Welcome to Destiny.

Now here's your host, Cliff Dunning.

A lot to celebrate this week, we are and we have announced our seventh annual Grand Egyptian Tour April twenty eight through May tenth, and we had a kind of a big celebration on Earth Ancients.

We're kind of continuing that a little bit for the simple reason that this museum that we're going to visit in Cairo, the Grand Egyptian Museum, has been seven and almost eight years in the waiting.

We were supposed to enjoy it over actually over eight years ago when it was scheduled to open.

And the reason this is a very very special places that it's Egypt, and they've had a decrepit museum that they've been highlighting, and they've had to store literally tens of thousands of artifacts around the country.

And this new museum has not only some of the most beautiful statues I've ever seen in pictures.

I haven't gone there yet, but they have artifacts from all reaches of the country.

And this is critical for those of you who are research investigators who are curious about some of these dynastic periods, but also pre dynastic periods which have a lot of anomalies.

And you know, when you go and you start looking at some of these wings, because that's what they have, these wings of different pharaohs and the Old, the Middle and the New Kingdom of the Pharonic period.

There's a lot to find.

There's a lot to discover, and it's a lot to unfold.

And so this is really very special, and this is going to be part of this grant Egyptian tour that will be going on in April twenty eighth.

Now, not only that that's a that's very very, very important, but you know, the tour itself is fabulous, and you know, we don't mention all the details.

You can see the details on Earth Ancients dot com forward slash tours.

But the Nile cruise from Cairo to as One is simply not only remarkable for its sophistication, but it's it's it's all.

It's like it's like winding and dining and enjoying yourself on this ancient river as we head up the path to the other parts of the itinerary.

It is so one wonderful to float on the Nile and listen to the lectures and just sit and soak.

Most of these cruise ships have pools and hot tubs and it is just just the way to go, it really is, so come out and join us.

We fell up pretty quickly.

I think that we'll probably be full by the end of December, and then after that the price goes up.

But if you have any questions that all, send me an email.

Send it to Earth as the number four of the letter you at gmail dot com, and I'll answer whatever questions I can.

I've been getting like one question about every couple of days.

On my Facebook page, I've posted some photos from the most recent tours, and we have some videos that are going to be put up.

But it's really a discoverer's paradise because if you're interested in the ancient past, my god, Egypt is just just overflowing with artifacts, with temples with pyramids, and we get to do what they call private visits, and those are where we go and we walk into a pyramid by ourselves, without the general public.

We'll go to a temple without any interference whatsoever, which allows for individual time and research and observation.

And it's private visits are very rare when you're with a general tour, when you're with a private tour.

It's a whole different animal.

So come on join us April twenty eighth through May tenth.

For more information, go to Earth Agents dot com forward Slash Tours.

And I'm serious about that museum.

I mean it is gonna be I mean, I just can't wait.

I'm very very excited about it.

It's just, oh man, there's so much to take in.

I don't know if we can do it in today.

So today's program is on sleeping alone.

And my guest has written a book called The Joy of Sleeping Alone.

And what's unique about this is what's something different about this observation of the author is that sometimes we need to sleep alone.

Sometimes we need to heal, or if we have a spouse or a partner who has sleep apnea or snores or tosses and turns, that can disrupt our sleep.

I'm not in a relationship right now, but when I am, the person who's with me can cause issues when they're moving around a lot.

And so I kind of understand where the gesture of this book is.

But the author has also included a number of rituals she incorporates into the actual book.

And so these are rituals for enhance dreams, fung shue your room, your bedroom for better healing.

There's a whole section on I mean, it's really critical to get a good good night's sleep, and so that's the gest of this program and how you should approach sleep.

So the program is the Joy of Sleeping Alone, sixty four rituals to become the sovereign of your bed in your life.

And my guest is Cynthia zach Hey.

The semath annual Grand Egyptian Tour is coming up.

We have Mohammad and Nohah by him with us.

We're gonna be visiting Tennis, Egypt, which is very very old.

We don't know what happened there.

It looks like a catastrophic event happened.

It has megalithic structures, statues, and some large pieces strewed around Muhammad.

What do we know about Tennis?

What makes it so unique?

What we know about Tennis unfortunately so little, but it is so little incomvenior with the importance and the greatness of Tennis, But for us it is very high level of information.

Number one, What we know that Tennis was a great center of knowledge in instigu It was the big city receiving all the travelers and immigrants and visitors to Egypt from the northeast part off they come across Sinai.

The second thing about Tennis that there was a massive size tembile or I can call it big town.

We call it temble dedicated to Amonra.

This temble or this village if I can call it, this way was completely built out of rose granite from us one.

You know what, people don't know that there was more than twelve obelisks in Tennis, maybe more, but the remains some of them still in good condition, but all of them are laying on the ground.

The one they took it to the Grand Museum, the one in front of the main gate of the Grand Museum is from Tennis, and the one in Tarryer Square now is from Tennis.

So there are about ten obelisks or eight obelisks still there at Tennis.

So the story is very strange because we expected, even if the temble was in bad condition, we expected more ruins to see more cat or blocks, but we found only few.

But we found the biggest.

By the way, there are remains of blocks weighing more than two hundred ton and three hundred ton.

We found the foot of a statue.

According to the dimension of the foot, the statue would be more than fifteen hundred ton.

The foot is like a car size.

Wow.

Okay, so we don't know what happened exactly.

It must be something very strong hit tennis and hit that temple and it causes it caused great damage, like great exublution happened inside the temple and caused that all the pieces are scattered on a distance maybe like three or four kilometers wide.

Amazing.

When people go to tennis, they're going to feel the magic and they feel the dips of the history of tennis.

I join us.

It's going to be April twenty eight through May tenth.

For all the details and the itinerary, go to Earth Ancients dot Com, Forward slash Tours.

My next guest has written a book called The Joy of Sleeping Alone, sixty four Rituals to Becoming the Sovereign of your bed and your Life.

I read this book and it was recommended to me, and I was looking at it going, wait a minute, this is very anti social.

But my guest today, Cynthia Zach, brings up a tremendous number of important points that we'll discuss today on our program.

Let me tell you a little bit about Cynthia.

She is a ceremonious master of yoga meditation.

She's the author of five books and would you believe she's a singer songwriter with over one hundred and fifty published songs and melanies.

CENTTHI, Welcome to Your Destiny.

Great to have you on the program.

Thank you for the invitation.

I'm so happy to be here and have this opportunity to talk about this book and the whole thing that is bringing this book to the society and to women and men and the experience of night time.

Talk about it.

You're I think you're in a relationship right, you're married and you have kids.

Yes, I was married.

I'm not married anymore, but I have to keep my grandson.

So fantastic.

This is an interesting book.

I actually did a little research on my own and discovered that system.

When they actually ask people about sleeping, a lot of men and women say they sleep alone.

And it's not a simple thing.

It's actually been proven that and I didn't realize this that a lot of people don't get good sleep when they sleep with another person.

Talk about the the foundation of this book did you do.

It's just how it came into your mind.

You were having clients or the people that you were finding were angry with their partners because they were getting good sleep, or what.

How did it start a little bit of everything, a little bit of the personal experience.

When I was starting, like starting to sleep in alone more and for longer periods of times, and then I said, wait a minute, something is happening.

I'm so happy when I wake up.

It's like but a happiness.

It's not only physical, it's more spiritual in all senses.

And so I start doing my research and talking to specialists and doctors and people that are really doing research about sleep and dreams and lucy dreams, and start going into the yoga of dreams Tipetan and the Hinduism and very deep traditions.

And I'm talking to my friends also like a little like casual conversations about how you sleep.

You sleep better when you have your partner or when you are alone.

And then these books start coming to life by itself, like everything, It's like it's there and I manifested and we manifest the whatever is there waiting to be written.

And so with the research and talking to people and my own experience.

I said, okay, there must be some scientifically prove information that holds when you are sleeping alone, you have a better night, you rest better.

And then there's all research about the noises, the smells, the movements of the partner, the different schedules and times, and also the dreams of your partner interconnected with your own dreams, the fluid, every little thing, especially when you are so vulnerable and so open sleeping.

So it's another state of being.

That's when this book comes into life.

I said, we mean, there's a big research on that, and there's a big research and nobody did before.

That is the story of the bed.

There's a history on the bed.

And I said, okay, let me investigate a little bit of how, why and how we get to this kind of like four legs holding a mattress.

What is that?

Why we sleep like that Westerners?

There's many other traditions that doesn't sleep like the way we sleep.

Right.

You bring up another good point too.

You say that when we sleep long, we lucid dream better.

And that's very very important to have good dreaming.

But lucid dreamings are high level dreams that you can actually manipulate if you get very advanced.

And we've had some specialists on this program talking about lucid dreaming.

That's a very important part of sleep, isn't it.

That's a wonderful part us.

That's the wonder of the nighttime.

But we are so disconnected, especially now that we'll go to sleep with the iPad and the phone and watching a movie.

So that's interfering with a very night, a very good night of sleep and rest and the lucy dreams.

That, as you said, is a very sophisticated practice.

But we all are able to do it.

So we're capable to do it.

It's not two masters to Yogi's.

We can do it, and most of the people at one point in many nights we do have lucy dreams.

The thing is we are disconnected with that.

And you know, the rates of people that doesn't have a good night sleep in America is alarming.

People are taking all types of feels over the counter or with the doctor.

So that's a a epidemic there that this book tries to bring a balance, like a little balance and awareness of wait a minute, you have your power.

You can do a better night that why because your day is going to be much better your awareness, your presence, your desires, what you want to add achieve, your manifestations, everything, and your your overall emotional intelligence.

It's related to night.

Yeah, we're going to talk about the rituals in a minute.

These are most of the book.

You bring up the term sovereign, and it seems to me that you are focusing primarily on women.

Is it that your feeling is that women give up too much of their power to the men, to maybe their other partner, whatever sex that is, and by giving up their power, they don't get the health benefits of a good sleep.

Yeah, giving up the power is a lot of so society pressure, like if you are married or you have a partner, if you don't sleep together, everybody kind of get alarmed, or you don't love each other and more, or you're having problems.

And going into the history of the bed, you understand that point very well, like when and how in history we start sleeping with a male partner kind of us it's an obligation.

I always tell the story my parents.

I'm Argentinian, I grew up in Argentina, and so they shared the pillow, and I was always kind of questioning that I don't know if you ever see like it's it kind of like a sausage long pillow, Oh, long pillow.

Yeah, yeah, they share a long sausage below.

And I said, how came these people?

And I remember being very young questioning that the convenience and why my mother wants to share the pillow with my father, like if one like little things.

So when during Industrial Revolution, and I have this in the book, we you know, society needs women working as men the same schedules the same times, not only taking care of the kids and the house, but also going out as a workforce.

So since Industrial Revolution, we put women and men on the same bed with the same time, a schedule like the alarm clock is the same for both, and women stand up, take care of the kids, family, la la la, la la la, and go to work.

This this wrapped the whole cir Cardian rhythm of all women that is completely different as a man.

Just starting with the menstrual cycle that is completely different than a man.

So women we start adapting to a male silk Gardien rhythm, and that's affecting the whole sleep and day and performance during the day and well being of a woman.

But it was funny with the book because I wrote this book for females, for she for her, but as and a Spanish and a lot of men were like, Okay, wait a minute, you like this book.

I want to do it too.

I understand.

And also this book opens a door.

And it happens to me in many presentations that I was doing around especially Latin America, that women approached me and I said, but I'm afraid to tell my partner that I want a night of I'm afraid I have fear.

And some of them already start because of the book.

They it's opening a movement, a new movement of I can say what I desire without creating a drama or a breakup.

It's not about divorcing my partner.

It's about yeah, this night for my spiritual practice.

Talk about that in a relationship, especially with new married couples.

I mean, when I was married, are rest in sleep time it was a bonding also because we both worked at different times, we didn't see each other, and so when we were in bed together it was not only intimacy but also the bonding.

Are you suggesting that perhaps maintain the bonding, but you don't have to stay in the same bed all the time.

Is that what you're suggesting, what I suggesting in the book is take one night a week.

Go very conservative.

I'm not saying, okay, from now on we never sleep together.

Take one night a week, and as you said, stay together cultivating timacy.

But then at the time of sleep, see what happened with your humanity and your biology when you go sleep in another place.

And I'm inviting women and men to experience this and to play a little bit too, like a little fun.

Why not, don't have nothing to lose.

It's just exploding that.

And I'm telling you and talking to many, many women, and they said to me, the intimacy and the connection is much better now because that.

One day where they take it off and they do their own thing.

Yes, and we choose we can.

This is a book that opens a conversation, a dialogue as something that is kind of putting a side under the table, under the rug.

And it's needed to be because talking to hundreds of women, some of many of them happily, happily married, they all said to me, I'm so happy when he goes for a business trip.

I'm so happy.

It's it's it's a I'm in heaven when I can have the bed for myself.

So I said, why don't, why not whenever you feel like it or so it's a spiritual practice.

And I like to see the bed and it's it's on the book many many times, I repeat, it's a magic carpet.

I think you said something very important, Cynthia.

You said this is a spiritual practice.

And I didn't get that.

I mean, I got the fact that you personally are spiritual.

But in writing this book and laying out your philosophy, you've created a spiritual practice.

I think that's very important.

I want you to talk a little bit about the bed, the history of the bed, and why that is an important integral part not only of sleeping together but also sleeping alone.

Yeah.

I'm not gonna spoil the book because it's super cool to read.

But doing my research, you know, I have a background as a journalist and I do a lot of I write a lot, and I'm in a radio lot, and so my doing research or something that is fascinated for me.

So I start doing the research and I Dina was like, this is incredible.

Millions of years ago, primates like before humans, our ancestors sleep on trees on the branches of trees, and imagine the sleep is not really it's not really relaxful.

It's it's moving.

There's a lot of things happening.

You're up there because you want to save your life.

Basically, you leave the tree and you sleep there.

The nights are not a good night of like resting.

When the fire appears for humanity and these people primates and our ancestors say, okay, wait, if we light the fire, we save the animals are not coming to eat us.

And then they go down from the trees, light the fire and start sleeping on the floor and listen, I have goosebumps because they sleep for the night for the first time and history and that change a brain hard brain connection, and that creates the awareness of dreams because you need certain hours of night to produce five sections of dreams during your night of sleep.

So all the dreams start happening, and these first humans start getting more creative, more in tune, language appear, that appear, the drawings on the walls is all connected with the sleep.

And then they said, okay, we've been eaten by mosquitos and other insects, and they start finding herbs that if you put it on the floor and you sleep on top of the earths and plants protects you from mosquitos.

And at the same time, it's much more kind of mushi, it's not so hard.

And then another step on evolution happens.

So when you understand that that the bed and sleep is completely tied with our humanity and the human history, that's like, wait a minute, what am I doing with my night?

How can I honor my own night?

That I have these eight hours, hopefully six to eight hours every day, I have this opportunity to go deep into my subconscious mind and understand much more about myself, about my mission, about my purpose, about my biology, my epigenetics.

You know, it's like it's not nature, it's nurture.

How I nurture myself during the night has a big impact on my day.

And then you ask people, and I talk to I love to talk to people everywhere, and if you ask people, the majority of them said, I'm exhausted.

This is a very like common wo I'm exhausted.

I can't I'm exhausted in the middle of the day.

I can't anymore.

People feel exhausted, depleted.

Has to do a lot with the night and how we approach the band and the night and what we do with our bodies and mind and soul in the night.

Trip.

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My guest today is Cynthia Zach.

She has written a new book called The Joy of Sleeping Alone, Sixty four Rituals to become the Sovereign of your bed and your life.

This is a look at the importance of getting in a good, nice sleep, but also what sleep means and how it works on the body, mind, and spirit.

Talk about communicating with your partner.

How do you let them know that you want to have them understand that you need to or you would like to try the sleeping alone because you're not getting enough sleep, or you're grouchy, or you just feel you need to be more creative.

Yeah, so happens with a lot of couples that naturally she goes to another room or to another place because the noises and the snoring of the partner is unbearable.

This is very common.

It's very common, and it's getting into like a unspoken contract between the couples like okay, yeah, she can't the book proposed to talk to And I said, to all my readers, and every time I have this question, if you are asking me about this book, and if you are like vibrating with this book, is because there something on you a call to action about that exactly.

Yeah, And I said, just communicate with you if you have this call like kind of oh I like this, oh Bridsney curiosity this book.

Wait, I'm gonna I'm gonna check and I'm going to talk to my partner.

And I said, let's try together at night alone together.

I'm inviting couples.

This is an Ora call.

So ask you a question with your partner.

Just do this and get and get your ritual.

Let me say, let me see which one because this is not random.

I get sacred, sacred ritual.

I was going to that was one of the questions I was going to ask you, But go ahead.

And I can go more in deep on that.

But the thing is, okay, I have my ritual, I have my partner, and I proposed I say, okay, let's play, let's see what happened, read the ritual.

You do it on your right, on your side.

I do it on my side.

I go to sleep in a different space and let's see what happened, and let's meet in the morning.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, So the night becomes a sacred, incredible opportunity, you know.

And for us Westerners especially night, it's we're afraid.

There's a lot of fear with darkness, a lot of fear with darkness and night.

And we have lights for everything, and we sleep, put the light a little light on and the TV on and sound.

We are not we are very disconnected with the dark night and what the darkness brings in the good sense.

It's like and I put and in the book there's one of the Jewish prayers when you the Jewish people when wake up, they thank God because my soul is back.

And it's really you die when you go to sleep.

It's a small death.

And when you read the book and I explain the body process when you're in deep sleep on deep dreaming, it's like, wait a minute, my muscle, my whole muscle system gets paralyzed, because that prevent me to go and jump from a cliff.

Open the door and jump from my balcony.

If I'm dreaming.

That so smart the body and the subconscious mind, they get my whole body.

That's why in dreams and you will remember when I don't know, we want to scream and we can't scream in dreams.

Things like that.

It's paralyzed.

It's protection.

Yeah, and so talk to your partner.

Just invite and a different experience to play.

Does sleeping alone me simply separate beds or does the partner need top leave the room?

Depends on the arrangement.

If you can have another room is perfect.

I have a friend, it's an architect, and she's been telling me that the last four houses that she's designing is with two separate bed bets.

That says something, yeah, people want that.

So okay, if I'm living in a studio with my partner, what can I do?

Okay, you can put a little inflatable mattress, so stay like kind of create a little body separation or body distance sor to say and then see what happened.

Even in the in the book, I even said, if you cannot leave the bed, there's no other space.

So you create your you do a meditation, a visualization about the separate kind of curtain or separation between you and your partner.

Get your own pillow, not like my mother, get your own pillow.

But yeah, I'm even even you know, I'm very fond of sleeping by I love sleeping bags.

Even a sleep bag can do a lot in terms of body separation.

So that's what you're saying, is be separate from the body, no connection.

So you could stay in the same room but sleep on the floor and sit in a sleeping bag or a cat or a separate bed.

Yes, it's better.

Yeah.

Also for the cycles, the female cycle.

Again, Jewish people are so so wise, and you see a big movement of Jewish people that the marriage couple sleep in separate beds, same room.

Hey, that's a big meaning on that.

It's a protection for the female, is respecting of her cycle, lunar cycle.

It's a whole thing there.

But we are in like we are like robots now, like so mechanical, out of my pilots for everything.

Yeah, that we don't even think about that.

And also we go to bed and we basically die like we don't remember, like we don't have any time for any practice.

Yeah, it's like we are exhausted and instomnia.

I mentioned that before insomnia.

It's a big epidemic in America and all over the world, but here is crazy.

Yeah, the percentage of people that take something to sleep.

Yeah, it's funny because when you look at the American movies in the nineteen thirties and forties, and they had couples and they showed the bedroom, there was always two beds, and it's because I don't know if it was because they didn't want to have the same bed because that showed too much intimacy to the public, to the viewer of the movie, or that's the style.

And I don't know if it was the style that to sleep as a husband and wife in two separate beds in the Latin countries, is that a tradition from the earlier periods where they slept together separately?

No together, it's in in the Latin countries.

It's worst today about I want to sleep on my own because it's such a prejudice about oh, they're going to be divorced and divorceding.

There's something something's wrong with these people if they sleep and separate.

You're talking about the male dominated society that mach is more basically like this is the man's life.

The woman doesn't have a say in the in the situation.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, and the fear.

I've been in Mexico and in March doing a tour for the book, and I spoke with a lot of women and they're so afraid of saying And one of them said, I told my partner I was brave enough, and he was okay, he was in the beginning of but then he likes the idea and then his family show up like on like no, you cannot do that.

No.

And for there's millions and millions of females that sleep alone forever, like people are single and divorces that don't have a partner, casual partners.

This book is also amazing for people that already sleeping alone because it gives you a practice, and this spiritual retreat doesn't need to be going to Tibet for a month.

Every night you have the chance to do your retreat, do your retreat and practice because during the nighttime there's a different situation in your back, body, in your brain.

I talk about the glemphatic system in the book, not the lymphatic, the glemphatic six system that is this discovered the last maybe ten years ago.

How your brain needs to the rest to clean itself.

There's no other way to clean it but sleeping.

So talk scenes things that you don't need it anymore, and many times in physical terms and an emotional terms goes out when you sleep.

Mmm, talk about the soul because when you sleep you mentioned that the soul has a chance to leave and work into the higher levels.

We talk about that here on the program off and on.

But are the rituals designed or did you design the rituals to be an aid to the soul to bring in new data so when you do wake, you're refreshed and you have more creativity or I don't want to speak for you.

That's my understanding, but you might have some specifics that you.

Can outline and that Yeah, it is.

The rituals are designed in a very simple way.

I like to do simple, like go simple for the reader, for the readers those rituals doesn't you don't need to buy anything.

There's no like feathers and crystals and no, it's an inner practice.

So they are designed to connect to your like your biology, A lot of the biology, the inner the intelligence, like we are we are using ten percent of our intelligence consciousness when in the daily life, and there's ninety percent of intelligence that are happening and we don't have a clue that is insight, like we're talking.

We don't know about our circulatory system, our digestive system, our temperature of our bodies.

This is all happening by itself.

It's an intelligence that the night can take out and and and then it's for the soul, because says, oh, if I do this little ritual, I'm going to be much more connected with the power of this night and the information that I'm going to have.

M there's information in dreams that and like majority of people says, oh, I never remember my dreams, Like I don't dream.

But it's a practice and you can do it everybody.

Anybody can do it.

M hmm.

Let's talk about a few rituals.

I chose four and perhaps and give us an outline of each one.

I like ritual number four, which is cardinal points.

Now I understand that as perhaps moving the bed around and also in a position for the highest reception of spiritual energy.

But tell us a little bit about it.

Yeah, I have it here.

It is that.

But so if you can move your bed.

You connect with the cardinal points.

So I'm talking about the soles of your feet, the crown, the right side, the left side, how you position yourself in bed.

And this is interesting because if you have the bed for yourself, you can really create this kind of map of your cardinal points.

And this is giving you a deep, deep information about where your positioned in the world.

So there is bolic too now like where I am positioning today and in my business, with my family, with my friends, and the relationships that I have.

So this ritual, the cardinal points give you this power.

So I said, they spread out in the bed.

Souls of your feet represent the south, your crown, the highest point, and that is the north, right side, the east west, So you say, oh way, my right side is the east is bringing this energy of the beginning and my left.

So I am getting this power.

And what I do in the book that is I always put how you use it and what's the point?

So I want the reader to understand what what are we doing as a navigation system.

The ritual transform you into your own compass.

And then you're like, oh wait, I practiced this during the night.

My I'm going to be my own compass.

I'm not going to be so subject to external conditioning.

Like wait a minute, I'm like, no, I'm my own compass.

But is there is there something about laying in a bed and having these cardinal directions?

Are you connecting to the Earth energy?

Tell me about the energetic side of that.

It's all vibration.

And you know that the Earth has a frequency, this is a Schumann frequency.

It's it's a vibration.

So when I start getting the awareness of oh, my body is this point of connection with Earth, with the vibration, with the higher, with the higher existence its power, I am empowering myself.

I said, okay, I'm going to use my right side to create on my left side to give back to Earth.

You know there's one of the rituals and it's on the Sufi tradition, the Derbyses a the Derbyshes from like Sufi Derbyses that I've been practicing these for thirty years.

So we leave the right arm the east like we hold and then we give back.

This is the Sufi position, the derbish position for two year olds, or the spinning.

But look and the and the heart is open and I give back only taking taking taking or giving back.

I'm so good.

I only give back.

No, it's a giving and receiving as a cycle.

Yeah, the body is a tool, it's a part of the system.

It's helping the soul.

So this is this is this is soul work.

I'm getting a sense of this being soul.

Yeah.

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My guest today is Cynthia Zach.

She has written a new book called The Joy of Sleeping Alone.

And this is a look at the importance of getting in a good night's sleep and the various aspects of sleep spirituality.

Oh, let's do another ritual, ritual number eight, which is nocturnal fung shuai, which I'm always fascinated in because that means that your room, your bedroom should have certain items, positioning and other factors that lead for good vibration.

But tell us about that.

This is coming from Asian China, and this is not a book about fund shui, nothing like that.

But I wanted to give this this ritual for the readers to be able to create awareness.

So what is it under my bed?

What is this in front of me?

What objects I have around?

Are they?

They?

Do I like it?

Do I like it?

I connect because also are thoughts that we never have.

Really, it's like, okay, this is what it is.

This is my you like the colors that are surrounding you.

It's good to have a mirror in front of your bed.

What things you keep under so the flow of energy is happening or not?

And this is not to be perfect on fund Shui, is more to be aware to start thinking about things like, oh do I need my computer in front of my bed?

And every time I wake up the screen is there?

Do I need this furniture color I don't know, gray from my grandmother, with the energy of that living on my on the space I'm sleeping.

So it's it's this is this ritually, it's telling a few little simple things that you can do.

Avoid electronics, place furniture in pairs, bedside tables, and I explain what is the elements when you have wood?

What is the meaning of wood?

A novel element that promotes creativity?

So I do I have some wood on my bedroom.

I need to have some fire, a very powerful element that represents passion.

Do I have something that represents fire?

Maybe I can't, the electronic candle or maybe some red red roses.

Why start picking up objects earth, stability and strength?

Do I have anything that represents earth?

Maybe a nice crystal near my bedroom or near my bed or in my bedroom?

So water, So I mentioned the Jewish tradition a couple of times, and the surfis, but the Buddhis the Buddhist tradition create an altar that is very beautiful to have in your bedroom.

And there is water and fire and all the representations of water, and you are ninety percent water.

I like to have some water on my altar or near my bed, representing this the flow of life and emotions too.

So that's the ritual more into Okay, do I have all these elements?

It's easy, They are easy elements to get, there's no sophistication, and that you have it in your house.

Yeah.

I get a sense from your writing that you are also suggesting that people think about healing because when you're sleeping, you're healing and you're regenerating.

Why is that important?

Because tell us.

What you're thinking is on that.

No, this is pure biology.

So first of all, there's the glymphatic system that I mentioned is happening only when you sleep.

There's no other way for your brain to get rid of excess kind of toxic things that you don't need, only sleeping.

That's also hormonal.

You know, the mean la tonin and serotonin happened during night.

You need to sleep on a dark place, turn off the light.

And because this is hormonal balance.

So this is all biology, pure biology.

And there's a recuperation of cells and tissues and muscles that happens only when you sleep.

There's a whole scientific uh information about that.

Do you think people forget about their bodies, Cynthia?

Do you think people are like they're so in their end, their job or their life that they forget about their bodies.

And this is a critical aspect of living.

Is this flesh suit that we.

Have our glove?

One of my teachers said, this is a glove, but a glove.

You know.

I just had a grandson.

I was telling my daughter, and I work with kids for every day I teach organ I work with high vibrational instruments with children and families, and I'm doing doula work like birth and personatal and also death doula.

I'm doing all of that.

And I've been talking to my daughter and I said, I see the baby and it is the same body.

This is not a switch of body.

This baby that is eight pounds now it's going to be an adult in the same body.

The baby, the glove a stretch.

Yeah, and so we are leaving this uh Earth experience on the body.

We are doing, like the body says, a precious human rebirth.

We are having a precious human rebirth.

And this is very rare.

We can be rebirth, reborn in nearly or other things.

If you have a precious human rebirth, you better honor your body.

Yeah, and we are super disconnected.

We want us disconnected.

The system wants us disconnected.

And going to the doctor and getting mixed drugs.

That is a full system of disconnect.

Disconnect.

Don't believe what you're feeling, don't trust your twit, don't trust the body.

Cannot heal by itself.

I'm not saying the never go to the doctor, but be conscious and common sense.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So the book has sixty four rituals where I kind of go through all of them obviously, but I want to talk about two more.

As we're concluding.

There was one that I thought was interesting.

You call it guy, Guardians of the Night Virtual number fourteen.

Okay, let me find it.

And I was like wow, because you know, there are forces that are on your side, but there can be other forces as well.

Talk about this, yes, and these other forces have to be counterbalance when seen without fear, but with a lot of awareness of I have the power to counterbalance.

Right this darkness and this and this ghost things are coming mostly from from the mind, So I need little things that are going to help my mind to be in the right track.

Like one of my teachers says, always watch your mind like a whole.

This is super cool.

Watch your mind like a hawk.

Okay, wait, when I'm getting crazy, I put this hog here.

Watch your mind like a hawk.

We have this power.

So this ritual and it's I love flowers, really, really adorn your home with fresh flowers.

I have fresh flowers in my house always and make sure I have fresh flowers.

Can be one, can be a million, but I'm always sure the more colors you're incorporate, the more powerful the night the night feelings.

So This is a very the guardians of the night.

And I'm talking about ceremony, like, do everything as a ceremony, do everything as a ritual.

Put a little bit of intention on whatever you do.

It's gonna make a big difference.

So I like these flowers, and I surround myself of the magnations of the flowers, the colors, the goodness, the kindness, the softness of these tenderness and it's just flowers.

And I say it handpicked like little things.

You don't need to spend a fortune flower arrangements.

Grow your own flowers and so you don't have to go out and.

Yeah, grow your own flowers.

Yeah, and just observe that.

And so this is a ritual.

And then and yeah, it's very it's a very profound ritual.

And I'm talking about the flowers.

And you create the flower mandala.

So what I said about that is also you can put a little like a paper cloth or something and create a mandala or in on top of your bed with some flowers.

I do a lot of mandalas for ceremonies and flower mandalas.

And then you put it aside.

You're not going to sleep on top of the flowers.

But these create a whole new information for your system, for your life, for your emotions.

What do you want people to get from the understanding of these rituals that you've created.

Is it for more wholeness, more spiritual?

I mean why is it a whole bunch of things?

If you could put it into a nutshell and say this is what I see someone who's used my rituals, what would you say?

More happy?

You can be more happy, you can be more connected.

You're going to be more aware of your own mand and how to deal with your craziness.

Yeah, and you're going to be much more soft on the reactions and responses.

And as you said, you're going to be more aware of your body.

You're going to start listening to Oh wait, this heart is but this is my heart is beating.

It's a brain.

It's a brain, and there's more than forty thousand neurons on my brain.

Heart brain, heart brain, and my God is a brain also.

Or you I wish you mentioned that you are into heartmath too, Yeah, which is I know Bruce Cryer personally, but talk about that a little bit.

Because heart math shows that the heart has its own brain.

Doesn't mean yes and the meditations from the heartmouth systems so beautiful because he basically says, Okay, close your eyes and bring your nose to the center of your chest, and you still breathing through the center of your chest, and then you start expanding as a whole process.

But mostly is.

And I work a lot with the heart beat for music and with children and adults when I train adults, and majority said to me, oh wait, I never hear my own herbit, and I do.

I work a lot with the stettoscopes with children and families, and they're like weight and they are like, there's a heartbit here, there's a rhathm there's information, there's a brain.

You know.

The all the hardmuths revolutionary ideas is that first to the to the heart, and then to the brain.

This is the first thing that's thinking, not the brain.

It's bottom up.

It's called.

Bottom up, bottom up.

Okay, it's not on the co it's like it yeah, bottom up.

But and it's true you think first thoughts.

First processing is and the brain heart and then goes to the brain head m hm.

And it's connected with your guts.

And I can say there's many other brains.

We are a whole system of intelligence.

Like our skin.

We are incredible intelligence, intelligent beings that are disconnected from our bodies, from the souls.

There's a lot of ideas and stories about being like modest and being a good girl, a good boy.

If I don't take care of my body like this is vanity an ego, this is wrong.

Yeah, it's funny.

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My guest today is Cynthia Zacht.

She's coming to us from Florida, and her new book, The Joy of Sleeping Alone, has just come out.

Talk a little bit about and you mentioned this earlier, using the book as a ritualistic system where you perhaps have an intention of what you want that evening to be like, and you hold the book and then you just flip it and you whatever you land on is the ritual for the night.

Is that?

Do I got that right?

Yeah?

Fun this is an oracle.

Oracle, thank you.

That's okay.

There you go.

If you sleep alone because you're single or whatever.

You don't want to sleep with anybody.

Just open the book, flip the pages and you get a ritual.

Ask you if you sleep with a part as a ton instead of creating a disruption and kind of tension, unnecessary tension.

Just you know what, Let's open, let's thinking a question together and live and this is an oracle.

So I can think about my question and I open Benefactors ritual forty five benefactors, which is beautiful and lying on your bed, close your eyes, feel the way to you of your body, and you start bringing the unseen benefactors of your life.

If you see, if you go through your day, there's so many benefactors that helps you with everything, unseen, un seen benefactors that are around you all around your life.

If and you're being so you do this ritual and that's the oracle.

And you can do it just for the night, or you can make a decision of okay, I'm going to practice this ritual for a whole week.

Also, this is not a conventional book.

And the way you read a conventional book, you start with page one and you finish.

I don't want that.

I want you to play with the book and explore and say, oh, this is interesting, like like a tarot card.

Tarot very good.

Yeah, tell us how we go through and we want to start sleeping alone, but we have a very dominant partner.

How do we broach that to them without having a big fight?

Yeah, yeah, that's it's it's a conversation.

The thing with this book makes you see that.

It's like, if if the thought of saying that to my partner creates anxiety myself, that's something to see.

This is an excuse really, so.

You want to keep the peace in a relationship.

You don't want to be fighting.

But I mean there could be somebody who's very strong willed who says, you're my woman, must sleep with me, yeah every night, even though it might disrupt your pattern.

I'm the more important one of the regions.

No, But in that case, what my invitation is, Okay, if it's very unbearable and it creates a big fight, and just take it easy, have the book and practice yourself, even if you're sleeping next to this person, and try to start connected with your power, with your night power.

There's so much information there.

Maybe slowly integrate some of the ritual into the bedroom with the flowers that won't upset the partner because they'll think, oh, that's a nice edition.

Yeah, we're going to have from now on, we're going to have elements that represent the elements, and I'm going to have something to represent the fire and then the flowers.

And then another ritual that I love that is in the book is how you kind of charge your sheets and you're even your pajamas.

Something you can do with your partner, like you put intention on magic psycho magic.

Also there's a lot of symbolic symbolic things in play here, but you integrate that and then maybe this very strict partner or start start getting more sweet and loosen up.

And I like honey and the sugar scrabs before going to bed.

So you wash or you bath yourself with sugar.

That's something that your partner can do to that's one of the riches here.

Oh my god, I haven't heard that.

Okay, yeah you okay.

You go in the shower, get wet, and bring a little jar with sugar, any sugar, white, any sugar, and then close the water and you scrab the sugar and you do your prayers, you do your your your intention of this.

I'm coating my myself, my life with sugar, with sweetness, and then.

You wash that's a fascinating look at things.

It's amazing.

And then believe me, this is all You're gonna go to bed with a different tone.

It's all vibration in a different frequency.

Yeah, you already have this.

I create this sweetness for myself.

It seems to me that you have written this book because your feeling is it's very critical to get a good night's sleep, but it's also important to have a spiritual practice before your sleep so that you can download and heal and prepare and evolve.

Is what it feels like.

Yeah, because as I said, the subconscious mind is they are much more present and is strong during the nighttime.

Different vibration the night, it's like it's the vibration of the question is a different vibration of the answer.

The vibration of the day is different than the night.

And again, we are disconnected with lights for everything, we lost the ability to see like an animal, like a dark night.

We're afraid, and this book is calling like, Okay, don't be afraid.

Go into your rituals, create your space, make things more beautiful, and then when you go to sleep and you see the results during the day.

How does your husband react to this?

He must be well trained.

Well here's my ex husband's.

Okay, so you're single now.

Yeah yeah, yea yeah yeah yeah.

So you're living a good life.

For a while.

But but the process, this, the process of the book start when I was married and and observing what happened with his not and the same bed.

And then as I told you, it's like, what is this happiness?

This is very special happiness.

Uh So that's.

Why the book came about.

Yeah, part of that for talking to my friends and and even I have friends that I show the book to that they're married and that they're together.

And I showed the book and the husband was kind of wait, no, no, no, you're gonna put crazy ideas on my wife mind now, Like afraid.

But if if this is happening, is because as other things happening, this is just excuse for sure those other issues that need to be address.

Yeah, the book's called The Joy of Sleeping Alone.

My guest today has been Cynthia Zach.

Do you have a YouTube channel where you're showing videos where you're presenting this or some of the rituals that people go see.

Yeah, I have the website Cynthia Zach dot org or the instagram Cynthia Zack Official, and I have a I have a channel Cynthia Sack that I have a lot.

There's a lot in English and Spanish.

I'm going to start creating content in English because the book is this my first book in English?

Oh my god, fantastic.

We should let people know that the book is pre ordered.

Now, what's the official release date?

Is it the middle of this month?

Yeah, the middle of the man the middle of November.

The middle of November is available in all bookstores and on the platform, so that you can buy the book in any way.

Yeah, and I saw it on Amazon, I believe.

So you could pre order on Amazon and then have it delivered right when it's released in a week or two.

And if you have questions and the readers and want to know more and commentaries, and also you can write to me on Instagram.

I check all the messages.

You know.

It's funny.

I have a feeling that you may have talked to some indigenous people as well, and some of your work is based on indigenous traditions.

You're from Argentina, but would you say that there are indigenous people that have or tribes or individuals who had practices that have bits and pieces of what you're doing.

Oh, totally absolutely, and also especially for females, you know, really this for instance, the postpartum forty days, and the western world is like whatever, you will be fine, You will be fine.

In other traditions it's very sacred and you have to be a lot with rest and sleep.

So after delivering a baby, you should be kind of taking care of yourself.

Absolutely at least for forty days.

And this is not what happened here.

This is a rush of everything.

And indigenous traditions and Eastern traditions are much more aware of the power of the night and the rituals, and also how we sleep because Westerners we need to have such a kind of perfect environment, the temperature, the sheets, the bed that go back and forth.

It's a whole ordeal.

And you go to Japan and you sleeping a foot on Why what is this with the body?

What is this with the with the body system, with the spine, with emotions?

What balances more my my my well being?

You know, And it's it's if you go through how different cultures sleep, it is all different, but I'm focusing on because I'm here in the Western world.

I was born in the Western world, and and I see and and it's so important, and especially now I mentioned that, but the electronics and and the blue light and all of the things that are disturbed melatonin hormonal balance.

We're seeing more and more issues with children having a lot of problems sleeping, resting, anxieties.

You're in sleep during nighttime, and it's all a reflection of how we are.

Cynthia.

Really a pleasure having you on the program.

And you have a unique book, much success.

Thank you, Thank you for invitation.

It's so much fun, the joy of slipping.

Look, did you see how shiny it is?

I love I love the colors and just the whole design of the book is fantastic.

Yeah, this is so cool.

This is Inner Traditions.

My publisher.

Yeah, that they published my book.

That was the first book they published in a Spanish original.

The very first book you wrote they published in Spanish.

Yeah.

Yeah, and for them for Inner Traditions was the first book in the Spanish they published original Reagion and Spanish.

They have a lot of translations.

They want my book and they published in Spanish and and they said let's do it in English, and yeah.

We are fantastic.

Hey, well, much success on that new release.

Thank you, thank you very much, thank you, thank you very much.

I mentioned at the beginning of the interview that I had done a little bit of research on my own because I was somewhat taken aback at the idea of, you know, sleeping alone if you're married or if you're in a relationship.

I I don't know if I would like it unless there was a reason for, you know, and the needs for sleep and somebody had sleep apnea or was story really loud or was physically unable to relax and sleep in bed.

You know, that would be somebody you really don't want to sleep with.

But my issue was that I I wanted.

I mean, I feel that there's healing and there's connection, There is a bonding that's the word, that takes place when you're with your partner in bed, and you know, it's just it's a very sacred time together.

Now, the research I did found that there's a large percentage of women who can't get good sleeps with their spouse or with their partners, and it's a problem for some people so I'm not sure where Cynthia got this, but seems like she did her research, and she even mentions it in the beginning of the book that there's a lot of people that are in relationships.

I think I'm looking at it right here.

The report found the Better Sleep Counsel of the United States in twenty twenty three.

The report found that sixty three percent of couples do not sleep together for most of the night.

Moreover, twenty six percent of respondents said they slept better alone, and nine percent admitted to sleeping in separate bedrooms.

I guess I don't know.

I don't know enough about it.

I should have asked her generation for generations, you know, generationally, if what's the generations that have most of the separate sleeping, Because if you're just married, that's gonna be really tough to sleep in different you know, beds, in different rooms.

Of course, when I was married, I had lived with my girlfriend I think four years before we got married, so we kind of knew each other.

But you kind of get the gist of what I'm saying is that it's it's I think it's awkward.

You have to have a very understanding spouse to sleep in another room.

I seem the possibilities of sleeping together in the same room in separate beds, that makes more sense.

And then you just hop in the other person's bed when you want to be into it so fun, fun to think about.

So there you go, The Joy of Sleeping Alone.

It's gonna come out in about a week, so you can do pre orders on mon and check out at her website.

Cynthia zach Zak The Joy of Sleeping Alone.

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