Hello Magical Human and welcome back to Madison Mindset the podcast.

This is episode five in our new chakra series.

Remember, this series was originally recorded for Held, the podcast which I co-host with my beautiful friend Molly.

Recorded for Held, the podcast which I co-host with my beautiful friend Molly.

All the details for that podcast and to connect with Molly are below in the show notes.

But I wanted to share this with you because we dive into some really beautiful information, some practices and just a beautiful way to get to know the chakras.

In this episode we're going through throat chakra.

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We're going to go through a beautiful throat chakra practice together.

So if you're ready to dive a little bit deeper and take this information into practice, join me there.

Thank you for being here.

I hope you enjoy this episode.

Hello everyone, Welcome back to another episode of HELL.

Today we are coming back to you with our throat chakra episode in our chakra series, which we are excited for.

Maddie, are you excited?

Oh, so excited, so excited.

You're in the teacher's seat again today doll, I feel like this is the Kath and Kim podcast, you know.

Oh, Kath darling, Can you?

imagine I would love it if they had a podcast.

I'd be listening to that all the time.

You're going to kill me, but I've never actually watched Catherine Keane Like I've seen bits, but I've never like sat down and watched an episode.

I haven't watched the whole thing because, to be honest, once you've watched a few episodes, you've pretty much seen the whole thing, because it's just the same shit over and over again.

But it's very, very funny.

Just watch the first episode.

Like it's just hysterical.

They're just watch the first episode, like you.

Just, it's just hysterical.

They're just taking the piss out of everything and I love it.

Yeah, I think I probably have watched like the first episode or something, I don't know, but I get the whole gist of it.

You know what I mean.

It's completely pathetic, but it's meant to be pathetic, which is what makes it so funny.

So, yeah, I wouldn't watch the whole thing, but it's definitely worth a little bit of a suss out, yeah, a little bit of Hello everyone, let's start with our cycle check-in.

I'm just thinking I've got no idea where I'm at.

As I said that I was like I am currently on day seven and I'm feeling fucking fabulous.

I've had my music pumping this morning, I did some breath work and meditation and, yeah, the energy is definitely in full force ahead.

So that's good.

My bleed last time like I'm just so proud of myself, like I feel like last cycle was the first cycle that I really actually embodied all the stuff that I've learned about you know, like living in sync with your cycle and stuff and actually listen to my body so just made everything a lot smoother and it was beautiful.

So that's my cycle check-in.

I'll go into my lesson and blessing.

My current lesson is that you don't have to force and push the things.

Like if things feel like they are done or complete, then that's okay and it's safe to let things go to open up space for new things to come in, which is really exciting.

And a current blessing is that I'm just lately being like I'm just squeezing a lot more out of life, like joy, happiness, love, like just between you strangling life, like no, but I'm really just like, yeah, having more of those positive, uplifting um feelings coming in, which is really nice, um, and I think that's because I've been able to feel the flip side, I've been able to feel the sadness and the pain, so it's really really good.

Oh, that's beautiful.

Okay, Thank you.

I now know where I'm at in my cycle everybody.

I'm excited I'm on day 14.

I was like 16 days late, oh.

God Day 14.

So just at the end of the follicular phase for me.

Mine drags on quite a bit, so, although I thought I was ovulating last weekend, to be honest, but that was way too soon, yeah, but you can always ovulate at different times, like it's never.

It's only because I was really like I was really horny last weekend so I assumed that what was going on.

But then yesterday I definitely noticed, like you know how you get a bit of an ovulation feel in the undies.

You know a little bit like oh, yep, okay, I know what's going on, I got that yesterday.

I think I was just, you know, after bleed, horny or something, I don't know.

I really hope my mum doesn't listen to this.

Still, she only listens to the first episode and gives up, right, oh God, anyway, yeah, so that's good, my blessing.

That's funny.

That's really funny.

My blessing is, oh my God, I, for the first time ever, if you've listened to these episodes in like consecutive order and you've kind of followed on the last few weeks I was a complete mess a few weeks ago and had so many downloads come through I feel so freaking good about everything and I've made so many choices and things that have really freed me quite a bit.

And, ironically, my partner seems to be a huge key in my success, because I sit down and talk to him about stuff and I get stuck in my own spiral as I do, and he doesn't necessarily say anything different to anyone else, but he literally will, and he'll probably deny this because he doesn't think he helps me, but he does.

He'll say just these amazing things that just clicks into my head and I'm like oh my God.

And he's like the best mix of like supportive, but also like have you this and have you read about that?

And like what you're doing here and you know, have you thought?

You know he's never like pushy with me and he's never, you know, not interested.

He's like always like yep, let's talk about it, what's going on?

And he's just made me like we wrote like a goal plan together and I listened to this episode, which you should totally like.

Go and look at it.

It it's amazing, by Rob Dial, mindset Mentor.

It's the seven ways to achieve your goals, or something like that.

I've probably butchered the title of that, but I'll send it to you.

Really good, sit down with your journal and go through these seven steps.

I did it last Monday with Muz and every time I went to write way too much down he was just like that's for later.

Put that, in the later basket.

What's here.

So it was like I had this guardian angel over my shoulder as I was writing what I was supposed to do.

So now I have so much clarity and I'm so much more grounded in what I'm doing I'm actually writing things down and, oh God, doing them and I'm like, oh, my God, it has been years I've been trying to get to a state like this and it's lasted two weeks so far.

So I'm feeling pretty good.

Um, so that's amazing.

That's a huge blessing, cause I feel like I've spent four years in a torpedo of work trying to catch on to something and like, yeah, it's been hard.

Um, my lesson.

I'm actually I'm losing my grandfather this week, which is very challenging.

We've known it's been coming for nearly a year now.

So it kind of feels like you've had this delayed grief and I mean there's beautiful things about it, like all the family are around and I've been able to catch up with family members and family friends that I haven't seen in years and created some beautiful connections with them again.

So it's, it's been beautiful and it's nice to witness how everyone comes together in these kinds of times.

You know, it doesn't matter how long it's been or what happened in the past or who's mad at who it.

Just, when you get to these points, everyone comes back together and I think that's such a beautiful thing it's.

It's for me it's a lesson in non-attachment.

I'm trying to be grateful for the time that I've had with him, without being selfish and wanting more and being like why does he, you know, have to leave now?

But yeah, it's, it's a difficult thing and it's probably I've lost.

I've only really lost one other person before that was really close and she was a family friend.

So the other thing like this has been dogs and cats and it's been torturous.

So this is my first like close family member that I'm losing and it's yeah, it's very difficult.

I'm doing weird things, like last night I was teaching and just randomly this thought comes to my head, like he's only going to see two more sunrises and one more sunset or something, and I'm like, oh god, like that's, it's just.

It's such a weird thing to yeah when it's coming, so it's very difficult.

But yeah, yeah, I'm glad to be recording this this morning because it's a really nice distraction.

Yeah, to look at your beautiful face, molly.

Oh well, I'm glad we can do it.

I'm glad we can do it together.

Yeah, yeah, it's so shitty.

It's just like this and everyone like when I reflect on, like when I lost my grandparents, or like when I've lost other people as well, it's like everyone deals with things so differently and it's just such a weird topic of like, I don't know.

Yeah, I'm thinking of you though.

Maddie Love you, thank you.

I love you.

I'm glad to be doing this this morning.

This is perfect, amazing.

Well, let's get in to the throat chakra.

Let's do it, I'm excited to learn about these upper chakras.

Yeah, yeah, it's good.

So, as always, I'm going to say this every single time, every single time, because I know there's someone who's just looked up throat chakra and come across this episode Hello, we've recorded four already.

I recommend starting with the root, unless you're very familiar with chakras, and listen to whatever you want, but really recommend um, yeah, going for the first four episodes first, so you have a good understanding, so you understand what I'm talking about as we go through, because they do step on top of each other.

Okay, the seven chakras are in a direct line up the body right, and they are just like building blocks.

They are in a line and one steps on top of the other and you can't place your first block halfway up the tower.

You know, you've got to have a good base.

So understanding all of them is really going to be the key to understanding the whole system.

And keeping in mind that I'm using the word understand because until you've done chakra work, until you have actually noticed them in your own life and reflected on your own, you don't know what I'm talking about.

Okay, so knowing and understanding are very different.

I want you to understand it first, and then you've got to know it by practicing it, and that's why we offer things at the end.

You know, recommendations, journal prompts, things that you can do.

So if you've listened to the first four episodes and you're still yet to put your bare feet on the ground, which is the most recommended thing for root chakra, you don't know what I'm talking about because you haven't felt it right.

You haven't felt the alignment.

If you've ever done a yoga class, you know and you feel that at the end, as I mentioned, like yoga balances all your chakras.

So if you felt that at the end of a yoga class, you do know what I'm talking about that's chakra alignment Okay.

But if you haven't explored any of this and you're just listening to it, that's fine.

I recommend that you go back and do it, because that's where you're going to learn this and you're going to know this and it will actually become valuable for you.

If you're just listening to it, you're just understanding it, that's fine, but it doesn't have any true value for you.

So take what we're talking about and do something with it and start from root chakra.

Okay.

Once you've done that, once you've listened to the first four, come back to this point and we're going to jump into throat chakra.

Okay, so throat chakra is the first of the purely spiritual chakras.

Okay, so the first three down the bottom, as I mentioned, they're all physical based, so based in the body.

The heart chakra is a hybrid.

It's the bridge in between.

It's kind of physical, kind of spiritual, somewhere in the middle.

Throat is the first of the only spiritual chakras.

So, starting from the bottom root chakra you've got to feel safe and secure in your body on this earth.

If you're one of those people who says you know I'm in the wrong body in the wrong place in the wrong time, I don't know where I am, where do I belong?

Root chakra You've got to root into your body and understand where you are and get grounded in it.

That's your first step.

Right Once you're securely feeling that, then the water in the body, In sacral chakra you get to feel the emotion of being a human being, of being a half physical, half magical being.

You know being this incredible being that you are.

You're going to have a variety of different emotions and experiences and expressions and creativity, and you know feelings in your body.

So you get the experience of watching that flow.

However, if you're gripping onto anything and you're struggling to let go or you're struggling to feel emotions, you're pushing them away or pulling them towards you, you're going to create blockages and you're going to have issues with sacral chakra.

You've got to allow things to come and go, emotions to come and go freely.

Then you step up to your solar plexus.

Now you're starting to create an identity, an ego, your boundaries, your person as you are, your personality, without going into self-loathing I hate myself, I don't believe in myself, I'm not confident all that stuff and without going into, I'm extra into myself.

I post, you know, half nude pictures on Instagram and you know I'm looking for attention.

You've just got to be careful as to where you're at.

You want to have a nice, healthy middle ground, okay, with solar plexus.

So this often is a big issue with teenagers and young adults.

People are trying to create who they are.

Who am I, what am I doing?

So you'll often dance between, you know, over ego, and then I don't have much going on until you kind of balance it out.

Then you go into heart chakra where you start to feel for others.

So notice this is the first time I've said others, the first three are about you and so others.

You know you're feeling compassion, empathy, love.

You've got all these feelings, these heart feelings towards people and towards yourself, towards life.

You've got to create a nice healthy balance here, without loving people for gain or, you know, out of pride or whatever it is, but really feeling for others and showing up for others.

This is a massive point and sadly, a lot of people are very out of balanced here, which is what you see people being so selfish, just focusing on them, pushing other people aside, treating people like garbage.

All of that comes from an out of balance heart chakra.

We've got to work on compassion.

I don't know if you've ever thought this, molly, but you know I recently found out that these dogs were dumped in orange somewhere, these beautiful puppies, and they were living in a drain on an old couch that was dumped there.

They've been taken to, you know, the pound now, so hopefully they'll find a home, but they were just dumped there, right, they were domestic dogs, 100% through and through domestic dogs, and you know, apparently they were.

They would come out every time someone would walk past this path and kind of looking for their owner, like clearly, like looking sniffing.

So the first thought I had was how is that person sleeping at night?

How do you do that?

You know, if you've ever had a thought like that like how did you do that?

And get up the next day and be happy with yourself, how did you do that?

This is heart chakra.

So if you're in balance, you will feel like you can't do that to something.

I can't harm you, I can't hurt you.

You know.

I'm sure you've had that kind of feeling before, molly, in different things, because you wear your heart on your sleeve as well.

So yeah it's one of those things where heart is.

You don't want to get too sensitive, but you don't want to be not sensitive at all to the world around you.

It's really important.

Now we climb up to throat.

So now, for the first time, we're looking at communication.

Your throat chakra is sitting right near the center of the throat or around the thyroid gland, right.

So thyroid issues very common, with throat chakra blockages.

Okay, Very common.

So we're looking at your expression, your communication and creativity.

Okay.

Now, throat chakra is a very common one that people have issues with.

Okay, because you've been told.

I remember being a kid being told you know, if it's not nice to say don't say anything at all, you know, which is true, you shouldn't tell people they're ugly today or whatever it is.

But but being told things like that over and over again, you start to develop this filter.

So, as you notice, kids, no filter.

If you look ugly today, they'll tell you.

If you look fat today, they'll tell you, like when I worked in childcare, it was the most humbling experience I've ever had.

You know, like, how old am I?

56.

Awesome, now I'm 18.

Awesome, like you just get told exactly what they think.

They've got no filter, no throat chakra issues.

You never notice a little kid.

Even if they scream all day, they have no issues talking.

They don't have a sore throat, they don't have anything, because they were speaking their truth the entire time and sometimes their truth was screaming, sometimes it was crying, sometimes it was crying, sometimes it was laughing.

But never do they go home and go?

Oh, my throat's a bit sore.

Oh I must've been talking in the wrong way.

No, what were you saying?

How are you expressing yourself?

You know so, as we get older, we develop this filter over throat chakra and then you get into things like wanting to impress your friends or, you know, get a boyfriend or, you know, have a group of friends, whatever it is, and you're trying to say the right thing.

Now, this is another great way to block throat chakra trying to say what you think you're supposed to say, or what everyone, or what you think everyone wants to hear.

Okay, so if you're thinking like that, you're going to say things that is not your truth.

You're going to say things that others want to hear, which is, you know, it doesn't serve anybody.

You know and I've often had this thing with my partner like he's huge on honest communication in every form and it doesn't matter if it's like tell me the truth about what you had for lunch today.

Like we're like super, like no lies about anything.

And something I didn't realize that I do is that if someone, if I think I'm going to hurt someone just by the smallest little thing, I'll do a little white lie, you know.

So, you know, I'm trying to think of an example, like if I'm going to be, you know, if I was late for something, or if I don't want to get on the phone with you, but I feel like I should.

You know, often which everyone has done this right You'll tell this little white lie like, oh, I just, oh, my mom needs me, or oh, I can't get off work, or oh, I have to do this.

So just these little white lies, you know, which aren't really hurting anybody, but it's still a lie, you know.

So I'm working on that because I didn't realize that I am trying to make excuses reasonable excuses for not showing up the way that I think people want me to.

You know, I'm trying to find a better excuse, because simply not wanting to doesn't feel good enough for me, you know.

So I've got to kind of make up some bigger excuse.

I'm lying to a person that I care about.

Okay, so even that kind of thing.

You know the people in your life, if they genuinely care about you, they will be able to hear I don't want to talk right now, I'm tired, I'm going to bed, and they'll be like okay, sleep, well, talk later.

You know, no one who genuinely cares about you is going to say screw you.

What do you mean?

You don't want to talk.

You know that's not going to happen.

Being honest and saying like this is what I want, even if you think it's not a reasonable excuse or a reasonable thing to say, when you say I want this because I just want that, I feel like that you're making it seem to your body like not wanting to is more than enough.

So if your body says I don't want to do that right now and you're scrapping around for some kind of excuse that will pass, you're telling your body that that's not good enough, that we need a better excuse.

I don't care if you don't want to, we need a decent excuse here.

So you kind of get in this unhealthy relationship with your body where you're not allowing it to say what it wants to say or what your mind wants to say, what your heart wants to say.

You're looking for other excuses.

So here throat chakra can shut down everything If you're feeling ungrounded in your body at the root level and you're not feeling safe in a relationship or in a certain situation with your body or in a certain environment, such as walking with the cool kids down some dark alley, right, if you're not feeling safe and you verbalize that you feel good about what's going on, you've created a blockage in throat chakra and right down to root chakra, because now you're not communicating what you need, what root chakra needs, and it goes all the way up, all the way through.

If your heart says something and you verbalize something different, you've just got this unhealthy relationship.

Your heart wants to say this and your throat locks it down.

So a common one is saying I love you for the first time.

Right, if your heart feels it and it wants to say it genuinely, but you lock it down out of fear of being judged, or it's too early, or what will they think?

What if they don't say it back to me?

Then you're locking down your heart's true feelings.

So imagine if a child said to you I want to say I love you to this person, and you go oh no, they might not take that well, they might not reciprocate your love.

You better just keep it quiet and wait for them to say it, or wait a little bit longer.

You see how healthy, unhealthy that would be to say that to a child.

You're doing it to yourself.

Your heart's going, I feel like this and your throat goes.

I feel like something completely different and then the whole system gets to use a good word fucked, okay, yeah, wow, the whole system.

So you've got to be really careful, okay, and any symptoms of this?

As I said, thyroid problems, any issues with the mouth, glands always up, sore throat constantly clearing your throat you keep losing your voice randomly.

Tight shoulders, neck and kind of around the jaw area, any issues with the tongue all of this it's all thyroid, it's all.

Yeah, it's all into throat chakra stuff.

So, yeah, it's big, but it comes into.

How do you feel?

Can you express it?

What are your boundaries?

Can you uphold them and can you verbalize it?

You know, what do you actually want?

Can you communicate your opinions and your ideas and your desires and your wants?

Can you say to your partner hey, you did this thing.

I understand that you'd probably didn't mean to hurt me, but it made me feel like this.

Next time, can you say it like that?

Or do you fly off the handle and lose your shit at, such as at a thing that they probably didn't understand hurt you, okay?

So every time you communicate, we want honesty, and if someone doesn't accept your honesty, if it comes from a place of groundedness, I know how I feel.

I'm secure in myself.

I have my boundaries.

I know my heart's true feeling on this and here's my healthy communication without flying off the handle, getting angry, yelling at someone, and someone else hears that and goes screw you, they are not right for you.

Okay, they are not right for you.

You don't want to spend a life saying what you think people want to hear, doing what people you think they want you to do, to create these false relationships.

Okay, and they've obviously got work that they need to do on their own as well because you can imagine, like what I'm thinking of is, if I express something to someone else but they have issues with their solar plexus, with their ego, with their identity, they might not be able to receive it.

Therefore, there's just like this whole mismatch, because it's like everyone and I think we've said this in previous episodes before it's like, just as you have your own shit, everyone else has their own shit.

So, just as you have all your own chakras, everyone else has all their own chakras.

So it's like if there's an imbalance between both, there's obviously gonna be friction or, you know, misalignment between the two of you communicating yeah, yeah, 100.

You can start to see at this point why all the bottom chakras are so important you know because if you say to someone like what Molly just said, you know, if you say to someone like I didn't like the way you know, like something my brother said to me recently right, this is something I've.

I'm nowhere near perfect, I'm very aware of that, and I'm aware I've got some flaws right, many flaws.

It's okay, it's normal, everybody Don't worry about it.

Okay.

So my brother said to me like hey, I really value going to coffee with you and you know, sometimes you're late, sometimes you don't come at all and you cancel last minute.

Like I really don't like it when people make plans and cancel them last minute.

You know, I don't like that.

You know he was like I've let friends go because they cannot stick to a plan for the life of them, you know.

And I can't, I don't want that.

So you know it's important to me that if we make a plan, you show up.

And I went, fair enough, because something I do is make plans with everybody for the same time 10 am on Saturday, everybody.

I make plans with everybody at 10 am on Saturday and then I get to an hour before that and I go oh God, what do I do?

And then you're not trying to hurt anybody.

So then I'm coming up with little white lies like, oh, I have to work longer, or oh, I don't feel well, or oh, my family need me.

I'm coming up with different things and trying to decide where to go.

It's such a stressful experience for me and it's not healthy, you know.

So when he said that I went yep, you're right, I definitely do that.

I'm just trying not to hurt anybody.

I hate saying no to people.

I struggle to say no, I want to do this, or I've already got plans, or you know, I feel bad because I want to show up for everybody and then I ended up in a tangled mess.

And that happens quite a lot to me.

It happens all the time, you know.

So I said completely understand that, I see that and I promise to show up better for you because you're important to me.

And he went thank you.

And now my job is to do that, because if I don't do that, if I don't show up, it proves that he's spoken his truth.

I've said okay, I hear you, and then I don't show up.

What does that indicate?

I don't give a shit.

Okay, if I hadn't, if I hadn't worked on myself, so my ego right, if I had a bit of a sensitive ego and my and someone says to me you don't show up for plans on time.

It's really important to me that you do.

Can you please pull it together and do that next time?

I might get defensive and go, oh well, whatever.

Like I didn't want to go to coffee with you anyway.

Like you don't understand that I've got shit going on beyond you.

Like you can see how that would escalate into quite the drama over someone sharing their truth.

Yeah, and I'm not gonna not going to lie, I do feel it.

I feel this little gremlin in me.

Like you cancel sometimes, you know, like I can feel that little.

You know that part of me, that little part that just wants to be like the part that's like but, but, but, but, but, but, but.

But.

Yeah, exactly, and it takes a minute.

You've got to sometimes just take a breath and go.

Is this person important to me?

Yes, Is what they're saying true?

Yes, Just acknowledge what they're saying and say you'll show up better.

And now I need to do that and show up better, and same with your partner and your friends.

Like everything, you have to do your best, Like you make mistakes, but when you make a mistake, you acknowledge it.

Don't let them go back to thinking that you didn't hear them or you don't care.

You know, be like oh my God, I just did that thing that you don't like.

I'm so sorry.

I saw it.

I'm working on it.

I've definitely amazed, how much that helps.

Yeah, I've definitely got good at that in my relationship with Corey.

And yeah.

Oh, so good.

I do it all the time so powerful, yeah.

So here's some practices, right, that you can do for throat chakra and things that I've already said, like yoga.

Yoga is a system literally based around the chakras.

Okay, you do yoga, you'll open the throat, you'll do pranayama, you'll do breath work.

You know you will help the chakras come into balance.

Okay, it will help you become a calmer person and when you're a calm person, you're a clear communicator.

Okay.

So doing those kinds of things meditation you'll have more clarity.

When you've got more clarity, it's easier to communicate clearly because you know what you're on about.

Okay, it'll also help you to sort out the other chakras.

So you're communicating from a clear place.

Okay, because all those other chakras so you're communicating from a clear place.

Okay, because all those other chakras they're just waiting to say something you know, and if you get mad or sad or anything, you can feel them just escape and just attack that person, you know.

So you've got to keep calm, peaceful, so that you can communicate well.

Mirror work, I find, is really helpful for throat chakra.

It's good for self-love practices, which is more heart chakra related, but something you can say to yourself, especially if you struggle and this is my favorite throat chakra affirmation you look into your own eyes.

You can hold your throat if you want, or look at your throat.

I am free to speak my truth.

I am free to speak my truth, you know, and you can make other variations on that.

I am free to speak my truth, you know, and you can make other variations on that.

Like I am free to speak clearly.

I know what I'm trying to communicate.

I am a calm and effective communicator, you know.

So saying these things will help you affirm what's going on and then when you have to.

So two practices I do that help communication in a moment.

The first one is more to do with before you communicate, so you can't do this in the situation.

Okay, if you're in the situation, I recommend speak slow, take a breath, don't interrupt.

Okay, do not interrupt someone when they're trying to express how they feel, even if they're mad at you.

Stay calm.

If you start interrupting them, they're going to interrupt you back and it's just going to accelerate.

Okay, but if you don't interrupt, you allow them to finish what they have to say and they have time to calm down.

If people feel like then you're not trying to interrupt them, they will be calmer because otherwise there's a rush, okay, so don't interrupt.

Speak slow and take a breath.

Think about what you're going to say while the person is talking and make sure you've got love in mind.

Okay, especially if it's a relationship you value, or any human you should value all of them, but especially a relationship that you value.

You need to communicate slowly and clearly, otherwise you're going to make dramas where there doesn't need to be dramas.

But before you need to communicate whether it's like something you're going to go to a boss or a partner and you've got something to say two things you can do.

The first one sit in front of a mirror, ideally a full length mirror, because body language is a big part of communication.

Ideally a full length mirror because body language is a big part of communication.

What your arms do right Arms and throat and stuff are connected to throat chakra as well.

You'll notice that your arms move and gesture depending on how you feel and what's coming out of your mouth.

Okay, so sit in front of a full length mirror and give yourself the conversation that you're going to give to this person.

Okay, so speak to yourself as though you're speaking to this person.

Think of it as practicing.

You're practicing, you know, and you're looking at yourself.

You love this person in front of you.

You value them.

You value how they feel.

Now talk to them, and the other thing you might find is you might discover how they might feel.

That's what people lose sight of.

How does that person feel?

Often, you feel like they're out to get you.

If you turn it around and look at the other side of the coin, you might think that they might be feeling the exact same way.

Okay, so you start to calm down.

If you need to yell, that's the time.

Get it out when they're not there, and then practice clear communication, because it's very important.

The other thing you can do is write down what you want to say.

So I've often done journal pages where I'll just let myself loose and let the anger come out and then, once you've had enough of that, then go okay, now how can I communicate this in a way that is calm, in a way that values the person in front of me?

So, literally, write it down, and if you need to sit in front of someone with your notes and read it from there, do that.

That's fine.

And if you think, oh, they're going to think I'm weird, you sit down in front of them and you say I am upset and I don't want to lose control of my calm.

It shows that you've put thought into it.

Yeah, you've put thought into it.

I've got things I need to say.

Yeah, I feel really upset, so I've got notes here so that I don't go off topic and bring up things from 10 years ago, which was a closed case.

But I'm going to reopen the wound because it just proves my point.

You know, I'm going to stay grounded in what I need to say and I'd appreciate it if you let me get through it and then anything you need to say, I am open to hearing.

Yeah, you started conversation with that.

It's going to be calm.

Yes, yes, molly, yeah, a couple of things.

So this is really cool.

I do this a lot with my coach, the whole conversation thing.

And the thing is it doesn't even have to be with another human.

It can be with a relationship that you have with alcohol, a relationship that you have with your money, and you can talk to money.

You can talk to alcohol and hear what it has to say back to you as well.

It's really, really powerful.

And the other thing I wanted to touch on is something that I recently learned is that affirmations can actually sit and be absorbed better If you say, like into the mirror, instead of I am, you say you are, and you're like talking to yourself like you are strong, you are worthy, you can communicate clearly, because I don't know what it is, but there's something in.

I don't know what it is, but there's something in the brain that like receives it better when it's like coming from almost outside of yourself.

So it's like you're still saying it to yourself, but you're saying it in.

Is that third person?

I don't fucking know.

It's like a it's like your um, it's like when you seek validation from others, you're kind of giving that to yourself yeah, yeah, exactly, and I found that it like in the mirror in the morning.

I'll be like you are so kind, you are so beautiful and it's like I don't know it is.

It does hit differently, but anyway, people will find what works best for them, but I love all of that.

That's so, so good.

Yeah, I've also heard that affirmations tied with drinking water are really powerful because you know your body.

Your body, sorry is just like an electrical system, right, and it's mostly water.

Water is a conductor.

So if you take a sip of water and affirm the affirmation.

Imagine that that sip is going to travel into the body and, like rewire, things.

Oh, I love that.

That's super fun as well.

You can also do that with, like your morning tea and stuff too, yeah like intentional sips.

Mindful sips, I love that Beautiful yeah.

Throat chakra is blue.

Sorry, I did not mention that in the beginning.

Alrighty, so here are our journal prompts.

We've got three themes again.

So we've got authentic expression.

Do I feel safe and confident expressing my true thoughts and feelings?

Are there areas of my life where I silence myself or hold back?

What would it feel like to speak from a place of truth and trust?

The second theme is communication and listening.

How do I show up in conversations?

Do I listen with presence and speak with care?

Are there patterns of over-explaining, people-pleasing or withdrawing?

What would balanced, respectful communication look like for me?

And the third theme is creative voice.

In what ways do I use my voice creatively, whether through words, art, movement or other forms of expression?

Is there a part of me longing to be expressed or heard?

How can I give that part more space?

I really love that last one and actually something that I've been doing lately is like I'll go on a walk, I won't take my phone or anything, and I'll just like talk to myself and I'll just have a conversation with myself, or I'll in the car, I'll send a voice note to myself and it's just like this part of me that wants to be heard and as soon as, like you express it, it just feels so good.

So, yeah, I really love that and, my God, I literally going to go back Like I want to go back to the start and listen to all of these and work my way through.

I just, I just love this.

I think it's so cool.

Yeah, that's awesome.

Chakras are pretty awesome.

I just love this.

I think it's so cool.

Yeah, it's awesome.

Chakras are pretty awesome, amazing, amazing, amazing.

Well, thank you for your wisdom and your teachings.

Of course, thank you.

Thank you for listening Always so good.

Thank you for putting your hand up to speak.

That was adorable, always so good, yes, I'm like.

Yes, me miss.

Teach her Maddie, Teach her Maddie, all right.

Well, do you want to wrap up?

I'll wrap up the episode.

You need to rest your throat.

Chakra, all right.

Thanks everyone for tuning in to another episode of Held.

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