When people make Instagrams for their children and post as if they're a child, it's mentally ill to me.

And then they post and they comment and they say thank you mommy and post to your carpa, to yourself, it's sick.

She should be out of there as soon as he nuts, and it should not be from you.

It has to still be for me.

Then you have to go.

It's no spending the night.

It's no I'm sleep and you I'm not going to sleep until you're out of their home.

Is there really like good vagina and like not good vagina?

And what is that difference?

You really want to know if a girl love you need to go out and cheat on her, like.

I'm losing my mind.

Over the game.

All right, everybody, welcome to Truth after Dark.

Do you think that men or women are more toxic?

Hello, beautiful people, welcome to another episode of the Truth after Dark.

I am your host, zar Faara Day.

What up?

The truth is in the building?

The truth in the building?

At it and at it?

Yeah, back at it again.

Yeah, it's some stuff.

So we're gonna hop right into the stuff that's going So Michael Blackskin, he has a whole situation with his wife, So I guess basically he ended up having a child outside of their relationship.

Wait, they was an open relationship right from.

What I heard.

They were open, but he did have a baby with one of his female friends.

And that's not cool.

No what I'm saying, if it's open, that should be cool.

Well, I think when people are open.

I don't know all the details, but clearly it's not cool.

So clearly it was something against whatever agreement they had.

Maybe they had an agreement where sometimes when people are open, the agreement is like we mess with women together, or I you know, it's a thing we do me and you, or I approve.

But whatever the case is, it's obviously not okay because he's apologizing on you know line to her and she went ahead and I will summarize, But she did write something to her son online.

I said, if he's going to read it, and then just said I want to share something from my heart, basically to her son, I'm sorry for bringing you into a world in a situation that wasn't.

What you deserved.

Even though I can't change the past, I promise you now that you are a hero to everything we're proud to give you the life and love you deserve.

You will never have the question whether you're loved.

You are my heart.

And then he came out and posted his new baby and said good day to.

My family, friends and fans.

The last few months God has blessed me, but in blessings came a lot of pain.

Two months after his wife gave birth to little Mikey, a female friend I've known for over five years also gave birth to my son, King Blacks.

Anyways, he apologized to her.

I hope she forgives me for the pain I've brought to her.

I'm going to do my best to be a loving father to avoid turning into Nick Cannon or Elon Musk.

I'm only dating women that run out of period or how they hys direct her.

Damn they not together no more.

Well.

She then responded and said I don't normally respond, but let's just agree that was the most pathetic post or apology ever.

And she said, basically, she said, at this point, she's done joining the circus because he.

Was a clown.

Oh my god, and she stayed in the circus for too long and his type was never me because I'm a real woman.

This is what happens when you hold a dew Man down one hundred percent.

See this is my opinion on that.

You come to the circus.

We go on tour, were performing and then all of a sudden you this is what you signed up for, but just now you ain't feeling it no more, Like come on, this supposed to just this, We're supposed to keep this going, like this is what you.

I don't understand women who getting the open relationships and men like this is what comes with it?

Now if you're okay and like, like, to me, over relationship means it's open.

We're together, So don't say what I can I can't do because that's not what open is.

So now I have another kid and now you ain't feeling the circus and I'm like, damn, like what happened?

See women getting this in relationships and it's cool at first, and then y'all be together for a long time and this is what it was, but then you stop being cool.

This is how we got cool and now you this now it ain't cool.

See that's man, that's that's that's I don't like that.

I could never be cool with an open relationship.

But you know this goes back into what I was saying, men and women can't be friends.

Man and women I see every single day.

Oh he was my friend for five years.

Now we're married.

Oh he was, now we'll be.

My female friend had a baby, Like, I do not give a fuck with Nobody says men and women cannot be friends, period, Like it's some tricky shit always, and that's just the truth.

I don't agree.

I agree one hundred percent, and I'm constantly proven right.

And the only way they can be friends is if a man is really genuinely not attracted to that woman or the woman friend zoned him, but the moment she does anything that remotely makes it seem like he could get it, she it will change.

Period.

So when you was like that, like your other person, did you have a friends like you know, I'm like, I'm not saying he wasn't attractive, but you was like another person.

When I was to eighty.

Yeah, did you have friends like other friends outside your boyfriend?

No?

I didn't know, no, because it was disrespectful.

All right.

So I'm just saying, like, if it's open a relationship, it opens the door for other things.

So now you gave.

Me that, I'm.

Not what's the issue with it?

And now that a kid becomes involved, and especially see this hurts my heart when you have a young one that's like four months and now it's like it's over with or you know, and it's just like, damn, but.

He has two young ones.

Now you have a baby with a whole other situation.

And as a woman, being honest, a man with a newborn baby in a relationship is a very difficult thing to deal with, and you gotta really love that man because bringing a baby outside of your relationship into this world, why in a relationship and having another baby on the way or getting that baby, that's some fucked up, foul shit.

And it feels even if whatever the situation is, it's hard, it's difficult, and it takes no but it doesn't matter.

They're not open in that sense.

They probably whatever they did, they had an agreement because he's clearly apologizing and saying he fucked up.

So whatever they were open.

You don't know what their record deal was.

Yeah, you don't know what people's record deal is.

No one knows what's in Beyonce's record deal.

No one knows what's in their record deal with him and her.

They had their own situation moving, so we can have as many opinions as you want.

But he's clearly apologetic for what he has done.

So clearly he broke some type of rule within what they decided upon within their own relationship.

No one knows what y'all have going on, but y'all now, to me, I'm sick of women going on penning a whole note to their son that's two months old.

Like it takes a level of mental illness for people to make Instagram for their children.

No, when people make Instagrams for their children and post as if they're the child, it's mentally ill to me, Like.

I will not deal with that is the weirdest shit to me.

And then they post and they comment and they say thank you mommy, and post to your comment to yourself.

It's sick.

I guess aw something.

No, but I just saw an influencer the other day and someone posted about it, and she posted herself pregnant and made an Instagram for her on board child and then said, mommy, is that me?

And replied, this is what people are doing.

I see it all the time.

I've seen people in my own family do some stuff like that, and I told them.

I said, that's sick, Like, why do.

You have an Instagram for your child and you're writing captions as if you're the child Mommy took me on a day like that?

Mentally, what about no?

I mean, I think if you're not right, I just I can't, I can't do anything.

Yeah, I'm just saying it's crazy and me personally, my kid does not need to have an Instagram period, like when they're not able to use it themselves as a fucking adult.

I think is in me and someone has an open relationship, then that's what opened me.

But yeah, you discuss open, everything goes okay.

So we're gonna move on to that.

Well, I get what you're saying, and I think once you open that door, you open the door to a whole bunch of other things.

You open the door to this type of stuff happening.

You open that door.

Unfortunately, and that's why as a woman, even if you know a man might slip up and do something, you never make it seem like that's ever gonna be okay, Like I'm never gonna be even if I know my heart, Like damn, if this man cheat on me, I probably wouldn't break up my family because I love this person and I don't want to leave him, and I probably would stay, you know what I'm saying, But I'm never letting him know, like you gonna and I'm still gonna be crying, and you still gonna have to make it up and build the trust.

But I mean, you don't make a man feel like he could just get away with anything like.

But this is my thing.

So like if I say me and you in a relationship and you say we open, and I say, all right, let's have an open relationship, that means I like having sex not only with you, but other girls.

Yeah.

So it's like.

Every man likes having sex with other women, all type of women.

But now you agree to it.

Yeah, but now I have a girl that agreed to it.

Oh I'm in heaven now, Okay, so now you know, maybe it's under your terms, But like what if it's a girl that me and you was with together under your terms, but I had something with her.

Yeah, that's the problem that happens.

That's what open with her right without you?

But because you're not around right now, or you nine months.

Pregnant or me, I'm not doing that, And what else is wan with me is like if I would know, I'm not open like to me a threesome.

I'm not really feeling that.

But I always said, like maybe if I went out the country it was a random woman, we would never see her again, and we did it.

Maybe I will do it.

I would do it, but like it me like if I'm asleep and I wake up someone just asked me this, and I wake up and my man is having sex with everyone.

No, she should be gone as soon as as soon.

There's two things.

She should be out of there as soon as he nuts.

And it should not be from you.

It has to still be for me.

Then you have to go.

It's no splending the night.

It's no I'm sleep and you I'm not going to sleep until you're out of their home.

And if I wake up and you're writing something next to me, it's every blow.

I'm losing it, Like I'm losing my mind.

What you mean you doubling back?

Sleep?

Hold on?

You know we was watching the movie you fell.

You shouldn't be watching us.

See this is where med.

Why are you watching a movie with.

A fell asleep?

Because that's what we was all doing.

No, she's we're not watching that's where I dropped line.

It would never wake up, wake up.

We're not watching movies anyways, So let's move on to the desk that would love me.

I'm not having that's my biggest thing.

Like, I'll do it, but the bitch has to go make some wings.

Wing.

You're not making food.

No, no, no, there's no making food, Like, what are you talking about?

There's no eating after.

I want to know her name.

I don't even want us to know the name of the girl.

You know, it was a pick up.

We're out the country.

It was a pickup.

She's there, she's at the club or something.

Okay, cool, we did that.

You gotta go.

We never see you again.

We're not exchanging numbers.

We don't know your name.

I'm never going to see you, and this man is never going to see you ever again.

You're out, You're out of there.

That's the only way I will do that threesome.

That's the only way.

And I'm done after that.

And then I don't.

Even want toes you welcome to the toes getting lit.

I'm out.

I'm not even doing this crazy, this is me anyway, Let's move on.

So Mace he has a viral clip right now, Cam and Mace.

Okay, murder, murder Mace.

Mace has a viral clip right now where he said that he was with a woman and she wanted to get married, so he asked her to buy the ring if she was really serious about the proposal.

For with that.

So you think that, okay, like you're in a relationship, and I'm.

Like, he serious?

Did she propose to him?

No, he's saying that I want to get married, and she said, like, imagine.

You're in a relationship, babe, I want to get married.

I really want to marry you.

I want to do that commitment ring.

So not you a ring?

Buy your own ring, by your own Yeah, go buy your own ring and I'll use it and then we could.

If you that serious about me, go buy your own ring.

Oh that's a bar.

I'm a I'm a damn, I'm a hold on, hold on, hold on, let me put this in my notes.

Oh yeah, so you think that a woman should buy her own ring if she wants a man to marry her.

Oh, I mean you if you wanted earlier than me, Yeah, like you want to get married.

And I wasn't on that thought process, but he said, go get the ring now, and I will it's not not worth it.

I'm never I'm never ever forcing a man to marry me, so it's not worth it to me.

It is if you want me to go out of buy a ring, because first of all, I'm never even telling a man.

These rules come no, no, no, no, it's not.

A rules, it's for me personally.

There's a reason.

It's an order, and when things are out of order, it's not cracking.

And that's a fact because for me, if my man is saying, first of all, I'm not bringing up marriage, I've never brought a marriage to any of my relationships because that's just thirty like, I'm not pressed you want to marry, we'll figure it out.

Secondly, also, I'm not going to be like, oh, I'm not ready to get married, so let me go get the ring, because that's a level of like I'm forcing a.

Cage jewelry and get a cheap ring, and that's ain't that a ring.

It's not about the price, it's about the thought of.

It's about the thought of if a man don't want to marry you and you going out to buy a ring.

That's just burnt out on so many different lovers as a woman like, I don't even care what the man is saying.

As a woman, I would advise no woman to ever do that because it's not about the price.

It's not about the ring.

It's like if as a woman, you have to do all of that to get a.

Man to want to marry, it, ain't that.

Let me tell you something, Okay, what I think Sometimes men be with women and say, like you with everything's all good and y'all lovey dovey, and y'all all never really tested.

Love ain't really been tested, like y'all ain't really been through nothing.

Yeah, that'll tell me a lot.

That'll tell me a.

Lot if a woman goes buys ring.

Yeah, because think about it, like you really, like I told you you you did.

Love get tested when you go through something.

Yeah, for sure, love get tested.

Like we can just be lovey dovey and say we love each other and it's all rainbows and roses.

But then you ain't really been through something because sometimes you go through one thing and y'all break up.

That was that was that that was built on Like.

That wasn't real.

I don't know when said that's a play.

The ring, I'm like, oh, it's kind of real.

Okay, she down to do that, that's gonna tell me something.

Then she come back with it.

I'm like, damn, you really did that.

So you know what, go get your money back.

I got you.

Maybe that was a test.

Maybe that's what the test was to figure it out like that.

Ain't that is a test.

I don't believe that's a test.

I put you y'all through to something.

Tests you want to go through tests.

It has nothing to do with me going to buy a ring.

Life is going to test you.

And yes, I agree, if someone breaks up what you will leave you off of the first test.

That relationship wasn't built to last.

That was a play play relationship.

At the end of the day, we wasn't serious and we didn't have ship moving.

Because you are going to be tested on so many different levels, you don't have to create tests for your partner.

You are going to be tested all all the time by God.

Because anything powerful and two people coming together that are equally yop, that are creating a powerful movement in the world is going to be tested.

And if you're a man of God, you know that the devil don't come for his own people because they're already over there with him.

The devil comes for the light, the powerfulness, the angels, they come for those type of people.

So if you get two of those people together, you don't have to create no test.

Y'all are going to be tested all the time with a lot of different things.

Test Now, that ain't the fight.

It's not your If you a man of God, it's not your job to test nobody.

That's not your responsibility.

That's God's job.

So don't preach that and then say you creating tests or vengeance or this on people, because that ain't for you to do.

Moving on, so these cats out here, like, really, if you really want to know if a girl love you, need to go out and cheat on her.

Let's see if you really want to If you really want to know if a girl love you for real, go cheat on her and see how she reacts.

Now we're gonna see what's real.

I'm just saying, like, I don't know, tell me, tell me.

I'm gonna tell you.

I'm gonna tell you something.

Let me tell you something.

If you really.

Want to know, if you got and cheat on.

Her, Okay, and if that girl loves herself more than you, then you ain't got no chance should exactly, So you want to be with a woman with low self esteem, that's the type.

Of advice you're giving you.

Yeah, it is to a certain degree, but that's not something that listen just because I might decide how to stay with someone you don't.

God will, God will trust me.

There's gonna be tests that you can't even think of.

You've been through so many tests in your life that you could have created if you wanted to trust me.

So stop trying to tell young men to go cheat on their women to test them.

That's the worst advice.

If you want to know if a woman.

That's the worst advice.

Advice.

How do I find out?

If a gril?

I just told you you're going to be tested in different heights?

I find out, what's the test?

Give me an example.

Women don't deserve to struggle just to have love ways.

The man for the woman.

If you want to see, I'm gonna do that and I'm gonna see what's going on.

I feel like, at the end of the day, it's really really important to be very aware of the messages that you put out into the universe.

But I will say this, there are.

Going to be testing relationships that you do not even know are coming to you.

And I don't believe that cheating and infidelity is the only test that you can have in a relationship.

There's a lot, a lot, and I feel like, at the end of the day, there are some women or men that feel like I can't deal with cheating.

Everybody can deal with something.

There's some women that could be like, I don't care if he has no money, but I can't deal with a man with that's cheating, sir.

Some woman, I could deal with a rich man, but I can't.

I can't deal with a broke man, but I could deal with some cheating.

There's a lot of different things.

You find someone who's worth it, and you find what works for you.

Cheating might not work for Mary up the street, who ain't never seen nothing like that.

That might break her down and shadow her in a way that she can't even explain to herself or anyone around her.

But she may be able to deal with a lot of other stuff.

Love is enduring what you and your partner can give, but you have to understand your partner enough to know what that is.

You get to know each.

Other, You understand each other, and you understand who somebody is and you know you can't change nobody period.

So no, you don't cheat on your partner to figure that out.

If that happens, and that's a crossroad you guys have to deal with.

I know I would probably be willing to stay if everything else was in alignment for me, but not everyone is doing that.

You gotta set it up like I'm gonna set it up today.

I'm gonna call her up up.

I'm gonna be tell the homie, like, tell my girl'mnna be in this club.

I'm gonna be with some work.

Let's see how she reacts when she walks in and the girl is on my lip or something.

Yeah, motherfucker, don't want to do that to me.

I'm gonna keep it real.

If she whipped that, if she whipped her ass, she leave you and y'all cool and she walk out of there, hold your head, she lave you.

That's so toxic.

That's toxic as hell.

I do believe that there's a level of things you have to put your you and your partner will go through.

There is, but it's inevitable.

You don't have to create no extra task, it's inevitable.

One thing I will say it don't have to be sex.

Sex ain't always I know, but well my arm, Like if I got my arm around another girl, does that cheating?

It's just disrespectful?

Is it cheating?

No, I want to say it's cheating, and I would.

I'm not gonna think that's not going to end all relationships.

Like, yeah, that's not that you're kissing kissing, Yeah, kissing is cheating.

Kiss a girl is cheating.

Yes, if you're around or like touch you whatever, that's not necessarily cheating.

And that's not anything you're gonna break up.

But it's like, if you're kissing, that's blawing me.

And honestly, like I said, to whom much is given, much is tested.

You do not have to create no test for your partner.

If you, guys, have a powerful relationship, to who much is given, much is tested, you will be tested.

Listen, even Jesus tested.

Are you yourself to Jesus this law me?

Are you?

But he tested the love of Abraham?

Right did he not?

If you're talking about you went to God?

Right, you went to the God and you went to all of that.

Now God will let you know, Yeah, Jesus tested Abraham right?

Or was wait, what was it?

A was Abraham the Jesus testing He took his family, he took any tested his faith, He tested his Joe.

It was Joe, right.

He tested Joe like he wanted to see his love.

Okay, So I'm just saying I wanted to see the love.

Okay.

Well you you might see a lot more than love.

Joe.

So anyways, this is the perfect segue.

Noriega was on Angie Martinez podcast and he said, if you can disrespect your girl and cheat.

I do not trust you.

What are you gonna do to me?

If you are disrespecting, if you are cheating on.

The woman who you live with, create a life with, who is your girl, who is your partner?

If you can cheat on her, what can you do to me?

You ain't gonna treat treat me right?

Yeah, his homie, he said he judges men that do that.

He don't want to do business with you, and he don't want to You're.

Looking for some fee male fans with that one.

Now, I've heard a lot of men say like, and usually I hear white men say this, but they're like, I don't trust well others, I don't see just white I don't I always see I always see others say this.

They say like, I don't like to do business with men who cheat on their wives, because if you can cheat on your wives, you'll cheat in business.

You'll cheat in other things.

Like I don't trust that.

I always see like certain high caliber men say that that are not black.

He's the first black man I actually heard say that same concept of like, I don't trust you if you can cheat on your women, because if your woman is the person who's doing all of this for you and it's here for you every day, you could cheat on her, what can you do to me?

I'm not even giving you half.

That's not that's not not ain't man, because I'm just doing business with you.

That's it.

I'm just doing business.

It's I't got nothing to do with love.

I don't even have to know the person I'm doing business with all that well, I just know that he do good business.

Yeah, but not just business, He's saying, like just friendships too, like.

His homies, Like, how can I what you're going to do to me?

If I'm with my homie and I know he married, and he out cheating on his wife, and I'm seeing it right there, that's up for her to find out, not me.

I'm not trying to get in the middle of all that I don't like.

I'm still gonna be cool with him.

That's on him, Like that's his you know, his doing.

I ain't gonna discredit him.

That's my homie.

Still, I got to love him over different reasons.

If you're out with your when say you're out and you see somebody, you see your homeboy, like your cool closely boy girl and she's out with a man and she's booed, she's kissing, and this is your close homeboy's girl.

Are you saying something?

Oh, let me see if he bowed and this is my dude, yeah, like yes, or I don't know if it see I'm not gonna jump to conclusions because like from the outside looking in, I don't know with the situation, I don't know if they have an open relationship.

So I'm ask him, like, you know, do y'all have an open relationship.

I'm gonna ask other questions before I just go straight.

I saw her, people would like to jump to a conclusion.

I don't like to do that, So I'm gonna be I'm gonna like if she see me, I'm gonna let her see me, and I'm gonna see how she reacts to me, and then I'm gonna figure out what the mold is.

I ain't gonna look from Afar and then go back because that's what people be doing, and that's how people ruined relationships because they don't know really what the hell is going on.

And with that, I need to be more in depth to really see.

I ain't gonna just make a judgment off of what I see from Afar.

I'm gonna be like, hold on, let me go over there.

That's the hommy girl.

I might say something, what's up?

Sys how you doing everything good?

You know, see what the vibe is.

And if she comfy, then I don't got nothing to say.

I ain't gonna know she comfortable, yeah, because she don't get uncomfortable.

If I come over there.

He's like, hey, bro, this is Darnell.

Oh my god.

Yeah.

And then when I talked to the hommie, I was like, yeah, I saw I saw wife yesterday with Darnell.

Yes, I see what he say.

Oh yeah that's her brother.

Oh now they was kissing in the tongue and down.

Nah, you gotta be a little more load than.

That, but they wasn't.

They was lit.

They did not.

They thought they was low.

They was in exclusive setting.

You just happened to be in that schoolsive setting too.

Nah, all right, so I'm a little more load than that.

If you are married and you kid, no, you can't do that.

Do you believe?

So there's a woman going viral on the internet and she's showing off her ring right, and she's like, listen, they.

Told me not to cook for him.

They told me not to clean, they told me not to listen to him.

They told me, told me, told me, told me.

They all told me not to do this, all my friends.

And now I'm about to get married.

That's why I didn't listen to y'all.

So that's going viral, and basically they're asking the question is are women really the downfall of other women's relationship.

Crabs in a barrel?

When they down, they're gonna pull each other.

They want you to be like the come on now, like, well, I solwly believe that's marriages ben ended.

When girls be friends and one get divorced and the other one starts still hanging with her and she's just giving her all her bad because their shit wasn't right, and then now and then leaks into your shit.

You know what I'll say though to I really believe this.

I feel like women have a tendency to vent only the negative stuff because they want to get it off.

So they call their friend and every negative thing that ever happened, they told him about it, and then their friends are like, girl, I don't like him, he ain't shit.

Da da da dah.

And then ever since that they not feeling him, and now everything he does is like what like?

And then now their friends mean so much to them that it's like they're getting in her head every day, Well girl, what is he doing with d Like I've had girls where I'm out and I don't even know these girls like that, and like I'll be out with someone, they're like, oh, who's talking to your man?

Who's that?

Like, girl, what?

Get out of my business?

Because I'm not that person.

Like I'm not gonna I learned at a very young age, and I hope more women learn this.

Stop telling your business to your friends.

They're gonna be the downfall because they're gonna now judge him.

And what's crazy is a lot of those people, if they were in the same situation as you, they would probably stay because they're not in the situation and they're not emotionally bound, and they don't know the rest of your relationship.

They're gonna judge everything about your relationship.

That's why I always say married couples should have married friends, because if you do have a situation to where you going through something, like, you got somebody you can lean on that probably been through the same thing you've been through, and y'all can kind of bounce off each other and heal where you got these girls who ain't got nothing, and you constantly going to them or they going through it, they're gonna try to put you through it too.

That's why I'll be saying like that.

But your married friends can do that too sometimes if they're like whatever, they have a are on a standard, or they're unhappy, Like there's certain stuff for sure, because it's like, like, for instance, what we talked about what everyone's willing to put up with, some women might not ever put up with.

No cheating is what they say, and some cheating happens and they're like, no girl, my man would never like Sometimes it could make it worse sometimes because women will be like, no, my man doesn't do that.

He shows up and then they're sending pictures of what the man's doing on the Instagram and he bought me all these flowers for Valentine's Say, what does your man do?

Oh well, we don't really celebrate.

That women do y'all?

Compare what y'all men are doing for y'all, and then you look like I wish my man would be doing what he doing.

And I just talked about this with Heather because she actually said she feels that she used to feel that with her man, to where she would see on Instagram all.

This stuff and she would send it to him and be like, yo, what what would like see this?

Like why am I not getting this?

And I had to say, compare that?

Yeah, that's I said.

I say, you can't compare because comparison is the thief of joy.

You don't don't even know what kind of situation they're doing, and you don't know that half of these people wouldn't be doing that if Instagram didn't exist, it would be a bouquet and a dinner, not all these twenty million bouquets filling every single inch of the home and all this extra dole stuff.

Because it's an Instagram content world, now you know what I mean.

And I feel like women do the comparison stuff.

So even sometimes when women are in relationships, it can be difficult because they're going to do a comparison thing and they're going to be like, well, my homegirl.

You know what I'm saying, Well, my man did this, and he would never cheat on me, Like whole time he cheating, he's just on the own.

I'm just kidding, but you know what I'm saying.

Like, so, I do think it's very important no matter what, you have your one or two people that you know, you can trust, that you were not going to judge you, and that have a level.

Don't take advice from people you wouldn't want to switch lives with.

I don't if I look at your marriage and it's raggedy as hell, I'm not taking advice from what you're saying.

Like, you gotta go take advice for people who've been together a long time, it's stable.

You know.

Sometimes it may not be a friend.

It might be like a sister or a pastor, yeah, or like somebody like something.

You know, Damn, come on, let me have a talk with like, how did y'all make it so long, like how did y'all?

What did y'all go through?

Anything?

And most couples have been together longevity and it has decades of of marriage together.

They've been through something more than one thing.

A thousand things.

And that's the truth.

And that's why I've probably separated at some point.

Yeah, one hundred.

Yeah, you go through a lot of stuff when you are together for a long time.

And I think people who look at things from respective of like we've been there for twenty years, they're able to look at it and be like, oh, this is something you're going through, but they're not like.

This is extreme and right now today it's over, you know what I mean?

Yeah, anyways, you want to put y'all to the test, man, we got to make sure.

So what is the test?

And the test is not for you to create.

The test is going to be given.

You're going to be given a test multiple.

If she can't make me some some lobster pasta first time through and it be bombed, then we're gonna have to have an issue.

I mean, what kind of tests?

Like you don't want the other test?

That's stupid.

But I can make a bust and lost of passa.

So listen, let's get back into what we're talking about.

So there's a man and he takes a trip for his fortieth birthday alone because his girlfriend couldn't afford her half.

WHOA, that's blowing me.

I'm tired.

I'm tired.

Like she couldn't afford her half of the trip.

And this is his girl, yeah, and this is work.

And so he just was like bye and went on the trip.

No, I don't know where he went.

Damn, she couldn't afford her half of the trip for his birthday.

That's boss, that's the boss move.

He probably wanted to go to London or something.

That's I'm not dealing with that, Like, you know what, man, this is gonna cost This's gonna that's gonna cost me a grip.

Can she get she can't get there?

It's my birthday.

This is what I want to do.

I mean this only get one forty Damn.

I ain't mad at that kind of like she can't afford her half because I can't afford her half.

So if she can't afford.

Her half, afford it.

But he doesn't.

You didn't say that, You didn't needn't say that.

You see and then said I can't afford her half, but this is what I want to do for my forty.

And if she can't afford her half, then this is what I want to do.

So with you, how you mad at him?

You just gotta be like, I'll see you when you get back.

You can't be mad at that.

The trip would have cost him like three thousand.

He can't spend six thousand and she can't.

Afford three thousand.

It's just a plane ticket.

And you are to say.

Something, wederstand what the trip is.

You got flight, hotel, You're staying in the same hotel.

So if you flight, so fly the only flight.

Round trip, then you know it's like, man, how many days?

And I'm saying it might be seven days.

It might cost three thousand for the room.

You're already booking it, So what's the difference.

You're going anyway, So you have the room, that's the most expensive part.

Not a room, ain't the most spensive.

Park Because I'm gonna be wanting to do something for my forty I'm gonna be wanting to do.

This, and you're gonna do that regardless if I'm there or not.

Yeah, but I'm saying if she can't share.

The food, I just have a few bites.

You'll share the food.

Yeah, what about that flight?

That flight might be the most expensive thing.

No, Yes, because the room, Because the room.

How are you going to say?

No?

You write first class for almost forever.

You don't know regular flights how much they cost?

Like you're telling me, like we talk about people.

Who can't afford it, they're good, Like I'm in that category, was in that category?

Like, let's keep it with I know what not affording and what these flights are for.

You want to talking about the flight.

It's more than the trip.

Have you took an affordable vacation?

I mean no, No, you blow a flight over here.

It costs like ten thousand to go overseas and I got the passport.

There's not That's not the type of flights people are taking.

He might be taking that he can go into.

A coach seat.

It's never going to be ten thousand dollars, period, point blank.

I know you don't.

Yes, you don't know that lifestyle.

Oh, I don't have to.

I've traveled, so you've been to Africa?

How much?

I'm I never said Africa that's where you want to go?

Whatever?

Moving on, moving on, moving on, Man, has he blowed me?

So today's question.

Okay, right, we're actually going to go into some other stuff really quick.

Really quick.

When we got on the agenda, what.

Do you feel like?

Are the unspoken rules of the talking stage?

So when people are just dating, they're not boyfriend and girlfriend.

Are you allowed in that stage to date and talk to other people?

Yeah, the unspoken rules if we're just talking or another girl, don't come up to me.

Oh but what if we're talking to you see me over here with somebody else and we're just in the talking stage, then the unspoken rulers don't don't come over here saying Hi, what you've been up to?

Don't do that.

You see, I'm out with somebody else right now.

We're just talking but cool, and I'm gonna do the same thing if I see her out.

Oh okay, okay, I'm gonna moved in another I can respect you know what I'm saying.

No respect that you can rule.

Don't do that.

Don't come like I won't go to your table like hey.

Other people.

Yeah, that's what you can say.

That's true.

If we're just in the talking dating stage, don't do that you're dating.

Now, are you communicating like I'm dating other people like or is it just unspoken and.

We gotta do we gotta said the unspoken.

Okay, but like, for instance, what if we start to have sex, is it okay that because I personally am not okay with having sex with somebody who has sex with other people.

I will not I'm not unknowingly obviously probably happens.

See, this is the problem with you, females.

You like, seriously, like, y'all start dating the dude and the first day you have sex, y'all pretend like y'all goat with the dude.

Like we didn't establish that, we just had We was in the moment, So like, don't if I have sex with you and then the next night you see me over here at the spot with with somebody else.

I don't mean we go together, Like, don't come over here like what you doing?

Nah, we didn't establish that.

Yeah, that's established.

We didn't establish I have to embarrass you in front of everybody.

Why do you have to embarrass them because you embarrassing me now because I'm saying, like, if we have sex and we you know, and you come over and I'm on another date and be like excuse me all that ship like, hey, what's what's wrong with you?

Shorty?

Hey?

You better step back?

Hey, And I'm at the table with another like come on, that's do you embarrass me now?

Because we didn't establish that we was together.

Because girls and you have sex with them one time or the first time, and we ain't established we together, they think that yo, man, yo, you'll your girl or something off top is just okay, you know if you're there, like is this going to be exclusive?

Like come on, you gotta.

Say that, you personally will say this.

Don't be having sex with these men, honey, you need to waste that these men are being intentional and serious because women, like, nothing is casual about sex for women.

You entering, Mike, I don't believe in casual sex.

You don't.

It's not casual.

You don't.

First of all, stop pointing out no, no, no, no, no.

Listen to what I'm saying.

Sex for women is not casual because every time a man enters you, whether you have a condom on or not, you risk getting pregnant.

Being pregnant is not casual.

Nothing about that is every time a man enters your body with a condom or not.

You sex you get you can risk a disease, period point blank.

Yeah, but it's more intense.

For a woman because something when a key enters a hole, right, not.

Everybody at the end of the day.

No, listen to what I'm trying to say.

A man, at the end of the day entering a hole is different from a woman being entered a woman being entered is.

Nothing about that is casual.

And that's for every woman.

If they want to play a game and act like it is, they can.

But scientifically, a woman releases a hormone while they have sex that makes them fall in love.

I don't know the name of it, but it's a true thing.

So no, men don't release that hormone.

They don't.

It's a scientific thing.

Men don't.

Women do.

So the more you have sex with the man, the more likely you are to fall in love.

You are risking yourself.

You're putting yourself in a really bad position.

And nothing about sex is casual.

Period You end up pregnant, you end up having to have an abortion, you end up taking a Plan B.

All of those things are harmful for your body.

Period points like those are things that men don't have to deal with.

You end up with a UTI, you end up with bacterial vaginosis, you end up.

With pH balance off.

These are all things that women deal with that make sex not casual for women.

And the reason women want to.

Have sex with you and now they feel like they're in love is because you are entering their body.

I mean you answering my body, so they're going inside of you?

Yeah?

When how and a sexual intercourse a penis, You're going on a penis.

Inside not inside of your body.

Yes, you are, Paul.

The only way that a man gets entered is through the anal.

There's no way that a woman is answering your body during sex.

Where you're smothering my body.

Really get me off the pot.

This man is crazy, you're smothering me.

Sex is not casual, it's not and women should stop having casual sex because it always ends in some fucked up shit.

For a woman.

It's heartbreak, it's embarrassment, it's a man being like girl.

We ain't even given all of that.

I want to know how did they sign typically study that her horm mom goes off when the man enters one.

So so they was somebody that's having sex and they was doing a test like.

How yeah, how they do test on animals like that, and then and then they.

Test humans to know, they test the animals and then they test the human.

Right, that's the same thing, but they test the humans too.

So I want to see who's the first, who's the first that was laying there with their partner even and they had the whole mark.

They did it in the m R I or something.

They was in the m R and they saw the neural neural part of the brain study making up out here.

No, it's not a made up thing.

Okay.

So do you think that when it becomes exclusive, a man needs to ask directly, like will you be my girl?

Does it have to be a clear like we're together?

Yeah, he has to tell her you're my chick.

He's telling her.

He's not asking and.

No, he's telling her, and then I will see what she say, okay or no I'm not ready for that.

Okay, cool, Okay, Okay, got you.

You don't have to ask, tell her if that's how you feel as a guy, we exclusive.

Okay.

It's post nut clarity, a real thing for man.

Explain that.

So, post nut clarity is when it's like you're feeling a girl, and then as soon as you're nut, you're like.

Oh, let's call.

Have a post nut clarity.

That's what it's called.

So it's like you're feeling a girl and then once you nut, you're.

Like something else what they call it?

They call it they say, once you you know, finish, okay, then you're like off of her, like like because they say, like you never.

Heard of this, Yeah, I mean I understand that language.

Okay.

Like now you're just like I should have did that.

Yeah, Like are you like, is that a real thing?

Like clarity?

After you finish and you're like, oh yeah, it's like I'm disgusting.

I'm disgusting with myself.

I was tricky.

You feel bad your day like damn, I shouldn't have did that?

And is it just like is it because what like you cheated or usually or is it.

It could be a number of things.

It could be like it could be like you cheated, or it could be like you was lit, or it could just be like look and you see that that after that that wake up, if you look at that, that not that nighttime, that wake up, you're just like, damn, what did I do?

It'd be a lot of ship that going.

It's different.

You know, I don't know, it's just or I was like, damn, it was you just get caught in the moment and you was like, damn, I was tricky.

Yeah, that'd be happening, Yeah, that'd be happening in the dudes, Like you know, that's mostly young dudes though you know they just be like doing too much.

But I mean it could be anybody, truthfully, you know, Yeah, that's the thing.

That's definitely a thing.

Do you feel like and I really want to know this because I feel like men will be like, oh my god, like this is the best sex I ever had?

Is there really like good vagina and like not good vagina?

And what is that difference?

I think a man makes it what it's gonna be.

Okay, explain like if.

It's not cool, then it's on the guy.

Because I feel like a guy gonna make it cool.

But do you think that there's good vagina?

Like is there like you know how a man's like.

This is China's so good?

I'm feeling it.

I mean the homie told me it was like we he was like she was just like laying there moving, she was just laying there, just didn't move him back, didn't even have no reaction to nothing.

I was like, damn, but like, does the vagina feel different?

Like that's what I'm trying to ask, Like you're not answering, like there are different feels, you know.

I'm thinking it's it's it's it's it's more than just the penis and the vagina.

It's the intimacy that make it better.

No, I agree, But I'm born in.

The field though, Like because like if you just out, if you just your whole thought is just like to just go ahead and finish, you just not really thinking about it.

If it's if it's cracking it out, but if you feel a certain way, it's always going to be better if you feel a certain way about the person.

But do you feel like there's such because I've heard men be Like what I've heard a lot from men is like, oh, like really really pretty women have like bad vagina sometimes in the smells and I've heard that a lot, like and it's blowing me like it's like a smell to it.

I've heard this so people, And Heather said she heard this too, like more a lot of people have said they heard this from men, And I'm like what is that?

Like, are are you pretty?

I'm just.

Like, I mean, what do you think?

I'm asking you?

You got pretty friends?

I personally don't know because when I feel like our men.

Like with me, it's always like it's hitting it's behind.

But it's like every is every man just saying that.

Have you ever got up from sex and was like what's that smell?

Because if you have, it's usually coming from the girl.

I don't think so.

I never got out of like no, what is that?

Let me go to the bathroom real quick.

This is said not never.

Now to where it's like crazy, but also to what's crazy?

Is you know that men's pH men can throw off.

A woman's pH though now it's on us.

No, no, no, that's a real thing.

Like a man like trust me, like your body as a woman with a certain man will like be thrown off.

I'm telling you the woman will agree to that.

Yeah, so you have got but it.

Wasn't like to where it was like no, no, it wasn't that, but it was just like you can tell it's like different from your like sometimes if you have sex with the man a lot, you start to smell like him, Like I can smell him on me.

You know what I mean, she answered the question because that's not that's crazy.

No, So anyways, let's get.

Back into this man now, it just got up and went to the bathroom.

That's why didn't come back.

No, what like, what are you talking about?

Okay, so anyway, he's moving forward because you can't take anything serious.

What's worse for you're play a little game.

What's worse your partner cheats with your friend or your enemy?

My friend?

Because now I got two enemies instead of one.

But isn't that worse two enemies?

Yeah, so it's worse to go with my friend.

Oh oh oh, I see what you're saying, because then when you have an enemy, it's just kind of like my enemies.

Yeah, but like my enemy to try to do something.

Yeah whatever, I get there.

But now my homeie my friend.

Oh that's that's weak.

Yeah, that is I get what you're saying.

The friend hurts way more to my talk to him.

Yeah, for sure, what's worse You're partner cheats with a woman or a man.

My partner cheating with a man, because I'm I'm the man.

So okay, I was just saying, So.

It's more forgivable if it was a woman team.

Yeah, okay, gotcha.

But I mean, why what if the girl was using the fake you know, the.

The girl was using the fake on her?

Yeah?

Okay, okay.

So now next thing you find out huh okay, you find out that your partner and their ex still share a Netflix password?

Does that bother you?

Now?

I'd be like, you got to change and get your own account.

Okay, she just forgot I pull up and it's her name.

She forgot.

Your best friend shows you all d ms from your partner and they sat a year before you started dating.

They were flirting in the d ms a year before you started it, and your best friends like, look.

I mean you thought she was fine too.

That's cool?

Okay, Okay, Well I think this was a great episode.

Besides, you just say anything.

You say a lot of stuff.

Even when you was that other girl, you never I never what?

Bye?

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