Does the urge to drink ever go away, or is it something you’re stuck managing forever? In this Alcohol Freedom Coaching episode, Coach Hayley works with Mark, and Coach Soraya supports Michael as they share the real, messy middle of change. Mark talks about years of 30, 60, and 90-day breaks, the weight of the “alcoholic” label, and how an emotion-based goal—making alcohol immaterial in his life—finally eased the mental tug-of-war. Michael opens up about being 45 days alcohol-free, feeling “on display” in social situations, and tracing that discomfort back to a lifelong drive to fit in. These are the exact kinds of questions—about cravings, labels, and belonging—that get coached compassionately daily inside The Path.

In Mark’s session:

Exploring if the urge to drink ever goes away through real-life data points

Moving from “I’m an alcoholic who can’t drink” to “alcohol is an addictive substance”

Why time-based goals kept him chasing “normal drinking”

Adopting an emotion-based goal: making alcohol immaterial in his life

Using ACT and curiosity to meet cognitive dissonance instead of fighting it

Noticing how cravings and thoughts faded dramatically by around 90 days

Reclaiming mental real estate, time, and energy for what actually matters

And more

In Michael’s session:

Feeling like he has to explain his choice and wondering does the urge to drink ever go away

Using an ankle injury as a temporary “cover story” while he builds confidence

Linking his discomfort to a deep drive to fit in and avoid conflict

Connecting current social anxiety to teen anorexia and years of trying to blend in

Learning that friends’ reactions often reveal their unease with alcohol

Shifting from autopilot drinking to conscious “pilot” mode with curiosity and logic

Letting the world adapt to his alcohol-free choice instead of shrinking himself

And more

Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Drawing from personal experiences, Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. She believes that with the right mindset, anyone can change their life at any time.

Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/

Soraya Odishoo is a compassionate Certified This Naked Mind Coach who blends somatic healing with therapeutic models to support recovery. She serves people who feel disconnected from their true selves and want freedom from substances or behaviors that no longer serve them. She takes a trauma-informed, heart-centered approach with a strong focus on accessibility for BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ communities.Learn more about Coach Soraya: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/soraya-arjan-odishoo-alpc/

Episode links:nakedmindpath.com

Related Episodes:

Will I Ever Stop Craving Alcohol? – Reader Question – E676 – http://thisnakedmind.com/ep-676-readers-question-will-i-ever-stop-craving-alcohol/

How Do I Break the Cycle of Recurring Data Points? – Reader Question – E588 – http://thisnakedmind.com/ep-588-reader-question-how-do-i-break-the-cycle-of-recurring-data-points/

From Cravings to Curiosity – Alcohol Freedom Coaching – E851 – https://thisnakedmind.com/why-cant-i-get-rid-of-alcohol-cravings-e851/

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