Ask Me Anything – E39: Trauma Bonding Isn’t What the Internet Says It Is

February 5
6 mins

Episode Description

In this episode, I step back from individual listener questions to address a topic that’s generating a lot of confusion right now: trauma bonding.


We explore the intersection of shame, attachment, and survival and why trauma bonds are so often misunderstood as “poor choices” or “lack of boundaries.”

Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:What trauma bonding actually is (and what it’s not)Why our brains form these bonds in the first placeHow intermittent reinforcement keeps people stuckWhat healing looks like beyond “just leaving”If you’ve ever felt trapped in a relationship that hurt but also felt impossible to walk away from, this episode will help you understand what was happening — without judgment or blame.


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★ Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. www.adversityrising.com/become-shame-resilient ★ Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. https://calendly.com/adversityrising/discovery-call★ Are you a people pleaser? Ruminator? Over-extender? Sign up for the next round of Liberated Living and implement the radical 3 practice — Radical Acceptance, Radical Responsibility & Radical Authorship: https://adversityrising.com/liberated-living### SHOUT-OUTS:★ All video editing done by my wonderful husband, Jordan Wackett. Check him out at @jordanwackett.

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