[SPEAKER_00]: great day great day grow squad hope you're doing well hope you have a great week in fact let me ask you a question let me do proper etiquette how are you doing let me know in the comments if you know down below how you doing how is your week going are you going are you growing and most importantly [SPEAKER_00]: Are you glowing?

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's go ahead and kick it off with the word of prayer.

[SPEAKER_00]: God will grateful for a new day.

[SPEAKER_00]: We're just so glad that we can breathe in and breathe out.

[SPEAKER_00]: and so I'm asking as we take these next few moments together that you would be with us, that you would guide us, that you would speak to us, give us what we need in this moment in your name, amen.

[SPEAKER_00]: Today, we're going to talk a little bit about freeing yourself, check this out, from fear of judgment.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now know many of us, let's be honest, ask yourself this question.

[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever felt judged by someone?

[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, after you've answered that question within yourself, how did that make you feel?

[SPEAKER_00]: Right?

[SPEAKER_00]: Nobody really enjoys the feeling of somebody's watching me.

[SPEAKER_00]: Somebody's judging me whether it's my actions, whether it's what I'm wearing, whether it's what I'm doing.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's so interesting in life that we find it within ourselves, especially I find it ironic that humans, human beings, you and I are in the same boat.

[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes I think to myself, I can't judge this brother.

[SPEAKER_00]: I can't judge this sister, you know why?

[SPEAKER_00]: Because we're both human beings, just struggling trying to make it in.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I heard something the other day that was so profound that it almost, not brought me to tears, but it really made me stop and think about the fact that you and I are one decision many times away from being in the same position as the person sometimes that we're judging.

[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes, you know, we've unfairly judged.

[SPEAKER_00]: Let's say an individual is, and I gave you a few episodes to go of this story about this gentleman who was sleeping under a bridge.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now, I certainly didn't, I wasn't not judging him when I saw him, but I'd tell you this much, and I'll be transparent.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'll be open.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'll be honest with you.

[SPEAKER_00]: I was doing my best not to make eye contact with him.

[SPEAKER_00]: you've been there before, well you know somebody's going to possibly ask you for some support that somebody who's going to ask you for will we perceive as a handout sometimes it's not a handout it's a hand up hmm yeah chew on that for a minute grow squad sometimes when people are requesting stuff it's not when I think of handout I think of course somebody is getting something for nothing I get it [SPEAKER_00]: I hand up sometimes, somebody has been doing something, they haven't been compensated for it, they haven't been given a fair shake by virtue of the fact that they've been doing something.

[SPEAKER_00]: And so sometimes, you know, you're a little $10, $20 at the red light, might be a hand up for them to get something to eat, to get somewhere to stay.

[SPEAKER_00]: Whatever the case might be.

[SPEAKER_00]: So sometimes we've got to, I don't know, look again at this idea of [SPEAKER_00]: who actually need our support.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I remember going back to that scenario where that gentleman who I was not judging him because of his situation, because he was unhoused or homeless.

[SPEAKER_00]: But I didn't want to make eye contact with him.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now, it's just interesting because it wasn't that I didn't want to help him because I didn't have anything to give him.

[SPEAKER_00]: I had a few coins in the call.

[SPEAKER_00]: I had a few dollars in my pocket.

[SPEAKER_00]: And have you ever been there before where you can actually help someone, but it's an inconvenience so you think.

[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't feel like rolling down my window, I didn't feel like opening up my wallet.

[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't feel like trying to count through or cover up maybe larger deals to get down to a smaller deal.

[SPEAKER_00]: I was just being lazy in the moment.

[SPEAKER_00]: And one thing that happened as I told you before was that that small token I was able to finally give him did something for him that night that he said, hey, he hadn't been able to do it a long time.

[SPEAKER_00]: That is to get us a warm place to sleep that night for his family.

[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes we unfairly judge people.

[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever seen somebody who may not dress according to what your tradition to say they should dress and you unfairly size them up and say that they're this kind of person or they're involved in this or maybe you've seen someone, I get a chance as I share with you before, I get a chance to go into schools sometimes and I'm able to meet young people and I'm always [SPEAKER_00]: drawn to young men especially especially young black men who sometimes will look at me with with with with kind of a gleeful look because again representation I know we're in a different climate right now but representation really matters and it's it's oftentimes in these moments why I'm able to see someone that looks like me who's never seen someone in a position as such that I mean and I'm able to help them I'm able to support them I'm able to look at them and say hey [SPEAKER_00]: If I were to judge them, I wouldn't talk to them.

[SPEAKER_00]: Panter sagging, underwear showing, right?

[SPEAKER_00]: We don't want to see all that, right?

[SPEAKER_00]: But again, most times, people are doing what they've seen modeled in front of them.

[SPEAKER_00]: But if I were to judge them and say, you know that they are lost cause because I don't know, they skip class a day or they are lost cause because I don't know, a certain color that they're wearing or whatever they're trying to represent.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I want to help us today, because just as we shouldn't judge others, we know it's a fact that we get judged.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now, what are some things that you get judged for?

[SPEAKER_00]: Think about it right now.

[SPEAKER_00]: What are some things that people judge you about?

[SPEAKER_00]: Is it how your hair looks?

[SPEAKER_00]: Is it who you choose to date?

[SPEAKER_00]: Is it what you drive?

[SPEAKER_00]: What do you get?

[SPEAKER_00]: What are some things that you get judged about?

[SPEAKER_00]: In fact, studies are shown, studies show that about 70% of people find themselves, check this out, not doing certain things for fear of judgment.

[SPEAKER_00]: There's a serial entrepreneur, Alex Hermosit.

[SPEAKER_00]: You probably heard of him before he's all over social media.

[SPEAKER_00]: But he says something on a podcast.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not sure how recent or how old the podcast was and or he is, but I just saw it this week.

[SPEAKER_00]: And he said sometimes it's mind boggling.

[SPEAKER_00]: And this is the analogy that he used.

[SPEAKER_00]: Poor people sometimes elect to stay poor [SPEAKER_00]: In other words, they are afraid to step out and to look different and to try to advance their lives, because people that are in their same position will judge them, will say to them, oh, you think you're better than us?

[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I've been to towns across this country where I've seen generations of people who have not gone out to [SPEAKER_00]: better their lives because they were afraid of what their mother was going to say about them.

[SPEAKER_00]: They were afraid to leave town because if they move to the next big town or the next area for a bigger opportunity or a better opportunity then their hometown will think that they have somehow gotten the big head and they think that they somehow are better than those that they have grown up with.

[SPEAKER_00]: stuck, in neutral, because we are fear judgment.

[SPEAKER_00]: And keep in mind, I'll be 40 something next week, right?

[SPEAKER_00]: All right, I'll be officially in my May 40s, next week, right?

[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm just getting free from that.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, miss this.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not, I'm not judging you because you're afraid of judgment, because in life, we've oftentimes been judged so much and we aim to please people, we aim to unconsciously.

[SPEAKER_00]: We really like to be liked.

[SPEAKER_00]: We really enjoy individuals singing out praises or not singing out praises, at least getting along with us.

[SPEAKER_00]: You ever had your, you ever have been in a position where, where, in fact, listen, my little crew, my, my hometown crew, right, me, my homeboys that I grew up with, I'm the only one out of the out of my crew that I actually went to college and finished.

[SPEAKER_00]: Right, that is just funny, because I'm the only one that went to college and finished, right, many of us moved away, right, I'm the only one that now what if I went to college and finished and then started acting as if I was somehow better than those individuals that I grew up with.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now all of them are doing are successful in their own right.

[SPEAKER_00]: All of them are taken care of their families, all of them are moving forward and doing I was to say most of them, let me pause, let me pump the brakes for a second.

[SPEAKER_00]: Most of them are taken care of their families and they're all springing and they're their successful.

[SPEAKER_00]: Some of them may even make more money than me.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I went to quote unquote, not quote unquote.

[SPEAKER_00]: I went to college.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now, somehow, somehow we've made people believe that because of degrees, because of lifestyle, because of homes, because of what to want to make a count, they can somehow act as if or put themselves in a position or a light where they can look down on other people.

[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, no.

[SPEAKER_00]: But back to our reggae schedule program, I know how it feels.

[SPEAKER_00]: In some cases, to feel judged based on some positive decisions that you've made in your life.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm talking about decisions to be a better person, decisions to level up decisions to try to do better for your family decisions to set the right example for those that are behind you.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oftentimes, we fear, or we feel judged.

[SPEAKER_00]: and could also the people who despite the judgment still press forward, but for those who fear judgment and the way you fear it, the way that is played out in your life is you stay the same.

[SPEAKER_00]: I've got a word for you.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's one of the people that are so afraid to be judged that you refuse [SPEAKER_00]: And this is the, this is, this is, this is the, this is the, the light bulb moment I believe in this episode.

[SPEAKER_00]: You've got one life to live.

[SPEAKER_00]: I cannot, you cannot, we cannot afford to go through this one life that we have to live and not live it to live life to the fullest potential or not, not, not get to a place where we live out life according to what we've been born to do, based on the fact that somebody can have something to say.

[SPEAKER_00]: And here is where you get set free.

[SPEAKER_00]: Because they're going to talk about you if you do something, and they're going to talk about you if you don't do something.

[SPEAKER_00]: Take a mental note right there.

[SPEAKER_00]: Take a mental picture of that right now.

[SPEAKER_00]: If you got this great dream in your heart, in your life, in your journal that you're going after, they're going to talk about you for going after the dream.

[SPEAKER_00]: And if you stand on the side of the road, laying idly by letting life pass you by, what [SPEAKER_00]: to talk about either way LeBron James.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I know I was going here right quick.

[SPEAKER_00]: I haven't had a sense to talk about it just yet.

[SPEAKER_00]: But the other week, maybe it's last week.

[SPEAKER_00]: LeBron James went up to Stephen A.

Smith, who is a world renowned journalist.

[SPEAKER_00]: and he had some words for him.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now thankfully, we didn't hear it in a real time.

[SPEAKER_00]: The best we could do was try to relips, but later on, Steven A Smith went on his podcast and also he shared on ESPN the next morning as best he could, some of the things that LeBron said to him.

[SPEAKER_00]: The gist of it was, LeBron was, [SPEAKER_00]: Basically and I just also might have put this up the other day.

[SPEAKER_00]: Who was that somebody I just also might have posted the other day basically he was saying I can take the heat Whatever you got to say about me, whatever you got to say about my life, whatever you got to say about my game is cool whatever you got to say about whatever I can take it believe my kids out of it Now it's tricky right because his kid is actually in the NBA [SPEAKER_00]: And you would say, you would think to yourself, he should understand and know that he's a professional basketball player, he's fair game, and he is.

[SPEAKER_00]: The Bronze Haines did not have a challenge with the journalist, Steven A.

Smith or whomever talking about Brownie's game.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's when you begin to talk about and make up stuff about maybe this personal life that you have no idea what you're talking about.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now, LeBron James is now being judged in a different line.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, he shouldn't have done that.

[SPEAKER_00]: See, some of them say, others are saying, oh, I would have done the same thing.

[SPEAKER_00]: Some young people are saying, man, that was my dad.

[SPEAKER_00]: I would have told my dad is, you know, take a two-up of your pause.

[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, no, no, you can't do that.

[SPEAKER_00]: Because you go make me look a certain way.

[SPEAKER_00]: LeBron James was judged prior to that moment for not getting into people's faces.

[SPEAKER_00]: All those 20 plus years that he did not jump back or talk back to the media or negatively.

[SPEAKER_00]: He did not get in the back.

[SPEAKER_00]: People say, oh, he's he saw if he's this, he, and then the time that he jumps over now and actually gets in somebody's face in real life.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now hide behind no camera, I don't know podcast, he got his face in real life.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now he's being judged on that side as well.

[SPEAKER_00]: So as the old saying goes, you can't win in many cases for losing people going judge you, if you do, they're going judge you if you do not and one thing that's interesting about life because if you're allowing fear of judgment to keep you where you are at some point, [SPEAKER_00]: And in my experience, I'm no expert, but in my experience, oftentimes when you grow resentment in your heart, you begin to last out at people that don't deserve it.

[SPEAKER_00]: You have seen people who are heard people talk about the fact that, hey, listen, this person treats his family worse than he treats strangers.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oftentimes, the people that are closest to us that have our back, they're in our corners, and then our corner, I should say.

[SPEAKER_00]: They end up getting the rough end of the resentment based on whatever you've harbored in your heart because somebody along the way has been judging you and instead of confronting them or maybe hashing it out with them you you you grow this resentment in your soul and you take it out on the people that are really rooting for you.

[SPEAKER_00]: When I say rooting for you, they love you if you are a success and they love you if you don't have a lot of success.

[SPEAKER_00]: They love you if you multi-millionaire and they love you if you're not a multi-millionaire.

[SPEAKER_00]: The point is, at some point, if you're really going [SPEAKER_00]: to move ahead in 2025, you've got to plug your ears to the noise, this is why and I don't practice it myself, I'm not going to be a hypocrite and act like I do, but I'm getting to that place.

[SPEAKER_00]: where people are like, man, I go online to do it.

[SPEAKER_00]: I gotta do them to put my stuff out there that I wanna put out there for the world to learn from, to be inspired by, and then I shut that bad boy off.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, wow, for real?

[SPEAKER_00]: People really do that.

[SPEAKER_00]: And people like, man, I don't do much scrolling or if I do scroll, I put myself on a timer because it's too much.

[SPEAKER_00]: And if I, if I get too much, and this is mainly about mainly, but this is mostly people that are of a certain status.

[SPEAKER_00]: They're like, man, if I get into the comments and scroll through and see what everybody is saying, man, I spend all my day not getting better.

[SPEAKER_00]: I spend all my day reading comments.

[SPEAKER_00]: And some of you right now, the first step to getting past the fear of judgment, I'm talking so much so that it's paralyzing you.

[SPEAKER_00]: The first step to get free from that is to plug your ears.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you got to plug your ears to the note.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm not saying plug your ears to conduct criticism.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not saying plug your ears to sound counsel.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not saying plug your ears to somebody giving you a advice that will make hurt.

[SPEAKER_00]: All right, it may hurt a little bit, but it's not advice or it's not a word to say, you know what, don't do that or not a word to judge you.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's saying, oh, wow, you own it.

[SPEAKER_00]: Something, but hey, listen, consider this.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not saying plug your ears to that and I'm not saying only open your ears that the people who have only good things to say, I'm saying simply this because I have people in my life who had a long critique list for me and I know for well that at the end of that list, they actually want to me to get better.

[SPEAKER_00]: You ever had anybody play sports before, or anybody ever been in the arts?

[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, not just sports, anybody been in the choir, or maybe you've been in art class, and you've had a teacher or an instructor who got on, they said, man, this artist ugly, they got on your stuff, it's not because they didn't want you to do better.

[SPEAKER_00]: They wanted you to dig deeper.

[SPEAKER_00]: Your coach got on you on the football, on the football field, not because they didn't want you to have a good game.

[SPEAKER_00]: They said, man, you're being lazy.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, you haven't been practicing or you can actually get better.

[SPEAKER_00]: You got to plug your ears to noise, man.

[SPEAKER_00]: You got to plug your ears to anything that's not constructive.

[SPEAKER_00]: And then you've got to also understand the power.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I posted this not long ago on my social platforms.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I talked about the fact, or the post talked about the fact that how we speak to ourselves really matters, yeah, that was a post on purpose.

[SPEAKER_00]: Think about that.

[SPEAKER_00]: How you talk to you.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm talking about how I talk to you, how you talk to you is of the utmost importance.

[SPEAKER_00]: In fact, there's a Bible script that simply says the power of life and death is in the tongue.

[SPEAKER_00]: so that I can speak life over my life or I can speak death over my life.

[SPEAKER_00]: And when I say death, and I say death as in dead, no more breathing, no more posts, I'm saying dead or death as in my life is not going to bring forth what it's supposed to bring forth on this earth to inspire and impact other people and level up my life.

[SPEAKER_00]: Many times, often times, you didn't check, are you talk to yourself?

[SPEAKER_00]: Because oftentimes, I've seen people who actually have low estimations or low expectations, as I say, of themselves, and it comes to life with how you talk to yourself, how you talk about yourself, forget outside noise.

[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, in some of the inside noise, [SPEAKER_00]: You got to check the inside noise.

[SPEAKER_00]: In fact, I'm to the point now where, hey, the outside noise is there, you know, you hear it, you see it, you read it is there, but the inside noise is so loud in a positive way that it's drowning that outside noise out.

[SPEAKER_00]: So you got to get to a place where you drown out negativity.

[SPEAKER_00]: You cannot stop what people say.

[SPEAKER_00]: You cannot stop negative comments.

[SPEAKER_00]: You could not stop negative talk from other people.

[SPEAKER_00]: You can't control other people, but you can't control you.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, repeat after me.

[SPEAKER_00]: I can control me.

[SPEAKER_00]: Sit out loud.

[SPEAKER_00]: I can control me.

[SPEAKER_00]: You can't control anybody else.

[SPEAKER_00]: But the one person you can control.

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh man, listen, I tell you my boy is four years old now, right?

[SPEAKER_00]: The job missed that.

[SPEAKER_00]: My son turned four years old last month.

[SPEAKER_00]: And boy is he talking, boy is he developing, boy is he getting his, he, I mean, he's developing in his own way.

[SPEAKER_00]: And there are moments and I know that I grew up in an era where, of course, you know, the emotional lives, I wanted to believe that somehow they can control young people.

[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes you can, but oftentimes, you've got to stand back and say, you know what, I mean, this boy, there's some things that he was doing the other day that I wanted to respond in a certain way, but I said, you know what, I got to control me in this moment.

[SPEAKER_00]: He's having a moment and he's doing this thing.

[SPEAKER_00]: I can't control him.

[SPEAKER_00]: But the person I can't control is Eugene Hamilton.

[SPEAKER_00]: And then lastly, I want you to always go back to the drawing board.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, and then when I say it block out the noise, and when two of us say it, learn to be careful with how you talk to yourself, and then the three always revisit your why.

[SPEAKER_00]: Come back to the drawing board, check yourself, ask yourself, why, why did I set out to do this in the first place?

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, sometimes you'll have another light bulb moment.

[SPEAKER_00]: You say, oh, wow, I'm not doing this for them.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm doing this for whomever it is.

[SPEAKER_00]: Off or whatever the reason is, you've got to check yourself.

[SPEAKER_00]: Check your list.

[SPEAKER_00]: Listen, we're going into quarter two almost.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, we're the end middle of the month of March.

[SPEAKER_00]: We're going into quarter two of 2025.

[SPEAKER_00]: and some of you all are sitting in neutral, snap out of it.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now don't, don't listen, don't get down on yourself.

[SPEAKER_00]: All that means is we've had three months of learning, three months of examining.

[SPEAKER_00]: Now we got nine months left in this year.

[SPEAKER_00]: And boy, are you going to turn on the burners?

[SPEAKER_00]: I know you are.

[SPEAKER_00]: Boy, you got nine months left this year.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's time to get free.

[SPEAKER_00]: You've allowed judgment to paralyze you for the last three months, snap out of it.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's time to move forward.

[SPEAKER_00]: And as I always say, it's time to go.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's time to glow.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm sorry, it's time to go.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's time to grow, and it's time to glow.

[SPEAKER_00]: So I thank you for tuning in today.

[SPEAKER_00]: If you know somebody who's struggling with fear of judgment, if you know somebody who is paralyzed, not physically, but they're paralyzed in their life because of what other people are saying about them, share this out with them.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, copy and paste, put this in a text message, send out the link to somebody who you know and don't you forget to subscribe.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You still just looking and viewing.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I say we're going in the quarter two and we're going in the quarter two on fire.

[SPEAKER_00]: So thank you so much for tuning in today.

[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much for your support.

[SPEAKER_00]: And don't forget, as you go, as you grow, and as you glow, life will continue to get better as you approach it with the right mindset.

[SPEAKER_00]: You're gonna be great.

[SPEAKER_00]: That's my time.

[SPEAKER_00]: Peace.