Oh hey everyone, welcome to adulting.

I'm Michelle Bute.

And I'm Jordan Carlos and I couldn't be happier than to be exchanging here with my bestie Michelle.

You look nice and stripes, buddy, Thank you.

I try.

You know what, it's got to be the vertical, not the horizontal, especially with the tatas.

It's just it is what it is, Okay, you guys, just give me a pecking okay, please traveling And now people are starting to like know me and want to take pictures with me, which is very nice, but like I always got to like have a light beat and like something nice on which I'm not used to right, And this is by no means like we are not getting money for this advertisement because I'm not even like mentioning like a specific brand, but I hate ironing so much.

But these steamers have saved my life.

And now there's traveling steamers.

You know, when you steam your clothes, I always like picture a steamer with like a big wardrobe person and you have to like move in like very big.

But now you can just like pack a steamer.

And I'm just like I want a lot of steamers.

I want them I do.

Yeah, And this is like one of.

My pet peas with comedians on stage is when they're wearing very wrinkled clothes.

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to.

I will steam my clothes.

You used to wear wrinkled clothes a lot, not anymore, yeah, because I was in a linen phase.

All right, So let me ask you this, like what how big of a steamer are you talking about?

You mean, like as big as a dust devil?

Ooh, I'm not a size queen when it comes to a steamer, not at all.

You could be small and mighty.

You can get the job done.

Just in my hand.

You just fit my hand and got a little carrot at the top.

Oh god, all right, listen, I just wonders.

I can't believe I'm someone's mother, And doaa is it like the kind that come in the hotel room, the ones that are like in the hotel class?

Where do I go from there?

Where do I go from there?

So you gotta look good out in these streets.

I understand a lot.

More hotels, especially Boutiqui hotels, are doing steamers as opposed to irons.

When you have to call down for the iron, it's like y'all can't even keep it in the room.

You just pass the one between the ten rooms.

That's too much.

Like I hope you wiping that handle.

Oh my god.

Have you ever like try to iron something and then like there's something stuck to it and now it's all over your shirt?

Yes, yes, I've had that happening before.

Or like when an iron doesn't iron, that's so fucking frustrating.

That's like a vacuum that doesn't pick up, or a comedian that's not funny.

I tell you what.

I kind of went on a hiatus from ironing, of course, as you know, because what I used to have to do was like ironing was punishment.

It was like I had to like iron loads of clothes.

I had to iron my church clothes growing up.

Yes, oh so it was like triggering.

You're like, no, yeah, she was like iron your jeans.

Oh is that a Southern thing?

I mean there came a moment and sis men straight dude clothing where we went from like wanting a is that a pleat I guess in the front of the pants, yes, to just like we want it flat, we want it flat.

Now I think plats.

It's such a strong personality choice and growing up going to Catholic school, grade school and high school and not even finding pants in my size and then having to do plats really fucked me up from pleats.

And see, we have these associations, that's what it is.

And my mom, you know, because Jamaica was colonized by the British, she doesn't say khaki.

She says cocky.

And staying cocky in Central Jersey to a bunch of twelve year olds is like not how I ever want to live and work.

Go to the playground, and she would yell after me, like change your cockies, and I'm just like, but yeah, I mean I see your point.

I can not do plaid skirts anymore.

Yeah.

Uh Like I'm down with the button down, but I gotta wear open.

It's down with the button down, but it's got to be open, Okay.

Yeah, yeah, we've moved away from the button down.

All my shirts now are like tease, it's casual.

Yeah, this is the most buttons I wear these days.

I don't know what happened.

What happened, Michelle, because I didn't get the memo, I didn't get the email.

Life man, I guess it wasn't an email.

It was insidious.

You know is insidious?

Yeah, it's just like it fucking crept up on us and all of a sudden, there's no buttons.

All of a sudden, we're naked.

I know.

Yo, you guys, if you want to see us do naked comedy, definitely follow us in the pod adulting the pod on Instagram and let us know if you want to come to naked show.

People do naked shows.

It's a lot.

What are you suggesting right now?

What are you even saying?

I don't know.

The caffeine is hitting in weird ways, guys.

Let's just get to the live show port this EPI.

I'm very excited.

Tell them who we got, Jordan, because I clearly am a fucking mess.

I'm gonna do it because it's three named Julian Shapiro, Barnum.

I can't wait for y'all to hear this discussion.

It was wonderful.

Michelle, Alright, anything to add Michelle, Oh my god?

Is he okay?

Brooklyn, it's a motherfucking what I will I will also drop it.

I love you too, bitch.

What's up?

What's up?

Honey?

Oh ship hit those angles?

What's up?

Brooklyn?

Book club.

Who the fuck are you on there?

I love you, Michelle?

Oh my god, what's not to love?

What's not to love?

Please give it up for DJ don well over here on the words thank you, I was like, I'm lost in your fucking eyes.

Hello, John, Will, Hey, gush?

How you doing?

I'm good, you look good?

Thank you?

Come on?

Did you sleep?

I slept?

Will?

You're like, yeah, you got a sock at eight you got eight hours?

What sleep?

I went to bed at ten o'clock.

So who the fuck in this city you bed?

How is that done?

Makes noise if you need eight hours?

So you can't fink county.

Makes some noise if you could do it in six hours.

Some grown ut They don't sound as excited.

They're definitely I can do a five point five.

I can do a five point five.

I can do a solid five point.

Are you on your computer or your phone in your bed?

No, I'm just meditating in the window.

I definitely want on TV.

I'm watching TV and then at like twelve thirty, I'm like I should go to bed.

That's it.

You have a TV in your bedroom.

I do not have a TV in my bedroom fin shway, and it's it's in the living room, and then I shut that bad boy off.

I shut off the TV and the Apple TV because sometimes if you don't shut off the Apple TV, then it plays the.

Whole too much, bad, too much, too much, too much.

Say you shut then relate.

Nobody talks about Apple as much as you do.

I know that's not true.

Okay, thank you.

There's one other person in the crowd.

There's another club.

No, but I'm so sick of it, Like the Vision Pro.

I'm very mad at the Vision Pro.

Yeah, I can't.

I'm wearing keels.

We got to talk about something else.

I'm so bored.

And I have a really cute outfit on Wild Bang.

I mean, you know, it is like a fucking plus last episode of Circus Sole when I have to pee.

But that's okay.

You gotta make sure you put it up.

Piano peel on your neck, you know what I mean, aren't you back?

I wore this on the airplane one time.

I was like, oh, I fucked up, hold it.

I was making so much noise.

People straight up thought I was like jerking off.

I just I don't.

I don't want.

I don't.

I don't like scatological humor, you know, I don't like skaters, scaters.

What co I just I love it because it is always giving, Like you know, black mister Rogers, you know what I mean?

Wow?

Wow, Wow, I'm black mister.

I'm black Rogers.

I'm black Rogers.

Now now I'm like realizing I am black, mister Rogers.

I am blacks is like a Meiser technique exercise.

I am Jordan.

What's good?

I haven't seen you since the last show it was told out.

We had Vanessa Williams and her daughter Julia Hervey.

It was very fucking exciting.

Too bad you weren't here.

It was a snow day.

How did you know that?

How brokers ship?

She's right, it was a snow day.

It was an official snow day in the city of New York.

Yeah, it was.

The mayor said that the kids had to go to school online anyway, right, and may America Eric Adam.

We don't like him and not at all, not at all.

We can we can come out and just.

Say he sucks.

I think at this point, what is he doing.

He's like the indecisive friend at a restaurant.

It's like, bitch, make a decision and make it good.

Then he got mad at the parents for not being able to navigate the website that crashed in the first place.

He's like, if you cannot get your child on them, your child.

On the computer with your child.

I was like, what in the city workers ship?

He was wearing a Fendy scarf the whole time from Canal Street, Like he didn't why you were coming for us.

We love the mayor.

We just no, no, we just love them to do something else.

I just wanted to do something else.

Your child.

Oh my god, I think you just came up with your sn l augic ship.

I think I did.

That was good.

I felt it.

Yeah, you got a call black.

Yeah, that goddamn mayor.

But we can't talk about because it's black.

You know what I'm saying that part.

I guess we can.

Okaya, Oh we.

Already had, we already had one Mayor Dinkins, So you're right, you're right.

We yeah, absolutely.

Everybody's very spicy tonight.

What's going on.

Everyone's in a good mood.

No ibs flare ups tonight.

I like it.

I like the aggression.

I like I don't.

I want to know what burrow this is coming from.

We're doing it.

We're doing it.

Where to go.

I feel like, yeah, I don't fucking know you know, didn't you?

Wow?

You asked me how I was doing, Like how my week was going?

That's what you said.

I could just bookmark.

Okay, So I went skiing.

That was fun.

We went skiing in the Berkshires.

It is a mountain range and.

Nobody knows what you're talking about.

I went skiing in the Berkshires.

It it's a mountain range.

And I need a whole lass moment because how many times am I here like seeing a black man say I went skiing?

Yeah, that was so just.

It's a black history first, another black history first.

I felt like Matthew Hinson, the real person who made us at the North Pole first, and so I was up, Wow, this is getting personal.

Okay, oh my god, oh my god.

You guys actly like I'm talking about Beyonce's new country song up here.

Okay, we invented country.

That's shit.

I was like, I didn't even know I was gonna wake up and argue about this is this everything?

We invented country music, the banjo, where the fuck that come from?

Okay, Africabody's been on Black's Widow.

Truly, I got so I got so upset about that because I'm from Texas and hul forerplaus and.

And I was.

Like, like when I saw people being like black people don't know shit about country music, I was like, Charlie Pride is one of three Grand op Thank you, Charlie Pride fifty two, Top ten Country hits fifty two.

Yeah, that insane Darius Rutger better than as Hoodie, uh inducted it into the grand old opry, you know.

And I know it's like being from Texas.

I love my country.

I love uh, you know, Johnny Cash, and I love Patsy Klein and I love all this ship.

But don't tell me what I don't know about the ship that I know and the sources I'm going.

I came with footnotes fuckers, you know, like.

Stop.

I love it when like Jordan's Edibles kicking the fucking.

You know it's gonna be motherfucking show.

It's a it's a low grade two point five, okay, like calm down, come down, my goodness, I know what I know.

You know what I'm saying.

Yeah, And when you know what you know, you know lord, you know God?

So, how the fuck was your week?

Man?

It was it was we don't we don't have to.

Okay.

We we went skiing.

There was fresh I went skiing on the fresh pow pow.

It was very nice.

My son said something beautiful.

I'm trying to hit all demos.

There's white people in the audience.

I'm trying to hit and not just not like you know, spicy whites.

There's like Caucasians.

So I'm trying to hit.

All the dems.

And I'm just, yeah, where is my popcorn?

Okay, No, I'm just my son said something very beautiful, which was we were on the lift and he's seven years old, and he says to me, he says, because he speaks like Elmer Fudd, but it's so beautiful, and we're not going to get him a speech there because it's too cute, and and he goes, he goes, dad, can I ask you a question?

I'm like, you can ask me a question, and he goes, Okay.

Sometimes I feel like explorwing and eventuals, and sometimes I feel like I want safety and secuity, which one is.

Bet Oh my god, what's bet Ale?

And I was like, you sound ridiculous.

No, I don't know, no, but that is.

So cute and if y'all ovaries ain't high five and right now, then you are dead and side oh so good for you if you're dead.

Sign I just told him that's a wonderful question to raise, and that will be something that you will have to you know, you'll deal with it for the rest of your life, you know what I'm saying.

But it's beautiful that you're thinking about it right now.

Yeah, you know what I'm saying, Like, Oh, I love that, and I love that you're giving him the space, the license, the opportunity to even think about that shit, to even feel something different.

You know what I mean, because I see so many parents with their kids and the minute their kids want to say something.

What what now?

Like you only you can't even hear, and it is triggering, like their voices a little bit.

Well, because they ask for mom the most.

They ask for mom the most.

It's always like mom, Mammy, Mama, mommy mom.

And I'm just chilling righty here, you know what I'm saying, to a point where my wife is like, you will direct all questions to your father now, you know, Like it's true, it's true.

Do you get called on the most?

I do?

But I'm also like a shining light, you know what I mean.

Like I'm I'm also very fond, and my whole body feels like a typopedic mattress.

So get in here, you know what I mean.

But they're starting to they're starting to get real fucking sassy, and I never know what they're getting.

It's not from me, Okay.

They're five, it's from your Dutch husband.

Heist he's maybe he's sassy.

It's not me.

Yeah, he's a little white boy sassy.

Sometimes I'm like, the fuck I was trying to put I was trying to put the kids to bed, and I was like, you don't need another story, you don't eat another banana.

We could go to fuck to bed.

Yeah, I want to watch Love Is Blind?

Where is it this year?

Go?

I need to see a d and her lashes?

Let me.

Just do this, and Otis goes, Mama, do you know everything or do you just think you know everything?

Oh?

Oh bird?

Oh?

And you know I didn't realize just those times where you just want to call your kids the motherfucker.

But I didn't say anything.

I was like, you know what, what a great question.

I'll be right back.

And I never went back.

Go to sleep, Yes, go to sleep.

Go the fuck to sleep.

Please, they won't do it.

My son is always like, can I get cold?

Fresh water?

Cold and fresh?

Asking too much?

Call them fresh?

You're asking too much.

That's too that's one thing to your kid.

Done.

Don got a kid, Don got a rome kid?

I got a fourteen year old.

Goddamn, that's crazy.

She is spicy and sassy.

That's fun.

We'll talk later.

Yeah, I can't believe a fourteen year old.

Donna's seventy five.

Everyone, we just aged well.

Genetic baby freezer.

Let's get to our guests.

This is the very tech show.

Hold up, before we bring our guests out, make some no If you have been to adulting.

Before, thank you.

Oh my god, the minormity makes some noise.

If you've never been to adulting, look at that.

Look at god, make some noise if you have listened to the podcast.

So I'm very excited to bring our first guest.

Yes, you might know them from their hit Instagram show Recess Therapy five million followers.

Please give it up for Julian Shapiro Barnos.

Let's go.

Hi.

Oh my god, Hi, everybody, see you look great?

Are people supposed to wait backstage and come out or is it normal to.

G there's no rule.

The only rules wash your hands.

It feels crazy to be sitting backstage like I'm going to come on so soon, Like I got it.

That's every comedian.

That's why I wanted to be in the audience.

But we want.

To Julian write that down.

Okay, yeah by Clarks.

Black Love a good Clark moment all up in London.

I like your pants though they're they're cool blue.

I like what you're doing.

I like a lot of what you're doing.

I didn't know what you're doing.

This is about you.

I like what both of you are doing.

I think what you're doing too.

Okay, what you're doing, thank you pretty good.

That is what you guys are doing.

Thank you.

We're trying.

We we have history, we do what.

How do y'all have so everyone has with you?

Everybody me?

How do y'all know each other?

You can tell you.

We got to commercial real quick.

This really crazy thing happened that I got to share with you, which was we won Webbies for Internet Things very good.

And we were sitting next to each other at the table and then they called Don up and.

He like went up with a lot of beautiful energy.

Thank you.

And then you, Jennifer Lawrence, you fell backwards on the stage in front of in front of uh, in front of l.

Or like Jennifer Lawrence and Queens.

Both both I'm sure Jennifer and Queens also.

But you got up and you did say anything, and you gave your speech.

I didn't phil flat on my back at the Webby.

Before giving my acceptance speech, hopped up, gave my speech and went back to the table, and Julian said, was that planned?

It was?

Wait?

You fell?

I feel I thought Jennifer fell like.

Jennifer fell at the But we run into each other maybe once a month on the city.

That's beautiful.

And now how do y'all know each other?

Oh?

Okay, so if I may.

I was taking my kids to the Spike Lee exhibit because I live in Brooklyn, and so we're at we're by Granary Plaza and Julian stops my kids and he's like, can I interview your children?

So that's what I do for work?

That's feel you were looking to hire people for your startup company?

Yeah, tell everybody what you do.

I have a show online where I interview children about all types of things, Uh, silly and serious.

Yeah, and it's so good.

It's so hard, so pure.

It makes you feel like you there's right in the world.

Yeah, I hope it's They have so many beautiful, brilliant things to say, and I try to put it out there so people can hear it.

As my wife would say, it's wholesome as fuck, and we love it.

And you might you might know the video about corn, Like he interviews the young man about corn.

He's like, you might recognize my arm from Yeah, Oh my god, now do you know who I am?

Yeah?

How did you come up with this idea?

I was in college and I was doing a lot of on the street interview stuff, and I was interviewing with a lot of adults and they weren't very uplifting, and they seemed to feel as bad as I did.

And then the truth that I don't often.

Say is I was like, I'm going to interview like elderly folks, and I got yelled at.

Yeah, in New York City.

I went to school in uh, near Cambridge.

Is this how you tell us you went to Harvard?

No, I went to Boston University.

I was like near Cambridge comfortable.

I also went to school near New Haven.

Oh yeah, near a couple hours near ish.

I have a question.

You said you said you were interviewing adults and they were feeling as bad as you.

What were you feeling bad about?

Was twenty twenty?

Yeah, so what happened then?

And I don't know?

Okay, so you switched to kids, And I have to say this.

I have to say this.

I love talking to kids because they're so original, Like they're just a jukebox of wild shit.

And like, what's been your wildest interview that you haven't been able to put out yet?

Like you're like, I just can't put this out, like truthfully, there's so many we can't.

I have a question.

Are you obviously happy to talk to children?

Do you wish that somebody would have talked to you like that?

I did get talked to you like that.

I come from a very large family.

I think your family's fascinating.

Not everybody knows dads might be here.

But I have five parents.

I don't know.

I said they might be out.

There's one and there's the others.

Playing your family dynamic.

So so I have three moms, two dads.

Uh wow?

Yeah, queer family.

I had two moms.

They wanted to have a baby.

They asked my dad, the sperm donor.

He had hi his husband.

My other dad is the other dad.

My mom's broke up when I was two and met other women and they all raised us.

And I say I got that because I felt like in having so many parents, I was really listened to and like given a lot of space to share my ideas.

It's beautiful.

Airhorn e airorn.

So they're they're all five are here?

No?

No, no, just my dad's are here.

Okay.

My mom bought a ticket and did not come that They're welcome.

That's a move.

I boy take us to one love and never went.

I just want to support.

She's loving you for So, who's the fun one.

They're all equally fun.

That's really good.

You are very.

Very diplomatic, and they might all be fun.

That's wonderful.

They are all fun, genuinely.

Oh my goodness, I gotta get to it.

What's dating?

Like?

Oh whoa, yeah, it's all right.

I just went through a big breakup, so I'm like figuring that out.

Oh my goodness, did you know?

Did you know for a while that it wasn't working out?

Or was it a surprise.

No, and it was a very amicable, healthy breakup and we're still good friends.

What is it like, did they meet all five parentals?

Oh?

Of course they were very very in the in the scene.

And it's a lot.

You have to meet a lot of people.

You think it's a lot of parents.

There's a lot of extended family.

There's yeah, there's a lot going on.

Walk us through, Like, okay, so you have five parents, like so much more extended family.

Do you need like a map or something like that?

Flow chart?

Right?

Dad?

There is?

What's the float is it?

Because my float chart is not your float chart.

I'm gonna just put it out there like that.

Oh my god, hello mother nature.

I'm sorry, it was father time.

What do we what's your float chart?

We'll compare, do a float chart for either of your families, just to keep track.

I have a Yeah, I like, I married into a giant family, a giant ass family.

I just backed up and do it.

And now I have.

Like like it's like three grandma's and like, uh, three grandpa's until recently, and they can't get away with anything, you know, do you you'll like because you have five people watching you, like you couldn't get away with much.

Or how did you feel?

I think things were pretty loose, really within reason.

Tell me more.

Yeah, I think, honestly, not to be so boring, I think I was like pretty chill.

Yeah, you seem pretty chill.

You seem pretty chill.

And it seems like dating you.

It seems like dating you.

It seems like a lot of communication.

And I like that.

Yes, and I like that a good health and I like and I like a healthy dose of communication.

Do you?

And I am just I'm just curious.

Do you find it hard to be casual to date?

Well?

I was a serial I am No, I'm not.

I was a serial monogamoiust I was in a lot.

Okay, you have that vibe and but I'm done, Okay, I'm done.

Okay, why I'm you're young?

Oh right, I'm twenty four.

Yeah, Oh my gosh, twenty four is a good time for a whole phase.

Yes, sure, see what's happening right now, what your guys are hitting up becaus is I'm like, I'm a kid's show host.

And then I'm like I'm.

So sorry, no, no, no, no, you're right, and I'm like, ballowches, let's go no, no, no, no.

I've like really trained myself to like not say ship, but I will whatever you want to know.

I'm an open book.

Okay, all right, so yah, I get it.

Wait wait wait do people uh okay, people that you date now that you're in your your whole face, you can't say it either.

He can't say sex or fucking.

He says celebrating each other's bodyes.

What's wrong with that?

And what's wrong that?

That's awful?

Do you say, oh, do you want to fuck?

Or do you wanna?

Do you like, hey, you want to come back to mind so I can celebrate your body?

I don't have that much confidence.

I don't have that much.

I'm like, I have an original copy of the Age of in house to like to see it.

I don't.

I don't have that kind of compident.

But maybe you would like I could make you a nice tea with a bunch of ebels.

You know those are T traps?

What's that?

Man?

T traps?

Do you wrong?

No?

I'm curious as to like if people have seen you on IG and then does that ever color the dating situation?

I wish I could show you, guys the repulsive d MS.

I received daily.

It is scary from everyone or not well.

I mean, I've never responded to a d M like that because I don't want to open that door.

People are so much more confident than I would imagine they would be with what they can say to a stranger on the internet.

The thing is not.

That's why they're saying it to you and ida kid.

They would never be able to stay it to your face.

And I feel as a parent, I thought it would be like, you know, figuring out how to walk my kid through being bullied, racism, misogyny, whatever.

But at the top of my list, I have to help them define their worth without social media.

It's so I hate social media.

I work on social media and I hate social media.

That's good.

That's a good relationship to have with social media, to be honest.

How are you able to talk to kids though?

Because I glitch up when it's not mine.

I'm always like you a small human.

We have limonade in the kitchen if you like other sundry items.

I think I was bad at it, and then it was like a reps.

I taught kids improv when I was younger, and so I like got really good.

I think at like making kids feel like what they were saying was like something that I was excited to hear.

Yeah, and I feel like that's what I do when I meet them, like I want.

I feel like so often kids.

Aren't given like twenty minutes to say what they think, and I think it's really exciting to be given that opportunity.

Yeah, and some of it's just pretending.

I think sometimes people ask me, like, how do you talk to kids?

And I was like, just be interested in what they're interested in, even if it's not interesting to you.

Roadblocks not into it.

Maybe that doesn't hit everybody, but I have I have to hear about this all the time.

The kids seem to be into robots, lava, dinosaurs.

Roadblocks, roost roadblocks, Fortnite Fortnite.

Absolutely yeah, right, So you you you speak in this kind of language, this child language.

It's English, literally speaks English.

They're talking about a certain way of speaking this foreign literally it's just like.

How was your day, dude?

Like, so, we got questions from the audience and we answer them and I'm not able to show agree.

Oh my god, thank you for doing your home of course you're doing your homework.

Okay, all right, So here's a question.

Yay, okay, how many days a week slash month slash year are you having sex?

Oh?

Just a question for us?

Yeah, you know what it is.

So it feels like how many days every single day of the week.

You're twenty four?

I get it in and I was like, but you are here on time?

Oh face?

Do it now?

Do it now?

How many days a week?

Having sex?

To me?

What I hear is how often should I be having sex?

And that's really up to you.

That's really up to you.

You know, like you can watch music videos or movies and be like, oh my god, that's what they say, but like it's really up to you.

It's how you feel.

So whatever is good for you, do that, you know what I mean?

And yeah, I just I just hate when people are just like every day or four tones.

It's like, whatever you need do that?

Do you have a number?

Do you have a number yourself?

No?

Actually, like an equation.

I have a mathematical proof I use to figure out the right amount for each Oh cool.

That's what that's not my flowchart?

Yeah?

Okay, did you battle imposter syndrome when you first started acting?

How do you get over picking yourself?

Apart on screen, I'm struggling.

Bree like the cheese, Hi Brie, like the cheese.

I mean, imposter syndrome comes from good old fashioned insecurity and you're really just building up this story that like someone's gonna like reject you before it even happens.

And so I always say, don't tell yourself no before someone else tells you no.

Just go in there with like a yeah, why not, you know what I mean?

And also like for real, for real, have fucking fun, Like look at you, you are beautiful.

They would be fucking lucky to have you, do you know what I mean, Like lucky to have you.

So yeah, you're not taking You're not taking up their time, They're taking up your time.

So have fucking fun.

Can I share a half big thought about imposter syndrome something that I've been thinking about, Like recently, I've been in like a lot of situations where I've like felt impostery or like kind of higher profile scenes.

Where I'm like, oh, I don't belong here.

What am I trying to say?

They're something good here?

Like don't.

What I'm saying is like, don't like know what makes you unique and special?

And like don't because you feel like people are being a different way, like don't like bend to that way, like their insecurity.

It's like, yeah, exactly, that's what.

I realized, you know, being the only child, being the biggest person, being the only black one, being all this same.

After a whiles, it's like I just had a smile because I'm just like, why is everyone bringing their fucking trauma here?

Like leave it?

Hi?

How are you?

How you doing?

Like I don't like, you know, you could be this or this by this and the great thing about being forty six, Oh my god, my abortion is twenty five years old.

Older than me.

That deserves an airhorn right there, twenty six airhorn, you.

Know, doing crowd work from stage, especially doing stand up.

For some reason, I don't know when, how or why.

I think it's probably having kids too, because I'm able to connect with my inner child, I can see other people's inner child, So I'm like, we don't gotta do this whatever you think this is.

We could just be and it's so much more fun, Like I laugh so much, like everyone just has more fun.

So like, yeah, it ain't that deep, to be honest, everyone's got insecurity.

Thank you so much, Mary J.

Blige.

Okay, this is going Okay, Yeah, I do it.

Okay, should this is the one?

Should I meet the ex husband if he isn't ready to meet me?

My girlfriend has two kids with him.

That's a hard one.

Now, it's hard.

I wrote about it in my show because it's hard.

Now you have I have a daughter and I have a girlfriend, two different relationships.

Yeah, and they met.

Yeah, the girlfriend and my daughter's mom met.

It was fine.

It was fine.

Yeah.

Blending families as your family was able to do so well, it's not fucking easy.

You know.

You want to start it right away because you're like, how could they not love this person that loves me and I love them?

But that could also affect a relationship.

So I just say take a little bit more time, and definitely don't do it at like a big family event because everyone wants to like stake their claim of.

Like you know who they are.

Yeah, don't do it on a big day.

Yeah, don't do it in a big day.

I think with.

I have to say, yeah, probably a lot of egos and attitudes there, because I'm just gonna say, like, sis, straight dudes aren't always the best.

They can be brittle, you know, what they can be.

I'm gonna, yeah, yeah, I'm gonna go out on a limb and just say they can they can handle situations out in the best possible way.

Right.

So if like, okay, you've met the kids and then like you're with the mom and like he sees you and he's.

Like, oh my god, he's getting with my ex wife and.

He's probably throwing a football with mystun.

You know, like there's not an.

Episode of Fridnight Lights.

But where the fuck did you just go, Captain.

I'm just saying it.

Probably it probably sends us.

I hope that dad is.

Going to therapy because it's like you gotta let go, you gotta let go and like God and let life move on.

But if you're not ready to meet them, I'm gonna I'm a bet they aren't either.

Yeah, don't do it.

Don't don't do it, I say, And it's hard, and then they like go on your Instagram and trying to figure out who it's hot.

This is the stage of life that I've not gotten.

I'm like, oh man, that's hard.

You said you're okay.

Any advice for couples in interracial relationships.

I'm black and white he's white but Italian l O L.

No, No, I don't know.

I've heard jokes before.

What do you think, Oh, any.

Advice for inn racial relationships?

You know what I wasn't I really wasn't prepared because I was such an equal opportunity ho like it really was.

It really was like a game of musical chairs.

Like the music stopped.

I was like, oh, you know, it's so I didn't know.

You know, I have been accused of whitewashing my family because I'm skined.

He I was like, no, it's a dick, and then no.

Oh my god, you know, and.

Then like you have to explain yourself.

But I'm like, but now we're ten years in and he loves me, Like he's picked me up off the floor, he's held my hair back, we've been through four miscarriages.

Like he's a good ass dude.

When I come home tonight, he has my bonnet ling on a fucking pillow for me.

Like at the end of the day, it's just like if that's your person, like you figure out you always kind of figure out how you have to defend yourself, like an elevator pitch, like in one line, you know what I mean?

And anybody that always has something to say about my interracial relationship is always single.

I didn't write that question.

Okay, don do you have any advice?

Yeah, I'm not an interracial relationship.

I'm sorry you ever have you ever been in an interracial relationship?

Not saying that a good enough to give any advice about being all I have.

I have several julian racial friendships, yes, Julian.

Have you ever been in an interracial relationship?

Yes, but I don't know if I have.

I want to offer to our guests.

What would I say?

Here's some tips.

The amount of board games that you're asked to play.

Oh my god, board is right.

Okay, I know it's a hominem.

I know it's a hominem, but like stop, I know when you play board games, I know you have perfect credit.

Okay, I get it.

You're like, let's let's have a little panic in the room.

Let's i'm a little dilemma.

We have to figure out.

Hey, you know what you bar.

Bar?

That's that's my culture right there.

Okay, I understand where you're coming from, but please a little respects, all right.

I can't do it.

I can't do that many.

Games Anyways, we asked all our guests, and you've been a wonderful guest, thinking so much.

What is the most adult thing you want to do for yourself that you haven't had time to do this year?

And it could be anything big or small.

I want to, Uh, I rent an I rent an office space, right, okay, rights, it fields adult, that's wrong.

But I think I get less work done there.

So I want to challenge myself to not just use the printer.

And it's so cool that they have not because I don't have that.

But yeah, and really harness the power of productivity.

But I'll want to be last of an adult.

I think adult is bad.

It's bad.

It's bad.

Don't do it.

It's called adulting, I know, and I actually against that word.

Well, thank you for.

But you know what, you know what the key is, Really it should be fun being an adult because growing old is a privilege.

Yeah, all right, give it up for joy.

Give it a.

Good talking to JSB.

That was so cool.

What a nice, warm and kind person.

Yes, you know what.

I love.

I love how open discussions of therapy are right now, because when I was growing up, it was like, oh my god, are your parents getting divorced, you know, shame, yes, and then like it's scarlet and then like therapy, Oh my god, what's wrong with you?

Are you crazy?

And so you know, when I was growing up, it was like slim fast and the only thing we should take care of is like we're trying to work on is like being thin.

And the importance of on around mental health right now, especially with social media and such, I think is it's wonderful.

It's fucking wonderful and necessary.

And so you know, if I have to think about something positive about the youth and the future, it would definitely be that.

It definitely be the vocabulary.

Oh absolutely.

I mean, look, the thing I love about kids is there always going to say something original.

Yeah, not extra crispy, not extra.

Not extra crispys, not going to be just like something they heard in like an echo chamber.

Yeah, it's so cool.

And I didn't know how much I needed that in my life.

You know, yeah, I have it, but to hear it on ig.

What Julian brings is like this quilt work of children, you know, Yeah, they're understanding of the world around them.

It's like we are just trying to get back there as adults.

We are our inner child needs a hug.

Oh my god, my inter middle child.

We are hugging your inner child today.

All right, everyone, take care.

Bye and don't forget.

No, no, not not every episode, not every episode.

It's too much.

Oh my god, Jesus Christ.

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Howley.

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