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If you've got love questions on the mind around Valentine's Day, you let us know.

We'll help you.

We'll walk you through it.

We'll use whatever whatever knowledge we have and the Love Department to shed some light and your query.

It's not a lot, but I've been married for a while, you've been married for a while.

I watch Love is Blind.

You know what I mean?

What more do you want?

We went to our time?

There she is.

Shit.

Stay hi, Lee, be in.

Your way.

Maybe the best a cappella starts any song.

All due respect to Dolly.

Pardon well she wrote it.

I know.

I think she's fine with it.

You think so?

Yeah?

I hope so.

I think Dolly knows that Whitney Whitney beat her on that.

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Two sixty we mentioned Nancy Guthrie's kidnapper was still out there.

We still don't know who is behind this whole plan, this whole mess, this kidnapping slash murder.

Who knows.

But TMZ has received another email from the person who claims to know who the kidnapper is.

We talked about it.

Apparently the email that came through today said I'm not being taken seriously.

Yesterday's email said that they want one bitcoin, which is about sixty six thousand dollars, because they want to be able to pay enough money to lay low.

They're afraid of retaliation.

To me, that's somebody who wants money who's going along with the cartel narrative because if he rolls on the kidnapper, police are going to catch the kidnapper.

Well, who are you afraid of being retaliated against from cartels?

So they're trying to play on that.

One of the things that has happened at the actual scene at Nancy Guthrie's house is they put up a white tent out in front of the front door.

One of the FBI special agents, these talking heads that are being hired by all the news agencies to speculate on what's going on.

He says, they may be shielding us, the public and the media from what's actually going on on that front step.

And one of the things they might be doing, although I don't know why they would need to hide this from everybody, is measuring the tiles on the porch, because measuring the tiles on the porch you can get had a very specific measurement of that guy's foot, for example, that gives you a shoe size, and it's it may be minor, but it is one of the many, many clues that would exist in that video that shows him approaching that door in the first place.

Like, my first reaction to that is you're just now doing that.

Yeah, that's to me, that's ridiculous.

As soon as we saw the footage of the guy, you're doing those mathematical calculations to determine height, weight, all of that.

That's odd to me.

Just like I said, you're doing this now when they said that they're going to neighbors.

I know the neighbors aren't that close by, but just people that live in the area just now to get their ring camera footage.

This all seems things that should have been done off the bat.

But it's also one of those questions of I mean, we saw this yesterday when the when somebody broke into the mailboxes in my neighborhood, everybody the first thing they did was went to their cameras to see if they caught anything.

Why if you lived in that neighborhood, It's what I'm saying.

Why would they wait if you had that stuff?

Why would you wait to check it out until.

That was the first thing I thought of when I read that.

I said, wait a minute.

We just went through this with Gary yesterday.

He sees that there's somebody breaking into the mailboxes.

Everyone in the neighborhood the first thing they did was go to their ring camera footage.

Why wasn't that done in this case when a person was taken.

Thirteen medals have been won by the United States so far in the Winter Olympics there in Italy.

We're not leading the medal count, but we're in fine, fine position.

Four of them have been gold so far.

Of course, Breezy Johnson won gold in the women's downhill skiing on Sunday.

That's the one where Lindsay Vaughn, thank you crashed.

She's only the second American woman.

Breezy Johnson the second American woman to accomplish the feat and it was the first Olympic medal of her career.

There have been a few different events today, a lot of them snowboard, halfpipe and things like that.

They've been doing the speed skating.

Man, that's short track speed skating.

I'd watch that all day.

That is as close as as you get to roller Derby the good old days.

There are some of these events that are mesmerizing, they're entrancing.

You start watching them and you just kind of get.

Hooked, especially the longer what we call it longer speed skating, where it's just a very slow, methodic pace until the very relaxing unless you have fives then it's not relaxing.

HGTV Cancel's Rehab Addict, The Star Nicole Curtis used a racial slur during filming couple things.

You're gonna have to let me know what is rehab addict and who is Nicole Curtis.

She's a very attractive, young blonde rehab not rehab addict.

She is a house rehaber.

Oh so this is about a house rehab, not people that can rehab a bunch of.

No, no, no, it's not like they flip an old rehab facility or something bring.

It up to code.

I was confused.

I was like, is this somebody who's been to rehab a bunch of times?

No, she was she a former actress or anything, or she's just known as the host this show.

She's just noticed the host of the show again, because she doesn't look like the fat slob that's going to come to your house ninety percent of the time if you need some work done.

How dare you you?

I know what I'm he's seeing Dean Sharp that is a good looking man.

He's also one of the few not okay, he would be in the ten percent, I say.

But she was working on if you haven't seen this video, it's old, old video, but she's working on some piece of molding, some finish work or something like that, and she can't get it to fit or work.

She says, oh, this fart knocker.

But she didn't say the word knock her.

She said fart what n word?

Yeah?

And then it's because it's not a thing.

No one ever says that.

And I don't know why it came out of her head the way it did.

But then she immediately said, oh my god, what did I just say?

And you can hear her say to her production people, we got to cut that.

What did you say?

I assumed she meant to say fart knocker.

I've also never heard that except for from you.

But you've heard it, No, just from you?

Oh just now, like yeah, twenty seconds ago.

Yeah, I've heard that a lot.

Okay, so maybe that's what it is.

I hope that's what it was.

She had to apologize, but HGTV canceled every episode and pulled it off of their streaming service.

All right, Coming up next, we'll get to the gas love line.

Your Valentine's Day questions answered.

We have some good ones.

Are we going to play some upbeat love music?

Like?

What?

There's no such thing?

What are you talking about?

Half songs?

Half love songs are new love, excited about new love.

Half of them are sad about love dying.

It's either love beginning or love dying.

All love songs find something about love beginning.

Okay, great upbeat love songs.

When we come back, you're listening to Gary and Shannon on demand from KFI A six forty.

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It's time for strange.

Oh, we got to get some of these loves done out of the way.

You didn't never explain this guy.

By the way, Mike was talking about eighteen.

Years and with my girl for eighteen years now coming September.

Yeah, and he wants to know should he wait till his twentieth their twentieth anniversary before they you.

Know, no, to marry the girl.

That's it.

Yes, how important is it if he's been there?

I guess.

I guess it's not important to her.

It's not important to him or him.

Yeah, that's fine too.

I mean I would encourage it.

I think it gives you a little I would not if you're not going to have kids.

I've said it.

My husband leaves me today, I would never get married again.

Yes, that's because you're lazy, unnecessary paperwork, and the government infiltrating your life.

Yeah, I said it, infiltrating your life.

Stick around, we'll talk.

About because I think it gives it gives you a little skin in the game.

Well skin in the game.

Yeah, you reason, you're contractually obligated, so you might as well stick around.

Well, arguably eighteen years you just walk away.

Yeah, so man keeps a little pressure, try to keep the relationship together.

I don't know.

I love love, I don't like feeling like I'm contractually obligated to stay in a relationship.

That that would even be.

That wouldn't be because it's contractually obligated.

I would say it would.

There's a lot of people that he's the bar in terms of what it would take to get you out.

Yes, it would that way, it wouldn't be easy to throw away.

Yeah, that's a great way to put it.

Yes, that's what I'm looking for.

Hey, Garyan Shannon, my name is Jake.

I'm twenty about to be twenty three years old.

I'm on the autism spectrum.

I've met you guys before.

I was curious.

I've never been in a romantic or intimate relationship before, and I wanted to know if you guys had any general dating advice for someone like me.

Thank you, don't give up.

I'd say, just be yourself.

Be yourself, and that's for a number of reasons.

You know, if you feel like you got to be someone else to get into a relationship or meet the girl or whatever, you know you're you're not going to be that person for very long.

You got to just be yourself, and that's going to attract who you're going to be into too.

I just talk to people, talk to everybody.

Yeah, I h the one thing I didn't like or I felt bad for when we watched Love on the Spectrum, for example, is there's a belief that or a feeling.

These these people know that there's a feeling.

They should be in a relationship, they should be able to They want to have a relationship that brings to them, you know, romantic feelings.

They know that that is built into us.

But don't put too much pressure on yourself.

Yeah, but it happens, It happens, It happens, It'll happen when it's supposed to happen.

It's a good way to put it, good way to put it.

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A couple quick follow ups to what we were talking about earlier.

Hey, Gary, Yeah, fort knocker is an offensive slur for gay people that your wife used all day long referring to your kids when she filled in for Shannon.

Wow, that's why you know about it.

But Shannon hasn't heard it, So please don't call your kids fort knockers.

Well, it sounded impassioned.

Well, Also, she does say that it's not a slur second, that's good memory.

Yeah that was a while ago.

Yeah, that my wife filled in for you.

Gary, I have the perfect match for your daughter, my son.

He's twenty seven, a college graduate, willing and able to move if needed to another state, and just can't find his person either.

Maybe, just maybe we might be able to work the South, just saying let me know.

Yeah, I got a couple of emails from a woman who's been trying to hook up her son with Olivia for years, and he seems lovely.

You have said you've pushed back because you you you just don't want to set your daughter up with anybody.

He's in Texas.

I believe he's a pilot.

Good looking kid and he's the same age.

What kind of plane, I don't remember.

But the last time I floated this idea, she was dating somebody.

Your daughter was dating somebody or was starting to date somebody.

But this kid looks pretty accomplished, good looking kid, and his mom's a doctor.

But you know, if you want to you want to close the door in love, it's time for stream science.

Study.

Say it's like weird science but strange.

Oh, we were talking about romance and love and most classic rom coms.

They center on that singular defining love, you know, the whole trope of the one.

They believe science.

These scientists that weighed in on this new study believe the one should actually be extended.

To the two Experts from the Kinsey Institute reveal that most people fall in love twice in their lifetimes.

They surveyed ten thousand single people about their experiences with passionate love and said that they found about a third of them had been in love twice, and that eleven percent said that they'd even been in love for or more time.

Sometimes people throw around that I've been in love numerous times, or the word love, or you know, some people fall in love all the time, every day.

Sure, you know, so there is that to account for.

But I guess this is most people that and I've read this before that you know in books or what have you, that there's two or three and you it kind of makes sense, right, you know, you're starting out in life and your first maybe real relationship that you have and then your your forever relationship, or maybe your forever relationship ends and you find somebody in later life.

I don't know, well, I mean the notebook not an expert on the storyline.

But don't both of them go their separate ways and fall in love with other people and then come back.

Well, he doesn't, he waits for her.

I mean, he has the woman that comes around for banging time.

If I'm a duck, you're a duck.

You don't get to reference notebook, You don't get to quote the notebook, you don't get to make any sort of analogy.

And then the thing about Titanic is that they died.

They were young, and they died, so they didn't have chance to find another.

That's why we don't touch on on love with you, These researchers said.

Relatively little is known about how often people experience passionate love across their lifespan, or how this frequency differs by demographic characteristics, et cetera.

If passionate love is a foundational element of romantic development, which in turn positively predicts mental and physical wellbeing, it's important to understand who experiences it and how often.

Now, again, the number of people that most people, when responding to this, said that they fell in love twice thirty more than thirty percent, about the same just slightly less than that said they had that passionate love once in their life.

Do you want to hear something depressing?

Fourteen percent say they never have been in love fourteen percent.

And I wonder if it goes back to what you said earlier.

Everybody has kind of a different definition of what that means for them.

No, I think that some people never get out there and fall in love at all for whatever reason.

I mean, we've talked about, you know, involuntary celibates and the prevalence of them.

Yeah, I don't know.

There's a lot of people that don't fall in love.

There's also asexual people.

There's people that have no desire to fall in love, that never fall in love because they don't have the desire to.

There's people that their minds are not wired to look for love or feel that they need it.

So there's that as well.

According to experts from the University of Zurich, people with higher levels of education, those who live with their parents or who are male are most likely to stay single.

The researchers at the University of New Brunswick also asked adults how they staved off temptations to cheat while in their relationships.

Seventy five percent said relationship enhancement was their primary tactic, making sure that they continue to date their partner, making an extra effort with their appearance around the partner, or just simply doing it more so, that's how to keep your partner.

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