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All right, so Miss Dahl, Jenny, we could talk about what we were just talking about Miss Doll.

Like I said, we were.

I was asking Jenny here so about dating in the lifestyle.

And what we were saying is, is that I said, God forbid nothing happens to the Dean.

But if I had to go back on Tinder in the world, like I could never be with someone who was not in the lifestyle or didn't know about it.

And I said, but the weird part about that is if I went on a tender date, it would be so awkward for me to tell a vanilla what I do or who I am in the lifestyle.

I would think that would be weird for me.

But I could not be with a straight vanilla person ever.

Do you have to?

Agree.

Yeah, there's no way I could do it.

There's no way.

Once the toothpaste is out, man, once the people will taste the blood.

It's just it, I think.

Yeah, obviously there's a lot that transpires when you enter the lifestyle, right?

But a fair amount of it is due to the simple fact that you literally have to open up everything about you and you become very open like that.

And then trying to backtrack into, oh, we don't talk about that.

We just sweep it under the rug.

I don't want to talk about that.

Do you want to talk about that?

Yeah, of course I do.

But you don't this constant like battle.

And I would just rather I'll just stay single.

You know, I've already said this.

Once the cowboy's gone, that's it.

Like I'm just going to float so low.

Well, we didn't introduce our our guest that we have Jenny is on.

That's what we're going to refer to tonight.

She is a single female friend who has been around a friend of the show.

Actually, she's been a Co host on the show down and dirty in like season 2 and she was on one of the single female episodes.

So welcome again, Jenny.

Thank you.

Thank you.

For having me, it's super great to be back.

Yeah, Yeah.

Did you hear what we were just talking about, about dating?

I guess it's a little different for you because you're a single female, so you're probably still dating.

Yeah, lifestyle and outside of the lifestyle.

Yeah, so.

Date someone if they said I can't be in a lifestyle with you what?

Would you?

Would you better do it?

Is there any Dick that good?

I would really, it would really have to turn me.

It'd have to be like you got me wanting to come home every night for that.

But I think the only thing that would truly like if somebody didn't want to be part of the lifestyle with me, if they were OK with me still like having a hall pass type deal, I would be OK with that.

But if I could never, how often?

Would you need that hall pass?

Honestly like once a week?

Once a month.

I think it just.

Truly depends.

No, I'm the dude.

I need to negotiate this.

We need to negotiate this every January 1 so we know where we stand on your hall passes and where we're going to be at.

So if you had to pick one.

I feel like once a week, twice a month, twice a month is reasonable.

I feel like that's a fair.

Yes, that's a fair meeting point.

I think once a.

Week, we'll even give you the whole weekend we'll give you the whole weekend too.

Twice a month, whole weekend.

There you go.

Friday night through Sunday morning you get.

That's all I need.

That's all I need to go crazy.

See, that's how the negotiation goes.

That's how it goes over here at the at the Dean and I's house.

Exactly.

But yeah, I definitely could never, never go back to just being a vanilla person.

I would always have to be involved with my lifestyle, people, whether it just being friends or being in that environment, whether I'm playing.

I, I can't ever truly let these people go.

Lifestyle people are just more fun.

Not just that, but now I want to ask since you have, you have done both sides right, what is it?

What is it like being able to like tell some guy vanilla wise that you have been seeing and all of a sudden you're telling him, but yeah, I'm lifestyle and what is his reaction usually or like and.

When does that happen?

Is that the first date or is that like down the line?

So typically I try to get that out on the first date on most of my dating profiles.

I'm very open about me being Polly ENM.

Any of those, you know, open to all of them, whatever it may be.

So usually that's you gets that out of the way.

But if I meet somebody, just naturally, I tried it on the first date, let them know so that they don't have any expectations of me moving forward or they don't have this perception of me that may not be true.

I guess.

Because you know, once you talk about that, like you said, toothpaste is already out of the tube, you can't put it back and people are going to view you differently, whether it's positive or negative.

So, but to answer your question, Misses doll, I think the reaction is typically just what how does that work?

What do you do?

And you get to wear what I.

Told her earlier, I said.

I've never actually told a vanilla.

I've never had to end almost 30 years of doing this.

I've never had to sit down a true vanilla person and be like, you know what we do now?

The Dean tells people all the time.

At every bar outing we go to, the Dean tells somebody at that bar that.

Doesn't surprise me.

She tells somebody at that bar nose.

I mean, after the whole cruise incident, I wouldn't you know, she kind of, you know, just get it out there, just.

Which is crazy because that is the first time we've ever just done it with people in the wild.

And she tells people in the wild like, yeah, that's my husband kissing that girl up there, Like, so she tells them they don't need to know that I'm her husband all the time.

Now, Jenny, you're in Iowa, right?

OK.

Now tell the people a little bit about yourself.

How how do we know each other?

You come to events here, but do you also go to events in Iowa?

What's what's the scene like in Iowa?

The lifestyle scene?

Yeah.

So I started going to events in Minnesota and that's where I found my C&D people and obviously that's where my heart truly always lies.

More recently I have been getting more into the lifestyle scene in this area and it is still a little bit newer here, but they do have a really good community here and the one thing I've found is being a swinger is pretty much the same everywhere.

We're all about good vibes, having a fun even the fuck.

Even the events I've been to are just super similar, like we're all just roaming the hallways talking to each other, meeting up with all the old friends.

Now as Iowa, do they have on premise clubs there are you don't hotel takeovers?

What?

What style party is it?

They have, I think they have like 2 swinger clubs in Iowa.

I have personally never been to them but I know there's a couple but the one.

I've heard of one in Des Moines that I've never been.

Club G, that's the one that's super.

Popular.

Yeah.

And then there is one that's in Peoria, IL, which is about an hour and a half where I'm from that just recently opened, can't remember the name of it because they're very like Incognito.

So it's like super hush hush type deal.

They.

Don't want member.

They don't want members yet.

Well, they do, but they kind of like post it on Reddit and it's like very backdoor Speakeasy.

Vibe.

They put that thing on the dark web.

Yeah, yeah.

That's how you know it's a.

Little bit a.

Little bit sketchy but you know more.

Props to them.

It's nice to have more stuff in the area, but the events I've been to are like meet and greets and hotel takeovers.

Same type of vibe as C&D.

OK, cool.

Cool.

I've I've never really parted in Iowa.

I've been to a few like private things there, but not to Club G or any hotel takeovers.

But no, when was the last time we were just talking about this?

Last time I saw you was here at Mardi Gras.

March Party.

March Party.

March party.

Yeah.

So you've been coming to our events for a few years now.

Yeah, since.

20/22/2021 I think.

One of those and what is your, what is your favorite type of party?

What do you What do you prefer?

I always love the hotel takeovers and you know, Halloween's my favorite because it's right around my birthday, so it's the best way to celebrate a birthday with a bunch of other swingers.

This is very true.

It is the holiday.

It is the holiday now.

Now how is it now?

This is like we're getting like a secret single female episode and asking all these damn questions.

How do you like, I know you usually bring some of your friends with you that are also single females.

How is it for you guys going to events as single females?

What's the experience like?

Give us give us the like the lens of what a single female looks like that.

I think it's a lot of fun for us because I mean, who doesn't love a Unicorn?

And then when you put two of them together, it's even more fun.

And we always try to just bring good vibes and try to be as respectful as possible when it comes to the people in the lifestyle because ultimately the lifestyle is about couples.

I mean, yes, everybody wants a Unicorn that we're here as I feel like, as guests, as single people, just being able to be around everybody and being able to party with everybody without necessarily having to bring a partner that is my sexual partner is also definitely A plus.

Get the float around like you want to float around.

Yes, yes, I got somebody that I can kind of go back and talk to that's not a sexual partner, but also somebody that, you know, I can have those conversations with if I'm feeling uncomfortable.

Now I'm gonna help these people out, Miss Doll.

I'm gonna help the people out.

What?

Pro tip.

Ready, ready for the single, ready for the pro tip sound effect.

Jenny, why don't you help you help me help the people out If these people 'cause everybody we know, every fucking body in the world is looking for a single female.

Everyone who just signed up today, don't look for a Unicorn right now.

Give them the tips.

What is a tip?

What are do's and don'ts when approaching a single female at a party or approaching them online?

What do you go like OK I got you in the door without giving too many your secrets away or beat it, never hit me up again.

I say help them out, help them out.

The do's are make yourself known.

Make it known that you know if you have a crush, whatever, or if you're interested in playing, just make it known but don't latch on.

I think, and this happens to couples too, a lot of.

People, you get a lot of latchers.

Yep, they tend to latch on to people and get feel like a strong connection.

Or when you're at a party, they'll just wanna follow you around and be around you the whole night because they want something to happen, which I totally understand.

But at the same time, when you're trying to enjoy a party, that's not necessarily something that you want.

It's nice to have somebody that's just like, hey, I'm here if you want to without the pressure.

Good tip, good tip.

Yeah.

And I agree, that does happen as couples too sometimes.

Really.

Especially if you bring in someone new at their first event.

They're like, oh, I know you, I'm going to find you and I'm going to follow you around.

No, please don't.

Yeah.

It's like, go ventro, go make your.

Own trouble please.

Yes, exactly.

Go make your own trouble 1st and then come back and tell me how it went.

Yeah, go have some sex and then report back, yeah.

Don't shadow me, please go find your own fun.

All right, now you got to give them what?

What do you give them?

That's a that's a Definitely don't.

If you have any more don'ts before you give them the big do they all want to do, Everybody's waiting here for the do.

I think that's pretty much it for the don'ts.

I just you people that do too much or try to make themselves too known as the big don't.

The do is just be honest you know, and don't try to put me in the middle of your BS.

If you're having a relationship problems, don't.

I don't want to be here to save it.

I just am about having fun.

So if I'm with a couple and we're going out on a date, I want to enjoy the day and potentially have room to play.

I don't want to feel like there's pressure.

You get that a lot so.

I.

Yeah, like a lot of drama.

Once in a while, do you?

Is it more drama for you than than like cool being cool?

Is it more you find more drama with people than you do like it and what's move?

It's, I think it's equal between like being in a couple and like being a single female.

The drama's always going to be there, but it's just more uncomfortable when you're a single female because like in a party, if you have a friend with you, you can go back and talk to them.

But if you're out on a date with this couple and something happens, you don't necessarily have anybody that you can go and say like, holy crap, what what just happened?

I get it.

Yeah.

So definitely just be respectful is like the biggest thing I would say.

Be respectful, make yourself known, don't be pushy.

All right, you heard it right from a single female.

So when you're looking for those unicorns, make sure you're not a, what they call them fifth stage, clinger, whatever.

Don't be a Twinkie.

Person now, what about now, what about online?

Because that's always, obviously that's where it's going to be more prevalent, right?

Like you're not always going to get a, you're not always going to get approached at a takeover or at the bar or whatever.

Most of the time you're going to get hit up on the site ASAP because you got one couple that came in and they've decided all of a sudden, hey, I want a threesome and we only want it with a female.

Online, it's definitely a lot harder because you can't see people's body language to necessarily gauge like how genuine they are and you know, if you'll actually vibe with them.

But I think it's kind of goes very similar for online interactions.

Like just be respectful.

Don't send me if we're just having, if you just met me, don't send me a 5 page paragraph of why you want to have sex with a Unicorn.

Like I don't need all that.

Do you like Dick pic?

Every once in a while if it's solicited.

She passed up.

You don't like soliciting Dick pics?

No, like if it's like same type of thing, like we just started, you're talking don't just don't straight up send me the sausage.

I don't.

Like I wanna.

I wanna at least know your first thing you know what's your favorite color is first.

That's.

Like my thing?

That's like my thing.

Now I wanna know which women actually like Dick pics.

I don't know why.

Some of them do.

I like the taste.

It's it's not bad.

See tasteful.

It has to be don't send a flacid Dick.

Get some, get some grapes a little doily.

Yeah.

Don't.

All right, I know, I know.

For my next Dick pic shooting now what I'm going to do.

You're not even going to do it.

I don't even know why you're even.

Put a little hat on it or something.

Now that's entertaining.

That's.

A little hat, little whiskers on that my bucket.

The only way I'll ever see you doing it is like the SNL skit.

Where?

Justin Timberlake did it with the box.

All right, that's the.

Only time I should be.

That will ever be in a picture is in a box.

Well, both of you ladies, I have a question for you.

Will you be well, what was it last What?

When was the last time I saw you guys?

I haven't seen Miss Dawn a while.

Were either of you at the pool party in July?

No, I wasn't, No.

No, yeah, that was 4th of July.

It got rained out.

So we, you know, didn't really do anything that day.

So now the next pool party is in August.

Pool.

Pool season is getting ruined.

I will tell you that.

Pool season by the weather is getting ruined.

We have two more chances to redeem ourselves.

So everybody keep your fingers crossed.

And we just had glow 2.

Neither of you made glow 2 either, right?

No.

I didn't.

That was that was a great one.

It's always it's fun in the summertime to get a a a Group.

A good group of people together usually get smaller stuff in the summertime, but but that one parties.

Are always fun to.

Do Why do people love glow parties so much?

Adults like that.

Kitties lit up, ass lit up, all of it is real enticing.

Adults love glow parties.

It's crazy.

Yeah.

So we had that.

That was a great time at the the mansion there.

So that will be the last one we have at the mansion for a while.

But what we do have coming up, we have a party.

I don't know when this drops producer, but we have a meet and greet and Sioux Falls for the Sioux Falls listeners for the eye candy group out there to live 19th July 29th.

I don't think that's.

Right, that's when there's no, that's when this drops.

Oh, gotcha, gotcha.

OK, you missed it.

But Sioux Falls people, there will be more meet greets, but we do have the Hoedown coming up there for September.

Check out for that.

But the next event we'll be having in Minnesota will be the Brass Rail on August 9th.

Miss Doll, will you be at that one?

Your face tells me no.

That's a, that's like a 3070 face right there.

He was like 30.

No, sadly we will not be at that one.

I can see from your face I was like.

The pool party, Yes, the will.

The 30th we'll be at the pool party for sure.

We'll see you then, Jenny.

And we will be at the White Party.

Will you be in attendance?

You're jumping the gun and they tell him about the White Party yet?

Again there.

Close Jenny, will you be at the the Downtown party August night?

Unfortunately, no, I won't be.

I will be at one of the next pool parties, the one that's

before the August 30th 1:00, but won't be able to make that unfortunately.

All right, all right.

Well, for those of you listening, August 9th will be at the Brass Row.

That's our red hot event.

So that is we take over a whole bar right in the heart of downtown Minneapolis.

And the great part about this bar is it has a nudity license.

So ladies, you can wear skimpy shit, you can be topless if you want.

There's triple.

Be topless.

Yeah, you can be topless.

I allow it.

The city of Minneapolis, it's not me.

The city of the state of Minnesota allows it, I guess.

So yes, it's a cool, as my wife the Bean says quaint spot.

So it gets very.

Small for a lot of.

People.

So we get like the last party it was, it was real busy, the last one that we did there.

It was that one was very, very busy.

Yeah, so you get a lot of people.

Standing outside, out front.

Yeah, we have a Patty.

There's a, it's a inside outside sort of set up so you can, there's a patio area connected just for our group, private group, but it's right on the Main Street there.

So there's that aspect too.

But yeah, come on out.

It's going to be hot hopefully since it was like 60° here today, but it's going to be hot August 9th.

Come out in your hot red outfits.

Come join us for that then after that.

And the reason why I'm mentioning this now is because on couples nextdoor.com, this event is posted already.

It has a hotel takeover.

It is the White Party which is becoming a fan favorite.

And I changed the dates.

It used to be back in May and everyone was like, professor, we don't have our tans yet and you can't get white clothes yet, so we switched it.

To, I mean, technically you should have just made that hotel glow party too, because yeah, that's kind of yeah, right.

I'll bring the.

One in white.

White skin several weeks.

So yeah, that's going to be a hotel takeover and those rooms are almost sold out.

So if you need one, I would book now.

That's going to be September 6th and that's going to be in the Twin Cities area.

For those of you listening all over Twin Cities area, September 6th.

All of these events are on Couples nextdoor.com.

You have to be on Couples nextdoor.com to go to these events.

Miss Doll, any tips for the White Party for that hotel take right?

Have you been to a White Party before?

Yes, have been to the White Party before that was we hosted a room crawl or we were part of the room.

Gotcha.

Again, as always, wear comfy shoes.

A lot of walking around there is there is an elevator we've given stories on.

This.

Please do not over pack the elevator, it will stop functioning.

So be smart, be adults, OK?

Ladies, is it hard to find white lingerie or white alpha?

It's actually no, it's super easy to find.

It is.

It just a lot of bridal stuff.

Pretty much.

Like you can do Amazon.

Sheen always has a really good selection of white.

Stuff but why I'm asking is because I'm guessing if it's white you don't have as many options so a lot of people might get the same stuff.

As I saw, that wasn't hard to find stuff that you thought no one would have, no.

I have several pieces that I've gotten that are white for various.

I don't know because the cowboy decided to buy it for me.

So there are pieces that I haven't even worn.

He likes bridal lingerie too.

He just likes lingerie in general.

So the man is my shopper.

He shops all of my dresses, lingerie, 90% of my outfits for anything, you know, lifestyle wise.

He has purchased it for me and I just get to wear it showed off.

I like lingerie myself.

I like the good, a good show and tell.

Have you been to the White Party, Jenny?

I believe you have.

You've been around since we've.

Been out of them, I think I've been to a couple of them but I'm hopefully planning on being to this one too.

But the white parties are definitely always a good time.

Last year's was huge.

Last year was the biggest White Party we've had ever.

Oh, and I know, and I miss.

It that was massive.

Yeah, it was huge.

That one was massive, yes.

And just so you remember everybody, this is a heads up because don't forget you'll see it here.

By the time this comes out, it'll be out.

Halloween will be posted.

2 day hotel takeover.

Huge spot.

It's it's got the very, very large hotel.

We doing that with the two large ballrooms.

We're going to have two day hotel takeover.

Both nights are going to be events, DJ's dancing.

It's gonna be a great time.

So as soon as that post, I would book your room because those rooms sold out quick last year.

Even in even that many sold out that quick.

So look for that.

That hotel sold.

Out that hotel sold out and they were people were searching for hotels nearby, yes.

Yes, so definitely once that once you hear this it is out already so start booking and starting getting ready for your costumes and I I jumped the gun there before Halloween and have you been to have either of you have been to those I can't even.

Give No, not yet.

No, no, everybody who's listening out in Sioux Falls, Omaha, Iowa, all those places, there's a hoedown September 13th Sioux Falls Hotel Takeover.

There's a meet and greet Friday night and then Saturday night will be the actual hotel takeover and you know, DJ dancing, all that good stuff.

Neat thing about the Sioux Falls Hotel Takeovers, they do have a bar there, but it's for all intensive purposes BYOB.

They don't care if you bring stuff in because their bar is not full service.

So that is unique factor, remember for those, but otherwise, the same sort of setup.

If you've been a hotel takeovers with us, you dress up in the fame and then there's lingerie

change at 10:30 and then there's room crawls just after party sweep, all that good stuff.

But what I like to tell you guys too is make sure you read the event details.

All right, Pretty much all this stuff is on there.

I know some of you are new and won't understand the the context of it.

But if you're not new, do not text me to ask me what time it starts.

All right?

Nothing makes me hate you more when you text me stupid questions and I have.

To say on the websites in the event.

Like it's usually.

Read it all top to.

Bottom I'm friends with so I can't really be mad or people whose wife I screw or something so I can't get mad at him.

It's not texting me dumb shit.

Anything else?

Am I missing anything Miss Doll or Jenny that actually telling them about these hair parties?

Please let me see you at the Brass Rail pool party.

White Party, The eye candy takeover?

No.

So that's it right now.

That's it.

So it's going to start ramping up.

People swing season is starting.

Get ready, get those sitters lined up, kids going back to school.

Time to kick it now.

Jenny, thank you for coming on.

Of course, we appreciate it.

We're going to have to have you back sometime soon.

Turner rather than for.

A longer period of time.

Yeah, we just got a little teaser little single female teaser episode right here all.

Right.

All right.

Well, thanks, Miss Doll.

Good to see you again.

I will see you very soon.

And everyone, thanks for listening.

See you guys soon.

Bye.

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