Episode Description
What if the connection you think you're creating while drinking together is actually pulling you apart? Sheela spent decades as a heavy drinker, immersed in Australian culture where alcohol was everywhere—from Schoolies Week celebrations to working as a musician in bars. Wine o'clock became her daily escape, a numbing ritual she believed helped her relax, until health problems and 3am anxiety wake-ups forced her to pay attention. After 75 days without alcohol, she expected to feel free but instead felt deprived and jealous of others drinking. Through The Path and her own solo Alcohol Experiment—drinking alone to assess what it actually did for her—Sheela began unpacking the truth. She discovered that relationships changing after quitting drinking meant recognizing that wine and movies with her partner wasn't creating intimacy. It was creating a haze that prevented real connection. Now in her second year alcohol-free, she's rebuilding her life around genuine common ground, quality sleep, and the kind of freedom that doesn't require willpower—just honest self-reflection and community support.
Coach Cole and Sheela discuss:
Sheela’s journey from decades of heavy drinking to a new sense of freedom
How relationships changing after quitting drinking surfaced unexpected challenges and opportunities
The difference between willpower and genuine internal transformation
Navigating social situations and connection without alcohol
Redefining intimacy, community, and identity after alcohol
Sheela’s experience with The Path and emotional self-reflection
And more topics including purpose, self-compassion, and real connection
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