[SPEAKER_01]: If you're a children, who your children should hang out with?

[SPEAKER_01]: Call us, let's play this video, very controversial video.

[SPEAKER_01]: Let's play this video, shall we?

[SPEAKER_00]: I don't let my kids hang out with kids from broke families, and it's not because they're broke, it's because I know that they must have limiting beliefs, and I don't want that, pass down to my kids.

[SPEAKER_00]: The problem is, if I let my kids hang out with people that have limiting beliefs, they will pass all that on to my kids, which is exactly what I don't want.

[SPEAKER_00]: And that is why I never tell my kids, we can't afford it.

[SPEAKER_00]: That's impossible, you shouldn't go after that, it's too big.

[SPEAKER_00]: Because if they get any limiting beliefs as kids, as they grow older, they will never chase after that big dream.

[SPEAKER_00]: And this is exactly what a broke family can pass on to my kids.

[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, the video is controversial.

[SPEAKER_01]: Some people agree with it.

[SPEAKER_01]: Some people is extremely disturbing.

[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know the guy never seen him before, but apparently I was reading the comments and apparently he said that he actually, he himself does not come from one he grew up for.

[SPEAKER_01]: So this is an interesting conversation when it comes to parenting on a variety of different levels, not just from a economic standpoint of the phrase that you kids have, but a lot of different things.

[SPEAKER_01]: What should I thought so on this?

[SPEAKER_02]: I think what he said was said in a very harsh and unsympathetic way, but there is truth in what he's trying to deliver.

[SPEAKER_02]: I'm a big believer, like the five people that you hang around, you become the median or average of that, so you do have to do some love, locate, keep in of [SPEAKER_02]: who your kids are around, if you care about them.

[SPEAKER_02]: Now the rich and poor are the same thing, they can grow rich, wealthy, et cetera.

[SPEAKER_02]: So you can't be judgmental on that perspective, but I think the habits that certain people have can have impacting your kids.

[SPEAKER_02]: As much as you try and parent well, the biggest influence is the education system created by John Rockefeller and the kids who are in that school system.

[SPEAKER_02]: So even with me, there's some kids that Zander may have been friendly with, [SPEAKER_02]: And I would see things that happen at their household.

[SPEAKER_02]: I'm like, I don't like that.

[SPEAKER_02]: I don't like the way certain things happen over there.

[SPEAKER_02]: I don't want you to go play there.

[SPEAKER_02]: It wasn't because it was a wealth issue.

[SPEAKER_02]: It was more of a character issue.

[SPEAKER_02]: And I think there should have been more focus on that.

[SPEAKER_02]: But let's be very honest.

[SPEAKER_02]: A certain level of a fluency, [SPEAKER_02]: Dependent who their friend groups are going to have an impact on how they behave, um, overall, but what do you think?

[SPEAKER_01]: New on its conversation.

[SPEAKER_01]: I'm sure.

[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_01]: Um, So for me personally, you know, we come from a working class environment, working class neighborhood, [SPEAKER_01]: So he wasn't like hanging around extremely wealthy people.

[SPEAKER_01]: Everybody pretty much is the same.

[SPEAKER_01]: Some had it worse than others, some had it better than others, some had one parent, some had two parents.

[SPEAKER_01]: When you look at it in the micro of it now, everybody was middle class.

[SPEAKER_01]: Nobody was really, you know, [SPEAKER_01]: really killing it.

[SPEAKER_01]: Nobody was a million in.

[SPEAKER_01]: Nobody was making high six figures.

[SPEAKER_01]: If you made six figures, you was considered rich.

[SPEAKER_01]: And now we know that if you make six figures, you're not rich.

[SPEAKER_02]: That's just poverty line.

[SPEAKER_01]: That's the understanding that we had now, that we have now as an adult.

[SPEAKER_01]: I say I have to say, look, people that I was around, I mean, thankfully, [SPEAKER_01]: We still are friends now, you know, but I was like, you know, start our new leisure, you know, you look at Troy, Mike, A.B.

[SPEAKER_01]: is young in us, but, you know, he's from our neighborhood.

[SPEAKER_01]: These are people that, okay, my immediate friend circle, right, when it comes to Troy, Mike, [SPEAKER_01]: word not rich people, but we were able to do something positive to, you know, build a multi-million dollar operation.

[SPEAKER_01]: So you can still be successful even if your friends are not wealthy.

[SPEAKER_01]: Now I will say this.

[SPEAKER_01]: The part that he said about limiting thoughts [SPEAKER_01]: is a real thing.

[SPEAKER_02]: That's a true thing.

[SPEAKER_01]: And I saw this happen a few times, but I tell this story because it's the best visual that I can give.

[SPEAKER_01]: Me and Troy, we was at the community center in our neighborhood a few years ago.

[SPEAKER_01]: And there was a kid that was in, I think he's like 11th, 10th grade something like that.

[SPEAKER_01]: And we was talking to him.

[SPEAKER_01]: And we asked him what he wanted to be.

[SPEAKER_01]: And he said he wanted to be an engineer.

[SPEAKER_01]: And I'll architect.

[SPEAKER_01]: He said he wanted to be architect.

[SPEAKER_01]: And his friend, who was next to him, [SPEAKER_01]: About 30 seconds later, he reframed his answer and he said, I want to, I'll probably just do sanitation.

[SPEAKER_01]: Now, that right there is a perfect crime example.

[SPEAKER_01]: It's the prime example.

[SPEAKER_01]: So the kid that left, obviously, I don't know his whole family situation, but he has limited thoughts in his mind about what's possible.

[SPEAKER_01]: Potentially probably could be passed down from his parents a lot of his own personal fear I'm his environment from what his teachers at what that whatever he has limited no matter what he has a limited thought process of his level of success He he he passed that you like literally pasted to his friend the survivors his friend Was not confident enough [SPEAKER_01]: in himself and took the other person's insecurities and limitations, processed it in real time and lowered his life trajectory from being an architect to a sanitation worker.

[SPEAKER_01]: No disrespect to sanitation workers because they're needed.

[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, what I'm just saying is that that's something that I literally saw happen in real time.

[SPEAKER_01]: Within 30 seconds, I don't know, I'm not sure where either one of the kids at right now, hopefully God bless both of them.

[SPEAKER_01]: He literally limited his life trajectory because of a limitation that his friend had passed.

[SPEAKER_01]: And he didn't even say anything to him.

[SPEAKER_01]: His friend just laughed.

[SPEAKER_01]: But that laughed.

[SPEAKER_02]: Sometimes enough.

[SPEAKER_02]: But enough.

[SPEAKER_01]: That laughed there was enough.

[SPEAKER_01]: So yes, 100% who you're around, especially when you're young.

[SPEAKER_01]: me personally, I'm very intentional about, okay, at a certain point in time, I had to take my son out of public school, not because, because I know what happens in public school.

[SPEAKER_01]: And I know the type of environment is not going to, is not going to be beneficial for where I want his life to go.

[SPEAKER_01]: Not, I don't think there's anything wrong with the kids in the public school, because I [SPEAKER_01]: But as a parent, your job is to put your kid in the best possible situation position.

[SPEAKER_01]: And a lot of times, if you're around people that [SPEAKER_01]: Unfortunately, it's not therefore, but it has limitations, it has down to them, they're going to pass it down and then you become the sum of who you're around unless you're very strong.

[SPEAKER_01]: Me, I was a very strong minded person and I had a lot of, and I was always a loner.

[SPEAKER_01]: I had friends, but I was always a loner at heart, so my friend, it didn't fully affect me the same way.

[SPEAKER_01]: Like I could be around people smoke, we, I never smoke, I never had the urge to smoke [SPEAKER_01]: are not like that.

[SPEAKER_01]: Most people are not that strong-minded and strong-will.

[SPEAKER_02]: But were you a loner because you weren't in a positive environment to lift up what you aspire to be?

[SPEAKER_02]: Most loners that I know are successful, they were trying to avoid the bullshit or the friends who were in the streets for street adjacent or involved in activities that were not beneficial for us long-term.

[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't lot to do with it, man.