Sex and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet joins Jill to share how couples can move beyond “talking about it” and actually feel their way back into connection—especially after years together. From navigating sexless seasons to scheduling “sexy dates,” Xanet reframes intimacy as an evolving art, not a rigid formula.

In this conversation:

• Communication as the foundation of great sex (without shame or blame)
• Spontaneous vs. responsive desire—and why more foreplay matters as we age
• “Outercourse,” variety, and beating boredom in the bedroom
• Men’s midlife changes (yes, it’s real) and taking the pressure off performance
• Repair after hurt or infidelity: safety, vulnerability, and reconnection
• Why planning intimacy can increase desire and make it more fun
• Xanet’s private couples retreats (Asheville) + annual Costa Rica group retreat
• A peek at her upcoming book, The Sex & Intimacy Repair Kit

✨ Take Xanet’s free Intimacy Equation Quiz to discover your unique intimacy formula: HowToImproveMyLoveLife.com

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