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So, Chris, yes game.

I was told you'd be celebrating a big anniversary soon.

I will.

Yeah, in July twenty eighth, I'll have ten years of sobriety.

That's amazing.

Congratulations, Thank you so much.

It's kind of weird to think about, Like, I don't feel like I'm that old.

Now.

You've been very open on the show, conversations on and off camera about your sobriety.

And there is a hashtag on every social media post that you make.

Could you share what it is?

Yes, it is sexy Sober Devians.

I love that.

That sounds like a TLC single.

Absolutely.

What was the origin story of Sexy Sober Divian?

I started using Crystal math when I was fifteen, and I did that for fifteen years.

Sex started around the same time as my matthews did, and so I never really had sober sex.

When I finally decided that I needed to get sober and was willing to do whatever that took.

I was really worried the stories that I was hearing because I do twelve step.

A lot of folks were saying that, like sex was the thing that took them out.

Whenever sex would come up, they would end up just using meth again, and I really was afraid of that.

What I ended up doing was talking to a lot of people who had more sober references for sex than I did.

Specifically around the sexual practices that I engage in, like the biggest sex, etc.

Like that stuff is connected a lot of times to drugs, and I wanted to be able to still do those things because I'm not vanilla.

My best is not who I No, it's not, and so I really wanted to be able to engage in those things.

And getting to reclaim that in sobriety has been one of the most empowering things for me.

Now you know, almost ten years later, I can honestly say there are things that I have done or things that I like to do that like I never thought i'd be able to do sober, and I do them sober just fine, even better actually, because I'm definitely more present and connected to those people.

I love that now, Chris, you're our non binary body on set.

Yes, I'm wondering, is there any connection between your sobriety journey and your gender journey.

I didn't realize how much of my use was connected to my gender dysphoria until I got sober.

The language that we had around gender diversity has changed.

Oh, twenty five years ago when I was expressing my gender in different ways, but there wasn't language around it, and there wasn't spaces where I could talk about it.

So much of my use was around suppressing the dysphoria that I was feeling, sure and not understanding that that's what I was doing.

And so when I came into sobriety and started making connections with other trands and gender diverse folks, it became very clear to me that like, I am neither male or female.

Had I not got sober, I wouldn't have had that clarity of mind, and also that curiosity to sort of like investigate what else is going on here in my brain?

I don't know, it kind of changed my life.

Well, it sounds like I mean, once you kind of open the floodgates to be radically honest with yourself about one thing, it's like, how do you stop that?

Right?

Like you just kind of have to confront your full self.

Yes, we are having this conversation, of course, because we hear a lot about chem sex or P and P which stands for party in play as a huge problem in the LGBTQ community, But most of the time the focus is solely on gay men.

We don't hear many people talking about the role that kim sex plays on trans and non binary people.

First, we'll be talking with Joss Barton, a poet and performance artist who makes brilliant work inspired by her own experience in what she calls the Life.

Then we'll be talking to a harm reduction advocate who will offers ffety strategies for folks who party and play.

So let's meet our first guest.

Joss Barton is a poet, journalist, curator, and spoken word performance artist whose work examines trans women's lives from a historical, political, and pop culture perspective, exploring how they live, grieve, moarn, and party.

Her debut full length collection of poems, Goodbye to a Dream, Believed is being published by Feature Poem Books and Spring of twenty twenty six.

She also co stars in the upcoming feature film Dreams in Nightmares, directed by Shatara Michelle Ford.

Please welcome to Sniffy's Cruising Confessions, Joss Barton, Thank you.

For having me.

I'm so excited, said I can feel the energy now.

Son.

Earlier, Gabe asked me about how sobriety and my gender journey are sort of connected.

What role do substances play in your gender journey?

Oh?

Well, I decided to transition because of an acid trip period.

The first time I did acid.

Yeah, So I was on this gay queer camping trip.

I had never done acid before, and I actually had very little experience with like like drugs like it.

I mean, I was always like obsessed with through a culture and artists that were very heavy into drugs, but like the most that I would get into was like some really good marijuana.

So I really was very new to substances.

And we dropped acid and it was like the most amazing transformative experience, like tripping in like gorgeous nature.

We were all in a river, so it was like okay, time to clean up, like let's make dinner.

And I'm like, no, I need I need more time in the water and in the wood.

So I'm just like by myself in the woods, tripping balls, and all of a sudden, everything around me becomes like a humanoid like figure, like the trees, the bushes, the clouds, and everything's fucking around me.

So so I'm like just standing there and I'm just like looking up at the sky and it just kind of like hit me.

I was like, oh, you're trans Oh you get back to civilization, You're like you're starting transition.

So that was kind of like my awakening.

So when I'm walking back to the camp site, I like, obviously, you know, gaze in the woods.

They fought, so like i walk up on these guys fucking and I'm like, oh, I just found out I'm a woman.

I want to I want to see if I can join it.

Like so I'm like asking them, like what's up, how y'all do it?

This looks hot?

And they're just like ignoring me, and I'm like okay, So I'm like getting a little bit closer.

I'm like hey, like I'm I'm a tranny.

Like what's up?

What's good?

And They're still ignoring me, and I get up on them and my eyes adjust from the drugs and the darkness, and it was just three huge piles of trash bags by steaming flies, and I'm just like standing there staring at the trash, and I'm like, I am a woman, trash I am awoke.

I feel like the experience would have been the same if they were living gay men as well.

Right, I know, Oh, you were being ignored by gay men.

You are a woman.

I felt like so real and cut in that moment.

So, yeah, drugs are like they kind of open my mind.

Sometimes I use substances to write, sometimes I use it to perform.

It's just a tool like anything else.

And it's something that you can like get too deep in and you can put maybe too much importance on it.

Let's just say, I don't need the substances to be me, but when I am on a substance, this is like times three thousands, So sometimes I can be too much for people.

Yeah, I can relate to that.

I'm wondering anecdotally, at least, do you find that substance use in chem sex differs when looking at the gay community and the trans community.

My introduction into chemseex was like right at the turning point from like Lee being gay boy faggot life into like full on transition.

Since then, I would say most of my KIM sex situations tend.

To be a little bit more like one on one.

If you're in sex works, there are clients that look for like sex workers specifically to do drugs with, Like that's that's like a kink for some people.

Some sex workers that's like a big boundaries, Like you know, you could do whatever you want in front of me, but I'm not going to participate.

And then there are girls like me.

Sometimes it's like okay, let's wrack it up.

I have a clean fight, let's do this.

I think transmit and sis queer guys like Sometimes it's more of a group session.

We all know about the meth orgies because.

But I buy invite to the meth orgies gets lost in the mail every time, so I don't get to enjoy those like scenes.

But I've had some amazing hot sex with partners specifically looking for transforms.

It's usually like a one on one situation which has its benefits has its cons like as opposed maybe in a group setting, I have to kind of feel it out on my own and really like take it slowly with the chem sex play because maybe I don't know this person that well.

My trade and my pieces might find an annoying, but I'm constantly like, okay, how we feeling.

I would rather be.

Hyper vigilant about my own sense of like safety and security, because if I'm with someone and they're just so tweaked twact out that it's just getting weird, I'm just going ahead and like, let's go ahead and let me pack up my shit.

It's interesting, like hearing you talk about and describing these situations, I'm realizing so much about myself and like my own hypervigilance around how quickly I am able to like assess in a situation.

And I'm realizing it's coming from my kim sex use and the sex work that I did for many years.

It's like I need to be able to like look at you and as that's what's going down and then split second, right, all those like survival skills that I learned while I was like doing sex and sex work.

So it's like a real life thing for people in that life.

It's a real thing.

It's a real thing.

Jos, I want to hear a bit about your creative process.

You do drag and performance, you write poetry, all about a term that's been around for a very long time, the life.

For our listeners who might not be familiar with the term, what is the life and how does your artwork take audiences inside that experience.

So it's a term that definitely has a lot of roots in queer culture and it really comes from a time when there was still a lot of stigma, there was still laws against how we can live.

And it really is rooted in the experiences of sex workers, the ball room scene, and street queens and other fagots just wanted to live their lives so authentically that like assimilation was not a choice, and that means you are at higher risk for not having maybe the best job or having to be an underground economy that was just kind of like a sacrifice you had to make.

And I think that term has evolved because we have more opportunities.

We obviously are commodified in a lot of ways, so being in the life has changed a lot.

It might have more of a I guess connection to ballroom scene realness, being bad, being sickening me in the night life scene.

But it really comes from like bitches that were bricky, that were street queens that just had no other choice.

So that's kind of what my poetry kind of examines.

Absolutely, And there's a lot of history that seems like it is repeating.

Nah, well, I mean a lot of this stuff still exists, right yeah, especially for trans women, Like a lot of the barriers are still there, a lot of them are making a comeback talking about the life I think still has a lot of validity right now.

So that's what I try to do.

Speaking of your work, we do actually have a short excerpt of one of your performances, and for folks listening, we should say that in this clip, jos is wearing a two piece bikini, a statue of liberty headcrown while holding a torch in one hand and her poem in the other.

Just to set the scene for you all.

In Helle, the Transsexual Oracle mets smoke through the yellow glass strawberry pipe.

Pretend these holy come mornings are your transsexual passage.

Listen to the stories of drug dolls and let the mothers guide you to.

The end of the world.

I pledge of allegiance to.

The bags of the United Dolls of Dystopia and to the Republic for rent it rotts what Fippy Undra goddess And.

That's so that's the gist of it.

It's pretty awesome how you combine both poetry and drag like it's kind of iconic.

I like to make a spectacle as much as I can when it comes to the poetry, the performance are at the drag the improv.

I used to do an improv bit where I pretended like Hunter Biden was calling my phone and I'm like husting Hunter out because he owe me money.

He smoked on my map.

So it's a spectacle, it's really all it is.

I'm obsessed.

I love that.

What kind of effect does talking openly about substance using your performances have on your own usage?

And how do your audiences respond to this material.

I was noticing in the beginning that if I was engaging Kim sex or is engaging in P and P play, I would get like really like secretive about it.

I'd be very ashamed about it, and then I didn't want anyone to know.

And so the next chance I had to have that scenario, I would go full force, like really take it there and I just kept noticing this pattern, and then one day I was like, what if I'm just start telling people that I like to smoke meth, and I like to get.

Game banged, and I like to do all these things.

You know, what if I'm honest about it and also integrate it into the work.

It definitely helped me dismantle the internalized stigma and shame I had with it, which then in turn allowed me to interact in those kim sex moments in a more healthier way where maybe I wasn't feeling super ashamed and so therefore I didn't feel like I needed to really binge.

I'm not the first normal, I'd be the last tranny talking about smoking meth.

With a client.

But I wanted to highlight, you know, a lived experience that is based in a lot of truth, and hopefully people that also have that lived experience can see a little bit of their lives reflected in a way that's presented with dignity, whether it's the good shit shit, the joy, the grief, the love, the ecstasy of it all.

And it seems like the media does seem to prioritize narratives of sobriety for queer and trans people.

But so many of the amazing pioneering transactivists that we know from history were trans women who were also in the life, as you put it, and unable to access that type of media friendly sobriety story in the world they lived in.

So I'm wondering what kind of stigma do you think people affixed to trans women when they find out they use substances.

The stigma that.

Is attached to us is a stigma that really like cuts to.

The heart of our worth as human beings.

So many people have been focused on this trans panic that is like directed directly at trans women, specifically black and brown trans women.

They're affixing these sense of like, we're dangerous, but we're violent, we have issues with drugs, and we all do sex work and YadA, YadA, YadA, Right, and so there's just all this stigma so that if you are trans women using drugs, like it's hard to be open and honest about your usage because you already have so much pre conceived notions about who you are that that's the last thing maybe you want to talk about to someone.

Yeah, I've had girlfriends that you know, It wasn't until I told them about my usage that they actually were like, oh, I actually also have had problems with substances, and so it's hard for trans women to even be honest with each other.

I feel like if we can talk more honestly about it, maybe we can keep some of our trans women here longer and healthier kind of existences where even if they are still using, they're doing it in a way that's going to keep them alive.

And that honesty is so important, right, Because I think, particularly about Sylvia Rivera, I think a lot of her drug use, her working as a sex worker sort of erase from her legacy because people are it might devalue her right as a queer icon.

So these are things that I don't think have been talked about recently, and it doesn't decrease her contributions to the queer community, right, Like the fact that she was so committed to homeless career youth, to supporting other queer trends sex workers is because she lived that experience and knew the dangerous people face and the lack of resources.

So to me, that's such an important part of her legacy.

It doesn't make her less valuable.

If anything, it makes it important, right, it makes us aware of why her presence was so valuable.

You're so right, So justin, I would imagine that you might have some stories about come sex that are wild and outrageous.

I'm wondering if you could share a story that was memorable for you that kind of left an impression on you, preferably not something too bad.

Oh, I was using with the partner that I engage almost exclusively in chem sex with them, And he did have a cockering or any biagra or anything.

So if it was is not aware.

Sometimes substances like crystal like you can't get it up, so whether you.

Need trimex cockering something.

And he was just looking around, like digging through all these like closets and drawers, couldn't find a cockering.

He's like, oh, I have a zip tie.

You think that one?

I said, bab, I don't think you should do the zip tie.

He's like, I'm just gonna try it.

Mind you.

This man is very hung so he has this zip tie around his ball sec and his huge dick and it's quickly cutting off his circulation and he starts freaking out.

We're tweaked out, mind you.

So we had to then search.

No no, no, no, I'm.

Sit there doing like I feel like if a grades anatomy, do an operation.

So I was like, you gotta hold still.

I was like, my hands are covered in loop, your dick is covered like you're gonna have to be still.

So then you know, I just, you know, carefully sniffed off the zip tie.

You did it?

Yeah, I had to.

I had to cut off the tie and it was on their tight like I really had to, like like do some surgical like maneuvers.

Y'all have it like a shoelace.

We just use a shoelaces.

Never, I never heard of that one.

A shoelace.

Oh baby.

Yeah.

The other thing about Kim sakes the faggots have ingenuity.

When period resourceful.

We will figure it out, they will, Jos.

We did talk about this earlier.

The government is waging a full out war on trans people.

We all know this.

We know this.

Yeah, just a reminder.

I am wondering again, from your perspective, as someone that does use substances, do you think you've seen an increase in substance use among your friends or even among clients.

The partying is increasing, the substances are increasing, for sure, which I think is a test to how people are feeling right now, like this shit is really bad, so let's just party, party, party.

But I also think like people are stepping up to try to like fill in those holes of care because we're definitely not getting it from the government with the way the government is targeting, not just us, but like the people that care for us who are quickly losing access to PREP, we're quickly losing access to risk mitigation.

It's becoming other people in the community stepping up to care for people that are using and care for sex workers.

So I think that's definitely something I'm seeing for sure.

I think for me, my use is actually dropped significantly simply because I know how stigmatized trans women are becoming right now, and so I kind of have decided, like I want a little bit more of a clear mind frame.

But that's just me.

I'm wondering if you can give our listeners sort of an idea of how you would explain or interpret harm reduction.

Harm reduction basically comes out of the age crisis and people trying to mitigate not just HIV infections at the time when there was no way to mitigate it, but also how to assist people that were even on the margins of that epidemic, so intervene you drug users, sex workers, and obviously queer bin Now it encompasses everything from nightlife to party scenes, to sex work to trans folks, which I think is amazing.

Harm reduction for me looks and feels like really checking in with yourself and with your partner when you're in these scenes, making sure that you can find a way to feel safe in those situations.

I think that's harm reduction.

Making sure you're checking with your body and also making sure you're checking in with the substances you're using, testing your drug ugs not using alone, making sure you know how to use narcan, making sure if you're using intravenously, having access to clean, fresh needles.

I mean, and for me, I just like you know, I set timers say, because like you know, like you can be in a kimsex situation and like next thing you know, it's the next day.

It's three days later, girl, let's be.

Three days later.

I'm a big proponent of I have a hard it and I have a hard out, So yeah, I just find a lot of inspiration from people that really do the heavy lifting of harm reduction in our communities.

I love those people.

I think they're saints.

Correct me if I'm wrong.

But harm reduction also springs out of this realization that shaming people out of behavior is never going to get.

Them to stop.

Right Exactly, if you stigmatize the behavior, it simply goes underground.

It gets harder to reduce the harm that it can cause.

Right now, it is crazy to me that are Secretary of Hell is a recovering addict and is cutting off access to harm reduction, cutting off access to drugs like milock zone also known as NARCAN, trying to limit access to PREP, trying to limit safe injection sites, and we know what happens when these things happen.

Mike Pence was a governor of Indiana, shut down a bunch of safe injection sites and harm reduction places, and then guess what happened.

We saw the race of HIV and AIDS skyrocket in that state.

There are so many case studies, and it drives me crazy that people are like, We're just going to pretend it doesn't exist and it will stop.

The harm reduction requires communal support.

What we're seeing in this administration is an intentional dismantling of communities, because if we don't have community with each other, we're just going to feel so dejected and so much despair.

Will go along with anything that they tell us to go along with, and you neique community for energy and uplifting and like support and love and care.

For sure, I'm so excited for the world we live in.

Yeah, wait till we have to order Narcan off Amazon.

That's like the only place want to get.

Do you find that people you're playing with are practicing safer sex, whether that means condoms or.

Prep Considering that a lot of my partners are quote unquote straight trends attracted men, I would say most straight men are definitely not thinking about it.

You'll talk to these men and they're like, I have one was the last time you were tested?

And I'll be like, oh, you know, I could like to get tested every three months.

They're like, oh, yeah, I got tested like two years ago, three years ago.

Like as if that is, like, sir, exactly, sir.

The straight chaser world, they really need some education.

They need a lot more education.

I quickly learned like I just had to really focus on my status and my health, using condoms, using prep, staying on top of my testing schedules, because like, you can't really rely on your partner in these situations.

Now, granted I.

Am a piggy, but the man i'm in game and may not consider themselves piggy correct, So as a piggy, I kind of already kind of like trained to think about these things.

Earlier, you talked a bit about your forthcoming book, Goodbye to a Dream Believed, which is being published in spring of twenty twenty six, and it starts with a dedication I wanted to read it goes.

These are not recovery poems.

These are not sobriety poems.

These are survival poems.

Could you talk a bit more about survival and why you started the book with this dedication.

As a transsexual woman in America right now, survival is centered on not just me surviving, but my sisters surviving.

I don't see the point of living.

In a world where I don't have my sisters and I don't have a sister out of trans women.

That survival like line was really tied to just me thinking and sitting with the trans women in my life that I've lost and trans women that I have never known, and will never know that we also like lost, whether through violence or through drugs, because trans survival is not just surviving outward violence, but surviving the violence of indifference and apathy, which can manifest itself in drug addiction suicide.

And also I wanted to start the book off with that dedication because so much of that book was written while I was in a heavier throw of kim sex use, and I was just a way for me to be like, you know, I'm not here to write about being sober because I'm not, and I'm not here to write about being a recovery because I'm not.

But I'm alive.

I made it up to this point, so I wanted to write something about survival in that sense.

All right, incredible, Well, Joss Sedley, We're at the end of our time with you.

We had so much, believe so I.

Am really grateful that you got a chance to talk with us in chat.

So thank you for sharing your story.

Thank you.

And I can't wait for my Sniffies in box to be flooded.

But again, thank you so much.

I had a blast.

This is a fab Thank you so much.

Thank you, Joss, your fab All right, coming up, We talked to harm reduction advocate and expert about strategies for meth, GHB and more.

In our last act, we talked about how Josh developed a personal harm reduction approach that involved setting boundaries and intentions.

So in this act we're getting into the nitty gritty of harm reduction.

These are potentially life saving tips that anyone should pay attention to if they wind up in situations where people are partying.

Let's welcome our guests.

Grace is a harm reduction advocate and an enthusiast who works with a few different groups around New York City.

So Grace, let's start at the beginning for our listeners.

How would you define harm reduction and what drew you to become involved in this work.

I started volunteering in Syringe Exchange when I decided to stay in New York because I was like, well, if I'm going to stay here, I'm going to actually like be in the community.

My baseline definition of harm reduction is like it's the opposite of everything going on in our world, and that it is actually giving people what they need without cost or judgment, and it's giving peace people a version of free health care that actually empowers them to basically take ownership over something that may feel uncontrollable for themselves.

People talk about like wearing bi commets is harm reduction, They talk about wearing seatbelts is harm reduction.

But ultimately, for me, what harm reduction actually was and still is is the act of like syringe exchange or safe supply exchange.

For whatever substance there is, there's kind of a safer way to do it.

Most cities have syringe exchange programs.

If you're sniffing any sort of party drug, you can get a safer sniffing kit which will provide you with a sterile card and then individual straws.

These are harm reduction tools.

If you have had any chemically dependent relationship with any substance, you know that it's like people aren't going to stop because they don't have access to a sterile tool.

I think one of the major harm reduction tools that's become well known over the past few years is naloxone, which is used to revive people who are experienced in opiod overdose and drug testing strips for a fentanyl or a xylazine.

Are there comparable harm reduction strategies or treatments for folks who are engaging in consects partying using stimulants like crystal math or cocaine.

People mostly know about narcan because they're really afraid of ventanyl.

Ventanyl is primarily found in things that are sold as opiates.

New York has a pretty incredible drug checking program where you can take your substances to a syringe exchange site and get it tested for free and anonymously.

But for the most part, cocaine, ketamine, JHB, crystal meth, these have way lower, if any, occurrences of ventanyl contamination.

So when we're talking about like chem sex and harm reduction for partying, it's a little bit more about psychological safety.

A stimulant overdose as actually called an overamp.

An overamp is not necessarily life threatening in and of itself, but it can involve things like seizures psychosis.

When we're talking about harm reduction strategies, it's mostly about preventing that kind of overamp.

And so you know, if you get tired while you're using a stimulant, like trying to encourage yourself to sleep, actually having about one glass of water an hour just to keep yourself from overheating.

Big thing in harm reduction is the idea of safe supply.

Like all these things that we're terrified of, like fentanyl and xylazine and all that stuff like that happens because our substances are so criminalized.

Yea, If people are getting drug tested, dealers are going to come up with more chemical compounds that are not going to show up on drug tests.

And that's part of why we have all these different contaminants.

Until we advocate for more of a safe supply for people, like, it's kind of out of our hands, and so we have to go to the next step, which is like how.

We take care of each other.

Let's say you're in a cruising setting, whether it's a kimsex party or just maybe out at a sex club or darkroom, and you see someone who's acting agitated.

How do you calm them down safely?

So like a stimulant overdose that is about like getting overheated, getting too dehydrated, as well as potentially experiencing some paranoia, psychosis, rapid heartbeat, panic attack.

If people are agitated, as you say, like not making someone feel singled out, if you are even asking them are you good and they're obviously not good?

You know it can make them a little more paranoid that everyone can see them.

So just kind of asking them where they want to go, what they need, using a low voice, giving them space, not physically touching them.

Gum, if people get the.

Urge, like grind their teeth, chapstick, if people are having drymouths, if someone's passed up, not just assume that they're good.

I think in general it's like you can be so sick if more of our cruising spaces had like a de stimulation area, corner room just to go take a little break.

And so how should folks approach safety when it comes to G and K.

Are there safer use strategies that harm reduction experts recommend.

GHB is actually a like industrial chemical that is diluted at different rates, So every time you get a new bottle, it might be diluted to a different amount.

And most general harm reduction devices do a little and if you don't feel it, you can do more.

The whole thing with.

Your GGB dough is that it also stacks in your blood streams, so you actually want to wait like two hours before you do more.

The safest way to use GHB is to get a tipless or oral syringe anytime you have a new dose to a test which is less than one milliliter, because it can be incredibly concentrated.

And again because it's an industrial chemical, never boof it, never put it in your buttle.

Yes, this is helpful information that I could have used ten years ago, okay, because I was absolutely doing a booty bounce with G and them.

I mean I'm just like you can.

Yeah, you can, And I did care a lot and she was effective.

Yeah, right, exactly.

Well, also, like people compared to alcohol a lot, and it's like not basically like really good rule of thumb is like if substances are feel kind of similar in your body, like don't do a bunch of them at once.

Okay.

So like GHB is like not technically an opiate, but it is abous system suppressing, much like alcohol and ketamine and benzos and opiates, So any of those combinations can like really increase your risk of overdose passing out.

GHB also is like if you do it every day for more than two weeks, you can get a chemical dependency similar to alcohol.

So just like making sure you're dosing it out and rinsing your mouth out after it's an abrasive or your or douching as an abrasive chemical.

Earlier this episode or other guest Joss mentioned that she sets her time boundaries and tries to create optimal situations for her chem sex experiences right like being very intentional about dosage and frequency when out or an experience with either friends or clients.

Can developing a plan with your friends or play partners prevent potential catastrophe in the evening.

I think the whole thing with making a plan is that it frees you up to actually have fun, worry free, do your test bump, go slow, drink your water like GHB, very consciously setting a timer if you know that you don't want to stay past a certain time or you don't want to take another dose, you can set an alarm.

With friends, you can just have kind of a one off conversation of like if we're can continue to like go out together, what's our safety plan?

Like who's going with who?

Who's the buddy system?

Yeah?

For sure.

Truly don't use alone, which is hard because like all the stigma's gone.

You can just be by yourself and like we all know the urge to, but don't use alone.

But never use alone hotline.

Yes, it is a hotline.

You can call and someone with personal experience of substance use will take down your location and stay on the line with you as you take your dose, and if you go silent, they will call an ambience.

Like the only way that people's lives are saved is because someone else was there.

Seventy percent of overdoses happen in people's houses when they're alone.

And I think it's like seventy percent of overdoses out on the street in public are reversed by other people who use drugs, not by paramedics, not by passers by, Like we are keeping each other each other alive.

Can you sort of talk about when harm reduction no longer becomes enough and like what other types of recovery are out there folks to investigate.

My take on harm reduction is that it's not at odds with recovery.

It's that it's for people who are choosing to use, want to use, and it's also for people who kind of fall out of their recovery.

You know, recovery is not linear, yeah, you know, yeah, and so it's like it is there for preventing the worst.

My general thought is that like we all know deep down when something is a problem for us, is the drug doing what you want it to do?

Because if the point is to have fun and you're no longer having fun, like that's the point where you can actually look up in patient treatment programs that are covered by Medicare paid.

Twelve Step is kind of amazing and smart recovery.

There's also like Dharma Recovery, which is recovery Buddhist oriented.

But I think that these are amazing groups and that they are some of our only free healthcare, and they have that in common with harm reduction, is that they're like this whole network of free mental health care that doesn't exist for like any other thing, syringe exchange programs have people who are there to help coordinate and set you up for treatment.

Like the whole point is that they're there to support your autonomy and if you come to them and say I want to stop doing this, they will help.

You get an appointment.

Their social workers there whose job it is to do that.

But I think it is also like acknowledging when we're talking about stigma, that it can take people nine times to attempt recovery.

That's why I always say, like harm reduction is there for you to, like, try again if you want to become abstinent.

It's interesting in my own recovery journey, like I kind of had wish that I had found harm reduction or knew that it exists, did because you know, I was out there during the worst for many years, but always wanting to stop, you know, and I just didn't know that there were options out there for me.

And I feel like if I had found harm reduction or probably would have gotten to a place of surrender sooner, you know.

Because that lack of judgment is like crucial.

Yeah, people getting right if they need to get right.

We're all making these choices in different circumstances, and we can trust.

Ourselves to keep ourselves well if we have the tools.

Amazing well increased.

Thank you so much for still Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.

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The park was hot, so I had a hook up one night too, was weekednight.

It was like a Tuesday or something, and I just I had I had to get some ass.

So sound this guy and he's like, hey, my friend is going to be driving me around.

To hook up with no mutching guys.

And I'm like, okay, whatever, you.

Know, he can drop you off, he can come in and we'll you know, hang out.

And he's like, no, no, no, We're just gonna do car stuff, only car stuff.

I'm not coming inside.

And I'm like, all right, that's not usually my thing, but I just had to do it.

So I ended up sucking this guy in the back of an suv in my driveway with his friend sitting in the driver's seat.

What you enjoyed it?

I have a good one.

Oh that's like, hey, mom, can you drive me the soccer practice?

Yeah?

I feels so weird.

I would totally fuck someone in their car if they were on my property, if they were on my driveway, I would do that.

That's like way more private than like just like being in like a Walmart parking lot, you know what I mean.

Okay, Chris, Well, all right, I.

Mean I'm not saying I have, but I'm like, if the house is right there, the.

House is right there.

But if that's not the FEEDI.

You know what I mean.

No, I'm not into car play.

No, why what is it that like knocks that out for you?

Well, I'm an elder, and so the positions that you must get into don't only.

Be a horse and buggy?

Do you not a car?

I'm saying I need a bed, I need comfortability.

I need to be able to lie down, like contorting yourself in a car and having sex.

I'm so sorry, baby, my sexual skill set was forged in the backseat of cars.

You're also a smaller person than I am.

Well, yeah, that is true.

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All right, this episode was amazing for me.

That's really great.

I really love that we manage to fit two gets into this episode because, like, I love Joss's perspective.

I think she approaches talking about come sex and drug use from a kind of like creative, playful, comedic perspective, and that's not a thing that we often associate with drug use.

I think a lot of times the stigma implies that everybody who uses drugs is struggling and capable of keeping their life together.

And it's interesting to see which drugs people pick and choose to say that about, because you know, we all make jokes about finance bros.

To do cocaine and no one's.

Like they've got a problem.

Yeah, some of them do, a lot of them do.

But like again, it's understanding that drug use and even things that come sex can be a spectrum.

Yes, and then Grace was lovely racism with all of their knowledge and information around harm reduction.

I think everybody around the world should have thirty minutes with Grace before they go out to party.

Oh Gott, you're right co host for this.

I think between you and Grace, you both brought such a holistic perspective on like what folks can do to keep themselves safe, whether that means farm production, whether that means a twelve step program or recovery program, again, whatever that word means, because it can mean many different things to different people, and I learned that today.

Well here we are, well, here we are now.

Yeah, I do just want to take a moment to think both our guests today, Joss Barton and Grace one more time because they were incredible.

Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.

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