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An ethical non-monogamy.

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And.

Hello and welcome to another episode of Beyond Monogamy.

I'm Adam.

And I'm Pris.

And today on our little Wednesday quickie here I am going to, um, I wanted to talk about something that one of our guests mentioned, and I'm probably gonna jump around to different little subjects, but this one right here, this one hit a nail.

Okay, let's do it.

So we're gonna be discussing how compersion and how those feelings kind of overthrow you.

So like how do.

When you have feelings and you don't know how to express them, and your other partner pretty much is not understanding.

Yeah, I, I think I, I understand where you're getting with this because what, what we were basically talking about was in this particular situation, people come into the ethical, non-monogamous space and they hear compersion, compersion, and oftentimes they hear compersion.

From people who are more advanced Y or maybe don't struggle with jealousy.

Yeah.

Something that's natural.

It's not natural to everybody.

Yeah.

And I think that's the problem that a lot of people are forgetting is that compersion is not natural to everything.

Exactly.

And so I wanted to talk about like the.

The fear of it all.

Now, for those who are just tuning into us, what exactly is compersion?

So compersion is feeling happiness for your partner.

So it is, it's like.

When Adam has a fun time, I'm happy for him.

Like I'm happy that he's having that.

I'm compassionate about his feelings and I guess I'm understanding of it, is that Yeah, yeah.

Well, so the actual definition is compersion is the feeling of joy or happiness.

One experiences from seeing a loved one, especially a romantic partner, happy.

Particularly in their intimate connections with others, often described as the opposite of jealousy.

But we know that that's not necessarily the opposite of jealousy.

No.

So I, I do not have compersion for my husband, and it takes a lot of, and I'm assuming that I don't always have it.

I just, 90% of the time I have no compersion for whatever you are doing.

It takes a lot.

Of self-reflection to have a tiny grain of com compersion for you.

I've seen that, and it's so funny because we've had these conversations before.

You and I are so different on this.

We are, yeah, because I am, I, I've think I've told you this before, it's the predator.

I dunno.

It stopped.

That was weird.

I think I've told you this before though, that the way I view it is a win for you is a win for us.

Yeah.

So if you have, say there's a, I don't know, a, a fantasy that you have and somebody.

Comes along who can get you to experience that fantasy or give you a great experience.

And I'm not involved in it in any way.

Yeah.

I'm cool with it.

Like I'm happy for you.

I'm like, oh shit, you got your experience.

Good for you.

I mean, bummer.

It wasn't me that did it, but okay, cool.

I do the bummer.

It wasn't me.

You did it.

Period.

Period.

So like, and you focus on that and I focus on that instead of the way it's like.

Yeah.

It's like, well, if you wanted to pursue that, if you wanted to do that, I, we could have done it together.

So that's where I go like, why didn't you just try it with me?

And why didn't, why wasn't it?

What am I, why didn't it happen with, with me?

When you have all this.

All this awesomeness at your hands.

Yeah, yeah.

You have all this greatness right beside you.

With that being said, why are we even in the lifestyle?

Yeah.

No, I mean, exactly.

I mean, with that kind of mentality of thinking, there's no reason why we should even be non-monogamous.

It's, um, like I have the perfect partner and I have everything that I need.

Why do I need to experience anything else?

It's even not, it's, um.

I wanna be the first.

Right?

So that was a lot of the things.

I wanna be the first, I wanna be the first, but talking about the compersion part, yeah.

I couldn't I didn't know how to, I, I can't, it doesn't come naturally to me.

No.

Jealousy, territorial, possessiveness comes very naturally to me.

And to kind of sit back and find those, those winning.

Oh, you want feelings?

Is hard sometimes for me.

It's hard.

Yeah.

Because you would rather see me unhappy.

No.

And with you?

No, not even that.

Um, I'd rather you be miserable of me than having a good time with other people.

Period.

Wait, what did our first guest, what did I last guest?

Just say, I mean, gratitude, gratitude, gratitude.

It's you show gratitude to the fact that.

They show the affection to you.

Yeah.

What I wanted to say is I've learned to navigate through that, so I wanted to let everybody know that it's, it's a very hard thing.

And is it cultural?

It could be.

It could be very cultural.

I think it exists in every culture.

It does exist in every culture, but I wanna say for me, it is cultural.

For me, it was something that I saw my parents go through.

My mom was a very jealous, possessive, controlling person.

But my dad allowed that.

My dad embraced that.

My dad liked that.

Um, so I have both of those qualities in me.

I like when my partner is jealous, but I am also a very jealous person.

Yeah.

But in the 15 years that we've been together and the time that we've been in the lifestyle, I wanna say that I have finally grown.

I finally understand.

I don't always have to have it.

I don't have to have compersion, I don't have to always throw balloons and have a party on every win that you have.

Yeah.

I just have to be.

Okay with it.

I have to you, you to be okay with yourself.

I have to be okay with myself.

I have to figure out why am I feeling jealous at the moment if it's a jealousy.

Or like yesterday we, we were driving to the club and Adam said, so what did you think about today?

Because we had a play date.

We had a morning play.

We had a morning play with a woman.

Yeah.

And so that, that was the, the part that I was kind of struggling with because.

We've had play dates with.

Other guys with other couples and you know, you're in this for your experience with women.

Mm-hmm.

So oftentimes whenever we've had experiences and you're with a guy, it's not normally the greatest, it's pretty average.

And you're like, well, you know, you're the best that I've ever had.

So like it's no big deal.

Okay.

Whatever.

But this particular play date was one that doesn't happen very often.

And that was literally just a threesome with another woman.

Yeah.

And a woman that we like as a friend.

Yeah.

And a woman who's very good at the sex.

Yeah.

And it was, you know, I was pretty happy about the experience.

Yeah.

And so I was looking forward to having this conversation with you.

Yeah.

And you never brought it up.

And it, I never brought it up, wasn't discussed.

And so we're driving and you're like.

You know, it's kind of hard to have a conversation with you about this because, and I could tell that it was a disappointment and we talked about it and you're like, yeah, you know, I, I, you know, I wanted to share it with you.

I get so my thing was like, I was like, I obviously I wanna share with you when I've had good experiences.

Yeah.

'cause you're my best friend and you're my wife and I wanna tell you, oh yeah.

I enjoyed this.

And I had, because I.

You're my champion.

You're, you're supposed to be cheering me on.

You're supposed to be like you.

That's freaking great.

I'm so happy for you.

And so I wanna be able to come tell my best friend, Hey, I did this, or I did that, and I had a great time.

Yeah.

And then we had this play date, and I thought that you were gonna be excited about it.

I thought there was gonna be a lot of good conversation.

Oh, I, I enjoyed myself and this, and, and I asked you.

I was like, how did it go and what did you think?

And you were like, it's good.

Yeah.

And it was literally, it was like asking my teenager how school was, it was good.

It was fine.

Yeah.

You know, it was, it was such an just, you were not present.

It was not in the moment and it's not I said that and then you stopped and I could feel the air change.

And then I was like, I was bummed.

You were bummed.

And then we talked about that, and I was like, okay.

And so I had to break my thing, but it and so for that situation, it was a fun situa, it was a fun date.

It was a fun playtime.

It was great.

The energy is, she likes both of us.

We all had an orgasm.

It was an ideal situation of us came.

It was great.

It had nothing to do with the situation.

I just.

Another, I'm in another world constantly.

I, when I have time to just think, I'm thinking about everything.

I'm thinking about, did I water my plants?

I'm thinking about, geez, did I water my plants at work?

Oh man, I have to go back to work today.

Did I do my, I have a shit ton of things, so there is no room in there for me to have a conversation about and see, but see, that's the tough part, but that's a tough part because you're not present.

So that's what I'm saying, after you and I talked Yeah.

You said that to me.

I was like, oh, shit.

Okay.

Now in my head, I am going to make a compartment for conversations like that because one, I wanna have, I wanna break out of my shell of always thinking and overthinking things that have nothing to do with the situation.

Right.

I don't, I didn't understand.

So like, I am trying, like I, I, I have a DHD, so I'm trying to like.

In the moment.

I'm trying to think of the moment that you and I are having.

Okay.

So like, I'm not gonna, I'm really trying to compartmentalize every situation in my head.

Yeah.

So now I have a little compartment in there that says, boo Bear wants to talk about fun stuff.

Yeah, because it's, I mean, that's the idea, rocket.

It's a turn.

Turn on for you.

It is.

It's a turn.

So.

That's where I am gonna have more compassion.

Yeah.

And I'm gonna be more grateful that we can have these experiences together.

Yeah.

But I wanted to like, let you know that, that it's, it's not, and let other people know that it's a growing situation.

So like you really have to stop and figure out.

Yeah, like your thoughts have to be intentional.

You have to engage, and that's one thing that I struggle with a lot is not having.

Compersion, but it's okay.

It's okay to not have Yeah.

Compersion because as you can see, we are still happily married.

Right, honey?

Yeah.

Yeah.

We're both I'm not miserable at all.

No, no.

We, we are.

He's not miserable.

You are actually, you know, legitimately we are in a happy relationship.

Yeah.

And it's taken some compromises from both of us.

Yes.

Uh, where we both have to meet in the middle.

You give up some, I give up some and we meet in the middle.

And, and it's possible.

And it's communication.

And it's communication.

And.

I also have to be very grateful and understanding that he has grown.

Adam has grown because after the play session we did not talk about it.

He waited for a specific time to bring up the conversation because he felt You already knew that I wasn't in the mood to talk about it.

Yeah, no, it was, it was, um, from the moment that it ended and it wasn't, it was me processing.

It was just me processing and the fact that you understood that is very nice.

Thank you.

Oh, you're welcome.

Like you could read the room.

Well, I had to, and you know, the, my, the person, you know, I knew from that point on that I was gonna talk to you about it because I wanna be able to talk to you about my experiences.

Yeah.

We do the friends with benefits dynamic.

Yeah.

And so if I have experiences with other people without you, there.

I wanna feel comfortable enough to talk to you about it, because if I don't talk to you about it, I'm gonna end up keeping it inside.

And if I keep that inside mm-hmm.

I'm gonna start keeping other stuff inside too.

Yeah.

I'm gonna stop talking to you about things.

Yeah.

And before you know it, we're not talking about who we're talking to, we're not talking about the conversations that we're having.

Yeah.

And it just becomes habit to not be as open with each other.

Yeah.

And I just don't want to go back to that.

Yeah.

That's not, it's not a fun experience.

And, you also asked me.

He and I are very different.

We are very different.

Yeah.

I, I love the lifestyle.

I have no problem with the lifestyle.

I love playing.

I love having different experiences.

I love sharing them with my partner.

I love sharing them with my friends.

This is breaking nothing, nothing about that.

Do not have sex on my mind.

24 7.

Do I?

Do we have a podcast?

Yes.

Do we have show?

Yes.

But I am thinking about 10,000 other things at the same time, so if you get me in a very sexual mentality, good for you.

Good luck.

Oh gosh.

Okay, so yesterday randomly we're parked and he looks over at me and he says.

Do you not lust over anybody?

Well, so like, you gotta understand there was, there was a frustration.

So we're sitting there in this empty car in front of a sex club waiting for them to open so we can go inside and party and have sex with people.

Yeah.

And we're sitting there.

Yeah.

And it's quiet.

Yeah.

Like you could cut the silence with a knife.

And we're sitting there and I can hear this whole conversation playing out in my head and I know.

That I lust after I have a list of women.

Yeah.

And I, I do not.

And so like, I have a li there's, there are women in my circle that I'm, yeah.

I fantasize about her.

Oh, I wanna be with her.

Like, that's, yeah.

Like I, I can pull out names out of a hat easily.

Uh, and I've tried to have these conversations with you.

It's like.

So if you could have sex with anybody that, of the people that we know who would you appeal to or who and, and it's like, I've always gotten the same answer, which is, I don't know.

Yeah.

I don't think about that stuff.

Yeah.

Like what I do.

So, and, and, and we've had this conversation.

You're like, now I feel like an asshole.

And it's like, don't feel like an asshole.

I feel like an asshole, just because I think about it and I have a thousand other things going through my brain.

Yeah.

But so do I.

But the difference is, is that I push it away because the sex is dopamine.

The thought of sex is.

It takes me away from reality, which right now my reality is sex.

It's this podcast.

Yeah.

It's the, the work that we created.

And so for me it's very different.

Yeah.

For you it's, well, because Yeah, because I'm managing so many other things.

Yeah.

So like, but so then we were talking and I was like, no, I do lust over people, but it's in the moment.

So we were at the club yesterday, right?

And I was like, Ooh, okay.

I would like to have sex with that person.

I would like to have sex with that person.

Ooh, that would be good.

So I'm gonna stop you right there.

Okay.

If you were having those thoughts last night, why didn't you openly talk to me about it in that moment?

I don't know.

See, that's the problem that I have.

I, that's the problem that I have, honestly.

So, and I, yeah.

Obviously we had this conversation before we went into the club.

Yeah.

You know, I am yearning for you to communicate.

Yeah.

Your lusts and your fantasies.

Like for the longest time I used to ask you about your fantasies and you'd be like, I don't have one.

I just wanna be with you like I have now I'm an asshole because I'm thinking about somebody else and I wanna do something.

So remind me when we're in bed to tell you my fantasy.

'cause all no, because when we're gonna lie in bed, you're gonna be eating something and you're gonna be going, uh, I don't remember what you're, I don't, I don't know.

I can't think these things are fleeting.

They're gone.

You're eating, you're cereal.

If you don't tell me things in the moment, you're not gonna remember 'em later.

Do you want me to start now and No.

Well, no, actually no.

Thought it put in your ear.

No, that's not gonna do me any good.

I would've liked to have known it last night.

Yeah.

And had I known it last night, I would've pushed for you to get your experiences instead.

We're just sitting there and we're people watching.

Well, and I know I have my eyes on certain people.

But then I think that you don't have your eyes on anybody and you're just attached to me, so obviously I don't want to break away from you.

Yeah, like there's a whole bunch that just kind of points.

Okay.

Some arrows at me.

Yeah.

For being an asshole.

For feeling the way I feel.

I don't think you're an asshole.

Like I.

I'm interested in this girl, and I'm interested in that person, and I wanna do this and I wanna do that.

And then I ask you and you're like I just wanna be here with you.

And I'm like, well, she, I am an asshole husband that my wife only wants to experience things with me.

And I'm over here going, oh, I don't wanna be with that girl over there.

Oh, you're such an asshole.

This is what I'm saying.

No, um, I'm gonna try to get better at that.

Now that I made myself a little compartment for you.

Yeah.

It would be nice if you got, if you got, like, you're, you're a great communicator, but there are things that you do not communicate.

I don and that is one of them.

I just don't, I I will do, I, I will try to get better at that.

I just don't it, it has to be, and for me, it has to be brought up in a time where I'm not.

Stressed out, but that's all the time.

No, and like even when we don't have stuff to worry about, I worry about You're worried about stuff.

Yeah.

You are always stressed.

Yeah.

No, but I mean, like, I, I can paint you a picture like we have to be in bed and you're kind of touching me and then you kind of like, ask me and that works.

It works.

It has worked before.

I just have to really learn to be more yeah know.

Okay, fine then.

Alright.

It doesn't always, well anyway, you used to say that about talking about it during sex.

Yeah.

And then I would try and talk to you about stuff during sex and there's been times where I have to read the room and I'm like, yeah, she doesn't want to talk about that right now.

Is it at six in the morning?

It's whenever we're having sex.

I mean, pick a time.

All right.

You know, it doesn't really matter.

I was gonna try to do a little bit better, but, oh, so you, now you're giving up because I can't have a conversation with you.

So this is the problem you understand, and this is what a lot of couples have issues with.

Yeah.

Is a shutdown.

Yes.

Because I don't agree with you.

Then you're like, oh, well I tried.

Screw it.

Well, no, it's, you don't.

No.

You know, there are so many divorces that are happening.

It's not in the lifestyle because people do not listen to each other.

Things shut down.

The communication does not happen.

Yeah.

I'm telling you that I'm going to do better at it.

No, I understand that.

And because I'm interjecting to get you what you're saying, to tell you why.

Well, we've tried this.

Yes.

And it's a conversation.

So if I say something in conversation that shouldn't be your number one reason to go, okay, well obviously this isn't gonna work then, so I'm just not gonna do it.

Well, I mean, I've You're gonna say it, but I'm not gonna talk about it.

Yeah.

But if you're gonna say that, then that's your way of justifying not doing it.

Do you understand?

It's the negative connotation of it all.

Yeah.

You have this negative thought about it and you're gonna put a negative spin to it, then you're not gonna do it.

But I was doing a positive spin on it.

And then you threw in your negative spin.

It.

I, I, I was having a conversation we were having a conversation about.

Mm-hmm.

I didn't realize that I was having to uplift you in that moment and go, oh, great.

You're gonna do this.

This is wonderful, Nat.

Yes.

No, we're having a conversation about it.

Are we not?

I think I need the uplifting.

Well, you should have said that from the start.

I think that's great.

I am so excited you're going to make these changes and really, and realistically I do.

I'm excited that you're gonna make these changes because for people who are listening to this, this is airing at the start of the new year, Uhhuh, or the end of 2025, the start of 2026.

And you and I, we always do our, what we want to change for the year.

There's always something that we're, we're gonna focus on.

Individually, yes.

That we want to change.

Yes.

Because you blew my mind with something that you said.

What did I say?

Because I told you that I never reached my goals.

Oh yeah.

That I can't even know.

I can't even tell you.

Have I reached a goal yet?

I have not.

And you said, well, you just gotta do shorter goals.

You are like, do little tiny goals.

And I was like, ah, you know what?

I view it as, you remember the old, uh.

The Super Mario World on Super Nintendo.

Mm-hmm.

And you had all of the, so you could see the big castle far away.

Yeah.

But then you had all of these stops that you had to go along the way.

Yeah.

And every stop, you had to win at that.

Yes.

To move on to the next.

Yes.

It's the same thing with your goals.

If you think of it as Super Mario World, your goals, your main goal is way over there at that castle under, and, you know, pass all those hills.

Okay.

Along the way, there's all these little stops that you have to stop.

Yeah.

Those are your shorter goals.

Yeah.

Those are the ones that you work on in the moment that you try to attain, and once you attain them, you go.

Got it.

Moving on.

Yeah, I like that.

Let's move on to the next one, and then you, before you know it, you're at the castle and you're looking back and you're going, holy shit.

I'm here.

Yeah.

I'm, I made it.

Yeah.

And I've, I've knocked back a lot of different things, you know, it just takes, it takes being present.

That's the hard part for you.

And I don't mean that in a negative way.

It it does.

No, that's not negative for me.

You, you are, you are everywhere.

Like you have a lot of stuff that you're thinking about.

I do.

Um, and I hold myself at a very high area like.

What do you call that?

My little pedestal on a pedestal?

I don't know.

You put yourself on a pedestal.

I put myself on a pedestal.

Like I wanna make sure that I'm doing everything and I'm saying everything, and that my work relationship is good.

My home relationship is good.

My relationship with you is good and so yeah, I have a lot of, dude, you're talking to a perfectionist man.

I understand that.

I, and I'm not saying that I'm, I'm perfect at what I do.

No, I'm saying internally.

Yeah.

I am a perfectionist.

Yeah.

I want to, I wanna do a great job.

I want do the best.

But there is something that I learned as a musician throughout the years and I think you've heard me say this whenever I've had to do a gig or I've had to sing for whoever you can plan and practice and prepare.

Only so much.

And then when you're in the moment, you have to be of mentality that things could go wrong.

Yes.

And if they go wrong, you just dance your way out of it.

Yeah.

And you just keep moving.

Yeah.

Because I've had, I've, I've had concerts where I've prepared, and things were perfect and in the moment.

At the performance, things happened that screwed things up.

Yeah.

And it didn't go my way.

Yeah.

And I could have sat there and I could have just made my life just mourn this situation.

Yeah.

But it happens.

It's just it.

You work your way through it and you move along and I think that you put a lot of pressure on yourself.

I do.

And so I am sometimes just not present.

Like my brain just takes off.

Yeah.

And so I'm going to I made myself a little compartment.

It's in my brain.

It's right here.

It says boo bear.

And I'm gonna try to be better.

Like I, again, I do not always have to have compersion.

Yeah, yeah.

I don't always have to enjoy your wins out loud.

True, but having conversations about 'em, talking it through and just being open and trans and transparent is what I'm, you know, it's what I'm really, I mean, I'm already open and transparent, but to bring that part of me to you Yeah.

Is what I'm gonna really work on.

So, you know, I think there's something that, that's real pivotal for both of us to remember.

Every, every day.

And that's that you and I are are just different Yeah.

As, as similar as we are.

And we are very similar.

We're similar in so many aspects.

Yeah.

Yeah.

But we are different.

We are different when it comes to non-monogamy and mm-hmm.

What our preferences are and what our lifes are and, and what we don't like.

We're just different people and, but we're different in a lot of things.

Yes.

Like we are totally different.

And it was so funny 'cause we were talking about this last night, we're like.

Wow.

We're just so different.

We are, we're different in the way we raise our children.

I mean, we do it together, right?

So it took a lot of us talking about it to get to this point.

We raise our children differently.

You have different values.

I have different values.

We clean the house differently.

We do our laundry differently.

We do a lot of things differently.

What.

What you feel is important isn't the same thing that I feel is important, but we make it work.

And if we make everything work at home, we can make this work and it, it has worked.

It has worked for this many years.

I am not unhappy.

I am in a very happy marriage.

I'm in a very happy relationship.

I'm very happy with myself.

I'm very happy with my life, period.

I could change some things, but nothing here.

Nothing here.

Like this is, this is, this is 100 relationship good?

Yeah.

Yeah.

This is good.

I could work to do better on certain things and that is one of my goals for 2026 is to make little tiny goals and that one right there is to be more open and not.

I see negativity in a lot of people, and that's just a, that's just me.

I see red flags in everybody, but when somebody upsets me or when somebody does something to that triggers me.

I have to learn to just move past it and not say, and not think, oh, they did that on purpose because had somebody known that they did that, they wouldn't do that.

Right.

And so, uh, there's a lot of stuff that have been misunderstandings or miscommunications.

Yeah.

And for both of us Yeah.

Where we've just been like, well, screw this.

I'm walking away from that.

Yeah.

And it's like, oh, that was a misunderstanding.

Yeah.

Okay.

And so, and because negative things will stay with me longer than the positive stuff.

Yeah.

Well, you know, that's really something big to work on.

Yeah, that's a big one.

And I think it's totally doable.

For me, the thing that I'm working on this year, because a lot has happened in this past year and the podcast has really taken off.

Things are changing and, uh, you know, since getting laid off in August this entire world, the lifestyle world, the podcast world, this is my home now.

This is where I live, okay?

And content creation and all of that.

Evidently I have a little bit of A-D-H-D-A little bit, and I struggle to focus a little bit.

I struggle to get myself my time management mm-hmm.

Uh, on the level.

And so that is my focus in 2026, is to get myself 100% on a good.

System, a time management system.

I've already worked on my calendar and I'm ready to get things going.

Mm-hmm.

Uh, also the other thing that I'm adding to our Beyond Monogamy arsenal is that, I am getting back, getting back on my bullshit.

I'm actually, I'm getting back into a, a healthier lifestyle.

Yes.

We both are.

Yeah.

For those of you who don't know, when I turned 40, I lost a lot of weight because I got afraid.

I had a lot of friends of mine that were around my age that were starting to have like mm-hmm.

Cardiac issues and high blood pressure, and I was like, hell no.

I need to fix this.

I ended up, taking things very seriously.

It became more of a, I don't have a choice in this situation.

And I started working out every single day and I became very serious about my health and I lost over a hundred pounds and things went great, and then I lost my job.

This past year and things kind of went into a chaotic whirlwind, uh, a fight or flight, if you will.

And we eat our emotions.

We do, and we are an emotional people.

And then something happens when you eat bad food, it makes you want to stay in bed.

It makes you want to not get up in the mornings and it makes you not want to go to the gym.

And then when you do that for a couple of weeks, then it just becomes justified and it's like, oh, this is me now.

Yes.

Uh.

I am going to be, uh, bringing that element into our content creation and just kind of for those people who are interested in a healthier, living, healthier lifestyle, maybe talking about fitness and stuff like that.

I'll have a little bit of that in there, uh, on our YouTube channel and things like that from from a different standpoint.

We're not professionals.

We are not professionals.

Not mean what works for us doesn't mean it, it wouldn't work for anybody else.

I, uh, but it's the same thing as our experiences in non-monogamy.

Yes.

We are not professionals.

No.

This is our relationship that you're listening to.

This is our life.

We're not couches, we are not sex couches.

But you can sit on me anytime you want.

You know what I'm saying?

Uh, you know.

What we do and how we do it is it, it's the map for us.

Yeah.

And we're constantly erasing and changing direction.

Yes.

And that's really the takeaway if you're in a relationship, is what works for us may not work for you, but you need to know that.

There's no set of rules.

You make the rules.

Yes, this is your world and you and your partner don't always have to have the same mindset, but you do have to agree.

Yes, you have to agree.

So, yeah.

Yes, we lifestyle differently.

You have to compromise.

But we compromise, we understand, and.

We talk.

We talk about it.

And if it doesn't work for me, it doesn't work for me.

If it doesn't work for him, it doesn't work for him.

Like it's compromise.

Yeah.

Know.

Know your limits also know your hard boundaries.

Yeah.

Know what you're willing to compromise with and what your hard boundaries are, because the hard boundaries are not to be compromised.

Yeah.

And if you are at a hard boundary and it's looking like somebody wants to compromise it, you need to speak up.

Yes.

You need to vocalize it.

Yeah.

And ensure that you don't end up in a situation you don't want to end up in.

And I think that happens for a lot of people.

I think people forget that their hard boundaries should not be pushed.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Um, voice your opinions.

I don't know what your special thing that you wanna work on for the year is.

I don't know what you want to do.

With your 2026, all I know is what we're gonna be doing with our 2026, and that's where we're gonna be working on growing, we're gonna be working on getting better.

Yes.

At whatever that means for us as a couple, whatever that means for us individually, we're just trying to better ourselves and.

You know, when you try to better yourself and you realize that you are bettering yourself, it's a very freeing and happy feeling to know that, you know, you're, you're here, there's always room for, and you were here.

There's always room for growth.

There's always room for growth.

Always room for growth.

Yeah.

So, absolutely.

I wanted to share that.

That's one thing that I am trying to grow and trying to be better at, and I appreciate that.

Thanks.

I do appreciate that.

And you know, I, I think that 2026 is gonna be a very interesting year for us.

2025 was a real interesting year because you guys got introduced to confident Adam 2025 saw confident Adam.

And let me tell you he needs go back in his little Yeah, I found out a little something.

I found out that I'm a, a little, a little charming apparently.

I've been told by some ladies that I'm a little charming and I gotta say, I've already told them that.

He was charming.

This is where we go with the whole com compersion thing.

It's like, hello.

A win is a win for both of us.

Oh, whatever.

Okay.

Yeah, keep working on that.

It's not 2026.

So she's got That's 20.

She's got a buffer.

She's got a buffer.

It's okay.

Few days.

That's right.

You take your time.

But.

2026 is gonna be a big year for Beyond Monogamy.

We've got a lot going on, we've got a lot of traveling to do.

Uh, we're gonna be in a lot of different places.

If you haven't heard yet and you want to keep up with where we're going, what we're doing, you want to hang out with us, you know that you can go to our website, www.beyond-monogamy.com, you hit that events tab and you have access to everywhere we're gonna be.

Yes.

And you know, if you want to hang out.

That's all you gotta do.

You just gotta show up.

That's not bad.

Yes.

But while you are there www.beyond-monogamy.com, be sure and hit that little merch tab or the store tab because in the store tab there's all sorts of merchandise that my lovely wife has created.

Uh, that be me.

And let me tell you something.

If you're a big believer in wanting to wear something that very few people are wearing.

The only people that are wearing beyond monogamy merchandise are these two people here on the TV Uhhuh.

And if you were wearing it, you would be.

Part of the special club.

I'm just saying, I'm just saying you could be a part of that special club.

That would be amazing.

And also please keep a watch on all of our social medias.

We're gonna be doing some little different things and all of that is gonna be growing.

We have a group of people that have been joining us and they're gonna be starting to post stuff or beyond monogamy and events and stuff.

Yes.

Lots of big stuff happening.

Lots of different changes.

We're gonna have some really interesting guests this coming year.

Uh, we.

Our guest, uh, schedule is pretty much filled till mid-February already, so that's good.

Uh, so we tend to keep our shows well greased and oiled.

We've got a lineup for the year.

I'm literally you know, getting things scheduled.

It's gonna be a very, very fun beyond monogamy here.

So if you are in there, you are following us, you are listening to us, and you want to be a part of us.

All you gotta do is interact with us because we're looking for people all over the US Yes.

That we can make part of our community.

Yes.

That we can turn to and say, Hey, we are coming to your town and we would love to hang out.

Maybe grab a dinner.

Maybe you could show us the town.

If you wanna be that for us.

You go to that website, you hit us up.

You can leave us a voicemail, an email.

You can hit us up on social medias everywhere.

One last thing.

While you're there at the website beyond monogamy confessional, it's 100% anonymous.

You go over there, you tell us whatever you want.

You tell us your wild stories, what happened at the club last night.

You tell us, your real true feelings about non-monogamy, maybe what's happening in your life, you know, whatever.

We can be that person that you don't.

I may have to go on that for the question.

Have anybody to talk to you, talk to the confession.

So give it a shot.

I guarantee you it, it is very freeing.

You'll love it and you'll get yourself heard on the show 'cause there you go.

That's what these quickies are for.

Uh, so yeah, be sure and check that out.

Also, we're on, uh, fullswapradio.com every Thursday from, 2:00

PM and 7:00 PM Central Time.

So be sure and check us out there.

And as always, we really, really appreciate you guys listening to us and watching us sometimes on the tv.

Uh, but we really appreciate you guys just being a part of our family, being a part of the Beyond Monogamy family.

Uh, and with that, we will see you guys next year.

Bye.