🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E38: “When Helping Others Triggers Your Own Imposter Syndrome”

January 28
6 mins

Episode Description

In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous therapist who writes:

“Sometimes it’s hard not to feel like a fraud when you’re helping clients through things you’re still struggling with yourself. How do you reconcile the shame of being seen as the expert when you’re still learning?”

We explore the intersection of shame, imposter syndrome, and the myth of the “fully healed helper” — and how this expectation quietly erodes connection in the therapy room. Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:

  • Why struggling doesn’t disqualify you from helping others
  • How appropriate self-disclosure can strengthen the therapeutic alliance
  • The power of saying “I’m still learning” without undermining your role
  • Reframing shame as a signal of integrity, not inadequacy

If you’ve ever felt pressure to perform competence rather than embody presence, this episode will help you reconnect with what actually makes therapy effective: honesty, reflection, and humanity.

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Ready to take the next step?

  • Download the FREE handout, â€œ5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day” to begin building trust with yourself, not just your role.
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💬 You don’t have to be finished to be trustworthy.


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