# Raising Resilient Boys: A Conversation with Simon Lee

Exploring the challenges boys face and how we can guide them.

In a world where many boys feel lost, Simon Lee shares his insights on the importance of instilling values like courage, integrity, and resilience from a young age.

## The Fatherless Generation

Simon points out that we are witnessing a generation of boys who lack strong male role models.

"When I say fatherless generation, that doesn't mean they haven't got a father. It can also mean they haven't got a father that's stepping up and showing them the way."

This absence of guidance leaves boys vulnerable, often turning to gangs and negative influences for the support and affirmation they desperately seek.

## The State of Modern Parenting

Both Gary and Simon discuss the alarming trend of parents being "checked out."

"They have checked out, especially the fathers. They are passive observers to their own children's demise."

This disengagement can lead to a lack of meaningful interactions and support at home, with families spending only about seven minutes of quality time together each day.

## School Policies and Their Impact

Simon highlights how educational policies are shifting away from healthy competition:

"They banned the running races because they said it's too stressful for the children."

This reluctance to allow children to compete can hinder their development, creating boys who are unprepared for the realities of life.

## The Role of Media and Cultural Expectations

The portrayal of fathers and male figures in media further complicates the challenge.

"Hollywood has ridiculed them. They grow up thinking that."

Boys often internalize negative messages about masculinity, leading to feelings of inadequacy.

## A Call to Action

Simon believes that while the challenges are significant, there is hope. Parents can reclaim their roles by actively engaging with their children and setting clear boundaries.

"You just have to say no. Yes, there'll be fireworks for a while, but you get to say no."

Ultimately, it’s about nurturing resilience and teaching boys what it means to be a man in today’s world.

As Simon aptly puts it, parents need to recognize their power to shape their children’s futures.

"They've only got power if you're willing to hand it over."

This conversation serves as a vital reminder of the importance of mentorship and guidance for boys today, encouraging both parents and children to seek out healthy, supportive relationships.

For a deeper dive into this pressing issue, listen to the full episode [here](#).