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This post is from the subletted am I wrong?

And it's by user dizzy University five eight seven.

Am I wrong for treating this as breakup worthy?

Partner intentionally hit my laptop out of spite some context.

My partner late twenties female and I late twenties female have been together seven years.

We've had periods of breaking up and getting back together.

We recently moved in together after a long period of what felt like stability and growth.

But since the moving process and moving in, there's been a lot of strife and fighting, some of it old problems coming back up, and some of it new issues.

One recurring problem is my partner struggles with organization and will put her things such as clothes, accessories, etc.

In piles in a specific but non designated place for those things, for example, putting a pile of clothes and jewelry on the couch or entryway table.

When I or she accidentally move these items, usually due to needing to use that space for its intended purpose or some other purpose, it becomes a huge problem.

She gets frustrated and overwhelmed quickly has wanted me to drop what I'm doing to look for it, with the undercurrent of it being my fault it's misplaced and my responsibility to find it, which makes me not want to help anymore and have the time it ends up in a fight.

It's exhausting.

We're still in the process of unpacking and settling in and right now one of our bathrooms is filled with storage.

So she puts a stack of her clothes, including a hat, on top of the storage items.

I needed to get to those items to organize the house, and I did my best to put her things together.

I don't recall moving the hat.

Cube breakfast time, We're having a fine morning chatting and everything is good.

She's getting dressed and goes to get her hat, which is not where she remembers putting it.

Immediately, she's upset with me, telling me I need to stop touching your stuff and how I always do this, and she is agitated and frustrated.

I tell her calmly but firmly, that I have no intention of moving her things, but if I need to get to this storage, I will simply have to touch her stuff, and that it probably fell behind some things, and to keep looking because I know she will find it.

She didn't want to hear that.

She became increasingly more upset, talking at me, stormed around criticizing me instead of actively looking, and I lost my patience and left on a walk in the middle of her talking.

Fast forward to the afternoon.

Partner is not home.

I'm looking around for my laptop.

I have finals due the next day and I need to start working.

Keep in mind, I do have another laptop that I just bought to replace my old one, but I hadn't set it up yet, and to manage my fickle ADHD motivation, I was going to use setting up my computer as a reward for completing my finals on my old laptop.

But I can't find my laptop anywhere.

It's not in the place I always leave it.

My gut immediately says that she took it or moved it, but I decided to look around first and make sure I didn't miss anything.

I look everywhere.

I text her, did you take my laptop with you?

She takes a while to text back, No, I don't have your laptop.

I ask if she's seen it and she can check her eye cloud since it used to be connected.

No, it's been disconnected for a while I text again, Okay, so have you seen it?

No reply.

I am now ninety five percent convinced she is lying to me, but I don't want to believe that she would actually do this.

She comes home in the evening, I ask again about my laptop.

She sits on the couch, not looking at me, focusing on something else.

While I'm asking to talk to her about it.

She tortles at my suggestion that the only other logical option if you don't have it and it's not in the apartment is that it's stolen.

We live in a building.

I keep pressing her.

She says, offhandedly, I don't know.

Did you check that closet.

She walks over to the closet to put away her jacket, and I walk over to watch her, suspecting she would pull it out of her bag or something.

I didn't see her move anything, and I ask, why would you suggest that closet specifically.

This goes on for a few more minutes, with her smiling, smuggly and snickering, and I'm getting increasingly upset.

She's telling me she's too busy to help me find my laptop by answering my questions.

Finally, I walk over again to the closet, the tiniest piece of doubt, wondering if maybe I didn't check it fully, and lo and behold, it's sitting right there on top of some jackets, the same jackets I complete he pulled out of the closet while digging through to find my laptop.

It wasn't there before.

I absolutely lose it.

I am livid.

I am yelling at her that she is weird and that was cruel and disgusting behavior.

I tell her I don't want to be in a relationship with her, and I do not want to be in a relationship like this.

Once I say that, she doubles down, says I broke up with her, and just proceeds to dismiss that it's just a computer and it's not that serious, and was attempting still to make it seem like it was there in the closet the whole time.

Turns out she hit it on a top shelf, the only place in this entire apartment I didn't check.

She still has not apologized and said she had no reason to since we're broken up.

Her response in the whole situation made me feel sick to my stomach.

I absolutely hate pranks.

She knows this, and this wasn't even a prank.

She basically admitted to doing this because she was pissed at me for loosing her hat.

Mind you, I founder damn hat while looking for my laptop exactly where I said it would be.

This feels extremely serious to me.

It doesn't feel like a petty little act.

It feels disrespectful, like a breach of my privacy.

And I were shared space and genuinely cruel.

I told her, I don't think you can care for someone and love them, and to do something like this intentionally caused them distress, confusion, and harm.

I cannot fathom how she thought this would play out.

The whole process of breaking up is daunting, and I historically have not been good at maintaining my boundaries and my resolve when breaking up.

In the past, I initiated, but we were both expressing unhappiness.

We live together now, and while the apartment is spacious, it is challenging to split up rooms only one bed and the other room is still being used to storage, and finding a new apartment is even more challenging with financial constraints.

Having just moved so recently, I have been feeling a lot of frustration with our dynamics aside from this situation, as has she.

I love her a lot, but I'm at my wits end.

I don't know if things will get better or if we're doomed.

We've tried couples counseling again recently and it didn't go well.

Partner was shut down and didn't like the therapist.

Our communication is not improving.

I need advice on how to move forward in this situation.

Will be based off of everything that you wrote.

It doesn't seem like you guys are compatible at all.

You guys are definitely drawn to each other.

I mean, you've broken up and come back so many times.

I don't know if it's because you guys are stubborn and refused to call it quits, or if you're actually naturally drawn to each other but you're incompatible.

I mean, chemistry can take you so far, but you also need admiration and respect to actually call it love, because at some point in these seven years, respect did leave the relationship.

Now regarding what she did in this particular case, in my opinion, absolutely break up worthy, and again based on everything that you wrote in the post, I think there's no further analysis needed.

And what do you guys think?

Let me know in the comments section, and now let's check out the community comments.

Kit Kat seventy one seventy nine says, love yourself enough to stop being in a relationship with someone who acts like that.

People will only treat you the way you allow them to.

She is obviously not ready to act like a normal, well balanced person, nor is she ready to be an adult.

If you love someone, you don't purposely cause them distress and anguish, get your stuff together and leave as soon as you can.

Few Replacement ninety five thirty one says you are not wrong, or yawn?

Tell me what she planned to achieve by hiding your laptop the day before finals.

Surely she knew this would really hurt you academically and emotionally.

I don't know if she's done anything like this before, but her behavior is horrible on so many levels.

Odubeaque says, not wrong, girlfriend doesn't actually respect you.

It took you seven years to move in together, and you have had numerous prior to breakups.

Stop forcing this relationship and find something that is better.

And kimmeron four one two says it's cruel and sheds light on her underlying personality.

Most of us in serious long term relationships couldn't fathom causing stress or upset to a partner, but that is clearly not her.

Run at the first opportunity, my spider senses tell me there is a possibility of some form of retaliation towards you if you double down on the breakup.

The community agrees.

Ope, he needs to take get out of that relationship as soon as possible.

So now let's move on to the update to see how this story ends.

I posted a few days ago about my partner, both female, late twenties, hiding my laptop in revenge for me accidentally misplacing her hat allegedly and me breaking up with her for it.

I've been avoiding speaking to her, sleeping on the couch, getting my affairs in order quietly, She's been finding ways to try and rage bait me.

Last night, at two am, she comes to the living room where I'm sleeping to ask where I put my rose toy.

I know, you know, I put it away because it's mine.

It was always meant to be my personal toy.

But she took quasi ownership of it, and I simply don't want her using it anymore.

She proceeds to harass me for forty minutes straight to tell her where it is, to please give it to her, that she needs it to sleep as she disrupts my sleep.

I had to lock myself in the bathroom twice because she wouldn't respect me telling her to leave me alone, and kept coming back.

At the end of this high rate, she asks, when are you leaving for holiday trip?

I tell her I don't know, and to please leave me alone and let me sleep.

No, no, no, I just need to know when you're going to be gone for an extended period of time.

Cauz, Yeah, I just need to know, implying she needs to know when I'll be gone so she can get her rocks off with someone else in the house.

I didn't get to sleep until after three am.

She gets up at seven thirty am.

She never gets up this early, comes to the living room loudly tries to hug me.

I was sleeping.

I tell her to please do not touch me.

She says, really, how long are we going to do this for?

I pull the covers over my face and try and ignore her and stay calm.

She pulls them off My face to ask me a question.

She proceeds to turn on all the lights even though it is already bright.

She blends something for no exaggeration.

Twenty minutes straight, she stumps around, slams doors, loudly, rummages through items.

I stay under the covers and just contain my energy.

Before she leaves, she again tries to hug me after I told her multiple times to please not touch me.

She forces a kiss on my head and says I love you, and again asks how long we're going to do this.

Finally, she leaves for the day.

When I get up, I see that she turned the heater in the living room up to eighty six degrees from seventy degrees to make me horten uncomfortable.

We have pets.

I just wanted to update because I needed to hear how messed up, manipulative and abusive it is.

And I just want to witness myself by writing this down and be witnessed by others.

I can't wait to get myself out of here.

Yes, OPI please try to get yourself as soon as you can out of there.

If you have family living clothes by, maybe you can stay with them and figure the lease out.

Later, maybe you need to keep paying, but at least get away from her.

She claims to love you, while just a few hours later she was asking you when are you leaving so she could be alone.

This person is toxic to the bone.

Get away.

But in the meantime, OPI take care of yourself and here's wishing you the best.

Thanks for sharing, and I will keep my ear to the ground in case Op posts another update.

But in the meantime, let's move on to the next post.

It also has an update.

This post is it's from the Subreddadam the a Hole and it's by user advanced to light three one seven am I the A hole from not removing multiple scary posters from my room that my nephew is leaping in.

Okay, So I Mail sixteen got told today that my brother Mail twenty nine would be staying in my room overnight tomorrow with my nephew Male six I'm already pissed at this because well, it's my effing room.

My mom is part of the older generation, so according to her, it's perfectly normal to give up your bed for a guest.

One thing about my room is that the walls are smothered in posters like no gaps between Jenga of different poster banners and postcards.

I have a wall of two thousand postcards of Studio Ghibli, seven full sized posters, five half size, forty A five pictures of Hozier, and lots more general memorbilia from bands and shows.

I have three posters stapled to my ceiling, one of which is Ryuke from Death Note look him up.

He is creepy as he is a demon, I will admit.

And my brother asked, ooh, can you just take it down for the night.

I say no, sorry, it's staple and I don't want to damage it and put it back up.

And he is not pleased, having a go at me and saying you would have been scared at his age too.

I don't see how that's my problem.

I don't want them in my room at all.

I'm not ripping down a permanent poster for people I don't want in my room.

But it gets worse.

I mentioned the forty a five pictures of Hosier before he wanted me to take them down.

He said it looks like a shrine cult, like it's gonna scare him.

Take it down.

I'm not listening to a word, he says, but like, am I in the wrong for this?

I don't feel like I am, but my mom is calling me unreasonable.

Well if you personally, no, I don't think you're in the wrong.

You're being kind enough to accommodate them in your room for them to sleep.

You don't need to change the decoration.

And after your brother asked the first time and you refused, he should have understood it's it's not gonna happen and should have tried to figure something else out.

So no, Opie, I don't think you're the ehle or unreasonable at all.

And what do you guys think?

Let me know in the comments section, and now let's check out the community comments.

Oriyan Key thirty nine ninety six says, not the ahle, but maybe a simple roll of brown package paper pinned over them would ensure he doesn't damage them and that they don't get taken down.

Or you could use wrapping paper.

Not ideal, but would be kind.

Soap Poisoning says I was always asked to give up my room to guests as a kid.

It was annoying, but it was the best way to accommodate visiting relatives.

Since we didn't have a guest room.

It's not an uncommon occurrence.

As for the posters, maybe there is some kind of compromise that will protect your posters while protecting your nephew from disturbing images.

Can you find a way to cover the posters, like maybe hang up bed sheets or paper in front of them.

Drake ver de d says it's perfectly normal to give up a room to a guest, especially as a child.

People have been doing this for a very very long time.

I did this a lot when I was a child, and honestly, it was never a problem.

It's temporary and if there isn't anywhere else to put the guest, it's also sensible.

So I do think you're being a bit unreasonable on that part, even though it's not ideal to give up your room for a few days.

But it's unreasonable to ask you to take the posters down, and that shouldn't be part of the conversation.

You should not be required to adapt your room in any way.

As long as it's clean and tidy.

It comes as is and should stay as is.

So it's and everybody sucks here situation.

In my opinion, you could be more gracious, your brother shouldn't ask for you to remove your posters.

Your mother could have found other arrangements, and sheep Pup says, not the ahle.

They are being completely unreasonable.

It's not going to disturb your nephew to see pictures of a singer on a teenage's wall.

Posters and photos singers are completely normal for riuke on the ceiling.

What about a compromise put posted notes over his face so that the kid can't see it, but you don't have to damage your poster.

Well, the community agrees Opie is not the ahole, except some people thinking everybody sucked here.

In any case, let's move on to the update to see how this story ends.

My nephew saw the poster and didn't give an f We picked him and my brother up, came back to my house, well my mom's house, asks some of you seem to care so much about property ownership, and I was given the job of babysitting and entertaining him for the rest of the day.

Eventually, the park gets boring, toys get boring, games get boring, so he asks to watch YouTube in my room.

My brother instantly goes, no, there's scary pictures you won't like this immediately piqued his interest and went straight to my room, straight staring at the ceiling.

He's just like, oh, that's cool.

Turns out out he literally plays Call of Duty zombies all day and has unlimited access at six.

My brother was literally just trying to get under my skin and irritate me.

Thanks to everyone for all the advice, though, but I do think some people either disregarded or just didn't care that the poster is on my ceiling.

I'm five to two, so it took me an hour, a pile of cushions, and a lot of rage quitting to put them up in the first place.

But none of that matters anymore, Spiley face, Well it be Apparently it all ended well, and your brother's a dork just doing this to irritate you.

Come on, man, get a life.

Anyways, Opie, here's swishing you the best.

Thanks for sharing and take care, and now let's finish this video with a mood booster post.

This post is from the subreddit petty Revenge and it's by user I don't want to sign in dressed down, so I stood up.

I worked in an office where they promoted a very new, unexperienced, unqualified suck up from an entry level guy to a team lead one of three under the manager.

There were roughly thirty people on the team.

HR rules stated that he wasn't allowed to apply due to having been at the company less than one year at zero leadership experience, et cetera, et cetera.

Grievances were filed with HR and dropped despite multiple fully qualified individuals with spotless records being in the running.

He was known to be a suck up and wasn't really liked prior to his promotion.

After the promotion, he was wildly hated, apart from a couple of sycophants, quite entertaining in retrospect how people will degrade themselves for the barest scraps of power.

Anyway, Middle management knew he was reviled and told him he had to find a way to get people to like him.

His solution was not required, but you should think of them as required happy hours every month.

For the first one, most people felt like they had to go and started figuring out how to fit it into their schedule.

Some of these people had an hour drive each way and were finding sitters for their kids.

These people were terrified they would lose their jobs if they missed drinking a few beers with the boss.

I should note that he has not roped in everyone under the manager.

I'm not even technically under this guy.

I knew my rights and declined the invite.

He comes by my cube a few times and the day of to try to pressure me into being there.

Dude, there is no way I'm spending my free time with work people.

You can either keep me on the clock or you can't ask me to be there.

I know my rights.

I liked my team members well enough, had been to parties at their houses, et cetera, but I'm not going out with the team lead under any circumstances.

Team lead did not like that and walked away in a huff.

Next day, everyone comes in and everyone is pretending like they had fun when it was very clear they are just trying to get away from team leads attempts at chumming with them.

Around ten, we have a stand up and he talks about how great it was to have everyone at the thing.

Then he singles me out, talks about how antisocial I am and how management notices when people aren't team players don't skip required events et cetera.

Oh okay, dude.

About twenty minutes later, I email the entire team.

Hey all, team member asked me about required after work events that are unpaid, so I figured i'd share with everyone.

State statued Blah says that for hourly employees like us, that we can't be required to go to these sort of things without being on the clock.

So if you can't find asier and make it, you don't need to worry at all.

Totally friendly, totally non confrontational, totally effective team lead sat by himself at the bar for the next two required but not required happy hours and had to find another way to force people to like him.

Not as smart manned that team lead, and Ope, you executed that perfectly.

Thanks so much for sharing.

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