My girlfriend wants to share locations.

I think this is overkill and invades my privacy, but she says, if I have nothing to hide, what's the issue.

I can't argue with her.

I mean, it's frigging creepy.

It's just like a feeling.

The minute someone like just walks over, like my daughter picks up my phone, I'm like, what are you doing?

It's like a rectal exam.

Like I don't like anyone in my body, in my purse, in my phone, so I certainly don't need someone knowing where I am all the time.

It's creepy and weird.

What if he went to like get a colonic You have to have trust?

And I get his point, and a woman who would ask that is like, it's okay to know where someone is, but you know what I mean, Like I have my daughter's location.

I even feel weird when she knows that I have it, because it's like where'd you go?

What'd you do after that?

And I feel like a psycho And it's my child, So I'm not here for that, okay.

The girls actually prefer bad boys when they're children.

When they're children, when they haven't worked at their own issues.

Bad boys.

Okay, there are different types of bad boys.

I dated a guy who worked on an oil rig who was probably the hottest man that I've ever seen in my life, and he had that like ruggedness, but he was a good guy.

And there are a lot of those guys.

They just they're not costplaying the rugged thing.

Like there are people on TikTok the guy that Christian Cavalary dated, like he and his friends are all like shirtless and like hot with a baseball cap on, like singing country shit.

Like that's costplaying whatever it is, you know what I mean.

There are guys who are actually like that because that's how they were raised.

Like they just they are like chopping wood and they like work outside so they have that six pack, but not from being like bros trying to cosplay that.

So there, and those guys are usually really nice.

Those guys were usually raised well or just like have good manners and they're real men.

But like people who act like bad boys, they're losers.

So like these guys that want to be like fucking tough in the gym and you know, acting like cool and tough, they're losers.

So I don't like that at all because it's kind of if you're pretending you're a bad boy, or if you're trying to be a bad boy, or you're leaning into a guy who's a dick who sleeps with a lot of women.

That's different, Like, that's a dick, So do you want to be with a dick?

Now?

I think that men want to be with good guys.

But the truth is, really good looking men who have been good looking their whole life they're very nice because they're secure.

It's often like the short guy that got no women in college who makes a little bit of money that later acts like a real dick because he's insecure and he's trying to make up for But I've found that really like the really good looking guys who have always been pretty secure, they're really nice, So it's not necessarily connected to what you look like.

Most really good looking guys shouldn't be pompous assholes because they have nothing to overcompensate for.

It's the guys who like all of a sudden, had to glow up or have been working really hard at it.

They want to like act cool because they know it's not really true.

It's not authentic.

So you gotta read between the lines because Ultimately, you want a man who is very secure.

People don't talk about that enough.

And by the way, I'm not in a relationship.

I haven't dated for seven months, and it'd be like, what the fuck does she know she's the worst at relationships.

I'm actually not bad at relationships.

I'm actually not bad at being in a relationship.

I'm not actually bad at getting guys.

I haven't chosen at the level that I should be choosing based on my intelligence, success, relatively decent physical appearance.

Like I do not think that I am a super I honestly do think I'm a supermodel.

But I've redefined what a supermodel is.

But I don't think.

I don't have delusions of who I should be with.

Like I've been pretty good at getting men.

I have never been delusional about it.

I know my worth and it's not skewed.

But I do believe I'm decent at relationships.

I'm good at being a partner.

I just haven't chosen wisely for myself.

I have not been good at choosing something that could be sustainable.

I settle based on what I believe I deserve and should be doing.

I'm choosing my words wisely because I don't want you to think I'm being pompous, but I'm I'm actually accurate in what I'm saying.

Okay, I kind of like settle and don't like go the distance, and this is the first time in my entire higher adult life.

But I have gone seven months and it's nuanced and it's a couple of things, and it's not me being too picky.

I am not too picky.

I'm accurately picky.

It's almost like you've been great on your juice fast or your health regime.

I'm not fucking ruining it for somebody that I know I'm not ending up with.

So this is not the age to fuck around.

So that's why I haven't gone out in seven months.

I went out.

I think I'm one proper date and that was at the level that's really pretty much it.

So overall, I'm not breaking it unless it's really worth it.

Okay, she hasn't texted since our first date three days, but it felt good.

Do I follow up or should I leave it in her court?

What court?

What are you talking about?

This is court?

You're a man, first of all.

If you did follow up and she wasn't responsive, she's not interested.

But you can't.

You know, there's a very fine line in pursuing and stalking, and you better find out where it is.

You let the person know your interest level.

You reach out.

If they don't respond that they're not interested in you, that's it.

You don't chase it.

That's it.

You chase the dog.

The dog runs away, the dog chases you, you run away.

You could say one thing to say, it's clear.

It's unless my radar is off.

You can be vulnerable.

Unless my radar is off.

It seems you're not interested.

I thought you were great, and I wish you the very best, and you know, I let them know in a nod stocky way that you're interested.

But I'll leave this here like you're piecing out, but in a very nice way, letting them know that you're interested, but you're not gonna like chase them.

You have to find a very concise don't drone on because people like to drone on about it.

I thought it was a fit, and I really want something down to earth.

A lot of men say to me because they know I'm a public person.

If you're looking for no drama down to earth, you know that's me.

What the fuck are you talking about who's gonna be like I'm looking for drama and I want someone who's inflated and is not down to earth.

Shut up.

It doesn't need to be said.

It's like men talking about that they're a very involved dad or they're into fitness.

Shut up.

That's not like needs to be said.

You're not a gigantic, overweight, unhealthy sloth because I looked at you already, so like, you don't need to tell me you're into fitness.

It's like weird.

I get it.

I'm into being healthy.

Who's not Like no one is like that now, no one you're gonna be interested is like that.

Now everyone thinks they're healthy, just like everyone thinks they're organized and everyone's full of shit.

Also, but like, please do not like I don't need to hear that.

I don't want to bring my girlfriend around my guy friends.

She thinks it's weird, is it?

Yeah?

This is even my I don't even understand.

It's you like bro culture, like fist some guy at a wedding last weekend, try to fist, pound, fist, pump what is it called.

I don't want it to seem like I'm getting fisted, but like whatever, that thing and I go no, and he did it like three other times because that's like his like weird and secure tick of like connectivity, like cool, Yeah, I like, don't ever do that to me, And every time I wouldn't.

It's sort of like I'm just not responding.

I'm not addressing this crowd at this time.

I'm not responding to it.

I'm never doing it because you're doing.

It's like I'm leaving you hanging.

I'm not doing a double kiss either.

I'm not doing a double French, triple friend triple kiss.

Get the fuck away from me.

You're a creepy weirdo that is literally should be doused in cologne, have an askot on and like a pocket square.

Get the fuck away from me, like a I don't even like a double kid.

What we're American?

If we're double kissing Eladia Baldwin, it's Spanish.

Leave me alone.

I don't want to double kiss you.

I don't want to single kiss you.

I don't want you touching me.

And I don't need to kiss people either.

I don't know you.

I don't like someone who like met me once giving me a kiss.

Why get your face away from mind.

We just got out of a pandemic.

All these things are wrong.

You might as well not wash your hands if you're gonna double kiss me.

And I really don't want to be single kissed either.

I want to cancel double kissing.

And also single kissing should become what double kissing has become.

Single kissing is a very intimate personal You need to be a more than an acquaintance act.

That was a digression because you don't want to bring your girlfriend or in your guy friends.

I don't even know what that means.

All of a.

Sudden, we're in the movie Goodwill Hunting when like Mini Driver goes to meet Ben Affleck and all like Matt Damon's friends, like at the bar, and it's like such a big deal because like she gets along with the guys, Like what are you fucking talking about?

I almost need to have you on this podcast.

I don't want to bring my girlfriend around my guy friends.

When do you like work at the rodeo And it's like you to bring her into like that at atmosphere.

I don't understand.

I'm so confused.

I don't is it a locker room experience.

I'm not gonna get over it.

I don't want to bring my girlfriend around my guy friends, like when at a bar, at at the tailgate, I'm so confused at the sports bar, like when do you not want to bring her in your guy friends?

Ever, it's your girlfriend.

I'm never getting over this.

And a fraternity party, how old are you?

Like I can't get past this question.

How do I approach a girl out and about without being a creep?

Great question, Thank you caller.

I would go basics, don't do something stupid like ask about her shoes or like just say hi, how are you?

Like, just say hi, how are you?

Or how's your night going?

You're having fun tonight?

Whatever, like something normal.

Just be normal.

And then if you don't get But if you don't get a red, get the fuck out.

Don't get like if you don't get vibe, get the fuck out a board and there's nothing gonna happen.

It's like I used to tell Brent on the beach when she wanted to talk to when she had no friends in the pandemic, and I'm like, just go say.

We were like literally looking for a vein, a social vein of any sign of life.

And so there was a girl on the beach that was her age, and I was.

Like, go say hello.

I'm like, what's gonna happen.

Let's say she says you're ugly?

I don't want to be friends with you.

You never have to see her again.

You never have to see this person again.

So it's the same thing with the girl.

Walk up, say whatever you want, but I would probably lean with something normal.

So you could get a shop.

But there's nothing you can't say, or nothing they could say to you that's going to be a problem because you never have to see them again.

Just rip the.

Band aid off, get in, and get the fuck out if it doesn't work, and if it does work, you stay in.

It was like doing The Housewives.

I was like, what if it fails.

If it fails, no one will ever hear about it.

If it succeeds, it'll be a win.

And it was a win worked out.

I keep thinking about an X from years ago.

Should I reach out or leave it alone?

This is literally what my ex said to his therapist for one year, and he kept asking her, what do you think's going on with Bethany.

She's like, there's only one way to find out, and he reached out and we ended up together.

Yeah, reach out.

Why would you not reach out it's been three months, and I want to ask if we're exclusive, but I don't want to scare her off.

How do I bring it up?

Excellent question?

Call her three months is when you say it.

Maybe show like a dumb article that you looked at being like three months is the pivotal point.

Maybe make a joke, Maybe bring up like Mel Robbins says that three months you're supposed to ask, So blame it on someone else, or just say wow, we hit the three month mark.

Oh wait, I mean you know how deep is your love?

Like make it funny.

It depends if you guys are sappy and like having amazing sex and like feeling like the love feelings.

Say it in that way, say wow, Or give a gift on the third month.

Give a gift that has some meaning.

Is it a key?

Is it a reasonably priced piece of jewelry that's subtle, that's just cute?

Is it a certain flower?

Is it like something?

Or say it in like that.

Blame it on somebody else's way, like you heard something on a podcast or Joe Rogan or somebody said something about three months.

Or don't be too sappy and read some like girly girl blog that said it like something that makes you not a pussy.

Say it and.

Then find out.

Get in and get out is what I'm saying.

Don't linger, don't be weird.

I want to propose.

She wants it to be a surprise, But then how do I know I'm getting the right ring and planning the right proposal for her?

Excellent question, who do not buy a retail ring?

Do not go get the blue box, do not go.

Do not buy a retail ring.

You will be buying your diamond from not just the first diamond guy.

Somebody said, but you will be buying it from a diamond guy.

Okay, it's time for diamond advice.

There is There are a few things besides divorce that I know more about than diamonds.

So let me give you let me give you the tea.

We have reached a point where lab grown is an important conversation.

Why because you will live in a community.

Everybody lives in a community.

Where there are young girls and guys that want to flex.

And if you want the bigger show, the young girls are going to tell their guys that they will want lab grown because it is still a diamond.

It was just grown in a lab It's like there are many tomatoes at the supermarket that were not grown in the garden.

There are still tomatoes.

So we have reached a point where you will have to make that decision.

Now, if you have a psychological thing about it, and you must have an actual, naturally grown diamond, that's fine.

There also are treated diamonds that have heat on them, so this is a big discussion.

But if you want size and the flex, you're gonna want the lab grown diamond, and then it's so much less expensive than a real, normal, traditional diamond.

But I'm still gonna tell you the rules that exist in both categories.

Round are more common, find out I'm your girl if she wants something that's more common, more classic, more traditional.

Around is just a traditional, classic common stone.

They sell way more around than any other size.

Okay, and around is going to show up better than some other sizes.

And around is brilliant, meaning it has all the fire.

So this is where it gets important.

In a round stone, if there are flaws, they won't show as much.

So in a round, In an oval, in a princess cut, in a radiant cut, in a pair, in a marquee, they have more fire, So you can the flaws will hide more, meaning if there's an inclusion, if there's a little line, if there's a hair, you won't see them as much in those stones as say an asher or an emerald.

A heart is also brilliant like a.

Round stone, So if you love an emerald cut, you will have to make sure that the quality, the clarity is better because you will see a line in there.

It makes sense, right, you'll see a line in there more than you will in.

A brilliant stone.

Within the brilliant section.

You have round pair, heart, Marquee, radiant princess.

Then you have to think about the color.

So within those stones, if you've chosen that, you're not gonna worry as much about the clarity.

You can worry more about the color there, meaning like you have to decide what you're focusing on.

If you buy an emerald, you can sacrifice on the color and get a notch down on the color.

Color starts D and goes through I at Tiffany's, So from D to I is all that Tiffany will carry.

Many people that you've seen who have big giant stones, they could be a JA and it's still not a problem.

A j okay okay, But.

Tiffany only carries to I, so I would just think about only going to eye and with I you could still see.

A little bit of the color.

Like colorless is d it means it's like there is not a single hint of any color, and flawless is flawless.

And then you go down the line and like you keep finding the things that you're willing to sacrifice.

So I would go, if sir down the middle, D colorstone h colorstone is fine.

You don't have to be flawless.

You don't have to be VVS one and two, which is close to flowers.

You could be vs.

You start to get into a lot of flaws and then the stone is less expensive.

If you're trying to have an investment quality stone, you have to get closer to flawless and closer to colorless.

But if you're not getting an investment quality stone, none of the shit matters, okay, because diamonds drop in value like a fucking Chevrolet off the lot.

So you decide lab grown or non lab grown.

But those are good guidelines.

If you want a stone that is going to appear bigger, you want an oval or a pear shape.

They appear bigger asher, you lose the size cushion.

You often lose the size.

Princess shows up bigger in those square stones.

Radiant shows up bigger in the square stones.

Then you decide whether you want an elongated emerald or a square emerald.

Okay, same thing with ovals.

Do you want an elongated oval, You want it to be a more puffy oval, which will often look a little bit more like a cushion, which a cushion is like a little pillow.

They also have elongated cushions or puffy cushions.

There are all these different things about it, So you just find out what vein she wants to be in.

Is she more classic?

Which is emerald?

Or round?

That is more classic?

Heart shape is fun.

I love heart shape.

It's more rare and harder to move if you anticipate selling the stone, upgrading it, or getting a divorce.

Okay, there are certain stones that Marquis is not as easy to move.

Heart is not as easy to move.

You can see know every single thing there is to know about this.

You want to set this bitch so it shows up bigger.

You set it in a pavet setting.

You set it with diamonds around the main diamond, it's an optical illusion to make it bigger.

You want to even triple down and do a Housewives setting to make it look bigger than it actually is, which is a full on Jersey and Atlanta and OC and Beverly Hills move.

It's put sidestones with the ring and also have a pave setting around it.

That's when you get a lot of schmaltz around it to make the center stone look bigger because you can't really see what you're looking at.

If you're really fucking rich, your stone stands alone.

You don't need all that shit on the sides, but the schmaltz is what makes the stone look bigger.

So that's another way that you could spend less on the middlestone.

And side stones are always cheaper and pave is always cheaper, so you could spend a little more on the setting, but it'll make the whole thing look more expensive.

There's a lot of fucking trickery in the diamond deal.

Okay, So there are a lot of ways to go, and you could I could teach a college course on this, and I have had pretty big diamonds, and that's what.

I would like.

I would like I'm a go bigger.

Go home person, but I think LAB is a great option and you don't have to break the bank and you can have a big show up and look gorgeous and there is nothing wrong with it.

This is like talking about the expensive bags and watches and all that shit.

There are many ways to go planning the right proposal, though, Make it a surprise.

Fucking stick the landing.

Google it, Ask the friends, not the best friends, because the best friends will say you're planning it.

Look on TikTok, find the best proposals.

Do not embarrass me, do it properly be throw stick the landing.

But it's good that you're asking, But do a deep, deep dive, and you better make sure you stick that landing.

I'm thinking a little moment on the beach with flowers and a little table and champagne and maybe as chef brings it over.

If you can't afford that, you make sure you go get the right thing.

Do some caviat like do not embarrass me.

Make sure it's documented in some way, because she might be if she's like an Instagram girl, then she's gonna want it.

Document in it some way.

If a tree falls in and heard it didn't really happen.

If she's super private, you don't need that.

Do not embarrass me.

Stick the landing, think bachelor, Think subtle, but make sure you don't botch it.

She has a lot of guy friends.

It makes me jealous.

How do I not act insecure?

Do not act insecure?

Phone a friend.

But she shouldn't have too many guy friends that she's like talking to you too much because I don't like that either.

When people get drunk, it's like you put steak in front of a dog.

They're gonna eat the steak.

She doesn't need like best guy friends.

They should be slightly demoted.

It's a little weird.

Nobody like that.

You don't need to be in a relationship and be like too many good guy friends.

It's a red flag.

I'm going to commit a.

Relationship, but still thinking about other people doesn't mean it's not right.

It does in fact me and it's not right.

If you don't know yes, it's no, so just you know, downgrade it in your mind.

If you don't know a resounding yes, it's a resounding no.

God, so hard.

To be so fucking smart, Just kidding that up