Q&A: Single at 30, child-free weddings & is it ever OK to ask someone if they want kids?

August 28

1h 39m

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Episode Description

This week on Two Parents & A Podcast, happy Friday!! It's a GIRLS episode.. Harrison is in Chicago, so it's Alex & Jules answering YOUR questions. The theme: married with kids vs. single and child-free, and every question in between.

But first, life: Tate learned to cockadoodle doo AND somersault this week (grandma brought a tumbling matt.. Harrison is going to come home to a full show). Then we get into the birthday crying phenomenon (high expectations + "don't plan anything!!" = a recipe lol.. moral of the story: say what you actually want, and a card is the MINIMUM), the Mommy & Me dance class dynamic where the mom vibes matter just as much as the toddler vibes (the water bottle incident.. iykyk), you know you're an adult when.. (Alex has a wrapping paper CLOSET), and your new favorite word: detritus. You will now see it in every book you read forever, you're welcome.

Then the Q&A. You guys sent the most thoughtful questions about opposite seasons of life and we tried to answer from both sides: how to actually show up for friends in a different phase, whether Alex ever misses her pre-kid life, how Jules finds contentment single at 30, and whether it's EVER okay to ask someone if they want kids (short version: let them bring it up!) Plus the etiquette rapid-fire: exclusively breastfed babies at no-kids weddings, declining a good friend's party when you don't want to leave your baby, whether single friends actually want kids' birthday party invites (yes.. if that's where her people are, that's where she wants to be 🥹), and Jules's official baby-holding policy: nothing before four months, she's not doing the head bobbing hahaha

Also in there: the video game rules when you have kids (time-bound it or lose it), our best advice for college girls and post-grads, the words we use sparingly besides "no," and how Alex is juggling podcasting, momming & working out.

And we close with OREO GATE: a mom texted the class asking everyone to stop sending Oreos to school.. and it turns into the best question of the episode: are you preparing the road for the child, or the child for the road? (someone smart said this - not us!!!)

Hope everyone has a great weekend :-) LOVE YOU GUYS!

Ps. P says sorry for coughing !!!!!!!!!!!

Timestamps:

00:00:00 Welcome back to Two Parents & A Podcast! (girls episode.. Harrison's in Chicago!)

00:02:45 Mornings with Tate: cockadoodle doo & somersaults

00:05:12 Do you cry on your birthday?!

00:09:28 Mommy & Me dance class: the mom vibes MATTER

00:17:18 Meeting your friends' kids for the first time

00:19:50 You know you're an adult when..

00:24:49 Detritus: the word you'll now see in every book you read (you're welcome)

00:31:09 Q&A: How do you show up for friends in the opposite season of life?

00:38:22 Q&A: Does being around single, child-free friends ever make Alex miss a past life?

00:45:16 Q&A: How does Jules find contentment in singleness at 30?

00:52:07 Q&A: Is it annoying to ask people when/if they want kids?

00:55:50 Q&A: Can you bring an exclusively breastfed baby to a no-kids wedding?

00:59:35 Q&A: How do I decline a good friend's party when I don't want to leave my baby?

01:01:07 Q&A: Single with no kids: do you WANT to be invited to kids' birthday parties?

01:05:10 Q&A: Do you want to hold my baby? (Jules has a 4-month rule lol)

01:10:03 Q&A: What should the rules be if your husband plays video games and you have kids?

01:14:24 Q&A: Best advice for college girls & post-grads

01:22:03 Q&A: What words do we use sparingly besides "no"?

01:25:49 Q&A: How is Alex working out, working AND pumping?!

01:33:14 OREO GATE: preparing the road for the child.. or the child for the road?

01:37:55 LOVE YOU GUYS!

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