We love to talk about romantic love like it’s magic or fate. You either feel the spark or you don’t. But according to relationship science, attraction and long-term connection aren’t nearly as mysterious as we think.

In this episode, I sit down with Marisa T. Cohen, a relationship scientist and licensed marriage and family therapist, to explore what really drives romantic attraction, chemistry, and lasting connection. From why proximity matters, to how shared experiences and adrenaline can heighten attraction, Marisa breaks down the science behind love in a way that actually makes sense.

We also dive into one of the most common challenges couples face: communication. Marisa explains why so many disagreements escalate, what’s really happening beneath the surface, and how validation and timing can completely change the outcome of hard conversations.

What You’ll Discover:

• What drives romantic attraction and chemistry (05:53)
• Why shared experiences intensify connection (08:38)
• How communication patterns quietly erode relationships (21:57)
• Why validation matters more than being right (25:12)
• Tools for repairing conflict and emotional safety (38:41)

Whether you’re dating, married, or trying to reconnect with your partner, this episode offers insight you can actually use, especially with Valentine’s Day around the corner. If this episode resonates, I hope you’ll subscribe, share it with someone you care about, and come back each week for more conversations like this one.

You can watch this interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/84_Y6RU59Yg

For a full transcript and more, check out our blog post: https://www.lindsaycz.com/show-notes/marisa-cohen-33

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