Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of alcohol dependence, addiction, suicidal thoughts, mental health struggles, and relapse.

Why we drink too much isn't always obvious—what if the answer lies deeper than willpower or self-control? Dr. Charles Knowles, a world-renowned surgeon and author, spent decades trapped in a cycle he couldn't explain: 10 years of fun, 10 years of fun with consequences, and 10 years struggling to stop. As a high-achieving professional, he looked nothing like the stereotype of someone with alcohol dependence, yet he faced the same battle millions experience in silence. Through his journey to find freedom from alcohol and extensive research, Dr. Knowles discovered that understanding how we learn to drink, and why some people can't unlearn it, is the key to breaking free. In this episode, Dr. Knowles joins Coach Cole Harvey to explore the science behind gray area drinking, the difference between positive and negative reinforcement, and why shame is the biggest barrier to change.

Dr. Charles Knowles and Coach Cole discuss :

"Light turning on" moments: when alcohol feels like instant peace for the first time

Why being sober means having peace of mind, not just being alcohol-free

The powerful analogy: trying not to drink is like being deprived of water in the desert

How the "memory super league" in your brain makes drinking patterns nearly impossible to break

Gray area drinking and the role of worry, cognitive dissonance, and control

Alcohol reliance as a missing piece in how we talk about modern drinking habits

Why dry challenges work best when they become a learning process (not just "white-knuckling")

Finding out who you are without alcohol after years of drinking shaped your identity

And other topics…

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