I just had to elevate myself where I probably look like I have no legs.

Oh my god, is that a French tuck?

What are you a millennial?

I'm a millennial, So I am going to talk and cuff and roll.

Damn I clean.

Sounds like a drag queen.

I'm gonna tuck coffin roll.

What's up you guys?

Welcome to another fabulous fucking.

Episode, perfect our audio, keep.

Everything except for we need a staff of people that just are not here right now.

Right now, we don't have ever.

I'm trying to eat this label.

Also, people don't know what my product is called.

Is it okay?

This is?

This says that you're good.

I got enough of it all.

It just looks jankity, but that's fine.

And also there's trash behind my chaurl whatever.

Classy, keep it class so so.

Well.

When we're recording this so sometime we'll go by by the time the people are listening.

But you have entered into another year of the fabulous life you're living.

How do you feel?

I am officially forty five.

M I feel the same as what I felt when I was forty four.

It's good Dominic put on birthday card that he wrote to me something about He wrote me this very sweeteart, but then he said, you're something about being close to fifty.

It's like, that's rude.

Don't be a dick.

Yeah, don't write a really sweet heart and then say just five more years still fifty.

I was like, that ain't right.

Yeah, that ain't cool, especially exactly.

Fuck you bitch kidding.

I'm kidding.

I only talk about one child that way, and we know who it is.

I'm not going to it on here.

I was kidding.

Oh oh, I love it.

I'm here for it.

So yeah, I'm forty five.

We went out last night, y'all.

Let me just lay it out for you.

This is true bestie form right now.

Donald said, what do you want to do for your birthday?

I said, should we go to Vegas and see Pitbull?

And then we didn't end up doing that and I'm good.

And then we were talking about it two weeks.

Ago and I was like, I want to do.

Like something all day, Like let's just make a thing of it, you know, like I don't want to work.

And I was like chat ebt, like plan a day Los Angeles, but like elevate it, like think Kardashians.

Yes, I said that.

I wasn't really expecting like this like Kardashian party, but I wanted like up a vibe of high end.

And so it was like telling us places to go and shop and spa and lunch at Beverly Hills Hotel and d He's like, yeah, we're gonna do lunch a Beverly Hills Hotel and then this, and then we did talk about an escape room and we're like, that's fun and dinner.

So Donald says yesterday on my birthday, He's like, okay, so it's escape room and he's like it looks scary as fuck.

And I was like, wait, what because the only thing I think of when I think of escape room is like the Shit's Creek episode where they're trying to escape this Alice in Wonderland, like they have to answer all these clues.

Uh huh.

And then he sent me the link and I didn't open the link because I was doing something.

And then when I got to his apartment before we went out, he showed me it and I was like, what in case y'all miss it.

I don't like to be scared at all.

I don't watch scary movies.

Well, we were having the ghost issues up in this podcast.

I was like, I'm a burn it to the ground.

I knew I was nervous about that, but I was like, you know, it's a fun adventure.

We'll be there together.

And I wanted to pick the one that I thought would be the least scary.

He picked the most scary room that had the hardest clues.

That's what they said.

When they got there.

They said, have you ever done it?

And we said no, and they said, well, you pick the hardest various one.

The attic.

Yeah, the attic.

Yoa, we were in an attic.

It was pitch black.

They start you in like pitch black.

They take your cell phones, they take care everything.

They're like they don't want you to have anything.

You can't turn a light on, and it's creepy as fuck.

And this girl that was in the lobby that works there, she kept scaring me and it was like she was in plain sight.

But they were like, oh, you could take a picture right here, so I like, sit, don't take this picture.

And she pops her head through these like the side of these red curtains and she's like.

Like horror scream.

I was like They really did get me, Like every time.

I said, you, you're really asking to be punched, just so you know, No, we had the best time, honestly, just.

So you know.

The options were asylum, hide and seek, but it's like it said it was I w we contact, So I was like contact.

So I was like, we're not doing that because there's gonna be people like grabbing us INtime, somebody I was choking us.

I'm like, I'm gonna get an erection in this, not my kink in an escape room.

I'm totally kidding.

OK, got it.

You didn't tell me we were not suitable for work episode.

Now and then it was Daycare, Haunted, Fair, Cursed, Crypt, Resurrection, and Zombie.

So I was like, everybody's got an attic.

Maybe that's like the safest one.

But it was scary.

It was scary, but once we got into it, I was like so hell bent on solving the clues.

It was really I love those things and it was fun.

It's really fun.

If you've never done an escape room, you should find one, or like, if you don't have one in your town next time or someplace that has one, you should do it, especially with a group of friends.

I think, Yeah, you brought up something though, Like you said that there's one where there's contact, So can I tell you this is my psycho brain?

Yeah, welcome to the inner workings.

I know this isn't where we were going with the episode.

But we live in such a f dub world, like I won't go to a haunted house.

I don't let dim go to haunted.

Houses because I'm like, listen, y'all, people are crazy.

So if somebody's running around with a fake.

Knife and fake blood, some.

Crazy person, it's only a matter of time until they step in there and do some crazy shit, right, And it scares.

Me anytime I think about that.

You're like, you want to put me in an attic, you want to take my phone and the lights are all going to be off, and it's gonna be scary.

Am I coming out?

All right?

It is like you think, like there, I forget what movie it was.

Maybe it was the last Michael Myers or something, but one of those horror movies.

It took place in a haunted place like that, and I was like, duh, If I wanted to be some crazy murder, that's where I do it too.

Yeah, exactly, So I hope crazy murders are listening to our podcast getting ideas.

But yeah, real, so it's.

Always in the back of my mind, like any of those type of places.

So when you say contact, I'm like, oh, don't you because somebody's coming out battered and bruised, then it ain't gonna be me.

Yeah.

I was just like, what do you get the person who has everything?

And the answer was experience, and so we had.

We had experience, and I felt like we did do very good with those clues because some of them were really hard.

Yeah.

Yeah, they were like very puzzle Like the first one was this music thing.

Oh, there's no way an average normal person can get that without doing clues because they give you clues, which is nice because sometimes you're on the right track, but it's like, also so dark in there in the beginning.

You don't have all your senses.

Literally you took my sight.

Yeah, and I'm trying to figure out Anyways, it was fun.

We had a good time.

Yeah.

I didn't like the girl jumping out and scaring them.

I wasn't okay with that, But other than that, we had fun.

We had a great dinner.

It was good.

I'm excited for your forty five good.

Yeah, I'm here for it too, excited to see what it brings.

It's really weird to think, like, where was that last year?

We were like on set, we had just started filming belvetol.

Wow, I know, it's crazy.

It has been wild.

It has been a year.

It has interesting.

Yeah, and then like two weeks after that, everything flipped with body.

So it's like, yeah, it was right after my forty fourth birthday that I was like, oh my god, this was not what I was anticipating how this new birth year would start.

Yeah, can we rewind, like I'm gonna need a minute.

Yeah, but uh, you know, everything's been good and here we are.

But it does, okay, it does bring up a question like we're coming up on the holidays too, so birthdays like sort of opened the door you and I were talking about this, But it also comes up with so like gift giving, gift giving, gift receiving, gift returning.

Do you think that you're a good gift giver?

I am.

Would you say it's one of your because you know there's the love languages, Yeah, is that one of yours?

It is?

I love to give gifts and I love to give like but I need time, like because I do want it to be thoughtful and like and I'm like I it doesn't always it's not always a material thing.

Sometimes it's an experience, Like if I know somebody's really gonna love to go do a thing, like.

I want to plan that whole thing.

Like one of the things I did for my boyfriend was like just a trip to Napa because he loves wine.

This is when we were first dating, and like.

Just having the weekend and the food and like the different tastings and stuff like I love to do that and I love to get like I love to surprise people.

M M.

So not like especially if it's an experience.

Yeah, Like I mean I get excited to give him the gift too if it's but yeah, I do think I'm good at it and I like to do it.

I fucking hate it.

Really, I'm not good at it.

And it's always the because because I have this thing in my mind about it needs to be the perfect gift, it needs to be and I overthink it and then it's like you just find a throwaway gift to give something.

I think my love language is way more because I I do love quality time, okay, And so like how we celebrated your birthday yesterday.

The things we did was all spending quality time together, right, right and so or and sometimes like I think it's acts of service, like you know, the lines are very thin between getting someone a gift or doing something for someone.

And but as far as like packaging, like giving handing someone a gift, it's really not my strong suit.

I overthink it and I never feel awesome about it.

I think if I won the lottery it was a billionaire, I would because I just give people some expensive as ship.

Here's a Louis Vuitton luggage set.

Yeah, but yeah, it's not my thing.

And so I am excited to talk about this because I no, I can't be the only one.

And I will say it depends on the person too.

There are some people that are like super easy.

They you know, they just inspire ideas.

And there are other people like my father, where I just am like, and this is a person who could use anything.

Yeah, but I also feel like just nothing is the right gift for him.

Right.

It's so like I like giving gift.

I will say when I see if I'm someplace and I see something, I'm like, oh my god, this person would love it.

I love to get it for them.

But I think that's more of the acts of service side of me than it is the gift giving, because like gift givers love Christmas.

For example, Christmas was my least favorite holiday because of the gifts.

Interesting, well, okay, so two things.

I think it's a blurred line between acts of service and a gift because it is still a gift.

But and I actually think there's something so special about a gift just because you saw something that somebody would love, Like it's almost.

Even more meaningful than hey, it's your birthday.

I had to quote unquote get you something, because I know you don't get somebody, Like you don't have to get somebody something.

But it like sometimes you're like, oh, it's your birthday, I gott to come up with something exactly, or it's Christmas, I got to come up with something.

So yeah, I think that a gift just because it's pretty awesome.

And I do think yes, like Christmas especially like because not okay, not only is it Christmas, it's not even one gift.

Usually it's usually it's like multiple gifts for each person and there's a lot, so like you just get like gift fatigue of trying to figure.

Out what to get people totally eight.

Okay, so let me ask you this.

We're gonna bounce all over the place with gifts right now.

Do you start shopping early for Christmas?

No?

Are you?

Are you a last minute shopper?

Pretty much?

Well, it depends on what you call last minute, but yeah, no matter what you call it, I'm that like two.

Weeks or less before Christmas.

I pretty much.

Well, here's the thing.

Usually I don't buy all my friends a bunch of Christmas gifts most of the time, but some close friends I might and that's only if they're hosting a hard.

About like family and nieces and nephews.

That's what I was going to say.

Nieces and nephews I do not do early.

But nieces and nephews are easy.

It's like you just pick whatever age the choices.

Yeah, and my my adults in my family, the last couple of years we've been exchanging names, which I like so much more because then you can give a really thoughtful gift to one person instead of giving like a sweater.

Or a bunch of like small ten dollars limits.

So everybody gets something, but you can't really put.

A lot of exactly.

I mean, you can come up with something great for ten, but I'm just saying you could.

But it does just feel like, you know, we we live in such a society where we have so much shit already, and it's like to just have a bunch of shit because really, if there's something I want and it's between twenty and fifty bucks, I already have it, right, you know what I mean, Like I bought it already.

There's no way, like with instant gratification situation Amazon Prime, please, I already bought that.

So but it is fun for like exchanging a gift, maybe if you can spend a little bit more or you just put more thought into that one person.

So so we I'm an early Christmas shopper.

But here's what happens.

Like right now, Like, okay, it's September twenty fourth, so Dom goes into like lockdown, like he'll he'll ask for stuff, and I'm like, no, man, we're like two and a half months out from Christmas.

There are no presents right now.

And Dom's birthday is January twenty second, so it's like Christmas.

And then four weeks later I have his birthday and so I'm like, we're don't ask for.

Things, put it on a list and let me know.

Like that's where we're at now.

Yeah, but I will.

Start keeping my eye out, like come October, that's when I start to start keeping my out, like am I like And so if I see something for somebody, I get it and then it's just like okay and sort of like that's taken care of so that I do have more time and I don't get burnout fatigue.

But what you sually ends.

Up happening is I'll spend a few weeks doing that, and I'll get a bunch of like I'll get a bunch of people taken care of, and then I feel like I'm done, and then all of a sudden, two weeks before Christmas, I'm like.

Oh shit, I forgot da dada.

Oh shit, I forgot da da da.

It's not quite as bad now, especially because work is a little bit different and we're not in the office every day.

But I used to buy for a lot of my coworkers because I had, you know, I want to putting out two programs a year and all this, and I had teams and stuff, like I really wanted to make sure I took care of people, so it's not laid out like that as much.

So it's not quite as many people I have to buy for anymore.

Yeah, and my nephews are older now, like seventeen, twenty dom sixteen.

We all know they want money.

Yeah, makes it a little bit easier than it did when I had to like search for the gift.

But I am an early shopper for it.

What is you okay?

So it's receiving gifts.

What is your favorite childhood Christmas present that you got?

Can you think of one?

Oh?

That really stands out.

Well.

When cabbage Patch dolls were like all the rage, Me and my brother and sister all wanted one, and my mom did a get us one each got one, and I did love my cabbage Patch doll.

Like that one stands out because I remember like that was a big deal that people were fighting in the stores for those things, and the fact that my mom was able to get three.

There was a time she actually was better mom she is now sure didn't get a birthday call or a cabbage Patch stall then nope.

Yeah, I feel like the cabbage Patch doll stands out.

And there was one Christmas I remember there was this like purse I saw, like I don't know if we were at J C.

Pennies or something.

It was gray and I had little pink hearts on it, and I remember opening it up on Christmas.

I probably was like five, and I remember like putting out my shoulder and I was like, I'm a mom because I.

Have a purse.

But I was so excited that I got that perse and it had like my little fake lipstick in it and like a little hair brush and.

Stuff like that.

It's funny, what about you?

Those are two that I remember.

What about you?

Well?

My parents always thought I was really hard to buy before, because I remember I was.

I was like, I want a computer, and so they got me.

I was a child and I don't even think my family had a computer yet, and they got me like one of the I think it was a Fisher Price like you press it.

It had some games on it, and I opened it and I was like, this isn't what I want the toy.

I don't want a proper computer bit you know what I mean.

But yeah, but one that stands out that I loved.

And I don't remember how old I was, but I was small enough that they took us to Santa, and I told Santa what I wanted, but I feel like I also kind of knew my it was my parents, like.

I don't don't let your kids listen to this eis.

Yeah, and and well you know because parents and parents give you presents and Santa give your presence.

So anyways, I asked Santa, even though I think it was the imposter like on lal, it wasn't the real Santa.

I was kidding he.

I was like, I want Barbies, which is so embarrassed to ask because little boys weren't supposed to play with barbies.

But I really wanted some, and I was shocked that Christmas to open up.

I got in the Latin and Jasmine Barbie and I actually fucking loved it.

And I was just so happy.

And I remember being like, oh my god, I can't believe that I got these.

I got this.

I have to go to my friends to play with theirs, because I actually thought barbies were really cool when I was little Barbie yeah.

And then the other one that stands oh, I was fifteen, so I was a little bit older, and they got me an entertainment center like for my bedroom.

Oh, so like that where I put a TV like glass doors, bitch, she can tell me nothing.

I was like, all right, well this is my house now.

I was up there, Yeah it was my apartment.

It wasn't my bedroom.

I was like feeling myself.

So those are the two that stand out, and I really loved those.

That's funny.

Those are good ones.

You know.

It's really funny what someone said today that we should be Aladdin and Jasmine for one of our Halloween costumes.

Sea cute, right, yes, so there you go.

What it's deprecating humor, but I love it.

I'm here for it.

I'm gonna look like allowed and after he stole if you have strolls of bread, bitch.

With that, I was like, I'm gonna have to have I'm going to be the Prince Aladdin to have the full cover with the shoulder pads because she ain't open vest ready.

That's what That's the body you get from running from the guards.

Okay, I ain't had to run from a garden a minute.

That's a body get.

We got to steal your.

Food, you don't have readily.

The abundant I'm living that abundant life.

I wouldn't say I'm Princess Jasmine right now.

But we'll die and here.

We are, here we are, We'll.

Be like the Aladdin and Jasmine that walk Hollywood Boulevard.

Yeah, are like I don't want to take my picture with Thats.

Okay.

Question.

Another question though about Giff giv me uh huh.

I have a pet peeve.

When people ask what do you want?

I'm like, that's tacky, Like that mean, it's tacky to respond.

But by the way, I'm also guilty of asking people what they want, so just know I know that.

But like, if somebody says to you, what do you want?

Are you are you supposed to actually tell them what you want?

Or are you supposed to be like the polite like you don't have to get me anything.

I'm good.

Like if somebody asks you, it's like, well, it's weird because then you're like you you're automatically aware of like what something might cost or should.

I ask for that?

Or like so yeah, I know, but I know when people ask their trying.

To get an idea because they want to get you something that you're really gonna love.

Yeah, but it's like, well, do you just give a vague like I'd love some clothes or some cute earrings would be nice, and you're not obviously suggesting diamonds, but you're like, maybe you want some hear like or should you just do the polite You don't have to give me anything, Like, what are your thoughts on that?

I it's so funny.

I just have a story that came to my mind because of this, because I wanted and I still want.

I haven't got one yet, and it's something I'm like, Oh, I'd like this.

I don't need it to be a very expensive one.

Okay, a guitar, so I can.

I can learn to play.

I can strum a few chords.

But my dad and both of my brothers are phenomenal guitar players.

Acoustic, yeah, acoustic and electric.

My brother Joey plays every instrument.

But I'd like an acoustic guitar.

Got it, But there's a lot to that, Like also, I would need to learn how to tune it.

But I want to start learning that.

And it's an easy thing to learn because you can just pick it up and strum it and will look cool if they're hanging on your wall.

But Donald's mom and dad don't get him some fake ass cheap guitar because he's want.

To look at you and be like, no, bitch, wait.

No, I am gonna throw some shade at my mom and dad right now.

I feel bad if my mom listens, because two Christmases ago, I forgot about this until this conversation.

We were like talking about it and she was like, oh, yeah, a guitar.

Okay, that's cool.

She was like, don't get a guitar because I was like, maybe I'll buy one, Like literally, I would practice my first one.

I'm like to see if it's something I stick with.

I wouldn't even spend maybe two hundred bucks on like not really expensive guitar.

So they're like, don't get one.

I was like, okay.

So I was just geared up and bitch, when I tell you, Christmas came and there was not a guitar tree.

I was looking around and they're like, all right, guys, what do you want to eat?

I'm like, I didn't say it.

It's the first time that they're to hear about it.

And I was like, you told me not to get one.

Was that just you told me it's not and you're not.

That's Joey exactly.

You're the singer, baby, you sing, that's your instrument out it's so funny.

But that's any general to your point.

I I feel like the beauty in gifts really is the gesture.

So it is weird to say what do you want?

Unless you're buying for someone you have no idea what they like.

But I don't know.

I don't think like if I didn't know what to get someone and I wanted to get an actual gift, I would call some of my friends with some ideas and be like, what do you think.

About somebody that is that might have a better understanding.

Yeah?

Yeah, but people you know, I know, like I said, they view it a lot.

So it's like, okay, so if somebody, and this could be any context, it could be boyfriend, it could be parent, it could be friend.

So if somebody were to say to you, what do you want?

Would across the board you always just say you don't have to get me anything?

Or would you one person you would tell something, to the other one you would say nothing.

The other one you would maybe vague it out.

I think with I think with a partner, it's nice to mention things that you'd like that maybe you're not going to get yourself.

But some gift ideas as they come, but no, I don't really.

The thing is, like, I'm not going to ask.

I don't want to be specific because I'm very particular about things, and so I'm just like I appreciate the gesture, Like if I wanted art for my wall, that's great, But if you get me art that I'm not into, you know what I mean.

But clothes are kind of like that for me too, Like something is a nice gesture, but if I don't like it, if it's not my vibe, it's going to be hanging in my closet and until you toss it or I'll return it.

Yeah, and I think that should be normal.

Okay, that was my next question.

Returns and regifts acceptable or asshole?

Hmmm.

I'm thinking I'm trying to think about it.

I think returns definitely.

I think actually, these rings I have on are because I exchanged the gift that you got me.

I forget what it was I got you.

I think I get you a braceletlet from Louis.

Yeah, yeah, and you got the rings instead.

I got the rings instead because the bracelet just wasn't something I would have worn as much.

And I was like I felt I was like, I know, Autumn, she will want me to have something that I'm really gonna get a lot of use out of it, for sure, And so I exchanged it for those and so that's what I would want ye to do.

You told me, You told me right away.

You were like, just so you know, I exchanged it because I saw these rings and I think I'll wear them more.

And you wear those rings.

Like their beat to Hell.

Yeah, I just love them.

I think they're so cute.

So I love that you were able to get something, and I know you very much appreciated what I got you.

So I didn't take it to heart like that.

You know, it's like, you do the best you can and if somebody wants to So I.

Did I agree with you that returns should be acceptable.

Do you have to tell the person you returned it?

Or is it just acceptable?

See, I think it really depends if.

Because if you don't tell them, they're and maybe it's something that they would wear.

They keep looking to see if you're gonna wear it, and they need to wear it.

Yeah.

So it's like, honestly, if anyone takes anything away from this episode, it's you can't your gift isn't a key into someone's life to control them?

And like, do you know what I mean?

Like why are you wearing it?

Like do you want me to say that part out loud?

Because I don't like it, heifer, Like, it ain't my style.

That's why I'm not wearing it.

I thought you would, you know too, but I guess i'll spell it out you.

Oh, what do you think?

I think you're fucking hilarious, just so you know I love it so much.

Yeah, I don't know that I would.

I'm trying to think if there's ever I mean, I'm sure there's something.

I have returned this necklace I have on my triangle necklace that everybody loves so much.

It was an exchange and there was like two necklaces that my boyfriend had got me, and I love them, but actually it was that one of them was similar to one I already had, and I was like, well, I already have one like this, And I know he doesn't remember all my jo like he didn't remember all the jewelry I had, and I went in just to see what else they had, and I saw this one and I just am obsessed with this one.

And I did tell him like that I exchanged.

It, and I think at there was like a little part of them it was probably like but he always had great taste with stuff that he got me, so I.

Was like, Okay, if it wasn't that I didn't like it, it was actually that it got me something similar to what I already had, so like the taste was still good.

I just already had it.

But I did tell him, So I guess it depends on the context if I would tell somebody or not.

Yeah, like a partner, spouse, you gotta tell, like, did this means so much to me?

But I actually think I'd wear this more?

And in my universe there's no reality that I'm upset about that.

Same with family member, like anything, if I give something to any of my family members and they want to exchange your return it, I'd be like, oh, sure, I thought it was cute, but if it's not your vibe, or if you already have something like it, or if you're not going to wear it, then get something you like.

Yeah, And I always try to indicate that because that's you know, what gift receipts are for exactly.

So if you put a gift receept in for me.

Then you've given me the go to go ahead and exchange it if I want to, So you can't put a gift re seat in also and then be mad about it.

Yeah, okay, but what about regift regifting?

Hmmm, yeah, I'm here for it.

I think regifting is great for things like wide elephant games or like if you like, do you know what I know I've done?

If someone brings me a bottle of wine, Yes, and then I go somewhere I might grab that bottle of wine and bring that.

It's like the traveling bottle wine to be a gift, and you know at that point it really is for the gesture and it's fine.

And I think something like alcohol that's probably not a super sentimental like unless somebody went above and beyond and was like a really expensive bottle or like a unique bottle or something like that, in which case you would probably know that I'm with you for sure on the regifting of alcohol.

Things that are a little bit more general, like a candle, Like I'm not a candle person, but people have given me candles before.

I just don't like candles in my house in general, Like.

It's just not my go to.

So I've regifted candles because what is the other option to throw it out?

Like, of course I'm not going to throw it out, but I'm also not going to go try to return or exchange a candle.

So if there's somebody else that I think that I know likes candles that would really like that, then yeah, I'll or I'll regift, slash, give away, give two.

Like I don't necessarily be like.

I'm gonna save this candle to somebody's birthday.

I might just give it to somebody like, oh I got this and like I'm just on a candle person, do you want it?

Like yeah, kind of thing.

So I think again that that's good, it's acceptable.

I think go ahead.

If it's a sentimental thing, definitely that is different, Like I wouldn't do I wouldn't just regift that.

One time someone gave me an old Louis Vuitton bag that they had, So it's kind of a weird gift because it wasn't for it wasn't a weird gift, but it was a used gift.

It was a Louis Vuitton that they had that they gave to me, and I appreciated that, but it wasn't like they bought the one that I wanted for me, I'm.

Going to look at Louis Vuitton smug in the face.

No, I ended up giving it to my mom.

Oh okay, And I feel like I felt good about that because I'm like, this is really a really nice gesture, but I'm really not going to use this like weekend Louis bag and my mom doesn't didn't have any Louis Vuitton, and I was like, okay, I'm going to give that to her.

So I guess maybe i'd just break all the rules.

I don't know, now that I think about it.

I think again, you know which friends or or loved ones might be offended by it, and you know which ones wouldn't be.

So I guess it all comes down to the context of.

What it was given to you for.

Yeah, what that person could do in terms of a gift, Like, you don't want to make somebody feel bad if they're like, this is what I can do, and I really wanted to do something special for you, right, But yeah, gift giving, man.

I think it's kind of stressed me out.

Actually, as I'm thinking of this, I'm like, oh shit, what am I going to get this person this year?

That you know, but I think it is important for people to remember it really is just that someone thought of you.

And I am committed to not letting that rob my joy of like holiday seasons or birthday.

I mean, I used to have real anxiety, you know, when people open up gifts in front of people.

I buy all, fuck, they're gonna get to my gift.

Everyone's gonna laugh at it, you know what I mean.

Like my gift sucks because it just was never my thing.

But but now I feel better about it because I think I just don't overthink it so much.

Yeah, I do think that that's a good one.

I feel like we should definitely revisit gift giving as we get a little closer to holidays and maybe you and I Okay, I just think in general, women have a hard time buying gifts for guys, Okay, Like I think men are a little bit harder to buy for.

Like, I can't tell you how many blog articles I've looked up over the years, like what's the unique gift?

What's that like?

And they always say the same things for guys, and I'm like, these are the lamest gift ideas.

It's like tools for Dad and I'm like, I bet dad doesn't want tools every year.

He's like, my kids fucking hate me, like you know, like yeah, oh I got a wrench.

Woohoo.

You know, Like I mean, fine, if your dad's like a carpenter or something, then maybe tools.

But like, at a certain point, tools are right they how are they going to get about it?

I don't know, it's hard, but that my dad is a hard one too, Like.

You get your dad.

He he he's into records.

Oh, but at some point it's like, okay, he has every record.

Now like he doesn't have every record.

But that leads me to another question.

M So, like you said, oh, like he's into records, but he has a bunch.

So when somebody's into something and they have a bunch of it, do you buy them.

More or do you are you like, okay, they have a bunch.

Like right, So one year I bought him this record cleaning system that you put it in the so he could use for his records.

But then my dad, I kind of he is of adults in my life.

I buy him the most toy like things, like I bought him a drone, just a little drone one year, you know, stuff like that.

That, and I feel like I because it is like, you know, especially guys like my dad, who he hasn't really care that much about what he's wearing, you know what I mean.

Like he's a basic in terms of, you know, he puts on a shirt he wants to he wants to look nice, but he's not like some fashionista trying to get a certain fit.

So it's hard to know.

But yeah, like they'll say tools.

They'll say, oh like rooming stuff like this man's shaving thing, and I'm like, m is that exciting to open up?

I don't think it is right.

One of my brothers, I don't remember his last year of the year before I got him uh shaver that I used that I really like, and I was like, this gift fucking sucks.

So then I also got him a shirt and I was like, okay, talk about throwaway gifts.

You know, well it.

Depends on the shirt because you have very good style and stuff.

But yeah, or they'll I'm going through the list in my head of what they say for guys barbecue stuff, alcohol, and I'm like, so we need to do some deep research of like what gifts are good to give guys in different price ranges, be it a brother, a dad, a significant other, a best friend.

Like they're hard to buy for That's where I try to go to, same like I try to go to experiences like again, if somebody's into a sports team.

So for Dom's dad can't like I've gotten him tickets to like the Rams or not the Rams the Chargers.

Before, he's the same thing.

He's hard to buy for him, Like I don't like what do he want?

Like yeah, And he always does very sentimental gifts for me, like he'll have a blanket made with a bunch of different old photos of Dom on it, or he'll like frame photos for me to hang on the wall of me and Dom that are like good photos.

He's done photo books before.

So I do think sentimental gifts like that are good.

Yeah, I like I like ones that are like for for our rap gifts.

The last two times we filmed that, I was a part of it.

I gave like a custom pair of socks in one and then like the mug.

I think that kind of stuff is really cute.

That is really cute too.

But I like to do we're going this place or things like that.

But anyways, I think we should revisit it.

I think we should do some deep research and come up with good gifts ideas.

Not just for guys, we'll do it for girls too.

But before cannabis was legal in Arizona where we celebrate my family celebrates Christmas, but it was legal here.

I told my mom I was going to get everyone cannabis products and they would be packaged and nice.

She's like, oh my god, I I believe we're going to do that.

I don't think we should do that.

It's obviously years ago.

But so because I'm so excited about that, I'm like, let's talk about a nice Christmas.

Everything's gonna be so happy.

Exactly, you just make.

Exactly you have the pies ready, I'll get them ready for your pies.

Like we got along so well exactly.

So yeah, because you're right, it's hard to know for guys, especially, girls are more fun because of like clothes and jewelry and cute stuff as long as they can return it.

Yes, but again, what do you say to like the person who has a bunch of something, like I know you said for your dad, like, oh he has a bunch of records.

You got a record cleaning stuff?

But like an easy, okay, an easy go to for me anytime a birthday or holiday comes up, like spa gift cards or something I always get people just like because they know I work out so hard, so obviously a massage or a little pampering.

And by the way, I love it, like it's a it's a great gift.

But like people give me that all the time, workout clothes great gift.

I love it.

You could like, I can never have too many workout clothes, so for me, I like those things.

I'm saying though, like would there be something that would be like too much of?

I don't know.

Do you have something that you have a lot of?

No?

Okay, I feel like I should be easy to buy for except I am particular, so I might not like what it is.

And a lot of my friends who have bought me gifts, I do exchange them or return them because they're just something that I wouldn't get a lot of use out of.

Good to know, but Donald gets gift cards something.

Yeah, I sometimes like cologne.

I mean I feel like I'm pretty.

I feel like if someone sees something and they think I like it and they get it for me, then it's probably good.

Yeah.

I love look, clothes are an easy one for me, Like, but you know, like I love fashion, I love jewelry, and it doesn't have to be expensive stuff, like there's just like the cool trendy stuff.

That's an easy one for me.

I mean I love shoes and again not it could be nikes, it could be fancy shoes, but those are ones where you kind of have to know the person's side.

Yeah, and I don't know, it's like hard, but it's because it's not my thing.

I think shoes.

No gift giving because I don't know I would if someone was like, go buy automate gift right now, I would be like, I'm gonna have to leave here and never come back.

I don't know what to get this bitch, let that go.

I mean, yeah, because what do you get someone who can, you know, conceivably has everything.

Well, again, I think it has a little bit more like I saw this because I thought you would like it.

Yeah, yeah, well I got you an orchid.

I do think plants are fun.

I love the orchid.

I do like I now have a great that only lasts so long, But.

I did I did kind of look at it like the orchid like baby, I'm sorry, but where I'm sending you, he may not live long.

You said you don't keep organs livelong anyways.

Yeah, no, I don't get I think they're beautiful, but it is it.

Bad to let people know because weddings you're allowed to do like weddings now like it used to always be you had to register blah blah, and now people kind of get to quote unquote register for cash for like the honeymoon or buy us like they do their whole honeymoon planning.

And then they'll say, like you could go to a website and you could pay for their spa treatment, or pay for their dinner one night, or pay for it like so that different events, or their horse good they're gonna horseback ride, and you can buy that for them, which I think is pretty cool because that you're kind of or you can just give them money that they'll have that they could spend or furnish their house or whatever.

And I was thinking about that, like, because I have had people ask me over.

The years, like what what do you want?

And sometimes I'm like, what I really want is I'm just saving to remodel the kitchen.

Yeah, and like, no, nobody's gonna just hand me the money I need to.

Remodel a kitchen.

But you're like, oh, if over the years, if it was like and by the way, if somebody gives you ten bucks and you put it towards the remodel of your kitchen, fine whatever, Like that's the thing, you know what I'm saying, Like, so is it wrong to sort of let people know, well, I'm saving for this, so if you wanted to contribute whatever amount.

No, I think that's good to do.

And you know what I tell people also that it just occurred to me if someone's like, what do you want?

I love like interesting glassware.

Hmm.

I think it's fun and fun to decorate.

I like to serve drinks and different kinds of glasses.

And you're talking about cocktail glasswaar yeah.

Cocktail maybe interesting martini glasses or maybe maybe like tall glasses you could serve with a picture, you could serve some ice.

I love that kind of shit.

At a certain point, don't you run out of room?

Well that's the thing.

If I tell everybody that, I'm gonna.

Be like, Okay, now Donald's only getting glasses exactly.

Yeah, Well, I guess the fun is it's a surprise.

The art of gift giving.

You know what I don't like to do.

What I don't like to wrap it?

Oh, I can't wrap to save my life.

My name.

It ain't pretty.

But I'm like, they're just gonna rip this shit off anyways.

I know.

But you know how some people are great at making everything pretty and like, just the presence under the tree looked like a gift in and of itself.

You barely want to open the wrapper because no, mine looks like a two year old did it every time?

Like I sometimes, just so the presents are pretty under the tree.

When I'm buying them at the mall, I go to the gift wrapping station.

I did it last year and I sat there and waited, like literally, it took them like an hour and a half.

It was like four presents for dom.

I was like, oh, what is taking so long?

But of course it's beautiful, and I'm like, well, that's what's taking That's why autumn you.

Have no patience.

But are you a good gift wrapper?

No?

So I'm not great.

But one year I wrapped a gift with leftover like the holiday sales ad paper, and it looks so cool the way I lined it up.

And I made my own bow with it, and everyone looked at the present like, oh my god, this is so cool.

And it was literally like a newspaper ad wrapping paper, but it was that I I mean, it wasn't wrapping paper, but I used it to be wrapping paper.

And I felt like a pretty bad bitch doing that.

Did you see that one episode where Kim Kardashian used Skim's fabric to wrap all the gifts.

I mean she didn't wrap the gifts, of.

Course, but I was like, that's next level.

That was That's always nice level for that.

Yeah.

Yeah, my wish list might be a little different if Kim Kim was providing the gifts.

If a Kardashian's buying me a present, I'm for sure going to tell them what I want.

List in the kitchen starts with.

The pantry, right, Well, huh, yeah, this has been fun.

I think these aren't listen.

I know it seems so like surface level, but you everybody gives gifts and receives gifts all.

Year long, and it's a lot of pressure And the truth is on a serious note, the pressure of gift giving and stress of finances and keeping up with the jones is around the holidays.

Really did rob joy from my holidays for a long time, and I I appreciate now.

I feel like I've recovered from that and come out of that.

And if anyone out there is struggling with that, just know you're not alone.

And it's not about that.

It's about spending time with family and loved ones.

And it's someone doesn't like you because of the gifts you give them.

Fuck that bit.

Yeah, that's not a it's not a friend.

That's not a friend.

Or check in on that love one, like put them in check exactly.

Man, I just had a whole nother road I wanted to go down with it.

Well.

The only thing I was going to say was like all the holiday sales right, Like, it used to be okay, Black Friday, and that was like, oh, you go to the mall late at night, like and you shop, yeah at night on like into Friday morning.

Yeah, or you got up super early the day.

After Thanksgiving and you know, six am and you're at the mall and you're doing the shopping.

And then it was like Black Friday Cyber Monday, and then it turned into like whatever they do the week before, and now it's like starting come October, sales start happening for Christmas so early that it actually brings the pressure on so much earlier because now you're looking at the sales like should I buy it now?

Should I wait and see what else comes?

What?

Like, it's just like a constant on your mind.

Things, so it is.

It can really rob you of it.

It can be fun, but it can be stressful and like you know, some people can get their feelings hurt if they're really like excited about giving a gift and then it's not well received or somebody returns it.

So I think, you know, just find the balance, have the conversations.

Let's open it up.

You know what's acceptable.

Well it's not.

Maybe we're the assholes.

Maybe maybe we're the dry We're not.

Are we the problem?

Maybe?

Anyways, Anyway, I can't wait to see what happens for Christmas.

I can't wait to see what you get me.

We're gonna open.

We're gonna opens on the podcast.

Right.

We have we have responsibilities that we have to do.

We have to plan our event.

I think we're gonna plan it for aur for the New York.

We've got a lot of emails about people really excited about the fact that we were talking about doing an event or a retreat or both.

Lots of people very excited, so we got those emails.

We're in the works of planning.

It's probably going to be early in twenty twenty six that we'll do something.

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