Christmas lights because they're all white and pretty colored lights.

Oh wow, you have colored lights.

I'm shocked, Patrick was Patrick?

I don't think you wanted them.

I didn't want them exactly like we have that.

We're progressive, be the trush tree.

This is a safe space for you to be honest.

I hate them, you hate.

Them, Okay.

I actually chose to have colored lights two houses ago because my house looked like a gingerbread house when I had them on.

I don't mind colored lights in general.

I think they're festive and fun, and the kids love them.

I didn't want them on current house.

I thought it would look nicer with white lighthouse.

Well, tell people what you said when you walked into my house.

Just say what you said, and then we can figure out how a time.

Okay, this is twofold.

I came in and I was like, you know, it's really interesting that neighborhoods have h ways where you have to get things approved like planting a bush, Yet you can put a blow up of a Santa pooping on a chimney reading the newspaper of your house.

That is crazy to me.

Yeah, and I'm not the biggest fan.

I'm not going to put up the blow up Christmas things in my yard.

I'm not the biggest fan of them.

However, I don't want to take that away from people.

The pooping one.

I don't know.

I feel like we could do something more tasteful because I think kids again really like the blow up things.

But my biggest gripe was you have to get approved to plant a bush, but I can put this ginormous monstrosity that is not aesthetically pleasing in my yard whenever I want.

Yeah, that's kind of confusing.

Right, Are you just bitter because you haven't been invited into the Facebook group in your neighborhood yet?

And that house down the street that has the big blow ups there, they're in it.

Yeah, I feel left out, so I'm trying to find problems with them.

Probably that could be part of y.

Yeah, no, I get it, Like there can be some stuff where it just goes a little too far.

Look at Halloween, Like I was a little disturbed by some people that had these really freaky, scary looking dolls.

Oh they were also holding the heads of like other dolls.

It's like that disturbed me.

Yeah, some people just like to go all out for certain holidays.

And now we know where you are.

You're a little scrooge.

Well you don't even have Christmas lights.

Not on the outside.

Yeah, way to bring up that, I don't have a man.

Okay.

I hung my Christmas lights on my old house by myself.

Okay, I'm not gonna do that.

Okay.

Remember I had to get on the roof and then I didn't have to call somebody to come help me.

But how did you call.

Somebody I had dated in the past they were a man there?

Well okay, yeah, but but I mean, I'm sure that if it was that important to me, absolutely I would figure it out and I would get lights up there.

I'm not saying I'm not capable and women aren't capable.

However, it's not that important to me, and that I see as the man in my life.

Should he be in my life at some point one day again, like if I have that role in my life, that would be their role, Like I would designate that.

Except for Alex he I mean he puts his inflatable sand up himself.

But I said he has his white Christmas lights up.

He has some company that comes to do I.

Was gonna say, a lot of people hire people.

Did you used to put Christmas lights or you've never been an outdoor Christmas lights?

I mean, Ben and I would do trees, like I don't know that we ever lined the house because a lot of times are Christmas too.

We were always going to Colorado, so it felt like all this work when we're not even there.

But we would do trees.

Oh like just honestly, address is fun.

Do the tree and make that and it would be white lights.

Not gonna lie shout out.

I know you love it.

And my Christmas trees are up, and I have wreaths outside on all my windows.

Yeah, your a house actually with redos.

Your house looks.

Really good from the outside.

Yeah, it's got your stamp of approval.

I love it.

I do have a holiday?

Would you rather addition for you?

Okay?

I do have a holiday?

Would you rather addition for you?

Okay?

You know, like, would you rather?

But before you answer them, we have to kiss before I ask you before we play the game.

Are you nervous?

Do you know?

I don't?

Do you need to be relaxed?

Okay?

Okay?

Would you rather holiday edition?

Would you rather host the holiday party or clean up after it?

Host?

Be stuck behind a slow shopper or a slow driver?

Stuck behind a slow shopper?

What does that even mean?

I don't know.

Okay, Like you're trying to like check out the taking forever.

I went to Home Goods this weekend.

It was crowded and it was Yeah, I'm gonna say slow driver because I was like, I gotta get it around.

You get one perfect gift, like receive it or get five surprise gifts that could be amazing or terrible, But the one gift you get is perfect.

Oh I want five surprise gifts.

Okay, have candy cane breath all month or gingerbread, cookie bread candy cane.

I go gingerbread, this's minty.

Yeah, the gingerbread is sweet and ginger bready.

I just feel like the candy cane breath all month.

When that effect like when you're drinking water, Because if I eat something peppermint and I drink water, I'm like drink a diet coke.

It's like ugh.

But if you eat gingerbread and have water or diet coke, you're fine.

Yeah, you're right, you're right.

You have to really think these three.

I'm not taking it seriously.

So you're taking this seriously.

Regift something and get caught, or keep a gift you hate and be forced to use there forever.

I would never want to be caught regifting, well unless I like, no, no, no, I think keep a gift I hate and have to use it forever, like you have to keep wearing a sweater or your dad bought you or something.

I used to know someone that was a notorious regifter, and everyone knew it and would laugh about it.

So they started to look for how they were getting regifted something because and the thing is this person is very, very wealthy, like very So let's just say they own places, okay, and each place like when you have stores, like say they have a number like oh this, like that Home Goods is somewhere in a system as store one, two, three, four five, okay, and so that store operates as that.

Like that's how they acknowledge themselves within the company.

Oh hey, I'm Amy, I work at store one two through for five.

Well, so let's say store one two through for five got this person a gift and on the bottom of the gift they wrote love store one two through for five.

Well, then my mom was the recipient of that gifts and it was kind of funny because so my mom knew to look and she looked on the back and it was like love store one two through four five.

It's funny, And you have a really long way to say that.

But it's like, if you're gonna regift, like go through the effort scrubble yes, yeah, like scrub the evidence.

Have you do you regift so I will give something away.

If somebody gives.

Something, that's the thing, like she my mom didn't even fault it.

It's like if it has not been used, yes.

That's fair and it's like a good gift and that person would love it.

But am I going to use something several multiple times?

Well that's not regifting.

That's like yeah, that's like what is that?

Yeah?

Yeah yeah, that's like I gave you just one of my items for my house because yeah yeah wait wait wait wait this makes me think of this.

I saw this, and I want to do this so bad, but I think my mom would get so mad.

So have you ever changed the like autocorrect in somebody's phone?

So one time I changed the auto correct in my mom's phone.

Whenever she would say no, it would autocract it to hell yeah.

Oh no, I didn't know you could do that.

So I did it to her.

So she kept sending texts hell yeah.

I think one of them was like a work text, and she's like, I don't know why it keeps doing this.

I'm trying to say no, But every time she did that, it would just say I'm trying to say hell yeah.

Anyway, she didn't talk to me for like three days after that, so I just feel like my mom doesn't like to be pranked, So she changed her pathford on her phone after that.

Okay, so this is an idea for anybody else to everybody wraps items in that home.

Like if you're my grandma and I'm at your house, everybody just like picks out one of grandma's items and puts it in a box and wraps it, and then people unwrap those on Christmas and so then the grandma's like, oh, I used to have one of those.

Oh, okay, I have.

A blanket just like that, or like, oh I used to have a pot like that.

It looked just to the down to like a figurine.

And then like eventually they catch on, I would love that's what's your sister or something.

I would love to be able to do that anyway.

Now that's a good friend that like little prank IDEA.

Great prank for somebody who is a good sport.

When it comes to.

Who would be a bad sport about that?

I don't.

Cry, said probably me.

Well, it wasn't even like your gift.

It was people giving it, like somebody's giving all your stuff to everybody else.

Yeah, it's obviously just a joke.

Yeah, it's a job.

Oh, speaking of being at your parents' house, to your grandpa's grandparents house for the holidays, I got sucked into this TikTok video of these three sisters.

And they were older, like maybe in my like forties their fifties age like when I say older, like grown out of the house, probably had their own families, And they were tasked like they were either at their parents' house or their grandparents' house, and they had to each go find three very random objects, one each, and then they came back to the table and they're filming the whole thing, and then they had to drink a cup of a sip of water and hold the water in their mouth when the person reveals the one item that they went and collected, and they can't laugh.

But you grab something so random or obscure, like if you think of all the trinkets and things like in your parents' house, I'm sure you could find something that would make one of your siblings die laughing.

My mom still has our baby teeth, yes.

Like you could go collect all of your teeth.

Yes, when my mom died, I found my teeth in her jewelry box.

Why did they do that because we're also we gonna put it in the trash.

Yeah, I think I thought it was kind of sweet.

Okay that my mom still had my chi Okay in a ziploc bag, I can make a necklace.

So but this could be a fun thing to do, Like if y'all are going home for the holidays, get your siblings, get some water.

You each take a sip, and then you have to go find the most random funny thing or trinket and lay it in the middle of the table.

And they would start laughing and they would be trying to hold the water in.

And I don't even know these people, and I'm watching them online and then they're spitting their water and then I'm laughing.

I don't know that just one of those things that was funny.

I could do that at my mom's house because my mom, like I said, she keeps everything like that brings.

Up feelings of like nostalgia, joy, laughter, Like this is a good types of feelings that you want to have in like a cute little activity, and who knows what kind of conversations will come from that, Like oh my gosh, Like one of them was this really creepy looking dull that the girl went gathered, and another one was like a picture of their brother from like back in the day, looking really you know, weird, like your husband husband.

I was at Cat's house the other night for her birthday, and she has all her ornaments on her trees, which Cat, I must say, you have some solid ornaments.

She has like a beautiful box of cheese.

It's a diet coat because that's a food on my tree.

Like all, oh, they're fun.

And then there's this one picture of your husband from when he was a kid.

And it is sports hilarious, goggles on.

Yes, and he's just like a little chunky cute And I was like, Cat.

What is this?

And he gave that to you.

You go, did you make this?

I was like, no, he put this in my stocking the first year we were dating.

I'll have to post a picture of it.

It's so funny.

And the reason I found that picture is because when I went to his mom's for the first time, she was like, oh, let's go look through Patrick's baby book.

It's like something late.

The first time it went to her house.

She the first time I met her, it was just like the first time I went to her house.

Okay, because a lot of their family stuff they do other people's houses, so I'm looking through them and I was like, this is the cutest photo I've ever seen of any kid in the world.

Yeah, it's pretty cute, so that could be something people would not be able to hold the water.

And if I put that picture of.

Speaking of things to hug and squeeze ins, we're talking about gifts.

This might be something special like depending on the age range of your kids.

But I will say my daughter's eighteen, so this could work for older kids too.

I had never thought of this, but Ben and I took Stashira to build a bear the other day and she had us record our voices into one of the little things, which I'm sure parents of young kids y'all know that y'all can do this, But I don't remember paying much attention to build a bear and what all they can do.

I think we took the kids there, maybe right after we adopted them, but I don't know that we did the whole recording and that whole thing.

Yeah, but she picked out the bear, and then the way they stuff it is so cool.

How you jumping, do you?

Yeah?

And they like talk to it and then you put a little heart inside of it.

But anyway, Ben and I a little recorded message inside her build a bear for her, and it was so sweet.

And I think it's something that she she asked for, but I think she was Yeah, it was her idea.

But also that makes me think that just because they're eighteen, or if you've got kids that are going off to college, like I don't know, they may on the surface be like, oh, what this is lame, But to be able to go to bed at night and press a button and hear your parent's voice and then saying something encouraging to you.

Yeah, And then she asked for one from her grandparents too.

It's from Ben's parents.

Those are her only living I don't how many on my side, but anyway, gift idea of like for grandparents or parents is something special to do no matter the age of your kid, because you never know when they might need to press that button.

Yeah, that's really sweet and hear your voice.

That was her idea.

Yeah.

I guess it's something that she thought would be helpful for her or maybe that came up with like some friends recently.

I don't know, but yeah, it was her idea.

We were at dinner and then she was like, do we have time to go to build a pair And you're like sure, and we were like okay, so we went and we did it.

Yeah, it was just me Bens to share a little special time for her.

We got gelato and hung out and talked and kids, they surprise you.

You never know.

We do have.

Was that the whole would you rather?

Oh?

Yeah, I'm not done?

Well, got derailed?

Okay, Wow we have more?

Okay, I'm ready.

Okay, wear in itchy holiday sweater or matching pajamas that don't fit well.

As long as the pajamas are too big, I'd rather wear that.

Yeah.

Listen to the same Christmas song all season long, same one or no holiday music at.

All, same one, because I like the same I do the thing where I listened to the same song over and over and over again even Christmas.

Well, I have a Christmas playlist that I always play, and I only like like three of the songs on it.

So yeah, have cold toes all month or dry cracked hands all month.

I fit cold toes.

I hate cold feet, though, I always have to have socks.

Yeah, but you can get toe warmers or something, but they're cold, dry cracked hands.

But you can't have toe warmers because your toes have to be cold.

I just not say anything in this game about not being able to manipulate the cold toes.

Cold tops cold, but if cold, if you put toe wars toe warmers on, then your toes aren't cold anymore.

Uh, I'm thinking too deep about this.

I think the toes, but it hurts me to say that.

Okay, yeah, it's not real.

It's not real.

You're gonna have to wear gloves all month, it's not real.

Untangled Christmas lights or wrap twenty weird shaped gifts with no boxes.

Oh, I want to wrap the weird gifts with no boxes.

I love wrapping presents you do at Christmas time.

At Christmas time, I get really into it.

And I watched the because you've if you go on TikTok, there's like accounts that teach you how to wrap weird shaped things in cute ways.

And like I learned how to wrap shirts to look like it's a shirt.

You're looking it's like, so like a shirt, yeah, and like a like a neck and a tie and like, oh that's kind of cute.

Yeah, So I'd rather do that.

Well, the more, you know, Speaking of clothes, and we talked about washing your hands earlier before the dishwasher.

What about clothes, Like if you get new clothes as a gift.

Do you wash the clothes before you wear them?

No?

I feel like we talked about this recently.

We did.

It could have just been personally, Oh, because you love washing stuff as soon as you get it.

Oh, maybe we did talk this.

I do have digitalv right now.

Yeah.

It just came up because we're talking about new clothes and we were washing hands, and maybe I was curious.

Again.

Yeah, I will ideally like to wash the item before.

I guess it depends.

If it's a shirt, I like to wash it.

If it's jeans, no way, I'm throwing it on.

It's fine, Okay.

If it's a swimsuit, I don't wash.

Even swimsuits, which is gross now that I'm I'm gross.

I haven't washed my hands before I put my dishes away, and I don't watch my swimsuits after.

I underwear, you don't wear underwear.

I'm not wearing underwear.

But what about underwear though?

You watched that, right, Let's.

Just say, let's just say I've never thought to do that.

I've never have.

People don't People don't try underwear on.

What if they do, well, I'm not buying that kind Yeah.

I know you try what and if you would turn underward to Victoria's secret, they throw it away.

What they can't take back undern has tags on it.

Yeah, because like I don't think they keep Yeah, I heard it.

I heard a legend that they throw it away really or that maybe maybe the workers get to keep it.

I don't know that I would want to because like you don't know, you don't know.

Exactly, you don't know.

That's my point, Like you you don't know, you.

No, I never thought about Okay, I've never thought about sheets, you know the answer.

I'm not watching my underwear.

I'm not watching my bed.

Wait, brand new bed sheets, you're gonna just put them on?

But they're in a package.

Yeah, but I don't know like chemicals and stuff.

I think maybe I'm just making up.

I think you're just Yeah, the underwear.

I think you do have a point there.

I probably should.

But if you buy underwear that's in like a package, like you know how men's underwear usually comes in like a pack, would you watch that?

Yeah, even though there's definitely nobody's put it on before.

Yeah, but what else is in there?

Or what dare somebody do before?

Like we're at like answer, Like the people that work these places are just all law abtings.

They're probably washing their they probably have to wash their hands before they start work that day.

Sure yeah yeah, see I feel like my luck, I'll get the discrundled employee that sprinkled the underwear with like anthrupt some crazy thing or some like ghost pepper powder or something.

Okay, but okay, here's my Okay, wait you are I would want to wear those because then I can sue them and become a millionaire.

Oh yeah, you're taking away opportunities to make money.

Okay.

See I'm not a very re litigious person, so I don't think of lawsuits right away.

But if you, I'm like, I've never ever seed somebody.

But but you're just waiting for the right.

I'm waiting for somebody to put ghost pepper or powder in my under okay.

Shannon said that yes, Victoria's Secret generally destroys returned underwear, especially if they appear worn, soiled, soiled, or unsellable for hygiene and safety, marking them as damaged out.

Okay, I want somebody if they've worked at like a Victoria's Secret or like an Airy or something like that, where they're like no or a Soma where they're that's what they do is underwear.

Can you say, like, man, these look soiled, like like we're not liking to the customer.

Yes, if somebody's returning underwear and I can, I'm like, family, these look like you wore them.

I can.

I can't take these like or do you just have to be like.

Oh okay, like is this the tag still on them?

Yeah, but you could somebody could put them on with the tag okay, or like I guess they should have.

Is the rule that has to have the tag on them?

My question is can you confront somebody and say like, I'm not taking these back.

Or are you supposed to just like customers always right?

Yeah?

Well, because when I worked to them, all we weren't allowed to, Like, if somebody was stealing something and you knew that they were stealing it, you weren't allowed to say anything.

Oh yeah lost prevention.

You're supposed to just let them go.

You're not supposed to chase after them, and one time I did ooh tell us.

More So, I worked at Limited Too growing up, and it was just me and my boss, and I'd worked there for like three years at this point, so I thought I was pretty confident in my job, and when people would come in to steal, you could tell because a lot of times they had like big bags they were aligned with like a little four oil or something whatever.

And so these ladies came in and you could you knew that they were stealing.

You knew it.

We could sew them and.

They need foil bag.

Well that's for censors, I guess.

So I don't know if it works like I written a legend, but they knew that.

We knew too, because when you noticed somebody doing that, what you're supposed to do is just or this was fifteen years ago, what we were supposed to do back then is just give them extra customer service and just kind of follow them around the store.

And so I saw this woman put this she was baiting me.

I saw this woman put something in her bag, and so I said, like, my manager's name whatever, her name, I don't remember who was there.

Let's say her name was Angela.

Angela.

She put something in her bag, and the woman looked at me like the stealer droplifter, and she goes, honey, I think she called me baby, baby, I ain't got to steal nothing, and reached into her bra and to her shirt, down her shirt and just pulled out lobs of money and threw on the table and I blacked out.

After that, I guess she gathered her money and left.

But of course when she left, all those sirens went off, and I was like, you know what, this might be a core wound of mine because I remember being so upset that like somebody could do that, like purposely get away with it.

I just my the justice meter.

Was going off.

I wanted to be like, somebody catch her you like they do in the yeah, the movies.

But I got a lecture from my manager about that.

She's like, don't ever do that again.

It's something she could have doing it to you.

She was doing it as Limited Too, which technically then she's doing it to the owner of Limited, which technically also is he Like, wasn't he even bad?

I was, well, I don't know that.

We were the guy in Ohio.

The Limited and limited To were not the same company anymore.

By that point they were separated.

It limited To was its own entity.

Also, I'm not saying just because someone is bad that is the CEO or owner that now you can treat it however you want.

Yeah, it's just where.

My brain went imediately went to the owner of like Victoria's Secret, you know the guy in Ohio that girl wrote a song about it.

Like oh yes, yeah.

Yeah, yeah ye.

Like I'm not even gonna say because this is such a buzzword right now, but I want to say this is allegedly and this is from my brain.

I'm not quoting it because I need to look.

At Jack's was her name, Jes Singer.

She wrote song.

Yes.

I met her in Vegas once and I was like, I love your song.

She was a iHeart festival.

Wasn't he one of the guys like tied up with like Epstein.

Oh I didn't know that.

Let me look it up.

That is true.

I've never heard that, or maybe I've just ignored it.

I locked out in my brain.

But I think your point too, is that, like, it's not like that woman was stealing from me, but I still felt so strongly about it.

My boss said she could have had a gun.

Don't ever do that again, was her point, because when she reached into her shirt, she could have been reaching for a gun.

And would that be worth it?

No, not at all.

That's why they just let them steal the merchandise.

Okay.

Les Wexner, the billionaire founder of L Brands, which is the parent company of Victoria's Secret and Bath and body Works, had a decades long personal and professional relationship with convicted sex offender Jeffrey Epstein.

Oh okay.

Epstein served as Wexner's personal money manager and was given board powers, including power of attorney, over Wexner's finances.

Now that is does not mean he knew exactly what Epstein was up to, but I knew there was a connection.

Yeah, good memory, Thank you brain for not being wrong on that, because I don't ever want to like tie people to him unnecessarily.

But yeah, they I thought her song was just like about like a man owned Victuaria's Secret, Like this is crazy.

It is I was tying multiple things together.

I don't think she was singing about or anything of that, but just sort of that the standards of who Victorious Secret is was created by a man.

Yeah, and like what women were thinking they needed to be before Victoria's Secret diversified.

I think since then they have become more diverse, are they in their representation at the time?

Yeah, Like I go in the mall and there's pictures of Okay.

I think it's like when the Victoria's Secret catalog first started getting mailed out, it was like one type of woman.

Now the fashion show, I don't know how, I don't know.

I don't really watch that.

Do you watch the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show?

I've ever watched it.

Oh, I guess I just see clips later.

Yeah, we do have an email, Okay to close things out now, Kat.

Before I read the email, I will say this is her, not me, And she did save some kind words about my son Stevenson and him raising money for Haiti with the running a couple of weeks ago.

So there's that.

I won't read that part.

We're going to focus on something else.

But this is her, not me, Okay, you Ai, Me and Kat.

I'm a longtime listener and generally enjoy your podcasts.

Regarding the podcast from twelve one, twenty twenty five, titled Inconvenient Truth, Amy came in hot with a great subject about needing to cry.

Why did Kat keep derailing this subject, even to the point of Kat talking about lipstick after Amy said something compelling about what she said to her boyfriend in the ride from the airport.

This could have been a very compelling and very helpful podcast episode Thank You and Happy Holidays.

I don't know.

I don't know.

I'm asking if you know what she's talking about.

But also you knew we were going to read the email to You're not like, I'm not like springing this on you.

We both decided let's read this to be like, was there something compelling?

Because I don't know.

I know that I was talking about how when I went to pick up my boyfriend, I know that my feeling of the day was I feel like I need to cry.

And then my ride with my boyfriend was that he was not having a fun ride.

I went to pick him up, I went out of my way inconvenience to myself to pick him up.

And then he said I was creating a not fun environment.

Well, which is true.

Sorry, I don't want to do I'm not gonna.

Derail you because I'm having thoughts.

I'm sorry, were you done well?

I could easily do that to you a lot.

So if any listeners ever get like frustrated because Kat and I don't finish a certain thought, because one of us can show us well, first of all, no, that we're not doing it on purpose.

We both have ADHD not using that as an excuse, but we derail our conversations equally the same, like even ourselves, Like I might derail my own conversation, I might derail one of Cat's thoughts and vice versa.

So if we do that, we would love to circle back, but we might need more info about where you think we were going or where we were going to go, and maybe we never meant So this is more of a PSA and sorry, this is work for you listener or any listener out there that if we don't circle back to something, if you want to email us like and you have more details, remind us and then maybe we can pick back up.

Yeah, I'm trying to because I watched that back because I have to edit the video.

So I'm like, maybe I wasn't paying attention, or maybe I thought you were, or maybe I wonder sometimes because sometimes I know stories that you're telling, so I'm like, I wonder if in my head, I'm like, oh I've heard this, not like I don't want to hear it again, but like I think that you've said something but that you hadn't, but I just know because you already told me.

So I want to say I'm sorry if I railed you, because I do remember bringing my lipstick up, and I'm like, well, did I bring that up in the middle of an important story, because that would be annoying.

I'm sorry, was it?

Because yeah, it was a little lipstick you were excited about because it changed colors.

We didn't really change colors.

I just like the way it looked to your pH though, didn't.

It It felt like that one.

Okay, it had the same texture, but it don't.

I think it looks different on people because people skin tones are different.

Oh, I know.

Was it clinique?

Yeah?

Oh so then and then I derailed and started talking about my former stepmom how she got mad at my dad for buying me clinque powder, so you never know, like, yeah, then we go on a total different trajectory because you know, my dad's only supposed to buy me Mabelene because I'm a high schooler.

Yeah, and so.

Now I have uncomfortable feelings when I go past the clinique powder or stand the mall.

Oh I have a question, and this is a little bit.

I'm just gonna do it.

This is us.

I had this thought earlier and.

It didn't come out when you get and it makes me think of Clinique made me think of it when you get a gift with purchase, When you're buying a gift for somebody, do you give the person that you're buying the gift that free gift with purchase.

Or do you keep it for yourself?

Depends what it is.

I like your answer.

You're like, hey, if I want it, I'll keep it if I don't want to give it to them, right, because I bought something for my nieces.

I only got one gift with purchase, but I bought two things, and I said like, shoot, like, I guess I'll just figure out how I need to give this to them, or maybe I'll keep it for I don't know what I said, but Patrick was like, technically that free gift belongs to them.

No, it doesn't.

Oh, technically you bought it.

I only got it because I bought somebody else something.

Yeah, but you bought it, Okay.

I like the way you're thinking.

So I was like, shoot, I'm so selfish.

No, No, I think it depends.

Okay, I don't think it means it belongs to them.

You bought them the gift that you intended to buy them, and then because your money paid for their gift, you get the free gift.

Okay, so for you, it's definitely mine.

Yeah, that's what I think.

I think it depends on how you want to look at it.

But if I were a judge, I'd be like, it's yours.

Yeah.

Well, the good news is I don't really want this.

I'm going to give it to them.

But I just was like, am I thinking about this wrong?

Am I being selfish?

No?

Okay?

Like I ordered my daughter some stuff from free People, and it said if you spent a certain amount, you'll you'd get like if you sent spent a certain amount, you got free money, like a gift card back to free People.

Well, so everything I bought her was for her for Christmas?

So should she get the gift card that they emailed me?

So my husband would say yes, but I think I'm like, no, I want that.

No, they're sending it to me.

They're sending me a gift card for the money I spent.

Yeah, no, I get what you're saying.

I like your lot.

But it was genius of them because I did end up adding to my order so that I could get the gift card.

Yeah, they all get you that way.

They get you.

Oh yeah, okay, so it's that free people.

I think they still have it going on right now, like even while you're listening to this, but TVD apparently coming up on December seventeenth, they're going to email me my gift card?

Is it good?

So yeah, okay, cat cryokat saying that their their word is good for it and it's one hundred and fifty dollars.

Yeah, I got exist.

This is such good marketing.

Now I'm gonna go buy something I don't need.

It, and then you have to now here is also where they get you.

You're gonna get it in your email on December seventeenth, when I believe by January tenth.

But I can do that.

Well, like so can I.

But like I love having a gift card in my wallet, like being like spend me, you have money to go.

I like looking forward to it.

But if there's a deadline, isn't it nice that you actually will, yeah, be forced to do it, because then sometimes like I forget about it and yeah.

Shoot, I did all my Christmas shoping already you're done.

I need one more thing for my dad.

Dad's a really hard shop for in my dad's birthdays, the twentieth and then Christmas, so I have to get more things for him.

Yeah, but then yeah I'm done.

Wow, yeah, look at you.

Good job.

Thanks.

Okay, Well, wash your hands before you unload the dishwasher.

I think that's is that our main takeaway from.

Wash your hands today, Wash your underwear when you buy it.

Wash your hands, wash your underwear.

I'm trying to think a third and that makes you think of what's who's that guy?

His name was like Dshawn, Oh oh you and your you know?

He said, you know you had your husbands hid, your kids had your wives?

Hai'd your kids had your husbands?

Maybe raving everybody up in here.

He was on the news, something so different for you.

I was singing of the guy that says like, take care of your family, your chicken and your mentals.

What is that?

Well, what is yours?

I don't remember now, I don't know.

It's like some some athlete.

It was like a saying like take care of your money, your chicken, and your mentals.

What are your mentals like your brain, your.

Mental health or something?

And chicken maybe with chicken stand for family.

I could have actually made chicken up.

I remember there's something.

Do you say children or chicken chicken?

I don't know.

And Marshaun Lynch, the football player, said, I'm just here so I don't get fined.

Wait, really, I don't know anything about So he was.

At a press conference once and I guess they were trying to ask him a question.

He was like, I guess if you don't go to the press conference, you get a fine.

And so he just looked at me and he goes, I'm just here, so don't get fine.

Good for him being honest.

Wait, do we know what it was that he said?

Yes, that's right.

He said, take care of your money, your chickens, and your mentals.

Well, now I need to know what I think chicken chickens is like your family.

What else would it be.

It couldn't be actual chickens.

Oh your bread?

Well then he says money twice.

Then well that's our because we're a new sign off.

Take care of your money, your chickens, and your mentals.

Amen, it doesn't have the same.

Have the mentals you need to have, have the chicken you need to have.

Well, we know, have control of our chicken.

You're right, Well, kind of you kind of.

Do over your your chicken attitude.

My money attitude.

Yeah, that's okay.

I need to know if people really prefer to money as chicken, because I'm gonna do that.

And you're like, oh, I gotta go make that chicken.

I kind of like that better than bread.

Gotta go make that chicken.

To make that chicken, I gotta get my chicken from free people.

Yeah, you get a one hundred bitchy chickens, but you have to spend some chicken.

You got to spend some chicken to make some chicken.

You have to spend some chicken to make the chicken.

But I will say in order to what you have to spend, you're sort of getting it back, but you're not getting it back in cash.

You're getting it back and spending more of fruit people.

But it's like half off a place.

Share literally had stuff on her Christmas list from free people, and I was like, oh, that's a win, and that's my money.

The money I'm getting back that I spent on her is mine.

It's not okay.

Yeah, and then yeah, do y'all know the guy on the news like, I haven't found that part yet, but yeah, I remember that.

You know what I'm talking about.

To take care of yourself.

It's dangerous out there.

Dangerous out there, and hit us up.

We want to hear from you.

You can leave us a voicemail eight seven seven two oh seven two oh seven seven, or you can Emil Malice hey there at Feeling Things podcast dot com and we'll see you on Thursday for couch talks.

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Sorry I cut you off, you derailed us.

Sorry, half the day you need to have Bye bye