Episode Description
This is a raw conversation about codependency, addiction, and healing. What does codependency really look like — and how do you heal from loving an addict? In this episode of Trauma Rock Stars®, Rock Star Tracy talks with Pastor Steve about codependency recovery, surviving childhood trauma, addiction, generational trauma, and finally learning to forgive yourself.
Steve shares being abandoned as a child, surviving childhood sexual abuse and staying silent for more than 40 years, the counselor who told him "you're codependent — you're just as much of the problem," losing his ex-wife to an overdose, and the moment he finally forgave himself. A raw, hopeful conversation about codependency, addiction recovery, generational trauma, forgiveness, and finding freedom on the other side. His ministry is faith-based, but his message of healing is for everyone.
⚠️ Content & support note: This episode discusses childhood sexual abuse, addiction, and the loss of a loved one to overdose. Please take care. Support: SAMHSA 1-800-662-4357 · RAINN 1-800-656-4673 · call/text 988 (US). Offered for encouragement and shared experience — not therapy or medical advice.
In this episode:
00:00 Welcome (goosebump warning)
01:00 Abandoned as a child & told he'd never amount to anything
02:20 Surviving childhood sexual abuse — 40 years of silence
03:30 Marriage, a calling to ministry & the secret addiction begins
06:00 Finding the doctor-shopping & confronting it
09:00 "God, I'm done" — walking away from the church
10:00 "You're codependent" — the wake-up call
13:30 The waves of forgiveness
16:00 Forgiving himself & losing his ex-wife
20:00 Generational trauma & his sons
23:00 Advice for parents who haven't healed
27:00 Clarity: breaking up with the addiction
30:00 The misconceptions about pastors
37:00 Walk Right Ministries & community
43:00 His book: God's Imperfect Plan Is Perfect
49:00 Your first step + how to reach Steve
Connect with Pastor Steve:
🌐 Walk Right Ministries — walkrightministries.com
🤝 Partners of Addicts community — partnersofaddicts.com
📖 Book — God's Imperfect Plan Is Perfect
🎁 Free guide — 10 Truths I Wish Someone Had Told Me
From Trauma Rock Stars:
📌 Free Life Audit Quiz: https://traumarockstars.com/lifeaudit
💚 Newsletter: https://traumarockstars.com/#newsletter
🔗 All links: linktr.ee/traumarockstars
You are not a groupie in someone else's story — you are the headliner of your own. That's Rock Star Resilience™.