Undoing Your "Goodness" Programming: A Conversation with Elise Loehnen

Aug 28, 2025
32 mins

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Episode Description

Ever feel like you’re constantly trying to be the perfect friend, partner, coworker, or mom? That pressure to live up to everyone else’s expectations is a trap—and it’s keeping you stuck in self-sacrifice and people-pleasing.

In this episode, I’m chatting with Elise Loehnen, author of On Our Best Behavior, about how we can stop chasing the impossible standard of “goodness” and start embracing our whole, authentic selves. We break down how society programs women to seek external approval—and why that’s keeping us disconnected from our real power. If you’re ready to stop living a performance and start showing up as your true self, let's go.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/418

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