I feel like you done went from from what the penthouse to the to the Mount Olympus.

I have been with someone off Instagram?

Yes?

Have you had a sexual relationship with somebody met off Instagram?

What do you mean sexual?

I've been in a relationship with food blown relationship off with someone I met out of Restagram.

Yes, because statistically, women who are unmarried and single are happier and men who are unmarried and single are more depressed.

This is a statistic done by Harvard study the women.

If you tell me one more thing, goddamn the women.

The more and more I set across from you, I feel like I'm your therapist.

I know you're lying, So what does what does that have to do with anything?

I don't know.

You are so stupid.

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Okay.

So how you feeling tonight?

You got the Red Silk bust down.

Yeah, I'm happy for the holidays, feeling real, you know, just thankful for you know, being able to be around close friends and family for the holidays.

This is a beautiful time of year or two where you could share, you know, moments with your loved ones.

I'm really excited.

I love that.

That's really dope.

I'm really here for that.

So there's been a lot of stuff going on in the media, per usual.

Okay, the first and foremost.

Is I've had this busting on you though.

That's a nice hat.

Yeah, I had his cracking.

Thank you.

I appreciate that you've.

Been stepping yo.

Since the sun went down, You've been stepping your game all the way up.

Okay than going on, what's like?

What's what's what you got going on?

What do I have going on?

What's like?

You know, what's the motivation between?

I mean, I feel like you done went from from what the penthouse to the to the Mount Olympus.

I'm crying.

What's the motivation is?

Just?

You know, you have me on here telling me I was cooked every day.

So I had to remind a mother that you know, cooked food is good too.

Baby.

Get into that.

Older women is hitting too, honey, older women.

This is older women's season.

I'm not an older woman, so I don't know.

What it is older women's season because summer is over.

So now everybody cuddling it up with the older women.

Who is the older women?

Thirty four older?

I feel like I'm I'm older than most younger people.

This cuddle season, cuddle season.

It's getting cold outside, it's raining.

Everybody looking to cuddle up.

Everybody's looking to up.

Yeah, all them short shorts.

That's good to go there in the closet, to the to the spring.

All them skirts is gone, the skirts, and now they got to put some on.

It's like, oh, the boot up is right.

I've been booed up.

I've been boot up baby.

Anybody looking for some extra thick too, Not.

The extra thick, the to eighty extra thick, the two eighties, an extra thick season.

You gotta be too something to do something.

Extra thick, extra thick season.

It's colde outside.

I'm telling you.

This is crazy.

Okay.

So anyways, so summer Walker, let's just get into summer Walker.

She is, was I guess messing with rich the kid, and she basically he released a voice note of her basically saying like I don't care if you have a girl, it doesn't matter to me.

Like get me a separate phone, call me on that phone, and I'll be your side chick, like she whatever, And then what.

They got something going?

Well, that's what she was saying, like I don't care, and then she said then she said that she basically is like I'm over it because your girl be tripping like she be fighting people, showing up places, going to the flower delivery shop.

See what's up doing this?

And she's like, how am I supposed to be have a good relationship with somebody with that going on?

Well, first of all, if you the side piece, first off, shut the fuck up, lord, like know your place, well, that's.

What she's saying.

She's knowing her place, saying like I won't say.

Now she aired everything out, like don't air while you.

Well, because this is what happens with a side chick.

In my opinion, you.

Gotta understand the consequences of that.

Yeah, don't find out.

She might call you, have a conversation.

Y'all might even meet up.

Y'all might even meet up.

It might be a situation to where I don't know some cast that say, hold on, y'all want to talk, y'all want to see why it is the way it is so like you can't be out here and see this is the culture we live in and the era and the generation we live in to where everybody got to do stuff over social media, like no, let me tell you what the old school side pieces wasn't blasting you like you know about that, not like that to where the world know it was like local, right, It was like show up at the church like, hey, I got your baby something like that, Like that's crazy.

It is now they got blasted.

Still, the thing about it is is now everything is on the internet.

You have to be careful.

But another thing is, it's like when you mess with a side chick, eventually someone's feelings is going to go crazy.

As a woman, you're a woman, you're not meant for that.

So eventually you're gonna feel emotional and this is gonna happen.

And they all, like women always say oh I'm cool with it or whatever, and then as soon as they're not cool with it.

Now everything is lasted out.

You agreed upon the situation, but now all my business heared out.

And you know, in the great words of Paul Pierrece, no, no use your words.

No, you said side pieces save marriages.

But I can't I say that.

You have a whole viral clip that says that you said you're a homeboy.

I never said that.

Please.

All I asked is please darted ill put in the part where he said that right here.

I'm so serious because I really want to show everyone how Paul just be backtracking on everything he's.

I don't remember ever saying that.

This is crazy, like this is this is blow because I'm saying that.

I've been married.

You haven't been married.

I've had a girlfriends and everything.

And the one conversation I was having with a dude was side piece and side piece conversation.

He was like, man, my side piece kept my relationship going longer than I wanted it to be go because I was ready to break up with her.

But if I didn't have my side piece, I would have divorced her a long time ago.

So in asking y'all on truth at the dark as men like I know this ain't right, but do side pieces keep a relationship going longer than it should be?

We'll move on from this because you know, I personally will never be anybody's side chick at all, because I'm not meant to play the side I'm really the main person, the main course.

I'm the main attraction.

There is nothing that you need.

I'm the fried chicken, the mac and cheese, the yams, screens, everything, baby, and that's just it.

You don't need no extra sides because dealing with me is already a lot.

You don't need to be dealing with you need something.

I'm gonna change my hair for you.

You need another look?

Okay, cool, let me switch it the look baby, I looked it for you tonight.

What you need like?

We're not doing that?

And I promise you.

Let a man have a sight.

Let anybody have a side chick on.

You said you the turkey dress and greens.

But what if he won't like some sweet potato oa?

I got you.

I got something for that too.

I got something.

I got it.

I got it.

I'm not I promise you I got it.

You just got to let me know and I got it.

You got the word advertising right now?

I'm not advertising.

Yeah, I'm not advertising off.

The market and I'm not to be advertising.

So anyways, moving forward, So women, there's a woman on Instagram.

She went viral for saying that men are becoming too content with being useless.

They don't know how to fix things anymore.

They don't know how to build nothing, they don't know how to pay for nothing, they don't know how to plan dates.

Why are women even messing with men?

And now there's new research that a study shows that the younger generation not wanting marriage.

From nineteen ninety three to today, women are twenty two percent down like it decreased twenty two percent that women don't want to be married and only two percent for men, meaning men are still cool be married.

Only two percent of men said no from nineteen ninety three, but twenty two percent of women are like, no, I'm cool on marriage now.

Damn.

So women are starting to feel like men.

What are the youth for y'all?

Y'all can't build like back in the day, like men are fixing your tired they're changing something, They're coming in, they're building something, they're fixing the air conditioner.

Now, the younger generation of men, they don't know how to fix nothing or do nothing then, or that's what the women are saying.

So it's like, why am I even with you?

Damn, we don't know.

I don't relate to this, and I believe that to be true though, because you got to understand those we don't even teach that no more to our youngest and no more truthfully, Like I was telling you earlier, I had wood shop, I had tech tech shop, I had auto shop in high school.

Those classes is no longer in the school.

So now it's more what the kids do.

Know.

The kids are smarter kids, they're smarter and it's kids out here becoming millionaires without going to school.

They understand the social media game, they understand the tech world.

They understanding more.

They're getting smarter.

So maybe that says something about men and not women.

Maybe men are smart enough.

Well, we don't have to be less handy because if men making more money, they can pay people to do that.

That's true.

But I will say that the newer generation lacks the basic social skill though.

They have that anxiety if they don't have their phone, they don't know how to walk into a room and have a conversation.

They lack that because they're so into the internet.

They have an internet person that you need that.

Though, but you don't know you don't.

Because I can have a meeting over my phone now I can go to work from the house.

You can't.

But it's sad because it's like we're so connected, but we're more disconnected than we've ever been, you know what I mean, Like everyone's connected on social media and all of this, but there's so many people saying that they're alone and they're disconnected, and it's more lonely than ever right now, you know, because people are not congregating, they're not having little close friends and family get together.

It's anymore not the younger generation are not doing those things anymore, you know, so it's like they're not into that.

It's more say, everything is online streaming this, it's everything is a show.

And when it comes to real life you meet some of those people behind those screens that have the biggest personalities.

They're very awkward and it's like you don't even know how to talk to nobody, Like you don't know how to conversation, you have a conversation, you have so social anxiety, you can't move around, Like it's just weird.

It's like, you know what, this generation, they ain't got no for nests.

They don't know how to walk up to a female and be like yeah yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah what.

Is yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah.

Yeah and then next thing you know.

Yeah yeah.

But they don't have to do that because they could just.

Now know, it's so weird to me, this is how guys talk to girls now.

Like for me, I would go out and have to call to a girl and I really had to give her a little bit of conversation, not take up too much of her time, and get it right to the point to where I could convince her like maybe we should go out.

I can take you out, but I got I gotta know.

I know it's the window.

It's like thirty forty five seconds maybe, whereas now guys just go up to a girl, but like give me Instagram, yes, and a girl.

I'll be like, all right here, you can have my Instagram.

And that's how they meet and that's how they extend.

But you know what's even worse than that is like this had happened to me one time.

Many of times this has happened.

I'll be out and I'm seeing a person and they're like in the room with me for like an hour.

We're at an event, They're in the room with me for an hour.

You're standing there, You're staring at me.

You have ample opportunity to talk to me.

And because I can see them looking at me, I feel in my peripher rule no, I feel them, you know, peripheral vision.

No, I can feel it in my peripheral that someone is staring.

I have my head on a swift money.

I know when people are looking at me.

I could feel it.

I feel it.

I don't want anything.

What I want I want is if you are going to say something.

Do it for I don't like a man from a farm.

Listen to what I'm saying this let me get to the point.

So the point is is this will happen right, and then I'll get home and I'll get a d M from a man.

Hey, I saw you tonight.

You look so good.

How are you?

I wanted to come up to you.

That's weird.

You had an hour in a space with me to talk to me, To come up to me, it's weird.

It's so not.

If you don't have the confidence to come up to me as a man, then I don't want to fuck with you.

No, So listen to this.

You got to think about like this.

He might have saw you over there having fun with your friends.

He might have seen a dude next to you.

He didn't know if that was your dude or not.

It's a lot of factors that go into this.

I get what he was like, whoever that.

Is, it will be situations he was just he was.

Just like, I didn't want to come up to you because I've seen a lot of going on.

You was in a section or there's people around because they ain't like you're gonna be standing there looking like a deer.

He no, no, no, it was this situation has happened when I've been like literally standing next to the person like I was a table center at a box.

We're on the escalator, this close together.

Oh here opening the door for me?

Here you go.

I won't say nothing, no idea.

That's my point.

It's weird.

How are you finding me on Instagram and doing all of that work, but you can't be like, hey, what's up?

How are you tonight?

Like are you single?

That's it?

So let me ask you this.

Yeah, you ain't never dated nobody just as you met off of Instagram?

I have, Yeah, I have.

I've been where I've been in I have been with someone off of Instagram.

Yes, one hundred percent.

Have you had a sexual relationship with somebody met off Instagram?

What do you mean sexual?

I've been in a relationship, a food blown relationship off with someone I met out of the Restagram.

Yes, like sexual we were having sex?

Yeah, we were in a relationship.

How many times we were in a relationship?

I was with this person?

Like for how many times have you done this?

Like once?

Yeah?

One time?

This internet stuff is new right now, Like you're not just me?

Yeah, but you're not just meeting people just straight up off the internet.

I'm not meeting people now.

Yes I've done that once before.

Yes I have done that.

So, yes I have done that.

But I didn't see this person in person.

They didn't see me out and about that's the difference.

They found me on Instagram, hit me up, and then we created a relationship.

I didn't go somewhere see this person, have a conversation and they never said anything.

You ever met somebody off of social media and then like hooked up with them the first night you met him?

No, I've never done that.

What do you mean hooked up like had sex, like you.

Know, went somewhere, uh connected, Yeah, and like maybe like kissed and okay the first like you met him.

Stuff like that.

You have a problem business have you?

Like?

What have I ever met somebody on Instagram?

Hooked up with them?

Met them?

Yeah?

I met him on Instagram, hit them up, went somewhere, went out and met them.

Yeah.

Okay, cool, that's good for you.

It was popping, all right.

I was exciting.

Okay, it was.

Kind of more exciting than going on to a girl, waiting for her to call you.

Meeting them, talking to him making for them to call you, and then you set up a day two weeks later on Instagram, let's meet up.

What you're doing?

What's up?

Okay?

Popping?

That's the new note?

And was that it?

You never saw that person like Anna, y'all?

It was cool.

Hooked up a couple of times after that.

Cool.

Okay, So anyways, I'm crying.

Okay, So anyways, Brian McKnight was on the internet and he basically said he was never my boy.

Okay.

Yeah, he said he was never in love with his wife and he just was with her.

He stayed with her for the kids period, and he just was.

Not feeling her none ever, not at the beginning.

He said he was never in love with his wife.

Damn.

That's crazy.

And so my thing is, like, what do men be doing?

I just don't understand.

I can get what he's saying, because there's certain girls that dudes like you understand, like men are built different.

We're not emotional creatures, you know, So like he could just be like having sex with her and like the sex and be in love with that, but not in love with just.

Her and you marry that.

People do that.

Yeah, people do that.

People you act like men, men like they will be with a girl because of the sex, and that's it.

Don't like nothing.

They like the way they look in the sex.

But then it's like, really you dry or you know, I'm just like whatever, you know conversation week, you ain't.

Really into a whole like I could never imagine.

But also I'm not a man, so I'm not driven by sex, you know what I mean?

Like because personally, if I can't chop it down with you, kick it, hit it, vibe out, I cannot be with nobody like I just like so miserable.

And even in my past relationship, my.

Fire more driven by sex than men.

No, that's not that's you're a woman, so you are more.

You're a woman.

Do you know that for a fact, because you're a woman.

How you're not a woman.

There's no way you can know that you're not I know that.

That's that's so not true.

I'm gonna tell you.

I know you say this, every single are more driven by men, driven by sex.

Driven by sex?

Yes, why go ahead say the point.

Because like the sex is everything to a woman in a relationship.

That's such a lie.

That's such not that sex is on the lowest total pole is.

The lowest.

Cheats.

That's so, but that's level.

What you're saying is driven by sex is different.

My motivating factor for being with a man is not sex.

Most women do don't even most women don't even come statistically from being with a man, Like, what are you talking about?

If that was the driving factor for women, a lot of women wouldn't even be in a relationship.

You're telling me that that's the driving factor.

That's not the most important thing for a woman in a relationship.

And I promise you that I have homegirls.

We talk intimately, more intimately and raw than you can imagine.

I'm a woman, and I'm telling you right now that is not the highest thing for most women.

You're not thinking, oh my god, the sex.

Yes, the sex is the factor.

But for me and a lot of women, the sex is good because you love that man.

The sex is exciting because you're like, damn, I want to please him.

I'm enjoying this because I love him and I rock with him so heavily, and I'm into him.

That's why.

That's why the sex is hitting, period point blank.

And that's why when women stop having sex with a man, it's because they're off of a man.

No, that's not what it means.

It's not that's not true.

That's not true one hundred percent.

That's not true when a woman.

Why do men don't have sex toys like women?

Is that true or not?

Yeah?

But also a drawer, but they come every time typically that average man comes every time.

I say, all got these toys, these flowers, all this shit, come on.

That's driven that's driven by sex.

We don't got all that.

Y'all got a whole drawer all this.

It's not draw this is what I'm saying.

But this is why, this is why men are going to come.

Ninety percent of the time.

Men are going to come during sex.

Period.

I don't know men who just don't come during sex.

That's the that's when sex is over, is when the man comes.

When women, women don't come at like men because it's more intricate and difficult.

It's not the man's fault.

So women have toys so they can get themselves there.

It's different like men always are going to get there no matter what.

So yes, it's a different thing, but it's not riven by sex.

Like no, a man being a man and being all the things that a woman wants, like filling him and connecting with him and having that energy and having that relationship is important.

And I think that when that goes out the woman window, women start to feel like sex is a chore, Like, oh god, I have that sex with this man.

Now, this is crazy, you know, Like and when I start to feel like that, I know that I no longer love this person and I don't want to be in this relationship anymore because it's all about how you feel about the man.

And you don't agree with that.

No, So what is your point?

You think?

What?

Just women are driven by?

Second, that's why y'all dressed the way y'all dress, Smell the way y'all smell, Get the toys y'all need to get.

Like, we know what it is.

This is crazy.

You are tripping.

I like a good woman that can throw on a suit and feel sexy and just like walk through the hallway or walk through the lobby and just with a swagger like yeah, I don't either be wearing this because I know I'm cracking.

Okay, yeah, so what does what does that have to do with anything?

I don't know.

You are so stupid.

I love it, Okay, So Anyways, older women are starting to say in their forties that they prefer younger men.

And we've had people on our podcasts that are in their forties that have said this, because I'm not in my forties, so I don't know, but they're saying because they're more easy minded, they're not stuck in their ways, and they're not intimidated by strong women, so they're like we are.

And I hear this all the time.

The older women are saying, the young men.

Wow, older woman, then let's talk about that.

Well, forties, okay, forty or.

Your women who like younger men just like boy toys.

I could believe that.

They just like somebody because because everybody been written them off and nobody want them, and now they just want a sexual power there.

And they know it's not gonna be.

A nobody want.

It's not gonna be it's not gonna be no attachment because the young dude ain't gonna be felt.

A young dude eventually gonna be like, I'm just gonna get with her in that seat.

Ain't know this a long term.

He already knows it ain't long term.

He like twenty six, twenty eight, you know, he got a future with something else, so he just this is just a pass along passed by there taking.

Up of men that have been like Drea's with oh boy, they have a kid together.

He's like twenty three and she's forty five or.

But there is cases where, you know, there is cases to where an older lady can can like really like turn a young boy out and he's just overwhelmed and he's just like damn.

I think that it's kind of strange that when men are with super young women, we're like, that's disgusting, you're this, But when women do it, it's not looked out like that person don't find that that.

I think that's nasty.

And I think that there's a lot of men who've been taken advantage by women who were like older than them and they were only like fourteen or fifteen, and they have these stories of like, oh, this older woman who was like this age was doing this and doing that.

No, that's a real thing that a lot.

Of men have experienced.

Yeah, I experienced that's a real you know.

That's when I was twenty one twenty two, there was like an older lady I was dating, what was her age?

She was like in her thirties.

Okay, she's in their thirties.

But it was like as a young twenty one twenty two year old, you know, in the league with some cheese.

It was just like all right, she was like, all right, I'm gonna fly you here.

I'm gonna pick you up in my bands were I'm like, this is this is crazy, Like you ain't seeing that from the young.

So I'm just like, all right, I'm gonna take you.

So now you're intrigued by that, I'm gonna put you up in this suite here, and I'm like, damn, this is crazy of you down.

I'm like, damn, this is.

She got the feather man.

She got that big feather, the big feather.

Right, It's like, damn, so now you over here.

Now I ain't gonna even lie to you.

My mind was gone.

My mind was gone.

I can't imagine.

I was just like, hold on.

But that's that's crazy though.

That's like grooming as somebody.

Yeah I was.

And and when men do that, it's looked up like you're disgusting, you're nasty, you're fucked up.

But I think we need to hold women accountable because what do you mean you have a son, that's his same age, and this is who you're dealing with.

Like, and men don't emotionally mature scientifically till forty three.

So you're telling me that you're with a twenty year old boy, or even boys who are like fifteen sixteen.

It's cracking for a man because they're looking like this older woman.

She's turning me out, she's putting me on.

But that's still not okay, Like that's weird and that's uncomfortable.

Like I would never mess with any young boy like twenty one, twenty two, Like I think that that's very strange.

I don't feel comfortable with that.

I have a nephew that's older than that.

Like to me personally, I do not feel comfortable with that.

I don't like younger man.

I do not want to date anyone younger than me.

I've never been with anybody younger me, only older than me.

I don't deal with younger man.

I think it's very weird, and like, I just think that men already have a problem being mature.

So it's like then I'm being with someone who's even more and it's like you are taking advantage of them.

It feels like you could easily like I could manipulate a young boy so easily.

Right like I was, like I was in the league, so I've seen a lot already.

No, it doesn't matter though, because I've had young boys that are in the league that be like twenty one, twenty two, money rich everything trying to be like what's up, and I'm like, you are a child.

I will not fuck with you, Like that's weird and literally like I could take advantage of him and be like let get married to him and everything, take his money and do all this like it's easy.

That's why women are doing that.

I see a lot of women getting with the young young athlete boys and doing that like that's the little play.

A lot of girls are doing that right now.

That's a new play.

Right now.

I see a lot.

I don't even want to name the names because I feel but it's a lot of women that are doing that right now.

It's a bunch of them.

Yeah, it's a ring of them.

I don't know who the ring leader.

Maybe I think it's a group chat.

I could imagine that, but I'm not dealing with that.

I don't want to be first of all, I want to be with a man who's like knows more than me could teach me.

Stuff can put me on the stuff can tell me things.

I don't want to be with someone where I'm like your mom.

Like then it becomes like a weird like you know what I mean, It just starts to be weird, Like I don't like that.

I don't want to be that like Anyways, So the game was talking about how he feels like when he's entertaining women he has no real intentions for and like he knows, like I'm not gonna be with this girl in a relationship.

I'm not gonna mess with her, or my heart is somewhere else already, like I love someone else.

He admits that he like loses sleep over that, and he feels like men don't talk about that enough, and they don't talk about like the fact that damn like entertaining women who I don't really fuck with like that just for sex, Like he was like, I'll feel so bad and sick to my stomach like the next day to the point where I had to stop doing that, you know what I mean, Because I'm just like I'm too grown to be in that type of situation where I'm doing this and now I'm guilty and I feel so crazy.

You know, what are your thoughts on that?

I agree with that.

Yeah, I think you know when you start getting to the realization, when you get older, it's a waste of your goddamn time.

Yeah, you're looking at a girl and it looked good, and you're like, damn, it'll be you know, it's sexually, it's cool, but it's just like I don't see no future or her.

I don't see myself really taking her serious.

And now I'm looking at like, damn, what am I doing?

Wasting my time?

Because as you get older the years, you're just like, man, I ain't got I ain't got time to waste no more.

It's like you've been doing that for so long, You've been doing it for so long, and you just like, that's a wasting my time.

I'd rather be like myself or just you know, just focused and locked in.

They're wasting my time with a girl I know I'm not gonna be with Why am I even going to dinner with her?

Why am I even having sex with her?

Why am I even doing anything with her?

Because it's like I know long, I know I'm not gonna be with her, But I think men getting lonely.

I think men love the just it's a lot of men just it's tough not having somebody around that always with a girl and stuff like that, and it happens.

And even though you already know you might have a girl at your house or hanging out with him, doing stuff, having activities with him, and you just know you don't want to be with them, you know what I'm saying, You keep the friendship and you just like you know, I know I ain't gonna be with you, but you still, you know, do stuff like y'all in a relationship.

But then it's just like, you know, why am I wasting my time?

I feel I really actually saw that and I felt what he was kind of like saying, because like it's a wasted time now and it's a waste of mental like you know.

I get it.

Yeah, I felt that.

You probably feel like that now too, huh not.

Now, but I've definitely felt that before, Like I why not?

Now?

What do you mean?

I mean?

You probably feel like that like being an older lady, like you know, you're just dealing with Dayton guys.

You're like, no, they' going no long term nothing coming from it.

Oh well, I haven't.

Time is running out for you, time is not going nowhere.

For me, I'm good.

So I'm the one who I don't go off of societal what time something has to be a lot of people they met those marks by me.

Oh I'm going to marry someone I'm gonna have, I'm gonna do it.

And they're miserable and they're divorced and they're unhappy and they don't have a strong relationship.

I don't care about what society is putting time on.

You not going to rule my life?

What kind of what kind of person am I to let anybody rule what time I'm doing anything?

Are you paying?

Like?

What do you what?

Like I wake up with want to do someone else?

That is when you get older, Like it's not a desperation.

I don't have.

I can't for people.

Maybe you don't think that's a thing though, Like when yeah, I know that gets older, like to find like before I stop looking a certain way or stop being a certain way, or stop and then they just become See this is the thing about women, Like when they start getting older and they don't have that relationship, they start getting more depressed.

You know.

I started noticing in that sense.

That's actually not true because statistically, women who are unmarried and single are happier and men who are unmarried and single are more depressed.

This is statistic done by Harvard study the women.

If you tell me one more thing, goddamn the women.

The women.

They didn't put up one hundred human write some ship down.

He's depressed because men need more from women when it comes to when they get.

Older emotion at Harvard Studies.

Let me tell you something, women are now more happy being single.

But I understand what you're saying.

Where society puts a time clock on women and man of like especially women, Oh you need to be married by this time.

Why aren't you married?

Why don't you have kids?

Why aren't you this?

Like you even said before, like, oh, if you're over this age and you don't have a kid, there's something wrong with you.

I never said that.

You said that, son put it in.

Something's wrong.

Yeah, you know what it is.

You're everything that's wrong with me.

So anyways, you said that, you said that.

No, I just say that, like you.

You said there's women they have a level of desperation.

No, I think those women like that they just overthink it.

Or have you ever considered that maybe they were pregnant and they were with someone who said I don't want to have a kid right now, and it was their partner.

Have you ever thought about that?

Have you ever thought about women who decided not to have children and have abortions because they felt like they didn't want to be in a situation that was fucked up, and even though they were doing everything right and they were with a partner that they love, but unfortunately they couldn't.

Like there's a lot of situations in which that happens.

So you can't sit there and judge anybody because you don't know what storm God has asked them to walk through.

You couldnt sit here and put anything on anybody's life, because at the end of the day, someone should tell me I should be married and I should have a kid.

But half of the people that I know married and had a kid on the time that society said we should are not with that person and are in a broken family and are co parenting and are alone, and now they have to raise a kid.

And also hopefully they can find a partner that they want and bring a partner into a situation where they already have all this excess baggage.

So at the end of the day, I'm grateful that I'm my age and I don't have excess baggage.

I don't have a baby daddy I have to deal with in a co parentcing situation, And luckily someone who comes in my life doesn't have to deal with that.

They can get someone who don't have all of that going on, and I can actually have a real chance ants at meeting someone that I can have a real family with and not have all this broken shit that I've created because I was young and I didn't really know what I wanted, and I was young, and I was trying to beat some biological collathse.

Even if you know what you wanted, and stuff happens.

Yeah, so it happened.

But you can't judge anybody's walk of were their path.

You can't say this person was.

Better because you can get the situation you want and didn't have the break exactly like you waited all day.

Could you could have started that long time?

Yeah?

But the thing is is what I'm trying to say is I'm not judging that you are.

You're saying that this person, this, people who did this were better.

Why are women over thirty or women over thirty don't have this, or men over thirty they're this.

You're saying that these people are better because they made this decision, right, I'm saying I don't feel that way.

I feel like everyone has a certain walking path that they decide.

There's decisions that I've made till this day that was not getting married to someone or not having a baby.

These are the decisions that I'm I have made to be where I am here.

I don't think I'm better than anyone, and I don't think that they're better than me because they decided to be married, whether it was happy or not.

Do you any regrets?

I don't have regrets.

No, I feel like everything that I've done so far, like I'm I'm okay with you know, Like I do feel like at the end of the day, everything I did was to get me to where I am right now.

So I'm the person I am and the woman I am because of what I was, you know, God had me walk through.

So yeah, I don't feel like anyone is better.

And I feel like for women out there that feel like they have to because men always and people, you should be married, you should have this.

Why are you single?

Why are you single?

Why are you single?

Because I want to be because I feel good about it.

I have been blessed because I really have not been single like that, and I just feel like, even in those moments, maybe I should have.

Maybe I should have spent my twenties single and not in these boot up relationships my whole life.

You know, I don't know.

But at the end of the day, I think that you just have to go through what you go through and don't let society or a man, or any woman or anybody tell you that you need to do something differently.

That's it.

Because I don't like that.

I don't like that.

I've not missed.

I feel like people always think I'm pissed because I'm passionate.

I talk with passion.

I'm not pissed off at anything.

I just want people to feel that because every woman that's sat here in this chair and came on here, they say the same thing.

People weaponize singleness for women.

Why are you seeing there's something wrong with you?

People do that to women all the time, but they don't do it to men.

They praise men who are single.

Oh you're smart, you're not married, You're smart, you're not there, you're smart, they're not.

But then women are like, why are you single?

Because I don't want to be with the man who's smart for being single, Like because I want to be with someone who I actually am in alignment with, you know, and right now I might not have that, like that's why.

Like so I feel like people, you know whatever.

So I just don't want people to always feel like being single as a weapon, you know, Like it's not you know, even though I have not been single a lot in my lifetime, but I know a lot of women who feel like that that's like a weapon form against them.

Like when kesh g was on our podcast, usually said that, and every comment on our thing is like, you're not married, you're single, you're single, you're old and single.

Like they're telling her that every day, and it's like okay, like so what and y'all men are probably single or very unhappy in your relationship, miserable.

Peter never loved her, like Ryan McKnight never was.

So it's like whatever, Like they'll praise someone in an abusive, toxic relationship and be like, wow, they're married, but they're probably gonna ask me every night.

So all right, let me ask you this as like as you get older, yes, and you said that you don't feel like time is running out, but like if when you start dating and like what like what's the timeline to know, like I know I'm gonna be with this person or are you more like say quick to like say let's.

Be together or no, oh I'm not quick to say let's be together.

But I will say that I haven't dated a lot in my life.

But I feel like when I meet someone and it's a connection, like I won't I'll know immediately if like oh I could be first day.

Yeah, I can know very quickly energetically like oh I can mess with this person or I could really rock on this term in long term, and like you know, I usually we both feel that connection and it's like okay, like you want to do this or you want to like what are we doing?

Or whatever the case is.

You know, have ever dated somebody and they have been date so long you'd be like, all right, so what are we.

I never had to go through that, but I know a lot of women who went through that, you know what.

I mean, like like what's going on?

Yeah?

But because I have a strong belief if I have to ask what are we or what's going on?

We're not doing, We're not nothing, because I feel like if a man wants to be with you, he's going to be like, we're together.

Like that's the situation I've had, Like you ain't got nobody else like we're together.

Make sure everybody knows.

Clean your shit up.

Like so, if you dating a man for like three four months and you ask them what's going on, you are officially some work.

Exactly.

I agree, I think you're some work.

After that, you are officially the work.

That's what you are.

I think don't know it.

And don't even know it.

I think I think your work.

But I think a lot of women know.

And I think that a lot of women like to stay in the gray area because once you ask, you're going to get the answer.

You know you don't want, so you just don't say nothing.

Women like being work in relationships.

I don't think that's true.

That's true.

Where are you coming up.

With more women love to be work than in a relationship?

That is so false.

That is not false.

You think that women want to be somebody's sex toy.

I didn't say that.

Work is someone sex.

Basically, I'm a sex dog.

Then what is it work?

What is work?

Define work?

You some work?

What is some work?

You can't just say somebody I just ain't got with?

Yeah, No, women don't like that.

That's why women are like what are we?

You don't think women are like what are we?

What are we going to?

Because most likely you work to the man, but you you, you the woman, look at the man probably like some work.

You know what I'm saying.

That, I don't know.

I feel like, you know, I don't feel comfortable.

Like I've been in a situation before where I was dating somebody and he was very like what are we?

What are we?

What are we?

And you know, like we we were just dating, like weren't sexual, and like he was catching a lot of feelings and I felt really guilty, so I get with the game.

Felt like I felt like, oh my god, I know that I don't want to be with this man.

But like also these dinners, it was it was that this is what it was.

I'm gonna be honest.

It was that he was such a nice guy and everyone was like, oh my god, he's a nice he would never cheat on you, he would never this, He's handsome, he saw like he was like the perfect on paper, right, And I was like I know this, and I should want this man, like I need to want him, I need to love him, like and I just literally couldn't do it.

And I was like, oh my god.

And I was forcing myself like I have to try to like him because this is the man I should marry, this is the man I should be with, Like he's so nice and I don't want to be the woman where it's like you don't like a nice man, because I do.

But it was just something about him where I was like I can't get into it, and like romance, I couldn't even mention something.

And then the next day it's like, oh here, like just everything, the thoughtful, the romance of this, everything was there, except the connection was there, not there, and I knew without the connection, I couldn't have a real relationship.

So I would tell him like, look, I don't know.

I would be very transparent and honest the whole time because I was like, I don't know if this is what I want.

Really, I don't feel it, and he would just force it, press it, and I'm like finally I was like, look, I feel so bad, but I just can't.

I can't get into it like I'm sorry, and I know I broke his heart, like I felt so sick, but I was honest the whole time.

The more and more I set across from you, I feel like I'm your therapist.

I know you're lying, I know your life.

You're a fly therapist.

I've listened to a lot of your stories and I'm sitting here just hearing you out.

And Okay, so what is your assessment?

What do you think I need?

Would you say that I need.

I'll write down a full evaluation for morning.

I appreciate that.

Sent me the invoice, honey.

Okay, So before we wrap up, there's this man.

I just think that people are doing too much.

It is my opinion.

This man said, I'm a very simple man, and I have no business being with someone who has both parents still alive because I'm not look at he said, I'm not comforting you through two parental losses.

I'm sorry, I'm good.

That makes some sense though, So you're gonna get you an old lady.

He want an old lady because most girls who parents, he said, he don't want to girl who life.

So you're looking for he must be here, older man.

So he looking for a lady that's probably in her late forties.

Fifties or I don't know, maybe that and he wants a younger.

This is my thing.

People have to have both parents.

People have preferences that ain't even preferenced before, like an old woman.

Now there's emotional toll on that is could be devastated.

I get that I have both of my parents.

I'm just like, I don't really like I get it, but it's like, damn, this is now the stipulations, And I think that that's why more people are being alone than ever because y'all got stipulations on everything.

Don't have two parents, can't do this, can't have never did this, can't have like it's too much like damn, like and then you wonder people have all these expectations.

You gotta do this.

You gotta be buying me my nails and my things on this By the second day.

You gotta be like, what is.

It a man too much?

Or no?

No, I think women, more women, definitely more nails.

Hair.

Yeah, because a woman came on here, I actually put this.

She said that if a man's not paying for her nails after two weeks of talking and getting early stage gifts, then it's over.

Damn Yeah, early stage gifts.

It's blowing me.

So you can pretty much buy you just you just hiding your prostitution.

Yeah, you're you're a prostitute.

I think we're in a generation more prostitutional, the more transational prostitution than ever before.

And you know what, this girl, she's like an Instagram model.

Her name is like Chinese Kiddy or something.

She looks like all done up like to VVL, all the surgeries or whatever.

And she basically said, I need a man to make ten million to keep up with my baddy lifestyle because I need my injections, I need my this, I need my dad, I need all the things that I need.

And I'm just like, I'm so confused about how everything is a transaction.

But what I thought about was she says that confidently because men will do it, Like there's men that are like, okay, like i'll buy you what's up?

Like, and so you feel like you can do that.

Men and women are both responsible for this transactional relationship era that we're living in, because it wouldn't even be happening if the man didn't purchase it.

Like, you know what, I'm saying like we forgot about having real connection and real love and relationships.

That's like for a lot of people have gone out the window.

And for someone like me, like with old school parents and old school values, like I need real connection and real love, like you can't buy me at all.

If my girl can't make gumbo, I ain't messing with her.

I'm crying.

Ooh what about that one?

Come on, I can't make.

No, can't make no gumbo.

They just gotta get that room going.

She can't make that room.

I'm good.

Gotta stir that room.

You gotta start that room.

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So, Paul, we're gonna do a little segment.

It's called Daily Fantasy.

And basically, I want you love a good fantasy.

Okay, come on, you love a good fantasy, honey.

So okay, I want to know in a relationship, what do you feel like would be your fantasy?

And it doesn't have to be anything like sexual.

It can be just like what do you feel like it's my fantasy.

Yeah, man, for a relationship, Yeah, a fantasy, Oh, my fantasy.

Yeah, Like in a relationship, what would be your perfect Like, what is a fantasy that you just want?

Fantasy?

Yeah?

If you can have anything fulfilled in your relationships.

For the woman to hold accountability fantasy.

That's a fantasy to you.

You don't feel like no woman hold accountability ever?

Man, that's crazy.

You want fantasy.

You want to know what my fantasy is for a man not to cheat on me, to know if I love him?

Yeah, get in today.

Yeah, that's a fantasy that I don't have to.

So what you say you've been cheating on all your relationship?

Yeah, one hundred.

I don't imber nobody.

And you know, maybe I did something wrong in the past life, but I'm telling you.

My fantasy cheated.

Yeah I did.

That's love.

I was in love with him or was he dumb?

Hell?

Which one is it?

Because honestly, I feel like for me, I want to have, my fantasy is to not have to struggle for love, like I feel like in reality a lot of women struggle first in order to have love, and men, like you said this is from your mouth, should cheat on their women to see if they really love them.

So you want to drag someone through the mud in order to see if you love them and test them and do all these things.

But you're hurting this person in the process.

And to me, I fantasize about not having to be strong.

I don't want to be strong.

When people tell me you're strong, I don't like that.

I know I am, but I fantasize about a word that's a real fantasy.

That's a real fantasy.

I fantasize about I have to be strong my whole life and every relationship dating a man, it takes strength.

A fantasy is supposed to be something that's like.

And that for you, holding women accountable tears and you know it's not.

That because you're fantasizing about that.

I'm fantasizing about not having to struggle for love, which is so incredible.

That's all.

Imagine.

I have a love where I'm not crying and I'm not going through it and I'm not sad and I'm not getting this shed.

No, I'm not getting lied to, I'm not getting hurt.

That's a fantasy.

That's a fantasy.

Your fantasy, like women holding themselfs accountable.

That's not odd, that is right.

So that's odd to you.

So you've never been with any woman that was accountable.

That's tough one.

That's a tough one.

That's wild to me.

What about another fantasy?

Do you have anything else?

Yeah?

For sure.

So a fantasy for me is like all right, just like you know, a hard day, you've been working and grinding as a man, thinking about how you can build get to the next level.

And you come home and you know, you got the LEDs rolling, you got the sexy lingerie.

On okay, bath water rankay.

Fireplace, you got the foot bath right there?

You got the big feather.

What's the big feather?

Father, this is coming to America?

Okay, so what's a big feather?

Please tell me?

Just a big feather?

I don't know, like like they're coming to America time.

Like a big feather, like you could just you know.

Oh, so she's fanning you down with the feather.

Yeah, this is crazy.

So she's giving you a foot bath and fanning you different one.

Woman essential oils burning.

I'm trying to set the mood up.

You're killing the trying to set the picture up for the people who watching us to see this.

Okay, go ahead, go ahead, you know, and.

You keep jumping on it.

Okay, go ahead.

The massage table right there, we got the led lights moving.

It's lower and then with the fireplace going mm hm on the TV, it's probably like got some well, no, no, you know what.

As a matter of fact, the TV just gonna be playing some soft music.

And then I'm gonna come in.

Have the robe ready for me.

Boom, Jump in the shower, get bathed, you bathe the bathing cracking, that's you know, cracking, Get bathed, Boom, come out, toweled up, towel dried off, Jump on the massage table, get rubbed down, the rub down.

Once I get off the massage table, I set up the table.

There's some wine and a meal.

Man, here we go, fill my belly up, making me not think about nothing.

Then I come from the dinner table, sit on the couch with my feet right there in the foot bath in the foot baft.

The foot bath is rolling.

Okay, this is okay, I'm not.

I'm painting a picture, okay.

And then the feather come back, feather blowing me.

So now all I got on now is just a rope with my feet, nothing on, just the robe.

This naked robe on.

Up like this, lay my head back, getting feathered up?

What is it?

What is getting feathered out?

The coconut oil come out?

Okay?

Then we get the coconut oil with the candles rolling.

Maybe get the hot wax and drip that down, you know, get the hot wax.

What is the this is my fantasy.

What is the hot wax?

You know, get the candle.

Okay, okay, yeah, and drip it all down the body.

Just probably in my inner thigh area where it kind of stings and you kind of get me.

Get a joke, joke me, you know what I'm saying, and then it jolts me.

It gets me going like oh oh, you know, and I'm just like oh man, you know.

And that's when my lady come around from behind me with the feather and then you know, the feather is on me and I just sit back and put my head back, okay, and then you know, then if you know, you know, come.

On, father, it's the feather for me.

It's the feather for me.

I have to bring a feather in so you can see what I'm talking about.

Okay, Yeah, I'm excited to see that.

Okay, well, I love your fantasy.

You know what I'm saying.

It is asked me what was mine?

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Okay, So one last thing, ghosting.

So a woman said ghosting is sinful and it disrespects a person's God given dignity.

Do you feel that way, like if you go someone without any communication or and I know you don't feel that way because you seem like you just ghost anybody at any time.

That's me, Paul ghost Piers.

I don't like that because for me personally, I don't like a ghosting because it lacks courage, it lacks responsibility.

It lacks yes, what goes into ghosting, What goes into it?

Goes into it?

You know what it is?

What is it?

And women fell time and time again to a whole accountability.

When a man ghosts you, it's just not for nothing.

It's something.

But he don't have to do he don't have to sit and argue about it.

He just he's good.

I'm just good.

I'm good and no one need to explain it.

You know what it is.

I think that's weird and tall that learned to communicate as a person.

Well, it's not.

I'm not in a full blown relationship with you.

First of all, ghosting don't happen in a full blown relationship.

It has with somebody you're talking to, hanging out with.

Talking to, and hanging out with someone at least.

Emotionally invested like that either.

You're not but the other person probably is.

Okay, Well, I personally I never been ghosted before.

But and I never ghosted anybody.

Huh, you ain't ever been ghosted?

No, Like, I don't talk to people to where it's just like casual to where you just ghost me, Like I don't have casual relationships.

But I've also been in a relationship most of my life, so I don't have all these dating fleeing things because I've been in serious relationships most of my life.

So you know, I'm a relationship person.

But I just feel like the ghosting thing, like I would at least tell someone like, look, this is just not for me.

But if he's hexts you back like I'm good, what you mean?

They don't say.

Nothing after like just text me I'm good.

I'm good, I'm good, loving joy.

I mean, I guess I'm not gonna hint nobody up if they're texting me like I'm good or I'm falling back, Like I'm just gonna be like okay, like cool, like I'm not gonna I'm not gonna ever fuck with you again, Like I'm not chasing nobody.

I'm not that person, Like I'm cool.

If I'm in a relationship with someone, yes I'm gonna be like hello, like you gotta fucked up.

But if it's just someone that I'm dating or something weird and they're just like cool, I'm okay, Bye, Okay.

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