
·S1 E27
Tabitha Brown: Find Your Way Back to Grace
Episode Transcript
Every time I open up my mouth up and goes out.
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Oh ricking honey, rick hodon, he chasing all.
Speaker 2I'm black like that, he.
Speaker 1Sbout living.
Speaker 2It's color easy.
Speaker 1This is Outlaws with TS Medicine.
I said, we're not cutting up to day.
Is it on?
Honey?
Is it on?
Is this miss recording?
What's up?
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Speaker 2Land, Twitter and Instagram, land, snapchat, grind and all that other ship.
This is TS Madison coming to you loudlive and in color from the Outlaws podcast.
Listen, let me tell y'all something.
It has been a day for me, but I'm sitting here with one of my good, good judies.
I have watched this woman blossom.
I've watched her speak life into people.
I've watched her cook almost it almost turnt me.
She almost turnt me.
I've watched her make untuna.
I've watched her make car hot dogs.
I've watched her I've watched this woman be unapologetically herself.
And I've watched God move move earth in heaven and bless her immensely.
I've watched her love on her husband.
I watched her retire her husband.
I've watched this woman become a mogul right in our face and then ask nobody, and it was her business and she could do whatever she want to do because it's her business.
Ladies, gentlemen, I want you to put y'all hands together.
From my good girlfriend, my sister, from another mister, Missith, I love you.
Speaker 1I love you.
Speaker 2I tell you this all the time, like every time we talk, I tell you I love it.
Don't hesitate, thank you, and I love you back.
And you do every time I.
Speaker 1Text you?
You do?
You do?
Like girl, what you're doing.
I see what you're doing.
What you're doing, what you do?
Bring you down?
What do you do together?
Shut up?
Shut up, shut up.
I got friends everywhere telling me to sit out somewhere with all that noise.
It's all right.
Lord still working on Lord.
Yeah, he gonna work with me to the end.
Speaker 2And speaking of the Lord working on you, because I know we got to get into all this crazy shit on the car because but we're friends, yes, and so I'm gonna do this, cards friend, the way you pray for Wendy Williams, My god, oh my lord, you prayed for Yeah, I learned something from that.
Yeah, I learned something from that.
Tab I didn't apply it.
I'm not gonna tell you I applied it, but I learned to learn.
What did you learn that you didn't?
I learned because my mama tell me to do this all the time.
My mama says, speak well of those that speak something against you.
Now, I'm not saying the woman spoke against you, but the woman said, had you had your name all over the place with stuff and talking about your marriage and your husband or whatever, because.
Speaker 1That's your hoosb.
He held you down.
Speaker 2You turned around, and you you help him down when it got to a place where he was able to do that, and that's your business, is Yeah, Unfortunately that may not have been the case for her.
You just speak ill of her.
Not you pray for my God, did God do a mighty move?
He did, and you praying for it.
Now that while we seeing him.
Speaker 3I'm still I'm still praying.
I've been praying for it since.
Speaker 1That day and now we see him more over, well, we pray that she stays.
Speaker 4Well, you know what, everybody punt your ends right here the mad it because this is where the brend needs.
Speaker 1Come in the room, Jesus baby.
That was one of them things.
We talked about that on social media forever.
Speaker 4Y'all did, and I ain't never talked about everybody did, but we did.
Speaker 3Y'all was y'all was cutting up them.
People started calling me a witch.
Speaker 2They did.
Speaker 3I don't understand it.
Speaker 2They said that by my mama too, But my mama.
My mama said, hey, listen, touching.
Speaker 1But the book say touch not and do my profits no harm.
The books say that.
Speaker 4Yeah, we didn't say the book said that.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2So well, when we saw it, I was like, and then there, I don't see so much jealousy surrounded with you and your husband.
I don't see so much negativity.
And I love how you pay that ship.
No attention you paid.
Ain't your business.
They got to do with you nothing.
Speaker 4Gotta let him let him talk, Let him have it, honey, let him.
Speaker 3But also, you're welcome, because I mean, then what would they.
Speaker 1Have to talk about.
Speaker 3I gave you something to talk about, hot topics, whatever it is.
Speaker 1You're welcome, sister.
You you.
Speaker 2I'm gonna start so many different places they'll find somewhere to put I want to talk about because he and I talk about this incessantly.
Speaker 1You retired your husband.
I did.
Speaker 3I retired him from law enforcement.
Speaker 1Because you was like, my husband not gonna be out there, So.
Speaker 4What when he can go and live his dream and work with kids and do basketball, which is what he does.
Speaker 1Why would he?
Speaker 2You know why she retired to husband.
Y'all she're rich, he is that far.
She rich And she said, I'm rich, and that means my family rich.
And I'm not finna have my husband out there riching his life, about to lose his life and can't come home to me.
Speaker 3It's just din't makes sense.
Yeah, he ain't got to do that.
Speaker 4And a lot of you host, a lot of you people, it's the dream.
It's whatever in the cup.
It's gotta cutting up.
Speaker 2A lot of you people will never never get understand that because you don't got the valuable man.
Speaker 4We are the valuable relationship or a value relationship.
Yeah, or people don't understand partnership, Tell me about it, like we are real partners.
Like my husband was never just my provider, right, just like I'm not his provider.
Speaker 3We are partners.
That means we are in this together.
Speaker 4When I didn't have, he didn't have when he had, I had like, this is how we are, and this is everything we do.
Speaker 1We do it together.
Speaker 4So it only makes sense if I am strong in one place, I want to bring my husband up to be strong with me.
It don't make sense for me to send him out into danger while I'm over here in a safety zone if it's if it's not needed, right, So, real partnership is like, oh, take care of you, just like you would take care of me.
Speaker 3All these years, I fifteen years in la odd jobs.
Speaker 4I worked at Macy's, I worked at court call, I worked at a nursing home.
Speaker 3I worked in contract manufacturing.
Speaker 1I drove uber.
I did all these.
Speaker 4You know, odd jobs while pursuing my acting career, doing auditions for free, doing you know, plays and movies, getting paid two hundred dollars, fifty dollars, coming home talking about baby, I know.
Speaker 3This is gonna be the one, This is gonna be the one, and make fifty dollars.
Speaker 4And he'd be like, okay, bae, And he would go to work every day every day.
We never ever been evicted.
Mortgage or rent was always paid.
I likes ain't never been cut off.
I pay utilities and stuff back in you know in the day, and I I put money to the side and put stuff on it.
Okay, he didn't know how I had the system going, but I would do it.
But he made sure all the major bills were taken care of and we were we were taking care of right.
And so how dare I get to a certain place and not reward our partnership with safety, with love, with honor for what he has done for me, Like with my whole heart.
Speaker 3I honored that man.
I love my husband.
Speaker 2I know, yeah, I know, yeah, And watching y'all, sometimes it gets people to this place because they don't understand it because they haven't they don't have a partnership like that.
Yeah, they don't understand a partnership like that.
They don't understand a woman saying the things that you said, because sometimes a man haven't been that good to them.
And it's not about because I don't want to say something bad like where they chose the wrong men.
Because I do believe that all men come some all people, all people, all of us have something.
All people's cumb with something.
Yeah, and it's whether you're gonna right riding some some people are worse than others.
Speaker 1This is true, and.
Speaker 2Some some of those folks out there have picked peoples that's worse less they are.
Speaker 1Yes, but I.
Speaker 2Admire your marriage.
I admire the way that you love on your husband.
I admire the way he holds you down.
Admire the way that y'all get on there and y'all do tabbing.
Speaker 1Chance.
Speaker 2You know, it's just you you are.
You are a ray of positivity.
Where do you originate from?
Speaker 1Like?
Speaker 3Where am I from?
North Carolina?
Speaker 4So that in North Carolina, me and my husband were born and raised out in the country.
Speaker 1If you knew where it was, me.
Speaker 4And you would have already known each other a long time ago.
That's how small it is.
Speaker 1Eating eden the garden.
Come on, you better know it was there any figs there?
Listen, you want to know something, Tell you know how deep I know?
I know that word.
Oh I know.
Your mama made sure.
Speaker 2Yes she did, Yes she did, Yes she did.
And my my mother loves you.
So we me and my mama didn't know we was watching you at the same time.
Speaker 1Oh really, we didn't.
Speaker 2Know it because my mama, my mama, he always be following out because my mama got know how to be on social media.
Okay, he said that stuff.
Trump me out.
How Miss Mary know how to post on social media?
Speaker 4She be posting the elders is grown.
Okay, they know they didn't figure it out.
They figured out how to do some.
Speaker 1Things she posted and she'd be following, she be liking.
Speaker 2You'll be seeing her liking something, and she like, I love I love, I love her and tall.
Speaker 1She did insteal that in me.
Speaker 2Now, what I like about you is that you not one of those people who, oh, I'm saying christ I don't, I can't.
Speaker 1I can't.
Speaker 2Girl.
I'm like, well, well, where y'all Christian people come at that, that act like that?
Speaker 1You do know the Lord sat with the sellers listen.
Speaker 4I think we have all been so programmed.
And when your programmed, you don't get a full relationship on your own, like I know the Lord personally, right and so, And my mama was a pastor right before she passed, like in her later years of life, she was a pastor.
So the things that she always taught me was like, who are we to judge?
Who are we to.
Speaker 1Act like we are?
God?
Speaker 4I am not, But what I know I'm supposed to do is love, period point blank.
Speaker 2And that's all you give that's it's like all I remember we came to see you when you had the shop over.
Speaker 1There, Yeah, with the restaurant what it was called.
Yeah, I pulled you had treated me like, yes, we have a good time.
Speaker 3You ate mushrooms.
Speaker 4I did five much room.
Thought they was gizz us, but they won't.
There was mushrooms.
Speaker 2Now that niggas eyes got big oder he liked gills were from Florida.
Oh see he liked gills.
Yeah, so we we we.
I was dating somebody at the time that was trash.
I hope you ain't watching this because that's how it felt.
Speaker 1But blessed.
It's hard, bless.
Speaker 2And I remember we I was trying to get myself back together with dad.
Was terrible, terrible then and then then we saw you in Atlanta.
Speaker 1Yeah, and we had dinner down.
Speaker 2We had dinner.
I set up with your friend.
We key, we cut up.
Tell we key, we key girl.
It's just like all the times we ever get together.
We key, you know.
And that's what I love that your spirit is so genuine and and it's so real that that when I see negative ship about you on the internet, I'll be want to scrap.
I know you don't but I'll get an.
Speaker 1Got to let it go.
Speaker 4Gotta let it go, because you know, the most of the time you see those things, it's some strangers anyway, the people that don't know me.
So I'm like, well, why I'm I be mad about something that from somebody who don't know me.
Speaker 1I may need to adopt that.
Speaker 2But I want to circle back tab since I didn't do this at the top of the show.
Okay, there's a the section of my show.
It's called talk your shit.
Speaker 1Oh.
Speaker 2This means I want you to tell people who you are, what you do, what you're proud of.
Speaker 1This is your time to shine and not hold back.
Speaker 2So basically, in a nutshell see this was you know my producers back there, Honey, they right stuff in a clean way.
I want you to tell the people how I'm Tamitha Brown.
I did this.
I built that.
I don't want no humidity in this.
Oh okay, I want you to tell the people you did this.
Speaker 1I'm worth this.
Speaker 2I partnered that because don't be ashamed of what God bless you with.
Oh I'm not ashamed, and not just ashamed.
I think that you're not bragging when you speaking facts about yourself.
What youah and who you are, and I think that we've been conditioned so hard.
Speaker 1To uh yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2And we get lost in that and people thank you bragging when you say I retire my husband.
Oh girl, you no tell us?
Speaker 1Well I did.
I told you you want me to do the whole rundown?
Speaker 4Oh yeah, okay to Kim.
Yeah, hello there.
I am Tapatha Brown.
I'm from Eden, North Carolina.
I'm an actress.
I am a New York Times bestselling author four times.
I am an Emmy Award winning host.
I am an entrepreneur.
Speaker 3I own multiple businesses.
Speaker 4Donna's Recipes, my hair, Caroline Fridays with Tabing Chances, my podcast tab in Chance.
It's a fragrance company.
Do you believe Enterprises is my production company?
Speaker 1What else?
Honey?
Yes?
Speaker 4I have four na A CP Image Awards.
Thank you Nick, my brother over there.
I think the most important thing is I am a wife.
I am a mother, I am a daughter.
I'm a lover of all people.
Uh and a.
I'm vegan and I love the animals.
Okay, Oh, I love black and honey, I got a fur baby.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 4I've done multiple partnerships that I probably can't even count them all.
And I've been a lot of things that I've done that people know.
I've done it all in the last seven years.
I've been pursuing entertainment for over twenty five years.
But my biggest accomplishments that we have all witnessed, like you said firsthand and you watched it, literally all happened in the last five years.
Speaker 2I remember we were on pause Drag Race and one of the girls, yes, Olivia, Olivia, Yeah, she played you on the Snatch Cat.
Speaker 1I wanted to write you so bad and be like, you're on Twitter, let me know.
Speaker 4I was in Chicago and I was like getting all these messages and I was like, what I said, ain't no way, Yeah I was.
Speaker 1I was honest.
I was like, she could have win in even Motive, but.
Speaker 2Because I told her that, I was, but I was so flat I had we had to take that and it came out a year later.
Speaker 1Okay, so I knew it already knew.
Speaker 2I knew that whole year, and I was like, I can't say nothing, but I was like, I just one day, I just randomly sent you herd yes.
But it was because of that, because I knew what was coming and and Ruth said, well, who's Tamith Brown?
Speaker 1And I said, girl, I know her, Yeah, I know her.
Speaker 2And I was I was telling Olivia, like, girl, next time you talking about Tabs, the spooner's name.
Speaker 1The dog's lacky.
Speaker 2It's just like, there were things that I wanted you to expound on, because tab is a is a over the top sweet personality.
That she's an aunt, she's a mama.
You know what I'm saying.
She's teaching us how to eat healthy.
Speaker 4Yeah, yeah, you know I did.
That's how like a lot of people found me.
It was from cooking, being in my kitchen on Facebook every day, on Facebook Live and Color.
It was you and that damn she she know it used to be in the pot.
Speaker 1Baby.
Listen.
The first thing I ever saw you made was untuned.
Baby.
Speaker 3Wanted alright, did you ever eat something mama, mama make.
Speaker 1Then made that?
Yeah, listen, gonna put tune in that.
Speaker 3It's untuned chick pee tuna talent.
Speaker 1It was good.
It's good, it was good.
It is nonin't eat nothing.
She ain't make it for you made it for me.
That's all right.
Speaker 2Next time, yeah, tell So when the Ruth Paul stuff going, I was like roue, that's that's the bro.
She Then you had got a show on Food Network.
Speaker 3Yeah, and we reached that Rember.
Speaker 1We've been talking about it.
Speaker 2Yeah, you gotta show Food Network because with World of Woman and you know what I love and a door yeah, World of One that creates Paul's drag race.
You know, they created my TV Shoulder Tis Mass Experience, all the other projects and stuff.
Speaker 1That we worked on whatever.
Speaker 2And I knew your show was coming, yeah, because they had told me.
And I was like, oh, wit, y'all doing my tab you know, yeah, I want to know what happened with the Food Network because it wasn't because I was at World of One of the fussing like, well what happened to my sister's thing or whatever?
I remember you telling me a little bit, but tell tell us what happened for us, you know, being fans of it, Like what happened with that?
Speaker 4It was not alignment, right, Like I had a vision and I had gave you know, my vision and what I wanted and a lot of things changed without me knowing, and I don't I don't play like that.
Speaker 1Right, So.
Speaker 4It was it was very hurtful honestly because I have worked really hard on being true and authentic, right because I covered my truth for so long and now that I'm finally free, I was like, oh you now it make it.
It was almost like you were making me feel like my my freedom and who I am and my choices I make isn't good enough.
You want it to You want to change it to something else, and I couldn't.
Speaker 3I couldn't agree with it.
Speaker 2I understand and I know that it comes from the trope of the network because the networks, we want a certain aesthetic, aesthetic, and they expect us as people.
Speaker 4Of color, to be a certain way.
Yeah, I ain't gonna do it.
No, no, and it won't meant it won't.
It just won't meant to be.
Speaker 1I did it.
Speaker 4I had the first be I was you know, it was the first Begon show period but Begon competition cooking show ever on the network.
Speaker 2I know, and I knew some some flaky shit was going on when your time slots started moving.
I was like, see, I watched TV.
Yeah, and I'm also a producer of stuff, so I'm.
Speaker 4Like, Okay, something going on.
Yeah, But I was very folk about that.
I was not the one.
Speaker 1Oh yeah, yeah, you pray for everybody.
Speaker 4But God bless you, God bless you.
Yeah, because you got to give people grace.
This is the thing that I have learned.
Even today, I'm still doing it.
Speaker 1I do.
Speaker 4I practice this every day.
You must give ignorance grace because if not, then you get mad.
And there is some time for anger.
But you still got to find your way back to grace because if not, you're gonna wear yourself out.
Speaker 1But when you say give ignorance grace, tab, what does that look.
Speaker 2Like like what I have shown right, praying for foe, paying it no mind, saying what needs to be said, and moving on and going on by my business.
Speaker 4I give your ignorance grace.
And because see, bless your heart because you don't know no better.
And if you do know better, then that's on you.
That still means you're ignorant, and I have to give you grace for that.
Speaker 2I tall you sweet as but I know your woolf's some mads.
If you need to listen, you from eating.
Speaker 4It ain't many things that rough for me unless you mess with my family or you mess with my money, because I take care of my family.
Speaker 1With that money, right.
Speaker 4Yeah, And other than that, baby, I'd be like, God bless you, honey.
Speaker 3But I can get with you though, Oh I know if necessary.
Speaker 1It's the South.
Speaker 2Listen, one thing about a debt, one thing about a beautiful smell.
It holds a deadly pocket book, and that pocket book could be heavy.
I'm from the South, you know.
Speaker 4But you know, grace is even more powerful because people don't see it coming sometimes, you know, grace cuts you so deep you don't know you bleeding to you at home.
Speaker 1Now, you ain't got but one house left.
Speaker 4Baby, you and you didn'et got it to the house and when you get out the car, you limping.
Speaker 3You the lord this around and got cut and didn't know.
Speaker 2Well you knew because you came in there and you was acting crazy and you got cut up.
Speaker 3Yeah, but you didn't realize it because see you rack, and I was here.
Speaker 1Cutting you up with the grace.
Speaker 3It works, it, dude, It's sufficient.
Speaker 2I be I want to take a page from your book to do this, but you know I'd be tearing it up.
Speaker 1I know you, noney.
You don't have to let.
Speaker 2Me tell you why, because sometimes you hear me out the blue says I'm checking in on y'all said, Oh, ship.
Speaker 1She don't watch and stuff.
I'm telling some people up Nigga be checking in too.
Speaker 4He's like, yeah, we got to get get her, get her together and there, okay, come bring bring it down.
Speaker 1We got to reach over the ground she over snap her back in.
Yeah, she over there.
The hurricane she's gone.
Let bring them back back.
Speaker 2Yeah.
We told her the bucket of Winter's daffle, that choice, hurricane lose.
Listen, And sometimes when you all see me in the calling down, my sister's doesn't reach out, you'll reach out to me, my nikkery, my mama will already be over there.
Speaker 1Lord in the pleasing the name of Jesus.
I'm like, move by, Mama, Move blessed, blessed miss Mary out.
Speaker 4But let me tell you some one of my favorite things is when that typing Me and Choice do that to this.
Speaker 1Day, baby me and say typing baby, but your.
Speaker 4Mama was back there, hold a scripture, mama, baby, you better keep it.
Speaker 1In the comment.
Speaker 4You better keep it typing baby, and me and Choice will do it.
Anytime somebody will be like, you better be typing.
You better be typing, because that's really all to put you know, That's that's what social media is in the Internet.
They ain't doing nothing typing they do, but y'all keep it in the common.
Speaker 2Keep it down now, because if you get anywhere near me, baby, why this hurricane going, baby's coming off.
Speaker 1I guarantee you you're gonna have no motherfucker roof.
I mean that ain't no roof for nothing.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, So, tam, I want to I don't want you to go too deep what you men.
I want to talk to you about this situation with Target.
I want you to talk to me from a place of what you can talk to me about what happened with you and that we know what happened with them, right, that's what happened, But what happened with you and them?
Like how did that sever Like did you did y'all?
Speaker 1How did it?
Did you know?
I mean, I'm still in Target, Like I'm on a contract.
Speaker 4I told people that from like in January when I found out at the same time you found out.
We all found out together, right, and I'm still so like hurt by Yeah you know, but I am under contract, like I have explained this so many times.
Although there's people that we give their ignorance grace.
So there's two ways that I'm well three really, but two ways that I'm with Target, right partnership.
I'm a Target partner, which means I have a licensing deal, which means I created all those products, from the clothing, the furniture, the food, the kitchen supplies, all the things.
I created and designed those specifically for Target.
I don't own those.
That's a licensing deal, right, That's not like a passion for me to be like, oh, I want to create this for myself.
No, but Donnad's recipe.
My hair care line that I own is in Target as a company that is on chef Space, right.
So that's two different ways that we're in business.
And I'm still under contract for my partnership for my license and deals over the end of this year.
Speaker 1So do you sell your stuff now more on your website?
Speaker 3I mean we've always had the website.
Speaker 1That was the other thing.
You know.
There's people.
Speaker 4They were like, she should just put u stuff up.
I have a website.
I'm like, I've had a website for eight years.
We all have a website.
Every business in there has a website that we sell direct to consumer.
Speaker 1Drop Ship one of the people's that I told it was on the shelf.
Speaker 4It well, blessed, it don't matter, I know, but I think it's just people assume that you're dumb, and I'm like, you think we got this far all the other black owned businesses that are in Target without having a website already.
You don't go into a retail space without a website, right, You go in there for more visibility.
This is how you scale your business, right, this is how you get wealthy.
Try to create generational wealth by going into retail and hoping that they extend it and go into more doors and you know, more locations.
But you always like, for me, anytime I start a business, I'm gonna sell on my website strictly exclusively only for that first year, so that I can get all my data, I can get my own email list, I can look at the numbers and see how my customer's spend.
Speaker 1Right, there's a science to this.
Speaker 4You don't just create a product and just go straight into the store without not if it's your own right, without doing your own your own cring, your own database.
But we all have website, and we all have our own fulfilled men and we ship and do all the things.
But there's nothing like retail chef space that that that visibility is.
It's a different level, it's a different beast it is.
I know that for sure, because Yeah, even though.
Speaker 2I'm gone from that life, I was one of the first black girls that had DVDs in the retail.
I had the South lockdown with the dv and I was creating DVDs, packaging it up and selling it to the stores.
Speaker 1Oh wow, where I was my own.
I took the middleman out of the way.
Yeah, you was your own distributory.
Speaker 2Listen, girls, we talking about me, but I've been a girl that was getting my going from a long time.
I moved that middleman out of the way, and I told him listen, buy from me, mm hmm, directly directly by from me.
Speaker 1I will supply you with what you need.
Speaker 2You know what I'm saying, You don't need to talk to because the distribution comes.
Oh we're gonna take this percent and we're gonna.
Speaker 1Do that's taking the weight off of you.
But yeah, yeah, give me the way.
Speaker 2Yeah, weigh me down, yep, because the way they were trying to do it, they was making me I was gonna get less profit, you know, And I was like, no, I could do all this.
Yeah, I'm okay with this.
Speaker 1I could do this.
I could.
I could package it up and I can.
I can physically ship it there or drive it over there, whatever I had to.
Speaker 2I had to soph a lot Bay.
Listen, they couldn't keep my DVDs on the show.
Speaker 1I love it.
Speaker 2This is why I was such a I was in a households way before I was in the household.
They couldn't keep my DVDs in the ship like they used to.
I used to have posters all in the wall or whatever, and they would come in the store and people were still they were still my stuff.
Speaker 1Oh wow.
Speaker 3But listen, that's I mean, you have that experience of knowing how retail shelves work.
Speaker 2It made me popular bigger.
That's why I can't escape this that I can't escape it now.
And that's why I never heard what I've done.
Yeah, because I know I got so big in it by being underground.
People think underground is like, oh girl, you know nah.
Usually the biggest stars, the biggest brands, the biggest start underground, and when people be coming in, they always on the shelf.
Speaker 1Yeah, oh girl, I can pray such and such here and get it da da da da.
So I get so, I get it.
Speaker 4It's something you said that you can't escape it.
There's nothing to escape.
It's part of your story.
Speaker 2But Tam, you know, sometime they try to use that stuff against me, like especially when I'm occupying spaces like.
Speaker 3This, right, but sometimes who who is the.
Speaker 1Okay?
Speaker 4I receive it, Oh okay, it's part of your story, like this is why it's important.
And look at you, look at us sitting here having this good conversation on our heart.
It's part of your story, it is.
Speaker 2And I just there are times that I'm just like, not girl, when they get the putting me on the blocks and stuff like that for stupid stuff.
I'm like, oh yeah, all he you know, all he do is pooring anyway, I'm like, girl, girl, there's no way that you said that you you can go to your home right now.
I say, hey, Siri, Hey Google, Hey Alexa, Hey who is tears?
Mass ain't nothing?
But it ain't no point on its coming up.
It's all this and TV shows and it's the other because I worked hard and here you are, yes, but it's just them will pull that out of the ass crack and be like.
Speaker 1To try to keep me in that bubble.
Speaker 4Well, because they're in the bubble, right, So misery loves company, honey, So they want to bring you there.
That's why you can't give it attention because the moment you do, guess what, Now you're in the bubble.
Speaker 1I'm in the bubble tall, I'm trying.
Speaker 3The bubble ain't even no fun.
You can't even.
Speaker 1Breathe in the I like to fight.
Oh no, I want you to pray good for the.
Speaker 4Fight in contracts and fight for for more money, more space for bigger buildings.
But don't fight history.
Don't fight your past, and don't fight ignorance.
I'm receiving it, Nick, you hear me, Nick, I'm receiving it, and I'm trying shut up.
Speaker 1Hold else She's gonna be all right.
Oh hell, you know you see it in the future.
Speaker 4You see it in the chair, child, But I still test a man something Now you see the president I call and something go down.
Speaker 2Oh yeah, and I'm coming like you still gott yeah you you know you know it's on the way, on the way, yes, Because I remember that child.
I was over there telling they was they were talking that mess about you, and I got on that was like honey, on the chef.
Speaker 1Again.
It's on the shelf.
Bless them, yep, all the people.
Yeah, yeah, I want to know what is in the future for you that you feel this in the future for you that I feel.
Speaker 4Oh, I know that I would eventually do a talk show, But what is in the real like future that I can see and taste.
I'm going to do a lot of like scripted television series.
Speaker 1So you still want to be a super actress.
Speaker 4Oh, I love performing, but also I want to give my friends jobs and opportunities, right, Like, I got so many friends that are actors who are phenomenal that they also just need an opportunity.
Speaker 3But I have some amazing stories.
A God has like put me in this.
Speaker 4This journey of life has given me so many experiences, and I have supernatural shows.
Speaker 1To make and my one am in that.
Honey, I believe you might be on in there.
Look, how y'all.
Speaker 2We can find we can find the role.
Oh, I can get the caroll your knee.
I can be a preacher.
Okay, I can be a teacher.
Come on, I can be an educator.
Okay, mm hmm, yeah, tell, I want to talk a little bit about Donald's recipe.
Okay, I watched the podcast where you where you talked about you sat down with your friend and y'all made two million dollars.
Speaker 1I talked about that where it was a part.
I watched it.
I did, I made two million dollars win.
It was two million dollars.
You said, y'all made that in a year.
Oh wait a minute.
Week.
We hide from We're not hide from the turn revenue service.
Speaker 4Oh no, I definitely hide from the honey Babe, they get the before I get mine.
Speaker 1I had before, but I used it on.
It was an you put another.
Speaker 4Off and maybe we were talking about and not Donad's recipe.
I might've been talking about T shirts.
Maybe, Yeah, that's what you're talking about.
Yeah, and then you went it to Donna's recipe though, Yeah about you?
You and your girlfriend?
Uh huh, sitting y'all made a hair Caroline.
Speaker 3Yeah, Donald's recipe.
So you know I named my hair Donna.
Speaker 4Back in twenty eighteen, I had did a big chopping twenty seventeen, cut all my hair off and letting it grow back, and I sed to Coop Live and honey, she was growing straight at the top and I was had a little bit of afro, and I was like, why is it hair setting up straight?
Speaker 3Looking like Don King.
So that's why I started calling her Donna.
Speaker 4And so I have thenosis in the tip of my spine from a car accident, so every now and then I would go have these like episodes.
So I had to lay flat on my back to sleep for like weeks at a time.
So my hair started to thin in the back.
So I was trying to create you know, well, first I was looking for something to help grow my hair back and make it thicker again in the back.
But I was new to being vegan, and after being sick for so long, I was scared to just put anything in my head.
So I was like, I need to try to make my own oil to grow my hair back.
So I was doing that and I was like, oh, wait a minute, if I'm having this issue, somebody else might be having this issue.
So I was like, oh, I want to create like a hair oil, like a you know, some products for people to help grow their hairback.
So I started trying to you know, create it and develop it myself.
And then I got a call from Gina.
She was one of the moms my husband, you know, coaches basketball, so her son played for the team and so that's how we knew each other.
So she was like, I got an idea, I want to run by you.
So me and her med and it was Donald's recipe.
It was the exact same idea.
She had no idea that I was trying to create an oil and she was like, do this hair care line with oil to have like grow your hair.
Speaker 3And I was like, girl, I've been trying to do this for.
Speaker 4Like eight months and my prayer literally was like two weeks before God, please send me someone who can help me.
Speaker 1And she was like, I got all the time to do this, like this is what I do.
Speaker 4And me, I was this is like twenty twenty so I was taking off, going crazy, like I had no time to develop and do this, and she was like, you do your part and I'll do this.
And so that's how we created Donnad's Recipe, and like we launched January first of twenty twenty one, and this is still height of the pandemic, right, We created everything during the height of the pandemic, so it was crazy, but we did it.
And then when we launched, I mean we definitely had seven figures like in our first six weeks in sales.
Speaker 2Social media is something, baby, It's a blessing.
All you got to do is get a few people to love you.
Everybody ain't got to love you.
Get you a few people that love you, and then your minister too.
They'll stay with you forever.
Speaker 1They're very lawyer.
Speaker 3They'll stay with you forever through in the thing that you create.
Yeah, I'm so grateful.
Speaker 1I have the best.
Speaker 4I call them my family.
Like people were like, oh, you'll follow it, I'm like, no, no, because maybe they show up the tab.
Speaker 2I want to talk a little bit and then I know we got wrap up.
I want to talk a little bit about the tea.
I want to go back to the two million dollars because I had them on.
Speaker 4I don't even know, but I know you is it with Scott?
Is every something about the interview I did?
But it was it was a guy you, a guy guy talking about just how quickly.
Speaker 1Yes, it was T shirt.
It was T shirt.
Speaker 4So I made I started selling T shirts back in twenty eighteen, and in the beginning I didn't realize that was like a business, right, you know, I started my own business back in twenty sixteen, right, I used to sell waistcapes on Etsy.
Speaker 1And waistcape in the kitchen.
It's like a cape that you put around, like to make your outfit pop.
Speaker 4So I make them in all different colors, very long or short, so like you could take this dress if you want to go here the red carpet, where you needed something longer, you could get one that was like hot pink and with TUXI to stripes down and then you could just tide around your waist and then it looked like it was part of your dress.
It's just like a waistcape somebody just came up with.
But I was doing it because I was on disability and I needed some money under the table that would mess up with this ability shit.
Speaker 1Okay, oh okay, so that's why I was doing it.
Speaker 4So anyway, but I didn't make a lot of money.
I used to make maybe like seven hundred dollars a money or something.
So then twenty eighteen, when I started taking off on social media, people were telling me to like put your quotes on a T shirt.
Speaker 3And I was like, ain't nobody buying no T shirts?
And they were like, we really want them.
Speaker 4So I went downtown LA got the T shirts myself, got them printed, did all the things, came back, loaded them on my little etzy site.
But I only had maybe like one hundred of two hundred T shirts, not a bunch because I had to pay for myself.
Speaker 3I loaded them, went to the grocery store, came back.
I was going for twenty six minutes.
Speaker 4I came back to check it, and I was like, Lord, I must have did something wrong because I couldn't see they weren't on the site no more.
It didn't dawn on me that they had sold out that fast, and I was like, what in the world.
So I looked and they had sold out.
But what I realized in that moment when I clicked on you know how you can look at your dad or your analytics and all the things, it showed me how many people tried to buy, and it was over three thousand people.
So that was over three thousand orders that I missed.
And so right in that moment, I said, oh, this business.
I just missed out on some money.
So I said, okay, let me do it again, but this time I'll use their money.
So I'm gonna do pre orders.
And so I started doing pre orders so I can get all the money up front.
Then I would go and put my orders in and started selling, you know, the T shirts.
So I was making a good like six figures in twenty eighteen, you know, twenty nineteen and selling T shirts.
It was a very amazing business.
But twenty twenty happened.
I got on TikTok when the pandemic happened.
So now because at this time in March of twenty twenty, I had five hundred thousand followers on Facebook and about two or three hundred thousand on Instagram, and so my daughter was like, Mom, you need to get on TikTok.
And I was like, girl, they dancing over there, like what I'm gonna do?
Speaker 2You know?
Speaker 1She was like no, no, no, it's a different algorithm, you know.
Speaker 4So when I got on there, that those first thirty days, I had a million followers, and then the next week I had another million.
Speaker 1It just kept growing.
Speaker 4So I was like, oh, I need to reintroduce my T shirts to these new people that don't know me like that, so they're getting to know me.
So I launched the T shirts again, like all my you know, payment sayings because it's your business.
Speaker 1Have a good day became you know, don't go messing up nobody else's.
Speaker 4And when I launched those, it literally in the first hour, I made like forty thousand dollars and I was like, wait a minute, Jesus, twenty four hours.
I had made like one hundred and fifty thousand in twenty four hours, and it just kept on going and I was like, oh, this is a business.
So that's how I literally started making a lot of money by owning my own T shirt company, sell Me, And that was, you know, from twenty eighteen to twenty twenty.
Speaker 2So I have a similar story a little bit on my well when I first popped out.
But does this hype still stay?
Speaker 3What do you mean?
Speaker 1Do the hype still stay or do you or you got to be or does it?
Does it or does it come in waves?
Speaker 4Well?
It it's so business, right, so you gotta you have to feed them what they may want.
You know, you can't keep selling the exact same thing, but you have the same people, so you always, you know, reinvent the wheel, like give them something new, test out their appetite.
So when you doing content, you read your comments, you see what they like, what they say they need.
Right, That's why I did a partnership with McCormick because people was like, yeah, we want your season You don't be cooking with no salt, give us a salt free seasoning.
Speaker 1I was like, why, I don't mind if I do.
Speaker 4Okay, So when I partnered with McCormick, I was like, I only do this with y'allf y'all can help me create a salt free seasoning.
Speaker 3And that was supposed to be a one time thing.
And then so did you call McCormick or McCormick.
Speaker 4No, they called me because I had did a just a one one off video partnership where they asked me to use their seasonings on one of my live cooking shows and I said, okay.
Speaker 3It was a beautiful bag.
I said, okay, very good, I shall do it.
Speaker 4Okay, one hour of cooking, let's get let's dokay, And I made some garlic pasta and the the video, you know, live, was so huge that they called them like what else would you like to do?
I was like, well, funny you asked I would like to create some seasonings that are salt free.
Speaker 1And that's how that partnership happened.
Speaker 4But I was only supposed to do one It was just like a you know, multi purpose salt free sunshine, and it was like a you know, because everybody was stuck at home.
So I was like, oh, let's put vacation in the bottle to give people a feeling like, oh, there's somewhere tropical ride while they're cooking.
And it sold out in what forty eight minutes or something like that.
I know it did, but you had sent me some, indeed, Yeah, and when I had the other ones, I sent you.
Yeah, you sent some, so I got them, but they were sold out, but you sent me some, yeah, And I was like, my mom was in there, yes, and you us as much as you want to do, hue, because ain't no salt, and you know, I was looking out for us.
Speaker 1So but yeah, I think the hype will stay as.
Speaker 4Long as you don't believe the hype, right, So you got to just be like, Okay, this is what they happen about right now.
Speaker 1Okay, then you give them other things.
Speaker 4You just got to make sure you know your people and you also create products that they have to come back for.
Speaker 2Because I'm always saying something that's going stupid always and without even trying, I'd be like growl and next thing, I'm like, oh no now, and then I see another bitch over.
Speaker 1There with it.
Speaker 4I'm like, no, listen, you could have the way that you be saying, stuff the T shirts, all the things, the businesses that you could have, But tell it for me.
Speaker 1I'm gonna say this.
I probably need to get with you.
Well, you can help me with this.
Speaker 2As long as I've been doing this, I know how it works.
But it's just like having the product shipping it out.
Speaker 1It's that for me.
Yeah, it is a lot, but you can't do that anymore.
Right.
Speaker 4You can't do what you used to do with taking DVDs at the door.
This is why you have to have a distributor, right, I can't do it no more.
When I first started doing T shirts, I was packing on myself.
I was handwriting thank you cards, hundreds thousands of them.
Then I said, waiting the girl, this is crazy.
Speaker 1I can't do this.
Speaker 4I'd have my friends over there, my daughter, like everybody.
They were all packing and doing the things.
Even when we launched on this recipe, we first launched, we was all nick we were all in my floor packing them boxes up.
Speaker 1I got the first wave of donnay.
We we did the work.
Speaker 4Gina was at her house with her family and her kids and her husband packing boxes.
Then they would come to my house, pick up a load, drop it off at the you know the ups, repeat, do it again.
And then we was like, I said, girl, this was doing the holiday break.
I said, we I'm about to go back to work in a little bit.
Speaker 3I can't we can do this.
So we had to, you know, find a distributor to do.
Speaker 1That for us.
So you got do you have all this stuff now?
Yeah?
Okay, then I need to we need to really sit down and go over some business stuff we need to get.
Yeah.
Speaker 2Yeah, I can absolutely bus you know, yeah, whenever you want you to take a couple of dollars shit, because I don't want you to do it for free.
Speaker 3But listen, I'm gonna tell I'm gonna tell you what to do and where to go and get it.
Speaker 1Done because I don't I just don't want to be responsible.
Speaker 4But that's the thing, you just all you really need is somebody that you can be like say your project coordinator for your project manager, who will make sure that they keep all that stuff together for you, but also show you everything so you know what's going on.
So That's that's the other thing, right, I like to know what's still going on.
I know I got bit eleven businesses, but I still need to see what's going on.
Speaker 2So all your project manageress check in with you.
But you got to yeah, yeah, yeah, because I get to get to a space.
You see me on the email.
Everybody don't need to know I'm on there, but I need.
Speaker 1To be in there.
I want to see Oh so they b CCU.
Yeah, sometime they'll see see me.
Speaker 4If you know, if we need to move the needle on something and they're getting a little you know, delayed responses, then I'll belave, We'll see me so that they know I'm on there and I chime in sometimes.
But yeah, I mean it's still your business, right, So you need to be able to be in the note.
Speaker 2Yeah, I mean I am that way when it comes down to all my booket and all my other money, like my hardcore money.
But like that money that you're talking about, that's just tangible.
That's just what you call it money sitting over there.
Hey, Gray, listen, it's god tiptorn at my heels.
You know, that's a little that's a little money over there.
But I'm talking about my other money, like my working money.
My just been showing up in it, you know.
But I could be making you know, because I have made it before.
Absolutely, but I was in it like packaging it.
Speaker 1And you know you ain't gonta do that.
Speaker 4I mean, even if you wanted to do T shirts right, just just for an example, I'm been giving them a plug that I shouldn't even give.
Speaker 3But there's a company and as many of them.
One of them is called print forle right.
Speaker 1Exactly.
You just go online.
That's how I did my first two years.
Speaker 4After I couldn't do it no more going downtown, I was like to be an easier way.
They have a location in north Ridge, also in the valley here.
I went in there, felt the quality of the shirts and stuff, went online, designed my own, just typed up words, honey, and then I would use what is it a fiber and get me a little designer for back five dollars ten dollars sending my words and things I wanted on the shirt.
Speaker 1They would send it to me.
Speaker 4I would upload it, put all the different colors, sizes and everything.
You're gonna cut the money, it's gonna go down, but you ain't got to do the work.
Speaker 1So but that is an option.
Yeah, I mean that's what I'm saying, Like I've I done, did all that.
Speaker 3Yeah, but I'm saying then you ain't doing it though, then you ain't packing up nothing.
Speaker 2It's the fact that you got to get on there and be like, hey, y'all get the T shirt.
Hey, y'all's put it on your website or wear it or give it to somebody to wear.
Have you know how many people there's a there's always.
Speaker 1I done did all this stuff.
I think that I got burnt out.
Speaker 3And if and if you are, then that's okay too.
Speaker 1Then don't do it.
No, I'm gonna do it because I need it.
No, I want you to know I'm gonna do it.
Yeah, but maybe you gotta take your time.
I want you to understand.
Speaker 4You say you were forty dollars thirty min hey, hey, but I'm just saying it's out there so many ways.
Speaker 1Because all my videos be viral, Like it's just sometimes they be so viral.
Speaker 2I'll be like, lord, but then know suspay you at times.
Yeah, and then at time somebody else supposed to shit it.
I'd be like, I got a million, two million views on it, and that somebody else don't posted it.
Speaker 4But that's when you click that little thing so that they have to pay you because they're sharing your content.
Speaker 1What little thing, you know?
Speaker 4The little doctor was like somebody has reported that you were that this content belongs to someone else.
Speaker 1That's a new thing that they have.
Uh huh.
Speaker 4Yeah, because you know how like if you got music playing right, it'll it'll pop up and say you're sharing revenue with uh someone who owns a copyright here.
Yeah, they're finna cut all that foolishness out.
Oh you girl, you're gonna have to do your own work.
You have to do your own work now.
Speaker 3You ain't gonna just be able to post other people's stuff and make money off of them.
Speaker 1Oh you girls that got my stuff out there, they got million.
Speaker 2Yeah you're welcome, because I could post it to get fifty thousand and seventy five hours.
Somebody else supposed to then put some ketch and it's like it's okay, I'm coming to get that.
Yeah, it's your money.
Speaker 1Oh that's kind of money gonna be.
It's gonna be so bad.
Speaker 3Maybe the money gonna be so heavy, it's gonna be falling over like that.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Yeah, we don't come to the end because I got to talk to you off live tape.
We don't come to the end of the show.
Tab and the end of the show is it bannit Bitch?
So it's what it's called, ban it Bitch.
Oh, so this is my favorite segment of the show.
Now, some people are out here banning drag shows, LBGGQ, books and even our very existence.
But we're flipping the script.
What's something you would ban if you ran the world.
Here's how it works.
We each get a minute to make our case for what needs to go.
Let me kick it off and show you how it's done.
Okay, my name is Ts Madison, and I run this world, and I'm banning you hoes that take my content and make hundreds of thousands and millions of use off of my content.
And y'all idea of saying you ain't gave me a pity.
I'm banning you from being able to do that.
I'm banning you from being able to upload my stuff because I've my stuff all around this world, not not all around the world, and I've seen like.
Speaker 1Well, what account this come from?
I'm looking at a video right now on Twitter that's got two point five million.
Speaker 3Views and it's not your and you didn't upload though, but it's you.
Speaker 1Yes, it's from this show.
Speaker 2I see stuff that have millions of views where people on there having discussions about YouTube.
Speaker 1You better click reports.
Oh no, it ain't on YouTube yet.
Speaker 2Them girls on the others, you know and tiktoks because you see, because I don't know how much because I'm not really active on my TikTok like that.
Speaker 4Yeah, yeah, and they've ben changed a lot of stuff and people making money over there too on that creative fun what.
Yes, I'm not active on my TikTok, like it might be time to wake it up.
Speaker 2Like because I may post a random something.
Yeah, you know, I know YouTube, my YouTube channel i'm active on and uh Instagram, I'm not ready.
Faith, I don't really because I would pay.
Well they can, yeah, but then they they algorithm be told and then I got demonetized because I cussed the bitch out and so you never get into the root.
Yes, here we at the route.
Okay, yes I did get the monetized.
I'm being in her cutting up.
Speaker 4My name is Sabbatha Brown, and I'm being in ts Madison from cutting up.
Speaker 1Go ahead so that she don't cut into her fund.
Speaker 4Yes, it's I had got the amountetized, see and you need your money.
Speaker 1I do, but it was for me.
Speaker 2But but if you haven't noticed, I've been in the space of me out of took a break.
Try to let my try to come out of that jail, because they'll have you in jail for thirty and sixty nine a day.
Speaker 1They'll have you in jail for a long period of time, and they don't have me in jail for a while you was locked up.
Yes, it makes the money.
Speaker 2But because I cussed the people out and I was like, God, I gotta stop this now, y'all found them a business side.
Okay, I don't really talk about it, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3But the posts, if they was wondering where you had been over there.
Speaker 1Well they know if they know, because they still let me post.
Oh they just won't.
Speaker 4They just took my money, oh, because that's where they can get your attention, because we don't care if the videos get messed up, but the money get messed up.
They just took the money they had demonitor demonetized my Instagram HM, and they demonetized my face because you know, I was right.
Speaker 1I was wearing them out, so I went, I had to take that stuff off of there.
Well, no, I didn't have to.
I left some of the ship up because you don't punish me.
Speaker 3But you're gonna do better.
You already are.
And I believe in you.
You're gonna you're gonna be all right.
Speaker 1Yeah yeah, shut up.
I just I thank you, sister.
I need is that.
I like that you want You ain't even need a minute?
Speaker 4You beat me cutting up, that's it, yeah, because I want you to thrive and be well yeah, yeah, you're paving the way.
Speaker 2But I mean I've made good money and then and then the way it comes to us, it's like I'm like, girl, you serious, Like they hit me first and it's like our girl.
Speaker 4And they hit that bank account they did, and it's be like girl, I'm like, all still.
Speaker 1I can't make no money.
Speaker 4And then you can't get your lick back.
No, and they take your money.
You can't get your back no.
Now I could post about them.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 3See you know what did Beyonce tell you?
Speaker 1She did?
That's revenge is your paper?
Speaker 2He did?
Speaker 1She said that what she said and that's your friend.
It is.
Speaker 4I feel like I know her person now because she shouted you out of the concert.
I was like, oh because because yeah, I met her mama.
But when she did that, I said, that's my girl, that's my.
Speaker 1Girl, that's my girl.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2She is like you know, she always I love it.
You know, you know I said, I can't we can't be you know, but this my girl.
Yes, Tall, I love you.
I love you too, thrank God that you came over here, sat out with me.
We we love you over there in that house.
Speaker 3I love you.
Speaker 2And listen, you know, well, if you ever called me, I'm gonna make sure I don't in the middle of the night.
I'ma make sure.
Speaker 4I'm gonna I'm gonna keep it as a last resort because I don't want you to get in no trouble because you know now, listen, I pull up around now and I put two cars gonna pull up with me right right, just went all black and we're gonna watch.
Listen, but the word gonna get out, Get all my sister, bitch, Get off of hub, Get off my sister.
Speaker 1Don't you don't you say another word about Please help me.
Don't you say ship at my sister.
Speaker 2She's gonna help me lose weight and get my money back, honey, and he's some biking food.
Speaker 1You're gonna be all right.
Speaker 3Y'all heard what she said?
Speaker 1Now, Tall, I love you, Thank you so much, Nick, Thank you for having me.
Suster come over here.
Love.
This has been Outlaws Podcast with Tis Madison and the wonderful illustrious Tapatha b I love you God now, God, dare Camra walk till my sister?
What I did?
How you even got banned on the facebookiesus.
Speaker 2Outlaws is a production of the Outspoken Network from iHeart Podcasts and Turtle Run Entertainment, co created by Tyler Rabinowitz and Olivia Piece.
I'm your host, Tis Madison.
We are executive produced by Tyler Rabinowitz, Maya Howard and Tis Madison.
Our supervising producer is Jessica Krinchich and our producers are Joey pat and Carmen bra Our video editor is Tyler Rabinowitz and our sound editor is Just Crime.
Our associate producer is Trent high Tower.
Special thanks to our producer's assistant, Daniel Rabinowitz.
Our theme song is composed by Wizi Eric.
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